Corporate Survivor with Mei Phing : Career Growth In The Corporate World - Ep197: Bad habits I’m getting rid of before 2024. Part 2.

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to the Corporate Survivor Podcast, where we talk about how to grow your career confidence, build your skills and value, increase your salary, and the many lessons we learn in the corporate world. For more career support, click on over to www.mayping.com. This is Mayping, your corporate leader turned career coach. I hope you enjoy, like and subscribe. Many people tell me, Mei Ping, you don't seem like a lazy person. My problem is that like, if I don't have clarity, then I'm like, what's the point? Right?

Starting point is 00:00:36 And when I have this mindset of like, what's the point? Then that means Mei Ping is going to take zero action because I'm like, I cannot see how that's going to like more or less turn out or I can't really see that progression. The challenge for me this year is I'm not as convicted to one particular type of content that I like to create because I like to share many things, right? I don't want to just talk about job search because job search is not everything. I don't want to just talk about like how we all hate our bosses because that's not always the point as well.

Starting point is 00:01:04 But I also don't want to only talk about personal branding because that's just a small part of what makes a successful career. In a way, it kind of feels like there is this, again, you're kind of back to a bit of that personal limitation habit that I talked about earlier. And this is really the kind of like the overflow of that. And once, you know, I feel like I'm not fully convicted to a particular strategy then you know I procrastinate so I'm a person who is like obsessed on nothing I think the clarity really really helps and I do think that having the realization that I've actually been putting in like personal labels and personal definitions on like what I can do and what I could do in the future has been really stopping me from I guess communicating and like conveying the things

Starting point is 00:01:46 that I really want to share with you maybe in a more Maypings way and this is something that I am actually doing in my career programs and you know my mentoring calls with my clients and students but I feel like it's not really projecting online and yeah I mean you know if you're watching this episode on YouTube you know just drop a comment and let me know you know what kind of episodes do you want to hear about you know how do you find how do you find the videos i guess because i've always felt that i'm a really boring person but i was talking to some friends that like maybe you're not boring at all i'm like really because i've always seen myself as a boring person but anyway the bad habit of procrastination for me at least at least for me personally kind of comes from that place of like

Starting point is 00:02:22 hmm not really sure if this is something that I want to go all the way. So this is something that I definitely want to get rid of this year because I do think that having that step by step, even if I can't see the full picture, but if this is something that, hey, ties in with the mission of me helping 9-5 professionals to feel less stuck at work, feel calmer, feel more in control, feel like, you know, they can enjoy work-life balance and still have time with their friends and family while actually able to do their work without feeling too much stress and i think that's the mission right that's the mission so i guess anything that i do in terms of like content like events collabs and everything else podcast that

Starting point is 00:02:59 aligns with that i think that that is already a motivation so that's definitely a big mindset shift that i'm taking on for the next year as well. Moving on to the habit that I really want to get rid of before the year end and that is perfectionism. I have perfectionist habits. I won't say it's very severe but I definitely do have it. I guess not just like me as a person but I would say that you know over the past 10 years for me working in corporate, I've always been in the auditing, accounting, consulting space and then banking space so it's like working with like regulators and i've worked with some of the top regulators in the us uk hong kong and singapore and the nature of my work right as the former head of governance and control at standard charter

Starting point is 00:03:38 bank managing regulatory portfolios working with people from over 40 countries the challenge with having that kind of role is that i need to be very, very precise and very detailed and very focused on the messaging and the positioning of every single thing that I do every single day. And that actually makes me really good at my job. I won't say be perfect at it, but to be as precise as possible, which is maybe like a different way of like looking at perfectionism and I think because I've truly truly mastered that skill what eventually happened was that it kind of trickled back into my life as well your work and life is like a circle if your certain way in your daily life is gonna impact how you behave at work but for me this is kind of the other way around in which my work required the high level of precision particularly in you know storytelling positioning

Starting point is 00:04:24 and like reporting and all those things and presentations, high level presentations. It kind of gradually trickled down into my personal life. And even I would say up to today, I do have a certain level of like wanting things to look good, wanting things to be precise, wanting things to be valuable. And that shows in the career programs that I have, the mentoring calls, the workshops, like I really want it to go well. There is that level of like perfectionism for sure. This bad habit of perfectionism has gradually led into procrastination, which is the previous bad habit that I talked about. So it's kind of like turning into this circle, but it's not a good circle because personal limitations plus procrastination plus perfectionism is like not a good, it's not a winning strategy. This trifecta of the personal

Starting point is 00:05:02 limitations and procrastination and perfectionism is definitely once I decide to move past it, then they all can be resolved at one time. That's why that's something that I definitely want to focus on next year. It's more like, okay, I know I want my things to be high quality. Of course, I want my career program to be high quality.

Starting point is 00:05:19 I want my mentoring calls to be great. I want my clients and students to get results, see results, believe in themselves, knowing that they have the power, they can do anything, they can feel in control to manage any career, work or jobless situation. That's what I want. For me, what's really, really important is kind of like remember back the mission and the mission is to empower my clients and students who are in 9-5 jobs because I've been there and they can definitely level up as well. Moving on to the vet habit that I want to get rid of this year

Starting point is 00:05:46 is keeper pleasing. I'm a person that I'm very clear on many things, but there is that one thing I find it very hard to do and that's actually saying no. It's a challenge many, many people have and if you have people pleasing tendencies and you feel like you always want to say yes, you cannot say no,

Starting point is 00:06:02 you can definitely drop it in the comments if you're watching on YouTube. I really love to hear your experiences as well. In the past, when I was working in corporate, I've kind of like designed a certain structure and system to really manage the clarity of work and saying no. So that actually is going really well. And in fact, some of the clients in my programs

Starting point is 00:06:19 actually told me that teaching them how to set boundaries at the workplace has actually helped them a lot. And one of my students even told me that she's actually a part-time yoga teacher so she really enjoys her 9-5 career but she's also passionate about yoga so she was telling me the other day that using the lessons in my career program she was actually able to build in certain boundaries even for her part-time job as a yoga teacher which is which is really really great my challenge right now is more like okay right mayping has devised the perfect system and framework to apply boundaries to deal with like i guess people pleasing in the

Starting point is 00:06:50 corporate environment but right now particularly for me like for myself i'm not in a corporate environment so i'm a career coach right i create my share tips online i make podcast episodes i share my thoughts on social media and everything else and most of the time you know i get a lot of messages from people asking for advice and asking most of the time you know I get a lot of messages from people asking for advice and asking for collabs and you know just like asking for like a lot of information since I started doing career coaching career mentoring since year 2020 it's been a challenge for me for a very long time because I feel like I want to say yes but I think that's what I've realized this year is that it's my tendency of being a people pleaser because I feel like I always have to say yes.

Starting point is 00:07:26 But I think what kind of like woke me up this year is more like, okay, it's not that I don't want to help people, but I've also gradually observed the people in which I said yes to and actually how they react towards it. And based on my observation, interestingly, sometimes people kind of take your yes for granted. If you get what I'm trying to say. Sometimes I do feel like if we say no, we feel bad mean i think that's just human nature right we want to be

Starting point is 00:07:49 helpful we want to be kind but i probably would challenge you to think about to also consider like how the other people who are taking your kindness and how they are reacting to it because i can tell you that based on my personal experience this year from all these hundreds of people who are like asking me for collabs and like asking me to give this give that do this do that for them many of them actually don't come back or like kind of like don't prioritize that it's just i guess they are very pushy when they need to be and you know when they kind of like got something or if you're really not going to give it to them or whatever it is they just go m.i.a it kind of gave me this realization of like oh okay if I don't

Starting point is 00:08:26 prioritize myself if I don't prioritize what I focus on then how can I achieve my mission of like helping more 9-5 professionals to grow their careers in the corporate world right so if I end up doing everything I end up saying yes to everything like how is that helping me build a better program for clients in my career course? How do I make sure that I can build even better, refreshed content for the lessons in my career course, to share better insights, to train my clients, to improve their communication skills, to improve their corporate world career thinking skills and career planning skills? All these things are top priorities for me. And if I say yes to everyone else then what does that leave me that would leave

Starting point is 00:09:06 me tired that would leave me unfocused that would leave me really stressed out really burnt out and in the end nobody wins this doesn't make sense so like why am I doing it that's why I'm sharing with you candidly in this episode and I hope that you can also keep me accountable and I hope that you know maybe in the next 12 months when we come back to the this time of the year again right we can share with each other what are some of the bad habits that you have managed to get rid of and you're also in the process of getting rid of and I also hope also giving you a bit of an inspiration to kind of look into what are some of the bad habits that are holding you back and really stopping you from moving forward because I know that in our society nowadays we just want to do do do do do but I've always found it really really valuable to just think about what is stopping me because if

Starting point is 00:09:50 something is stopping me then like it doesn't matter how fast I go because I'm carrying this like huge baggage that's holding me back so I also do believe that there are many things that actually in our head that's even more difficult to overcome and that's why i want to share candidly reflect on it and really using this chance to reset and to actually get rid of the bad habits so i don't bring them on into the next year and hopefully into my future as well this podcast episode is that accountability episode and i hope that i can give you an update over the next year as to how i'm doing and the next episode as to how I'm doing. And the next episode, I'm going to share with you some of the things that I personally did

Starting point is 00:10:28 to speed up my career so that I can make sure that the next 12 months of hard work that I'm going to put in at my job and my career, is this going to be worth it? Because I'm applying it strategically. If you enjoyed these episodes, make sure that you like, subscribe and follow this podcast. And I will see you soon.

Corporate Survivor with Mei Phing : Career Growth In The Corporate World - Ep197: Bad habits I’m getting rid of before 2024. Part 2.

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