Corporate Survivor with Mei Phing : Career Growth In The Corporate World - Ep18: Signs you’re an extrovert.

Episode Date: April 1, 2020

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Welcome to the Corporate Survivor Podcast, where we talk about how to grow your career confidence, build your skills and value, increase your salary, and the many lessons we learn in the corporate world. For more career support, click on over to www.mayping.com. This is Mayping, your corporate leader turned career coach. I hope you enjoy, like and subscribe. In today's podcast, I want to talk about extroverts, specifically signs that you are unmistakably an extrovert. This is a very interesting topic for me

because I know a lot of extroverts in my personal life, in my professional network, the people I talk to on a daily basis. And I think sometimes when we think of extroverts, we tend to label them as loud and noisy. But there's so much more to this personality type that is very interesting that is worth exploring. So that's what we're going to do on this podcast today. Hi, if this is the first time you're joining me on this podcast, I am running a five-day, five-part extrovert series. So do join me here from Monday to Friday's podcast release on 7 a.m. Singapore and Malaysia time.

All right, so let's get back to extroverts. So how do you know if you are an extrovert? And for those of you listening who think that you are not, then this is also a very good exercise to identify the extroverts in your life so that you can better understand their world because it's all about understanding each other. It's all about connecting as well as communicating. All right, so let's get started with some of the key characteristics of an extrovert. Number one, you love to network. You join a lot of social events, you're always up for meetups, you're always at parties, and in those sort of networking events,

you are always the one who will be introducing yourself to the room. So always that very proactive, enthusiastic and chirpy personality that really wants to get to know someone else. In fact, one of the biggest things that people are really afraid of is public speaking. And fortunately for you, you're not really afraid of public speaking because an opportunity to speak to people is something that is really awesome. What is interesting is that on the flip side, you actually hate being on your own. It feels lonely, it feels boring. And boring is the word that i hear a lot from my friends so what they normally like to do is that on weekends they will wake up extremely early

and just fill up their day with all sorts of things to to do and not just the things it's really about the people that they want to meet and they really make time and have lots of catch-ups that they really enjoy. Aside from that, extroverts love to surround themselves with people. So they have this whole motto around the more the merrier. So if you're an extrovert, let me know if this is something that really resonates with you. So they like to spend time with friends. And if you have a home, as an extrovert, you would like your friends to visit your home and have dinner parties,

nice dinners, catch-ups, lunch, weekend hangouts. So that's something that you would enjoy. The other thing that's also very interesting, i think happens a lot in at work is that when something bothers you as an extrovert you have to talk about it so you would want to approach the other person and really talk it out hash it out right so you believe that all problems can be resolved if we just really talk about it. So it's a very good initiative, right, to take the first step, to reach out, to talk. But there's something that's also quite interesting, that is the fact that you need to find the right time. There's a right time to talk about certain issues, and i think as an extrovert it's just something to be

mindful of but more on that in my other days other days um podcast the other bit about you as an extrovert and this is also something that you need to be mindful of is you often speak before you think. So an extrovert thinks as they speak. So there are some also danger in that because you might end up saying something that you didn't intend and it didn't translate well to the other person that you're talking to. And it could be a danger zone, especially in a professional environment whereby reputation is very highly relished. And if you are some sort of an oversharer and you speak so quickly before really getting clear on the message that you want to deliver,

what you want someone to get out of it, it could be detrimental. So that's a bit of a food for thought. Aside from that, silence makes you very uncomfortable. So how you compensate for that is to have chitty chatter, to speak to more people, to reach out to different people. So it's likely on the phone, phone chat and whatnot so i also have friends when i ask them what do they like to do on the weekends and this distinction is very clear so if you speak to an extrovert they will tell you how they're looking forward to go out right to

watch their friends maybe instagram stories and all sorts of other things. So they will always want to interact with people and that's really the beauty and the lively part of an extrovert. So if you have an extrovert friend, it's always very exciting. It's always about adventures. They have all these places that they want to go, these places that they want to meet. And I think it does brighten up and make your life more colorful when you

are spending more time with them. The other bit that is also very interesting about extroverts is that they really consider people that they have just met as friends. There is a very genuine part of them that wants to connect with people and wants to make friends and build the connection and build the rapport. And I think as their personality trait goes, they are very comfortable reaching out to different people and have conversations, say hi.

They'll always be one of those who will come up to you and make you feel very welcome. And I think that is something that is really appreciated. Aside from that, there's also this one other part, which could also be a potential danger zone, is that you tend to seek external validation because you want to be liked by people. Because all your life you're surrounded by people, hence people's views and opinions of you does have its weight.

So really ask yourself and think about the last time you were upset because you feel like people didn't value you. People didn't give you the kudos that you were expecting or someone didn't say thank you you changed my life. And really ask yourself how how often is this happening that's when you know that yes every i believe that every personality trait we can leverage for success but what is even more important is to understand which part of your personality trait, specifically here, being an extrovert, really holds you back. So earlier I talked a little bit about a couple of points that is worth taking note. And if this is the first time you gain that self-awareness, then great. Today is the day that you start the next chapter of your life because self-awareness

is also something that doesn't come as naturally to an extrovert because like i said extroverts think when they speak so so that process doesn't doesn't happen um as deep deeply as an introvert would but it doesn't mean that you can't practice that. I think it's all about getting aware that, okay, this is something that is worth doing and it can really help me in my life, I mean professional life and even in your personal life, to enable you to have much better relationships with people. So one of my clients also came to me and said, you know, I'm always the person that says hi to everyone,

but I struggle to develop a very genuine and deep relationship. Or I guess that's how he felt. So the question really is this, what does a deep relationship mean to you because for a lot of extroverts everybody is their friend right so if everybody is your friend and you know we are able to invest our time and effort in different relationships in our life but we can't possibly give the same for the hundreds and potentially thousands of people that you know. So it's really up to you to then define what are the more important relationships for you.

And more importantly, when you communicate, how do you come across to the other person? Because communication is a two-way street. So it's really, really critical to recognize that. So I also want to share with you guys that next week i will be running a monday to friday extrovert series so do join me and any questions that you have please let me know on my social media till next time bye