Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - The Mother's Day Debacle

Episode Date: May 15, 2023

CC285: On this month's bonus episode, Lindsie and Kail talk about how they've moved past their feelings of resentfulness when it comes to coparenting, their ideal mother's day, and share thoughts on the argument of which mother to celebrate on Mother's Day. Also, by definition, what is a single parent? Kail and Lindsie disagree with certain points and give their reasons why.. and Lindsie would like to know what you call a man's private part.. Schlong? Dong? Weiner? or Kail's least favorite, Peepee? Just wondering... Check out our Instagram @coffeeconvospodcast for more!  Thank you to our sponsors!Bettersleep: Improve your quality of life in as little as one week, download BetterSleep from your App Store or Google PlayCollective: Go to Collective.com before June 30th to potentially save thousands of dollars in 2023 taxesGreen Chef: Visit GreenChef.com/convos60 and use code convos60 to get 60% off plus free shippingLiquid IV: Get 20% off when you go to liquid-iv.com and use code COFFEECONVOS at checkoutMood: For 20% off your first order and FREE gummies, go to hellomood.co and use code COFFEECONVOSNutrafol: Go to Nutrafol.com and use code COFFEECONVOS for $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping

I hate gift giving and receiving receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say? Thank you? This is coffee convos with Kale Lowry and Lindsay Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels Kale That does not interest me whatsoever. I feel very attacked by you a spirited discussion about motherhood friendship Family and life in the public eye. I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here. Here's Kale and Lindsay Hello, Lindsay and our kitty gang I'm so tired today, um, I'm ready to push through this day get this shit Just going get the ball rolling ready to just get through this weekend. I Hate to tell you but like you've got a couple days until you get there

Um, actually actually my kids don't have school tomorrow because they have like an in-service day So everyone the big kids are at their dad's Lux and Crete are going to Chris's tonight instead of tomorrow So, oh you've shipped them off. Yeah, like I Yes, so the only thing I have to do tomorrow is record and maybe like a couple other like minor things, but I 100% intend on taking a nap today Okay, gonna back up because I was having a conversation with one of my friends the other day about co-parenting and When you're married

You just like really never have a break even though there's two people at home. It's like always Mass chaos, and I don't know if you remember that from like when you were married to hobby Mm-hmm when you co-parent so many of my friends say, oh, I love the time where I can just be like all hands-on mom and then I love the time that I can be just me separate from my identity as a mom and I just wish that that was like more common in Mirages and relationships where you're living in the same house versus just getting it when you're co-parenting and doing like a Custody split

So I have a couple things to say about that. I think that it's a really good point to me Being where I am today my age my relationship my kids and things like that. I could never imagine going back to a situation where There was resentment when we each needed a break, right? Like it was like that with Joe a little bit with hobby He did help out, you know on the weekends He would let me sleep in until Lincoln needed to nurse again But you know trips and things like that were really difficult with us And then you know when Chris was around it was very resentful because he could kind of come and go as he pleased

Now I'm in a situation where I mean Elijah is Younger than the rest of them, but he'd absolutely we do not resent each other for Like he will willingly help me with the kids so I can sleep and I don't feel that he holds it over my head or is resentful or Or anything like that. And so I just can't imagine being in a situation again where I Don't have that support because and and not for nothing But these are not his kids like he doesn't he didn't choose that this but he helped so much I feel like it took me a long time prior to meeting Elijah to accept the fact that

It is okay for me to like my me time when my kids are gone. It's okay I don't have to I can miss them. I can love them. I can call them Go to their games and things like that when I don't have them But it's okay for me to be okay when they're gone and I am I'm at a place where it's like and I hope nobody kills me for Saying this but like I do have the best of both worlds when it comes to my kids they get to have a great relationship and one-on-one time with their dads and I get to have time to myself So many points to make to what you just said. I think

Right when we divorced and the custody thing was like so new You want to be so greedy and like hold on to all of those days and be absolutely everything And it's I don't know if you're trying to prove a point to yourself If you're trying to prove a point to your children or if you're trying to prove a point to your ex that you can be like all places and That you want them all the time. I still struggle to this day with Jackson not being At home all the time like actually last night. I'll just give you an example Will and I were kind of like going through the calendar and I said well, you know

I have a trip coming up that he's not gonna be on but it kind of like bumps into the Fourth of July Week and two of those days actually belong to me and I can't I said I can't go without seeing him that long although I could I just don't want to and I just I don't know like we work very well co-parenting together and I have started to learn to Embrace the fact that I wouldn't have him any way mentality Mm-hmm, and I think once I started embracing that I became a little bit more Okay, and that's where mine and will's co-parenting relationship has grown Because I'm not projecting the resentment right right and I think

The same for me won't once we all got to a place where it's like it's about the kids and sometimes it does take Months if not years to get here But I mean there's we're I'm at a place with with Javi and Joe that I don't have to Like we're not fighting about you know if if Javi wants an extra day here and there I need an extra day or I need to switch days with Joe. Whatever the case. Maybe we're so flexible because at the end of the day now We're so far removed from like the personal feelings that we Every we know and we recognize everything is about the child So there's no reason to get upset or you know frustrated or you know Joe texted me the other day and he was like hey

I think it's your week, but I'm gonna send Isaac to Disney with my mom for whatever in the summer And I was like I literally responded. I said, okay You know what I mean like it's like I'll make up my time and if not like we're just so flexible with each other for you Know whatever whenever we can be and it's just nice And then sometimes I do get to have one-on-one time with the kids like when switches happen So I also take that you know, and I really cherish those moments like I'll have Isaac and Lincoln On Saturday, I won't have Lux and Creed yet

So it'll be nice for me to spend time with just the big kids, you know what I mean? And so I really feel like I'm I'm grateful to be where I am obviously It's not ideal, but we're making the best of it about the time making up. Um, I Am very still selfish about that. I'm like, okay. Well if I'm losing For this I want a game for this But we don't really get hung up on it and I think that if you get outside of that mentality of I Want to make sure that this person doesn't get any more than me and just focus solely on what's making your child happy and like What's best for them at that time?

Then it all comes out in the wash anyway Mm-hmm. Yeah, I mean I we definitely try to make up our time. You know what I mean? Like if there's time missed at all, we'll make it up Um, I Want to ask you do you do a shared calendar with your kids dad's no That was so quick. No No, I Do a shared one with will is that crazy? No, it's actually really it's a good thing

Chris and I got into like a little dispute the other day and he was like We're not doing this and we're getting a parenting app or whatever and then he said cozy and I was like Well, that's just like a shared schedule and I was like, I mean, I'll do it. I'll do the shared schedule, but I Don't yeah, I don't use one because we're pretty much just like on the same page with everything like all the dads But is it helpful? Do you find it helpful? It would be helpful if we'll knew how to input dates like not that I'm trying to put will on the spot But like but he's having a hard time Yeah, like it's great for him to have the knowledge of like what's going on, but like oh

Wow, is there a road race? Yeah. Yeah You said yeah, um like okay, this is an example field day is coming up and There's two time slots which like honestly makes no sense I do not understand why people do things. Why did they do them and then people probably look at me? And they're like, why do you do things the way that you do them? But tell make this make sense, okay? Field day it's blocked off into two segments From eight to ten and from ten to two, but the middle part the parents are not invited

So are they invited to the first part or just the second part? No, like eight to ten Parents are allowed twelve to two parents are allowed, but from eleven to I guess eleven fifty nine You're not allowed to be there So I text will in a group text with Kristen on it And I'm like trying to locate the library book about guinea pigs that evidently is like lost somewhere Trying to figure out about field day, and I'm like we have a shared calendar Why is this a question that like you also wouldn't have been asking? What time slot are you going because I'm gonna go on the opposite one, right?

I was that's what I was gonna say I was like maybe that's maybe they do that so that parents that can't make it to the first session can go to the second one That's the only thing I can think of but it's like great for co-parents because then He can go to one and I can go to one So I said which one are you going to can you go to the morning and I'll go to the afternoon because it's my day It's a Wednesday, and I'll just take him from field day home Like that makes sense, and I can also avoid the chaotic carpool and not get cussed out for it. So He was like well, I have a meeting. Oh, well good to know because you didn't put it in the calendar

Okay, so I see what you're saying. It's frustrating because then it's like you you You have the idea that both of you guys were gonna be able to make it and he Probably didn't put it on his radar because he had a meeting so he didn't even think to go to The field day. Yeah, he goes well. He doesn't need someone there The whole time and I like no if there's two time slots then we just need to alternate like at least one of us will be there on both Things right? It's like that to me logically makes sense in my mind See for that situation I don't like if we had that for I'll use Lincoln as an example because I

Don't think that only Isaac has field day in seventh grade. I don't know Hobby and I probably would not communicate about what each of our plans were We would probably both know about the field day and if he shows up great if I show up great if neither one of us shows up like Fuck No, we don't we don't communicate about stuff like that. So that I'm not sure that that's what works for you Okay, but I just feel like I need to know because I don't want my kid to miss out Like I don't want him to feel like a parent's not there for him. Okay. I see what you're saying Also, he's an only child. So it would you know, he you expect both parents to be fully involved correct

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Speaking of being a parent Want to talk about Mother's Day and just like what your ideal mother's day is because I feel like everybody celebrates this very differently and I think it's a little there's one thing that I think's a little taboo and I wonder if it's you Where's the judgment if see I don't I don't judge moms that want to spend their mother's day alone were You know, I don't think that mothers and just parents in general good parents because not all parents are good parents but when good parents in general, they should truly be celebrated more than one times one time a year and For me, you're with your kids

Typically moms are with their kids more If they want a day to themselves without their children, what is wrong with that? I don't think that there's anything wrong with it, but I think that if you're gonna have some Um, judge duties come out. It's you're gonna be judged if you would choose to be alone on a Mother's Day Um, I don't want to be alone on a Mother's Day, but I would like to be gifted things that would allow me to be alone Okay, that that I love that actually like I mean, I was just thinking Like a massage. Yep. I was just about to say that. Yep. Like if I was if I was to spend the day alone It would be like a spa day situation. Um, I saw

One TikTok and it was somebody asking moms what they wanted on Mother's Day and every single mother said they wanted to sleep in I mean I will say because I have Jackson 50 of the time if I want to sleep in I can do that on the time that I don't have him and Normally we're burning the midnight oil at all times when I do have him on the weekends So then he and I sleep in together But that's I think it was people that were in a relationship. So they didn't get time away from their kids. Yeah, I know that's why I'm saying Back to my initial point at the beginning of this episode The whole point is people it should be normalized people who are in marriages

They should be able to have individual time away So that they could experience what we experience as co-parents I just don't I I'm when I cannot stress to you how thankful I am for the way Elijah is like It hurts my heart because I've been in relationships and and in Things where I was essentially a single mother in a relationship And it that kills me more For women who are in that position and can't get out like I cannot stress you and like

You should not be fighting with your significant other About needing you time or needing, you know Dads truly are able to just come and go as they fucking please and it just it hurts my heart so bad Um, you know and the people that don't really have the funds to get it like a babysitter so that they can both have a Loan time or time together. Oh my god, it kills me. It kills me so bad Well, I all the time see my girlfriends Keeping their kids at home on the weekend and like dads will be off golfing Oh, yeah golfing in a short game, honey

So it's like that's an all-day event and they thoroughly Enjoy it being an all-day event and they drag it out as an all-day event And then they probably hit up the clubhouse and they're boozing and schmoozing And doing like all the things to avoid going home um, so I I think that it should be more normalized that you know, everybody Gets a little bit of a break. Um sleeping in is one of my most favorite things to do. I I very much believe that sleeping

Can be turned into a sport and I'm really good at it Yeah, no, I I've been kind of depressed a little bit lately and when I'm depressed I sleep a lot and I also I also don't sleep during the night a whole lot like it depends if I take my supplements I might sleep if I don't take them I'm fucked Um Don't sleep at night, but I could sleep six hours straight during the day I wonder if you have like your days and nights mixed up

I don't know but I have a sleep study on my first console is this month and then I'm gonna probably end up getting a c-pap and Um, I just was a Talked to my doctor today She said I can go back on my magnesium supplement because I took a break for for a second because I was taking like All the supplements and I just wanted to check with her that everything was like good to take together Um, so I checked with her today and she said yes, so magnesium helps me sleep better and Um, now that I was good quite like good to go back on that. Um, hopefully I'll sleep this weekend

Wait, so are you gonna do a sleep study where you go to like a place and they watch you sleep? Uh, yeah, they like hook you up to all these things because I'm pretty sure I have sleep apnea Okay, but do you think that those Can be rigged because I feel like the level of stress and anxiety of me knowing that I'm like hooked up to all this shit I would bamboozle the sleep test When I talked to them on the phone, they told me that the one that's like in Their facility is actually way more thorough than the one that you do at home And see there's it's a double-edged sword for me because at home I have like creed still wakes up all night

So, I mean, he's up several times in the night if he's not in you know in my bed yet. Lux is coming down into my bed so, um I would have interruptions at home and it wouldn't be I feel like as accurate or I could be in the facility the facility and also And also be kind of like Uncomfortable because I'm not in the comfort of my own home. So I think you have to choose like the lesser of the two evils there um, I think for me Being uncomfortable in the facility versus like having all the

Waking up at home would is going to give them more accurate results Oh for sure, but I think that your entire family needs to be on a sleep test. Well Lux definitely needs his adenoids out because that man little man Has something going I don't know if he has sleep apnea also, but he's next Um, what's adenoids? Um, they're like your tonsils I mean, he needs them out too, but I think your adenoids are in your throat

Huh, and that can cause you to have like sleep problems. Yeah I mean I act like you're some type of doctor and you're just call me dr. Lowry medical advice over here um back to the single mom thing though, didn't you talk about The like what is a single mom on barely famous? Yeah Um, I had cat stickler on the podcast and we were talking about being a single mom and some people are oddly like Confused by what a single mom is they were some people were saying that single moms Are people who have no other help no dad involvement and that equals a single mom I don't agree with that

I think a single mom is somebody who's not married to that child's father Because even though I'm with Elijah, we're not married and he is not like I don't ask Elijah to contribute financially to anything regarding my children So especially for lux and creed that is solely 100 percent my responsibility and even though Joe and Javi are 50 50 with lux and or sorry 50 50 with Isaac and Lincoln. I'm still a single mother when they're in my care and they're still um Javi is still a single father when he's in Javi's care Well, the thing is is the partner that you're with does not have an obligation to your child

Right So I think that that is Where people are getting confused I looked up the definition because after you did that episode and you told me when we were in Nashville about like all the controversy about it It says parenthood is diva is um defined as caring the responsibilities of a parent why the word parent simply means a father or mother a single parent is simply one Is simply the one that the parent raises a child in their household without a partner living with them um

I'm correct. I think that you're correct and if If I had a boyfriend for example, he has no obligation to the care of My minor child correct and I do think Mothers who don't have help from their father from the child's father That's still a single mother, but then I had people well, you're you're I'm more of a single like no We're all single mothers, but we have different circumstances and you know It just is but to say to discredit the fact that I'm a single mom because your situation looks different isn't fair

It's kind of like comparing You know if you if we both went to law school and you get through it before I do but both of us end up a lawyer You can't really lawyers. Yeah, like you can't compare apples to oranges when we just have different situations You have one child. I have a bunch, you know, so maybe you get through schooling faster We are both still attorneys at the end of the day. It's just different situation It's just different circumstances. So then you have people trying to one up each other Why can't we just all support each other like just support each other? We're all single mothers and that's it. I was saying kind of something similar about, you know

Not being judgmental on the southern tea like why do we have to just like cast judgment all the time? Why can't we be supportive? human beings each other like what happened to that because people like to Everyone has to one up each other like their situation is worse or their situation is Harder or you know, it just and it doesn't make sense to me I think that That's an internal problem that's going on that's projecting as it's someone else's issue when it's really like a you problem, right? Yeah

Like people who act like that It's everything about them and nothing about the person they're projecting it on right, right, right, right But this article says below are several conditions that must be present for someone to be considered a single parent They must be raising a child or children and their residents without a partner living there I disagree with that because you can have a partner living there and not contributing at all correct Okay, they have to be divorced widowed legally separated or unmarried The children must be legal dependents or biological A pregnant woman would be considered a single parent if she fit the above characteristics

So listen to this it says if two parents are married Not legally separated One of the parents has moved away. The other parent is not considered a single parent. That's bullshit. That's bullshit. That is bullshit That's bullshit because I mean, I even know especially in military families when the dad goes away for six months or he's you know You know downrange for 45 days at a time that is still yes financially They are helping, you know, probably they probably have health insurance to try care or whatever But I would say like the overall responsibilities during that time. They are also a single parent

It's funny that you say that because the example that's given it says this would be An example of this would be the spouse of a soldier or stationed overseas The other spouse would be raising the child on their own in their house But since they are legally married, they would not be considered a single parent in the eyes of the law or definition Well, I don't agree. So like for those reasons alone. I'm fucking out So Lindsay and I really love the flexibility and control we have Running this podcast versus, you know, a nine to five or something else This really works for us and doing great work and getting recognized for it and getting paid for it sounds great

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Yeah, so let's talk about what our ideal gift would be for mother's day because my ideal day is church brunch with An alcoholic beverage involved because I am deserving of that as a mom for me a mom of a boy I don't know what it would be like to have a girl. So I'm just going to say as a boy mom I'm deserving of alcoholic beverage um

And just some quality one-on-one time with my phone in focus um, don't want to be distracted by anything in the outside world and hopefully um Maybe like a gift certificate for a massage Nails, um, something that I can do solo and a relaxing experience I also agree with all of that minus church and the alcoholic beverage but I

Mother's day I just really would like to sleep and maybe like a massage like a gift certificate or something like that um Yeah, I mean, I'm I'm kind of chill when it comes to that. I did tell my kids just because I know In theory when you have a lot of kids, you're like, okay, like, you know, you hope that they're best friends for life, right? But realistically, it just doesn't happen that way I told my kids Isaac Lincoln and Lux. I said listen to me I said, I'm not

fucking around For the rest of my life Every year for Mother's Day. I want you guys to give me a picture of all of you in one photo smiling That is what I want That's so cute. Just like You know what I and I don't know if it's like the trauma I've experienced in my life or growing up an only child I don't know, but I feel like this would require them No matter what separate ways they go in life

they would have to come together at least once a year to take this photo for me and Present it to me all together. That's that's all I could want. Um, I have a question based off of what you just said because your situation is so unique and you're You have multiple co-parenting situations. Do you ever um get concerned that When your kids become of age that they will cling to their dad's Families and create relationships there and not as much with each other Yes, that's one of my one of my biggest fears is just

I think about it way more than I should. Um, especially the older two You know Isaac is truly, you know If you look at the birth order characteristics and statistics Isaac is the is the first born through and through Through and through yes So and I just think that he's so different from the rest of the kids and not in a bad way Um, I definitely see him like kind of moving away and branching out and kind of never looking back sort of thing Um, I definitely see Lincoln kind of clinging because he's growing up with his cousins on his dad's side

And they're all relatively like they're all within five years of each other So he's growing up with them. They're his cousins over there are basically like his siblings and I'm not even kidding So, you know, that is a big deal and I I don't worry about him so much with my littles because he is so close with them um But I do you know Isaac he He nobody in this family would be here if it wasn't for him So it would suck to see him kind of branch out and and not look back, but um I I do worry about them, you know

Just being like I look at other people that I've known in my life in Delaware And it's almost like their siblings are strangers to them. And so like I've seen you know One one of my exes interact with his his siblings Um, and just kind of like tap them up and keep it moving and I'm just like that is so bizarre to me Um Like not really have a relationship with his siblings at all Isn't that so weird to think that like when your kids are grown You raise them, you know all in a house and in your situation 50 of the time. They're always together, right?

And that each of them can take on their own life path and that life journey that they go on might not be in sync with the others and then You just think like you guys were doing all of this together for 18 years and like now you're not Yes So it's wild to me my biological mom Um, she married a man that was 20 years her senior And he had two ex-wives before her and I'm like

Outside of like whatever happened with her and my dad and outside of you know Me not truly being able to have a true mother figure in my life growing up You have to be somewhat of a saint to take on a man that has two ex-wives But also six kids between those two ex-wives before you like when you decided to take him on he was existing with that and we would do stuff with them like over the summer like Um, go on vacations to like disney or the beach or whatever and then once we all became grown We never speak But we neither none of us have the same mom and dad. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah

So I do think that that might change the dynamic a little bit With the fact that they all your kids share the same mother It's so interesting. I texted my uncle yesterday and I said my mom's little brother I was like, what was it like growing up with siblings? Like did you I said because all of you all white in your separate ways like every last one of you Uh-huh, and he said that like growing up everyone was it was fine. Like it was you know, he got along with everybody You would just hope that they have the same parents It would be a deeper response than that, right? We we all got along but like you all you can coexist with people and get along and

Like not have a deep like yearning for a relationship with those people, right, right, you know, which I don't know. It just feels so weird. It makes me so sad to think about and I just really hope that like I told my kids With the picture thing at the very least if they don't get together for holidays. They don't get together for whatever Please for the love of god take a picture together for me With all of you guys in it. That's so precious Guaranteed the picture is going to be on mother's day when they give it to you They're going to electronically send it to you like here you go Your presence with us is on FaceTime and here's the digital photo you can print out on your own

On your own speaking of You know what's so annoying What is when people ask you for photos of stuff and it's like okay here Let me just like send it to you and it's like no, I want the actual photo and it's like okay well, then you go to cps because It ain't gonna be me I've actually been getting into the habit of like printing more photos because It actually started because Lux always has these products

He has a project once a month at school and they always require like the instructions always say to have to glue photos on there and I'm like Okay, so yeah, so I've been actually going to like Walgreens and printing stuff out and then I'll end up like Scrolling through my phone and printing out a hundred other pictures But I mean it's kind of nice because then we have like physical photos um, but it's um Yeah, I mean it's it is kind of a pain in the butt. I need to get my own photo printer when I No, you don't Could you just imagine like you becoming like a professional scrapbooker with your own like photo printer and Cricut and all that kind of shit at your house like

Don't give me any ideas because I'll start the hobby right now Like oh, I know and it's like, okay. Where's kale? scrapbooking scrappy scrappy No, when I became a minimalist, um, remember when I kind of like started going through that phase where I'm like I'm just gonna have like minimal stuff, right? Um, I went through all of my photos and stuff and I started dividing out. I was greedy with them. Okay So right before my parents trial started My dad had come over and I think the boys

Grayson and chase had gone to a braves game and I was really, you know, like in that minimalist moment I was getting rid of stuff and I was like, hey, you need to go through these photos and tell me The photos that you want and I have like duplicates of them and you can take them because I'm a minimalist now and like I don't need to hoard like six copies of the same photo Right, uh, and it is so fun to look back at printed photos. It just hits different like when you're really doing them in your hands It's almost like you are feeling like where you were When you took that photo agreed. I agree with you

um, okay, so Question and I feel like these are such controversial questions, which is why I love them. Um Should partners be celebrating the mother of their children or their moms and I have a big story about this We did an episode on chrisley knows best about this exact thing So that's the first question and then the next question is What would be the best way to split time if you're celebrating both? I do think there is a world where you can celebrate both. I also am a big believer and I know that you are on the fence about it, but

It doesn't you can celebrate both and it doesn't have to be the same exact day like Mother's day is always on a sundae. Why not celebrate one of them on saturday and one of them on sundae if it comes down to that? um, but for me, I think that you know The partners should be celebrating the mother of their children first and foremost once they start having kids Um, not saying their mom their own mother should not be celebrated. That's not what I'm saying, but you know When you create a family That should be your priority and then you know, your mom had no offense to any

Mother-in-law is on here. Um, you know, your your mom had her years to be celebrated You know the whole the whole time that you were raising your kids So I do think there's a world where you can do both saturday sundae or you know, do breakfast You know with one do lunch with the other. I think there's a way to split it. Okay, so Gonna go off on a couple of different legs on this one um first of all The simple answer to this

For me is biblically the Lord said thou shall love thy wife with all thy heart and thou shall Cleave unto her and none else thou shall looketh upon a woman till us after her shall deny the faith and shall not have The spirit and if he repents shall not be cast out um, essentially cleave to your spouse so in A biblical sense. I believe whether it be mother's day or father's day that First and foremost at the point that you have

A spouse that is a mother or a father That is your priority I have always been an advocate for celebrating jointly If chosen to do so on mother's day um, or

We can do Another day, but I want mother's day Okay, we can do it jointly, but I want to celebrate mother's day As a mother because I am I am a mother raising a child your child is raised. I'm raising one um So that's my thoughts there. We did an entire episode on this um on chrisley knows best years ago and my dad big on celebrating

his mother and And not julie. Yeah, and it was a big deal like you have you know five children that you've raised with her and your soul priority Is your mother which I mean nanny fey will tell you she has convinced herself that she is

the next grandma to betty white And that she is everybody's nanny and everybody's mama but He was dead set like he celebrates his mother So then who celebrates julie her kids her kids all five all five of y'all celebrate julie Yeah, I'll have to find some of the clips and see if I can like post them. So Okay, so just for clarity. So he celebrates his mom and his I would assume his expectation would be for

For their kids to celebrate julie. So the children celebrate the mother Yes, and like not the spouse the the spouse doesn't celebrate the mother just the children do Yes, and like so much so that My dad would ask her what are we doing for mother's day as if she was preparing Mother's day for her mother and his mother but not her So let me ask you this who teaches the children How to celebrate their mother then did todd teach the all of you guys how to celebrate your mom on mother's day?

I mean, I will say he's a fantastic his his love language is Gifts whatever that one is like gift giving whatever And he's great about that and mothers are going to get a gift from him But as far as like, you know Thoughtfulness of like the fact that like you are a mother and I am pregnant to you like three times That thought's like not really running through the man's mind Wait, so did he ever celebrate you for mother's day? No, I think that like julie would get me mother's day cards and like he would write like nice things like in the mother's day card

But it was like an afterthought like You aren't my mother. So why am I celebrating you? So interesting. Isn't that crazy? Like I'm so This is so interesting to me because I guess I never Well, did you see the little girl that was on steve harvey and because she did this um the father's day thing? Because her mom wanted her to say happy father's day to her papa and she was like You can tell him happy father's day, but he's not my father. He is my papa That's so funny that you say that because I've had the exact same conversation with Jackson And I will say you need to text your baba

Or call her and wish her a happy mother's day or whatever and he'll say but that's dad's mom Interesting. You're my mom. Yeah, I just don't I don't you should ask your kids. You should ask your kids Okay, I'm gonna ask them and I'm gonna get back to you on this. Yes. Okay. So mom's with mothers When do you get to celebrate yourself versus having to spend the day celebrating other mothers in your life? um for me Mother's day always was a holiday that I didn't really love growing up and you probably can relate to this a lot as well um

Because it was awkward for me. Oh, I never I don't remember one single mother's day growing up It was a very awkward thing for me because I felt Even though I had a mother figure in Julie and she adopted me um, and had a biological mom that would see me a couple of times a year I just never knew what the right thing was to do. So I always kind of like shied away from it and Now that I am a mother I take it very seriously, but it's always a thought the same thought crosses my mind every year Like what am I supposed to do? I mean you can celebrate both of your moms, right? Like or no

well, I mean I could it's just I'm also Like how do I do that? How do I? Celebrate something when I feel like I was gypped Right, right. Yeah. No, I agree with that. I can you know, yeah Let's talk about people who are

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I'm an acts of service all year round. You can do acts of service all year round. I don't want my mother's day To be acts of service when you should be doing that all year round You're like, you should be doing that every other day of the year. So I need a specific gift Yeah, like I just not and not that gifts matter if You know, if my kids bring me crafts or whatever, those are the gifts and that's all I you know, I'm thankful You know, I'm just saying like if I'm talking from a spouse from a partner from a husband Um, the acts of service on mother's day is not something that I like that's an all year thing I've always received a gift

on mother's day um, you know dependent on Where we were financially if determined what I was getting that year normally Um in the past before I moved to this house I would get a plant. So it was something that I could see all year long

So like hydrangeas or whatever I got multiple hydrangeas like one year and every time I looked at them I Remembered mother's day that I got those and that was very hard for me to leave the house when that happened because I told Will I was like you need to put on the disclosure when you sell this that you're taking the hydrangeas and he was like no Lindsay like I don't think that's how it like really works and Now I just think about my height my beautiful hydrangeas at that house that I was gifted those mother's day And they don't mean what they meant to me to whoever's living there

right? But like acts of service I'm with you like You can do Anything for me all year round But like I don't want to be bothered by you while you're doing the acts of service also My other thing with the acts of service thing is like My love language is acts of service

But my love language is also just how like the acts of service that I would want done are ones that should be done regardless of this beat like My acts of service that I'm talking about is like changing my oil Pressure washing the house cleaning the garage like shit that you should be doing whether it's my love language or not Goodbye I'm like bitch. I'm getting out the pressure washer. I'm thinking honestly about doing it tomorrow Like if the weather is nice and fitting I might get that thing out and if you see me on instagram pressure washing

Then just like mind your business, but I hope it encourages you to get yours out. Okay um Listener question that we have um, I know co-parenting and custody agreements are discussed a lot So I'm here to ask this anyone who shares custody and Has a court order to split the cost of things for the children such as sports school stuff, etc Do you have do you have to have something or is it possible to put something in regards to a time frame or other parent has to Be notified about these costs um

Great question That is a great question. Um My parenting plan says that chris is responsible for 50 percent of medical I don't think it has anything to do with sports. Um, he also doesn't pay child support that he's supposed to pay um There's no time frame in our parenting plan that says Um, whatever the amount of time is I try to give ample time for him to know. Hey, I'm signing him up for this or hey We're doing this

Um, he never offers to pay. I've sent bills. He won't pay. He won't cash out. I'm actually blocked on his cash out for requesting too many times Um, but Goodbye. Um No, I think you can You know for the person that's asking I you can put anything in your parenting plan that you guys agree to So if you say You know, I need two weeks notice for you know, signing Johnny and susie up for soccer and baseball

um two weeks notice for The regist the registration fee to be reimbursed or you know, two weeks notice or whatever you can put that in there Um, this goes all the way back to the 90s for me. So I'm going to take it back a little bit for us and my parents Parenting plan which definitely was not adhered to by any any stretch of the imagination. There was nothing adhered to um Both probably in contempt like 50 11 times

but It was very ambiguous about this And it was left up for interpretation. My biggest advice regarding custody plans and I've said this before and I'm going to repeat myself When it comes to your parenting plan, even if you think you don't need it in there put it in there as your fallback you might not use it and you might agree to

Do something else But at least you have something in writing that you both can fall back on at the point that you cannot agree In regards to split cost of stuff. My parents was 50 percent like one parent paid 50 the other parent paid 50 percent But it was so ambiguous that My dad's cost of living and hers were so drastically different That she didn't feel that it was fair

For the 50 percent like let's say he took us to Nordstrom to like get close Mm-hmm, and she's like well, I can't afford Nordstrom So it needs to be scaled To what I can't afford right well. I mean that makes that does make sense to me and in his mind Why would I scale it to what you can afford when this is what I can afford so I think that Both both have valid points. Um, but I think that you just cannot leave it It's ambiguous because at the point that it's left up for Whoever's determination you're always going to have conflict there

Another thing Just one more point on that Be as specific as possible because my parenting plans with Joe and Javi are very specific my parenting plan with chris is very ambiguous and There are things missing from my parenting plan there that I cannot change. So even though You know, legally I could file to modify um Most likely modification would result in

Something that worse situation. Yes, correct. Um, I will also say That it's always best before you go incurring cost And I even asked my parents about this, you know, like when they were going through their stuff and after we were grown because you know Regardless like people hold on to resentment, right? So Even though my dad probably doesn't even care about the money or didn't care about the money It was something that he could hold on to to like dig at her and something that she could hold on to to dig at him It's always safe to just have an open line of communication if you possibly can because Like for example, will and I signing Jackson up for sports camp? We text

And it's okay. Are you okay with signing him up? Yes, okay. I will Venmo you this or whoever, you know, whoever signs up pays it and the other one venmos like It's that simple. I know that everybody can't get along That well and I'm very understanding of that But at the same time being open and upfront before you go and incur a cost It does two things it allows the communication to be Open and fluid and then the other thing is is if the one person says I'm not paying for that

At least when you sign the child up You know, okay. Well, I'm not getting reimbursed for the 50% of that That's my advice It sucks because no matter how much definitely put it in your parenting plan if possible. I know some Some judges or some mediators Um won't allow you to put financial things in your parenting plan, but some will depends on your probably county in your state um You know

My parenting plan with chris is like I said ambiguous But also there are things in my parenting and my child support situation, but Delaware does not I I got into it. I didn't get into it. I commented on someone else's facebook status a friend of mine's facebook status the other day I'm like, are you arguing on face? You're one of those arguing I just said, you know, she had posted about how she didn't take her kid's dad for child support And she has two boys and she's responsible 100 of the time and she's like I'm just at a point where I need Their dad's help like this isn't you know, I didn't lay down and create these kids by myself like I need financial help and

I said, well, I commented on there and said, you know, I have two kids where I'm solely responsible financially for them every single thing about them Um And I said Delaware just doesn't take it seriously like they don't If so in in pennsylvania when joe didn't pay he went to jail for one one month of not paying he went to jail until he paid the um the lump sum or whatever it was Wow And I did not file anything for him to go to jail. They did that on their own I didn't even know about it until so long after

That it was like then we laughed about it. You know what I mean? Like we laughed about it because I was like I didn't even know that happened In Delaware, you have to if if your partner or ex-partner doesn't pay child support you have to file stuff basically repeatedly against them to them for them to maybe Maybe take their license and In a lot of cases the judges actually won't take their licenses because then they can't go to work to provide for said child Wow So it's like not worth it in Delaware because you have to pay to do these filings against

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Did you see that article on People magazine about oral sex is a leading factor in the throat cancer epidemic in the united states Didn't I send it wasn't I the one that sent it? Maybe you were I feel like we talked about this but then like we didn't really talk about Maybe we talked about it in person, but we didn't talk about it on here But it says that oral sex may be the biggest factor in the rise of throat cancer in the united states But it also says Those with six or more lifetime oral sex partners are eight and a half times more likely to to develop

Oral pharyngeal or Or a pharyngeal cancer than those who do not practice oral sex. So like for someone like me who doesn't typically do that um Would I be not eight and a half times more likely? But it says that it's most It's most common for people who practice Oral sex, but you can still get it if you don't

It says just like especially especially oral sex Um, it says that the center of disease control and prevention state that 70 percent of that type of cancers and the united states are caused by hpv um With three million new cases in the us each year Wait, can I can I ask a question about hpv? And I don't know if you know the answer How do you know if you have hpv? Like are there like signs and symptoms or you just go for blood work one day and they tell you?

Oh, you have hpv Yeah, I think you just like don't they just like test for it on your labs and then it'll come back on your pap For women. That's right. That's right. That's right. How do you know if you I feel like the pap smear is where they test for that? Yeah, oh Um, it says with three million new cases in the us each year many people will live their lives without ever knowing that they have hp HPv but for some it can develop into cancer um, according to the american cancer society cases for this type of cancer linked to hpv increased yearly by 1.3 percent and women and 2.8 percent and men between

2015 and 2019 um And then it gives like a bunch of info on hpv so we can also link up this article, but basically just Don't suck dick and don't lick kuchi so Well, that's not realistic especially for people in monogamous relationships

Or you know people I don't judge anyone's sex life, but it says just to I feel so dumb because i'm 31 years old and googling this um It says most people with hpv do not know they have it. They never develop symptoms or health problems Some people find out they have hpv when they get genital warts. Some women may find out they have hpv when they get an abnormal pap result Um during the cervical cancer screening So that makes sense and this is why it's important because if you don't have You don't have any symptoms

That's why getting your yearly pap is so important because Yeah, you know what I mean and I think that you can like, um develop it over like years or something so like you can be Subjected to it or exposed I guess is the word but then like Not develop it for a long time or something Yeah, and then it could be cancer at that point. Yeah, so like ladies

Get your pap. Do your routine paps ladies. Do your routine paps. What about that crazy lady? Um that we talked about I feel like it's been forever ago about um She was in that michaels craft store and she said those people were trying to like steal her abduct her children. Yep I saw an update about her A jury in california convicted her of lying to authorities about the couple attempting to kidnap her children At the michaels craft store. So she she's been convicted um

I'm glad truly because that was such big news I feel like and And Why would you lie on these people and truly it was for social media following in clout Nothing is no amount of jail time is worth A following on social media or clicks and likes and going viral like that's not even No, you know what I mean? Like I've been I've been in a holding cell for a couple hours and I literally would never Want to go back so never no no

Absolutely Um In other news um I heard about this erin carter hulu special and so I ended up watching it this past weekend It was pretty it was pretty short. It was like one one episode or whatever and um, I am After watching it. I do not find his death suspicious whatsoever um he

Which I didn't know erin carter went live On instagram so he was kind of having like this like erratic behavior and like not showing up to shows not showing up to Do his work towards the end um And he goes live on instagram the screen goes black and you can hear him Huffing in the background Oh, really? Yes, and right before that he actually went on the show the doctors where he admits to having this huffing addiction

um aj mclean from the backstreet boys did try to help him erin reached out to him for help because aj mclean has also struggled with Substance abuse. He's 18 months sober now Um, but he you know tried to help him erin flew out to uh aj They checked him into rehab, but unfortunately two weeks later. He checked himself out And so there was a lot of stuff with that He also met his fiance and the mother of his son

He actually was just like an instagram follower that Met like they ended up meeting. She messaged him. She DMed him And then they ended up meeting getting engaged getting you know, how getting of having a baby Um, they lost custody of their son right before he died um and Something is very off to me about her like I don't just judging

Strictly by her On this hulu special. I don't know that she should have custody of her son Um, but that's me passing judgment and we just talked about not doing that. So Um, I don't know. It just felt really weird. I don't think his death was suspicious. I think that he Was you know struggling with substance abuse and huffing And got high and you know went in the bathtub. I think that there are definitely mistakes that were made During the investigation and the initial, you know finding of him, but I don't think that it was suspicious really

I think people love conspiracy theories and they love To make something into what it's not Um, but that was my thought on it. I thought it was good. It definitely talked about the struggles of the five carter kids in the house with their parents Um, and how quickly, you know, erin carter rose to to fame But there was one Woman, I don't remember her name on there, but she says you know

The industry will chew you up and spit you the fuck out and forget about you faster than you got famous in the first place And so that's kind of where erin Struggled with was he was super super famous And then there was a time period where you know, the fame kind of dropped off a little bit And you know, he he wanted to go back to work. He wanted to get back into the you know The spotlight and all of those things but people weren't interested anymore. People didn't care anymore It's you know, we live in a society where it's what's the next best thing Who's the next person catching everybody's attention?

And so when he was trying to go back to work and get back into You know his singing and and all of these things it just it didn't work in his favor. And so that was you know The start of the downfall and so and then he also his mother also struggles with addiction so he Desperately was trying to have this save the spot for his mom and his life But you can't you can't lean on someone who's also struggling with substance abuse So overall, I think it definitely painted the entire picture of what erin went through and from the rise to the fall But the whole thing is just so sad, you know what I mean? I also just want to piggyback off of

What you said I think in this industry it's people are disposable Yeah, absolutely and It's who is the next best thing And forget about you know, all the people before that have invested their time their energy um, their privacy Mm-hmm all of these things and I think it's really hard for the individual who is the entertainer

Uh to whatever capacity, you know, whether that be uh music in the music industry or reality to personality, whatever I think that it causes a lot of mental health problems and struggle And so I hate to see that It seems as if That was a bit of a factor in the situation. Yeah, I mean AJ McLean says that he he says That's exactly what happened was, you know, you have to work for

like I don't know if he was necessarily talking about erin specifically But I think he was talking about the industry as a whole is like When you hit that peak level of stardom or fame You can't just then you can't just then stop what you're doing and expect to be famous five years from then You have to continuously work at it. And that's what he was saying and um Not to say that erin Didn't do that, but it was a different time kind of when he reached his peak

It was a different time. I don't think that we had the social media that we have now And you know, you have to when you're from the 90s and in from, you know, the early early 2000s you have to adjust um all of your marketing plans all of your things to the times and if you have, you know Left the industry for any number of years in the meantime What how do you come back from that? I think in general, um with any business, right? Like things are evolving and changing and you have to grow when

When things are growing and changing the problem is is that I think that Especially like the britney spears christina aguilera is like the mickey mouse club crew um erin carter's of the world. I think they were so used to that crazy level of fame without the social media and then the pressures of Maintaining maintaining that would be so incredibly hard. I can't imagine. I cannot imagine

um In other news, can you tell me about these prisoners that escape from philadelphia, uh correctional facility? Okay, so what's crazy about this is christin sent me The original situation with the two prisoners escaped from um prison in philly and One of them is responsible for four murders four murders in philadelphia, right? So she sends me I think it was a tiktok or um this article, right?

And what's crazy about this facility is that they actually have prisoners that work outside on the grounds like do groundskeeping outside Um to you know make wages or whatever and so I don't think that they thought anything of it They escaped from a hole in the fence Which you know, the other officials have said that this is what this shouldn't have happened, you know, who was responsible for um not Keeping up with whatever damage was done to this fence. So they're pissed off, right? So I'm thinking this is absolutely terrifying this this one prisoner shot a little like a child Killed a child and then three others. So he's dangerous and gives no fucks about any type of human life

So then this morning one of my friends who is a teacher at one of the schools here Texted me saying that that prisoner's mother is from smirna delaware, which is where my kids go to school So now I'm freaked out. I'll um pull my screenshot really quick I was like I sent it to christen immediately and I'm like, what first of all, I'm thinking when I Heard about this. I'm like, are they going to kill's house? I mean, it was it felt close. Is it jail day? Yeah, it felt too close for comfort originally because I mean christen only lives an hour or two hours from me So philly is not far and it just felt very

Too close for comfort. So then I get this message and it says amines mom lives in smirna He went to sunnyside, which is where Isaac went He escaped from prison. It's all over the news. He's charged with four murders By definition if he's convicted he will be the youngest serial killer on record Um, they have not caught him. He knows the area very well And um, I mean I'm sure she says she's sure like local police have covered all bases They probably are in touch with his mom already um

But it's terrifying knowing um, and then someone I'm not going to say who she said I remember the meltdowns When work was forced upon him most likely dyslexia because he severely struggled to read um And so she says that public schools in general don't even know how to provide proper intervention for dyslexia So it's just like a really sad situation where someone who could have had a really really bright future Just couldn't thrive

um But yeah, now he's potentially the youngest serial killer on record escapes prison Um, and then she thinks it's an inside job maybe because Like I said, there's other people that were in charge of the groundskeeping. So I don't know. It's very terrifying Are we going to be able to like follow this? Will there be updates? We don't know Yeah, I'll I'll I'll keep updated on it. And um, if I if I see any any type of updates or anything I'll update for you for our next recording. Okay, perfect. Um another question from the facebook group

Want to do these like really quick so that we get to them but people want to know about coffee combos merch and That it's been like a long time Since we've done a merch drop and I was just talking about this It's ironic because I was just talking about this with christin yesterday and trying to weigh out the options for the best idea on how to do this

Would it be like a pre-sale? Whatever so just know we are in conversations About this and just undecided and I don't know what you want to add to that. I just want to add that I love the enthusiasm And the question about merch It's a little disappointing when we do put out a drop and it doesn't really do anything It's just kind of feels like misplaced work. Um, if you guys Aren't going to actually buy the merch then there's no point of us doing it

I don't want to put work into something that isn't going to go anywhere So if you guys want merch, we would love to maybe include you guys in some designs that you guys would actually buy But again, if you don't have any plans to buy like I don't see a need I thought of two ideas and I'll spill the beans Here I'm not going to say exactly like what the idea is Um, but we know I'm a big sweatshirt wear It doesn't matter like what time of the year that it is like I will always Have a sweatshirt same

So like big on that and have kind of become more of a fan I used to be like a big hoodie wearer and now I'm more of like a crew um So that's number one Number two like an oversized crutinic me too. I'm like, that's absolutely the best like that is us that that is representation of us as humans The other thing is is I think that we should have Two options and I think it should be like one that is just like coffee combos

Like coffee combos related something and I already have an idea for that That just doesn't say like coffee combos podcast like all across the front But another one would be to do maybe like an exclusive drop for the kitty gang So I'll I'll talk to keel about it not on air and then we'll get back to you on that Um, and so now we're going to do foul play. Okay. Let's do it So a few years ago. I was taking a picture of my cooter lip spread everything

Somehow I sent it to my mom thinking I sent a different picture to her I tried to call her 40 times just to tell her to delete the thread and she did not answer Thankfully it was in facebook messenger so I could unsend the message But she asked what it was that I'd unsend I eventually told her and I was so mortified. Thanks. Thankfully she was pretty cool about it But I will always be embarrassed. I've been a long time listener of coffee combos and I love all three of you So that was a an honorary mention of pristen Um, that is crazy

I that's kind of like what you asked me on the last episode where you said you'd rather watch your parents having sex or Have them See a video of you having sex Okay, but this is much deeper to me like Picture of my cooter lip spread. Like who were you trying to send it to first of all? I mean, I've definitely taken pictures like that. Well, like how did you get the angle? Um, like did you really work with it and you were finessing? Yeah, I mean definitely definitely Okay, can I ask you deeper questions about this? Yeah, sure

I like how you sort deeper Um, was this like in a mirror? No, actually I couldn't use a mirror because there was I was in I was in the marriage boot camp house and so I couldn't go in like back up back up You were at marriage boot camp and you were sending another man a picture of your cooter. Oh, I didn't say I was sending them I just was taking them Um for who? I just want to see what it looked like No, you didn't no, you didn't all right. All right. I'll play you

You were a boozling marriage boot camp. Like I hope the producers are listening to this. Um She was not there to boot camp. Um, she was not there to boot camp. Okay, but also I hate the unsend feature It pisses me off Well, the unsend feature would be Perfect if it didn't tell the other person that you unsend a message. I can't tell it's so No No, I think that's great. I think it's great. You know why though? Because I know now you're a coward. Okay. Okay. That's that's reasonable

Like if you were so committed to what you sent me and took time to type to me And then you go and intentionally unsend it I need to be notified that you are that big of a vagine That you can't just leave the message there. Right. Okay. That's fair And I feel like it's creating impulsive habits It is backing impulsive habits If you don't want somebody to read something that you send then simply don't send it True like don't put it in writing and call them if you really don't want to write like, uh, yeah, that's true

And it makes you not have to think right like it's taking the idea of having enough foresight to mentally process what you are going through Before sending something and blasting off some bullshit. So I don't love the fact of the unsend I just needed to say that didn't have anything to do with cooter lips or like anything like that I just needed to tell everybody. Um, if you unsend you're a coward If you unsend and you unsend to my phone. I'm immediately calling you a coward Unsend immediately equals

Is cowardly is equals coward Okay, next next. So let me set the scene. I'm a few hours out from giving birth wearing my pad hoagie. Yes I'm from Philly. What the hell is that pad hoagie? Well, I think she says, you know, the one three round witch hazel pads lined up On an extra long thick icicle pad slapped with a rolled up hospital chuck that goes belly button to butt crack Being held up by those glorious mesh undies. Okay. I've never I've never heard of this Um, I just wear diapers. I needed to take that first postpartum shit So I walk into the bathroom laser focus on how I was going to remove the pad hoagie without dumping the contents all over the floor While I was also easing myself gently down onto the toilet

I get into the position and start the squat low and behold There's nothing there to catch me as my husband had previously used the toilet and decided now would be the perfect time to Leave the seat up the absolute panic as my sore bear kitty met the actual toilet sent my pad hoagie flying all over It looked like a murder scene in the bathroom shockingly No murder occurred after the fact and I'm still married. No, I I literally would have killed him because men Are so clueless and are so like Cross all your t's and dot all your fucking eyes when you're in the hospital with your partner because that is so unfair And I know it was an accident, but fuck

Well, okay But men are just like Not oblivious Yeah, like they they don't have foresight like it's like it's a lacking part of their brain um If my pad hoagie, which I don't even know what that is

But like if I did if it went flying and it looked like a murder scene then someone is Getting murdered. So fair enough Fair enough Have you seen that tick tock fair enough? No, you haven't no um We need to put this is why people in the south have signs like in their bathroom Have you ever been to like a southerner's bathroom? And it'll be like close the lid flush the toilet wash your hands

No, you haven't. Mm-hmm um There's like signs that go into people's bathrooms and like It's just a normal thing like Growing up my brothers would have been offed if they left a toilet seat up like that's just not a that's not a thing that you do Yeah, um, also just want to say that the first Postpartum shit is awful. It's literal hell. It feels like a bricks coming out of your actual asshole and

I closed one two three Three three doors Going to the area that I was going to do my postpartum shit And I think I was in there for over an hour. I think I stood up for one of mine Wait, what? Because I just hurt so bad and like I didn't tear I only tear tour for one of my kids and I want to say it was Lincoln um

But even like if you have like a minor abrasion and it just stings and burns and then you just like go to take the poop I think I it just hurts so bad that I like stood up a little bit so that it wouldn't hurt so bad Goodbye the hospital that I had Jackson at they ask you if you have pooped yet and they start giving you stool softeners and stuff and Um, you have to lie to them for them to discharge you Well, guess what? I'll sign fucking AMA and I'm out of there like do not I said yes, I have taken a massive shit like thank you. I don't think I struggled with creed Actually, I don't even think my midwife when I had the home birth

I don't think they check to see if you poop because I don't remember that at all I just remember her putting honey on my like in my diaper to put on my cat and I remember you telling me about that Yeah, but I don't the poop thing. I don't believe was a thing for the home home birth. I love that. Okay last one Hi ladies, I'm an a1 from day one fam from both teen mom and christly knows best. I freaking love y'all so on mother's day On mother's day last year my mother-in-law came down to visit us. She lives six hours away She was a great help watching the kids so my husband and I could have a date night out To dinner and have some drinks long story short. I got drunk and loved me some sexy time after especially after a few drinks Of course when we got home

I figured we could be quiet and not wake up my mother-in-law or the kids Of course, the last thing I thought to do was lock the door because I figured everyone was asleep. Well, I guess not She decided to open the door about 10 minutes into getting it in and her visual was me riding my husband reversed cow Cowgirl and titties bouncing gitty up I literally burst out laughing I couldn't even contain any form of shock because I tend to laugh and not be serious in times when I probably should Well, she definitely saw all of me and her son's wiener the next morning She proceeded to ask if my sex life was always that adventurous

I showed up said yes, your son is prime meat and we both just laughed our asses off I'll never live it down will forever be scarred in my mind and reminded anytime I see her Hope you guys got a good laugh and I pray this never happens to either of you guys with anyone you're ever with Love y'all. Well, I'm glad it turned out. Well, and her mom was like laugh the mother-in-law was laughing with her Okay Is your sex life always that adventurous and she said yeah, your son is prime meat It's like could you imagine hearing your son is prime meat? I would fucking roll. I would be rolling I would not I would just pass away. I would just pass away. Okay. First of all

It's a mother-in-love in this situation not a mother-in-law a mother-in-love mother-in-law seems very formal to me And just like you're dealing with her in this situation. We love her. So she's a mother-in-love um Also, if anybody walked in on me and it was specifically my mother-in-law I would just Off all of us together. So then none of us would remember what had happened um, and I also need to know what you call your man's Junk like if you're talking to him

There's a reason i'm asking this and i'm not gonna tell you why But if you're talking to him, are you like your weiner your ween your schlong your schmechel um What do you call it your dick? I call it his dick. So what do you say like if you say That's like talking about it. Yeah, so like the other day he wore these like crazy sweatpants And I was like you need to put your dick away because it like you could see the bulge and um anything that's like not a dick or like Your fucking meat. I think is so cringy like don't ever call it a pee pee. Don't ever call it I just like a hot dog your weiner. No

No, I would cringe I Just call it a dick. No, I'll just be like why is your weiner out? Why is your dick? Why is your slim gym out? No, because if it's a slim gym, it ain't out Why is your meat stick out in the open? I need to know what everybody calls it because I feel like dick is so serious, you know, it's like It's just like very abrupt like there's no easing into it. It's just like dick put your ween away Yeah, like why is your ween out? Like why do you have why is your weiner hard?

Like why is your weiner look like that? Like I'm gonna call it a weiner a weiner. Okay, and I feel like that's kind of a southern thing Okay, it's a weiner seems like a southern thing And I love that you're an a1 from day one love you so much Um, and that's all the bullshit that we have for you guys today Please subscribe to us from your favorite podcast app always first at podcast one We hope you guys have a great week and we'll talk to you soon. See ya See what's streaming free all month long during amplify aapi voices on pluto tv Watch shows like kim's convenience with simu liu and amazing movies like meet the patelles and jason mimoa in braven

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