Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 03 Embarrassing

Episode Date: January 15, 2020

Episode 3 of Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew is a fun one. Today we walk you guys through some of our most embarrassing moments together that we've never shared before. Though it all, we've learned that nobody is perfect and at the end of the day, we're all human :) We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode & if you've ever been embarrassed in front of your significant other.  If you haven't yet, please rate and subscribe to the show to hear more! And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format - we might just choose yours! Email us at [e-mail]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This is kind of like a special time for Sean Andrew. Really? Welcome back to the show, guys. Good to have you back. Welcome to Couple Things. With Sean and Andrew. A show about couples and all things. All Things relationships, specifically, babe.

Yes. um today we are going to be talking about some of our most embarrassing moments yeah i as i was writing them out i don't know if they're more so embarrassing as they are just like awkward huh so you guys you guys tell us it's like embarrassing or are these just awkward we were not a smooth couple you kind of put together this show and so i'm sure that you made it embarrassing for one of us no it's both of us equally um if you guys haven't before we jump in please give this show a rating and subscribe to it on whatever platform you're listening to uh thank you for listening to it thank you for taking time out

of your day to uh to come here and hang out with us hope you're having an awesome one but where do we start babe um i thought we would just jump right in so the first like awkward embarrassing story of ours is kind of a long story but it's how we first met if you remember this okay So to give you guys a little bit of background, you know, on Andrew and I, when I went to the London Olympics in 2012, I was not competing, I was working. I had an ex-boyfriend who we were on and off, and it just wasn't, he wasn't the person. Like, we just didn't work. We were fire and.

Thank the Lord. What is it? Fire and water. I guess I wouldn't be sitting here. Oil and water. We just didn't mix. Oil and water. But he had like this rule that I was not allowed to go see Taylor Finney at the Olympics, who was kind of an ex-boyfriend of mine, but really not, like, not really.

We're just really good friends. But I really wanted to support him at the Olympics. And I really want to go to his race. And it was kind of like the last straw for me with this ex-boyfriend. And I was like, you know what? Kind of like, F you a little bit. I'm going to go support my friends. it's the olympics uh little explanation on that shan does have a spicy feisty side so the f u does come out

from time to time but it's only like e f f f f f f i don't go farther than that um or it's like frick frick you every once in a while um okay so i go to taylor fennie's race which is USA cycling and my ex-boyfriend's pissed and he's just like whatever which is unhealthy relationship right there and I'm really excited because this is a really good friend of mine we went on a date when I was 16 but like other than that we're close friends and it was this huge moment for him I get to his race and I'm sitting there with his teammate named Guy East and Guy is telling me all about USA cycling we're talking for hours because cycle like cycling go on forever yeah forever and not the greatest spectator sport but at the end of this race where

i'm like congratulating taylor and everyone and guy comes up to me and he's like you know what you you should really meet my younger brother i think you would be great for him and i was like okay this is weird and he's like his name's and or east just look him up whatever and that's kind of how we parted ways we i ran into guy a couple more times over the olympics and he's like you really should meet my younger brother he just kept pushing it fast forward i fly back to the united states i'm on dancing with the stars i'm living in los angeles my ex is still trying to come in and out of the picture really unhealthy relationship you let him but that's a i know maybe we should talk about we should definitely talk about that exes at some point yeah let us know if you guys want

to see that show what are you looking at our dog i thought it was a deer um i thought it was dears i thought of those tears um okay so i'm in l.a and my ex does something really stupid at some point at whatever it's was very dramatic and i remember sitting in my apartment in l.A. with one of my friends and we're chugging wine yes i was 20 chugging wine yeah not a good way to start the night no and drank a lot of it was definitely tipsy and I do not support underage drinking by the way that was a very dumb thing for me to do don't ever do it kids and I remember my friend saying if you could go on a date with anyone right now who would it be and now it's like it's like midnight 1 a.m or midnight it's midnight and me and my tipsy stay I'm like

thinking and I was like, huh, well, how about this Andrew East guy that Guy East kept talking about? And I think I reached out to you on Twitter. And over Twitter, I slid into your DMs and I was like, all I direct messaged you was come to L.A. question mark. And that was it. You were hammered at this point. Hammered. And then I went to bed. Check this out, though. First of all, I had created a Twitter. I was not on social media before my brother met Sean. And then he met Sean and I was like, I have to have some way to contact this chick.

So I created a Twitter account. And you were, I don't think you were my first tweet because I couldn't be, you know, that needy. So you had like put a few in there. Yeah. So that's embarrassing, I guess. But the night she texted me when all this wine chugging was happening. which he was not aware of was my birthday and so I'm literally going to bed after you know like when you're younger I feel like you read into a lot of things and you were the last person to text me on

my birthday you text me like 1158 okay and you said come to L.A. question mark so I'm like I haven't heard from Sean in weeks we had text we had texted like a couple times I think we did one phone call okay so I had your number by then yeah but um but I was like she's into me and uh and so i woke up and we i was playing football as in september but we had a bye week that week before uh before our next game and so i called my dad up and i was like that sean just invited me to la i probably said that sean johnson just invited me to that yeah and if you i was super pumped if you were to meet his dad and his mom very conservative very cautious and plate slow absolutely so like this would be this is a huge thing so I call my dad

I talked to him I'm sitting in my class my civil engineering class and he texts me he's like I just bought you a flight to L.A. go out there so I get this text I get my ticket and I see that it's like an hour and a half from that point and so I literally leave class go pack a backpack and jump on this flight to LA, just like, not knowing what I'm getting into, but the backup plan was, fortunately, my brother had a bike race in Los Angeles, and so I was like, look, this doesn't work out. At least I can go hang out with Guy. So we get out there. I don't think we've talked about this ever. I was wearing my nicest outfit that I owned, okay, which was a pair of stretchy like outdoor adventure shorts from north face do you remember those

khaki colored with a button down uh shirt ever crummy shirt with sparrie's laughing everybody go yeah ha ha ha have a good time just enjoy yourselves huh my expense no so i you're so cute i have to change into that fancy outfit literally behind a bush at a best western i like walked out of the airport found this hotel i couldn't go in obviously so i like changed it in the bushes not kosher the bad thing about those shorts this is one of the most embarrassing things is um as i mentioned there were stretchy adventure shorts they're my favorite but the whole night i was like sitting like this and i realized sitting down scrunched up i realized after the night's over like that's scrunchy parts kind of accentuating not not the best part of my body you know what i'm

Same. Did you, you never noticed? You never looked or? I don't remember, I don't recall sitting there looking at your crotch. Okay, good. Because if you did, you would have saw it too much probably. I mean, that could have been a good thing. I don't know. Your local Benjamin Moore retailer is more than a paint expert. There's someone with paint in their soul. A six cents honed over decades. And if you have a question about paint, it's almost as if they can read your mind. I sense you need a two-inch angle brush for the trim in your family room. Regal selected an eggshell finish and directions to the post office. Benjamin Moore paint is only sold at locally owned stores. Benjamin Moore, see the love. I don't know about that. Not I'm embarrassed.

This is embarrassing. Um, hold on. I have to back up a second because we're leaving out my side a little bit of waking up the next morning after having been drunk and texting Andrew and saying come to L.A. question mark. And I wake up at maybe 9 a.m. 10 a.m. And all I get is a text message back saying, on my way. And I think I crats my pants. I was like what first what have I done second who is this guy who just gets a random text message at midnight saying fly across the country and he does it big time players yeah I freaked out I freaked out and then on top of that you got the X situation where I'm like well this is awkward now like what what do I do you tried to ghost us so we go to L. A guy picks me up in his car, and we texted Sean, and she was not responding. We were like, what a chotch.

You invited us out here, and now you're not going to freaking respond. I was freaking out. I was also in dress, like a dress rehearsal for Dancing with the Stars with Derek Huff all day, like all day. And I actually remember that day it running over because of some drama that had happened with the show. and we had to redo our number, and it was just a lot. I do remember that. And I remember thinking to myself, seeing your text message of, let's meet up. I remember thinking, like, I do not have the energy for this.

Well, let me ask you what's more important. Is it more important to win dancing with the stars or meet your potential future husband? I mean. Or meet your actual future husband. I didn't win dancing to the stars. So it was obviously to meet my future husband. That's right. Runner up's pretty dang good.

So I ghosted you guys like all. day, all day. And then I finally got out of dress rehearsal. I think it was like 5 o'clock. And I was like, okay, let's meet up. And we met up at the Grove in Los Angeles. And do you want to take it from there? We had a great night.

We did. As you mentioned, you were underage drinking. I didn't do a single bad thing it felt like in my life until I met Sean. And then I just go on this. You didn't do anything. that it's an it's an overstatement okay but I had my first alcohol that night it was my

my 21st birthday is my I had my first alcohol my first alcohol my first alcohol my first drink I had my first drink Sean was trying to get me hammered I guess what goes around comes around but I was so I guess I'm not a trusting person

maybe for I should probably have some therapy for that just get them really well here was my train of thought that night so you show up you've already sketched me out because you brought a plane ticket from a girl who basically booty texted you at midnight from across the country and you flew out to meet her desperate um you booty texted me i'm not gonna take all the heat on this fine they can give it back um so i'm a little bit skeptical and then you show up and you're like it's my 21st birthday today and one i've never had a drink before i'm like well you just flew across the country for a girl so i feel like that doesn't really add up I don't know and then you're like

telling me you're a college football player and I'd been around college football players before and I guess I stereotyped them to being partiers and I'm like how have you never had a drink before and I felt like a goody two shoes and I had had a drink before and I was just like this this dude

nothing's out of yet this dude and then my friend who is with us who was she was 23 she was like buying you drinks for me not for me but like like giving you drinks from me pretty much and you were pounding drinks and not getting drunk and I was like this doesn't add up either just to clarify that I was hammered pretty much after the first drink I think I just am a good actor but the most embarrassing part

about this story is what happened after so it was actually a really fun night we tried out at the Grove in L.A. There's like just essentially it's like a strip mall of different restaurants. And so we bounce around like four or five different restaurants. We had crapes. It was fun. Sean didn't laugh the entire night. I don't think you smiled. You probably said a total of like three words as well. Pretty cold. I do. Well, let me explain that a little bit because I've we've talked about this before. I think a big part of where I was in life was I just wasn't trusting people. And I had kind of, especially with Dance with Stars and with the Olympics, I had so many people for a variety of reasons coming at me with, I guess, like, just bad intentions or hidden motives.

And so for me, it was always this, let's figure out what you actually want kind of game. And so with you, you were just like, you showed up and you're like, oh, so sweet. and you're like, can I pray before dinner, which was like the sweetest thing ever and something that I've always wanted and haven't had in like a partner or a boyfriend and then you're so innocent and saying like, I've never had a drink before.

And then it was just like, you were just too good to be true. I was like, how is any of this real? I was trying to figure out your motive. Or not trusting? That's really interesting. That's not trusting myself. It's a really interesting thing.

They're like, to like your previous scars can can then almost scare you away from exactly what it is you want absolutely and then i also remember thinking like he's way too good for me like there's there's no chance i'm too scarred with my adventure shorts and everything anyways keep going so we had a fun night and no i didn't smile like the whole night because i was just like who is this guy i'm creeped out i don't know what to do is he authentic is he real whatever we ended the night at uh burger joint and just in casual conversation, the casual conversation, the girls were like, oh, so where are you guys staying tonight? My brother and I look at each other and we're like, actually, we don't have

a place. We're just going to sleep in our car, which is like, that was the life I was living. I literally had one shirt in my closet. But knowing you now, I get that it was true, but knowing where I was back then, I was like, oh, here's his motive. That's so interesting to me. He's trying to come back to our place. Are there people out there that exist that are like that manipulative? Yes. Like stagey? Yes.

That freaks me out. That freaks me out. I have met them. I've gone on dates with them. Yes. They like would construct. That's crazy to me. I have literally dated people before who like, they know exactly what to say, how to say it to get

exactly what they want. And it's terrifying. But so he's like, oh, we're sleeping in our car. And then I try to be a nice person, but I'm trying to be a nice person, but I'll also a dumb 20-year-old, which 20-year-olds don't ever do this. I was like, do you guys want to stay at our apartment? You guys had a little pow-wow. You're like, oh, we got to, the girls got to go to the bathroom.

Yeah. But we had a second bedroom, and it was a two-story apartment. We're like, okay, like, we can sleep together and they can take the guest bedroom, whatever. But we felt kind of obligated, but again, no obligation was needed, whatever. So we come back and we're like, you guys can stay our apartment. and like without even a split second to think they're like okay sure thanks i was like i don't think you're expecting us to say yes but it was very nice of you it was i'm sorry for all the things in the past that have made us honestly that's a pretty big move for you then by pretty much a stranger into the house

yeah maybe i had i think i think i generally over trust people yes i don't feel like there's manipulative people out there i don't want to believe that there are and you have had the experiences that have trained you to almost expect that. So the moral of that embarrassing story is, one, take your shot if you got it. Learn that from your boy. Yes. Two, don't underage drink. Don't underage drink.

You might potentially meet your spouse. And don't invite random guys back to your apartment. No. Even though I do have to finish that story. It was so sweet. We walked back to the house. I slept in the upstairs. bedroom with my friend Shannon we like locked the door and put like a chair in front of it because

we weren't sure if you guys were acts murderers you guys slept downstairs plot twist we were okay you guys slept downstairs and then by the time we woke up which we woke up early too it was like 6 a.m you guys had like made the bed cleaned everything up and then left we had a whiteboard and it was like had so much fun would love um to hike to the top of runyon canyon at sunset set tonight we'll bring wine and I was like that's the sweetest thing ever that's the night I fell in love you do you know that really we were going to bed even though I was such a and Sean literally was so cold and I was like I'm done with this chick like I can't make her laugh I'm out but I said one thing I think I was like can I read you a a what you said I think I was like

can I read you a what do you call a bedtime story or can I sing you a lullaby like before we go bet which is so cheesy that's the best type of game i got right that's it that is the peak that's i have zero game by the way but you i think you thought it was so dumb and ridiculous you like kind of snuck a smile and i was like oh my that girl is beautiful but i think one other takeaway that's interesting is like to realize there's a lot of baggage a lot of baggage that can almost the context of where people have come from and how that affects where you are that's pretty interesting because I don't even know yeah it's crazy and I mean we've even had conversations after we were married about like how I acted when we were dating and I mean for another podcast

past really like bring baggage to new relationships and because of my baggage I true even though I knew you loved me and like wanted to marry me and had married me I remember during the engagement process feeling like my baggage made me like not good enough for you to marry even though I knew you wanted to it was weird it's just crazy how baggage can do that you're so much more complex than I am not really I feel like that's a good place to stop Yeah, let's take a break. Oh, this is it, the day you finally ask for that big promotion. You're in front of your mirror with your Starbucks coffee.

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I was texting you after that. And for a short while, like a couple days after you would respond. And then slowly you stopped responding. And we talked about this on Will Compton's podcast. but there came a time where I was texting Sean like seven or eight times consecutively without her responding for a period of like you ghosted me for nine months you like didn't respond to me to the point where I was like all right this is the eighth text I've sent with no response if I send this and she doesn't respond it's over I'm done but then I would

respond it was wild that was wild so that's embarrassing it is a little bit on your part but it's okay it doesn't come off as needy it might come across like desperate a little bit but it's also super sweet because you cared that much and you like endured that much for me you persevered it when i saw you smile that night i saw a girl that had i felt like been injured in the past and who didn't have anybody that loved her and i was like let's see if let's see if i can I can help her out. So I was a challenge to you. Challenge accepted.

Okay, so moving on to the next one. So I ghosted him for nine months. We kind of did this awkward back and forth texting thing where I just drug them along. And then I remember at one point nine months later after that meeting in L.A., you were, again, sending seven or eight messages over the course of a few weeks. I hadn't responded. And you sent this long one, and it caught my attention. I was like, whoa.

He just sent me a book. like this is kind of weird and I remember reading it and it was very sweet it was like I don't remember what the whole like text was but I remember the end and it was like Sean if football has taught me anything it's how to persevere and then it went into this long text which I'll have to find it and at the very end it was like so let this be my last like attempt if you would like, I would love if you would accompany me to, yeah, he used that word, to the CMA Fest here in Nashville. And similar to your story with calling your dad, I called my mom.

And my mom is very, again, the same, like cautious, guarded, especially around guys for me. And like, if I were to ever call her and say, can I fly across country to meet a guy? She'd be like, you're out of your mind. And I remember calling her and I was like, here's the situation. Can I fly to Nashville? She's like, do it without even thinking. And I remember texting you back.

I was like, okay, I'm coming to Nashville. And then Andrew is like, oh, crap, I got to get tickets to the CMA Fest. I did not have tickets. And then you stay, you're supposed to stay for like one night. You stayed for an entire week. Well, and then that was embarrassing because what I didn't tell you. You didn't have a place to stay. you didn't have a place to stay it all comes back around what i didn't tell

andrew going to nashville is one i didn't have a place to stay i didn't have any plans i was like i'm just going to book a ticket to nashville we'll figure it out and then two i was only going to stay for a night because after that i was going to fly to chicago where i was also set up on a blind date and then fly to l.A where i was set up on the third blind date i was like flying across the country for dates i know my friend said that guys don't judge me And so I arrived. I had my bag, all this stuff. And he's like, what hotel are you staying at?

And I was like, uh, the Renaissance. Seriously? Yeah. I didn't have a hotel room. I haven't heard this. Wait, I thought you said that you said that you had a hotel room with some friends, but there's like 13 in one room and you couldn't fit. So I knew of someone who was at the hotel, but like I didn't really know her.

I just, she said that I could leave my suitcase in her room. wow yeah that's crazy i didn't know that i was like changing in the bathroom so we were we returned the favor i asked my roommates i i was staying with three or four other guys we were all on air mattresses in this janky apartment yeah we literally didn't we had uh one no we had lawn chairs in there yeah our tv we had like a little you get a couch 16 inch tv did we have a couch we had a couch and lawn chairs i remember 16 inch TV sitting on a cardboard box and we would literally and then chicken breasts on the stove top. A big poster of the beach pump naked girls. No not naked Sean. They were in thonged bikinis

and the only thing that was showing was their butts as you walk in the door. There was into butts in our room. You. Anyway. There's just one guy in the butts. Yeah. Anyway. None of the other guys were into butts. So Sean slept on the couch while me and my four roommates were in our air mattresses but uh that was it's so funny when when you look back on like dating and love stories it kind of makes me sound like a psychopath looking back on it like if you just kind of give the situation as they were without like the emotional context same i feel really weird about myself right now oh same i feel terrible about myself do we end this show maybe you did a great job i don't know how i will say every time i hear i hear

that story i'm like how the heck did we end up together same are you kidding i acted like a psychopath um i will say though so i stayed i flew in that morning you picked me up from the airport we have this whole itinerary stuff that we did we went to the cma fest he managed to get tickets oh that was so stressful in a suite nonetheless which was incredible i pulled every string i had every single one and then stayed one night and the next morning i canceled my flights to chicago and l.a and i ended up staying for a week and i remember thinking to myself after the first day i had fallen in love with you i was like this guy is amazing we had fun so again i don't know if any of that is embarrassing or just awkward um yeah do you want to talk about the third one that I've written down here um that one's pretty

private I don't know if we've told that story okay um okay so so first date was L.A second date was Indianapolis third date was uh second date wasn't in Indianapolis I was the second time I saw you was at the Indy 500 third second date was Nashville our first date was L.A. Our second date was Nashville. Our third date was, I invited you to our lakehouse. Yes. To meet your freaking parents. Again, this is wild.

We hit things pretty fast. We did. We did. She comes to the lake house. She meets my brother and sisters. We do this whole beekeeping thing. Yeah, we extracted honey from a hive, which is I'm more scared of bees than anything. which by the way we just launched that yeah if you guys want to check out

madison's reserve it's the east fam honey uh we'll leave a link it's really good but um um we skinny dipped and the lake i don't i've never done that before and my whole family was like you know a hundred yards away uh-huh did we sneak out there in the morning or at night On night we went out there to look at the stars Yeah Skinny dipping Okay here's some advice Do it in shallow water

I remember We were in lake water And it was very very deep Which made it very difficult Because you had to like Tread water Yeah Which is not fun

I remember that so vividly That was funny um if you want to add anything else nope i'm good there you we basically almost drowned guys yeah so just skinny dip in shallow water that's good story all right so while i'm at this is this is like really i just feel like self-destructive but when we got engaged the week before actually okay we go out to this espies event You're going to tell the story? What do you think?

Yeah, do it. I just feel like it's already bad enough for me. Like, you know what? Listen to this episode out there. And if you like it, then welcome. If you listen to it, you're like, Andrew's a psychopath, see you later. I actually totally understand that. Week before we get engaged.

I feel like there's like a process that goes through your mind as you're in a serious relationship about to get married. It's like this whole journey you go on. So that's what I was on, just to set the context. I knew we were about to get engaged. there's a lot of things you think about and go to this SB's red carpet everybody's all dolled up dressed up you know we had a great time Sean and I did didn't we yeah we had a great time it was really fun and at dinner afterwards after this big event you know there's always like a lot of excitement and whatever I'm in my mind thinking I'm sitting across from my future

your fiance and I'm like all right how do I want thinking about a relationship I'm like I feel like if there's one thing that I want our relationship to be it's honest and right so I was like okay well I should tell her um what I'm feeling and so I told her I was like Sean to be honest with you look we're in this relationship we're in this really serious relationship I see you as a girl I'm marrying Um, but I wanted you to know that today, I would never act, never in a million years, ever do anything, but I want you to know that there's like a couple ladies out there that I saw that were like just really beautiful and I've, I'm just going to leave it there. No, finish what you said, Andrew. I, I thought that they were really hot. He said he was thinking about sleeping with other girls.

but I preface that I set the whole scene and I was like I would never do this I'm only telling you this because Did you set the scene like that? I think it was just kind of like babe I just need you to know that I've been thinking about sleeping with other girls and I was like hmm no

okay I didn't just throw it out there I knew it was a weird thing to say in retrospect I realized that like that's just a dumb thing to say yeah I mean I get it I get it like we've all like we're human I get that but I was just like

this is a really interesting for him to be telling me right now and then he proposed the next week I don't I don't like 2015 Andrew so if you guys don't I get that but my intention was

just bear with me was honestly to just tell you how I was feeling I felt like it was really important for me to be open and honest and now I realize that like

there's just like the negative things that we feel don't always need to be shared you know what I'm saying? It's a bad idea that's the that's the takeaway I have okay that's a next what? No I get it

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Sean Sinamey subliminal notes over here. I was to say the only... This is a terrible thing for us to put out in the world. It is. This episode. This might get deleted later. Really?

Yeah. Why? It's embarrassing. I think it's great. This is more embarrassing. I thought this was going to be a fun embarrassing story. This is really embarrassing. No, it's amazing.

Well, I'm getting ready to say this. Put it out there. Let's freaking go. Welcome to the podcast, fam. Kind of like Andrews saying he felt the need to share his thoughts. I felt the need to share. We were two years into dating. Two years.

And this was just haunting me. Wow, I remember that too. I vividly remember you telling me. and I remember sitting Andrew down one day and I was like I just have to tell you something and he was like okay and I know I made you nervous with that but I was like I have gone on dates with one of your best friends not while we were dating like before we ever dated but I know that he has never told you, and I have never told you. And it never became anything.

And it was never like, we knew it just wasn't going to work out. And I remember him, like, even saying you need to, like, date Andrew because I know he's interested in you and whatever, but it haunted my soul. And I thought for sure it was over. I thought you're going to break up with me for good when I told you. But I told you. You were so nervous about that. I told you.

And you took it great. But like it was a short conversation. You ended up leaving. And you're like, I'll talk to you later. And I remember distinctly, it was like probably five hours later. It was like that afternoon. I get a text from Andrew saying, do you want to go paintballing with me? and the Vanderbilt football team and I was like this is weird sure yeah I'm down thinking like

he's good he's good with me like whatever and I was like when are we going and he's like no I'll meet you there I was like okay this is strange again he texts me the address no this is a hundred percent tusha to you because you handled it in the best way like guys take because this is amazing. So he texts me the address. I show up. I'm like one of two girls there. One of three girls.

And then it's the entire Vanderbilt team. They've already been there for like 15 minutes. So the time he told me to get there, I did. But I was 15 minutes late, technically. They had already split up the teams. And each team had a team captain. Well, Andrew was a team captain. and Andrew's

best friend was team captain the guy that I had dated and Andrew's like you're on his team and I was like huh okay okay this is awkward this is awkward

but I rolled with it got suited up which we didn't wear protection of any kind I asked him what to wear and Andrew's like wear shorts and a t-shirt I'd never been payballing before so I did we go on to play the game and all I can say is I've never been so bruised in my entire life

just lit up because there is a sniper from the other team shooting me up the entire game and that was my boyfriend which was amazing at the end of the game I was like you know what andrew tushay I just feel like there's some things that you read into maybe I subconsciously did that that was for sure subconscious to give you guys a top of timeline you remember when we went on that first date and then she ghosted me for nine months and I would text her all the time it was within that nine months that she went on dates with this teammate of mine teammate didn't know anything about it she was you were dating a teammate of mine while we had gone on a date I was like so confused I know I made poor decisions

and I regretted them here's what I'll say I just like there's important i think there's important things to get caught up on that's that was not one of them for me but i do appreciate take away from this one um the the serious attitude that you had about it like the gravity that you gave to that situation and sharing that information with you one i appreciate you being honest with me and i really i appreciated it at the time but to If you would have gone about it super lightheartedly, I don't think I would have responded as casual as I did. But because I saw that you realized that it could offend me, it just made me able to digest it a little bit. You know what I'm saying?

I feel like having the appropriate tone of apology, I guess, is important. Yeah. I will say morals and takeaways for this is like relationships can be hot mess. yeah and not smooth but it's okay we did things rough yeah that was rough right this last 45 minutes was rough for me to just recite i think it's beautiful because it used to be a cute story now it's embarrassing it's not because i've said this before like i think if you had been riko suave it wouldn't worked out for it i needed someone who truly showed me what was important and because i was around people that were so materialistic and caught up in the wrong things of life you brought me back

down to earth and did everything exactly how it should have been done for us to start a relationship together that's crazy overall that's how you find your husband No, I feel like we were just who we were and we didn't try to force anything and we made mistakes, but we forgave each other and we forgave ourselves. I will say that that does happen a lot and that's something we talked about very early on in our relationship is we both had come from relationships where we changed a lot of ourselves thinking that that's what you do in order to make a relationship work and neither of us, well, both of us got tired of that. And neither of us then believed in it. And we said from day one that we are just going to be ourselves. And if we fell in love with that person, then we are going to make it work. Yeah.

But don't change yourself and become someone you're not just because you want to stay with someone. Yeah. God made every single one of you super cool, super unique, and super important. So don't downplay that. You're going to say dumb things, even if you're being honest with yourself. And just like I said the dumb thing, trying to be honest in the SB situation. I appreciate the honesty. Wow.

I feel like I said a good tone. But, well, that was brutal. We're all going to be dumb. We're all going to make mistakes. We're all going to say things that we mean, but mean it in a different way. Just don't expect a perfect relationship. Don't expect people and human beings to be perfect because we're not. open your hearts to the intention behind it

here's how I'm going to feel good walking away from this conversation because I was literally just in a bad spot it's cool to think that we have each grown so much from those embarrassing situations and people that we used to be I don't regret that is the power of marriage I feel like absolutely I don't regret any of it have have we both done things that

like I would want to teach Drew not to do yes but it's in those mistakes in those bad decisions and those embarrassing stories that you learn who you are and who your heart is and who you need in life and you learn to be a better human being I think as painful as it can be yeah so I feel good me too I'm happy with how I've grown as a man

me too maybe i'm happy with who i've how i've grown as a woman we hadn't shared a lot of those stories in such detail and that's that's the beauty that's the beauty of a longer longer show if you guys enjoyed this show uh thank you for for listening we'd love to hear your own embarrassing stories that you might have had with your uh boyfriend girlfriend spouse a significant other please share those with us whether it's on instagram in the show notes yeah in the reviews also guys if you have any video ideas or videos about topics or stories personal things you want us to hear or talk about on the show please email them to couple things pod at gmail dot com that's couple things p o d at gmail dot com if you guys haven't

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