Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 241 | who's more likely to (couples "shoe game")

Episode Date: December 18, 2024

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With Sean and Andrew. Today, we have a fun one to help finish out the year. This is the one we've been wanting to do for a while. It's been scripted for a while. It's a lot of fun, lighthearted. And we encourage you guys to jump in and do the same thing with your spouse. We are playing this shoe game or best friend or anyone. That's right.

So do this with your partner or do this with your best friend. I think that's what you meant to say. Is that what I just said? you just said, or we're going to do the shoe game or best friend. Really? Are you okay? Did I really? You did.

You did. Run back the script. Wow. Run back the script. Anyway, if you've ever been to a rehearsal dinner or a wedding shower or an engagement party, a lot of times they'll play the shoe game. And a couple usually sits back to back and they're asked a series of questions. And a couple raises the shoe of the person that fits the question.

Okay. So an example of this is who is more of a morning person? And the couple raises either his or her shoe to answer the question. Yeah. Okay? So we're actually going to do, I'm going to use your shoe, you're going to use my shoe. Mine are probably a little smelly today, okay? Today.

But does that make sense? Do the rules make sense? They're just smelly today. Okay, they're always smelly. Yeah. But we've been married for eight years, Sean and I have. I don't think we've played this game since we got engaged. We did this at the Nip's house.

Yes. In December 2015. I also felt like before the new year, there might be some new listeners around the holidays. We thought, come get to know us a little bit. Have a little fun. Spread a little cheer. That's right. So we're going to see how good we are at guessing the answers and how aligned we are.

And we're not going to be facing away from each other. It's an important caveat of today's game. But if you're listening just on audio, do realize there's a video version. Yes, where you can come see how ridiculous we look. Let's just make sure to make this audio-friendly as well. Yes, here's a shoe. Okay. You want one of my shoes?

Mine don't smell. Again, please do this with your spouse, your boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend. This is going to be fun. Wait, this shoe feels extra large. There's kind of a modern twist on this where I feel like that you smash the person's face into water or whatever. Have you seen that? It was big a while ago. Okay.

Anyway. Look at that. Let's roll. Your shoe is substantially larger than mine. I am a size 12 shoes. I'm a size 6. That's right. So there's a difference right there for you.

How about that? Okay. First question. Who felt like they were in love first? Andrew. Andrew. A hundred percent. Big shoe.

Pretty much. First date was going terrible until the last three seconds where I made the cheesiest, corneous joke. And I saw Sean's smile in all its glory. And I thought, that's an angel. You're like, I want that. Yep. I want that.

Yep. The date did not go terribly. I am just such a, I have to be able to see the next step. Does that make sense? Things have to make sense to me. And you looked at me, you just saw dead ends. No. But you lived in Nashville and you were in college and I was in L.A.

And I was on Dancing with Stars and you were so sweet. But I was just like, how could this ever work? but we digress question number two okay who actually said the words i love you first i did you first wrote it on a post-it note in my closet in my dorm room junior year of college and it said no it's close oh i mean it's close it's close Andrew actually wrote it first well I said it first it was a toss up. I made a homemade crossword and there was several options of what would successfully complete the puzzle. This is our third date. One of them was, I love you. Do you remember? How on earth did you make that? It was a moment of genius. It was. Or just trauma. It's fleeting. Do you remember

what happened? No. So you made this homemade crossword for me on a plane. We are flying back from San Diego, your brother's wedding, which happened to be our third. date and I went in order of the crossword that you created and I got down to the very last question and there you also like mixed a crossword with like hangman of some kind to where like I had yeah I oh yeah so I only had certain letters that I could use but coincidentally what was left to fill in either spelled with the letters I like you or i love you which pretty brutal on a pretty sweet or brutal because what if you're like i just like you either one is a positive thing anyway i digress question number three who's better at

keeping secrets and i tell you everything okay i know yeah that's not the question though it's not do you guys have an open communication relationship you're my secret keeper Just know that if you're going to tell Sean something, you're essentially telling me something. Sean is not great at surprises. I get so excited. You are very trustworthy, and I don't want to complate the two. Yeah. Somewhere there's a happy medium.

Next question. Who's a better driver? Ah. Oh my gosh. Andrew is. For those listening. I don't know. You go so fast.

The level of stress does not equal the quality of the drive, okay? Sean, who's a more stressful driver? Sean. Andrew's a NASCAR driver. I am safe. And I'm, yeah. I digress. Who has the most exes?

I think that's you. Yeah, that's probably right. Yeah. You were just juggling those women. I don't like how you said that. You were. Jaggling. That was a way of it.

It's not by a long shot. It's not by a long shot. Not by a long shot, but like... I think my duration, like my timeline that I had to work with was longer. Because you really didn't date anybody until you were like 17, 18. Yeah, you started back in the middle school. Middle school. Sarah on the playground.

Yeah. Who's Sarah on the playground? Well, do you want to talk about my third grade actually? yes okay all right next who is a bigger complainer when they're sick Andrew

Andrew you're literally dying you're dying I know because you start feeling symptoms like four days ahead I'm trying to do better in communicating this was way sweeter

when we were engaged playing this game now it's just savage we're just roasting each other In the day, he's like, oh, Andrew's such a tough guy when he's sick. No, he's not.

He's a baby. Okay. Andrew gets mad because I don't tell him when I'm sick. And I just in a bad mood. And he finally, like the third day, I'm like, yeah, I've had 110 fever. That's pretty much how it goes. I'm like, could you have told me that beforehand? I'm here to help you out.

Anyway, who has a worse immune system? Hmm. Huh. I think we're pretty equal now honestly I would say slightly me really slightly but we're both thankfully healthy yeah I feel like my body did like the sty little stint that I went through

that was weird I also feel like that's an immune system really but our immune system has kind of gotten jacked up after three kids yeah like strong for those who have kids are about to have kids you'll probably go through like a two year slump where it's rough but then

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sudden. Have you noticed this? Are you testing it out? No. Next. Who leaves more stuff around the house? Sean Michelle. Andrew Dean. This is a problem. Sean. I'm glad this

freaking questions here. I'm glad we're talking about this. Freaking boot up, belt up. You ready to go? You're out of your mind. No. Just because it's your stuff doesn't mean it doesn't get left around. Okay. You guys shoes everywhere, okay? Just because I leave mine in different places than you leave your

shoes doesn't mean you need to leave your shoes there. You leave your shoes? You got, we're talking trash, we're talking cups. You look at the cars. It is Sean's coffee mug, Sean Stanley mug, Sean, this, that, the other mug. Got your coats in there, your shoes in there. I don't even know, what are you doing? A full wardrobe

change in the cars? What are we doing here? Have you seen the floor of your car? Who rides in my car next to me? Every time I get in there. You act like we're not together all the time. Tell me you're going back up. I'm about to come at you. No, it's because I spend all day picking up your stuff.

It doesn't leave any time. Oh, that's crazy. For real, though. For real. all your supplements a bag like six a bag Sean when you cook

I am there like a thief in the night just casually putting things back in the fridge for you do you want to do a five day trial be not picking up any of your stuff let's go let's go let's go game on game on I'm pretty ready let go let go I can't breathe oh my God there's so many of these

Okay, okay, okay. Who does the dishes more? Andrew. I like the dishes. I clean. No, I don't. I cook. Yeah, no, we've delineate our chores. That's an interesting thing to reflect back on before we got married. We had no idea. No idea. The division of labor there, you know?

But we figured that out. You do that in time. You do that in time. Yeah. Who plays more with the kids? Andrew. But like. Yeah, in the traditional sense of like play, giggly, googly. Yeah. You're like the rough.

housing, wrestling. Toss them across the room. I'm like the sit down, we'll cuddle, we'll read, we'll talk through something, we'll like... Yeah. I like that. Are you good with that? Yeah, that's our role. Who's more likely to cry at a wedding? Andrew.

Ever since we had a daughter, I am just a mess. Actually, I've always cried at wedding. You're mushy. I've always been really sentimental. I remember when my second old brother got married, he was like my best friend. I was like, I'm losing my friend forever. tears.

Wow. And then there's also something just profoundly beautiful about a wedding. Everyone's there. We just went to one in Mexico City. Was epic. Probably the best wedding we've ever been to it. It was epic. And I almost shed a tear.

I love weddings. Oh, you know whose wedding? Honestly, if you're listening, you're about to get married, send us a wedding invite. I want to show up. Let's go. Let's do a YouTube series of crashing people's weddings. Are you in on that? That sounds so not cool.

Great idea. Coming at you, 2025. Okay, go ahead. I was going to say, you know whose wedding we bawled at was Jojo and Jordans during the... Oh, the speeches? The father, Joel's dad, that speech had me bawling. I think about that often, that speech. It was the most beautiful speech ever.

I want to copy that speech. Anyway, next, who's more likely to dance the night away at a wedding? Andrew. Lately? Yeah, no, Sean's been getting after it. Lately, it's been me. So we're going... But it's usually, Andrew.

We're going how it's trending, or what? How it's trending. Because, no, just because you just started doesn't mean that you're more likely. Okay, Andrew. Okay. Who made the first move? Sean?

Like, the first kiss move? You slid into my DMs, so that's the first move. And then I really was hot on the chase of getting you in person. But, like... That sounds creepy. What's a better way to say? I don't know.

I get it. I was just giving you a hard time. But as far as like first kiss, Sean was ready to go. Yeah, I wanted to make out with your face. We always laughed. There's a moment. Sean kept getting closer and closer and closer. You were getting closer too.

It wasn't just me. Okay. You went 90. I went 10. Yeah. What? Nothing. Are we saying me or you?

Are we saying me or you? I think you made the first move because, you slid into the dms. Who's more likely to hold a grudge? Sean. I used to get annoyed by that. I have come to love that aspect of you. I'm just trying to,

now I just see Sean in all her glory and I'm like, man, she really gets riled up by that. It's hilarious. Or, man. That ends well. No, it's just more like an acceptance rather than I'm going to try to change this about you. Agreed. Same with you, babe.

Who's a better kisser? I don't even, yeah. How do you gauge a better kisser? Because we're great together. What is it? Like a popular vote? You go out and survey exes. Let's not do that.

We're good kissers together. Yeah. That's good. Who has the best taste of music? I'm going to say Sean. I feel like I find more like high quality, like, bank. singers like this is a phenomenal song andrew though knows more music and can pull up music from any decade or century or like year and be like this was phenomenal and you appreciate more music than

i do you spend more time exploring new artists i think yeah that's how i would put it uh who's more competitive sean sean is yeah i'm not i love competition i don't consider myself competitive It is one of the main reasons you chose me. Yeah, no, I love it. You love how much I compete with you. But it doesn't like, I'm not going to lose sleep. You know, I have friends that are competitive. Yeah, you aren't like a, I have to win person.

I just really love the context of it. All right. Who met the in-laws first? I did. Oh, that's right. Sorry, that's not your shoe. This one is. John did.

I met your parents on our second date. I took her to my brother's wedding in San Diego. No, you took me to the lakehouse before that. Oh, yeah. Dang. That's right. And then I met your parents maybe three months after that? They came to a Vandy football game in the fall.

Wow. Andrew, can I tell them that story real quick? When you met my parents, it was absolutely comical. We were in the lobby of... Holiday Inn. The Holiday Inn next to the Vandy Stadium. It was before Andrew's game. And we probably got there 10 minutes for my parents.

arrived. Andrew probably changed seats in the lobby 15 times in 10 minutes because you couldn't figure out logistically what would be the best first impression. Well, if it came in through this door, then... You don't want your back to them. It was really cute. I've never seen you that nervous. Who gives better back massages? Andrew. Yeah, no question is who gives back massage? You know what I'm saying? It's not better. You don't ask.

you act like you ain't got you know how to oh yeah yeah yeah my favorite thing in the whole entire world are back scratches like where you're like kind of like tickling someone's back and yeah I will ask for that every day of my life yeah and you are so gracious you're welcome I'm happy to do it who's hard to just sleep next to Andrew yeah no no doubt snoring I snore I don't move a lot. It's such a fascinating thing you're snoring because, like, you don't, like, when I hear when you have,

like, go on a men's retreat or something and people are like, oh my God, he snores more than the worst person I've ever heard of my life. You, like, don't do that at home. But I do snore sometimes. You do, yeah. I don't move a lot.

I don't think I take the covers. I'm pretty much like I lay down on my back. And you don't live. And then I wake up eight hours later. Yeah. I'm like, wow. I move a lot. I toss in.

turn a lot yeah i apologize for that and you're hard to sleep next to you because you're such a light sleeper i wake up at like 445 5 every day and i i'm quiet as a mouse still wake shot up it's like one little i've been working on my acting skills so that you don't feel like you're waking me up it's just crazy to me i would love nothing more than to keep you asleep but whatever who will have gray hair first andrew halfway there to be in all gray all white it's strong it's pretty much the first thing people say to me now if i haven't seen them in a couple months like wow your dad was like fully white by 35 yeah so it's for sure genetic and you i would say every fourth hair on your head is white right now i love it my papa was a white fox my dad was a white fox you're going to be a white fox baby

yeah i love it um who's the pickiest eater me but i'm not even a picky eater you just will eat literally literally anything. Yeah. I'm thinking. That was one thing I was really thankful. I walked in our pantry. I was like, huh. This doesn't resemble anything that I'm used to or I was used to growing up.

But you have molded that part of me over the last eight years of marriage. In the sense of, like, healthy food. Yeah, for the better, for the better, for the better. Who's the most stubborn? A thousand percent me. Loud, Sean. Load. Hey, don't write it off that you're not.

is that me being stubborn right now I'm trying to figure out how you're stubborn I just know you are Sean is still like if you ask her to do anything or you say hey this should be our grocery list because it's healthy she'll rebel out of just

because she wants to so it's that type of stubborn don't tell me what to do stubborn you know what I mean certain things not a grocery list

who would plan a better date oh wait sorry who snores while sleeping Andrew Andrew who would plan a better date I'm gonna say Sean we each have our we together we plan dope dates yeah I would say equal

I feel like it's similar to like the music like I will research restaurants so in depth that I will find some new whatever high quality place for us to try but yet your experiences are probably more meaningful yeah and it doesn't even have to be something new it's more like hey tonight's conversation topic is this or whatever like little subtle things go a long way too who spends the most money Tim's new scrambled egg loaded croissant or is Is it croissant? No matter how you say it. Start your day with freshly cracked scrambled eggs loaded on a buttery, flaky croissant. Try it with maple brown butter today at Timms, at participating restaurants in Canada for limited time.

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Sean, that is a difference. Their investment. There is a difference, Sean. Oh my. I'm just saying. Do the questions get harder and harder or more personal as we go on here? Wow.

If college Andrew knew how much our monthly budget currently was, he'd probably just go into the woods and curl up in the fetal position. Really? I was living off of like, I think, legitimately $400 a month in college. I'm really proud of you.

That was our college. Let's get back there. Our monthly budget is not disproportionate to like our income in our life. That'd be a fun thing to walk through. Should we do a whole episode on our monthly budget? No.

In our finances. Yikes. We're doing a good job. Okay. Who is more romantic? yeah Andrew please expand let's say more

you're more of like well I don't know I'm kind of a hopeless romantic like our first date I show up and you have an entire itinerary planned written out on a paper towel and Sharpie but like every minute of the day is planned out you've also written me a poem

you're very intentional with like reflection and intentionality and like taking pictures and being sentimental about every moment I just love you I love you you're my best friend who initiates repair and says I'm sorry first all right hold on I do want to delineate this really shot shot shot yes what you say I say I'm sorry so much you do you say I'm sorry so much. You do. You say I'm sorry first. I think I initiate repair first. There is a difference. You are quick to say I'm sorry

slow to apologize. There is a difference. There is a difference. And you're slow to apologize and slow to say I'm sorry. I did that and it's like not that does not initiate repair. I am the first one to initiate repair. Yesterday morning who's the first one that was like, how

can we get rid of this tension? interesting that's initiating repair interesting you're stubborn in your apologies that's one where you're stubborn fine so you're stubborn to apologize i'm not yes you are i'm not i'm sorry not i'm not an apology i think i'm better at more we're so stubborn i think i'm more like a hey i really am sorry I did that and I hurt your feelings you I mean we're eight years into this thing have I gotten that I'm not sure could you that is so false I'm kidding that you do initiate it usually just takes three days like your sickness thing like hey I'm sorry it's like wow yeah I mean

I was over that but now I guess we got to go through this again because it's so fascinating marriage is so fascinating I disagree with this you think you're quicker to say sorry and shape repair you're taking a two for there you're taking both yeah because you think everything's always fine you're like oh it's fine it's just fine here's okay when you tell me that I hurt your feelings I think I apologize quicker no you need specifics sometimes you'll just take a long time and then you refuse any type of blanket sorry so you have to know exactly what it is that is a good way to apologize. No.

Teach kids to apologize. What is the, there's like an acronym for it. There's an acronym for this. Really? Yeah, look at it up. Ask Siri. The apology. No.

I want to, I want to do it. I don't know where my phone is. I don't know where my phone is. It's like, say, I'm sorry. Oh, wait, here, here, here. I know where my phone is now. Okay. What's the acronym for apologizing?

ready for this is you can apologize with his acronym which stands for I'm sorry that's not that helpful that's not that helpful we digress

okay we digress next who likes having serious conversations more Andrew yeah I'm not good I'll admit I think that's a fault more than anything it's like a

I don't do good with shallow conversations. No. Small talk. You also love a good debate whether you believe your side or not, which is sometimes so frustrating. I think I'm getting out of my devil's advocate phase, though.

I used to, like, love that. Now I'm like, why? Why stir up dissent? We would get into some deep, dark, black hole spiral of a debate. And at the end, he'd be like, I don't even, like, I believe, like, I agree with your side. I'm like, what are we doing? Yeah.

this next one scares me who's more likely to be late but I don't think it's a landslide like you think it is a landslide shot I just I'll take I'll take that one I just don't think it's the landslide next if you're late you're late by hours that's true hours which is not okay

if I'm late I'm late by minutes yeah my total aggregate late time definitely surpasses your but I think your frequency probably equals my by like two minutes yeah all right who remembers important dates

hmm I think it depends on that's interesting you have a really keen memory with certain things I'm trying to figure out but I also have a hard time remembering

like extended family birthdays and but like I also know it's December we have five birthdays is it the 16th or the 17th is it like you're actually a good team yeah I like that yeah nooks okay who's more likely to get a speeding ticket yeah not even close have you ever gotten one yes gotten several uh I also think I'm coming out of that phase a little bit when was your last speeding ticket Andrew

well i did get two in about four months yeah was that four months ago no it was not it was like two years ago one was my last speeding ticket coming home from the hugh's house when was that we had bear in january okay that was a year ago i'm just saying oh my gosh who got better grades in school. Sean was like perfectionist. Yeah she was that girl that used to walk out of a test and be like oh my gosh I totally failed that and then you'd like get A's on everything let's be real I didn't talk to anybody in school so I wasn't walking out of any class and like oh my god I failed that I was out here scrounging in these streets you know what I'm saying just trying to make it happen I was a performance driven person my whole childhood yeah that's that competitive side of you I just don't

have it. All right, who's more likely to buy something at a bargain price? Andrew. I've gotten into online marketplace shopping, like Facebook marketplace. What's the other one? Mostly Facebook. eBay? eBay, yeah, yeah, yeah. No. I ain't nobody got time

for that. I just enjoy it, you know? Andrew's also such a better negotiator than I am. Someone tells me, like, this is the price. I'm like, okay. Here's a check, and Andrew's like, I'll give you half, and they're like, that's fine. there's a certain process that I think is a necessary it's a necessary muscle to work Sean will like get her hair done or nails or whatever and she'll just walk in there

she'll get the work done and then the person will be like hey it's this amount you owe me I'm working on it I'm working on it and it's like you should have that conversation ahead of time for everybody's well-being anyway who's more spiritual Interesting. I think it's different. I think it's different. I think it's, yes. I think you're more actively leading our spiritual life.

But this was also a really interesting thing when we started dating. You're more like traditionally spiritual. Does that make sense? I like no more Bible verses. Yeah. But Sean's faith is deep. Yeah. Who is more likely to binge watch TV series?

Sean, I fall asleep. So quickly. Oh, if I've started it, I'm staying up all night to finish. Yeah, you crush. I used to. When you went on tour, that was the peak TV time in my life. But I really, I've never watched that much TV in my life. It's never been like a big thing.

It was always the way I could turn my brain off because my brain moves a million miles an hour. I wish I could do a better job or find something that could do that. Who's more likely to do something crazy, like skydiving? punching, bungee jumping, et cetera. Yeah, we both love that. We love it. Sign us up.

Sean's probably a little more insane in that sense, where she's like... It depends on the thing, though. Because there are things where you're like... Like the off-roading race. Yeah, I love that. That was like all Andrew, and I was a little skeptical, but skydiving, I'm all in, and Andrew's more skeptical. It just depends on the thing.

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Maybe all but two or three. Yeah. And those were probably joking. I think we know each other better than eight years ago before we got married yeah I think so all right let us know how you all did in the comments please and let us know also in the comments if you're surprised by any of the answers that we gave um we love hearing from you guys yeah it was really fun the tradition the weird traditions that we did a lot of fun feedback on that so much that was a fantastic that was such a fun episode also uh next week is the holidays Christmas

we will be skipping next week there won't be a lot or a podcast going live we wanted to take a break let everyone else take a break be intentional with your family and your family time and Merry Christmas

Happy holidays I actually think the week after that will be New Year's and we should have you don't know this a fun project to announce that we've been working on sorry you

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