Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 192 | Is baby here yet? And other pregnancy q+a

Episode Date: November 29, 2023

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When you're with Amex Platinum, you get access to exclusive dining experiences and an annual travel credit. So the best tapas in town might be in a new town altogether. That's the powerful backing of Amex. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more at Amex.ca. what's up everybody welcome back to couple things with Sean and Andrew a podcast all about couples and the things they go through guys D-Day is quickly approaching can you believe it no I'm getting I was

like dude it's almost November it's November tomorrow that's crazy which means like we're a month away I know I was also thinking I mean that's crazy we're coming on on four years of this podcast that's crazy i'm freaking 32 years old that's crazy we have a four year old how do we have a four year old i don't know man life life is just moving quickly oh it's moving really fast don't forget to stop and smell the roses i know i know um you guys have requested this episode for a while we did one a long time ago and thought we would bring it back which is just a q and a you guys had a lot of really Really, really, whoa, really, really good questions about parenting, marriage, motherhood, getting ready for baby, all of it.

Let's put the asterisk in there now. We don't have any of this figured out, but we'll tell you what we're going through and how we're getting through it. We used to do Q&As much more than we do now, and I miss them, to be honest. They're always really fun. We've done a couple on the main channel, and all the questions were about pretty much how often do we get... Jiggy with it while you're pregnant.

That's pretty much the full theme of that video. No, I feel like that's the question, pregnant or not. That's all people want to know. It's like there's more to life, you know? Like, we enjoy that part of it. Every day. All right, let's go ahead and dive into it, shall we? So these are all from Instagram.

Thank you for partaking. Yes. We had thousands come in within like minutes. It was wild. If you didn't know, if you just listened to us on a podcast, first of all, that's really interesting to think about. How did you come across? Sean and Andrew if it's just on podcast.

But we're also on YouTube, which is my favorite. Instagram is Sean's favorite. TikTok. Facebook, TikTok, email newsletters. We're everywhere. Thank goodness that we have people to help us do that. Anyway, so these are from Instagram. First up, you said you're about to have your first child.

What's the best advice you've gotten for the dynamic shift within marriage? this person is about to have their first child your world's about to be rocked um I would say what's the best advice we've been given for the dynamic shift not to be like I don't I don't mean to be negative with this I don't think anybody gave us any advice

or warned us that there would be a dynamic shift within our marriage before our first baby people generally say wow it changes everything like you just did yeah but specifically I think that it's different being married to a mom and what I mean by that is my wife who was like previously just my best friend pretty much and you know romantic partner the whole thing

now became like her focus and intensity of love was channeled towards a child and so she's like you know Sean displayed that through being super scheduled being routine oriented uh very routine she wasn't like there would be certain things that i felt like would have been a conversation in a past life but with a child she's like she shuts it down absolutely not i'm not going to entertain that she's you're probably like that same way with me where just more like hey don't hold the baby like that and it comes off it's like okay wow

you know it's a little jarring yeah and then also it's fascinating within marriage and within a friends group, like the lifestyle differences and preferences really get exaggerated and highlighted, I feel like. So if you're into holistic medicine, that really displays itself when you have a child. Or if you're routine oriented, like Sean and I, that really displays itself when you have a child. So those are some of the more specific ways that your life changes, as well as the identity change that you go through individually. So Sean, became a mom that's like a big identity shift like that's like that's thing near immediate and then you if if your husband like i was uh you go through this shedding of yourself almost is how i describe it

where you're like okay i'm not golfing with the boys i remember before we had drew it was our schedule beforehand was like andrews hanging out with the guys and we i was doing that was my quick video game phase with some of the guys and you lose that and so it's a like this big identity shift your time changes how you know what your focus on changes it is really like walking into another phase of life i think i've had the same i've had the same meltdown with every kid around like the 30 two three week mark where i just start crying because i remember with Drew, I had this fear of Andrew is my best friend. He is my partner in crime, everything. And I was like, I'm afraid of what another person within our family will do to that dynamic.

And I have that same fear with every baby. I'm like, how is it going to change us? And I think the greatest piece of advice I could give you guys is understand that things change. Understand that like your dynamic is going to change but look at it as going back to your dating face like get to know you're now husband who's now a dad get to know your wife who's now a mom start dating again court each other don't forget that you're still husband and wife because i feel like a lot of times you can get consumed by being just mom and dad yeah there's a lot of shifts that happen all right next what is your love language at the moment and has your love language changed over time for those who don't know the love languages are acts of service words of affirmation physical touch gift giving

and quality time do you want to answer for each other sure i think sean's love language right now is uh physical touch what do you think mine is words of I think you're right. Yeah. But I kind of think they've kind of always been that. I don't know if they've changed a lot. I feel like I've needed it more

in margin of affirmations. I feel like it's shifted. I feel like quality time was big, but I wonder where that happened. I'm totally good with it. Life has been interesting. It's been jarring, and I feel like I have lost a lot of people

that used to just subtly give me words of affirmation. Yeah. So I need that more from you. me just solely one and i need to diversify my i don't know i think things just change or enhance over time because what life looks like changes over time so i'm always the same i just need more comfort now i just need you to like hold me tell me it's going to be okay yeah um okay what daily habits do you do that have been or had a huge impact on your life wow let me try to just deconstruct our day here we haven't done a day in the life in a long time by the way

we haven't we should well our day in life is about to drastically change yeah um I would say one of my favorite things that we've implemented over the years that I love that we do every day is what we call Bev time and I think this is more for like parents but it could be for any couple After we put the kids down at night, so like our day has been consumed by work and kids and being mom and dad, after we put the kids down, we come downstairs and we sit around our table and share a drink of some kind of, whether it's like you get a glass of water, whatever. And we spend like 10 minutes or more just kind of debriefing our day, talking to each other as husband and wife, going over anything that we haven't shared with each other yet from the

day or get prepared for the next day but it's like our time to connect yeah what do they say you need 90 minutes a week of connection to keep a marriage healthy so that's 70 right there yeah it's it's it's gone a long way um honestly I think I I I wake up at like 5 530 and we'll usually listen to a sermon used to wake up at like seven and we used to turn on the today show like every day every day this was 10 years ago and i think the sermon has made a big change because it just it's like a more profound way to wake up your day than just get a deluge of negative information you know and you're like oh okay i like the the heady thoughts of a sermon i like you know the idea of thinking about God as opposed to

tragedies of the world and I think that's made me a better dad and husband as opposed to me coming in stressed right out the gate Yeah You good? Yeah I feel like the news used to stress us out so much And so we got rid of it

I would also say Without us knowing that we do this I'm realizing that we do this Which is we have coffee every single morning But only one person makes coffee and whoever that is makes coffee for both people. So whoever goes over to the coffee machine always makes coffee for both andrew and I.

Not a third party. I don't know how to make that make sense. But I think being able to share coffee together and bring it to one another each morning has been really special. It's like a small olive branch to start today. So like if I go over to the coffee machine, I'm making coffee for me and Andrew

and I get to take it to him and it's special. There's a ton of daily habits. have though Sean and I are very routine-oriented and I've embraced it I used to think I was like a free-for-all but I never was you never were next question do you ever worry about middle child syndrome with having three kids this person wants three kids but they're anxious about the middle child syndrome which is believing that middle children don't receive as much attention and thus they act out what is the Lord teaching you both in this season is the final part of that question. I'm a middle child. I'm the middle of five. I freaking love middle children. I think we're

the most well-balanced and well-rounded. Are you saying this about yourself? Yeah. No, just generally. I think we're the most well-balanced people. I think most intellectual. I've never worried about that in my life. I don't think I'm worried about middle child syndrome. I I'm feeling the same fear with Jet right now that I felt with Drew when Jet was on the way, which is I just don't feel like I've had enough one-on-one time with him. And I know he's going to get less time because of another kid. Same with Drew. She's going to get less time because there's another kid. And he's my baby right now.

So to see that like another baby is going to replace the baby role scares me. And honestly, I feel like of all children that could handle being. a middle child, Jet is well positioned. He's like super independent. Actually, Drew is very independent as well, but Jet can just go play on his bike for an hour and a half.

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This promotion is yours. Go get them. Starbucks. It's never just coffee. Hold on. We didn't answer the second part. Oh, what is the Lord teaching us both in this season? Honestly, so I just started my PhD and they say like... Okay. I don't know. I'm going to say that. No, I'm going to say that at least 80 times.

I'm not calling you dot. They say that that's an interesting degree to get because you realize the boundaries and the limits of your own knowledge. And I feel like I've learned that in my brief time starting that. degree but also I've learned my limits in life as a whole. I used to try to I mean by used to I mean like two months ago up until two months ago my entire life until two months ago. I feel like I need to be the best at everything physically financially intellectually father husband and that is impossible to do is what I'm realizing now at the age of 32 and I don't know there's something peaceful coming to terms with the fact that you can't do it all you know and it's like it's

humbling you got to just kind of look at yourself in the mirror and be like you can't do it you can't do it and that hurts sometimes but that's what I'm learning I think I am learning more and more with each kid since we're on our third I feel like with our daughter with our first I felt like my fists were like so tight I would like clench control so hard. I wanted to control absolutely everything. I wanted to protect her. I wanted to control her

milestones. I wanted, like, everything. I just wanted to be in control of the situation. You have a second kid. You kind of loosen the reins a little bit. And I've just kind of gotten to this point where I'm like, you know what? I'm going to take a deep breath. I'm going to pray for you. I know

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You're so loud. I am pretty loud. And you're just like a giant, giant goofball. And there was a season of life where I tried to, like, tame it. And now I'm like, no. It's really cute. I love it. I love it.

I can always tell when Sean gets excited because I usually get myself in more ridiculous situations than you. But you're always very excited that I'm still alive and have a story to tell. And whenever we're telling that story, you're always excited to tell that story for me, even if you weren't there. And I used to get annoyed by that. But now I'm like, no, she's just excited too. And I appreciate that. I love you. I love you.

if you don't mind sharing how has your experience with grief been in this season after losing Andrew's dad is grief tougher for you around the holidays I mean TBD this is we're 10 months into this thing I guess so this is the first full holiday season

that we'll go through we'll keep you update on that but I don't know I mean I don't know it's hard to talk about because it's such an ambiguous thing that is simultaneously like something that I think about often

but also not really I don't really like think about in a concrete way like I don't think about how sad I am you know it's like people die you move on you gotta keep doing it I gotta keep waking up and being a dad

and a husband and doing the things but there is like this under maybe undercurrent of slight melancholy maybe like a little more seriousness toward the life responsibility

it's been interesting to see how people around me have also grieved which has almost then increased my need to be responsible so but yeah I don't know

I don't know how you talk about grief it's hard I think I'll say this since I am like one step removed I feel like I've been able to witness a lot more and like being your wife who knows that like my husband lost his father I've been able to kind of I think more objectively witness the situation and grieve differently but I think something that's been really really cool and powerful that has helped you grieve

in your whole family and your siblings is that you guys are so close that you're so concerned about each other in the grieving process that you're constantly checking in with each other. Like you're noticing when someone's taking a new hobby a little too seriously and you're like, is this because of dad or is this something new? And you're noticing changes in your oldest brother who's just like changed in such beautiful ways

and become like such an amazing leader and it's really cool and I think you guys are so hyper aware of each other that it's helped you through the grieving process and you're so concerned about mom and that I think it's caused you all to reflect more on yourselves as well wow I was really well said I haven't thought about that

I appreciate you saying that though I think it's been the same too with all of the wives like we've really checked in on each other checked in on our like our husbands been able to have that line of community with each other like oh my Andrew had a hard time talking about this today and we can kind of converse and be like I think that's because of dad you know JD or guys doing the same thing or whatever it's it's just having that community of family that's really helped us it still blows my mind that like

everyone has someone close to them that has died and then we're all kind of just walking around this earth with a little bit of sadness you know It's like, but people keep it going. But it makes joy so much better. Having experienced loss and grief and sadness because it becomes redefined. It's not a material. It's like, it just makes it better.

And the question about, is it tougher on the holidays? There have been milestones all year that, you know, normal family vacations or new babies or whatever that have been tougher but it's also given us more chances to be like dang dad I miss you I love you and we'll all get to laugh about what dad would be doing right now or it's made us to appreciate it

yeah okay next question how did you find your post athlete identity and purpose again trial and error in a lot of time community therapy and just like you're re-finding a passion that has consumed your life so you have to realize it takes a lot of time we're not refining it you're like burying one passion yeah and having to find a totally new one trying to fill a void i'm pretty excited we're actually just about to finish a documentary about sean's post-olympic journey to date one that i didn't know existed and i have yet to see so it's really well produced so you're excited regardless i don't know i would

say this everything outside of athletics when you're an athlete feels really abstract and kind of unexciting and uh less tangible than athletics did it's like you sit there you move on to a job and you're like what do you mean i'm going to make x amount of money to sit at a desk and send emails for a day when you're used to like the physical labor of running or flipping or moving weights whatever it is for you it just doesn't feel as like exciting or worthwhile you know um so there's that just acknowledging that but also embracing the fact that you have a wonderful brain that you've been given and then the other thing is realizing that you've spent years and years of practicing day in a day out to finesse to the ultimate degree your sport right and like making tweaks to how you're

holding the baseball or how you're doing your volleyball grip whatever it is um and the next thing you do you have not practiced as much as what you just transitioned out of you have not you have not practiced your finances as much as you practiced football um and so you're just not going to be as good at it. So realizing that you're kind of regressing and starting a new journey that you can, that you can practice a lot. I am realizing we have so many questions. So I'm going to cut us both off. Let's do rapid fire. Rapid fire. Next one. How do you let each other know when you are in the mood or not in the mood? And how do you deal with the lack of physical intimacy and pregnancy? Wow. Too soon. Too soon. I really struggle with this because my love language is physical

whether it's in like the out-out-ow way or not it I struggle with it and I just get uncomfortable I don't feel myself I want to be able to connect on a physical level but it's just not there I would just say a lot of communication a lot of communication we know people that like candles or whatever do like a sock on the door or whatever it is yeah I don't know um shan and i have just gotten the past the bashfulness of hey should we throw down and we kind of we kind of call naked time different things so it's like hey you know should we should we do this right now or not and it approaches it in a funny way so yeah uh and then the lack of physical intimacy it's tough it's phase you got to go through it so you do it you just go through it next question What are the most helpful things the husband can do when their wife is postpartum? Sometimes it feels like I don't know how to help when my wife has a baby, but I really want to. I respect it, dude. I think it changes daily. I think it changes weekly.

So I think the best thing you can do is ask. Outside of that, little things around the house. Try to, like, help with laundry or clean dishes or whatever. But I think ask her. Because I think it's going to change a lot. I actually disagree with you as the husband. I think without asking, use the five love languages and try unasked each of those things. Like, unprompted, bring homeflowers and see what she thinks and they'll start a fun conversation.

Or like ask or give her back rub and it'll prompt a fun conversation or do the dishes without being asked. and then go from there if she was like hey that meant a lot or like wow that was so special do a little bit more of that I also think too you're gonna pick up trends of like for me it was around the 5 o'clock time every day with Jeth that I struggled so like find the vulnerable times and see how you can take weight off of her then

does that make sense yeah I also think expressing your desires so like hey babe I know that it's tough with the baby but I would love to have a date night with you even if it's a half hour outside the house maybe you bring the baby maybe you don't but like expressing that desire that you have to want to connect and to show that she's

loved you got this though dude um next question can you give advice on how to be friends with someone who has an opposite parenting approaches you that's tough oh parenting gets complicated we're just on this precipice I feel like

it's hard because the relatability kind of goes out the window when you have different parenting styles. But I think the best thing you can do is throw out judgment, throw out any type of like, how could you possibly do it this way? And just let people be and do parenting the way they want to and try to find common ground somewhere else. And also it does lend itself to curiosity. Like, oh, interesting. Like, can you tell me about why you feed them that formula instead of this?

one or whatever it is not with not with like the back in being well you're doing it wrong and I heard that that's going to give them you know a lower IQ or whatever it is it's just like a curiosity and that you know we have actually in full transfer and we have found this to be very difficult um I feel like that is kind of it's kind of polarizing it kind of separates friends when you parent completely different because usually your schedule are different usually what you're feeding your kids is different usually how you're interacting with them or where you're taking them your conversations about venting with what just happened as a parent everything kind of is opposite and trying to find common ground to relate on and to like

converse about is difficult yeah let's go back to the first question it's like styles really get exaggerated during parenting and it's hard to reconcile those especially when you're so invested in your own style and like you've done the you've read whatever articles and books and like you think that's the right way and then they're doing it differently and maybe we your kids are playing and and they're teaching and parenting your kid in their different way it's like territorial it's interesting uh would love your take on this listening anyway next question do you have a favorite bible verse that has really stuck with you um the bible verse i have tattooed on my arm

God grants grace to those who are humble in my interpretation. I love that because I interpret it as just like there's nothing more important than humility. And I mean that in the sense of God. Like being humble under God in every situation I think is really important. I like that. Honestly, this is not that deep, but it's affected me. Matthew 210 talks about the wise men Finding the Star Bethlehem

When they're trying to find Jesus And they say When they saw the star They rejoiced with the exceedingly great joy I don't know I think about where people try to chase joy And it's like building a business Or getting a six pack

Or making a million dollars It's like no there's only There's only so many things They can give you joy Then there's only so many things They can give you great joy There's probably in my mind only one thing that can give you exceedingly great joy.

What does that even feel like? Well, I think that honestly ties into the one that I was saying, which is just like being humble in every situation of like, I'm not deserving, I am not entitled, I am not, I can't expect, like being humble to whatever he's teaching me. I think is really important. That's really good. Okay, that's James Forrex.

Sorry, last thing. The other one is Isaiah 428 says that God will not share his glory, which is just dope. Like, you can't, nothing touches the glory of God. Yeah. Sorry, those are theological thoughts. Go ahead. On to the next question, which is jolting. When you got married, did you combine finances into joint accounts, or do you each have your own?

If you guys haven't listened to the episode yet. With Rachel Cruz, yeah. With Rachel Cruz, you should listen to it. she has amazing insight in this. It was kind of a no-brainer for us. We combined everything. No, no, we didn't actually. We have access to the same bank accounts.

Everyone has access to all the bank accounts. But I still had my bank account. You still had yours. And then we had the, like the, I guess, business one, which was shared. So we unofficially combined everything. We didn't, like, delete this bank account. or close out one and open up a new one. And, like, make new ones.

No, we still had separate. I think in my mind, they feel combined because it wasn't like a, only I can use this credit card or deposit into this account. Like, we shared everything 50-50 from day one. We had conversations about pre-nups. We had conversations about all these things.

And to us, it was like, no, we're getting married. what's mine is yours let's figure out how to do finances together because we're doing life together yeah obviously there are certain situations where like maybe it makes sense to have a pre-nup generally I would say

when in doubt Sean and I are not in favor of pre-ups there are certain situations but the reason being is because also Sean and I came to the table with similar situations more or less. But the reason we're not in favor generally

is because the end of a story really does color in the journey that it got to get to that story. If you start separate, that doesn't help your story. And maybe the fact that you have to untangle all the finances is enough of a hurdle to make you push through that last conflict.

or something you know what i'm saying and it it takes away leverage of any kind it takes away any dangling fruit of like oh but i still have this you know you don't like it it it wipes the slate's clean it's not easy i've gone on several tans about this but i think sean is one of i don't know maybe 300 girls on the face of the earth that i could have married probably more to be honest but the fact that i said your pool was that big huh wow but the fact that we just looked at each other said no you're the one that i'm going to commit to made all the difference in her becoming the one we did a whole episode in that but anyway okay next question it says don't mind me asking but would you ever get your tubes tied or would Andrew ever get a vasectomy after baby

three we haven't really thought about it yet I've had brief conversations? Probably a vasectomy. That's crazy to think. I mean, I guess that's a phase of life we're in where we're past, we're almost past having children. I know. Which is wild. Yeah, we've had conversations around a vasectomy.

Andrew has said, yeah, I'm down. Wow. I would probably say vasectomy over tubes tied. I don't know enough about either, but vasectomy seems more quicker.

Yeah. Yeah. How many people work for your company and help run your business? 10 to 12, I always forget. It's hard to count, including Sean and I, I don't know. But we have a wonderful team. We're immensely grateful for them. Like we talked about, we're on a lot of different platforms,

and that's strictly because we have many generous people who help us. And I don't know, we've kind of built like a little organization. I hope that we've done a good job doing it. We don't know what we're doing, but we're learning on the fly. And I'm proud to say I feel like everyone is like family. We love them. We trust them. Yeah, it's like a family here, which we love.

We've had fun learning about this whole thing. Transitioning out of our athletic careers. Next up. Any tips on balancing your time between work, kids, spouse, activities, friends, etc.? Yes, I have tips. Go ahead. Prioritize them first. then distribute your time

based off of the priorities. Like if work is number four on your list, you shouldn't be spending the most amount of time with work. Yeah, I think that's probably not the case for most people. I just mean like... Honestly, I think

having a physical calendar is probably the best advice I could give and making time for each of those things. So if you have to be at work from 9 to 5 you put that in your calendar and then you say okay well the kids wake up at 7 I can be with the kids from 7 to 8 30 and I can drop them off on Monday Wednesday Friday

and you put that in your calendar and then you say I'm gonna go on date night on Thursday night you put that on your calendar I'm gonna take the kids on a daddy daughter date on Wednesday put that in your calendar and then that really does reveal your priorities that Sean's talking about I totally agree with that because most of us work 9 to 5

we even work 9 to 5 Monday to Friday but and so our time time technically is weighted heavier and work, but we make sure that our weekends are protected around kids. We spend every waking second with them. We get them up in the morning. We make sure to kiss them good night at night. Like it's prioritize your time and make sure you have time for all of it. You schedule it in. Last thing, we're also in a phase where, yeah, the priorities are kids probably spouse kids

work friends and activities in that order does that seem right? Yeah there's a lot of overlap with us because we work together so we're together a lot I would put friends over work only because

every year when we sit down to our goal settings and like do our calendar we're going to fill in our friends and community stuff before we fill in work I agree but with the last couple months us trying to film enough content to get Sean and I on paternity leave. That's what I'm saying. You goofball.

You goofball. Last, if you could launch any big project, what would it be? Wow, we just had this big discussion. Nothing. And that's hard to say. We're not usually the no big project type of people. But right now, the priority is the family. This baby.

So nothing. I feel like we're being more intentional with this third child than we have been. just because we've learned so much, but we're really trying to protect maternity and paternity leave. We're trying to protect the holidays. We're trying to give ourselves the greatest chance of success living in the moment and enjoying what could potentially be our last infant. And trying to give enough space to still be with our other two kids

and truly enjoy that. this goes back to the um what have we learned and it's like our limits yeah we've had opportunities to take over multi-million dollar companies for pennies on the dollar and run them and as much like recently as much as we want to do that and as a penny as that sounds you see the dollar signs in your eyes um and this is much credit to sean we've fortunately had enough mentors or people pouring into our lives like the chin I remember him talking about. They had twins and every picture that they took, he's on the phone in the background.

He's like, I wish I didn't do that. We've heard enough of those type of stories where it's like, this is a precious phase, these next five years of life. Drew will be nine. This baby will be five. And those first five, if you have kids, you know those first five years, every day is different. Every day is changing. And every day matters. It kind of slows down after that point.

So we'll see what happens. But like, we want to embrace this one. I will say to add to that, what's a project we're excited to launch. It's nothing new. It's been in the works for a really long time, but I am getting really excited about it. Is Andrew and I are writing a book together. Oh, yes. And it's something, it's a topic we both really, really believe in.

And we're really excited to share with you maybe in a year. Probably longer. Probably longer. It's super, I mean, we'll tell you more. we've already alluded to it on several podcasts but it's like very hard to communicate properly this concept but I think it could change everything if it is communicated well so we're finessing I think to our longtime listeners and followers you'll understand the connection the theme so anyway thank you for listening thank you for the questions

and we're thankful for you honestly there's a million podcasts you'd be listening to this one is it's special to Sean and I because it helps us connect we help that it helps you and whoever you're listening with connect we've heard so many wonderful stories of that being the case and so you know we could make it this high stakes political interview and get a million of views but we don't want to do that we just want to drive connection so if you thank you for submitting all your questions um I think we'll probably do another one when we come back from maternity and paternity leave to answer all your questions you have about the next baby um thank you for listening if you listen this far you haven't rated the show or

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