Consider This from NPR - Parents of Transgender Youth Fear Texas' New Anti-Trans Orders
Episode Date: March 10, 2022Governor Greg Abbot has directed the state's Department of Family and Protective Services to investigate certain gender-affirming care as possible child abuse, leaving parents of transgender youth fee...ling caught between two choices: support their children or face a possible CPS investigation.Annaliese and Rachel are mothers living in Texas, both have transgender children. They speak to NPR about the emotional and mental toll this order has had on their families. And Chase Strangio, Deputy Director for Transgender Justice with the American Civil Liberties Union, explains the status of other anti-LGBTQ bills in other states.In participating regions, you'll also hear a local news segment to help you make sense of what's going on in your community.Email us at considerthis@npr.org.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy
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In Texas, a letter from Governor Greg Abbott has left many parents feeling caught between two choices.
Either support their transgender children or face a possible child abuse investigation.
He wants the state to investigate parents who allow their children to transition gender,
saying they should be charged with child abuse.
This came days after Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton issued a legal opinion
saying that certain types of transgender health care, like puberty blockers or surgery, can legally
constitute child abuse. When the governor's letter came out, that's when parents really started to
panic. To me, the immediate instinct was just terror. Annalise and Rachel are both mothers who live
in Texas. We're not going to use their last names or their children's names for their safety.
Annalise says she and Rachel are merely supporting their transgender children.
No legal scholar, every major medical association, over 600,000 physicians
do not classify this care as abuse. In fact,
both national and Texas-based health care organizations
say that gender-affirming care is the best way to care for transgender children.
What's happening here is that parents and adolescents are following the recommendations
of doctors. Chase Strangio is deputy director for
transgender justice with the American Civil Liberties Union. He points out that Attorney
General Paxton's opinion is non-binding. In other words, it doesn't actually change the law.
Nothing should have changed, but unfortunately, DFPS started investigating families.
And the ACLU and Lambda Legal have filed a lawsuit to block those investigations,
a hearing scheduled for the end of this week to consider a statewide injunction.
In the meantime, some families in Texas have already had visits from child protective services.
This is incredibly extreme. This is an abrupt, immediate intrusion into the rights and medical needs of a whole population of adolescent young people in Texas.
For a transgender minor, any transgender minor, the focus for them is more on their social transition rather than any medical treatment, you know,
like changing their name and pronouns, wearing different clothes.
You know, a lot of the rhetoric around particularly these anti-trans health bills
is grounded in misinformation. And a lot of times that comes in the form of falsely claiming that,
for example, kids are getting surgery, when of course this is
untrue. Surgery is not indicated until 18, but only after significant oversight and mental health
evaluations. Consider this. States across the U.S. introduced more than 100 bills in 2021
to restrict LGBTQ rights. More bills continue to be introduced this year,
and many specifically target transgender people and youth. We talked to two mothers who say they
just want to do what they can to keep their children happy and healthy, and that includes
gender-affirming care. From NPR, I'm Elsa Chang. It's Thursday, March 10th.
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Annalise's non-binary child is nine years old.
Rachel's transgender daughter is 11.
And when we spoke, I asked them,
how do you even explain what's happening in Texas to your children?
Like, where do you even begin?
Rachel says she remembers the moment
she had this conversation with her daughter. Her daughter's always been good at picking up
on emotions around her. She actually didn't know what was going on, but she walked in from school
and burst into tears. Because she could feel it. Wow. I'm going to start crying talking about it.
But once I explained to her what abbott was doing
that it was a week before primaries she kind of calmed down and was because this isn't a new
battle for her unfortunately she's been fighting for her humanity for the majority of her childhood
so it kind of gave her a moment of, oh, more of the same.
Okay, well, moving on.
But then we had to let our children know that there's a possibility that people might try to come and speak to them in their schools, might show up at our house.
And all of our children, especially my middle daughter, I mean, she's been up all night crying, having nightmares that my husband and I disappear.
Wow.
I mean, Annalise and I and many other parents across the state work really, really hard to ensure that our kids are safe everywhere they go.
Absolutely.
How about you, Annalise?
Your child, they're nine.
Do you think they fully grasp what is happening right now in Texas?
Oh, I hope to God they don't. Because quite frankly, as their parent and their protector, I'm terrified.
I would never, ever, ever want my child to feel the feelings that I'm experiencing right now.
You know, I told both of my kids, this is something that's happening. It doesn't change anything. This is not legal. We're still doing everything we can to keep you safe.
And that means we have to talk to lawyers. That means we have to talk to, you know, organizations
and advocacy organizations, understand our rights, understand your rights. And this is what child
abuse is, and this is what it isn't, et cetera. That was a terrifying conversation to have that my child immediately started sobbing.
And then for days after that, I was getting questions like, mom, who's going to adopt me whenever people come to our house?
Mom, what if the foster care family that I have to go to, what if they don't
know the kind of foods that I like to eat? And those are the things that we're hearing from our
kids that they're just so scared. And at the same time, my God, how brave, you know, the real impact
is not even on us, it's on our kids having Having to think through, like, how am I going to change my daily life
whenever I'm ripped away from my parents?
No child deserves that trauma.
I want to step back for a moment and talk about when each of your children
first started talking to you about their gender identity,
or when you first started talking to you about their gender identity, or when you first
started realizing who they were? Can you talk about the moment when you began to understand
the gender identity of your children? For me as a parent, I sort of knew they're not presenting
typically, and that's totally fine. I had no idea where we would end up. You felt completely okay
with it from the beginning? 100%. I think it was around age seven, early age seven.
We were driving to church and my child just said,
hey, everybody in the car,
I'm going to start using they, them pronouns.
That's who I am now.
Wow.
This was so natural to them,
even though as a parent,
the hate that the LGBTQ plus community
gets my immediate fear around that was, oh my God, is my child going to be allowed to grow up
safely? And I put it out of my mind. And that's unfortunately a conversation I now have to
revisit daily. Is my child actually safe in Texas, just being authentically who they are.
And it's just these extremist leaders who now make me
question my child's safety every single day. Yeah. Rachel, what about you? Do you remember
when your daughter first came to understand, I am a girl?
So there was never a time that she didn't identify as a girl.
It was more so of a process of my husband and I coming to terms with what we needed to do to support her.
By the time she was three, she was emphatically wanting to choose girls' clothes.
But my husband, he really tried to push her into sports and things that he identified with his own masculinity.
So it created some pretty significant problems in my marriage because my husband and I were
at odds about it.
But at the time, I didn't know if I just had an effeminate son or what we were looking
at. But by the time she was five, my other daughter had received
a lot of Christmas presents that were very gender stereotypical for a little girl.
And then my older daughter had received very masculine, stereotypical little boy gifts. And it was just like the straw that broke the
camel's back. And after a year really of her being in this downward spiral of going from this super
outgoing, extroverted, super sweet, fun little kid, she would hide behind me in public. She started acting
out at school. We had to have a meeting with her teacher. And when I sat down to talk to her about
it, she just broke down and said that she needed Santa to turn her into a girl and that she could only have girl toys and girl clothes.
And it was at that point that my husband really recognized what we needed to do to support her.
And it's who she is and who she needs to be.
And it was a matter of the rest of us transitioning to understand and support her. And to be very clear, that means
I took her to the girls department to shop for clothes. She was already growing her hair out
and she changed her name and pronouns. There is nothing medical that goes into a child
transitioning at that age. You know, both Governor Abbott and the State Attorney General Ken Paxton,
they not only support the idea that transition care like surgery is child abuse, but also other treatments like, say, puberty blockers or hormone therapy are examples of child abuse. What do you
think are the most common misconceptions when it comes to gender affirming treatments? Rachel and I have both talked about this. Transition for young kids is so low stakes
and simple. It's literally just wearing clothing that makes you feel good. It's using a name,
maybe a different name, maybe the same name that makes you feel good, it's wearing your hair a certain way. And I think the intention here
is from political extremists is to promulgate the most shocking rhetoric available to scare people
into thinking that dangerous things are happening with transgender kids and transgender people.
It's really not. All of this is considered safe, evidence-based, standard practice, medically necessary care.
And it's highly individualized and personalized, and it should remain private.
You know, at the end of the day, no child's medical care should be weaponized for political gain. No child.
Every child deserves the ability to have private medical care and to not have it
publicized and politicized. I know that there are people out there who are saying things like,
you know, the solution for people like the two of you, the solution is out there. Just leave Texas.
Just get out of Texas. How does that make you feel when people say things like that to you?
It makes me big mad. It makes me... I can't tell you the number of times I have
gotten really worked up just saying, stop telling us to leave our homes. These are our homes, our community, our family, our friends.
We do not want this. And if we leave, there are thousands and thousands of families who are stuck
here without someone to advocate for them. We need help. We need help fighting this. We need
the federal government to step in. We need our allies to stand up and say, this is not right.
That was Annalise and Rachel, mothers of transgender children living in Texas.
Now, let's just step back for a moment, because Texas is not the only state with something like
this on the books. Here's Chase Strangio again, Deputy Director for Transgender Justice with the ACLU.
We're seeing a staggering number of bills being introduced across the country
targeting specifically transgender young people.
More than a dozen states have introduced bills to ban the prescription of puberty blockers
and hormone therapy to minors, treatments that are reversible,
as well as gender-affirming surgical procedures.
Other bills would prohibit transgender youth from participating in sports according to their
gender identity. And there is legislation out there that would make it a felony to provide
medical treatment to a transgender minor. So you have this nationally coordinated,
well-funded effort to restrict the ability, particularly of trans people, to be who they are, talk about who they are, and safely live in their homes.
The White House called Governor Abbott's directive, quote,
a cynical and dangerous campaign. And during his State of the Union address,
President Biden spoke directly to transgender youth.
I'll always have your back as your president so you can be yourself and reach your God-given potential.
In Texas, Annalise says President Biden's words do offer some comfort.
The fact that our president stood in front of the nation
and acknowledged that transgender children exist,
acknowledged that the federal government owes them protection,
and that he intends to follow
through on that is critical. And I think that's what our families will be looking for moving
forward. In the meantime, she and Rachel and parents like them are doing the best they can
to cope with the uncertainty of what comes next.
It's Consider This from NPR. I'm Elsa Chang.