Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 222 | your assumptions and our answers (part 2)

Episode Date: July 17, 2024

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The Conjuring, last rites. Only in theater September 5th. what's up everybody welcome back to a couple things with Sean and Andrew a life update we've got a lot going on baby a lot my brain feels a little overwhelmed I feel great I'm so happy for you we are on the home stretch getting ready to leave for Paris and I think that is a perfect indication of who's packing and who's not you have not started packing no I've thought Mentally started packing. That's a thing.

My goal is to fit it in one carry-on suitcase, all my stuff. Really? Yeah. Interesting. We have now acquired these massive suitcase. I've never seen suitcases that are this big. We're gone for over a month. Yeah, with kids.

And honestly, there's a lot of diapers and formula and sound machines. Yeah, yeah. Opening ceremonies, primetime interviews. Yeah. We've got invited some pretty exciting stuff. I know. Mehta has invited us to some events, Spotify. Some heavy hitter names have invited us to some cocktail, get together, meet and greets, things, potentially fall in for the opening ceremonies.

That's crazy. It's crazy. I'm proud of you. But yeah, there's all that going on. And Sean and I are also taking a couple nights away. Yep. Starting tomorrow. Just to be with each other.

just to on board what chaos we're about to walk into with taking everybody to Paris. Yep. And I'm really excited for that. I'm really thankful we're doing that. I also am in a phase of life, though, where I don't want to leave her kids at all. Exactly. So it's a little tension, you know? A little tension.

A little tension. Yeah. It's this weird phase of like, I know when we're in Paris, you and I are not going to have any time together as far as, like, one-on-one. Don't say that. I don't mean that in a bad way. but like we're taking all three kids we're taking both of our moms we have a ton of work there's a bunch of people are coming to visit my younger brother marshal's coming yeah great yeah so so i just don't think you and i are going to have this like romantic paris escape which is fine yeah i'm very excited to have a hundred percent family time but taking this little trip ahead of time so that you and i can connect really well i think it's great i have some naked time and just call it a day okay uh okay uh But we also are going to be recording podcast there is just recently been talking about.

Live from Paris. And maybe doing some solos and maybe doing some interviews. We did just launch our interview show, our specific and dedicated interview show called Second Cup. Yes. Actually, here's, look at that. Look, that's a good looking logo for those of you on YouTube. And so the purpose of that was a couple things is just Sean and I. That seems to be the preferred episodes for our.

our listeners on this podcast but we love personally interviewing people and so we launched a whole separate feed that'll have its own dedicated RSS feed for like podcasts but both videos will still be on one YouTube channel that we have now changed to Sean and Andrew podcast so that sounds a bit confusing it's pretty simple we just all the videos are going to be in the same spot if you want to hear us interview people it'll have its own show yeah I'd like rest though what are we here to talk about well it seems like you guys kind of liked the assumptions episode yeah we got so many good and honestly just interesting assumptions about us the feedback was great it seems like people really enjoyed it we wanted to do another assumptions about us episode

yep because these are fun why not i'm nervous though because i feel like even in the first one y'all had some very interesting assumptions. I had this thought the other day. Okay. Let me go back to assumptions part one. Let me just sum it up for you. A lot of the assumptions were we have a lot of naked time. Some of, no, there's like two assumptions about that.

I know, but from what I was told from the person who consolidated, that was overwhelming. Okay. And it made me think about this, babe. Okay. I don't think we're at the top of the statistics there I don't think we're on the heavy ended side of it if you know what I'm saying but it made me think

it made me kind of sad try to follow this train of thought that there are enough people out there looking at a relationship and saying I want that that I feel like a lot of people are drawing the conclusions that the only way to have that is oh they must have a lot of sex

we did we talked about this in our intimacy episode like sexual intimacy intimacy is I think just a brute a derivative effect of emotional intimacy yes so honestly it is kind of a good benchmark to say let's have a lot of sex because then that will reflect you as a married couple being on the same page close to each other and intimate so yeah and I don't think we have a lot to naked time I think we have a very normal amount but my point being I don't think that's what makes us have this dynamic of like you are truly my best friend I love being around you

we have a lot of fun together I think what we do that might be out of the norm for the average couple is we work tirelessly on our marriage What do you mean by work on it? We

don't leave any stone unturned it's a how are we how are you today we're constantly trying to figure out how to talk to each other in different ways that can be received better. We're in counseling, constantly trying to understand each other better and serve each other better and love each other better. We're actively trying to court each other and date each other on a weekly basis in love languages. We're trying desperately not to get complacent ever within our

marriage. And I think because we put so much effort into it, it's seen. when you say work on our marriage a couple things come to mind one is i think we dedicate the time to get to know each other which is a certain amount of time that's kind of like a you could kind of say hey date night two hours a week is that time of getting to know each other let's ask questions let's catch up and explore you know any unturned stones we also dedicate time to resolving conflicts or disagreements or differences in perspectives, which is an undefined period of time. And that to me, like, that's kind of what's difficult about arguments where you're like,

man, we could sit here for the next 36 hours or it could be a half hour. And it's like, to me, that's doing the work of, okay, I'm going to be here, give this my bet. I know we've talked about this. I'm confused why we're arguing. I'm confused why you can't see my perspective. I thought we resolve this that's work and then yeah I also think just prioritizing each other is the other thing and and really being willing to open yourself up to counseling which I'm so glad we did that we're fortunately in a

phase where there's not a lot of opportunities to be complacent in our relationship because we got three young kids we work together and there's just a lot going on I actually think there's a lot of room to be complacent not to challenge that but I think we are in the peak phase of life where it would be so easy for us to be like I'll see you in four years like the easiest part the easiest thing to do in the phase we are in is forget about each other because there's no time you mean there's like a mental emotional switch where you're like all right I'm disengaging a little bit I'm removing myself a little bit and just like gonna get through this stuff yeah just think we we act as like full-time parents during the day and full-time employees

and bosses and we're both trying to get solo time of like our workouts in and reading our books or our podcasts or watching a TV show by the end of the day when 8 p.m. comes around and we get all of our kids down it would be so easy for us to just be like bruh I need to go to bed or I need to, I'm just going to tune out. Like taking that extra effort in saying, okay, we've had all this today, we've had work today, we've done parenting, we've done all these things, now it's us time.

That takes a lot of effort. I think that it's easy for people to be like, maybe not today. Thanks for being my teammate. Okay, let's jump into these assumptions. All right, let us know in the comments if we didn't get to your assumption because we'll do our best to maybe do a part three,

but we did our best to pull as many as we can. could and i think we'll cover about 50 between both episodes about 25 in this episode and we do love these type of episode because we get to hear from you all and interact with you all and we would love to get your thoughts as you listen to this so assumption number one for part two is you have a bunch of inside jokes with each other that nobody else understands my first thought is no but then my second thought is, if only you understood, people are around us every waking second of the day. There are people in our house, people at work, to where Andrew and I have almost had to develop

our own language to where it's like we can actually say things to each other around people that nobody else understands about us. So yes. Yeah, and we have, I think this is normal, like the eye contact or whatever. Yeah, I think we do. We do have a lot of inside jokes. With Amex Platinum, access to exclusive Amex pre-sale tickets can score you a spot trackside. So being a fan for life turns into the trip of a lifetime.

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Andrew does things without telling Sean are asking for permission. Wow, that is spot on. It is. That is spot on. You know, I'm working on it. It's not even that, though. It's the classic Andrew, which we're working on is someone will ask him to do. say like golf go on a trip something November 2nd pickleball tournament with the

deckers by the way I'm gonna put that on the calendar okay I already said yes this is exactly what he does but we're months out we're months out so someone will ask him to do something and he'll agree to it and put it on the calendar as stuff and then you'll ask and I'm like well what what am I going to do now I can't say no And you're like, no, no, no. You can totally say no. You can. That's not how it works.

You say, let me ask my wife. I do need to do a better job at that. And then you come back and commit to it or not. This is the other thing that comes to mind when working on your marriage is like sometimes she said this for seven and a half years. We've been married for eight years. This same thing. Seven and a half years.

Which just happened again. I wasn't working on a marriage when I was saying, no, that's just not right. I don't do that. But now I'm working on the marriage by. by considering these things that I thought were just incorrect or harsh criticisms on me and saying, man, maybe she's right. That takes a lot of work. That takes a lot of work.

It's taken 10 years. It hurts your feelings. It takes a certain amount of awareness and humility that I think I'm just kind of easing into. Wow. A certain amount. I'm saying I'm just dabbling. You're just now at the point where you're like, maybe she's right on that? Maybe the freak you should notice too.

What if I? What if I said something that might be right? I don't know. Nothing. There's not a single thing. Number three. You honestly never argue. All you do is have fun all the time.

Lots of constant laughter, very few tears. Ooh. Never argue. Yeah. Oh, that's, I mean, it's wrong. It's like tears once a week probably if I've had to put a cadence to it once a week. No. No, no, no.

times a week. Tears not because of arguments once a week. Yeah, okay. You're right. Once a month? Because of arguments? Yeah. Maybe.

I don't see it like that. Okay. Carry on. We argue. That's all I got. What do we argue? Why do we argue? Because we get tired and hungry.

Yeah. Yeah, I'm trying to put- And we miss each other. That's literally it. Sean and I don't do things well unless we make it easy for us to do them well. Here's how I'm going to try to make not arguing easy for us to do. So we've made lowering our screen time easy because we took TV out of our living room. I'm trying to make not arguing easier by not packing our schedule as tightly,

eliminating hurry, not committing to as much, giving ourselves more space to just, sit down or have a drink of water. Good luck. Okay. Mr. Yes, man. Number four, you got it. Andrew doesn't give himself credit even though Sean's name brings in the money. Yeah.

But I don't fully agree with the statement. Really? I don't, no, no, no. Andrew doesn't give himself credit. Period. and Sean's name does bring in them no it doesn't no you've done a great job I think you need my name is recognizable you we both are a team we talked about this a lot in part one

we're a good team I'm thankful for it number five you didn't always have the same biblical views and had to get on the same page when you got married interesting I'd say that's true I don't think we have the same biblical understanding I think we had different like takes on it I probably like knew more Bible verses you probably had like a deeper trust and faith

yeah so we're a good team again yeah I don't think we had the same practice but I think we were aligned on moral values I think I think I probably had more of the traditional like go to church often do the Bible study thing

these are all new things for you but you I think we've learned a lot from each other. Number six, it's hard to film a YouTube video or a podcast when you're fighting with each other, but you can put on a good face. That is incorrect. We do not film YouTube videos or podcasts when we're fighting with each other.

We have filmed podcasts or YouTube videos before where we're snippy with each other and it can be seen. We cannot put on a good face. We are not good at acting. No, Sean specifically. I'm better putting on a good face, but we don't because Sean is bad. at it. And I'm thankful for that. You're not good at putting on a good tone. That's probably right.

I'm not good at putting on a good face. Honestly, that used to aggravate me. As we've matured, I've realized how much of a blessing that is. So I can't put on a good face. Well, it's like, it's just, it's, it's inauthentic. Yeah. You know, I can't. And it's like, it forces us to resolve the issue. My emotions here are 100% here always. That is spot on. And if you've met her in person, you'd probably seen that. Number seven, Andrew can often be a yes man and Sean can be a no woman which can get on each other's nerves. Dang, these are hitting close to home. Dang, what the hell? Did our counselors write this? Did our counselors submit these? No, our girls probably wrote these. Wow. That is to a T. I think I say no more than I normally

would trying to balance him out. And I think you say yes more than you normally will because do you try to balance me out? Oh, I just feel so, there's so many exciting things in life. And I do have FOMO. And also, like, we have a flexible schedule. So I'm like, yeah, we can go to lunch. Yeah, I'll do a five-hour golf tournament. Yeah, let's go play pickleball at two in the afternoon.

All in the same day. Oh, man. Number eight. You have a very long-term mindset when it comes to your marriage and your arguments. I think we're growing into this. Yeah, we're getting better and better and better at it. Not to say we haven't really ever had like a short-term mindset as far as like our marriage. But we're getting more and more to this place of like more mature with it.

It is nice to remove their urgency of, to be able to trust that the game will be long enough to not need to like have that. have that like tight grip like I need this from you now I need to know that you think I'm good enough I need to yeah and it is it's like more peaceful and it also kind of brushes over

a lot of the silly thing yeah did I say that in a sense that's how I feel like when you trust more in the length they're like we're in it forever it totally shifts the perspective yeah no I agree

number nine Sean does better on little sleep than Andrew does couldn't be more false that is incorrect yeah that's incorrect you have thoughts I think it's incorrect I do pretty well

for some reason my body usually wakes me up around 445 I don't want to wake up that early but I do we go to bed early at like 845 9 yeah um but yeah i think and it is better yeah but you're just so beautiful you know oh my you're ridiculous neither of us do well when we're tired but andrew can operate better when he's tired

I also am more prone to just pumping caffeine. Yeah, I can't. I actually have a system. Like, I'll use eye drops because when I'm tired, my eyes get itchy, and that's the only thing that makes me feel tired, so I'll use eye drops that gets that away. And I'll just crank caffeine. Yeah.

Then we're going, you know what I'm saying? And then it's like freaking game on. There's going to be a hard crash later. Yeah. But I'm there. Yeah. Number 10, we split chores in a traditional gender way and have, quote, assigned roles.

I think we tried to divvy up roles formally, didn't we? Yeah. I think at one point I was frustrated because I was like, okay, I don't know what you expect to me, and I need to tell you what I expect of you. So I think we tried to like list out chores and who is responsible for them. But that kind of caused arguments more than resolved them. So I think we've kind of settled into. Actually, here's what's changed.

We're not fully there. But we have more and more so said there's a problem, I'm going to fix it. There's a dirty dish, I'll take it to the sink, as opposed to saying, why the heck didn't Sean take it to the dish? I would say before we had kids, we really tried to divvy up chores. So we had this rule in our house of we both cook, and we had this rule of whosoever night it was to cook, the other person would clean up. Yeah. And then... NGC, the Girl Club.

Yeah. So, like, that type of stuff has changed after kids because now it's just like a free-for-all. It's like whatever you can see or do to help is best. Assigned roles, though, I think the only thing we've truly worked on to assign, and it's not assigning by, like, gender, it's truly just...

Within our marriage, we've figured out what we're both good at. What? Keep going. Keep going. I'm laughing. Can I tell you why? A message popped on my phone and someone said, my favorite saying now is whispering motorized. Like which I did. I'm sorry. I. Wow. You went here, bro. You ain't here. The only thing that we've kind of fallen into is what we call our lanes more than roles. and it's truly just been we both have had these mindsets over the years of we need to both be able

to control everything and we would butt heads doing it I would try to control finances he would try to control finances and we would just get in arguments and we've just kind of done that over the course of so many different topics but we've figured out

who's kind of better at each thing to where the other person has basically said like I let go of it so like I have let go of finances and that's in your role you've let go of like creativity and that's in my role I think this is one of the great things we've learned from employing people is like delegating trusting and saying you know what you're going to do it differently than I did

yeah whether it be loading the dishwasher folding the clothes where you know the all the stuff the finances but trusting that like it's better it's better if we kind of to divide and conquer then try to control everything ourselves i think um i think too you mentioned before kids we tried to it felt like we had a lot to do before kids and then we had kids and you realize there's like a ton of tasks make the bottle change a diaper get the diapers get the formula reorder formula well all the stuff right uh and that's what i kind of like about being a yes man we were just talking about this like when you experience overwhelm or your plate gets

too full. When that gets reduced, life is so simple. And you're like, oh, man, I do have it good. It's like an awareness mechanism of like, dude, this is easy. So anyway, as we reached a point of trying to delegate as we had kids like we were before we had kids. And then it was like too much. So then it became, sorry, I didn't say that right. We tried to really be strict with who we did what and then we had kids and there's too much to divvy up so now it's like it's more of a flow

all right you don't ever let your kids sleep in your bed because you try and have sexy time many times a week here we are again I told you no however we don't really ever let our kids

sleep in our bed that's because of me because I slept in my parents' bed until I was probably seven or eight years old and I just have very clear memories of being so afraid of my room and my bed and that kind of like lasting a while that I made at such a point with our kids to make their rooms they're like safe haven this goes both ways and it's imperfect both sides I wish we cuddled with our kids more I know you know and And that would mean like, hey, let's, whatever, let's go in their rooms and cuddle.

Let's have them in our bed. The downside of that is usually the routine and the sleep schedule goes out the window, right? I think one of the things that, I don't know, maybe I'll do more with Bear since he might be our last kid, is cuddle him and be less concerned about the schedule. But we were really schedule-oriented with sleep, with our kids. They all slept through the night at like a couple weeks old because we were like that. And that's been awesome and probably what we needed. The downside is you don't get the cuddles. So.

But it's not because, yeah. It's not because of sexy time. But that is a thought. You're like, if kids are always in the bed, then when are you throwing down? Hit pause on whatever you're listening to and hit play on your next adventure. This fall get double points on every qualified stay. Life's the trip. Make the most of it at Best Western.

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You know? Yeah So yeah I think we've benefited from that Next one Neither one of us ever gives the silent treatment And you have learned to communicate well through counseling we were we weren't really ever the silent treatment people when we're stressed we definitely don't talk as well yeah you know but it's never been like a

yeah i think we're the opposite we're like we're gonna talk about this right now yeah yeah so that's that's right next one 13 shan is really protective over andrew yes you're my dude I love you I love you You know what's Yellowstone What's Beth?

Beth M. Rip? Yeah I feel like I'm Beth with you Thank you I appreciate you

being that Yeah Do you feel like I'm protective over you? Yeah I feel like you're a rip That's cool That's cool

That's cool I hope we're a little More like emotionally stable 14 Your idea of a perfect date night is very different and it can be hard to agree on what to do every week. Hmm, I don't think so.

No. No. We like good food. We like trying new places that we never do. Little activity, a little bike ride. We'd probably do more double dates if it was up to me. I'm glad we don't, though. Yeah.

Because we have needed that time together. If you're not doing date nights on a consistent basis and you have kids, I would highly recommend it. Number 15, you both have a high emotional IQ trying to give each other the benefit of the doubt all the time. Hmm, you don't think I've... We're working on it. Do you think... Hold on. You went to an assumption of something else.

Emotional IQ first. Okay, I was doing the other. Yes, I think we both have a very high emotional IQ. I agree. I think we're tired. You were definitely more sensitive. That does not mean high emotional. I think I read people's emotions, but...

than you do you're more sensitive to it yeah that doesn't mean it's true or false it means your narrative i don't know um trying to give the other the benefit of the doubt all the time we are working on that yeah i think that's a really important thing with marriage with your kids with your extended family everywhere else you're going to naturally look for differences i think you owe it to your family to look and prioritize and focus on the similarities yeah this is a political season this is about to be all over the place yeah and there was a major beef in my family the last political political cycle and it's like uh and even with whatever with certain things it's like no we are a family that means that we are fighting for each other not against each other yes and that is

that is a conscious action to do it's not like a natural thing anyway 16 your love languages are the exact same making your marriage easier false incorrect your love language is touch or words of affirmation quality time there you go yours are words of affirmation or acts of service yeah good job so none of parts actually are the same. You get the next one? Sean gets annoyed when Andrew compares your athletic careers. What do you think about when I try

to group my poultry NFL career and with your... That is what I hate. Sean. No. I'm more athletic. You had a better athletic career. The truth is. comes out i'm kidding i'm kidding i'm kidding i'm kidding i get very annoyed when andrew compares our athletic

careers only to undermine himself no oh my gosh shot don't downplay yourself you you're like a legend in your sport it you're freaking no you're not even legend in your sport you're just a freaking legend period point blank done move on 18 family is genuinely the most important thing to the both of you and you'll do anything to make sure your family unit is strong yes it's been a really fun thing to focus on actually was just talking to steve the other day and he said that uh they implemented trips with their kids at certain milestone ages based off our family culture starter pack which i don't think we shared with you guys i don't think we will because it's not ready but we've tried to be really strategic with one going back and understanding family history so that we could

tell our kids these stories. I want to put together, do I tell you this, a family hall of fame. You did tell me this. Yeah, I like it. So pictures of people in our family tree and kind of like their top hit playing card highlights of what they have done. Because telling, dude,

there's an article. Can I share this? Hey, wait, wait, can I share this? Guy sent me this article that if you know stories about your family and your family history, it has such incredible positive impact. So let me pull us up. are you ready for this I this story this is an article from the Huffington post I'm not saying

it's scientific but it says the stories that bind us what are the 20 questions and essentially these 20 questions are about your family history and if you know them then there are like economic positive benefits there are like longevity positive benefits so I want to we've been trying to be really intentional with collecting these family stories and communicating them yes you have but it it's just great yeah and i'm also just so freaking thankful and proud of my family i know and they're like my best friends and i miss my dad i'm sorry i miss it so maybe this is like my coping mechanism but but also my both my grandpas are freaking legends they are i'm just proud and i think that's a healthy pride i think it's

different for us because I didn't know many of my family. So, which is such a beautiful thing of like, why family has become so important to us, and I agree. But as far as, like, the Hall of Fame, that's why it's hard for me to relate. Because, like, I didn't know them.

Yeah. Also, someone was saying that, that, like, family legacy doesn't matter and, like, oh, your great Korean kids won't even know who you are. Fine. I don't even know my name. But you look at some of the dynasties and history, These family legacy, the Rockefellers, generations, like we're talking 120 years at this point.

First of all, the Bible is 8% genealogy, meaning Andrew is the son of Guy, is the son of James. 8% of that, so that means something. Then you look at the Medici family from Florence, Italy. They freaking created the Renaissance. They were patrons from Michelangelo, all these things. You look at the Bush family, how many of them were top politicians. You get my point. It does matter.

I would like to go back through It does matter The past five years of podcasts And I could tell you By listening to the first five minutes of podcast What phase of life Andrew was in? Right now, we are in the dynasty phase We are learning all about

Face Dynasties We went through a phase of Beneficial Adversaries Oh, I like that phase uh-huh we went different phases and they're reoccurring within each podcast until you find the next one and then that's the that's the heavy hit i feel like i i need to communicate it enough until i communicate it what i feel yeah so i'm close to the dynasty thing yeah all right uh 19 yeah 19 you both wish

your marriage had more romance after having kids i know i do that's what they're no what do they mean what does that mean do they want to feel more connected to the spouse more sex more date what I don't I don't know I don't know for I will say this I will say yes because I can never have enough romance with you babe all right Andrew is a saver

Sean is a spender but it doesn't lead the fights yep what you think I do spend I do spend a lot of money yes you spend way more

not true it's an investment okay first of all you get confused. No, no, no, no, no, no. That is some deep level, just excuse for yourself with some things. Okay, Hornets. What is that? An investment. Oh my gosh. Don't make me sound like a bad guy with this. First of all, I went through years of the NFL training. They're like, oh 80% of NFL athletes go broke

so then you're like yeah I'm naturally and my you know my grandpa grew up and I have all these scars I got scars Andrew baby I'm so sorry I hit something that I didn't mean to you said deep-seated and I think you're going to say a different word so I just no no no no okay okay okay I'm sorry

no I'm good I'm good I just I did not mean to hurt you there that made me sad you know I didn't to hurt you if I said you spent too much money because we got a good we got a good little thing going you know we're doing a great job I agree you're doing a phenomenal job with the investment we both spend a lot of money to be honest we are honestly the US GDP we are some percentage of of like you know spending enough consumer product goods and you're doing a phenomenal job with investment actually thank you we justify our spending because

we like to try a bunch of things and we want to find the best thing that then we could refer other people to so that's how i have at least come to terms with that next andrew hangs out with his friends more than sean hangs out with her friends yeah are you okay with that yeah i'll get there someday what do you think that is mom life i have an easier time leaving the kids by the way i hang out with my friends either in morning workouts before the kids When do I hang out with my friends? Maybe like a seven-day rafting trip. Okay, first of all. Bachelor parties, golf outings. Summer's here, and you can now get almost anything you need for your sunny days, delivered with Uber Eats. What do we mean by almost? Well, you can't get a well-groom lawn delivered, but you can get a chicken parmesan delivered.

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F1 races. Baby moon. Exactly. A bros baby moon. You want to keep going? I definitely hang up with my friends. I know that. I know that. I think it's because the mom brain, I just doesn't allow me yet to take time away.

I need you to hear this. I fully support you going to see your friends. I know you do. I also feel like we have a nice setup where I'm able to see my friends during the day, like a lot of times during working hours, where it doesn't compromise time with kids. You know what I'm saying?

It's not like, yeah. Next. Like the seven-day rafting trip? that was a bachelor party that was with my best friend i didn't want to freaking be there for seven days what do you do and that was the last year so get over at mom no next your marriage was never struggling before uh you had baby number three no yeah that's not true we've been through many ups and down first six months not ideal second six months not ideal for six years it's just an up and down

I mean after every baby we've gone through a phase of hardship and trying to figure each other out again changing of careers and jobs moving all over the country for different reasons I mean yeah I think the miscarriage is really hard on us

yeah even if you argue some days, you can make each other laugh until you cry like nobody else can. I think we're getting to a point we're able to have perspective enough to like turn arguments into, hey, we're just being dumb right now. But yes, nobody can make me laugh like you can. I love your giggle, dude. I love your giggle.

Same to you, baby. 24. Andrew wants more kids, but Sean says she's done. so it's probably a conversation that gets brought up a lot. I don't think it comes up a lot. No, no. But that's probably true. I could just have kids forever,

and I'm not the one having them, so. Yeah. But I think we both agree that if we're not on the same page, we're not having more kids. Yeah. Gosh, I love our freaking kids, dude. Are you kidding me? I know.

Our babies are amazing. 25. You have to brush issues under the rug because you work together all day and have to be on camera. No. This goes back to the other one. We prioritize each other over work.

So if things are, if there's issues, we either cancel work and figure them out or prioritize how we can like respect each other and work and then figure it out after. Work separately. Yeah. The squad will tell you there's been many days that we were supposed to film a podcast or a YouTube video. And we don't because we need to figure something out. And the squad will tell you firsthand when their bosses are married

that they know when we're not on good terms. Yeah, that's great. 26. You both don't believe in soulmates and believe love is the decision more than a feeling which can sometimes disagree with. Which others sometimes disagree with? Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah, that was a whole thing. People really were offended that I didn't believe you and I were soulmates. I don't think we are. But we're becoming them. Yeah. Is that a right way to say?

I don't know. No, honestly, we just mentioned it. We've been through all these phases, and our marriage has struggled through all these phases, but then we've changed through all the phases. It's like, what if you've buried your soulmate, and then inevitably over the years they change and then they're not your soul man

the whole thing is kind of flawed you know so it's yeah I just don't believe how about this I don't believe there is another person out there who if I was married to our marriage would be better than ours but I'm sure there are other people in the world that both you and I could have married

and have been a nice life we say this with people that like you know can't have kids it's like there really is a ton of good ways to live a good life yeah this is one of them this is one way to have a good marriage having kids is a good way

to have a good life anyway you got the last one last one you may be opposites in many ways but you really bring out the best in each other that's right don't forget it

speaking of the rafting trip what i really think i was like in a parallel universe that could be me because i'm totally like people used to ask if i was from california because they're like dude you just got this you're like chill you got those vibes like totally could be me but you our marriage has shaped me into whatever this is yeah this version of me yeah which is like you know overcommitting doing a lot of stuff we've done that and you know I never had aspirations to I have a business and here we are did I you got an MBA from Vanderbilt when I was dating you I don't know whatever it is just interesting if I married somebody else I'd be a totally different person same I freaking love who you've made me become I freaking love who you've made me become I freaking love

who you've made me become feel self-indulgent. No, it's me giving credit to you. Thanks, baby. Vice versa. I love you. Are you into this episode?

I am. You ready for it to be done? Yeah. Thank you for listening. Thanks for sending those in for those of you that did. If we didn't get to yours, let us know. Make sure you follow us in social media.

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really thankful you guys thankful for you guys excited to bring you on the adventures to Paris and elsewhere Italy and then we got New York London

oh my gosh it's gonna be a lot yeah yeah yes baby we're going to London no no the other one though the other one we don't know

still stay tuned because there might be some updates anyway thanks for watching that's how we got I'm Andrew I'm shot Thank you.