Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 100 new years goals

Episode Date: January 26, 2022

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That sounds better than how we do it. My mind went to a weird place there. What's up, everybody? Welcome back to a couple things. With Sean and Andrew. A podcast all about couples. And the things they go through. Today we have our annual talk about goals.

Goals. It's something we are very passionate about. We started this, ooh, six years ago. No. Five years ago. Five years ago. And it honestly has changed our life. And I don't mean to be dramatic, but it truly has.

It's one of our favorite things that we do each and every year. And I think it's because we have and dedicate a full day to doing this. A full day. That it's so special to us. Like there's no other day we get in a year like this. Fun fact about our day this year. It was still incredible. It was almost made more incredible because in the middle of our goal setting process day,

we got a call from one of our best friends that was like he called me and he goes are you with Andrew? And I was like, yes. He's like, I can't get a hold of him. I was like he's right here and he goes, my wife is having our baby. Yeah. I need a ride. Because it was also a blizzard out and I was like okay, we got to pause this. Babe, you're like emergency Uber right now. Yeah. They didn't have a car

to get to the hospital because of snow. So they called on me. And that was a nice little plot twist. It was beautiful. It was beautiful. but if you remember last year we did this episode and we wanted to revisit this because we revisit it every year and also we have a lot of new listeners so to share welcome to the family yeah welcome to the family to share why we view this is so important and what our process is and setting goals was something that we wanted to kind of revisit so but before we get started if you haven't yet please subscribe yeah and give it a rating on whatever platform whether that's a thumbs up on YouTube or, you know, Apple podcast has their own rating system.

There's too many now. I'm like, are you liking it, saying this is cool, subscribing or follow? I don't know what to do anymore. That, it's, I don't think you've ever done the subscribe part. I haven't. Yeah, that was a, you did it really well. You should take that over. I'm not going to lie when I was saying it.

I was like, do people subscribe to podcasts or is it like a, yes, yes, they do. Okay. Anyways, let's jump right into it. All right, so from a high level, some of this is going to sound obvious, but goals are important because studies show that people who set goals are typically more successful, more motivated, and more focused. So whether you're an athlete, CEO, any type of high performer, they all set goals. And I think that's a major reason that contributes to their success just because you have to have

a plan in order to accomplish a plan. And I feel like if you make a plan in general, you're five steps ahead of a lot of other people. So to sit down and actually think about where you're going is really important. It can also raise yourself confidence. We read this in data because it shows that you're capable of achieving like hard things. And when you set goals, you go from like living this like autopilot life to actually having a purpose.

And you can really choose on a daily basis what is meant for you and what's not. And I say all of this because this sounds a little preachy. Like we know what we're talking about. Right. But I almost feel like we are with this because we have seen this work in the past five years. And I know I said that dramatic statement of like it has changed our life, but it truly has. So five years ago, Andrew and I, what? No, no, no.

I'm just going to start preaching myself. I know. I could preach on this topic. It is truly one of the best days ever. Five years ago, Andrew and I were married. We were bouncing around with the whole NFL life. We are trying to do the YouTube thing. We are balancing all of these things.

And we sat down and it was New Year's Eve and we were like, okay, let's do goals. Let's like write these out. And we spent six hours at a coffee shop doing this. And we have this whole system. We'll tell you how we do it. But we wrote out all of our goals for life. And back then when we wrote out our goals as it pertained to like finances and family and where we wanted to live and how we wanted to see our life, we noticed that we weren't living our life

how any of our goals were written out. And that sounds dramatic, but it was basically like there were so many drastic changes we wanted to make in our life because we weren't necessarily not happy, but we just weren't living the life that we wanted. And now, fast forward five years, it's cool. We go back and we read like our goals every year and they're getting more nuanced and more specific and they're actually reflecting what our life looks like and we're able to do that because we've we've the first year we set some wildly different goals in what we're living so we were way off but then when we revisited our goals the next year we were able to be like hey you know what hanging out with friends five days a week was realistic but I do think that one or two times a week

is something that we're interested in and so you're able to just kind of tweak and do maintenance on those goals after you already have a foundation set well and I think something we have learned over the past five years and doing the goals is that you, we, everyone, you're offered so many opportunities on a daily basis. Do you want to go hang out with your friends? Do you want to hang out with your family? Do you want to go to the movies?

Do you want to have a date night or cook in? Do you want your kids to go to preschool or not? Do you want to, like there's so many choices that you can make on a daily basis. And you can get so lost so easily in saying yes to things that don't really suit you. But in the moment, you don't know why you should say yes

or why you should say no. And something we've noticed in doing our goals as a family is that it's made those daily choices a lot easier for us because even though it might seem like a really small choice, if you make a small choice every single day of the year, it ends up changing your entire lifestyle. And so it's been able to kind of put us on a path

of a life that we have envisioned and dreamed and planned for ourselves. And so we can every year look back and be like, wow we did exactly like what we plan and it makes you feel good yeah uh they do say that setting goals actually does make you feel good it releases dopamine when you achieve a goal so like it's almost you're setting this little gingerbread trail of dopamine uh releases as you set goals but also so obviously from an individual standpoint goals can help but from a from a couple standpoint and relationship standpoint, I found it really helpful for us as well, especially as we are

settling into this parenting routine, just because it feels like we're taking on a project together as opposed to stumbling through each and every day. So, like, we can now work and help each other achieve a certain goal. So if Sean wants to, you know, have a girl's night once a week or work out three times a week, I can, when she wakes up and says, oh, I'm not going to go to workout. I'd be like, hey, well, you did say that you wanted to work out three times a week. And that comes out way less aggressive than like go work out. Because you said, you know, it's like there's something specific that you can point to. And you kind of build these patterns and habits together. I also think, too, we've talked about those monthly checkups that we do where we find a safe space.

You go to a coffee shop once a month. And we're like, here's some things. We've been slacking. I know. We haven't done those. Slack. And we need to. But those months. moments every month are made so we can kind of reevaluate and kind of point things out in each other that we want to work on. And with the New Year's goal, something that I think is really cool is something really special about having a spouse is being able to celebrate your spouse's passions. And you don't necessarily on a daily basis get an opportunity to be like, hey, babe, what are your dreams in life? I mean, between kids and everything that just kind of gets pushed to the side, which sounds sad. But,

When you do your New Year's goals, and when you do goals in general, I actually get to see a glimpse into who you are and who you want to be. And I can go back and read them every day or once a month and be like, oh, actually, he hasn't been able to go to men's group once every four weeks like he really wanted to. How can I support him better in that? And I think overall it allows you to be a better spouse because you can help your spouse become who they want to be better. You're making me a little emotional 100%. I'm about to tear up.

I'm not kidding. You're making me emotional. That's how. So all I'm saying at the end of day is if I, if I get my girls night, then I'm kidding. You just ruined my moment. Legitimately, I was about to. I know. I was trying to get you off the edge there.

One last thing. So I'm big into books. I read 45 books last year. My goal this year is read 52. The reason I know that number is because I wrote it down on my goals last year and this year, which again is a support of, you know, support for why you should do goals. But a lot of them, Whether it was Visioneering by Andy Stanley, which is a great book, whether it was Today Matters by John Maxwell.

He were on a mission by Donald Miller, who I think we'll actually have on the show. He's going to be on our show? Yeah. He's cool. He's big time. Or Man Search for Meaning by Victor Frankel. Great movie. Great movie.

I wish it was a movie. Yeah, it should be. Maybe it is. I am a big, true believer that each and every one of you was put here to make a difference. and you are uniquely qualified to speak to a group of people. It might be just to speak to one person in a way that can change their lives, though, and leave a really impactful legacy. So the first step to that is to kind of get yourself in the game and to realize what you want out of life,

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It is so hard to believe, but I'm glad that we took the time to sit down and write out our goals for this year because, man, they keep us on our feet. I know. We're doing a whole episode on it. And with it being a new year, there are so many goals that people have. But did you know that some stats say that only... Eight percent of people keep their New Year's resolutions. Most say that they quit because they didn't have a plan or is just too difficult to fit their lifestyle. That is where Noom comes in, babe.

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Is it because you feel pressured by someone else or is it actually like who you want to be? And it allows you to kind of talk that through with someone. I think another really fun thing, too, is going back. to when we started this five years ago, we were leading a very different life, like I said, than what we wanted. And it was really cool to see these, like, little goals that I would put down of, I want to start a YouTube channel or whatever it was. And you just slowly work to becoming, like, the better version of yourself.

Yeah, exactly. And, you know, the phrasing of these goals is important, too. So saying, I want to get in shape, like, what does that actually mean for you? that there's a whole wide range of spectrum. That could mean running three miles or we're bench pressing a certain amount of weight. Sean, I know that's a big one for you. You want to, you know, I will say we actually do. We do a health category and one of my goals last year was to have a healthy pregnancy

when it came to like the amount of weight gained and what I ate and make sure like I took care of the baby. Praise the Lord that was achieved. Yes. And then I also put a goal of like by the end of the year I wanted to be to. to like a certain weight and when it comes to those types of goals and the goals that we put on our goal sheet nothing is concrete everything is kind of like a this is where I picture myself but we give ourselves a lot of grace and knowing that life is crazy and messy and you're not setting

a milestone for yourself that has to be achieved it's more so to keep you on the right path to put you on a pass so like what is the end result Like if you're forecasting, okay, five years from now, if I hit that goal, what does this look like? Like you walking down that path has big ramifications. Whether you hit that exact number or whatever you're rooting for or not, like you're working towards it and you're on a path, which makes all the difference. So there you go. Okay. Before we jump into like all of these like anecdotes and stuff, should I tell them how we do it?

Let's talk about how we do our goals. Yes. That sounds better than how we do it. My mind went to a weird place there. Okay, so we started this process five years ago. We made up this kind of like a way to do this five years ago. And we've stuck to it. And it works because it allows you to not overthink things and just kind of like get straight to the point.

So as you're listening, pull out a sheet of paper or pull up a Google Doc and follow along. We're going to give you the exact sections that we set goals for. And what are some of the things that we put on there for ourselves? and you can make whatever tweaks to your exact situation you need to, but I think this would be super helpful to kind of get your template started. And we can also link just a generic Google Doc template for our goals down below. So go ahead. Yes.

So if this is your first time doing this, which I'm going to assume it's everyone's first time. And you don't have to do it on New Year's. You can do it any time of the year. The categories we chose to do goals for are finances, travel, family, friends, marriage, health and fitness, philanthropy, home, faith, business, personal, and now we've added kids. Yes. So that sounds like a lot, but bear with me.

So we wrote out all of those categories. And if you are doing it yourself, you can add more categories, you can take them out, whatever kind of like is specific to your life. But those are the categories that we kind of wanted to do goals. around first thing we do after we have those categories established is sit down and kind of pray we kind of hold each other's hands and be like hey lord please give us the wisdom to set wise goals and honoring goals that actually have a purpose and have meaning we do that together and I feel like that is an important step for us getting on the same page and kind of like taking a step back what do we actually

want out of life yeah and then the way we go about this is we set a timer and We give ourselves five minutes. So I literally set a timer five minutes counting down, and you have five minutes under each category to write out all of your goals. So we'll say, okay, finances, five minutes starts now. When those five minutes are up, you're done. Like, move on. Because I feel like if you give yourself 10, 15, 20, 30 minutes or an hour per category,

you start really overthinking things and getting into the weeds of it when that's not important. It's like the main goals that are more important. So once the five minutes is done, you're done, you move on. Then you would say, okay, are you ready for the next one? Travel, ready, five minutes starts, go. And you go category by category until you're done. After that, we start over.

We go way back up to the top, and we start sharing it with each other. And we start sharing, like, this is the goals that I wrote for finances, what do you think of it? And you just kind of go back and forth. And you go through your entire sheet. And after we go through our entire sheet, we kind of combine them both so that, One, I know what his goals are and two, he knows what mine are. And then we kind of make this community family goal sheet that we can follow for the rest of the year. Now, the cool thing is the next year when you're doing it your second year,

you actually get to go back. And another part that we do is we go through last year. And we say, how did we do last year based on our goals? Were we unrealistic? Were we realistic? Did we not set high enough goals or dreams? What do we want to do? and then you like build off of that,

which is really fun to do as well. Yeah. And so now, even though us editing the goals is kind of a quicker experience for us than originally setting them that first year, we spend about three hours reviewing last year going line by line saying,

hey, you know, we took this trip with these people, did we want to do the same thing next year? And it, again, it's so fun and so special to have these conversations with Sean to hear like, oh,

I see that you want to take two trips this year tell me why do you feel like we didn't travel last year do you feel like how does it you know we talk a lot about feelings and all of this stuff but it unlocks reasons to have discussions that otherwise wouldn't be had and it's fun you know to kind of take the five minutes for each section and quickly right through the top things that come to your mind um initially they say you know what you truly want you know when you flip a coin and the coins in the air to to kind of do your your first impression or your first instinctual this is what I want reveal something about you know you and this is the only day of the year that we do this for each other and have discussions about it

okay to give people an example pick out your top three goals you wrote down for this year or like three of your favorites okay well so for um for travel yeah we always do Christmas experiences where instead of giving Christmas gifts we we write down three dream trips each that we'd like to take last year we didn't do any of them yep and so this year i would like to do one of our christmas experiences which include going to disney going to the california coast or going to europe that's one of them what's yours um mine's under travel as well it's been i think four years since we've done this but my like one of my top dreams and goals this year but i know we can't control all of it it's to do a deep uh oh

is to do a Tijuana mission trip with our family. So Andrew's older brother runs, helps run like a mission down in Tijuana. It's one of the most special experiences. I want to take so many of our friends and go down there and do a fun mission trip, especially with our kids. I think it would be incredible. Another one of my favorite ones was I wanted to do our Thursday night date nights, 40 out of the 52 weeks that are in a year.

So that leaves room for one time a month, us missing. But we're going to hit, hopefully. at least three of the four weeks in a month. And that includes like, hey, we're making room for sickness or Sean traveling or whatever it is. Like, I want to hit 40 out 52, which last year I think we did 36. So, yeah. Still pretty good. Not bad.

Another one that I put, just to give you like ideas of goals we put in there, I put, I wanted to really work on myself this year because I've spent the past two, three years. pregnant and having babies that doesn't leave a lot of room for like me time so i said i wanted to go and do some sort of like spa which is like get my nails done um like once every four or five weeks if possible that feels reasonable it it is it can be bougie but i i really want to be able to take care of myself more this year you've made so many sacrifices for our family i would love to to make that happen for you this is another one in her family i want to cook home dinner three times a week. So that's us making our own meal.

I realize that cooking, I'm a big, I'm big into puzzles. That's what we always used to do growing up. And I feel like cooking is my new form of that where it's like you don't have to think that much. You don't have anything else in your mind. There's no phone involved. Just like you're locked in doing something. And it feels so good to actually eat a meal that you prepared.

And then a couple others that are my favorite. We want to potty train Drew this year. This is under kids. crazy under kids. We want to teach Drew how to ride a bike. And we want to help Jet learn how to walk. Wow. Again, we have, we probably have a total of like 500 goals on here.

I'm curious. Those are just a few. But again, they can be massive. They can be small. They can be little tiny things. They can be personal. They can be for you, for your family, for your marriage, for your dogs, for your house, for literally anything.

But it kind of helps just give you that path to stay on. for the entire year. Yeah, and it builds a little anticipation too. So, like, you know, it gives me something to look forward to of, oh, we get a potty trained Drew. Like, I wouldn't have thought of that necessarily so explicitly had it not been for us writing it down. So, yeah, that's how we do it.

And I'm a big, I hate deleting things or throwing things away. So what Sean and I do is we each have our own Google Doc that we'll write our individual goals on. And then when we discuss each section, we'll come up with a third kind of master goal. Doc that is like, oh, Sean said she wanted to take six trips. I said we want to take two trips. We'll discuss it and be like, you know what, four trips feels fair. And here's where we would like those trips to be.

And when we go back through and we start debriefing all of the goals that we've written down and we're recapping last year, that's when we go into specifics. So like I was saying, when you have those five minutes and you're writing down your big goals, you don't have to worry about getting into the weeds. When you go back through with your spouse or your person, Um, that's when we start to think about, okay, we want to cook three home cooked meals a week. Yep. Are we going to, how do we make that happen?

Do we plan the meals on Sunday? Do we go grocery shopping on Monday? What's like a, a realistic way that we can set ourselves up for success in reaching that goal? Or another one is like, I wanted to do a girl's night once a week. So we put, we actually went back through and we put that on the calendar. He wants to do a men's group. We put that on the calendar. It kind of just, it sets.

you up so that you don't get all the way, you know, into October and you're like, wait, I really wanted to do this this year. Why didn't it happen? Yeah. And you just kind of go through the details of it. Yeah. And so that transition just like the real life implications of what do we do now that we have our goal set is like as Sean said, we are in the phase and not everybody is. We're in the phase of life where we're very routine oriented just because our kids are. So like they're going to be on the nap schedule. We kind of know what that's going to look like. And so we have already started, which is new for us this year, but we have reached out to the people who we might take trips with, whether it's my brother or my parents or whoever or our friends

and said, hey, we're putting trips on the schedule. Yeah. Trying to go to Disney in June. Yeah. Are you free? And then like you actually have that locked in. Yeah. Which actually, it obviously drastically increases the probability of that trip happening as

opposed to like saying, I'd like to take a trip to Disney this year. Okay. Good luck. I feel like first, it's so easy as, because life is so busy, to get to December and to get to holidays or Thanksgiving or Christmas or New Year's and look back on the year almost in disappointment and be like, oh, I really wanted to do this with my kids. Why didn't we do it? Like one of the things on our family is a daddy daughter, Valentine's breakfast. So that's going to happen. But it is, it's really easy to see your entire year just kind of be washed away.

way and to think, oh, if only we could have done this and this and this. And I feel like having those moments at the beginning of the year and being like, listen, this is what our life is going to look like this year. Let's try to make this happen. Just kind of sets you up for a happier and more joyful experience where you can look back and be like, you know what, we didn't hit all of our goals. We hit maybe 5% of them, but there were things we were really excited about. Yeah. And we planned them and we made them happen. And hopefully year after year you can see that success rate go up a little bit more. Yeah, and for sure, the point of this is not to set goals only to be disappointed when you

don't miss them. It is, again, to set a path that you're going to walk down. So if you don't hit the goals, don't beat yourself up. Don't get angry at your spouse. It's like, hey, you know what? We can improve on this next year or it could be more realistic with this goal. I will say, going back over our goals from last year, the whole disappointment side of it, the amount of times we wrote no pandemic was comical so you also have to take everything with

a grain of salt and be like life can hit you hard in the face and be like this isn't going to happen but again it's just things to steer in the right direction I also think too for us the monthly checkups in the accountability side having this like master passion compass I don't know how to phrase that passion compass there we go makes it easier during the monthly checkups to be like how is your book count coming yeah are you getting in all the books that you need do you need more time to read which then allows me to tell her about the books i'm reading and that like you kind of get we're not in this phase fully but like six years in you have to work to continue to get to know somebody else so like this is what these goals do for us is like i'm still continually trying to

learn about Sean and it's this a fun way to do it the goals i mean this document now is kind of it's almost like a form of a journal too where we can look back and be like um a reflect on the past year and like each of these lines sparks vivid memories of like oh jet or drew walking like we're going to try to hopefully help her accomplish that or whatever makes me think of that moment when she did walk right and it also is a funny glimpse into where we were in this phase of life so you know we talk about uh one of these our friend's goal was in five years ago to hang out with friends five nights a week that's can you imagine like if we hang out with friends two nights a month now oh that's not true i don't know

babe that's we hang out with friends on average once a week okay but to say five times a week but we were doing that we were with Josh and Chelsea all the time every night so we went over to Josh and Chelsea's house literally every day of the week but it's just funny to see the 2018 version of Sean and Andrew and where we were then um anyway it is crazy I have mentioned this book before but the ruthless elimination of hurry written by John Mark comer um talks about how you know the importance of setting aside a day to do the things that you most a day a week setting aside a day a week to do the things that you most enjoy in life is so important. And the first time that I actually tried to practice that was really hard because I was

like, I actually don't know what I enjoy about life. I usually kind of stumble through, like, obviously I'm ambitious and I want to work and I love being with my kids, but like if I had to write those things down, what would that look like was a good challenge. And this goal setting session for us is us talking about the things that we most enjoy. and find most important in life. So it's cool. With Amex Platinum, access to exclusive Amex pre-sale tickets can score you a spot trackside.

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We will also link that down below. A couple of fun facts here. about one and four Americans said they set goals by making new year's resolutions in 2020 wow um the most common goals were exercising improving diet saving money um i will say that is something that we were both challenged with the first time we did this is i think it's been ingrained in our minds that new year's resolutions are all about diet and health and money um so when we had to when we tried to expand outside of that it almost felt difficult. It was like, wait, there's more to life than those three things. But it's been cool

because over the years, those have actually become probably the smallest categories for us as far as like what we're excited about and purposeful about. So I think it's really fun to kind of look outside those categories. Another one says 188 million adults say they're determined to set a personal goal in an effort to better themselves this year. That's great. I love that. I love that stat. And 33 people who write their, wow.

33%? People who write their goals down are 33% more likely to actually achieve them. I love that. I love that too. Here are some, can I just give you some motivational quotes about goal setting while we're here? Bill Copeland says that the trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field. never scoring you got to have something you got to know what the what the score is and how you do it well i actually feel like we felt that five years ago remember i remember sitting down on that coffee

shop and being like why are we making money why are we making money why are we doing the nfl thing why are we living in oakland right now why are we like it was all of these questions like where are we actually going with this here's another good quote henry ford says obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal when you walk i felt this in parenting like there's so many moments of frustration when the baby's crying or whatever and then when i take take a step back and realize the purpose and like hey i'm doing this so that i can raise a responsible young child that helps me make it through those difficult moments with the kids um this one actually sounds like what we were just talking about the thing about goals is that living without them

is a lot more fun in the short run it seems to to me, though, that people who get things done, who lead, who grow, and who make an impact, those people have goals. Seth Godin. Wow. That's pretty great. All right. We will continue to make this episode each and every year because we think it's that important.

So I hope that you have your Google Doc ready with all those different sections. And if you don't, you can find our template down below. But we'll have all. all the different sections broken down. And if you go through those with your spouse, take however much time that you can afford. It might be an hour, it might be a half hour,

but set aside a time to go through these with your spouse. And I guarantee you that it will teach you something about your significant other. And there will be some conversations had that have never been had. So that's all we have for you. I'm all jazzed up. Me too.

I want to do it again. The goals? Yeah. Well, already this year, we're, you know, a couple weeks into the year. And I've revisited this goal sheet more in this first two weeks than I ever have before where it's like I'm continuing to make edits or kind of revisions adding specificity to each one. I like that. And it's been really helpful. Like it, again, gives me purpose.

So thank you for listening. I'm excited to hear what effect this process has on you. And make sure you stay tuned for next week because we have a really fun episode. but if you haven't yet and you made it this far subscribe to show give a rating on whatever platform you're listening to that's all we have i'm andrew i'm shot we are the east fam out