Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 24 Lauren + Arie Luyendyk

Episode Date: June 10, 2020

This week, in episode 24 of couple things with Shawn and Andrew, we sit down with our friends Lauren and Arie Luyendyk. These two were a ton of fun to have on. As you'll hear in the episode, we have actually interviewed them before for Couple Things, but ran into a few different obstacles. We're so glad we got to do this not once, but TWICE with them. We chat with these two about what life is like after life on the Bachelor and how they've overcome the struggles that came with falling in love on reality TV. They even talk with us about their journey to parenthood, and their beautiful little girl Alessi. We're so excited to share this one with you, so without further ado, Lauren and Arie Luyendyk.   If you want to follow Lauren and Arie, you can find them on instagram as @laurenluyendyk and @ariejr. Also be sure to check out their YouTube channel at "Lauren and Arie"! Check out their Pregnancy + Heartbreak Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zNi4BDXK5g&t=10s  If you haven't yet, please rate and subscribe to the show to hear more! And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format - we might just choose yours! Email us at [e-mail]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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andrew a podcast all about couples and the things they go through today we sit down with one of america's favorite couples Ari and Lauren Lyndeike this is actually our second time interviewing them we interviewed them months ago they're one of our very first couples on our podcast we ended up not releasing it because Andrew and I didn't really know back then had to do a podcast, had to interview. They had their beautiful baby girl, Lesi, and she ended up starting crying. It was just kind of a mess. So we reached back out.

We got a great conversation, and we are really excited about this one. Yeah, there are babies crying, interruptions, awkward pauses, a lot of stress coming from everybody. But if you don't know about RN, Lauren, their relationship was documented on The Bachelor, the TV show. And Ari comes from a family of professional race car drivers. Lauren has a fantastic past of herself, but they've kind of been embraced by the country as this, you know,

romantic story. And it's kind of crazy how things have panned out now that they have a child as well. And we talk about all of that. Yes. And then we actually recorded this a few weeks ago. And if you guys follow them on YouTube, they just released this beautiful video documenting their tragic miscarriage, their loss of their baby and breaks our heart.

Our hearts go out to them. I actually reached out to Lauren. It's something we, unfortunately have in common and I just want to say to her and to Ari and to Alessi and to all the mamas and families out there who have experienced this our hearts are with you guys it's one of the hardest things to go through and you don't have to be alone because we're all in it together and we're all praying for everyone so if you want to watch the video um I would buckle up and prepare for an emotional recluster we'll link that down below and also more information on

Ari and Lauren themselves. But before we get started, if you haven't yet, please give the show a rating and subscription on whatever platform we're listening to. And let's go ahead and jump into this one with Ari and Lauren. Ari and Lauren, thank you so much for joining us. Thanks for having us. Again.

For people listening, this is our second time recording this. Our fault, not yours. We were completely distracted. Arne was screaming in the background. Their baby was crying in the background. It was a hard interview. We're really excited to continue the conversation. I did learn something since the last time we talked that we share something really special, I think.

The first time we both met was at a racetrack, an indie car race. No way. Yes. Oh, really? Yes. I did not know this. What in the park did you guys go to? The Indy 500, Ari.

I'm an indie diehard, man. I've been like 18 of my 28 years, 28 years of life. I love it. That's so cool. Wait. So where did you? you guys meet? Texas Motor Speedway?

Yeah, so we met at the IndyCaris there. And it was like in July and then we filmed Bachelor that September, having no idea that she would be on the show. Oh, fine. I didn't know you could be a Bachelor either. Yeah, it's kind of crazy. Wait, it was literally just coincidence? Yeah.

Yeah, she had. So did you kind of have your eye on her the whole time? Like, hmm. She was so shocked. I think that's the one. I don't think she's into me. I don't think she's into me at all. I've never pursued a guy, so I was like, I'm still going to make him come after me.

And on national television. Yeah. I think pursuing anybody on national television adds a whole different aspect to it. I feel like I'm the only one in this whole group right now that had like that didn't have people constantly pursuing me. Lauren said that the only person she ever pursued was Ari. Ari had everybody chasing. I'm the one that was doing the work over here. Oh, you said you were like juggling.

the ladies when we first started dating excuse me it paid off it paid off Andrew so what was the what went down the first time you guys met how was it so I actually was dating somebody and she was there at the track with a guy who was in love with me what yeah we both basically had people that you know were sort of like 10 feet away from us she came and grabbed a pitcher and then I remember thinking like okay I remember her American flag shorts like she's definitely dressed for the race perfect for a race too for the race yeah yeah all good she's in Texas you know I was like oh she's cute and then I was like all right I got to like break away from her because I felt like the person I was dating was just like staring at the back of me you know you can like feel it

and then so she you know walked off or whatever and I never thought twice about it and then she you know came out of the limo and then had a picture of that same picture that you know she took back then and that's how she gets herself yeah oh that's adorable that actually is really dang they never showed that on the show they never showed that which is crazy they did it I'm sorry I did not see that it it's like he showed me talking about it but it was like they showed no context at all yeah interesting so interesting wait okay so yeah people does this play into the whole gaming situation going on at your house i've been seeing this on instagram i'm very curious well i mean i feel like everyone's trying to like

pass the time and not like i have a ton of time because we have a lessee but i feel like all my old buddies that i used to race against um you know they can't race so they all got these simulators and they're all racing against each other and they're holding like professional races that are broadcasts on NBC. So it's not like a toy. It's like they take it very seriously. Wait. So I'm racing.

Can you explain this to Andrew? Because he hasn't seen it. And I told Andrew, I was like, you have to ask him about it because it's the most intense setup of our scene. If it sounds cool enough,

we're going to get one. Okay, maybe don't explain it to him. This episode is brought to you by Defender. With its 626 horsepower twin turbo V8, engine, the Defender Octa is taking on the Dakar rally. The ultimate off-road challenge. Learn more at landrover.ca. It literally takes up our whole office. It's like TV screens around me, like wheel steering wheel. Yeah, he has the smallest office and when he ordered it, he's talking about it for days and days, like, YouTube videos on how to put it together. I'm like, where are you even going

going to put this thing? And he's like, in my office. And then we get it and it takes up the entire room like you can't even walk to the closet or his death it's pretty hilarious it's a point of contention though because also like she'll be putting on her makeup or something and i'll just sneak in there and then she'll catch me in there oh i don't care that much have you got behind the wheel on it what have you gotten behind the wheel on it i have and i crashed like right away yeah it's not oh you know those like racing games like mario cart i can't even keep mario on the street so i feel like he's not meant to be a racer it's embank It's embarrassing. It's embarrassing to say at least.

No. Okay. Well, we have to, we would be remiss in talking about the relationship if we didn't bring up the show. So I'm curious. I'm curious when you look back on the show, do you view it as an act of fate that you guys were both there? Would you do it differently if you could? Tell me about it. I would definitely do it differently. but we've always kind of looked at it as like it was meant to be you know I felt like I needed a sign to know if I should go on the show or not and then they made me watch GMA to find out who the bachelor was and when I saw him walk out I was like oh there's my sign because I had already met him yeah yeah so I feel like there was a little bit of fate there for sure yeah and then

I didn't think she was out into me the whole beginning of the show so I kind of let other relationships develop and then it got towards the end and I was like oh dang she actually really likes me and then I was you know then it was just like our relationship blooms so late in that whole bachelor world that that's why the ending got a little mixed up but so it's my fault no it's not your it's definitely my fault but it's just a very it's such a difficult um it's such a difficult I hate to call it process, but it is a difficult show. And that's probably why you find a lot of people don't really make it is because it's just so taxing emotionally.

It's just like it's not natural to have like two people that you at the end and then have to break up with one person and get engaged to another person an hour later. It's just so weird. It's like no wonder it barely works. I'm happy it worked, but. Yeah, I feel like it takes time to build trust too. So you kind of pick whatever. is the most comfortable and you can put your most of your faith in at the end and it's just so hard

to do that in such a short amount of time yeah it's 10 weeks which sounds pretty it feels a lot longer than it is but it's still 10 weeks so it's kind of nuts to think about so you have 10 weeks on national television I mean I know it's delayed but when you guys are like in the house you're basically on national television and that's 10 weeks of like condensed time where you don't really have any other distractions except trying to fall in love and find, you know, your person. Something that they don't cover and I've always been curious about is how is the transition period and what is it like going from proposing or furthering your relationship to no longer having the cameras and being back into just normal life?

How like the transition? I wouldn't say, I don't think our lives have ever been normal after the show. Never went back completely, but I don't know. It was really nice, actually, to not have the cameras around because we could relax and get to know each other on like a really real level. And all we were able to do is hang out in a house with each other for like a week for a couple months before the show aired. So we really had a lot of time to get to know each other.

Yeah, I think that was, there's like this time when it's not on. television and, you know, obviously they're editing and you get to hang out and it's called happy couple and they like send you to an Airbnb and it's just like the two of us and then someone pops in and gives us food and stuff. We're not allowed to leave and it's almost like you're like quarantine like we're all going through right now. Yeah, I was going to say. You know, it's a lot like what we're experiencing but with like just the two of you and it's actually really a cool time because that's when I feel like the relationship goes from one level to a whole new level and then you really realize if it's going to work or not so i think

that's like a special time how long a time is that sorry that was well we got back together like mid-January and then the show three months yeah march yeah you're in Airbnb quote-unquote quarantine for three months like a week yeah they like give you like oh my gosh yeah every we saw it oh yeah so fly us out for like five days, and then we go home to our... So you only get to see each other for that week every month, and then you go separate ways. Interesting.

Oh, it's like this whole sneaky romance. Yeah. Yeah, we used to get like, she just got like a wig, and I would wear like a hat. And then we'd like sneak out of the house, you know. Funny. This sounds like, uh, like some, well, never mind. Like, like, I was going to say like a, you know,

the wig and the costumes and stuff. That was a weird comment. I'm going to kill that. I'm going to kill that. I am embarrassed. No, Lauren, Ari, so you mentioned the building trust, and that takes a while. I feel like it's like that in every relationship. It might be exaggerated on the show, but like, you know, a lot of people have misgivings or

or hesitations about trusting. How do you feel like you were able to build trust? Ari, maybe you had a similar experience, but I'm curious, like, What was that process like for you to really buy in and, like, trust? I think initially being the bachelor, you trust in the process because you're like, this has worked because for me it worked in the past as far as like having feelings towards somebody in that short amount of time. But I feel like the biggest level trust had to come from Lauren in trusting me after

dating so many women at the same time, which is weird. Well, and the ending made it a little difficult. Yeah, the ending was also. But, you know, I kind of had to follow my heart, and I still felt strongly about him. So, you know, if you're going to move past something like together, you just have to trust each other. And, like, at that point, we kind of felt like it was us against the world. So it brought us close together, and we kind of realized we're the only people we could really lean on in that situation. So that helped us trust each other a lot faster.

Yeah. okay so the show finishes you guys are now together or like in January like you said how far after you guys getting together after the show did your relationship become serious in the sense of like you're like okay this is this is going to work I want to marry this person I want to have a kid yeah I would say while we're Yeah, while we're in a happy couple, we're already talking about merging kids. So before anyone knew the ending of our season, we had already made up our minds of, we were already planning our wedding, basically.

Well, weirdly enough for me, I already felt like that at the end of the show, obviously, because I was ready to get engaged then. So then I think when he came back, I was like, you're obviously not to earn my trust back, but I already feel that way. And then for listeners, what was? the time period between the end of the show and when you guys got married um the show is over in march and we got married in january so oh awesome yeah yeah nine months later's wait and then i think we asked you guys this the first time we interviewed you guys but didn't you guys

just have like a repeat of your like wedding night where you put back on your dress you surprise him with a car. Yeah, for our anniversary. That was a lot of fun. That was the coolest thing ever. I really want to do that. Yeah, she said that she wants to wear her wedding dress now for every anniversary. Yeah, I will. Because I think it was just cool. We rolled up to this restaurant. Lauren had the whole thing planned. So I did like the daytime. So I did like a little picnic on a hike with a lessee and it was really cool. It was more of a family sort of activity. And then Lauren had planned the evening and she'd rented a Lamborghini, which was sick. It was kind of like a replay of our wedding night

because we didn't have a getaway car at our wedding. And so I wanted us to have that experience. And then when we went to dinner, I had the table set up like our head table at our wedding. And I had no idea any of this is going to happen. Yeah, we're at this restaurant overlooking the city and we're sort of like perched up above everybody eating in front of us, which was hilarious.

So we didn't know anyone down here. We're in our wedding. I mean, like, oh, shit or what? Yeah, I had my talk shitter dress. on and there was roses all over the table it was really cool and then we walked outside and the restaurant was closing down right of the last one's there

and then randomly some kid was shooting off fireworks and I was like did you plan this? Because you know so Bachelor to have fire to go off like as soon as you walk inside and look out on the view and all of a sudden there's fireworks and that was just like coincidence which was so funny. Geez

Were you both like we have like our Our phones are her phones connected to her computer and just like How do you silence that? I have no clue. I'm so sorry. It's okay. I still think it might come through your computer.

Okay. We'll just see if that worked. Yeah. Grand romantic gestures, I feel like are, I mean, they go hand in hand with the bachelor or bachelorette. It's like the most grand romantic gestures you've ever seen. was that something you guys already were into? I mean, the whole Lamborghini and Rose-filled table overlooking the entire restaurant. I think you would see that on TV or is that just how you guys

are? I mean, I enjoy that stuff, but I think The Bachelor definitely set the bar. It's not like you have to top them. They plan so much that. They have a team thinking of how to make this look amazing. So it's really hard to compete with that. But I feel like our anniversary, we pulled it That's pretty cool. You pulled it off. I need to step up my game. No, you'd be good, too. Here, let's try to stop here. Sorry, pause for a sec. It's okay.

There we go. Okay, cool. Okay. So, forgive me if this is too sensitive. But I feel like you guys both have a really good sense of humor. and I think that plays a big part of this. But, Lauren, I believe you were engaged before the show. Is that correct? Yeah.

And then Ari, you ultimately got engaged in the show, right? Well, Lauren, I just loved your comment when you were, you just kind of laughed it off when you said the ending wasn't of the show, wasn't what you were thinking it would be. Is that how you guys have been able to make it through the complications? Do you attribute it to like just having a lighthearted perspective and realizing that, hey, you know what, I'm not perfect, he's not perfect, and it's funny. You can get protein at home or a protein latte at Tim's. No powders, no blenders, no shakers.

Starting at 17 grams per medium latte, Tim's new protein lattes, protein without all the work, at participating restaurants in Canada. Yeah, I think that's the only way to really handle it. And it's kind of fun to poke fun at him now. I'm probably never going to let it go completely. Well, if you rewind and go back to that time, we weren't so, she wasn't so lighthearted about it. I think we just like apologizing over and over again and talking about it a lot.

I think communication was the big thing that we got right in the beginning of our relationship. We talked about everything, sort of laid it all out on the table. And if she was feeling a certain way, she wasn't afraid to talk to me about it. And I think that helped a lot in the beginning. Yeah, definitely. Okay, so fast forward from the show. You guys get married. You now have the most beautiful daughter, which, I mean, I'm biased.

I feel like ours is most beautiful, obviously. She's what. I have to say that. I'm a mom. No, what? Seriously, though, Alessie is stunning. Talk us through parenthood. What is it like raising?

a daughter and a kid being so popular and being in the forefront of everybody's tabloids and media. What's, I mean, what's that life like? I don't know. We just kind of try to take everything we see with a grain of salt. Some people disagree with some things we do. And some people are really supportive. I would say the majority of people are. So we just try to focus on the positive and not pay as much attention to the negative. Maybe. Maybe. kind of laugh at it like yeah there's a lot of like keyboard warriors out there you know who criticize on parenting that's the probably the most frustrating part as far as alessie being popular that it's like so unexpected and hilarious to me because we created a page for her on

instagram as more for us to look back out almost like a baby book and you know cracked lauren's progress through her pregnancy and it just kind of like took off and you know it was just kind of something fun to do every week to post on that. We're not fun. We would argue about taking a photo all the time. I'm like, I'm bad. I don't want to. She never wanted to. And I was like, look, look back in this. It's going to be the coolest thing to like see this. And after it was all said and done, she was really happy that we took a photo everything. Yeah, I was thanking him. So we'll probably do it from the next one too, you know. You're a braver man than I am, Ari. I tried the picture every week, and I lost so many arguments. I folded pretty quickly.

after like the second or third one. I mean, it's such a beautiful thing to look back on, but in the moment, I was just not having it. I was like, nah, I can't do this. I feel yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. So I feel like, I feel like this happens a lot in parenting and once a kids grow up and move out of the house. I feel like it happens in like relationships where one person serves in the military. I feel like it happened in Sean and I's relationship where, and maybe you guys as well,

where like there's this there's this time period that's so intense it's almost like a vortex of of emotions and energy and memories and then that ends like for you guys maybe was a show or for Sean it was like she was going on tours and she was speaking and then you kind of adjust to like this new normal of you know after after kids for the parents out there or after you know the prime time television show was that adjustment hard did that take some working through because i remember personally sean and i it was like not only were we spending more time together and that's a like you know everyone's been going through that in quarantine now and there's a bunch of jokes about it but it is difficult um but also it's like you get used to almost like the the high of all

that and then you have to adjust and and figure out what the new normal looks like did you guys experience that or are we are we uh solo with that no i for sure for sure sure. Well, I already kind of grew up in a family that was in the public eye. His dad was a professional race car driver and he won the Indy 500 a couple times. So they were always kind of in the spotlight and I think he was used to that. But for me, I wasn't. So being thrust into that and just figuring everything out in the moment and then coming down from that afterwards, I was like, what's next? So for a while, he would kind of like help me with that. He's like, okay, well, it's all going to be fine we've got like tons of stuff here and he always was like the most important

for him well I can't talk the most important thing for him was to stay grounded in the normal things that he was already doing so like real estate and doing things in Arizona with his family not moving to LA and I think that was really good for both of us because if we had tried to like keep chasing that I think it would have caused damage to our relationship yeah I think you see that a lot with um Sorry It's like What is what happened? I think that

You know, as The Bachelor and when you're on TV and in the public, I like that Some people just crave that and want to continue that and go on dancing with the stars and, you know, do a spin-off show and I feel like it's really important

to just like not lose yourself in that whole situation and I feel like a lot of people change and I just wanted us to be like the same as when we met or like grow together in a direction so I think it's important to do this things that we did before and the passions that we have before and hopefully if opportunities come then we can decide and take them but not to really go chasing popularity or you know continuing our TV life yeah I think you know we're open to things but we also don't we also want to stay grounded and stay humble you know i just think

anyone that does dancing with the stars is best right oh really okay okay well they really want to be honest they always said like you know the bachelor typically goes on dancing the stars but i'm just not a good dancer i knew i was just never going to be good and i'm i'm a competitor you know and sean you obviously crush it. And so dancing is a natural transition. If you saw me dance, you'd be like, why is this guy on my screen right now? Oh, it's a rough show. So I feel like another transition people don't really prepare you for or talk about a lot that really surprised us is I feel like when you get married or you're just in a relationship, you start to get the hang of it and you start to figure out, you know,

your roles within the relationship. It gets to be like easy. And then you have a baby. And nobody prepared us for that transition of trying to figure out how to still continue to be each other's number one, but now you have a baby involved. And then you're both so protective and so passionate and so in love with your kid, but you might have different opinions how to raise them or how to do things. How did that affect your guys' relationship?

Were there surprising arguments that came up? Can I just be honest? When we talked to you back in January, Drew was like three, three and a half months old, and it was we didn't feel like humans around here. But we're doing good now. Oh, yeah. I mean, it's hard. It's really hard.

It's a lot harder than you expect, but it's rewarding. I think the most difficult thing for us is balancing what we want to accomplish career-wise, like with Lauren and her clothing line and social stuff and me and real estate and you know you're like doing this balancing act and you're looking at the other one like are you going to take care of this are you going to take care of this you know because we both have our dreams and we things that we want to accomplish and also we want to be good parents and be like very in the moment with the lessee so it's always a balancing act yeah do you think yeah and I think in the beginning, we did a lot of fighting over who knew how to take care of the baby better.

Reach. I was definitely a home there. She was a, she would not even, in the beginning, she was like, wouldn't even let me hold Leslie. She was just like. Okay, but also when I would try and breasty her, Ari would be on top of my lap like this. And I was just like, what are you doing? Like, get off of me.

Dude, you know, men just like, they just, I don't know, we just wanted to be a part of it. I can't do much, except for change the diapers and stay awake for moral support, you know. Yes, you better stay awake for moral support. I remember the first night. We have a video of this. I remember waking up one morning, or not even waking up because I had been awake all night. And Andrew woke up from eight hours straight of sleeping. And I was so mad at him.

I was like, you got eight hours of sleep. I haven't sucked yet. Dude, it's a loose, because then you're up and then you just annoy her and you're like, well, I'm just going to leave you be then and I'll go sleep. And then we get mad when they leave. Yeah, there's a little resentment there. Yeah.

I love it. Yeah. Yeah. How old is Alessi now? She is going to be 11 months in a couple days. Oh, my gosh. Hey, can we talk about? this on air if you don't mind okay the little cart I think we got it from from you guys the

juvie thing like the little walker I saw it on your guys Instagram what I drew one what was the verdict because we get slammed on that saying it's going to hurt Drew's hips oh we get slamming on that too she's walking around the house now yeah she's so happy and it gives her some independence she loves it's like motors her own whole house grab stuff she's not a lot of touch she's like laughing exactly I do think it may have like imperative her walking a little bit, just initially because she tries to walk on her tip-toe toes now. But she'll figure it out. I'm not worried about it.

I mean, she's going to walk eventually, you know? Yeah. I mean, maybe she'd walk a month later than she was before. I mean, she's not always going to crawl. I mean, we don't have stairs, though, either. I think a lot of people are worried about going down the stairs. Well, even, like, the whole, it affects their walking or whatever, but they also get to move around a lot.

sooner than they would be able to, which I think is cool for their like curiosity. Yeah. My mother-in-law wanted us to put in a lot. It's really important. Mental, mental, the baby's mental house. Oh, man. My mother-in-law wanted me to put an alarm on the stairs just in case Drew ever, like, made it to the stairs.

But if the alarm goes off, it's too late. I don't want a notification saying your child's tumbling down the stairs as we speak. No. But a sturdy gait because she takes that thing and she will hit things so hard Yes, we have Jump in the refrigerator like full

school We have dense in our cabinets right now Oh, we do too Yeah I do have some people who say To put like a noodle around it But like cut a noodle Yeah

Yeah We're a fan of it Even though I don't know There's backlash on it There's backlash on any product that you have that you give your baby if you have an Instagram following even not even not just products it's like how you hold your baby how you look at your child's how holding the baby was a big one we got hit on that a lot all the pictures looking back at it she looked a little she did but i mean in

the moment you're like she's like we're new parents you don't know i don't know how to hold she's going to be okay though or a couple days ago, I posted a video of Alessi doing a FaceTime or Instagram live on her Instagram. Yeah, she clicked. She went live on Instagram. And people were like, oh my gosh, that's not a good sign. She's addicted to the screen already. Oh, gosh.

Rilling me. I'm like, she's fine. She's not going to be spoiled. I won't let her. Yeah. I had people coming after me because in some of our videos or like pictures, the phone is near Drew and they're talking about how like the radiation from the phone is going to hurt her yeah there's there's plenty opinions out there uh all right i do want to talk about since

we're all kind of in the situation you were raised in the public eye what lessons did you learn that you're going to now raise a lessee because she's going to be in the public eye regardless i want to i want to know because drew's probably going to be in the public eye and i just don't want raise like a brat you know I'm just saying I think for me just watching my dad he was you know he was you know he was just like to me he was everything when I was a kid because I wanted to be a race car driver and he had so many fans growing up and he was always so courteous and kind and took the time to meet people and shake hands and say hello and even if he was having a really bad day or he was annoyed about somebody he would be so nice to them and then we'd walk away and be like gosh but he would

like hold it in and just be like very polite and he was always just like approachable you know and I think that is something that was drilled into me forever is that no matter if you're having a bad day you just can't take it out on somebody who wants to say hi and meet you or say hello so that's kind of something that took away from that. I like that. Dang. Okay. Big questions?

Okay. If you guys remember this, I hope not. Okay. So, same three questions for every couple, but you have to choose who goes first before you know the questions. Okay. You go first. Okay.

So, what is your biggest pet pee with Ari? Oh, this one's very well known. I just hate when he rushes me. Summer's here, and you can now get almost anything you need for your sunny days. delivered with Uber Eats. What do we mean by almost? Well, you can't get a well-groom lawn delivered, but you can get a chicken parmesan delivered.

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she just okay here's my pet peeve oh shoot all right I'm not allowed to have one oh no yeah it's your turn

I was actually it's your turn biggest prep peeve she'll hang out on her phone and stuff and then as soon as Alessie wakes up she's like I'm gonna go take a shower

and then I'm like okay she'll wait until Alessi just wakes up and then she'll start getting ready. All right, that's true. Yeah, I do that too. So we go hand in hand. Well, you need, you need like your alone time.

And then when she wakes up, it's like, okay, I need to get ready for the day now. I get that. Exactly. Thank you. Okay. Next one. Lauren, what do you love the most about Ari? I just love how caring he is.

He does everything for Alessi and I, and he just is very thoughtful. Oh, you're so sweet. I love Lauren's heart. She's always, she's very sensitive and sweet and caring, and I love that about her. She'll do anything for her friends and her family. So I love her about you. Oh, look at this smile. You can't be back.

I know. I always love that because you go from like pet peeves where you see both sides of the relationship get kind of like feisty with each other. And then you see the next question. And they're like, oh, I love you. It's just really cute. It's so that the husband doesn't get in trouble after. No, they're so probably off.

Most likely. Okay, so the best piece of advice in regards to relationships that you guys have ever received or would give based off your experience. Just listen more than you speak. That's pretty good. Yeah. I just, I touched on it before. just about communication, you know, just don't be afraid to open up to your partner about

any issues you're having. Because I feel like the biggest issues start from like the smallest little thing, you know, and it just grows and builds. And if you talk about it when it first comes to mind and squash it, then I think you're good. Is there anything you guys actively do to improve communication? Sean and I have like monthly checkups where we just air all the dirty laundry like hey babe i thought you could have done this better this past month in a safe space excuse me that is not how we do it it is safe but yeah we try to just that way we're not always throwing junk at each other but i'm curious if there's anything you guys do that's actually really smart we might take that advice i don't know if i could hold it in that long

we don't have a yeah we don't really have a be like monthly check up right now yeah yeah i don't know I think we're kind of the opposite. And that way, we just kind of address things as we go or as they come up. And that seems to work best for us. But we just kind of have to wait. If it's heated, then we usually walk away, take a break, and then come back to it. Yeah. I mean, we argue like any other couple argues.

And I think the biggest arguments happen when we don't, we keep things inside too long. And then it's like we lash out for no reason, really. I think I actually came up with a really good trick yet last week, too. got an argument. We took a break from each other. And then I sat down and just started playing our wedding video on the TV. She went on YouTube and started playing her wedding video. And he's like, okay, you got me. Dang. Wow. I'll have to use that. I like that. Yeah. I was reading Lauren kind of to your point. Actually, today I was reading through this meaning of marriage book. And it talks about how you said listen more than you talk but the lesson I learned from the book was if both

people focus on how they can be less selfish if both people in a marriage do that then it's going to be like you have a foundation for a solid marriage and relationship and it's like selfishness really is what like when Sean and I were figuring out how to do the first couple months of parenting it is that selfishness of like I want to freaking sleep why can't you take care of it this time or in marriage like everyone goes through it where you have to do the other person's chores and you have to clean up after and it's there's a bunch of things and it's like just working to be less selfish I think is is is really important but hey we really appreciate you guys talking with us we have a blast with you now that this is our second time hanging out and

and for those listening that want to hang out with Lauren and Ari more they have a new YouTube channel can you guys talk about that yes yeah so we started doing the channel reviewing and doing recaps on The Bachelor and then it kind of flowed into just our everyday life and I think it's hilarious random challenges yeah a little challenges they do for each other and um yeah it's been a lot of fun actually and i feel like people are getting to know us more on there so be sure to check it out be awesome who gave who a haircut she actually both gave each other haircut yeah we didn't film the one i gave her because it was just like a little but yeah she She gave me a haircut.

I did her makeup the other day. What else did we do? We dyed her hair. I'm going to give them another haircut soon. We prank called a bunch of reality TV people. I got to say, the hair's looking good. So major props to you, Lauren. Yeah.

Oh, thank you. It's pretty good. But, hey, this was fun. Thanks again, guys. Yes. Thank you so much. Thank you.