Conversations with Tyler - David Brooks on Youth, Morality, and Loneliness (Live at Mason)
Episode Date: June 6, 2018For two hours every morning, David Brooks crawls around his living room floor, organizing piles of research. Then, the piles become paragraphs, the paragraphs become columns or chapters, and the proce...ss - which he calls "writing" - is complete. After that he might go out and see some people. A lunch, say, with his friend Tyler. And the two will discuss the things they're thinking, writing, and learning about. And David will feel rejuvenated, for he is a social animal (as are we all). Then one day David will be asked by Tyler to come on his show, and perform this act publicly. To talk about his love for Bruce Springsteen, being a modern-day Whig, his "religious bisexuality," covenants vs. contracts, today's answer to the "Fallows Question," why failure is overrated, community and loneliness, the upside of being invaded by Canada, and much more. And though he will be intimidated, David will oblige, and the result is here for you to enjoy. Read a full transcript enhanced with helpful links. Recorded May 14th, 2018 Other ways to connect Follow us on Twitter and Instagram Follow Tyler on Twitter Follow David on Twitter Email us: cowenconvos@mercatus.gmu.edu Subscribe at our newsletter page to have the latest Conversations with Tyler news sent straight to your inbox.
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Hello, everyone. Thank you for coming, David.
David is actually part of the genesis of this series, though he doesn't know it.
So periodically, David and I get together for lunch.
and just talk about different things.
And it occurred to me that there ought to be some product version of this
that would be free and open for everyone.
And so here we are, and finally it's David himself in the flesh, for me to talk to him.
So I'd like to start with what I call the Eleanor Rigby question.
All the lonely people, where do they all come from?
What's the root cause behind the loneliness epidemic?
Why can't we just bring these people together, use the Internet if need be,
and make them all unloony?
What's the actual underlying problem?
Okay.
First, let me say I would come back from our lunches, and my assistant would say, you're glowing.
You have such a man crush.
So here we are.
Glad we can do this in public.
So this is the most intimidating interview I've ever sat down for because, A, you know me,
and B, you actually read my stuff.
Two things that are rare.
So I'm a cultural determinist, and so I tend to think the loneliness is pretty.
primarily a cultural problem, that we went through a culture in the 50s where we were the opposite
of Lonely. We were in a culture where people had to solve big problems, so they had a very
group-oriented culture, which you might call the, we're all in this together, big unions,
very tight neighborhoods, conformist organizations, difference to authority. And then people
decided around about 1962 that wasn't working. And so they created a culture that was very
individualistic. And if you go back to the Porte, you're on statement, if you go to Betty Friedan's
Feminine mystique, people begin to value autonomy. We need some lack. There's soul crushing this
conformity. And so in my view, we've had 40 or 50 years or more of individualism. And there's been
individualism of the left, which has been about social individualism and autonomy. There's been
a right-wing version, which is a more economic autonomy. But it's been autonomy all the way down.
And my view, if you leave people naked and alone, they do what their revolutionary roots tell them to do, which is revert to tribe.
And so they pick a bad form of community, which is tribalism.
But my explanation would be primarily cultural because there's no reason people should do what's bad for them, which is to be alone.
But that's what's happened.
Say we consider this from the point of view of women.
So in the 1950s, women had much less autonomy.
Could it be that an ideology of individualism was what we needed to partially liberate women?
Some men are left lonelier because women are, in fact, independent.
And the other side of the coin is independence of women, if you think of women as often a kind of glued holding communities together.
So we've traded off community for liberation of many women.
And maybe, A, there's no going back and B, it's actually a good thing, or no?
Well, I wouldn't put it, I put it halfway like that.
I forget who said this, but there's a social theorist who is a theory that we culture moves forward by what she calls the ratchet hatchet, pivot ratchet phrase.
And so the culture is our collective response to solve a problem.
And so you solve a problem and society ratchets upwards.
It works for a little while and then it stops working.
So you have a hatchet phase where everybody chops up the culture.
And I would say in 1960s were a period of chopping up the old culture.
Then you shift over because humans are very ingenious.
And you ratchet upwards.
But then it stops.
And so I'd say my explanation was we had to get rid of that 1950s culture because it really was it tolerated
a lot of racism, a lot of sexism, a lot of anti-Semitism. People were emotionally cold with one
another. The food was really boring. And so we had to chop that up. And then we had to move over
to an individualistic culture. We couldn't have had feminism, civil rights women. I doubt we could
have had Silicon Valley without that rebel, individualistic autonomy ethos. But every truth becomes
false when you take it to an extreme. And so I've said we've sort of run out the string on that
one. And I would say just especially one of the things that's noticeable about affluent people, and this has
happened to me, is as soon as people make money, they seem to purchase loneliness. I grew up in the
city, super crowded. When I had a book, my books sitting over there, I had a bestseller, which
allowed me to buy a house. And I bought it out in Bethesda with a big yard because I thought that
was cool. And I remember the moment I put the garage door thing on the visor of my car. That was like one
of the biggest moments of my life. I'd like made it to suburbia. But then you realize, oh, I got a
big acre yard and I'm lonely. And I think that's a common phenomenon that people take money and
translate it into loneliness. There's one study of the Yomish. It only has 52 data points, but it seems
to show they're not especially happy. They're a little bit above the neutral level. And they
have strong community. And if you ask them, are you happy with their community ties? You get very
high numbers. If you ask them, are you happy with your own life? You get pretty low numbers.
And there's no great demand to in migrate to the Amish, a few people try.
But why isn't it that demonstrated preference is what we should take seriously when it comes to assessing how much individualism we have?
Because you can join groups relatively easily still, right?
Yeah, well, I would say if you ask people, are you lonely?
It used to be 20% who said yes, and now it's 40%.
If you look at suicide rates, suicide rates are now at a 30-year high, and suicide's a proxy for loneliness.
50,000 people die every year of opiate addiction. There's a massive upshift in social distrust.
And so to me, the idea, you know, Stephen Pinker wrote this book on how we're all doing better.
His data was primarily about individuals. If you try to collect data on the quality of relationships,
it's really hard to find data that's anything but bad. And so people, we, societies fall into
patterns that are pretty self-destructive. And I'd say we fall into the pattern. I think we're
going to fix it. One thing about the Amish, I do think you have to control for their Germanic
temperament. But aside, I think the beauty of America, which separates us from other countries,
frankly, which have much more inherited community, we're really good at we form community,
and then we're living it for a little while, and then somebody offers us five bucks an hour
to move somewhere else, so we go somewhere else. So to me, it's the act of not inheriting
community, but forming it and then leaving it, and then forming it again that creates the creativity
of this culture. My favorite westerns are almost all
John Ford Westerns. The greatest movie all time was The Searchers,
by the way, starring John Wayne. But there's another movie made with
Henry Fonda called My Darling Clementine,
which was the most accurate Western because it's about
people forming a community in the West. It wasn't a single guy
having a gun shootout. The teacher comes to town. The Shakespearean
actor comes to town. They put up a schoolhouse. It's a
movie about community building, and that's actually how the West
was founded.
So you just spent two weeks in Italy, you told me. And if we think about Italy, family size is quite small. So total fertility is at about 1.3. People are marrying at much later ages. That's making them much more alone. You could say they're becoming individualistic, whether they like it or not. And does that strike you as a problem? Japan would be another example, some parts of Northern Europe. People are marrying late, low birth rates. So almost by definition, they're cut off from community of family compared to.
to how things were 30, 40 years ago,
but they seemed to systematically make these choices,
be happy with them.
Would Italian women be better off
with three kids in an apartment in Rome?
You want me to tell Italian women how to live?
I will say I just got back.
This is where you separate your own lived experience
from the data,
because my ideology,
my prior is that a low fertility,
they should definitely fix that problem.
But I was just out in Tuscany
on a restaurant over a hillside, and we were surrounded by Italian families, and we were probably
three and a half hours into the meal before they served the entree. It was just expected you would sit there
five or six hours, because it's Sunday afternoon. What are you going to do? I don't know. I can't
speak for Italian families. And I wouldn't want to translate anything into happiness. I'm in arguments
with people who do happiness research. Well, I find the whole field, it doesn't live up to, if you
look at sort of novelistic or musical expressions of happiness, whether Tolstoy read a book,
a story called family happiness, ode to joy, the literary and musical capturing of what joy
feels like is so much richer and more nuanced than anything in the happiness data that I find
the happiness data very unsatisfying. And all the happiness researchers say, no, no, it's really thick.
But to me, this is a failure, just a failure of social science, anything you can reduce to data
that's as humanistic as joy and happiness.
It seems to me there are so many different kinds of joy and happiness that are
uncaptured in the data.
I now have taken to clipping out.
When I see a description of joy, I clip it out.
And they're often involved rhythmic movement with groups of people, marching or dancing.
But they're often a sense of what was formerly inside yourself merging with something
outside yourself and a sense of people get caught up in this sense of spiritual transcendence.
whether you're marching across a bridge in Selma or Emerson being the universal eye when he was out in the forest.
It's always the loss of sense of where the self ends that seems to produce joy.
Now you sometimes describe yourself as a conservative, as I would do for myself.
But I think we would all recognize there's some level of stagnation in a society where at that point you have to take chances or you have to make radical changes.
And conservatism in the literal sense becomes virtually impossible.
do you think we're at that state right now or if we're not how will we know when we get there?
Yeah, well, I'm an American conservative. My two heroes are Edmund Burke and Edmund Burke's
core conservative ethos is epistemological modesty. The belief the world is really complicated
and therefore the change should be constant but incremental. But America's not built on that,
right? Right. So that's one half. But then my other hero is Alexander Hamilton,
who's a Latino hip-hop star from the Heights.
And his conservatism was very different.
It's about dynamism, energy, transformational change.
And so a European-style conservatism doesn't work here.
You have to have that dynamic, recreated, self-transformational element.
And I would say we're definitely at a moment of certainly it's impossible to argue we're not at a need for some sort of political transformation because we're completely dysfunctional.
So there's some big bet we ought to be making, doubling down on something.
Do you have a sense, I mean, for you what that would be?
Yeah, I mean, my short answer is that, you know, I'm a Whig. I believe in the Whig Party. You know, the
Whig Party was started by Hamilton, Henry Clay, Daniel Webster. And the basic argument of the
Whig Party is that there were always conservatives who believe in libertarians who believe in limiting
government to enhance freedom and progressives who believe in expanding government to increase
equality and social economic security. But Whigs believe in limited but energetic government
to enhance social mobility. They, you know, they had national banks.
banks, they had infrastructure plans, they believed in credit markets, and it was all an effort
to create dynamic economies that where poor boys and girls could rise and succeed. And so I
would like to see a rediscovery of the Whig Party. Now, there are six wigs in America right now,
but I'm one of them, so I'm sticking with it. Do you think conservatives ever really can win
on social issues anymore, or is that train simply left the station? Social liberalism has
triumphed forever. One can, you know, stand up and yell stop, but basically there's no
returning, or do you think it's fluctuation back and forth? Well, I'd say on some things,
that train has probably left the station on gay marriage. I don't think in my lifetime,
in our lifetime, we'll see any reversal on gay marriage. On abortion, the data is pretty,
if anything, there's a bit of a movement, especially among the young, toward a more pro-life
position. And on the basic stability of bourgeois virtues, I think the kind of
conservatives are actually winning that argument. And my friend Charles Murray put it that the people,
a lot of people on the left, think left, but they definitely live right. And so the acceptance of
bourgeois virtues of stable families and pretty narrow self-disciplined lifestyles, that seems to
me almost without argument these days. And do you accept the secularization thesis that the West
will become less and less religious and will never go back? Or is that also cyclical with mean
reversion. Well, I think that's
completely, that's always wrong. The secularization,
I mean, Peter Berger,
who died, I think at age 197
last year, I think he disproved that in the
1970s. I mean, the idea that America is
going more secular, or as you get richer, you get more
secular, I think it's demonstrable be false. And I would
see, even though we're seeing, we're seeing
religious polarization now. It's a lot of people getting much more
religious. If you walk through Northern
Central Park on a Saturday afternoon, you
you see hundreds of modern Orthodox kids who are trying to meet each other in the park there.
That's sort of their meat market on the Great Lawn. And so in Judaism, the Orthodox are
surging. And then among Christians, they're losing a lot of members because evangelicalism has
disgraced itself with Trump. But on the other hand, if you go to New York to the hip areas of New York
and you hang around 20-somethings, they're growing to churches. There's a church called Redeemer,
which has a bunch of plants around New York,
there's one called Trinity Grace,
there's one called C3.
You go into these churches,
and it feels like you're going
into the hippest nightclub on earth.
And they're surging with enthusiasm.
And so I don't know what the data show,
but just my observation
of both these different communities,
orthodoxy and Christian and Jewish circles,
is that, especially among the vanguard,
the cultural vanguard,
there's a spiritual resurgence.
And I would say I teach at Yale,
and 15 years ago,
if you were religious,
it was like having acne, it was sort of uncool. Then it went neutral, and now it's sort of a plus
that it's seen of a sign of some spiritual depth, even among those who are pretty secular themselves.
But if you think of Sweden, the United Kingdom, Ireland, Italy, Japan, many nations,
they seem to be rather drastically secular, even if people, in some fairly neutral sense,
still believe in God. So do you think we're the last holdout, in a sense, amongst wealthy nations,
or do you think we're eventually going to follow them, or you don't think
they have secularized. Well, no, I do think they have secularized. I think Western Europe and
Japan have secularized. I think much of the rest of the world has not, and that much of the
Western world is still Africa, the Middle East. But wealthy countries. We seem to be the only
religious one. Maybe we're the nation with a soul of a church. I would, well, I, I, I guess my
basic belief is that you either have religion or some sort of religious substitute, that people
are innately soul-driven spiritual creatures. And then imagine that people really
suffer when they have a sense their life has no transcendental purpose and meaning. And my observation
is that people over the centuries, we get secular, we were super secular in 1913, but the human being
is such that there's a spiritual hunger there that seeks outlets. And when the church does a really
bad of answering that outlets, which most churches have done over the last 50 years, people drift away.
But then somebody invents something new. And the drive for transcendent experience leads people
people back.
What do you think of the view common among Muslim theologians that Western liberalism
is in some sense a footnote to Christianity?
That we have a relatively individualistic religion.
It's individual as victim rather than might makes right.
Western liberalism is an offshoot of that and it relies on Christianity for its sustenance,
intellectually, spiritually, and otherwise.
I would say Judeo-Christianity.
I mean, the idea that we live in a covenantal society that we co-create with God is a Jewish
idea. We were just talking about Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, who's a beautiful book called The House
We Build Together, and it's about covenants. And a lot of it is what's different between the purely
liberal view of human arrangements, which is contract, and a religious view of human relationships,
which is covenant. And his argument is that contracts are what we do for our individual benefit.
A contract is about interest. But a covenant is when we make a promise to each other that transforms
our identity. And when we make a covenant, one with the
another, whether it's a marriage covenant or to our nation, we serve the relationship more than we
serve ourselves. And that's why people are willing to die in a battlefield. That's why people are
willing to risk their lives for their children. And it seems to me the more covenantal relationships
we're involved in, the more our life feels fulfilled. We often hear the term religious extremism
used as a criticism, but doesn't in a sense any serious religion have to be extreme in some way?
So if one believes that Christ is, however you want to phrase the belief about the Trinity,
but the Son of God, or whatever the claim is, that's almost by definition a radical extreme claim
or that the Quran literally has come down to us from God. That has to be an extreme claim to be
interesting, right? So is there such a thing as religious extremism as a negative?
Yes. And what is that?
So, you know, the religious people I know and admire, like you go into some places in
And it's like, yeah, God told me to my French fries.
He didn't want the potato chips that day.
I'm like, who are you people?
I don't know anybody who I respect who God talks to in that way.
And most people I know, God appears, and these are people who voted their lives to religion.
God appears occasionally, and then you sort of wonder about it.
And so there's a guy named Frederick Beekner, who's a novelist and a theologian.
He said, if you wake up every morning and says, I feel God right next to me, I really don't recognize you.
But if you wake up one out of ten and you feel some presence and that present comes with infinite laughter, that's sort of how I feel it.
A friend of mine is a great poet named Christian Wyman who's up at Yale.
And he says he occasionally has moments of transcendence, which the way he describes it, it feels like poetic inspiration.
And then he says, the rest of the time I don't feel much, but I try to stay faithful to those moments.
There's a great scene.
I'm going to hopefully not butcher it entirely.
He was in Prague with a girlfriend, and he was sitting there working on his poetry in the dining
room table, and I think it was a falcon lands on the window sill on the other side of the window.
And he looked at the falcon.
The falcon didn't notice him, so he called to his girlfriend, who was in the shower.
And she comes out, and she's naked, dripping wet, and they stare at this falcon, and the falcon turns and locks eyes with them.
And they're just sort of awed by the experience of this contact with nature.
and she just whispers to him, make a wish, make a wish.
And he said, I just was in wishing for a moment, that moment would last forever, and it went away.
And he just describes that as just this moment when sort of reality spills outside its boundaries.
And most religious people I know have those moments and they get a sense of grace or of God's presence, but then it goes away.
And so if you don't, if you're filled with doubt and filled with doubt about your own interpretation, which is pluralism,
then you're not an extremist.
And to me, that's the only civilized way to be religious.
But the religions that motivate people, they seem to be based on extreme claims.
And on the other hand, we're both technocrats of a sort and pragmatists,
and we'll look at the evidence and change our mind about policies.
And if you have religion and then you have your technocracy,
how is it that you circumscribe the two and keep them apart?
Because the people who are motivated by religion think the supposedly extreme religious
belief has a say about the areas where we want to be technocrats.
Well, they make extreme claims. I'd call them they make supernatural claims, which is a hard
barrier to get over, I grant you. But I would say, and this is why I read a lot of religious
writing, it just, it helps me do my job better. And so the central claim of religion is,
that as a friend of mine, Jerry Root puts it, is the reality is iconoclastic. There's something
weird extra there. And so the way I would say it is that we all have soul.
So there's all a piece of each of us, which has no weight and has no color and has no size and shape,
but is in us and it gives us infinite dignity, and it causes us to want to lead good lives.
And that slavery is wrong because each person has a soul and slavery is an obliteration of a soul.
And that rape is wrong because rape is not just an assault on a bunch of physical molecules,
but it's an obliteration of another human being soul.
And if I don't have that concept of soul, it's very hard.
hard for me to do reporting. It's very hard for me to understand how human beings are and why
atrocity is wrong. I would find it very hard if I'm out covering a story, something that outrages me or
something that delights me. If I didn't see the people I was covering as essentially spiritually
driven natures, I'd think the whole story would fall to pieces. And so I find it hard to,
I find it not empirically in a statistical way, but empirically helpful as a way to see reality.
You've described yourself at times as religiously bisexual.
What do you mean when you say that?
I need my own bathrooms.
I mean, I grew up in a Jewish household, and when you grow up in a Jewish household and Jewish family,
Kip Koshar all those years, you read the Passover Seder, and you feel deeply, you know,
how stories enter you.
And the story of Judaism, and I feel so Jewish, a lot of my friends are Jewish, my jokes are
Jewish. My style is Jewish. And so you feel that you're just deeply and irrevocably embedded in that
story. And at the same time, I went to the school that probably had the biggest influence on me.
It was called Grace Church School, which if anybody goes to the Strand bookstore in New York,
it's just really next door, a beautiful church on Broadway. And I even, like, I was in the
choir. And so I sat in chapel every day. And that story, and then I went to an Episcopal camp for
15 years, and then I read Reinhold Niebuhr, and then I fell in love with St. Augustine.
And somehow that story is also, you find that story settling into you.
I feel more Jewish and more attached to the Christian story than ever, both.
And so that's why I'm bisexual.
And do you think Jewish or Christian readings of the Book of Exodus are deeper and more insightful?
Which friends do I want to offend?
I think the Old Testament Torah is...
amazingly complex and I guess I would say it's it's amazingly interesting and there are just so many
characters frankly the New Testament is about one guy essentially so it can't compete in
if we're judging these on novelistic grounds maybe that's not the right criteria I think
you know the Holy Spirit might have introduced a few more characters liven up the plot you know
I would say the I get a little tired of Jewish theology when it gets pedantic
You know, how many grains of rice can be in your bowl of whatever in Passover.
But some of the Jewish writing from Martin Buber and Abraham Joshua Heschel and others on the Book of Exodus are amazing.
The Christians do better on love.
I've read Christian books about Ruth, Naomi, and Boaz, which strike me as just a greater appreciation.
Maybe Jews got a little too cognitive.
I don't know.
These are my off-the-top, I had extremely dangerous, self-destructive generalizations I'd making.
If anybody takes the last three and a half minutes too seriously, I ask for forgiveness.
Let's say Elon Musk is right, and we will be able to settle distant planets.
Should we choose people all just from one religion or one country?
Or how pluralistic should we make the settlement?
Keep in mind, you're an American, and the early settlements here were fairly narrow, right?
We had a number of waves, but each one was pretty well defined in some way. So you have
Puritans or you have the Spanish. Yeah, the Puritans, I actually have a lot of respect for the
Puritans. They don't strike me as the most fun group to settle Mars with. They were actually
way more sexualized than we think. We sort of narrow them down unfairly. I blame Henry Miller
or Arthur Miller. My, you know, my bias, especially these days, is for infinite diversity and
integration. In a weird way, and I really don't understand this. All the fun in life comes from
integration. It's from integrating one group of people with a radically different group of people.
And somehow it's become uncool to be for integration. We're all for our separate little communities
and the purity of our cultures. But the most enjoyable times I've had are with people completely,
unlike myself, where I can learn about whatever. I mean, your whole omnivorous brain is one
vast testimony to the power of cultures clashing and joining.
Why have so many young men stopped even looking for work?
What has happened to aspiration in our culture?
I'm asking you, right now.
I'm a pundit, so I have to come up with answers.
I'm not sure I feel qualified.
We're all driven, I'm, again, speculating because these are unusual questions by
complexes we don't understand.
And if you have six adverse childhood experiences in your life, some sort of abuse,
some sort of loneliness, some sense of betrayal.
it's hard to get a sense of self-agency.
And that's, everything's recoverable, but attachment patterns, early trauma, a sense of,
if you've been betrayed enough, then long-term thinking doesn't make sense.
And so I would say the desire to not aspire, and you can rationalize that away,
it probably comes from some sort of wound and injury in people's lives.
And when I, after I missed the Trump thing so badly, I traveled around the country for 18 months,
and I'm still doing it and always talking to Trump voters and other voters.
And the amount of wounding and the amount of sense of betrayal, high levels of distrust,
high levels of feeling everyone else is getting ahead and I'm falling behind.
I've found especially for young people in their 20s, even people with sterling educations,
the 20s have become for many a brutal time.
They don't quite know what their purpose is in life.
They don't quite have the skills to get out of the emptiness, just the wide open
options. They're afraid of closing off options because they're not really quite sure who they are.
We've produced a society that's made being 25, phenomenally difficult, in part because you're in the
most supervised childhood in human history until 21. And then after that, you're released into the
complete void. And you're not going to get married for another 12 years. You're not going to settle
into your career. And so I've come to notice it in my students, I've come to call the Tilos crisis,
the loss of sense of purpose. And when you get the,
setback in your mid-20s, you don't quite know where your life is, you haven't discovered it,
you haven't found some calling that just seizes you, and it can be pretty rough. Nietzsche has a phrase,
he who has a why to live for can endure anyhow, that if you know what your long-term is,
that you can endure the setbacks, but if that hasn't become clear to you, then the setbacks
are super hard. And I just noticed it in the rising depression rates, the rising mental health problems,
the rising suicide problems. We've sort of left people in a very unstructured experience after age
21. I just gave this commencement a talk at Butler University a couple days ago. And, you know,
commencements are happy. And I was like, your life is going to suck in three years. I was like,
I'm not sure that was the right spirit for that occasion. Our mutual friend, Jonathan Rauch, he has a book
where he argues quite persuasively, I think, that people tend to become considerably happier after age 50.
First, what do you infer from this?
Second, since often children are leaving the house then, does this not mean that a bit more loneliness would be a good thing?
And maybe aren't the main determinants of your state of mind, just heritability, the basic level of wealth in your society, and how old you are?
No.
No.
Well, I mean, Jonathan Roush, he's absolutely right.
There's a U-shaped curve.
People are happy in their 20s, and they sort of bottom out at 47, which to me is,
having teenage children.
But he has more complex things, but then they rise up.
And some of it is straight biological.
If you give people experiments where you ask them to look at a crowd of faces,
young people look at angry faces.
They go toward threat.
Old people, their eyes just fixate on the happy faces.
They just perceive reality is a more friendly thing.
And so that's one of the reasons.
And he's even got data on apparently baboons also have a U-shaped curve,
that they're happy in the young baboonhood,
and then they get middle-aged baboonhood stinks,
and then upper-old-age baboonhood.
I don't know how they measure this,
but to me, I guess my answer would be,
again, it's quality of relationships.
Quality of relationships correlates extremely well
with happiness levels.
If you join a club that meets once a month,
that produces the same happiness gain
as doubling your income.
And so just if, you know, relationships are the thing.
And I would say that people get better at living.
That in their 50s and 60s, they get out of their own way.
There are a lot, the sort of the monster of self-regard diminishes.
How am I doing?
How am I doing?
What do people think of me?
After a certain age, people stop caring.
And that's a recipe for happiness.
And then I notice, and I'm going to write about this, I hope, that I notice a lot of my,
the people I talk to, especially over 70, their life has this shape, which I've come to think of as the two mountain shape.
They got out of their education, and they figured, oh, that's the mountain I'm going to climb them.
And there's a career they imagine.
There's a family they imagine.
And then they achieve that success and find it unsatisfying or else something really bad happens and they suffer.
And they're at the valley, and they realize, oh, that actually wasn't my mountain.
And there's a second mountain.
And it happens often in their 50s and 60s.
And the second mountain tends to be more about community service. It's more internal, less external. The first mountain is more building up the identity and the ego. The second mountain is sort of shedding it all. And it's more about pouring back. And you meet people at person after person who built a career. And then they went off and became a teacher. They went to bed and meditated or they dedicated their life to some cause. And that second mountain is a more spiritual mountain, but it's just a happier mountain. And so I think people just
learn lessons as they get older and they get better at living.
In an age of supposed revelations about Silicon Valley and so-called Facebook scandals,
why don't Americans seem to care more about their privacy?
And in your view, is this actually a good thing that we're not so worried about it?
Not many people have quit Facebook, right?
There can be a big zip file of information about you out there.
There's not actually any great protest in the parks of Arlington that I know about.
Some media people, some intellectuals, but otherwise no.
Yeah, that's my observation.
Zuckerberg came through town and all the hearings were about privacy. And yet, I don't really,
you know, I hear a little about that. To me, the problem with Facebook is the fact that for, especially
for 16-year-olds, the more social media you use, the more depressed you're likely to be.
That's the big problem with social media, not the privacy invasions. I think people assume that
that's their business model. And the stuff they find out about us is trivial in the most, I mean,
my wife and I, we were going to decorate our house with like one of those little barrels,
like a decorative barrel. And for the next six months, whenever I logged on to any website,
I had to look at a damn barrel because I thought I was going to buy a barrel. And so we decided
we didn't want a barrel. So, but is that really? Okay. So that's an invasion of my privacy. But
I'm sure there are other privacy experts who are more alarmed, but I haven't seen a massive pain
caused by this invasion. Might you be game for a quick round of overrated versus
underrated. As I said, this is the most intimidating interview of my life. It's the most intimidating
part of the intimidating interview. But I think these all will be easy. The Bruce Springsteen album
Born to Run. Is it overproduced or is it his best work? It's overproduced and some of it is
his best work. It's a little, it's a wall of sound style. And he, it's like a lot of artists,
he got more spared and more simple as he went along. So, but for a guy who was at the peak of his
creativity, it was an explosion of creativity.
The Bruce Springsteen double album.
The River, which is underproduced, has a very nice flow,
but maybe not so many truly great, wonderful, amazing songs.
Underrated or overrated, the river.
Everything by Springsteen is rated extremely highly,
and everything by Springsteen is underrated.
And what is it that you would point our attention to in Springsteen
that is underappreciated by most others?
So the crucial moment for me in Springsteen,
so he has two albums.
He gets this big record.
He gets a three record deal.
His two records are bombs, the first two.
Greetings from Asbury Park, who for those who can see is at our feet here.
And then the Wild and this Innocent East Street shuffle.
So they failed commercially.
And the company's going to cut them loose.
So then he comes out with Born to Run, which is massive success.
He's on the cover of Time and Newsweek.
And so he has just made it.
And the next logical step for any artist in the commercial sphere would be to go big.
I've just made it out of New Jersey.
I'm going big. I'm going to go for the big album that's going to really make me a superstar. Instead,
partly for legal reasons, he takes four years off and he goes down back into his roots of these
New Jersey small towns. And he writes an album called Darkness on the Edge of Town, which is dark,
small, simple, and really local going back into his landscape. And that was an amazing,
creative and courageous decision. Now, I saw Springsteen in Madrid about,
four years ago. And so I'm surrounded by 65,000 Spanish kids. And they've got t-shirts with all the
pieces of landscape from that album, Highway 9, the Stone Pony, all these little items from the New Jersey
landscape that Springsteen came about. And it's a lesson for an artist, and it's like the Faulkner lesson,
it's like a lot of artists. If you go to the power of your particular and build the landscape there,
the audience will sense the authenticity of what you're doing. You're exploring your own stuff,
and they will come to your landscape and live in your landscape with you. And there was a moment in that
concert in Madrid where he's singing, I was born in the USA, I was born in the USA, and 65,000
Spanish kids are singing, I was born in the USA, I was born in the USA. I'm like, no, you weren't.
No, you weren't. But one of the great ironies of Springsteen is that he embraces, in theory, the ethos of rock and roll.
I'm on the road, I'm rebelling, I'm getting out.
The guy now lives 10 miles from where he grew up.
The ethos was get out, but his genius was to go deep and plant roots and stay within his roots.
And that was a great, courageous artistic decision, which I noticed a lot of artists making that decision.
Linman, well, Miranda has one of those moments where you reject the easy success and you go back to who you are.
Let me tell you some of my reservations about Bruce Springsteen.
And let's see if you can talk me out of them.
I was willing to trample over the New and Old Testament,
but now we're getting on the holy ground there.
If I think of his sources like Roy Orbison,
Gary in the U.S. bonds, Eddie Cochran,
they're almost completely American,
and you've stressed virtues of integration.
They're strongly white.
There's a kind of, I hesitate to say monotony,
but there's a sameness of rhythm in a lot of Bruce Springsteen.
And if I say instead, well, for me, kind of foundational American musicians, singer-songwriters,
I would look to Paul Simon, who's more global, Bob Dylan, who's more religiously bisexual,
has a stronger link to black culture.
And I would put Springsteen as less important than them.
I mean, what would you say to talk me out of that?
He's a kind of nationalist, isn't he?
And you're a cosmopolitan.
First spring scene is Donald Trump.
Steve Bannon rolled into one.
You know, I do think, I mean, as I say, he's not a cosmopolitan, actually.
I think you're right about that.
I mean, I would point to some influences that, you know, Sam Cook and some others, Africa,
B.B. King, probably some of the blues guitarists.
A lot of the 1950s, R&B singers were big influences.
He really grew up by the 55-65 era, and I would say he drew from right and black in that era.
You know, I don't know how to compare him to Dylan.
I mean, Dylan is not my cup of tea a lot of the time, especially later Dylan.
But, you know, I would say that as an artist who's exploring his own issues and is relentlessly, not performing, but is being relentlessly honest with the issues that really trouble him and send him to analysis for 45 years, he's a pretty honest guy.
And he's got a lot of good passages in his memoir, which is a really good memoir. It's a memoir of somebody's been in an analysis all his life because he's talked it all through.
But one of them is how is his evaluation of his own voice, which is a medium quality voice.
But he says, I do sing truly to what I'm feeling.
And he is very, I mean, he's very transparent.
I had a chance to meet him a couple times once for an extended period.
And he's amazingly shy.
And when you see him on stage, you can't believe you're seeing the same human being.
And he's like a lot of writers are like this.
They're only fully themselves when they're the process of writing.
And so he's someone who is honest about what he's processing and then throws it out.
And the key to good performance when I go to a concert, or the key to public speaking is,
are they willing to throw themselves out onto the audience and hope the audience will pick them out?
And if you want to see a good speaker or a good musician, they always have that quality that I'm helpless here.
I'm just going to, you've got to help me here.
And he does that every time.
Walt Whitman, not only is a poet, but as a foundational thinker for America,
overrated or underrated?
I'd have to say slightly overrated.
Tell us why.
I think his spirit and his energy
sort of define America.
His essay, Democratic Vistas,
is one of my favorite essays.
It captures both the vulgarity of America,
but the energy and especially the business energy
of America.
But we do have to,
if we think the rise of narcissism
is a problem in our society,
Walt Women is sort of the Holy Spring there.
Socrates, overrated,
or underrated.
This is so absurd.
With everybody else, it's like breaking bad, overrated, underrated.
I got Socrates.
I will say Socrates is overrated for this reason.
We call them dialogues.
But really, if you read them, they're like,
Socrates making a long speech and some other schmo saying,
oh, yes, it must surely be so, Socrates.
So it's not really a dialogue.
It's just him speaking with somebody else affirming.
And it's Plato reporting Socrates.
So it's Plato's monologue about a supposed dialogue, which may itself be a monologue.
It was all probably the writers.
A few questions about politics, but of course feel free to pass if you wish.
Should Donald Trump win a Nobel Peace Prize?
No, the Nobel Prize for Literature, maybe, but no.
Is a Wilsonian foreign policy still feasible, given that our GDP relative to global GDP, will just keep on falling?
So I'm an idealist in foreign policy, but Wilson is too idealistic for me. So I'm more realistic. I think a Reaganite foreign policy is still possible, which urges democracy promotion, human rights abroad, but is not quite thinking that we're going to solve human evil within three years.
You argued in a recent column that the anti-Trump movement basically has failed. What could it or should it have done better or different?
It should have understood where Trump supporters were coming from. And, you know, I'm as guilty about this as everyone.
what, when I get pushback from Trump supporters, which is frequent, it's because they don't feel
respected and heard. So saying, you know, a realistic understanding of why people voted for Trump
and then a realistic argument of why he failed on those grounds rather than the grounds that
I happen to be offended by Charlottesville and all the rest. If you think about what is coming
next in American politics, one view I sometimes hear is we tend to elect presidents who are a
reaction against the previous president. So Jimmy Carter was in a way a reaction.
against the era of Watergate. Reagan was a reaction to Jimmy Carter. You know this story,
of course. There's a kind of reversion to a mean. Another view is that every now and then,
just things change and they don't go back to how they were. So the post-war era, those presidents
do seem fundamentally different from a lot of the knuckleheads we had in the mid to late 19th century.
So here we are in 2018. Which of those two models or some other model do you think does best?
Yeah. Well, I think the reaction, but you can react in two ways. The reaction I would hope for
is to some boring manager.
Like, I wrote a book in 2015 on humility.
And then 2016 happened and Donald Trump gets elected.
So my reaction was, well, that worked.
And so then the reaction will be, okay, we've got a narcissistic blowhard in the White House.
We'll go back to, I could use like a boring manager, like Mitch Daniels, who was governor of Indiana, now president of preview.
When he got into office as governor, the line at the DMV was an hour and 20 minutes.
When he got done, it was eight minutes.
And I'm like, for president, I'll take that.
That's what I'd like.
Just somebody to manage things.
There's a DMV in this building, by the way.
If you need to take care of any of your business.
Wrong.
I don't live in Virginia, sadly.
But so, you know, he was five foot six low to the ground and touch of the people.
So that would be one reaction.
But the more likely one, I think, is Trump was a swing to a certain sort of
paleo, Pap Buchanan right.
And I think it's a little more likely that we'll get a swing to a paleo left and that
will get a Trumpism on the left, which will be pretty socialistic and pretty progressive left.
But in terms of the boring manager, why should we want that or why should we think it's possible?
So if the anti-Trump movement went wrong by not hearing the people who feel aggrieved,
is it possibly the case those people can never feel that a boring manager has heard them?
because all he's going to do is go off and manage something in a boring way.
What I observe, and this is a book I've just finished reading by James and Deborah Fallows called Our Towns.
And one observes this as you travel around the country.
Our national politics stinks to heaven.
A lot of local cities are doing well.
And they point to Greenville, South Carolina, Fresno, California, O'Clair, Wisconsin, Nashville,
Detroit is doing reasonably well.
And those cities are all run by people who say,
all those culture war, cable TV issues, we're putting that nonsense aside. And we're just going to
talk about, I was with this guy, Mayor of Detroit, Mike Doug, and he talked about, like, where to put
the lamp post, where to cut the grass, like to the basic management issues. And the cities that
are doing well are run by people who do business, private public partnerships, they focus on community
colleges, and they produce measurable results for working class Americans. And so to me,
All you have to do is take the success of all these mayors at the local level and try to nationalize it.
And that's completely plausible to me.
When you look at times of American history, when we have recovered, turned around a social decline without the benefit of war, it's like periods from 1890 to 1910.
And generally, we take some series of local movements and we merge it into a national movement.
In the 1890s, we had all these civic organizations that grew up all at once, the Boy Scouts, the Girl Scouts,
the Girl Scouts, the Boys Clubs, the Girls Clubs, the Temperance Movement, the Settlement House movements, the NWACP, the unions.
They all grew up in five years of each other.
And then they joined together eventually and formed the progressive movement.
And they cleaned up government.
And so to me, if you want to look how America changes, look around what's happening locally and figure it'll probably nationalize at some point.
The earliest appearance of David Brooks on video, I believe, is still on YouTube.
you're a young man and you're challenging Milton Friedman on the Chrysler bailout.
Do you remember this encounter?
Sadly, I do.
It's like one of those early traumas that will live with me forever.
What was it like having Milton Friedman lecture you about the Chrysler bailout?
So I was a student at the University of Chicago and they did an audition and I was a socialist back then.
It was a TV show PBS put on called Tierney the Status quo, which was Milton Talks to the Young.
And so I studied up on my left-wing economics and I went out there to Stanford.
and then I would make my argument
and then he would destroy it in
six seconds or so
and then the camera would linger on my face
for 19 or 20 seconds
as I tried to think of what to say
and it was like he was the best arguer
in human history and I was
22 year old and so it was
my TV debut you can go on YouTube I have a lot
of hair and big glasses
but I will say I had never met a libertarian
before and every night we taped
for like five days every night he took me and my
colleagues out to dinner in San Francisco
and really taught us about economics.
And I wouldn't, I later, and he stayed close to me.
I called him a mentor.
And I didn't become a libertarian ever quite like him,
but a truly great teacher and a truly important influence on my life and so many others.
I mean, there's a model of what an academic economist should be like.
What do you think of the Chrysler bailout now?
I not only support the Chrysler bailout, I support the Obama bailout of GMs,
which I was against at the time.
I will say one other thing about Friedman, early in my life when I was 23, I got this little fellowship at the Hoover Institution.
And at 3.30, you would have cookies. And you could go to Milton Friedman's table with all the economists at Stanford or Sydney Hook's table with all the philosophers.
And so some days I would go here, Hook, and I remember he was a great philosopher. And he did an hour and a half discussion of the problem of evil, which was thrilling.
And once I was sitting at the Friedman table, and I was making some dumb argument.
I'm sure. And some other economists at the table ripped me to shreds, but I didn't understand
what he was saying because it was all jargon. And I finally just said, I really don't know what
you just said. I don't understand. I'm sorry. And Friedman laughed and he was totally on my side.
And I felt great gratitude from him to leaping to my defense. And he was an economist who could
speak without jargon and sort of a model of that. But that was an act of great charity,
which I remained grateful to him for.
And I didn't feel you lost that early exchange with Friedman.
I mean, it seemed to me to be a draw that you had good arguments and he had good arguments and then time was up.
Oh, good.
Well, I beat Milton Friedman, or at least true easy.
Where's my Nobel Prize?
Now, I have a few questions for what I sometimes call the David Brooks production function about you.
So obviously, you've written numerous best-selling books, been a journalist for the Wall Street Journal, long-standing columnist for the New York Times.
So how you work is what I'd like to ask about.
How would you say you keep yourself just motivated?
Because I've written for many years and getting up every morning and having to do things,
how do you keep that live and active for yourself?
So I read a book when I was seven called Paddington the Bear.
And I've written pretty much every day since then.
And people know get out of my way before I write for two hours of the morning.
That's just how I live.
I just do not stop writing.
The thing that's distinctive about my style is that my brain,
has very bad memory. So I have to write everything down. And then I think geographically.
And so for each column, I'll have like 200 pages of notes and then a bunch of things I read
to myself. And I lay them out on the floor of my living room in piles. And every pile is a
paragraph in my column. So the column is 850 words. And I'll have 14 or 15 piles. I'll pick up a
pile, write it, throw the pile out, pick up another pile of papers. And so writing for me is not
typing into the keyboards, it's crawling around on the floor organizing my pile. And the lesson for
my students, which they ignore, is that your paper should be 80% done by the time you sit down and
type it, because writing is about structure and traffic management. And if you don't get that right,
everything else will flow badly. And if something's not working, judges have it saying that opinion
won't write. They thought they knew what they believed, but then they started writing and it just wasn't
flowing. Don't try to fix it. Start over with a new structure. And so to me, it's, it's a, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, I crawl. I, I write by crawling around
on the carpet. And writing aside, just learning, keeping on learning through life. There are plenty of obvious
pieces of advice like read books, talk to smart people. What do you feel you can tell us that maybe we
haven't already thought about already how to keep on learning through life? I just read the marginal
revolution blog and steal as much as possible unscripted. I will, the one virtue, I will, the one virtue,
of this job is
that you have to come up with a new idea every three days.
So it may not be a good idea.
And I find I've written more than a thousand columns,
but if I write a bad one, then I feel really bad.
I feel really humiliated.
And if I write a bad one and Ross Douth
and Brett Stevens write were good ones,
I feel really bad.
I'm trying to think of other than the obvious,
you know, I go to conferences.
I don't learn that way particularly.
I learn by reading.
And I just, I'm always reading.
Not as much as you, but 50% of you maybe.
What would it take for you to pack up and move to rural China for a year to live there
and write about what that's like?
Or a month even.
That's actually kind of attractive.
The food is good.
The food is good.
And it would be life-walturing.
I know it would be good because what's another year in D.C.?
I guess I think I would say the action is here.
I mean, I wrote a column called, I mentioned,
James Follos before, but called the Fallows test, which is Jim Fallows, in the 80s, he went to
Japan, then he moved to China, he wrote about Iraq. Each decade, he's more or less picked
the spot where the action is. And so the question is, if you could live anywhere on the world
where the action, where history is being made, where is the action? And Fallows now thinks it's
like Fresno, California, but I would make the argument that Washington is where the action is right now.
and that that is, so living here actually has some good utility, even if it seems a little boring.
The second thing is part of my career, rightly or wrongly, is based on the view that politics is, our conversation is over politicized and under moralized.
We rewrite too much about politics and not enough about relationship and truth and yearning for goodness and meaning.
And so what I try to do with my little column is sort of shift the direction a little in more that sort of meaning purpose.
culture direction.
Do you have a work habit dysfunction
that you're willing to confess to?
I mean, I have the same one everyone else has,
which is checking my phone every 90 seconds.
I'm a big pen-chewer.
I don't know if that counts as a real dysfunction.
I feel I should come up with something more dramatic.
I chew pens and chew heroin at the same time.
I'm kidding.
So a young person comes to you and says,
I would like to be some version
of the next generation of David Brooks,
which won't be exactly what you did by any means.
And they say, again, other than the trivial advice, work hard, talk to smart people, whatever,
what would you give that person in the way of advice to guide them?
Well, it used to be you would, the career path was kind of ordinary.
You became assistant editor of the National Review in the Republic,
and then you moved up the opinion food chain.
Then the Ezra Klein model seems probable.
You go online, you do work nobody else wants to do so somebody pays attention to you,
and then you get well known for being a smart person who's willing to work hard.
And that model has, I think that's probably still the way to go.
You know, the obvious lessons are say yes to everything.
You don't know what's going to lead to what.
So when you're 24, say yes to every opportunity, I was a movie critic as a foreign correspondent.
That was a very useful thing to have.
I wrote about El Salvador.
I've still never been to El Salvador.
Just somebody asks you to do something, say yes.
I'm happy to bring you, by the way.
I won't ask because you'd have to say yes.
But there is a direct flight.
The other thing is, this was Richard Holbrook's advice to young people, which was know something about something.
You've got to have a body of information to bring to the table.
The final, I'm writing a book on this, so I'm filled with random bits of advice right now.
But there was a guy, a friend of mine named Fred Swannocker who grew up in Africa and his mother was a teacher and he was educated here.
and he founded a school in South Africa called the African Leadership Academy and he's trying to figure what to do with the rest of his life.
And he said, which is true advice, when you're thinking about what to do with your life, don't say, what do I want to do from life?
Ask what is life expecting of me?
This is a Victor Frankel question.
What problems are around me that are really calling me?
And then, so one, is it a big problem?
You've got to fall in love with a big problem.
Because if you have some human capital, you might as well go for the big problem.
Two, is that a problem your life history has made you uniquely qualified to serve.
So Swannaker decided education in Africa is the big problem.
And there need to be more universities for all of Africa.
But he said, actually, I'm uniquely qualified to do that because I did grow up across all of Africa.
I was an educator.
My mom was an educator.
I did have the advantage of an American education.
I did go back and form a pan-Afric in high school.
So I'm going to start universities.
and he's already started one in Mauritius,
and I think he's on schedule to start another 10 or 15 universities across Africa,
which is an audacious goal.
But it's one that he was uniquely qualified to serve.
And Fred Rieckner, the novelist who I mentioned before,
he is the most famous phrase of evocation,
which is find this spot where your deep gladness meets the world's deep need.
So something you intrinsically love doing
and match it with some deep problem that's out there.
Last question. Before I turn to the audience and the iPad for questions,
What is indeed your current and next project?
So it was about commitment making.
The theory of the book, when it started, was that each of us make four big commitments
in the course of our lives to a spouse and family.
Most of us make these commitments to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a community,
and to a philosophy and faith.
And the fulfillment of our lives depends on how well we choose and execute these commitments.
So how do you do that?
And what are examples of people who are great at making commitments?
and what is a commitment? And my favorite definition of commitment, by the way, is falling in love
with something and then building a structure of behavior around it for those moments when love falters.
So Jews love their God, but they keep kosher just in case. You've got to build the structure.
And now I think that I'm probably going to call it when you give yourself away. And the argument is
everyone says serve something larger than yourself. And like that's the cliche of the moment. But what does that actually mean?
How do you actually do that?
And so the book is an attempt to look at people who've actually done that.
Not me, but other people have done it, and what are the lessons we can learn from their lives?
David, thank you very much for all of your wisdom.
Audience questions, we will take at the two mics and from the iPad.
These are not opportunities to make statements or speeches.
The goal here is to hear from David.
So if you start making a speech, I will simply stop you and cut you off.
question.
Hi.
I kind of observed
since you've moved
to the times
and also I might
say the same thing
for Brett Stevens
that I never feel like
I'm reading a conservative
anymore.
Do you feel like
the time this changed
you or are they not
letting you be
conservative or
you know
and am I correct
that you're moving
a little bit to the left?
Yeah well if I write
a conservative sentence
Krogg me hits me
over the ladder
it's like
no
they
First thing to say is we have no, that nobody supervises.
We are given total academic freedom.
We have copy editors in New York, but we really don't, we don't consult with editors.
We basically write the column and send it in.
So for good or it's all us.
The second thing I would say is, if you read myself in the weekly standard, I was writing
this Hamiltonian Teddy Roosevelt style of republicanism back then, which I still think I'm writing.
The third thing to say is, I think events have pushed me away from a more pure free market.
view especially because I think the structures of the economy have become more evident,
the structural flaws of the economy, and that I've become a little more tolerant of government
intervention as inequality is widened, as working class has been left behind, as society has fallen
apart. So I probably have drifted a little to the left as the party has drifted in a more
populist, nativist direction. But I don't think I've moved all that much. I'm still
basically are Teddy Roosevelt to Alexander Hamilton Whig. Next question. So much has been written about
failure and why it's good, but not a lot of it is practical or useful. So what advice would you give
to, say, a young, recent college graduate about how to fail and even how to suffer well?
So Steve Jobs gave a famous commencement address at Stanford on the importance of failure,
and J.K. Rowling gave a famous commencement on the importance of failure, and Denzel Washington
gave a famous commencement on the importance of failure.
So if you're Steve Jobs,
J.K. Rowling, or Denzel Washington,
failure is awesome.
But for most people, failure just sucks, and I wouldn't do it.
Now, as for suffering,
suffering comes whether you want to,
you know, I wrote a little section in my last book
about the value of suffering, and one of my students came up to me and said,
well, how can I find some suffering?
I'm like, don't worry, it'll find you.
And I think the lessons,
the classic lessons are the people who suffer and grow from suffering are able to turn their
moments of suffering into a story of redemption. So nobody ever says, if you ask somebody, what made you
who you are? Nobody ever says, oh, I went to Hawaii and I had an amazing time. That was really
the transformative event of my life. But a moment of suffering is usually what they point to or struggle.
And what they do is they, there's a paltillic phrase that what suffering does is it introduces you to yourself and reminds you you're not the person you thought you were.
And then he says what it does is it carves through the floor of what you thought was the basement of your soul and it reveals a cavity and then carves through that floor and it reveals a cavity below.
So moments of suffering reveals the deepness of a person the way nothing else does.
And then I think you realize the only thing that can feel that depth is a spiritual food and not a material food.
And people want to fill that depth with something.
And so I have two friends, for example, who lost a child.
And nobody says, well, we grieve for two years.
Let's go out and party and let's be happy.
They want to turn that moment of suffering into a cause and a precondition for service.
And so they created a charity called Hope for Henry about their child.
in honor of their child,
so other children wouldn't have to suffer
from what Henry suffered from.
And so they turn a moment of suffering
into a redemption and meaning.
And those who don't turn their moments of suffering
into that kind of redemptive narrative,
they can really shrivel.
But I find most people,
those moments of suffering,
deepen them, spiritualize them,
and they, all that,
what I talked about,
that monster of self-regard,
it sort of crashes through the ego.
The people have been through deep suffering,
it sort of breaks the ego and they are less self-obsessed.
There's a guy named Henry Nowan who I read, and I'm not sure I agree with this.
He says when you're in a moment of suffering, your instinct is to get out.
But sometimes you need to stay in that moment of suffering to see what it has to teach you.
I'm not sure about that.
I would get out.
It's an idea.
Next question.
You mentioned that you're a cultural determinist.
And so, right, looking at, for example, North and South Carolina,
Korea or 20, 30 years ago, Hong Kong, China, it seems to me that there is a difference
combined with the fact that there is this, what's called the deep roots literature and economics,
which basically looks at, right, like how long has there been a state in this country?
And so from a cultural conservative perspective, that would be fairly pessimistic,
looking at economic development in places that do not have a long history of statehood.
So I was wondering if you could discuss that a little bit.
and then to what extent it might be possible to sort of create sustainable formal institutions in these places that do not have a long history of them a la la Paul Romer's charter cities?
Well, I've tried to be a cultural determinist, but not a total nut about it. And so I wouldn't want to deny the importance of institutions and economic laws and conditions. Obviously, the difference between North and South Korea is probably not primarily culture. It's probably institutional.
I will say it's very hard to, I think we've learned this at great national cost,
it's very hard to impose institutions that require high trust onto societies that have low trust.
And so I covered the Soviet Union and the decline in the Soviet Union and the emergence of Russia.
And we sent teams of economists with privatization plans and we emphasized the economic institutions they would need to thrive.
But we didn't appreciate the depth of lack of social terms.
trust. And so I think we sort of got that wrong and did a great disservice. And so I think it's hard to,
if you don't take that, especially levels of social trust in account, it's very hard to impose
one society's institutions onto another, which is why I've always been a little impatient with
should we be more like Denmark. I'm not sure we have that choice. A question from the iPad.
add, quote, the more we learn about our behavior, the larger a role culture, peer group, and
genes play in determining it. How does this impact or what does this leave for free will and
moral agency? Well, I mean, I do think our genes and our cultures are biases, but we still
make choices. And in part, one of the things we do was we have the power, you know, I'm like
everybody, you're going to talk to Danny Kahneman soon. And I'm a believer like everybody that
most, you know, 99% of our processing is unconscious. But that doesn't mean you can't control your
life. You can decide to join the Marine Corps. And then the Marine Corps will influence you in a zillion
ways that are most of which are unconscious. You can decide to get married and then that will
affect you in unconscious ways. You can decide what environment to put yourself into and then the
environmental influences will be very determinative. But making that,
decision of how to plant yourself, that to me strikes me as a free will decision.
And finally, I just fall back on the old saw, I forget who said this first, that everything
in the philosophical literature makes free will seem impossible, and everything about lived
experience makes it seem inevitable.
Next question.
In your first question, you alluded to a kind of a communal mentality in the 1950s, and an
argument could be made, I think, that maybe that was born out of the sense of mission from World
War II. And I'm wondering if there is hope and if we are optimistic, if something short of war,
what kind of crisis, or do you foresee something or is it an anti-Trump movement that could
bring that kind of sense of communal ambition or collectivism and goodwill and love together?
If we got invaded by Canada, I think that would do like not even all of Canada, just
part of Canada, the weaker part. You know, I do think there are times where cultures have turned
around and without war. The two examples that I know most about are Britain between 1830 and 1848
and America, as I mentioned, between 1890 and 1910, say. And in both those cases, there was a religious
revival first, which made everybody much more communal, then there was a civic revival, which I
described, and then there was a political revival. It seems to me we're not going in that order.
We're going, I think we are genuinely having a civic revival. I don't see, despite what I said
earlier, not really a lot of evidence of a religious revival, a lot of upsurge of institutions
and responses. And I'm hoping that'll lead to a political revival down the road. One of the
things that that 1950s culture, and I've got Jonathan Sachs on my mind, but I think he is a good metaphor.
The problem in that 1950s culture was that he calls it a guest house culture. The Protestant
establishment owned the country, and everybody else was just guests in it. And if you behaved
according to the laws of the Protestant establishment, they would let you in. But there wasn't
really ownership. And that became, and the reason there were so many tight communities in
in Chicago, say, in African-American neighborhoods, Italian,
every other than Polish neighborhoods,
is because those people did not have access to Michigan Avenue.
And the community was in part caused by lack of opportunity.
And Sack says we'd smash that up for good reason
because we don't want to live in somebody else's house.
But then we went to what he calls a hotel culture
where we've all got our private room.
We don't really invest in the building.
We don't really know our neighbors.
And we're seeing the after effects of that, too.
I have just tremendous faith in humans' ability to solve their
problems. So I assume we'll find a way to create a much more communal organization, but we're not
going to go back to the 1950s. In Airbnb culture then, did I take you that metaphor? Like, we're on the
way? It bothers me. It bothers me that a lot of, I mean, it doesn't bother me, but a lot of the really
big social technologies are designed to make human relationships friction-free and temporary.
Airbnb, Tinder, even Facebook to some degree.
And so there has to be some other way to solve the problem for long attention span.
And the one thing I'd love to do is demote how we think about high tech and especially social media.
I think our smartphones do a lot of great stuff for me.
I can find my way anywhere in the world now because of my smartphone.
And so that's a great tool.
but I don't expect it to lead to a new consciousness or solve my emotional problems.
I mean, my car is a great tool.
The wheel is a great tool.
Electricity is a great tool.
I don't expect it to spiritually deliver the society.
But somehow we got in the business of expecting tech to deliver a new consciousness and a new social order.
That's just asking too much of a tool.
And so I doubt it's going to come through some technology.
Next question.
Yeah.
Hi.
I have a question about foreign policy, which is a subject you write quite a lot about in your
in your columns. Earlier in this conversation, you mentioned that you're an epistemological,
you share with Edmund Burke epistemological modesty, and I'm wondering how you square that
with being a Reaganite. It seems to me that in order to run a successful foreign policy
of the sort that America wants to run, that you have to know quite a lot about the world.
And how can you know enough?
Yeah, well, I think I would say Reaganite, and then I'll get to Iraq in a second.
I think the secret of Reaganism was understanding the planned economies were probably going to be doomed.
And he understood that better than most other people for probably for the right epistemological reasons.
I mean, he wouldn't use the word probably.
But having that confidence that planning was going to fail was a right intuition.
and also having an ability to think in moral terms.
To me, communism, when he said evil empire, to me, communism really was an evil system.
That led to untold human misery.
And so basing one's intuitions on those things seem to me the right thing to do.
Now, the question then becomes, how much can you remake the rest of humanity?
And Reagan was pretty careful about how he committed troops and tried to remake other nations.
George W. Bush was less careful. And I remember I wrote a column in the run-up to the Iraq War, which I supported, how would Michael Oakeshott think about this problem? And Oakeshott is sort of Berkey, though he denied it, but it's same sort of cultural style. And it would, Okshaw would be like, you're going to screw this up. You do not understand that culture. And so I wrote 700 words on why Michael Okshaw would really oppose the Iraq War and that any conservative should. And then, unfortunately, I wrote,
another 150 on why Oakshot was wrong. And if I could take back that 150, I probably would.
There's a balance between, you know, you can't be paralyzed by your modesty in world affairs.
You have to act. And to me, to not try to plan too much, but just sort of be a gentle force for
democracy and human rights, that strikes me as the right posture, just constantly pushing
for these things and then hoping something good happens. You can't tell what effects you're
going to have. But if you push for the right things that are your values and you have
faith in them, then that strikes me as the right posture. And we've had two presidencies in a row
who didn't do that. Obama, it was interesting. Obama never saw a problem he didn't want to
transcend, except around foreign policy. He always thought you messed up by doing too much,
not by doing too little. That was his bias. Never do too much. And as a result, I think he did
too little. And then Donald Trump doesn't seem to believe in democracy promotion at all.
He has a more law of the jungle mentality about foreign policy.
So I still stick to Reaganism, that basic leaning toward democracy and dignity and progress.
Next question.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us.
I want to go back to your understandings and learnings from the Trump voter.
It's fascinating the age spectrum that it crosses.
And my 26-year-old son oftentimes looks at a younger Trump voter and says,
where did they get harmed by some of the past?
And I'm just curious, what is your sense about how do we move forward so that this Trump voter is better understood, is indeed heard, if that's indeed what's being sought after, and that the tangible results can be seen and felt and ultimately changed the dynamic here.
What that's created such dysfunction.
Yeah, well, I happen to know a lot of Trump voters with 18 to 24 age group.
and some of it is sort of rebellion against liberal professors,
but a lot of it is a pretty thought-through view of what constitutes community.
And I've had it argue to me many times that my view of community,
which is about pluralism and cosmopolitanism,
is attenuated and unrealistic,
and that they generally do argue,
and I've had it said many times to me,
that you just can't think,
there's such thing as diversity and community at the same time, that these two sit in much
greater tension than you're willing to acknowledge. And I'm willing to face the reality that diverse
societies tend to be attenuated societies with low social trust. And I'm willing to adopt the policies
that are consistent with that, and you're not. You know, I disagree with that argument,
but it's not an argument without merit. And so the young voters, I've interviewed or have known
just personally, they've got some philosophical background to what they're thinking.
From the iPad, what idea or cultural inspiration will be the motivating force for the next generation
in China? So I've been to China like twice or three times, so I don't know. I will say,
I spoke to Stuart Brand about a column for a column I wrote recently, and he's like one of these
zealigs of world history, where whatever trend is hot at the moment, he's there, whether it's hippies or
you know, Steve Jobs or the homebrew computer club. And he was, he just said if he urged me at my
amazingly young age compared to him to focus on biotech. He said, if I were young, that's where I'd be.
I'd just stick with biotech. And if that's true for any young American, maybe it's true for any
young Chinese. I don't really know China.
That is a great answer. Next question. Hi. I was curious to know what you would cite as your
most underrated book or article and what critical insight it provides us.
You can't get away from underrated versus overrated here.
The book I'm, I regret the most, but I, it was a failure as a book, but I, it's the one I go
back to the most is called on Paradise Drive. I assume you're talking about my books.
It's not another, yeah.
And it was an attempt to write a book about the spirit of America as exemplified by
sprawling suburbia.
But what I go back to is that I went through the literature of what makes America culture so spiritually electric.
And in the 19th century, there were magazines called The Democratic Review and Wall Women was writing and Melville.
And tracing the history of sort of the American, why do we move so often?
Why do we switch jobs so often?
Why do we marry and divorce so much?
Why do we kill each other so much?
there was a guy named Seymour Martin Lipsett who wrote a book on American exceptionalism.
And a lot of all these ways America is just an outlier.
For example, if you ask people, are you in control of your own life or is it mostly luck?
We're a super outlier in believing we control our own lives.
And so where did that come from?
And there was a great history of American literature going back to the historians of the
19th century, but especially in the 1950s, that addressed this question.
You know, I guess my short answer to it is that people came, Europeans at least came to these shores,
1600s, saw flocks of geese that were 45 minutes, it took them that long to take off,
forests stretching on forever.
They just saw material abundance.
And they had two thoughts.
One was that God's plan for humanity would be completed here.
And the second is they get really rich in the process.
And so that moral materialism that drives the country,
And there's a great writer who I really became beholden to in those writing that book named Sackfen Berkovich, who died probably about five years ago, who heard about the Puritan influence on American society.
And it was that two oars rowing for heaven, one very materialistic, one super spiritual.
And I do think that long cultural consistency in America continues to shape us in odd ways.
And I screwed up that book.
In the middle of writing of that book, I came across at Jacques Barzen, quote, that every book is possible to write.
right, except one trying to define the spirit of America.
And I was in the middle of, I was like three years into the project.
And I was like, ah, damn, he's right.
And so the book in some ways was a failure and it's sort of disorganized hodgepodge
mess.
But I go back to it more than any other book just because there's valuable quotes in there
and valuable stuff in there.
Next question.
I have a question about your relationship with Tyler.
How has he changed the way you look at going out to eat?
And when you go to lunch, does he ever let you pick the restaurant?
Well, the answer to the second is no.
And I have become Tyler's ethnic dining guide, which for listeners, is a guide to ethnic restaurants in most all around the D.C. area.
And basically, you want to, you want some Mozambiquean restaurant.
And so there's some strip mall out in seven corners or Bailey's Crossroads where the greatest Mozambique restaurant and,
the Western Hemisphere is located, and you go in there and you sit down and there
all these Mozambican sitting around, and they come up to you and they say, I didn't even
know you were from Mozambique. What are you doing here? It's actually, it's not only been an
education in cuisine, but an education in New America, what the future of America is going to
be like and is like. And I've I've spent many weekends with that ethnic dining guide finding one
restaurant after another that you would never have known because they look like all the other El Salvadoran
restaurants in the strip malls, but a couple of them happen to be really sensational.
Next question. So I wanted to ask you what you think about President Trump's job performance.
Do you approve or disapprove overall? And do you think the Democrats will take the House in the
midterms?
I know a lot about the future.
I mean, I would have to say they would simply because, I mean, if you run the raw numbers,
they need to pick up, what, 23, 24 seats, and that happens 50% of the time.
And when the president's approval is under 50, it happens 86% of the time.
So just by that raw number, you'd think they have a pretty good shot at take in the House.
I think it's much less likely they'll take a Senate just the way the geography works.
And because of the candidates, Republicans have chosen.
As for Trump approval, I have to say a number of things.
One, I think it's appalling.
You know, as a cultural determinist, I pay a lot of attention to norms and social fabric.
And I think he's pretty good at making friend-enemy distinctions and poking a red-hot wound into every divide we have in this country and making it worse.
And so I place a high value on social norms and cultures.
I have to say for my friends who are Trump supporters, they say, yeah,
I don't really pay attention to that stuff. I just look at the economy. I look at some of the things I like that he's done. And there are something, a lot of things I like that he's done. And the economy is not tanked. And I expected support to wane as the scandals mounted. It has not waned at all. You know, I happen to support the move that, say, we're speaking on the day. They moved the embassy in our embassy in Israel to the Jerusalem. I happen to think that was the right move. I mean, Jerusalem is clearly the capital of Israel, so we should recognize reality.
The tax cut, Tyler linked to something, I was against it because it seemed to me not the tax reform I always dreamed of.
And it seemed to me a way to basically take money out of blue pockets and put it into red pockets.
And I didn't want to see our tax reform, our tax system turned into a tribal weapon.
And I didn't think corporate tax cuts were the way to increase growth.
But you linked to a study, I don't know if you're allowed to talk on these things, but I'd like to know if that, or at least a story in Bloomberg, that's,
suggested that since the corporate tax cuts, that capital expenditures have risen 37% and stock
buybacks have only written 16%, which suggests that the corporate rate cuts are producing
more economic activities and a lot of economists suggest that they would. And so I'm open to the
fact that a lot of Trump policies may have surprisingly beneficial effects, but it'll be very hard
to persuade me they're good enough to justify the harm he's doing to our democracy.
With that, David, thank you very much.
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