Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 217 | how i met my husband (part 3)

Episode Date: June 12, 2024

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When you're with Amex Platinum, you get access to exclusive dining experiences and an annual travel credit. So the best tapas in town might be in a new town altogether. That's the powerful backing of Amex. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more at Amex.ca. what's up everybody welcome back to a couple things with Sean and Andrew dating edition wow that was a strong start baby real attention grab it's back to the dates we'd again second try was just as good as the first what's up everybody welcome back to a couple things I'm Andrew

and I'm Sean we are talking about our dating journey That's right. What are we on episode four? This is episode three, version 2.0. And we're going to tell you how I took Sean home to meet my parents, spend time with my siblings, all four of them. On technically like the second date. Yeah. I mean, we got after it pretty hard.

We dove right in there. I fell in love. You fell in love. Hearts were flying. Hearts were full. To summarize, if you guys hadn't caught the first couple episodes of this, basically. I met Andrew's brother in London during the Olympics.

We went on our first, quote, blind date in L.A. In my mind, I was like, this guy's too good to be true. Quarky, cute. Not sure. Not sure how this is ever going to work because we live across the country

from each other. So you decided in response to that, don't talk to him for nine months. Pretty much, pretty much. I was figuring out my life. I was figuring out my life. Nine months later, Andrew invites me to

Nashville I say yes I'm still like I don't know we're both juggling options at the moment how many options you had at the time with like five I don't remember it's all a blur now too many I get to Nashville and I fall in love literally we spent several days here going to the CMA fest yeah and it was fantastic we also and I just remembered this just pulled up the picture we also went to John Butler trio at the Ryman that was my first yeah that's my first my first It smelled so bad. John Butler Trio is kind of like a fokey band. People were smoking so much.

If you're listening to this and you're a John Butler Trio fan and I just misclassified it, please forgive me. But they play, this guy has like long fingernails the guitar. What was that big? The Dejaredo. Dejuridu. Didgeridoo? Yeah.

Anyway, I used to have dreadlocks and wear a poncho. I feel like I'm not saying the right words I don't think that didgeridoo didgeridoo didgeridoo um wait what speaking of which yeah now that we got everybody caught up yeah I want to use the degeridoo as a didgeridoo you don't know that that's for sure you don't either let's look it up it's not degeridoo let's look it up here we go didgeridoo I think it's a didgeridoo you're saying it like I'm saying it now no here we go you ready

wait did you redo that's what I said that is not what he said you said you said didgeridoo I said didgeridoo I said didgeridoo

I want to recap our last week since we last jumped on here and recorded an episode by the way it seemed like everyone enjoyed our last episode. I enjoyed the last episode. We talked about the gymnastics competition, which is, it's a rare, rare thing to get Sean to open up and talk about that stuff. I will say there's a lot of comments. It seemed like most people agreed with you on the Simone issue, which is fine. Okay? It's fine. I get it. Thank you. Back to the DeJarid. We have great followers.

The what, Andrew? The didgeridoo? You said Dejory do. I, I, in middle school, now I don't want to, I don't want to be arrogant and just flaunt my accolades here, but in middle school, I was first chair trumpet, okay? Now listen. In eighth grade, I know. Eighth grade. It's a big deal. I know. How old are you in eighth grade? I know. How old are you in eighth grade? I don't know, 13. How old are you now? Did I peak at age 13? How old are you now? 32, babe. I was first chair trumpet. I was actually really, really good. I really enjoyed it in retrospect. I didn't at the time. I played the obo. I had braces. And as soon as I got

my braces removed in eighth grade, you know, you used like a mouthpiece with the trumpet. So when I lost my braces, I didn't have the same experience on the mouthpiece. Does that make sense? The whole thing was different. So I actually plummeted. I mean, it was one of the greatest falls in middle school band history the mouth feel I went from first chair trumpet to I think legitimately last chair within that week so what happened this week braces so I've been getting into mariachi music it is is it's it's it's it's it's it's a singing since. This is literally what I live with.

No, okay. Since Cinco de Mayo, I've been playing mariachi. Since Cinco de Mayo, I've been listening to Marriacci music. I don't know what it is about it, but it makes me feel like I'm a vacation. I don't understand all the words that they're saying, which is also kind of nice. But there's trumpets and guitars. Everyone's really excited. There's one song called, me gusto much.

And that's all they say. me gusto much And that just goes like that It's like Are you going to bring this story around? Yes, I'm getting there So Marriacha music has trumpets and guitars

And I was remembering like Wow I used to be so good at the trumpet A lot of joy Oh my God And so I ordered trumpet And it just so happened to come in On an evening

Where Sean had a really bad migraine And wind and Instruments and migraines don't really go. I almost murdered. I almost. That was almost your last day here on Earth. I'm trying to relearn the trumpet. I literally, we just got done putting the screaming toddlers to bed.

I'm glad we could laugh about it. I came downstairs and I'm cleaning up the kitchen doing dishes. And I'm not kidding. I saw Andrew go to the front door, pull out a box, open this box, and pull. pull out a freaking trumpet and I was like this is his last day on earth it is his last day what did he proceed to do I learned taps played it yeah you played no you didn't play taps that first night Andrew you played freaking twinkle twinkle little star yeah it was rough and I was picturing the different ways that you were going to go to heaven and then what did you do the

next morning babe taught our kids had a bullet yeah And I'll tell you what, they are instant. They are such quick learners, I'm proud. Oh, they're going to be first chair. It's a good discipline, okay? Also, you never know when someone's going to say, we need someone to play taps, and now they can step up.

I honestly think we might get like a noise ordinance from our neighborhood. You were playing taps. I did. So loud. You were playing taps so loud at 7 a.m. We don't live. baby miles apart from our neighbors we live right next door i was thinking about that it is

extremely loud it was it was i just wanted to know what frank and louise we're thinking laying in bed hearing the freaking taps yeah and like an amateur version there's a lot there's a lot of raspiness coming from my you know because the mouth feel is all different it's been years since i've been stop saying the mouth feel it's a real thing you know what the other thing about trumpet is that I realize I like we did Boy Scouts, which was another one of those things. You're still so strong at it too, babe?

No, it's one of those things that I didn't enjoy while I was doing it, but when we're at camp, they woke you up with taps. Just nostalgia, washing over me. Are you in a midlife crisis? It is interesting. I feel... That's a yes. That is

the yes. I feel like my primary self-constructed identity is jock, right? Sports. But now that I'm talking about my trumpet playing boy scout i'm really uh my theater career we haven't even talked about that wow wow babe yeah i think you're in a midlife crisis how is your week though um well my husband bought a trumpet and i love his passion but he's not a trumpet player he might become one Freaking, let's take that back.

You were in eighth grade. You might become one. It sounded really good. You are going to be the newest. 19 years. Trumpet. Louis Armstrong. Okay.

Yes. My week was good. I don't know. We're dealing with probably our first year, true year of like schools out, Summers in. And I don't know what's been going on with our two oldest kids. but like after we had bear I felt like the transition was seamless

we didn't have a lot of jealousy we didn't have a lot of like kids needing more attention needing their cups filled back up but there's been something about this first week of summer Drew and Jet are actual Velcro to you yeah

we've been cuddling with him at night they've been crying it's been amazing it's been I mean, it's so sweet, but also part of me is concerned. I'm like, is there something going on? I don't know. But they have been.

It's just been like something we've never seen before, this attachment that they're needing so much mama right now, which I've been giving them, which I love. But yeah, it's been interesting. They can barely, like, go outside and play. It's weird. I'm usually in the background when they're like, I just want cuddles. I'm like, I am here to give cuddles to kids. and they give me the cold shoulder and go to mom most of the time.

They just need mama right now, and I don't know why. Tell them about all the hosting we did last weekend. We hosted a lot. We had friends come in town on Thursday and Friday. We were with them all day. Did the zoo. We did a pool day, trampoline. Yep.

Saturday. We, you're not having to help me here. I forgot. I forget what happened Saturday, too. Who do we host? the Hopkins. Yeah. And we made

rib-eye steaks and that was amazing. We had a big pool day Sunday after church. We had the haze come over. We did another pool day. Wow.

Hold on. Excuse me. The Johnsons. Yeah. Yeah. Mombard. We had the Johnsons come over and did a pool day.

And then that night we went to Habachi, obviously, with the Zimmermans, which was a lot of fun. Delicious. Then Monday was Memorial. Memorial Day. We did the first half of the day. We did a pool party at our house with Mallory

and Kyle and the boys in Sunday. And then that afternoon, we went to the public pool, as Andrew would say. Yeah. And stayed there until it was time to go to bed. Jet did his first flip off of a diving board. RMO with our kids is to draw a boundary line with which they can play with in freely. Anyway, it's been so fun to have the kids around other kids. Yes. And just to see how they interact, I feel like I learn about our kids, watching them play with new friends, make new friends, see how they do. Jed is super social. Drew is like super social, but she pretends to be shy.

It seems like it's fun. It's been a lot of fun. It was a good week. And I'm excited today after the kids weekend from nap time. We got them go-carts. We're going to try out some new go-carts. I'm nervous and I'm excited. Yes.

These ones say they're made for three-year-olds, so I think these will be a lot tamer than the one you bought earlier. That goes like 20 miles an hour. Made for three-year-olds? Yeah. Sick. Yeah. Where were we?

Where did we leave off? We did the CMA Fest your first trip to Nashville. Yes. And then the second time you came to Nashville, we went to watch John Butler's real. this technical like big second date yeah okay went to a concert went to loveless cafe went rock climbing then we drove from nashville to southern indiana okay stopped at mammoth cave on our way okay which is epic if you're ever in kentucky you should check it out biggest caves in the world i think

that's still true and then we went to a lake house yes we're talking late july 2013 And this is where I met your family for the first time. What did you think? I was really intimidated. One, I thought your family was incredible. Your dad, your mom, I remember meeting your sister, your little brother. Everybody was amazing. But I was so nervous because I wanted to make a good impression.

And I will say this, something I do remember about my brother. meeting your family for the first time and all the conversations we had we had like deep conversations was it was the first time let me say like in a relationship of any kind meeting a family that cared about me as a like a human immediately like there were no questions about gymnastics it wasn't like oh tell me about the olympics it wasn't this assumption of the person that they saw on TV it was like Sean I want to get to know you like truly you and that scared me to death what made you feel like they wanted to get to know who you were and what were the factors that prevented that before and you think it was that you dated mostly guys from

Iowa who grew up around the excitement probably yeah I think it I don't think it was like harmful in other relationships and I think the family is like I got to know them on such a personal level but I remember I think it was just your dad he had this quality about him to like there's no BS of any kind like when he sat down and talked to you it's like he was seeing through your soul and he would just talk and he just he would ask such like deep questions into who you were nothing was superficial and it was really cool it's interesting reflecting on the context in which you met them where this was not intentional at all and I'm thankful but like we're at the lake so there's activities to do

we could go make the fire or go on the boat or kayak go on a tandem bike ride which we did and we almost died we almost died do you remember that? Yeah we rode from the lake house to IU

yeah that's a long ride and we're on a tandem and we jumped the curb remember that? Yeah there was oh my gosh the front wheel was off the curve the back wheel was on the curb we're big tandem bike riders

in these family don't ask me how that came to be i don't know the back story we have not ridden a tandem bike since but we have tandem bikes no one no one really has tandem bikes my dad used to write us at school me and my two older brothers and we race each kid when they had their day would time them and my dad how long it took them to get to school on a tandem on a tandem anyway so what did it feel like pulling up to school on a tandem bike with your dad again i was embarrassed but you know i unloaded my trumpet got my boy scott uniform all legitimately there was a couple times i loved that my dad didn't care about my embarrassment yeah he cared about me so much that he knew my embarrassment had no place that makes sense yeah he cared

about our relationship and he's like anyway but i i i would have him drop us off at the four square court which was like kind of around the corner and then walk up because i was i was embarrassed Anyway, there was activities for us to do at the lake as opposed to us just, like, having this enclosed, kind of isolated experience that it would have been if we went to our house in Indianapolis. Or gone to, like, a dinner or like, yeah. It was kind of like, it allowed us to weave you in there without it being such an intense, like, limelight on you. How many girls had you brought to the lake house with your family before? Not many. There was a group of high school classmates that I took there.

But that was like a group and it wasn't romantic at all. Maybe one. I'm honored. So it was special. I think that's why my parents also knew that like this is not to be, this is not frivolous. I am curious in your mind. It wasn't like we had been dating for months. You know, and it was like, oh, it's time for you to meet my family.

Let's go to the lake house or whatever. It was like second, third date. Let's go to the lake house. My parents are going to be there. What was happening in your mind? That's a tall task for me to remember that and then also assume that something was going on in my mind, Sean. I'm not like, I wasn't like.

But you hadn't taken girls there before. Like, how many people hadn't, how many girls hadn't met your parents or met your family? Two. So that's a big thing. Two my parents and then probably one went to the lake house. So yeah, it's like, yeah, you're in a pretty elite group. And I only married one.

So like, you're doing good. I am. What? Our time in Nashville when you came for the CMA Fest was really special. And we left, like, the, we always talked about when I first met you in L.A. You were stone cold Steve Austin the whole time. Who's Steve Austin?

You don't ever watch W.O.E.? I don't. Stunkold Steve Austin? I don't know who that is. You know who the rock is. Yeah. You know, he started in W.W.E. Sure.

I digress. Okay. Stone cold. You were stone cold in L.A. But then I saw you transform from cold to like you gave me a smile. Okay. That was progress. and then in Nashville you were like shy and timid

and over the course of the days that the days that we were together you opened up and just the trajectory that I saw that and who I saw you were was so exciting we always talk about like when you left Nashville you forgot a shirt was that intentional don't tell me it I don't think it was intentional at all I was really bummed I loved that shirt It was a skateboard.

I love that shirt. I love that shirt, too. And then we ended up getting pain on it, I remember. Oh, yeah. Anyway, it smelled like Sean, and I remember it was, like, folded in the corner, and it made our room smell like Sean. And then we, like, you know, you listen to songs. Like, oh, my gosh, young love.

It was Adele. Love, what is it called now? One of her love songs. It's not someone like you. Love like you? No. It's a Bob Dylan remake. Anyway, you listen to that,

and I would just listen to that and repeat because you have that excitement of like... I would listen to Josh Gerels. Million Miles. A million miles. Great song. Josh Garrows just came out with a new song, which is fantastic as well. And I don't know.

Like, then we exchanged some text messages when we were apart, but probably some of it was just timing of like... Had we started watching the movies virtually yet? Yeah. So Andrew and I did this thing since I was still living in L.A. I think by this time I had moved back to Des Moines, Iowa, Andrew's still in Nashville, and we're doing like long distance.

So in between my Nashville trips, the first one and the second one, we would do movie dates over Skype at the time. Yeah, I think so. Yeah, no, I think you're right. That's crazy. And we would both watch the same exact movie at the same exact time and leave Skype on. It was really cute.

Part of it too was I burned the bridges of the other options that I had. Like literally. So you were like, crap, now I got to go all in

on this shit. Yeah, it's kind of like a commitment mechanism. Like, all right. We got, like, let's make this work. So you take me to the lake house. We're doing all these activities.

I'm looking at pictures of us shooting the bone arrow. Dude, I had the worst luck. It was amazing. It was the most amazing trip. But at the lake house this first time going there,

some of the activities we did we extracted honey Sean's terrified of bees I got stung by a bee twice doing so we went swimming in the lake I remember you wakeboard you got up on the wakeboard for the first time

for the first time trying it not a surprise which is cool I want to do that again wakeboard yeah I would love to see you wakeboard I would love to do that oh we canoed we canoed oh we went on a run

around the lake. I remember that. Built a big fire. Built a fire. We did, we swam in the lake a lot and I will never forget, I went running

and jumped off the end of the dock. Dodger. And Dodger, Andrew's old golden retriever. He was the sweetest dog ever. Oh, I loved him. He came sprinting after me almost to like help me

but jumped directly. on top of me and was like swimming but like at the same time I was underneath him so he was like clawing my face and I had this massive mark across the like across my face and then you taught me

how to shoot a bow but the bow was too big for me you were holding your own don't blame the bow so every time I let the bow it would snap on my forearm oh you got red my entire forearm turned black and blue yeah that was tough what else did we do uh you braided my hair

because i had long hair yeah and we also did the tanem bike ride oh and i also had the mental breakdown around the fire talking about social media yeah expand more because i still don't understand that how many days were there three days this is one of my favorite pictures of us right here you drew that for me wow where is that i have it so we're sitting around the fire i think it's the third day at the lakehouse I am in deep I'm in deep I'm like oh my gosh I am in love with this with this guy like head over heels in love smitten and we had kind of been living this like isolated light remember what that was like when you love me baby I'm kidding I'm still smitten We have matured a lot.

But we're sitting around the fire. It's like a third day. I'm with your family. I feel like me and your family is like we started to like vibe and get comfortable with each other too. And we're like sitting there and I just start having like this, I don't want to say like panic attack, but I start thinking of this has been so perfect. Like we are off the grid, having a wonderful time. at this point in my life I was not working

I wasn't a part of the public eye a lot but in my mind in my past social media and the attention that my career drew would tear down my relationships and I don't know why

but it would just tear down kind of like the Simone thing and I was sitting there with you smitten and there was something about you and something about your family that was so incredibly pure and still is

and just real and beautiful and I was terrified sitting there with you around the fire that I would be the reason to like taint that or ruin that. Interesting. I never understood that till just now.

Like the toxicity of the drama. Yes. Here's the thing, though, if you're dramatic, then you get caught up in drama. For sure. You know? It's just like in high school, of course there's going to be things that go wrong and people that hurt you and unfortunate events. But there's a proper way to handle that and then there's a dramatic way to handle that. For sure.

I just feel like I feel like my parents are mature. they raised me to, I don't know, not be dramatic most of the time. Absolutely. Your family is solid and amazing, but you can see how in that moment I was the outsider. And there was something so beautiful there that I was like, this is real and serious for me between us. If I pursue this, like, if I'm like, all in,

which I wanted to be in that moment I was like I want to marry this man in my mind I was like am I going to bring them down and that terrified me and I tried to explain that in that moment to Andrew of like but you don't understand like there's this whole other side of my career

that you haven't seen in the Twitter at the time and the comments and the people they might come after you and like I didn't know how to articulate it but I was so worried of how that life would affect you. It is funny. Before Sean,

I had no social media. I'm sorry. I was anti-social media. I deleted my Facebook in college. And then when my brother met her in London, I formed Twitter account. And then obviously we spend a lot of time creating content for social media now. So I was pretty naive to that whole thing,

which also I still like, have a healthy relationship with social media and outsiders' opinions. I think because my family culture is so strong. And it's like, oh, these are the opinions that matter. And the conversations that are started online, they're worth looking into and filtering, like, okay, am I out of line here? Do I need to reconsider X, Y, and Z?

But it's also new. and I'm thankful that my family raised me as such. But I appreciate you looking out for our family. And it is interesting with you. I multiple times have seen insecurities or hypotheticals be obstacles to love. And at some point you just got to like say, all right, we're in it, you know, we're doing it. and allow me to love you fully. Does that make sense?

Yeah. We're doing that now. I mean, here we are eight years in the marriage. We got three kids. That was wild. That is crazy. Looking at these little peeps on these pictures. I just remembered two other things from the lake house.

I remember one morning. Morning or night? We went and took like our own swim in the lake, which was awesome. Yeah, I remember that too. That was good. what is it about hometown dates that is such a big thing you know i think it's such a raw glimpse into like your personal life you can't hide anything there that is like truly you it made me think of someone saying it doesn't matter who you've become in life or how old

you are anytime you're back with your siblings and parents you're still that same kid that you grew up to be so i'm still the middle kid you are you are 100%. The little brother. 100%. But it follows that logic of like, yeah, this is, you see the roots of where someone came from. To add in another layer of our dating journey.

I think it was around this time. I think it was around this time. Yep. Andrew's probably one of your closest best friends. but also siblings is JD so in the order it goes Guy

JD Andrew Christine Grant so JD it was around this time that I went to the lake JD and I started being pen pals and this scared me

to death it was like I had heard you talk about him I had met him briefly at the Indianapolis 500 just literally in passing but this was like, okay, Sean, I remember J.D. sending the first email to me. And he's like, hey, I'm J.D.,

Andrew's best friend and big brother. I want to get to know you. And he would ask me all these questions about Andrew and I and my thoughts and my, like all of these things. And we went back and forth for months and it was always just like this check-in and it felt so intimate in the sense of like family he was so protective over you

but it also felt like this honor like I was truly gaining and working on a dynamic within the family and it was so cool I can take very little credit for our relationship it's like you see

how my dad being intentional and my brother being intentional gave you were so incredibly intentional yeah but it gave you signals and reinforcement of like for sure this is who this guy is and like i really am just the beneficiary of yeah so many wonderful people in my life well and like katie so you'll learn about katie in the next episode yeah who is jadie's wife um but it was it was like this full I wasn't winning over Andrew. It was, I was, when I decided during the Lakehouse meeting, you know, three days, that this was what I was going for, and that sounds weird to say, but like pursuing, it had nothing to do with Andrew anymore. Andrew, you were 100% for me.

I was like, yes. now once I got past that if that makes sense it was about the family you still felt welcome though oh 100% I felt welcomed but I mean this in like a

treasured way how do I say this it wasn't like a game for me to like get approval from your family it was truly I saw how close your entire family was and if I didn't vibe with any individual person, I was not meant to be in that family.

I really think if any one of my family members sat me down and said, you should not pursue this relationship, I would have listened to them. I am a part of this family now and I can say that with full, I believe that is how our family operates. We still have someone who's working to find a husband and if every single one of us does not sign off on him, they're not marrying them, you know? It's how our family works. It made me think of a couple things.

one that that feeling of needing to win over my family I think is like a really good thing that makes you put on your best face not in like an authentic and genuine way but it's like I think that's important

it's like just how I want to make I'm beginning to see the value in wanting to preserve the good reputation that I have in your eyes by smelling good. I'm just now coming to this conclusion, literally. Dressing well.

Baby, I think you're the hottest, most amazing, impressive, smart, human. And I want to preserve that. Legitimately.

So I'm going to live up to that. You're setting the benchmark at somewhere high that makes me live up to it. Anyway, I think that's an important thing where you felt like you needed to put on your best face

for my family, which is a good thing. Let me say, it one more a different way too because this is what I just thought of there was something so special about your family that was different than anybody else as I had been in because something that I was not used to at the time I was 20 years old four years at the Olympics my Olympics held so much clout to everyone else in the world and I don't mean that in a bad way it's just like people would have have I would have walked into a home and I'm not saying of a relationship but just in general and that talent would have bought them 50% in does that make sense so then the other 50% was just a little bit of me your family was like no no no no like cool throw that away you are a hundred percent you that you have to earn in here and I don't mean that they said it it wasn't like in a harsh way but they stripped away everything that I had an idol over and they're like we don't care about that we care about you and are you someone who fits in our family and that's what was so scary but so meaningful because each individual person in your family took the time and I had to invest to that time to get to know every single individual person on that intimate of a level

to like pass the family vibe check, which I love. It's part of being an East. And I've embraced that now with people who have come into our family since I've been in East. It's like you truly strip it all the way. And it's like if you at your core

fit in this family, then you fit in this family. And that took a lot of time and seeing how J.D. went about it with the emails and the pen pal and what are your values and what are your favorite things about Andrew? And I hear he took you on a to Mammoth Cave and I got to hear his side. What did you take away from it? And he truly just challenged me on a level that I had never been challenged before. And it went, it just proved to me over and over again how close your family is, my family is. I think he even met my uncle Don and,

Uncle Jim and Kathy came over. You're also making me think of the positive definition of pride. Yeah. Where it's like my family, I have pride in my family. I'm proud of who my family aims to be that we often fall short of. But like, yeah, I'm just, that vibe makes me really excited about like, man, I am. So thankful to be a part of that. I didn't really earn it in any way, but I'm proud of it.

I'm not, I did not earn the family that I was born into. I think I've maybe contributed to the, you know, to the essence of who it is. You respected it and you respect your family and you are a true part of the East family. And you always were. It wasn't like a, I'm going to marry her no matter what. I don't care what you guys say. It was truly this like, I'm bringing you to my family. Now we get to see what happens.

I'm interested in this because I'm workshopping this for our book. I know. Like the stack of commitments. Yeah. And I was committed to my family more than you. Anyway, one kudos to you of many kudos. We just listed off all the activities that we did. Bekeeping.

You were terrified of. Is that where we did the family bike ride around the lake oh my gosh there's like 20 miles it's pretty aggressive andrew tells me last thing and then you you can sorry to interrupt we're like two days into this lake house visit and i'm getting the vibe that like we roll as a family we roll deep 100% of the time all the time we do it as a group and i was like maybe i'm not going to get any quality time with him one-on-one which is totally fine but like i would really like that and at one point he asked me do you want to go on a bike ride and i'm not kidding i was very naive i didn't know i was involved in a cycling family i yet this was new news um i was like oh

this is so romantic he wants some quality time with me we're going to go like strolling wind our hair giggling fast no dad puts on his what's it called singlet yeah i think that That's right. Everybody in the household gets on their road bike, road bike, which is a professional bike. I'm given some sort of bike where the gears were broken. And we go on a 20-some-mile bike ride up and down some of the hardest hills I've ever biked around the lake.

And I was not happy, but you did it. I did it. I did it. And it was good bonding with everybody. There's bonding and suffering, you know. Your mom and dad were on the tandem. Yeah. Oh.

To your credit, you rolled with all the punches, which again, it's like you're dating. That's the whole point is to figure out the vibe. It's a breadcrumb trail of what's spending time with this person going to be like. Is she going to be open to trying new things? Is she capable of writing and doing athletic stuff, which my family has historically been into? Is she open to learning about the bees or having these discussions? Sacrificed a lot that week. You did a great job.

And you've continued to live up to who you showed me in dating. I hope I've done the same. I'm still the role with the punches, girl. All the time. So that was July 23rd to July 26, maybe three or four nights together in Indy. Our second real-time spending time together. Let's clarify here too. Never staying together.

Always in separate rooms. I room to Christine. Yeah. Yeah. Our third time spending sniffing time together was in San Diego. So now, I didn't realize this. Nashville first, different city in Bloomington for the second, San Diego for the third.

We really took it. Well, and kind of technically the first was. was L.A. Which again, like... L.A., Nashville, Bloomington, San Diego. You learned something about somebody in different contexts. But I'm just thinking about my friends

who are like 33 in dating and they have their career and this personality and like schick that they've built up that just happens over time. It's not a good or bad thing, but it's like, that's the beauty in hometowns, I think,

is you see the person with all those accolades or mistakes or career successes or failures stripped away and it's like, oh, this person is a sweetheart. You know what's really interesting about what you were just saying all the different cities? It was a perfect forecast

for the rest of our life. Wow, that's really where we spend all our time. Well, and just bouncing around. Oh, yeah, yeah. rolling with the punches. Yeah, you learned something about somebody traveling. I love these.

Me too. Wait to hear about San Diego, guys. I can't believe we made it. There was many different opportunities for me to drop the ball in this dating sequence. Same.

I'm just saying it was a lot to throw at you and you were just like, all right, we're going for it. I have so many questions about San Diego. Oh, it's so good. All right, well, stay tuned. Should I give them the punchline of San Diego?

Sure. So, third official date. We are technically dating now, I would say. Yeah. At the Lake House, Andrew invites me to his brother's wedding. That was that. And then you invited me to Alaska. I didn't invite you to Alaska.

All right. We'll end it there. I love you. I love you. And I love my family. And I love that you're part of it. It's like the coolest thing ever. I love my family too.

Thank you for watching. Let us know your thoughts on me buying a trumpet and how you say to Jared D. How do you say it? Did you redo? That's all we have. I'm Andrew. I'm shot. We're the East out.