Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 220 | addressing your assumptions about us

Episode Date: July 3, 2024

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Maybe a weird one. I don't know. We're going to be talking about the latest assumptions about our marriage and relationship. Part one. which means there were a lot of them, which I'm nervous about. We have not seen these. Oh, wait, you're on part one?

Oh, shoot. I was on part two. There are two parts, though. Wild. Okay, there we go. Now I'm on part one. Dude. How many assumptions are there about it?

Evidently a lot. You know what I am constantly amazed by, babe? What? Is your grace in favor and the impact that you've had on people's life. And it's a result of that that I think people watch what we do. And it's a result of that I think people watch what we do. And it's a result of that that I think people, People make assumptions about who we are and what our relationships like.

I'm actually excited to dig in here. We were just talking last night about the perception that people have about us. And it's so interesting to see who I think we are versus who other people that we are. Yeah. Before we get to that, can I just say I want to geek out for a tiny second. Yeah. Let's geek. This is going live tomorrow, which is July 3rd.

Andrew and I are headed to the White House. You're a beast. I am not going to lie. We have been invited to the White House before. We really try our best not to take any type of political stance. We are highly invested in the politics of this country because we care about this country. But we don't necessarily mix that with what we share with you all. With family content.

Yeah. That being said, I received an invite. That kind of shook me. I was asked to be a part of the Fourth of July celebration on the White House lawn and to honor all of the Olympians headed to Paris. Congratulations. And I'm so excited. I'm proud of you. I'm so honored.

Shana has a script she has to read. She's following Afonzo Riviera. She's introducing a John Williams orchestra. Yeah. song it's going to be really cool i'm really excited i get to see my crazy suit that i have to wear today i'm just excited what do you mean a suit you're like a superhero no i'm wearing a white suit with all these like embroidery things on them like a suit suit like a suit oh sweet yeah i'm probably going to be wearing this to be honest no one i'll just be chilling in the

background root and yawn you have some really cool things that just arrived that you should probably wear oh from for the Olympic from Ralph Lauren yes they're doing all the Olympic gear and Sean decked us out they are doing all of the opening and closing ceremonies oh sorry is that specific it is because Nike owns the rest of it okay that's very confusing and then each company owns individual sports so that's what we have to look forward to that's how we're spending our 4th of July yeah I hope you all are spending it with friends family light up the grill have a good time We're just coming back from a week with my family.

Yeah. And Charleston, South Carolina is where we went. So beautiful. So humid. It was almost, I thought Nashville was humid. Charleston puts this to shame. I feel like I was in a shower outside. The beach there, honestly, if you have a family with kids, the beach in Charleston at the Isle

Palms area is really great. It was amazing. Because you have beaches like the 30A Panhandle Gulf of Florida, sorry, Panhandle, Florida, Gulf of Mexico where the beach is like pristine white water is amazing blue that's great but this beach was like more adventurous because there's seashells and there's sand dollars and there's just like a ton of stuff while still being a really beautiful beach and the sand was the softest sand I've ever felt in the life it was great yeah it was amazing so we did that we walked around downtown Charleston saw the history which I love our kids had the time of their life with all of

their cousins. It was a blast. That was right after we took a little RV trip to East Tennessee. Our first RV trip. What did you think? The toddlers are great. They actually thrived. They did wonderful. They loved it. We made a fire. They were super into. We stayed at a campground and they had all these activities for the kids like a big, it's almost like a trampoline bubble thing. They had a playground. We went to a national park. We did a hike. The kids loved the waterfall and did creeks. They had a blast. I was really grateful. for your adventurous attitude through that whole thing, babe.

I know that was a bit outside your comfort zone. But we had a blast. And so I'm excited to do more of that, hopefully in the future. But we'll also be sharing a couple of videos on that soon. Yeah. Yeah. Go RVing. It's a fun adventure.

It's a fun adventure. Anyways, you want to jump into these? Some of these evidently are wild. So I'm intrigued. Okay, so these are all in response to an Instagram post we did. and some of you chimed in with assumptions. So we're going to break it into two parts as we discussed because we got... I'm just giving over some of these.

Don't. No, you said you didn't want to. We're doing two parts because we got so many different assumptions. And if we didn't get to your assumptions and you submit one, then stay tuned for part two because we're trying to get to as many as we can, keeping a reasonably duration episode. What duration episode do you all like? If we did a five-hour episode, are you down for that? Do you prefer 20-minute episodes?

I don't think I can talk for that long. I do think, yeah, that would be a limiting factor. Yeah. But we used to do that over easy with the East show. That was not five hours. I kind of miss it. Also, we're bringing back interviews in a new form. Yes.

Because interviews are Sean and I's favorite thing to do. Yeah. Favorite type of video. But we're moving it to a new podcast. So you guys know what to expect. We had a hard time bringing in all of these wonderful people and just keeping it to relationships. We had so many other questions.

So we wanted to kind of focus that on a different show. Yeah. So that launches next week. I know. Stay tuned for that. I am weaving back and forth. Ultimately, we're going to land this plane. But it is worth prefaceing this because we do share a lot of videos.

And you get a little snapshot of who we are because we share so much. and it is well we're not even really that intentional about like the image that we portray right this goes back to my first thought of like we're not we're not crafting it exactly it is us so that's why we're not thoughtful just because it is like just stuff we do

but it's interesting it'll be interesting to see the assumptions about how that's received yeah you're building this hype up so much you're ready go ahead roll into it without further ado assumptions about us. Number one, you're genuinely each other's best friend

and love each other so deeply and have fun together all the time. That's partly true. Here's why. We are genuinely each other's best friends. Yes. I agree with that. We do love each other.

I was going to say. We don't always have fun together all the time. You're not having fun all the time. Life. But you are my absolute best friend. And I love you more than anything in the entire world. Yeah.

And I don't need to have fun together all the time. So the other two things are way more important to me. Yeah. Yeah. That is kind of true. All right. Second, you sometimes have regrets about getting married young. I've never even thought about that.

No, I don't. I don't. I think it made it more challenging, for sure. I think we had to grow up together, married, which gave us some challenges. But I think because of that, we have a stronger marriage. I think there were unique challenges to getting married young. I actually think it's easier to get married young.

Yeah, because you're not like as developed. It's hard to teach an old dog new tricks. It's like if I came into our relationship with my routines and habits after 15 years of being single, that would be more difficult to change and more. I'm really glad we got married young. Yeah. Go ahead. You can read the nice one.

Sean is more dominant and gets her way in the relationship all the time. What's your take on that? I would say no. Yeah. I would say, how do I explain this? Andrew is a thousand percent the lead of our family. Like, a thousand percent. I am probably more patient.

but we're both equally stubborn here interesting i don't know no here's how i view this uh one i know why i know why you know why i know why i know why people are assuming this why because the the i don't want to say facade but the thing that people see on social media is like i'm forward facing on everything i don't even think about this stuff ever but you know what's funny is and i've surprised people with this when i tell them it's a hundred percent andrew people are like oh you're so funny you script all your own stuff and i was like actually my husband does all of it it's interesting i love here's my first reaction to this i love our team dynamic yeah i think you're the leader in certain things and dominant in certain

things. I think I'm the leader in certain things and dominant in certain things. And I would have it no other way. Yeah. Because my mentality is that if you win, the team wins. By the team, I mean our family. And so that statement means that sometimes like you winning will be you doing your thing and blossoming. Other times you win by by allowing me to apply my knowledge or expertise and certain things yeah but it's in my mind i'm working towards if sean wins the family wins right insane i love our teamwork yeah we're we're a freaking great team shake and bake i agree next you got it oh marriage counseling has been really emotional but really helpful for both of you uh yeah yep spot on

I've been brought to tears multiple times. Yeah? Have you? I have cried once. Yesterday? No. Okay. All right. Five, you guys are big foodies and bond over trying new meals.

Yes. Yeah. We do like to try new things, food, and other things. I would say no. You don't like trying new things? No. No, I want to put an asterisk by this. We go on date night every single Thursday

We're big foodies with the food that we like We don't venture and try new places often We have like our places Also we're friends with a lot of big foodies And so I don't feel like a big foodie Yeah I think and if you were to have dinner with us We're not going to be like oh the taste profile is really great

And they source it from no we just like We'll just eat stuff that we think tastes good But we don't know that much about it We appreciate good food. And I also think our form of adventure in this phase of life is trying new restaurants. Yeah. Like, wow, we're really bright and shelter. We have like an hour and a half once a week to adventure.

And this is pretty much how we spend it. You're up. Andrew is the fun and wild one. And Sean is the organized calm one. So that leads to issues in the marriage. no again it's like a dynamic i'm i'm fun and wild sometimes sean's fun and wild other times i'm organized like i am super digitally organized yeah you are and i'm not my screen in my tabs yeah yeah yeah again

we're a good team we're a good team i would say overall andrew is the more like impulsive adventurous wild happy go lucky guy and i'm more like timid it doesn't cause issues in our marriage it's just different dynamic yin yang baby yin yin yin neither neither one of you are easily offended by each other or other

people we're probably more easily offended by each other than other people don't you agree for sure because we mean the most to each other yeah and I think we actually other people one we have a really good friends group so they don't really often offend us

I'm really thankful that when they do, we're able to confront them. And we do a really good job at fielding the online opinions as well and, like, filtering them. Again, the community that we've built online that you all have built, I should say, is just a real delight. There are some stragglers. There's some fringe people trying to throw daggers, but we do a good job at filtering

them out. Yeah. You want to do number eight? You have to have sex all the time. What is that? Yeah, we have a good, yeah, we sex. We do. We have a good time.

Yeah. But not all the time. We don't have sex all the time. I'd be curious what their definition of that is. We do have friends that have sex all the time. Yeah. Public places, bathroom. Like daily.

And it's like, wow. We're not on that level. We have a good time. You always have child care, and that's never a struggle for you, and you never have to argue about who has the kids. We have child care an appropriate amount, I think. Yeah. We work for it.

I don't know how to say that, but it is. I think the statement of like you always have child care, we work really hard to make sure we have schedules in place so that it might seem like we always have child care, but like we're working really hard behind the scenes to make sure for everything that we need child care for, we have it. And we don't have to get to a place about arguing who has the kids.

Like we'll sit down every Sunday and say, okay, Monday, Andrew's going golfing and hanging out with the guys. I don't need my mom to help. I've got the kids. Like, it's already planned. Like, we try to really set ourselves up so that it never turns into an argument of like, well, you get them, or I get them,

or I have them, or we don't have, like, a babysitter or whatever. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. I, you do a great job at helping schedule. There was this impulse when we first started looking into child care. to say, okay, let's use it as much as possible, right?

That was like the first kind of impulse. But then you realize, like, no, these kids are the most fun. It's such an important refining tool for me to sit in the discomfort or the frustration sometimes, right, when it's healthy. Because it's good for the kid. It's good for me. And so I think we've done a good job at like using childcare so that we can, film videos

go to the White House you know do the things that need to be done and then not really much else and like we have the kids because we want the kids to put a metric to it because I think a lot of people are always curious and I have a lot of friends

who are always asking me like how much and whatever we average about 20 to 25 hours of child care a week yeah and that feels like the right of out yeah um part of that is our date night yeah yeah but i like the amount of time we're spending with our kids uh i feel like it's balanced with our ability to work and you know be with friends in an undistracted way sometimes but also be with friends with kids it's a good balance we'd love

to hear how you all have balanced child care because we're always looking to yeah refine that 10, you both get along great with your in-laws and have never had conflict there. Yes. Yeah. We do get along great. There is conflict, though. Yeah. I think everybody butts heads with in-laws, and I don't mean that in-laws.

I butt heads with my parents, and I can disagree with my parents and my in-laws the same way. But it's not just because they're my in-laws. I bump heads with them. It's truly just like a difference in generation that like sometimes we bump heads. But it's also just a result of relationships in general and of being in close. You were just in Charleston with my mom for a week.

It was amazing. Right. Not much conflict. Like mom's going to Paris with us and I'm so excited. Yeah, your mom's coming to Paris with us. I know. You probably have more conflict with your mom than I do with your mom, which is funny.

And I think you have more conflict with your mom than I do with your mom. Yeah, probably. Yeah. But we do get, I'm so thankful for my in-laws. Really thankful for them. 11. Sean brings in the money so that causes some competition about who is a breadwinner.

Oh, if only you understood. I don't, yeah. No. Not true in the slightest? Well, no, no. Sorry, it is true. It is true. But it's not at all.

I don't know how to explain this. But, like, yes, I went to the Olympics and I won a gold medal that has given me opportunities to monetize my brand. I have worked really hard to keep my brand relevant and continue opportunities. But I mean this, and Andrew's going to shut it down. Our entire business, our social media, our company, our investments, our finance, our financing our speaking opportunities our family made media productions everything is a hundred percent Andrew that's not true it is I would not have done any of this if it wasn't for

Andrew Andrew is the one who edits all the videos learns how to upload them learns how to monetize them learns how to put ads to them learns how to like I have the voice because I've been within this industry for so long of knowing what is like good for our brand as a couple and my brand but Andrew is by far the breadwinner because if it weren't for him we wouldn't I wouldn't I wouldn't work I appreciate you give me flowers but it's it's not giving you we're a team we are for sure we are a beautiful team I don't know I said it is true and it's not true because there's no I don't feel any competition it is true because oh I don't feel any competition I think like you have you're just America sweet you're a darling you have babe no no I'm not disagreeing with you but I think what people fail to realize is like I we always get this question of like Andrew needs to get a job and I'm like I don't think you understand Andrew works more than I do that's because because I have created this brand right given my gymnastics and my career and I'm good at being on screen and I'm good at

communicating and I'm good at doing the interviews and knowing what my brand stands for Andrew is the brains behind the operation we're a great team yeah you don't want me to give them all the details I don't know you're shutting me down no Yeah. It's just wild. We would have no money without you. I've been thinking about, actually we haven't talked about this, but I had a group of friends that were, they were talking about this Japanese concept of the icky guy. And it's four things. Something you love, something that you're good at, something that the world needs and something you can make money doing. And they were talking about, oh, what's it like, you know, is it possible to find an icky guy and whatever? And they were like, not I-C-K-Y. No, not Icky.

It's I-K-I-G-A-I, I think. Okay, I was going to say. I know, it threw me off too. But there's a good to great book, Jim Collins wrote. He has a similar thing called the Hedgehog concept. Anyway, they were talking about our friend who's a professional athlete. They're like, I think he's the only one that, you know, his. icky guy and I was like I didn't say anything but I really feel like I am doing I'm doing that I love what

we do same I think sometimes people are like you don't even work I don't think that's true I think you work more than a full-time job you as well and it's it is unique it's like you know it's hard to explain we're both makers and creators and we're managers and there's a lot that goes into that and we've created a practical application of your wonderful brand that you've done an amazing job building and uh we've created sustainable systems we've been doing this for eight years now so I'm thankful for that but I also was just thinking about my role as a man where it's like I don't need I don't need people to think that we have a billion dollar business or I don't need I think I used to have aspirations to build and sell a you know nine figure

business that was like just a pride thing and then i was like why no we have a really good thing going that i get to spend time with my kids and my wife and we are our relationship has deepened as a result of our work and us working together and my role as a man is i don't need to have my pride inflated if if my role is to allow you to make money as but you don't like that's not false or but that's not true i'm just saying it is my responsibility i think to uh help our household to some capacity there and it's like yeah part of that responsibility if if like if you were the CEO of goldman's i'm talking about our friends who don't they don't let the wife take the leadership role in the business because whatever right

We have friends like that. We do have friends like that. But I also think that's what's interesting about our business is I think it's a little bit swapped that way of, it appears to everyone, like I am the head of the business, but I actually am not. And I don't mean that in like a, like we have chosen those roles. Over the years, I have taken,

you know, the second seat, you drive it, which is beautiful. You don't like that either. No, I'm just glad that the only competition I think I feel is this tension of, no, you're the cooler. Yeah, literally. Anyway, next. Okay. You never have arguments or disagreements in front of your children. False.

This is something that I learned from Sean. She said, I want to show our kids how to have healthy conflict because conflict is inevitable when you're in a relationship and relationships are important to be in. We try not to have like any disrespectful arguments or disagreements in front of our kids,

which we have probably failed to do. But I don't think it's good for kids to see absolute perfection because it's not possible. And also if you're not having conflict in front your kids and there's a discussion that needs to be had

that comes off as passive aggressive and then so you're teaching them regardless. Sean and I, it's almost like an accountability part. partner of, hey, we need to have this disagreement respectfully and with controlled emotions because our kids are here. So, yeah, I'm thankful for that perspective that you brought.

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and don't hold back, which can be harsh. No. We only have one rule in our relationship, and that's... Transparency. So we do try to be honest. But we don't try to like... I don't think either of us 100% speak our mind in the sense of like everyone has unfiltered thoughts

that probably shouldn't be shared, right? I agree with that. Yeah, it's not a flow of consciousness. No. It's intentional. And we try to speak truth with grace. Yeah.

14. You spend a lot of time, money and effort on your marriage because it really matters to both of you. Yes. I've been challenged to spend the most time, money and effort on our marriage because what else matters? I don't think we can be good parents,

I don't think we can be good employees, business leaders, friends, anything, if we aren't good spouses first. And I'm really thankful that, yeah, this goes back to crafting our image. And whatever, like say we didn't put videos on the internet and we were both just working corporate jobs. I still don't think you're the type of person that could show up to work, you know, with a smile on your face and go home if home life was was hard you have to have uh in line emotions and so if we're not in a good spot we're not working so we have to like we

we do work to be in a good spot and yeah i think it's like if you're going to spend so much time money and effort on anything else um i should i don't know i i think that should that should be matched with the time and effort you're spending on your marriage because it's like that is probably the greatest ROI you can have over time next you don't remember your wedding vows even though you wrote them do we write them no no we did not write them and I don't really remember I remember trying to recite them on our wedding day and it was rough I was I do want to again I think that goes of being so young

we didn't write our vows but I have said that I want to renew our vows at 10 years I want to write them being in a more mature state of mind and like lifestyle I think allows you to have those words

more intentionally but I do think back then we needed someone to write them to understand the magnitude of what we were doing but no I don't remember them you want to do it every 10 years yeah great. 16. Andrew

New Sean was the one instantly. Wow. No, I don't think that's true. Well, you certainly didn't. No, but by the end of the first week, probably, I was like, yeah, this is a girl like to marry. She meets the criteria. Yeah, end of the first week I was there.

Your marriage was rough in the beginning. They said they used to watch the older vlogs, but now it's really strong. I don't feel. I feel like we've had a bandwidth of, like, difficulties that has not really changed much. The things that make a difficult change, but, like, I think we've...

I think what might have been interpreted as rough was we were served up a lot of very unique situations early in our marriage because of our age and because of our jobs. So, like, not many people get married and have a spouse go on tour around the world, and the other spouse bounce around the NFL

We had very unique situations which caused us to have to work through a lot of things publicly Yeah I don't view Our first couple years of marriage is wonderful Yeah And I view our marriage now is wonderful

Yeah You both are super stubborn And get into little tiffs because of it Yeah You know I'm stubborn? Yeah Okay Am I stubborn?

Yeah, you definitely are. Sean's the glue and Andrew is the glitter? I don't even know what that means. Andrew's like the, I think that's kind of like the earlier comment. I don't know. Yeah, I don't even know what that means either. I don't know what that means. No, we're like both glue and glitter.

Yeah, I don't get it. 20. Do you have opposite parenting styles and that leads to fights? Yeah, that's true sometimes. It's not true sometimes. This morning I was really impressed with your parenting. And I was thinking about, man, I'm so glad that, like, there is an element of trust in parenting. That, like, we've talked about this discipline or this approach that we're going to have to our kids.

And I trust that the other person will do that. And I have that trust in you. There are definitely some things that we differ on. that definitely do cause arguments. Yeah. Sleep specifically. I did a good job last night. You did, yeah.

Yeah, you did. Thank you. Yeah. We could talk about that. Mm-hmm. But I would say for 95% of the stuff. Where? I die.

Next, you get annoyed when people criticize your marriage online. I don't really... I don't... I mean, yes, I will say that's accurate. I don't get annoyed personally. I get annoyed if you attack my husband, because that's my husband. You don't do that. That crosses the line for me.

And then I get annoyed because marriage is the most sacred thing between a couple that has nothing to do with the outside world, if that makes sense. Like our marriage, other people's marriages, because I think they're probably, I went on a rant about Simone and her husband. It's just like, why? Why attack the most sacred thing in a family? Probably because it's the most sacred thing in the family. I don't feel that way.

I know that we have chosen to share our marriage. Yeah. And I know that there's a lot of different flavors of perspectives out there. I don't really view it as attacking one. I view it as like, oh, that's an interesting take on what they think marriage should be. um so yeah i love you i love you all right 22 Andrew's sad he's not closer to his family but you both love living by Sean's parents that's partially true I I am glad to say that I have great relationships with my siblings and my mom I am also glad to say that we live rather

close to them enough to see them a couple times a month yeah which is great and I always also do love living by your parents. I love you. You want to do the next one? No, you got it. You have an absolutely wild sex life. I love people's assumptions. That is funny.

That's funny. We have a good time. I don't even know. how to expand upon them. I wonder what they view is wild. I know. Andrew's a full speed ahead and support, love and encouragement.

Sean needed to blossom. Yeah. We've really grown with each other and because of each other, huh? And in spite of each other. Mm-hmm. And I would say I've been the same for you. like your mood went really mellow.

Why? I don't know. Did something hit you mellow? Not at all. Okay. I'm getting sentimental. Last up, you both focus a lot on your kids, and sometimes you forget to focus on each other. Yeah, but not often.

I feel like we work really hard to keep each other a priority. yeah I'm thankful that man if we didn't do the day night I feel I feel it now when we don't do day night yeah like we have it in two weeks and I feel it it is the thing I look most forward to me too people are always shocked they're like every week I'm like yes yes maybe it's a phase of life we need that because there's a lot of peripheral things going on like the last four weeks were probably some of the most hectic chaotic random unscheduled maybe they will ever have is my thought i don't know if your counselor has said this but my counselor did she's like i want you to know your lives are not normal and i was like what do you mean she's like

people aren't this busy like that is not normal and i was like oh i had no idea She has said, like, causes a lot more friction, a lot more hardship. That's what I'm saying. It's pretty surprising that we don't have more tiffs. Yeah. You know? Yeah. We do have tiffs.

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Hurry really does undermine all that. And so it's like what are the things that we can do less of? We've pruned, at the beginning of the year, we've pruned a lot of things. Thank goodness. A lot of really big things. Could you imagine? could you imagine what life would feel like right now

if we didn't prune all that stuff? No. The problem is I still have a hard time saying no as you are well aware and like new things always are trying to vie for my attention and it's like oh I want that and then you don't like at the front end

you're like yeah I'll commit to that because it sounds fun at the beginning but then you don't consider I have a hard time considering the the down-to-road cost of that. What are we referring to right now, Andrew? So many things. A lot of things.

Like your Ph.D.? No, that did not come to mind. Oh, my gosh. The PhD, you're trying to race against the clock for? Yeah, I'm trying to get it done before our book comes out, which I think we'll do a whole episode on our book. Before our book comes out? The episode?

Yeah, yeah, I'm trying to... No, I'm trying to get my PhD down before then. Why? You think it'll help? No, I just want... I want the book to be coming from the place of credibility and thoughtfulness. I know, but if it's done... If you...

Like, we're writing the book as we speak. We wrote the proposal, yeah. Without the PhD. So if it comes... You see the... It's a little... No, look. Look. I'm dumb.

I get it. I get it. get it. You're not dumb. I, anyway. You're a genius. I love you.

So I'm trying to remove hurry to give ourselves the best chance at like just loving each other. As you hurry through a PhD. That's my... I love you.

You're my best friend. I love you too. I do. This is a challenging phase of life. It is. I'm thankful to be humbled through it. I'm thankful

to have you through it. I'm thankful that you are stubborn because that positively affects me as annoying as it is sometimes. Not always. I love you. I love you too. I love your stubbornness too.

Thank you all for sending in those assumptions. Yeah. You're ready for part two. Yeah. And also stay tuned for more on the launch over the other show. you see look remember we just talked about pruning things yeah exactly I just I love all the things in life do I just freaking okay that's all we got thanks for staying with us thanks for tuning in no I think they're all gone now I'm Andrew I'm

I'm Sean we'll see you next time