Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 115 comedian elyse myers

Episode Date: May 18, 2022

This week we sit down with comedian Elyse Myers and her husband and Jonas. We talk through navigating through new fame, the hilarious love for Jonas on the internet, and how they’re navigating being in the spotlight as a couple. We are sponsored by these companies that we love. Check them out below:  Athletic Greens ▶ Athletic Greens Is going to give you a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/eastfam If you haven’t yet, please rate Couple Things and subscribe to hear more. Follow us on Instagram to keep the conversation going at https://www.instagram.com/couplething... And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format – we might just choose yours! Email us at [e-mail]. Follow Elyse On Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/elyse_myers/  Follus us on Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/couplething... Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson Follow My Twitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/ShawnJohnson Snapchat! ▶ @ShawneyJ Follow AndrewsTwitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/AndrewDEast Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/AndrewDEast Snapchat! ▶ @AndrewDEast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can come over to my house, smelly, you're not showered, like your hair's not done. You don't have to have any of your life together. Like, and you still have something to say. Like, your voice is important and it matters. What's up, everybody? Welcome back to a couple things. With Sean and Andrew. A podcast all about couples.

And the things they go through. Today is a day that I've been waiting for for a very long time. I've full on fan girl to the point of I glitched at the beginning of this interview. And so did I. Had the most awkward introduction, which is only suiting because we interviewed Elise Myers and her husband, Jonas Myers. That's right. Elise has recently achieved internet fame, and her videos are some of Sean's favorite and my favorite. She is hilarious.

She tells these personal stories in the most captivating way you can imagine. The thing that is so relatable about her is she talks so openly about mental health, anxiety, social, like awkwardness. Just all of these things that we truly go through on a daily basis that people don't display because they show perfection. And she kind of debunks that, which I love. I was surprised because if you watch her videos, she seems so well-spoken, so comfortable, like an extrovert. But I enjoyed getting to know the more reserved side of her. And you could really see that and how she interacted with us and her husband. Her husband, Jonas, by the way, also has an amazing sense of humor.

He has built a reputation for creating hilarious comments on his wife's videos. and together they share a son who is similar to one of our kids' age. Yes, August. That's right. And we really like this couple. If you want to find out more about Elise and Jonas, we'll link their information down below. But without further ado, we bring you the Myers. Hello, guys.

How are you? Good. How are you doing? Good. Good to meet you. I told you guys this earlier. We are fan-girling because we absolutely stock your socials and think you are the funniest person alive.

And Jonas, I feel like we're finally getting to know you. through social media now because you were like the secret man and you've like emerged which is really exciting. The secret man. I've always just hidden

the comments so I was always be in the comments on Elisa's videos and then people are like who is this and I'm like well yeah I see everything behind the scene which is cool. He was famous for his comments and people would always go to the videos

and be like I just want to see what Jonas said and it's so cute. I love that. They get to like learn who he is just through what he says. Wow. how long have you guys been together six years we've been together for six years married for four years yeah what about you guys and we've been together 10 years yeah cool married six years so

doing the thing we're doing it somehow still together you know 10 years later we're doing it hey that's that's awesome uh how did you guys first meet so we met in college uh we were both going to college And we met actually in a grocery store. So we were both shopping for some groceries one night. And I was in my house clothes. And like I was with my friend. We were making some dinner. So we were just grabbing some ingredients.

And I ran into Elise. Her friend was friends with my friend. So they started talking and I started talking to Elise. And I was just like, man, this girl is just like, she's like asking me all these questions and making this great eye contact. And I just felt so comfortable with her. and I was just standing there in my house clothes, like, you know the house clothes that you put on, like, when you get home? Yeah, basically pajamas, but like throughout the day, like, to make yourself feel sane.

Yeah. So we were hanging out in the grocery store. Yeah, I was buying a pound of roast beef and a pound of cashews that I was going to smash all in one sitting. And we were talking, and then we walked away from our conversation and his friend, his friend told him when he walked away, why don't you just like marry her already and then he stalked me on Facebook and found out I was dating somebody and then that was that for a little bit and then I broke up with my boyfriend because I was like that's okay wow what was the first date like I'm curious so it was kind of interesting we dated long distance at first and so our first in-person date

was she came and visited me before we were like officially boyfriend and girlfriend. And I took her to get tacos in Lawrence, Kansas. So I'm from a little town outside of Kansas City. And we went and got tacos. We ate at a park. That's what I consider our first date anyway. Yeah. And so we went and got tacos.

We walked to a park and had kind of a picnic. And yeah, it was a pretty special day, which is cool. So what he's not saying is the whole first like week of, of us being in the same place was a whole date because we had never spent like any time together in person before we were dating I said hey I think we need some space because we were talking a lot and we weren't like dating and I was like I don't think that we should be talking this much if we're like not going to date I was in Texas he was in Kansas about to move to Nebraska and so I was like let's just stop talking I need space and he goes okay great here's

a plane ticket to Omaha and I was like oh sorry to Kansas and I was like and I was like that and I was Like, that's not space. And so then I went to Kansas. And so then right before I left, I was like, we're not boyfriend, girlfriend. Like, don't kiss me. Don't hold my hand. Like, I am not sure. And so he's like, okay, great.

So now he's, like, afraid of me. And then I get there and we spend, like, nonstop, like five days or something. Yeah, the whole time. Yeah. Like sleeping in the basement. He's up. It's like there, it was the longest, most wild first day. It was so, it's just so funny.

You also met my whole family. I was staying in his family's house, like his mom, brother, like, dad, everyone. It was. It's a little bit unique, but we're still together. Was it one of those, like, trips where it's kind of like your first date, but after the first date was over, you're like, we're going to get married. Yeah. 100%. I was like, this is my person, so now we're just going to make it work.

But we didn't, we thought we were going to be long distance a lot longer. So, like, I thought I was going to go back to Texas. He was going to go to Omaha, and we would be long distance the whole time I was doing my degree and then I ended up um quitting and moving to Nebraska so yeah wow so do you have a lot of first dates that involve tacos at least I was gonna say several right oh my gosh I was gonna ask I was like is this like an exclusive like secret here that you're actually taco guy no I literally never made that that connection until right now.

I honestly, until you guys asked that, I kind of forgot that we got tacos because that whole week was kind of our first date. Yeah. Yeah, so just two. Just the two that really matters. The worst and the best.

What about you guys? What was your first date? Oh, Lord. Kind of similar. So we got set up on a blind date that it was very short. It was like one dinner, but like double date kind of.

There was like buffer friends. with us because we had never met. I didn't want it to be that short, but Sean made it very short. Yeah. It was sweet. It was fun. We had fun. But I was like, I don't know how this is going to work. I lived in L.A. at the time. He lived in Nashville. And then didn't really talk for like nine months after that. And he kept pursuing me and convinced me to come to Nashville to like, he was like, here's a plane ticket. We went out to Nashville. Yeah. Got to shoot your shot. All right, Jonas, you just got to go for it.

Went to Nashville, stayed for like four days. It was supposed to be like one day, ended it to be four. And after the four, I was like, this is my guy. This is my dude. That's so cool. It's kind of like when you know, you know, especially when you get to a certain age, it's like if you're in a life stage where marriage just is possible, then it's like, if you know, then it's like, okay, we'll just go for it, I guess.

And it worked. We did it. Great. Jonas, so you mentioned some things that you were attracted to with Elise. Elise, what was it about Jonas that you're like, this is the dude? I'm going to be honest, it was his house clothes. That was my biggest fear is like wearing pajamas at the grocery store because my mom always, I don't know where this came from.

My mom's like, don't wear your pajamas when you're driving because if you get in an accident, then the policeman's going to find you in your pajamas. I don't know where that's so random. It's like a grandma thing to say. And so when I got to college, I was like, I'm wearing my pajamas everywhere. And then he was wearing his house clothes. It sounds so dumb. But that was like, I was like, you feel comfortable enough to wear your house clothes at the grocery store.

I didn't have a lot of friends that felt that comfortable with themselves. And I was like, this is my person. Also, I do, I love that you say house clothes. I know. I have never heard that. I've never. It's like the clothes you change into when you get home, but they're not like your PJs.

They're like your sweats and your active wear. You're like could go out in them. They're not like your flannel elf onesies. And they're not like you're like nice, like comfy clothes that you had like your the temperature should be like a athlete. Yeah. Today's episode is brought to you by. Athletic greens.

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and pick up the ultimate daily nutritional insurance. We'll also link it down below and let's get back to it. As things have progressed, the last couple years have been wild for you. Do you think you're going to stay in Omaha or what does that look like? So we actually just got back from California. a couple days ago and we were my whole family's in California my family didn't get to see me pregnant or with August so it's been like a long time so I got to see my family and so we were going to like do a family tour of everybody getting to meet August but then we were also trying

to scope it out as to whether we wanted to like move to California where we would want to move so we got Airbnb is pretty much all over southern California just to test it out and I was fully convinced. Because of the nature of my job, I just have so many people telling me, like, eventually you'll need to move to L.A. You know what I mean? Like, it's like, in the entertainment industry, I guess, like, it's a very common thing for that to be the next right thing for people. So in my head, I was like, all right, we'll move me to L.A. eventually. So this isn't a brainer. Jonas was not, like, as excited and, like, there yet mentally. And then when we got there, I was like, this is not it.

Like, it was not, it just didn't feel like home. I don't know. I'm from California, but I've just grown to really love the Midwest. I feel like this is kind of our culture and our people, and it feels really safe. And so I don't know if we'll be in Omaha forever. I don't see us moving to, like, Hollywood, you know, anytime soon, unless there was an opportunity where it was like, you have to be here. But there's, like, a lot of places on our heart that we feel would be cool. like Chicago is one of them we love Chicago we love Texas we love Omaha you know I don't know

it's like we can stay or I don't know it just feels like until the opportunity it makes sense we're just going to stay in Omaha until we can't because we love it yeah we're both Midwesterners I'm from Iowa and he's from Indiana so I get it the Midwest is different it's definitely different especially with the kid it's like California doesn't it's just a different game out there And it's expensive. It's so expensive and hot. Oh, my gosh. Guys, so one thing about Elise is that she hates hot temperatures. Like, it does not matter. Anything, honestly, anything above 70 degrees is like, this is dog's breath. And I want out. Like, we were talking about this the other day because we've just gotten back, you know,

and in Omaha, it's about 55, kind of rainy this week. And while we were in California, there was ever a lull in the conversation, but even just between her and I, like, we'd know, be driving, like, getting to wherever, and she'd just say, like, man, it's so hot here. Like, every time, and about after the fifth time, I was like, wow, like, you really don't like the keep getting angrier and angrier. Even thinking about it now, I'm, like, so angry. Yeah, like, just, like, so hot. It's, like, it gets that hot.

It was April, and it was, like, 110 degrees. It was 100 degrees, yes. It felt like 210 degrees. Jeez. So, so hot. So, I don't know if you listen to Freakonomics or not, at least, but they did this whole episode about why Florida has the highest crime rate. And part of the reason was because it's so hot.

I'm not kidding. It's like, it makes people angry. It's so uncomfortable. I think that the heat would, I don't know if the heat would absolutely make you a criminal, but I feel like it would. Yeah. Perfect. Yeah.

Yeah, I'm so much. I will say. Yeah. I love so much. Thank you. Yeah. I will say Andrew's the same. If he ever like gets overheated with like his clothes or whatever, he panics.

Oh yeah. And he's like I have to get out of here and he starts like stripping clothes. Yeah. It's like I'm trapped and I'm never going to get out of these clothes. They're going to seal onto my body like like I'm a vacuum sealed piece of meat and I'm never going to escape from this sweater. Yeah. My hell could be described as, like, putting me in a full-on suit and then just putting me in the middle of a hot street. Like, that would be the worst thing.

Just, I'm sweating in a nice piece of clothing. Dude. It's humid. It sounds like the worst thing ever. We went to a wedding. When was this? This was when I was, I wasn't pregnant anymore, right? No, no, just recently.

I think it was after, I think, I think we had out August. I don't think you were pregnant anymore. So I, I, we were sitting on the grass and it was, I could. hear my hair growing like out my hair's early it was so hot and so humid i was sweating so bad that like i was dripping down on the chair and i could i could like hear my hair just slowly like going up and there was like no water and and then they did the thing where like the they like released the people so slowly after because the bride and green wanted to like say hi to everybody yeah it was not a good situation i could like feel the the sweat rolling down my back

but there was just no breeze you know like when it's a hot day there's no this is like the whole so i'm like sharing way too much information about how sweet we got well okay sorry and i have like this saying because we're both sweaters which is gross i probably shouldn't share that um heavy sweat but we always say like going over the edge like there's this like there's this fine line where you can be hot and kind of like perspiring but then all of a sudden you go too far and you are just dripping there's no return there's no return like hair's greased back your face personality is gone you are horrible it's like you go from like tapping your face to just like smearing it yeah yeah it's so worse just ripping the whole skin off just my flesh suit off of me yes I'm like I want to go bury myself into a thing of soil now. That's how I feel

about heat. Yes. So, Elise, every single person in the world knows who you are now. Pretty much. I don't feel like that's actually an exaggeration. Oh, perfect. Yes. And they know you sweat

now. How has that been for you guys? You have literally become one of the most famous TikTokers, but also just, like, comedians and personalities out there. How has it, like, affected you and your relationship and your family? How has it been digested for you guys? It's, um, it has been.

What were you doing to your lip? I just ripped a piece of skin off. Are you okay? Are you bleeding? Oh, it's all good. I'm like a nervous picker. Do you guys do that? Yes.

hold please i need to get a piece of tissue oh my gosh is she actually bleeding oh my gosh that's not funny that sounds painful all right jonas while she's gone i'm curious how did you propose to alice yeah so i so it was so this the weekend she moved up to omaha from dallas and i was like gonna i was like okay i'm gonna bring into a sunrise

and like we're going to take her to this lake, watch the sunrise with her, there's like this fountain there, and then afterwards we know these people that own a coffee shop right, like right close downtown, Omaha, and I'll go down there, and I had the owner write, will you marry me on the cup, and then on one answer, or on another cup say yes or no, and I was going to propose and then go and like have them give her the cups and the coffee and stuff and had a friend with photographer and stuff there wanted to do it just us because i didn't know if elise would be like passing out passing out or like crying and like i don't want photos like that so early morning it was it was uh it was labor day yeah it was labor day weekend

or memorial day weekend yeah yeah because it was in may and we uh so we got up super early I drove her and I was super nervous and when I get nervous Elise calls it my Robocop mode where I'm like kind of edgy and a little bit like just like irritated it can see me the focus very focused yeah so I'm like driving and she's like hey like how's it going day two of living in Omaha just moved up to be with me

and she's like everything okay and I'm like yeah yeah like we just have to we have to get there so we can see the sunrise and all this stuff. We have to get to this fountain. And I'm like, and you're like, we have to see the sunrise from this fountain. And I'm like, we can see the sunrise from the car, like right here. We're looking at the sunrise. We have to get there?

And she's like, have you ever been there? And I'm like, no. So, I'm fine, blood. And I'm like, in the middle of it, you know when you're trying to do something cool and in the middle of it, you're like, this could go very poorly, like that point in Yeah. So we parked downtown, we walk like probably 10 blocks to get there. We get lost. We can't find it. And I'm like, do you know what you're doing? And he's like, no. And I was like, he'll stand right here and watch the sunrise. And he's like, no. And I was like, okay, well, it's rising. It is written.

It's not sure what else we do here. It's just right there. So we get to the lake. The fountain is off. Yeah. So no fountain. So I'm like, this must be it. Like I don't know where else. Yeah. And it's not the type of fountain where there's like a structure that water comes out of. It's just a lake that has little holes that water shoots out of. So without the water, there's nothing. More of a pond, yeah. Yeah, a pond to look at. It was beautiful. Yeah, it was nice. And so we get there, I'm like, okay.

So I'm like, Elise, I love you. Like, I love you. And she's looking at the sunrise. Like, she's not. The dude just raced through downtown Omaha for us to see the sunrise at this fountain. And I'm trying to look at it. And he's like, then distracting me. And I'm like, I'm trying to like honor him by like, I'm like, he really, really wanted to see this.

And then he's like, Elise, I love you. And I was like, I get it. minute okay so i got down on a knee and i was like i will you marry me and she like put her hands on her knees and she was like i think i'm going to throw up oh no that's the first thing great the first thing she said yeah and then he said is that a yes and i said yes and then he said i think i kneeled in goose poop yeah yeah And then that was it. Oh, my God.

Yeah, there we are. And it was good. Like, it felt kind of surreal, but it was a good time. Yeah. Wow. Well, there's, there's a lot of things that went wrong, but the most important thing, you got to dial. Yeah. We get it.

We got engaged. Andrew decided to propose the night before he proposed. Like, it wasn't even like a plan. It was like a, I think I'll do it tomorrow. Why not? Yeah. You said, I'm going to propose you tomorrow? No, yeah.

I didn't. I had zero plans until the night before. And then it was like, I thought you were saying that he proposed. I'm going to propose. I'm proposing that I'm proposing tomorrow. Which I had this thought. Has there ever been a proposal that's not a surprise? Is it the one thing that is always a surprise?

You know what I'm saying? I know that for most people it's not a surprise. I mean, at that point, like, I was surprised because he made it such a, like, I thought he was going to do at the moment I landed. And then I was so depressed, but he didn't that I had a full mental breakdown the day before, basically saying, like, I moved here and this dude doesn't even like me. And then he told me he not wear the one outfit that I wanted to wear. And so I was like, he doesn't like my style. So that's not where my brain is at, but I thought I was going to land and he was going to propose. so usually it's like not a surprise if you're talking about it you've been going ring shopping

which we had yeah yeah yeah okay i would say i knew it was coming i didn't know it was coming that day but yeah same like you have an idea yeah i mean if you're like you want to marry me like if it's happening or not okay so going back to the thing that made you bite a hole in your lip um yes the anxiety side of basically your fandom you guys have created an empire and you're so well known and i know that comes with a lot of pros and cons so just curious how you guys are dealing with that yeah do you want to go do you want to go how about you start i'll go okay um i think it is the most shocking thing to ever happen to us obviously and to me and i'm like i don't know what's going on pretty much any, any point of the day, I, like, have just, like, really bad anxiety and

really weird social anxiety. And so the fact that, like, I can't go anywhere without somebody knowing who I, like, knowing who I am is, like, the, like, terrifying. So it's like, like, today, can I tell you a story that happened literally today? So we're going to a show this week here in Omaha. a big theater musical show and I've learned when I go to these like theaters when there's a lobby and stuff that's prime time for people when someone takes a photo like the whole lobby like if everyone's waiting in this

one space it's over like I will now be like a statue taking photos on night and I love it but also it's like if I'm with people it can get really overwhelming so I tried to call ahead of time because I've learned it's it kind of I was a nightmare. So I called and I'm like, I don't know how to say this. I was like, I'm famous. And that sounds horrible and so dumb. And I need some help because I need you to be able to like put us in a place that I'm not going to be a distraction or like, and this whole thing sounds so dumb that I'm having to even explain this. I'm so embarrassed. The security guard doesn't ask who I am, he just goes, you'll be fine. Do you need anything else? And I was like,

nope, thank you. And I just hung up and I cried. Oh no. So it's like learning just how to present myself and also how to like not take myself seriously. And anyways, it's all so much. It's amazing. That was the first time I heard that story too. Yeah, man, it's been such a wild ride. So all this happened literally like not even a year ago. So it's been like eight or nine months since all of Elisa's social media has taken off. And it's cool. Like I think I think there's a lot of things that are involved in like the fandom and stuff.

But Elisa is so introverted and so anxious internally, but none of that comes across. like externally when you're with her and so like it makes sense it makes all the sense in the world that like people have labeled her like TikTok's best friend because that like as long as I've known you everyone just is like a magnet to you and like feels safe and feels known and feels understood and like and I think because you deal with those anxieties and introvertedness introversion introversion I think is that real thing yeah

like people that feel those things are drawn to you even though because you're like outwardly very welcoming and inwardly very anxious and so it it doesn't I know this sounds weird but like it doesn't

surprise me like all of it has happened it doesn't surprise me because I felt in love with Elise she's my best friend So it makes sense to me why everyone loves her. And so, yeah. And so I think what's cool is to see her thrive in a place where creativity and, yeah, this expression of storytelling and music and all these different things like writing and all these different facets that make up her TikTok are just so accessible. Like it's just crazy that we live in a time that. someone so gifted can actually express everything that she's really, like, capable of doing.

And now it's like, okay, that's always been there, but now people are seeing it. And so, yeah, it's been really cool for me to see her thrive. And the famousness doesn't almost seem real, I guess, because, like, she's doing it from home. And so it's like... It doesn't seem real until we go do something where... we're out in a big crowd and then it's like oh wow like we see we see it and it's like happening at us and to us and around us and we're so overwhelmed but like we're so grateful like i i just struggle because i want to give everything of myself to everyone and i can't and so i get just kind

of like flustered you know but it's been really cool we're we're really just riding the wave and trying to enjoy it and learn through it and it's like it's kind of trial by fire like it's every every new situation that we're put in and opportunity that comes our way um we don't know what we're doing like we've never been guests on podcasts until this season of our life like we've never written books we've never written scripts we've never told stories like this we've never had to do interviews and it's like it's every single new thing it's like well here we go strap in it's it's if it goes badly it'll be a good story and And that's great.

So, yeah. I'm curious going down a rabbit hole here. Your success is, one, because you're so funny and you're such an amazing storyteller. But two, because you're so, like you were saying, you're so relatable. You're literally, like, everyone's best friend because I feel like for so long, social media just serves up all of these, like, I hate to say, like, perfect. people that's just so unrelatable you have all these like teenagers doing these dances where it's like I don't know what you're doing or you have like actresses or you have like what what the

society would say is like perfect people and it's so refreshing to see someone real come to light and show anxiety and like social awkwardness and like anxiety which is something I am very aware of and to see all of this but I'm curious with all of that reading through comments and reading through skeptics and haters, it's almost like society wants to force you out of that and question it and wonder if it's real or fake or whatever. How do you handle the hater side of the success that you've drawn from being a vulnerable person? Yeah, that's a good question.

And I say all the time to Jonas, like, I'm so grateful that this season of our lives and all of this happened when it did. Because if this would have happened to me when I was 18 or 16 or 20, whatever, like, I would have been so, like, broken by the, like, it's just sadness that people want to make you feel from their life, you know? And so I'm really grateful that this all happened now when I have like a son, when I'm married, when I've established who I am, when I've spent years like in therapy and like healing parts of myself that would not have been healthy enough to share with the world until now. And like there is a bit of me that is like always going to need to check myself and my mental health and be very aware of what I'm like consuming, you know, of people's opinions of me. and like it's a fine line between being responsive in my comments and being responsive to the community I've built and and who I'm saying I'm like keeping available to and then not reading so deep down that I'm like getting to people that don't love me and support me and want the best for me and like the cool thing about social media now is that the comments that are like kind just naturally

kind of filtered to the top and so if I don't go shopping for pain down in the bottom of the comments, like, I usually won't find it. I also, it's interesting, I've grown this, like, community of people that are all kind of, like, really socially anxious and, like, a little bit, like, older, I think, and just want a sense of, like, family and belonging and home within their own brains and selves. And so the nature of this, like, community I've built doesn't really lend itself to a lot of hate. And if they do, if it, if that does happen, it's so, let's weeded out of the comments so fast. Like people will, like people find it before I do.

I very rarely ever see people that are unkind, but I'm also not sitting on my phone, Googling myself. So it's like, you have to find a good balance. Can I ask, Jonas, I feel like put it well, but the very quality that makes you popular online is the very quality that

kind of should be the reason that you shouldn't be on, like, you know, like, so why, Why are you creating videos and why do you continue to? It's a good question. So I have always been like a creative person. TikTok was like a creative outlet that I started, did not think anybody was going to see it.

And when people started seeing themselves in my content, like it just became so much bigger than me. It was like I started to see that I could genuinely like add so much value. to people's life and I could open up my life in the parts of myself that I have worked on and grown and healed and like bring people along in it. Like I, it feels almost selfish like to to not share something I know I'm good at that I know brings people joy that I know encourages people and gives people tools to like fight things in their life that I spent so many years wishing I had somebody to come alongside me and

help me like walk through and I just I think that I'm so tired of seeing this like curated online presence I'm tired of seeing people feel like the only way they can show up in the world not even online but just in their lives is like hair done makeup done like showered like do you know like you're like bare a minimum like you don't even do you do that like you can come over to my house smelling you're not showered like your hair's not done you don't have to have any of your life together like and you still have something to say like your voice is important and it matters and you matter and it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside or what you feel like you've accomplished in your

life or not like I just I really want people to understand that the way that I look and the way that I present myself is like not the thing that makes my my voice valuable and me valuable and And the more I can just like be myself, which isn't always going to be crazy hair, right? Like I did my hair for this because I was like, oh my God, I'm meeting celebrities. Like this is crazy. Like it's not always going to be me waking up and like looking like a mess, but it will be me. Like I'm never going to present something that isn't me. And that's really, really important to me.

And the more I can do that, like my anxiety doesn't matter. It's that's white noise. like I just see the purpose in it and yeah I feel like I could talk to you for hours because I feel like you were one of the first creators that you see on like the internet that like me and the girls behind the computer felt seen by and like we pass around your content every day I remember you posted the take a breath with me or whatever oh my gosh we almost like started crying Because it was, it's just like your content, one, gets people's attention because it's funny and it's relatable. But two, you have such good, like, soulful foundations and morals kind of written through the lines and the scripts of everything that you post where it's actually just like, it's good people and it's good content and it's a good influence.

And it's so refreshing and really, really cool to see not only as just like a human, but as a parent and wife, like, it's really special. So please keep doing what you're doing. I will. I absolutely will. Thank you. Jonas, do you consider yourself a comedian as well? No. It's funny, when all of this started taking off, somebody asked me, they were like, oh, so are you going to try to get famous too?

And it wasn't, like, harmful or anything. They weren't like, oh, are you going to try to get famous too, like, angry? They were just like, oh, are you going to try to do something in this space too? And I said, honestly, no, like, a month before everything took off, literally a month before, I, like, we call it retired. And I started staying home with August and staying home full time. And I was like, man, this is like the dream. Like, you know, I started doing that in an effort to release Elise to do what she was doing before, which was web development. And so I was like, no, I'm just pumped to watch.

her thrive and grow and help people in this space I feel like the yeah the comedian thing is funny like you know I started doing some dad jokes on my tic-tok with with August because he laughs at them I haven't done him in a while but it was fun to kind of to be in the space and write comments on Elisa's videos in an effort to support her and like I don't know like our roles are like very different in this but I feel like we're just as much like doing it together as anything we've ever done in our lives. Like, you know, every night, real life is like, is hard.

There are things that are hard in, in everyone's life, right? But for us, like, we get to be there for each other and to support each other. And I get to support Elise in this, like, crazy but cool adventure and get to be kind of like a grounding factor for her. and that's like, yeah, it's just an honor for me to be able to do that. And so, yeah, yeah, I wouldn't consider myself a comedian, but I say like I'm married in. So with all of your, with everything you guys have created as far as like sharing your life on social media goes, have you guys created boundaries or rules within your relationship as far as what you can talk about and what you can share and how it goes with August? and what gets involved within your scripting.

Yeah, I think that for, for at least for me, and it kind of factors into kind of all of our stories, is like if it's not exclusively like my story to share, you know, my experience, like if I'm not sharing information, that would be like sharing someone else's story to tell. Like that's, and that goes into like August. So like if August can't consent to me sharing a story of his, and he grows up to be like an adult and can look back on these stories and is embarrassed because I didn't act couldn't ask his permission for that like that's the hard line for me at least

and then for us like with the boundary of like our relationship like we only really share like little bits and pieces of like our story with like our engagement but we're still so fresh into this that we're kind of learning as we go like there's not a lot that we've set out specifically but a lot of our boundaries have been with our time. So I am always home at, always, I'm 99% of the time. I'm home at bath time. So I end my day at 4 p.m. go home. We have dinner.

We do bath time for August and we put them down. And if I need to be available for work after that, I can be. But that boundary of protecting our family time, like in this industry, I mean, you can be available. 25-8 and that's still like not enough time and like for me to kind of set a boundary of my schedule has been I think the biggest safekeeping of our of our family and the content kind of just happens I don't know I it's kind of an unspoken I feel really safe with what I would share and what I wouldn't and I feel like you maybe yeah do I want to take that yeah I think it's interesting right like Elise has become famous and

by opening up her life and so like it feels like our life is kind of out there for everyone but I think the best way that we've found to protect that is to like in our daily life like our normal things that aren't being shared we're just like constantly working on our friendship and and working on our connection our connection with August and so like if you know if for some reason, you know, a day goes on and Elise feels like I'm upset. It's like we check in with each other and it's like, hey, what's going on? And I feel like because we work so much on our relationship, our friendship and our relationship with August, it protects, like it almost kind of covers a lot of content. And I don't know if there's ever been a time when either of us

have felt like we've like overshared or anything. Like we're pretty conservative in general and what we share on the internet. Like, usually it's about something funny or whatever. Which is funny, because I feel like I share so much, and then I get people still that are like, you're married? Or, like, you have a son? And I'm, like, over here thinking, like, oh, my gosh, what if I'm oversharing?

And people are like, genuinely, most people actually think I'm a lesbian. I still, about 90% of my following thinks I'm gay. And I'm like, I love that you think that I'm a safe space because I am. But I also am a heterosexual woman who is, like, married with a kid. but like thank you so much for your interest i love it but it's like yeah it's just really funny like i'm always shocked at what people um still don't know about us like there's so many holes in our story yeah yeah that's interesting what do you think is your best quality as a comedian alice it's so funny to hear people refer to me as a comedian i like that's never something i was

like i'm going to be a comedian when i grow up um i think I'm interested to hear this answer. I don't know. I think that I am really good at voicing things that everybody thinks but doesn't even know to like say it out loud because it's like by the time I'm saying it, it's already something that maybe you've experienced a lot but just wouldn't even think that anyone else experiences it. You know what I mean? like those kinds of things. I think that's my like niche of comedy is just like I didn't know we could say that out loud, but not in like a fart joke kind of way, like a, why are you mentioning how much

I'm looking into your eyes? Like the eye contact comment makes me now and not know where to look in this conversation. Like those kinds of things. I am giggling because the first thing that came to mind was the coffee creamer. I think you looked in the, yeah, oh my gosh. I lose my right hand on a daily basis. So I just, you vocalize things very well. Perfect.

I want to tell her what I think she's the best. Oh, okay. Can I say that? Because I think you do talk about everyday kind of normal things, but your expressiveness and the way you're able to like fully package that moment and tell a story around it, I think it's unmatched. So kudos to you. Thank you so much.

I have one more question, a big question, and then we want to play a quick game with you guys. Yeah, I love it. If you guys are down for it. So being new into this space and having such incredible success has probably unlocked so many more opportunities for your guys' life

than you could have ever believed up until this moment. So the question would be, was everything that you've achieved now, what is your ultimate career like dream moving forward or do you have one yeah i mean i i see i mean there's so many things that i could say but i think like the overarching arching arching i don't know about that one our oh the the the the big goal here um i i would really love to make like creativity and um like health in the entertainment space just possible for people and so if I can build a business large enough to just employ like a crap ton of people and just

be like can I can you come work for me and I'm like I want to make it the most creative like the healthiest like job you've ever had um so however I really need to do that like if we need to make like a studio people can come and like work out if we need to I see okay. Okay, so you know, like Chip and Joanna Gaines? So I see them mixed with like, you know, retin link from like mythical, good mythical morning, then. So if you like combine those two things, somehow that's like where I see us. Like creative but beautiful and like all these different arms.

So like food, but then also like a creative studio people can come work at. And then also like a coffee shop, but like just like those little things that every. we can just include as many people as we possibly can. That's, like, I think, my goal, which did not answer your question. It did. I love that. Perfect. I love that.

I thought it was going to be like a Netflix documentary, but I like yours way better. Yeah. That'll come. That's all right. It'll happen. That's like, we've got to think bigger than that. Love it. Love that.

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I don't know. Three, one, go. Three, two, one, go. I'm blanking on every celebrity I've ever. You can't say yourself. Yeah. That'd be a hilarious breakfast. I don't know.

You excel in the rapid fire domain here, at least. Oh, yeah, Jimmy Fallon. Jimmy and Nancy. Amazing. The next one's really going to trip you up. Would this be the same celebrity you would want to meet for dinner? That's a weird question. Yes.

Okay. No. I think I would rather meet, I don't know. I feel like dinner with Michael Jordan would be more intimidating than like a dinner with Michael Jordan would be like, how many whiskeys can you shoot down and then smoke a cigar and then replace in basketball? Yeah. It would be like toasted after. sip and then he'd be like I can't play basketball I'd also feel like he'd be sitting there like

yo we just met for freaking breakfast why are we doing dinner together so yeah give me some space give me some space okay what's something fans may be surprised to know about you both answer for each other Jonas you answer for Elise oh that's interesting oh I have Jonas the answer he is an incredible barber like he can do a fade he can cut he has the full ear the apron the like leather bag like the dude could open up a full barbershop right now and he would kill it home top so not licensed it's no but it he could like the only thing standing is like the hours you have to get which is like it's like how many hours uh it's different every state but it's like 1500 or something yeah crazy it's like who's gonna go

do 1500 hours so anyways he's really good at it uh i would say uh i would say something that people might not know is that although Elise makes funny like cooking videos she's actually an incredible cook and baker I would say even better at baker than cook cooking out of necessity baking out of like fun but like a lot of people I think see that as a joke like I'm gonna make cereal or whatever depression meals yeah depression meals but it's like no actually she really knows what she's doing I've learned a lot from her in the kitchen snake love it I don't know why I read that.

This one's for a release. How long does it take to record each TikTok video? How long did it take me to record it? No, like each one. How long does it take? So it takes me a little over an hour per minute that you watch. So to edit, not even to film it. Wow.

So that's not writing or filming. So every minute of, it takes me just on my thumbs with my phone, dragging stickers and setting durations and then I mess it up and then I have to do it. It's like it's hours and hours and hours. People don't realize. Wow. It's a lot. We'd love to see your screen time. You don't want it. It's like, it'll tell me

and I'm just like, I want to throw up. Please stop telling you that. Thank you. Turn off. I know. It would suck as like I would edit on the computer, but each platform is so interesting in that it will only favor content that you make in the app.

And so I can make it in Final Cut Pro, but it's not going to get seen. And I want my content to get seen because I think it's important. And so I'm like, well, I'll just sit for three hours on my floor with my phone. Wow. Love it. What's the last thing you argued about as a couple? Well, we had kind of not an argument, but kind of a stressful morning. I was moving the TV up.

And so because August is at the age where he can grab it now. And so I was moving it up. And August was not happy this morning. and so all he wanted was dad and dad was like i'm gonna move the tv up yeah at least was not super happy with my timing this morning but it's okay that's all right we made it i felt bad for him because i i get to leave the madness if he's screaming i'm like i'm gonna go to work i love you and jonas is like holding august just screaming so i'm like i'm not mad at you you're the one that has to like pacify the situation but i just felt i felt bad that i was leaving him in a mess

but that was another fight we don't we don't really get like into arguments i will just like go quiet like i i don't fight i just i'm like well i'll never talk again it's all good like i guess i feel so guilty and bad that i'm even upset that i'm like that's it for me thank you what's a lot of you guys are you about when was it on the plane yesterday oh yeah I like that you know. I know, I know. She's like, let me pull out my journal. Here we go about it.

So I was going on a trip with my cousin. So I was trying to go on a trip with my cousin, who I love very much. And the plan was to go to Medellin. And I ran it by Sean. And she was like, I don't like that idea. Hold up. Hold up. You're going to be very aware of this because I'm sure you get this.

You know those sketchy emails that just show up? And they're like, I would like to hire you. Please come to X, Y, and Z at this middle of the night location. So he got a really sketchy email to come, to go to Medellin to speak about coffee. Columbia. If you've ever seen Narcos about Pablo Escobar, it's like cocaine capital in the world. And I was like, no, I don't think so. So then he basically tells his cousin anyways.

He's like, we're going. I'll figure this out. And I found out about it. And I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. This ain't happening. So I'm not going to Medellin. Yeah. So end of the story is.

Yeah, no, we already knew that. Yeah, no, you're not going. Yeah, that's not a surprise to anybody here about you. So it's okay. Yeah. This is bad. Okay. Next question.

What's the best quality about your dog? You said the best quality? Yeah. He's actually so stressful. I know. He's made us more active. Yeah. He,

we adopted him at, like, during the pandemic before we wanted to, like, have August. And we were, like, testing the waters of, like, having a kid. And then we decided to throw an actual kid in it. And then we didn't realize Bauer was losing his mind. So he's really, like, not with it, and then cowls all day and all night. Oh, oh, no. It's like he sleeps worse than our baby, and it's like, if you wake August up, we will,

um, it's like you. We'll take you back. We rest, yeah, we'll take you back to where you came from, sir. Um, we won't. Unfortunately, my heart would never. At least could never. I've stopped making that joke because Elise will like, I'll just start crying on the spot.

Literally turn away and cry. And, yeah, so. Yeah, so he's just in it. He's cute Yeah Dude For the first four years Of knowing each other

The dog was the thing we are I love dogs But Sean treats dogs Dogs are royalty Dogs are Higher than humans For me Yeah

No I get it No I get it I get it That is so funny All right What's the worst life advice You've been given That's a good question

Worst life advice I've been given So much bad life advice Um, don't try so hard. Um, um, what else? Like, um, oh, I should go to, I should get my degree, even though I don't want to do it. Horrible advice. We share that. I don't have a degree. Yeah, me either. Do you have a degree? Yeah, he does. I do. one. Yes. Why do I feel freaking bad about it now, Jonas?

The girls are making me feel guilty. I have one. Jonas has a degree. It's okay. It's all right. It's all right. It's like that's going to be like a negative. Yeah.

No, I think like I just, I can't handle when people are like, you need to be in a hundred, $100,000 of debt to have a degree that you're not going to use. I learned it's kind of the honor system. I just told someone I had a degree in a job and they were like, okay. Who did you do that way? I'm not going to say. But yeah, and they were like, great, sounds good. And I was like, you're not going to check?

And they're like, do you want to bring your diploma in? I was like, I could print one offline. I don't know. I could go on an entire rant about that, but a degree doesn't mean you're qualified. No. So it's like, you're also picking a degree before your brain is like going to be developed for like eight more years. Jonas, how are you feeling right now with this conversation, man? It was just four years and a couple hundred grand, right?

Yeah, mine was, well, yeah. This was different. We decided to do the online thing after coming back, and it was like he only had a few, like, online courses basically to finish it up. So this was like he didn't have to do the debt thing. Yeah, and I worked full time as we did it. So it was like a little bit of a non-conventional, which I would, like, I mean, work really well for us.

But, yeah, I wouldn't say, I mean, I'm not using my degree now as a state of home debt. so but it yeah i don't know i'm mixed on it i want to i don't want to like bash it because people are like no need them i want a doctor that has a degree yeah so yeah definitely if you're listening to this and you're a doctor please have a degree thank you don't do the turn off online that one you're not going to be my advice what's the worst advice you've ever gotten from Elise. Just lie. If you don't have it, fake it.

Lie. I don't know. That's a lot of it. Great. What is your favorite quality, Jonas, about Elise? About Elise? Just in general. Anyone.

Favorite quality. I think, I think my favorite quality is that. she is so sweet like people will say like oh you're so sweet or that's so nice or like kind or whatever like that that term gets overused I think but Elise is genuinely like the most pure-hearted this sounds biased but like this is just the reality like she's the most kind-hearted sweetest person that I've ever met and like just like knowing like the anxiety that she wrestles with and things that she's already talked about, like, she has every reason not to be that way, but she has,

like, that's why I call, on a lot of her comments, I'll call her brave one. Like, that's why she's brave to me, is that she has chosen to stay sweet and to stay just this beautiful person inside a mountain, so. Very nice. Yeah, I love you. I love you. All right, yeah, it's your turn. Yeah, okay. My favorite quality of Jonas is, so I was always told as a kid that I either had to choose between a guy that was really like, really, like, manly, like, tough guy or a guy that was really sensitive.

Like, I couldn't have both. And so I just had a million people. I'd be like, you have to pick. You can't have both ways. And when I met Jonas, it was like, I can't believe anyone ever convinced me of that. Like, he is this, like, strong, tall, like. Buff like all the dude. I'm like oh my god all the muscles Wow, but then like he like is so generous and like so kind and Genet like genuinely like you he would drop everything and like go help somebody if they needed it and like

He would open up his life and his home and his finance like everything and he's just like And you've gotten softer too as like we have have been married where now he's like okay. I won't make the joke about Bauer like it's it's just so cool like he he's both and I I I really, really respect that because I think that there is such strength and, like, vulnerability and being somebody that isn't so, like, tough that they can't, like, hurt with people and love people and be there with people in the trenches. And, like, I love that his masculinity doesn't get in the way of him loving people well. Love it. Man, I'm excited for you guys.

I look at how things have unfolded for both of you over the past year. And I think it's, like, one, just very good. for the internet and for people on the internet but also your approach and how you interact with each other and how you view the industry and what you're doing it's it's very rare and i think it's like part of the reason for your success but also will lead to so much more success because it's like just more sustaining it's more healthy and approachable and so i'm i'm pumped for uh for what's next for you guys. Honored that you took the time to join us today.

And I hope we can continue our friendship. We're coming to Des Moines, Iowa, this weekend. So right up the road. What? Are you serious? Yeah. We should hang out. Dude, we're going to be there Thursday through Sunday.

I'm not going to, we should connect. Okay. We would love that. Okay, great. Yes. Anyway, well, we'll take care of that after we end this episode. But for those listening who, would you like to give me your cell phone number? Anyways, here's my address.

For those listening who want to find out more about Elise and Jonas, we'll link their information down below. I would highly recommend checking them out. Lease tells stories like you wouldn't believe in a way that is just so amazing. And Jonas, you'll find creeping in the comments. So anyway, thank you for the time. And we'll see you next time.