Corporate Survivor with Mei Phing : Career Growth In The Corporate World - Ep114: 5 signs you have anxiety at work and 3 ways to deal.

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to the Corporate Survivor Podcast, where we talk about how to grow your career confidence, build your skills and value, increase your salary, and the many lessons we learn in the corporate world. For more career support, click on over to www.mayping.com. This is Mayping, your corporate leader turned career coach. I hope you enjoy, like and subscribe. Do you spend your days at work just hoping for Friday and feeling a lot of anxiety? In this episode, I'm going to share with you the five signs that you're experiencing anxiety at work. And if you stay to the end, I'm also going to share with you the three ways, practical ways where you can overcome these feelings of anxiety, frustration and nervousness

Starting point is 00:00:50 at your job. So without further ado, let's dive in. The first sign that you are struggling at work, think about it. Today is Sunday and tomorrow is Monday. You're already dreading and feeling so stressed out thinking that oh my god tomorrow is Monday, I need to go through this crazy cycle again and now on Sunday evening or Sunday night, you are finding yourself so stressed out, so really going crazy even though you have not even started your work week yet. It's not monday yet right and this is really one of the biggest signs that you are struggling with anxiety at work and is also affecting your personal life that you can't even enjoy your weekends now so that is the biggest sign of anxiety at work and you definitely need to do something about it number two you are a people pleaser or a recovering people pleaser who cannot say no at work and you are pretty much the yes man or the yes woman at work that maybe your boss really loves or your

Starting point is 00:01:53 colleague really loves that because you're always going to say yes regardless of whatever task whatever activity whatever project that is being assigned to you so while this is a situation or this is an attitude that makes everybody else happy with you but what's really important is to like what is it doing to you if it's creating a lot of anxiety because you feel like you are obligated to say yes you're obligated to take on all the work then this this is actually a really, really big sign that you are experiencing anxiety at work that potentially is being masked as a people pleaser or a yes man, but it's really creating a lot of havoc in your mental health. And that's really something that you really need to take note of before it becomes. On to the third reason why you might be struggling with anxiety at work is you are a perfectionist.

Starting point is 00:02:47 Now, I completely understand you because I was a perfectionist and I had recovered from being a perfectionist. But this idea of every single piece of work needs to be perfect. Every single thing that you do needs to be perfect. You need to present yourself perfectly in order to get endorsement or you know recognition from someone else that is going to really negatively affect your performance at work and really your mental clarity at work as well because if you're always expecting to be perfect then you are putting a lot lot, a lot of pressure on yourself to come across a certain way, to behave a certain way, then this will take away your focus point on what you need to deliver at work and the actual KPIs that you need to focus on. So just remember that being a

Starting point is 00:03:40 perfectionist, while it may help you to achieve good results in the short term, but it may be a little bit too tiring and may actually hamper you from going a lot further, faster in the long run. So it's really like a short-term results versus a long-term success where perfectionism may be something that could hold you back. Now on to the fourth reason why you are struggling with anxiety at work is you are a natural overthinker. If something happens, you probably think about it like 100 times, you probably reflect on it, think on it, talk about it, discuss about it and just like let it sit on your mind for months if not years. This is a really really big sign that you are an overthinker and it's really creating more frustration, creating

Starting point is 00:04:32 more anxiety, maybe potentially creating more anger and stress in your working days. You know your working days and it may even spill over to your life over the weekend as well. So the overthinking habit is I know it's not something that's really easy to get rid of but you should really understand how it could affect your mental health, emotional health at your workplace but at the same time also affecting your personal life as well. If you have experienced anxiety sign 1, 2, 3, 4 that I've mentioned just now, I am sure that you cannot also escape anxiety sign number 5 which is feeling like an imposter syndrome. Feeling like an imposter, experiencing imposter syndrome, all these sort of feelings

Starting point is 00:05:19 that you are not good enough, you don't deserve a seat at the table, you don't deserve that job title, you don't deserve that salary, somebody table you don't deserve that job title you don't deserve that salary somebody else is better than you somebody else is smarter than you somebody else is more accomplished than you just feeling like you're not good enough this is a very natural feeling and i think it happens a lot to top performers or any one of you who are very enthusiastic very ambitious and really want to do well at your job, just know that imposter syndrome is natural. It's okay.

Starting point is 00:05:50 But letting it eat into your self-confidence at work, eating into your self-confidence as a valuable professional, as a valuable 9 to 5 working professional who is ready to add value, who is ready to contribute, who has skills, expertise and knowledge, that is not going to be helpful throughout your career journey. So it's just something to really remind yourself that, hey, if I'm feeling imposter syndrome, then why? Why do you feel like an imposter? So all in all, regardless of which anxiety sign that you are feeling at work, I just want to tell you that there are ways that you can overcome these signs of anxiety,

Starting point is 00:06:35 signs of frustration, signs of stress as well. So now let me share with you the three ways that you can overcome these anxieties at work. Number one, remembering that your career is a marathon, it's not a sprint. You are not just gonna work for one, three, five years. You're talking about like 10, 20 if not 30 years. So if you are feeling this sort of feelings right now, it's not gonna easily go away. It's gonna probably like prolong for a long period of time. So in order to manage and reset your mindset, what you want to think about is, okay, how am I making progress every day?

Starting point is 00:07:14 Am I taking baby steps? And am I improving one step at a time to get towards my career goal? If you're doing that, great. Give yourself a pat on the back. Give yourself a pat on the back give yourself a pat on the back and say great job i'm progressing today i'm taking one step closer to where i want to get to and that is something worth celebrating because you are taking action in the right direction and eventually you are going to get there without requiring the anxiety, without requiring the stress and without requiring the frustration. Now on to the next step on how you can overcome anxiety at work is separating feelings

Starting point is 00:07:53 from what you can do about the feelings. Now separating the feelings of what you're feeling right now, processing the emotions, the negative emotions the anxiety the frustration the imposter syndrome and all those things that's one side but the other part i want you to think about is how what can you do about these feelings now one of my favorite quotes is confidence comes from competence a lot of negative feelings actually comes from the lack of confidence or rather the lack of skill set that you may need to be successful at this job. So if you want to take action to improve your self-confidence, improve your self-belief and really eliminating imposter syndrome and any negative emotions that come to it, that you really want to focus on upskilling your weakest skills and I know this is 100% possible

Starting point is 00:08:46 because I work with a lot of clients in the 9 to 5 corporate world where either in my one-on-one coaching or even in my signature program the corporate survivor where we go through the step-by-step on upskilling so that they can also feel confident on the value that they can bring at the workplace so it's 100% possible but it really starts from separating the emotions and focusing on what you can do to upskill yourself so that you feel that inner confidence that say, yep, I know I can do it because I have upskilled myself to be able to do it with full confidence. So that's really what you need to do if you want to like once and for all get rid of all

Starting point is 00:09:29 the negative emotions relating to your work performance. And on to the third tip on how to overcome anxiety, frustration. For you people pleasers out there is learning how to set boundaries between your work life as well as personal life. Office hours versus home rest hours. Now a lot of people actually struggle with setting boundaries because they don't know how and honestly a lot of motivation may not really be the most helpful thing but I want to give you some really tangible tips on how you can do that. And it all starts from learning how to communicate with your boss, your team leader or your team members on what is the workload that is expected and by when certain things are needed. So by aligning expectations up front, ensuring that you are providing progress updates, this will really better set the expectation as well as the boundaries of what needs to be submitted by when and also when can somebody call you so

Starting point is 00:10:32 that you can actually have that work-life balance that you really want because this is really, really important for your mental health, emotional health, as well as physical health as well. Having that boundary between work and life so that you have some time to focus on what's important to you in your life so we have talked about the many signs to recognize anxiety at work and more importantly what you can do to overcome them so tell me which one you find most relevant to you which one you find resonated with you the most, drop me a comment below or drop me a message on LinkedIn so that I know as

Starting point is 00:11:09 well and I hope you enjoy this special episode and I'll see you in the next one. Bye!

Corporate Survivor with Mei Phing : Career Growth In The Corporate World - Ep114: 5 signs you have anxiety at work and 3 ways to deal.

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