Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 26 Tim + Demi Tebow

Episode Date: June 24, 2020

 This week, in episode 26 of couple things with shawn and andrew, we chat with Tim and Demi Tebow. Tim, as many of you may know, was a Heisman trophy winner at the University of Florida, and continued on to the NFL. After having a great career there, Tim decided to enter the MLB - a feat only few have been able to accomplish. He is currently still playing baseball, and walks us through what his life looks like with his new wife, Demi-Leigh, and their 3 pups! Demi and Tim chat with us about some of the great charities they support and operate, and how they are using their platform for some incredible causes. We are so thankful these two were able to sit down with us and are excited to bring you this conversation! Without further ado, we hope you enjoy, Tim and Demi Tebow. If you want to follow Tim and Demi, you can find them on instagram as @timtebow and @demitebow. Also, be sure to check out Tim's website where you can find all of his work and charities! https://timtebow.com/  If you haven't yet, please rate and subscribe to the show to hear more! And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format - we might just choose yours! Email us at [e-mail].  We are supported by the following AMAZING companies! Make sure to check them out using our link below!  Care/of! For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and enter code couplethings50.  Zovio! There’s NO FEE to apply or standardized testing required to enroll. Go to https://www.Ashford.edu/couplethings to enroll today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's up, everybody. Welcome back to Couple Things. With Sean and Andrew. A podcast all about couples and the things they go through. Today we sit down with a couple that I'm really excited about. Same. We had an opportunity to interview them a couple weeks ago. We blew it.

We literally had to cancel on them two minutes, five minutes before the interview because Drew had a meltdown. Like her first. We didn't have a babysitter. It was just a mess. Our options were, one, do the interview with a crying baby or two, cancel the interview. So we made the hard choice and had to cancel. And the people we had to cancel on are Tim and Demi Lee Tebow.

I'm not going to lie. I got a guy crush for sure. Tim, obviously, was a fantastic football player at the University of Florida, won the Heisman trophy there, then got drafted into the NFL and had a fantastic career there. He currently is a professional baseball player and three-time New York Times bestselling author. Yeah. Three-time New York Times best-selling author. He's done it all.

I mean, to go from NFL to MLB is incredible. And then his wife, Jimmy Lee, was Miss South Africa. Yes. Then became Miss Universe. Yes. Miss Universe. Think about that. That's a big deal.

And she then went on to use her platform for incredible causes. She encourages self-defense, especially for women. She shares that story in this interview. They just had a lot of really cool things to talk about. One, including the proposal, which is. the most epic story. It's unbelievable. It should be a movie. It's the notebook. I mean, it's already a movie. But they were awesome to talk to you. They had great insight, great advice, especially for new couples. Tim and Demi Lee are both others focused. It's super inspiring. Tim puts

on the Night to Shine event, which hosts a special prom for special needs. And that's actually how he and Demi Lee met, but I'll let them tell the story. And Demi Lee, as Sean was alluding to, is a huge advocate for self-defense after a carjacking incident. Anyway, today's conversation was really fun. There's a little banter going back and forth at the beginning of us talking SEC football since I also played in the SEC alongside Tim. Not alongside Tim. You just needed to get that in there, did you?

Oh, my gosh. If you want to find out more about Tim and Demi Lee, you can find more about them in the show notes down below. And also subscribe to the show and give it a rating. haven't yet? Yes. Should we just go ahead? I think we should. All right, let's do it. Tim and Demi Lee Tebow. Tim, Demi, thank you so much for joining us. It's a pleasure to have you on the show. I do want to start off, Tim. We met, I doubt you remember this, in 2015 in the Allstate Sugar Bowl. I was down there. You were on the sidelines looking not as fresh as you do today,

you had like a nice little suit on. I think you're announcing, but it's good to see you again. And thank you guys for taking the time to talk. We have a fun little conversation planned here. I know, I can't wait. We've been following you guys for so long. We love your relationship and everything you guys are about. So we've been really excited for this one. Thank you. Thanks for having us. We're so glad we have the chance to hang out for a little bit and have a great conversation. I agree. I think it's able to connect with more people than we usually do in this lockdown period so i know honestly yeah we unfortunately way too many like zoom calls face time right but like we're both pretty affectionate so we're like we're huggers

and so like i think we're like it's nice to it yeah yeah we went to an event at the beginning of all this so it was right before like quarantine started and we're we're pretty affectionate people Andrew's the hugger. I'm all going for the hug. But it was when people started throwing elbows, like, oh, you want to tap elbows? And it just got so, yeah, I'm not the hugger. Kind of going.

That's a hugger right there. No, ma'am. I do distinctly remember we were at MIT. Andrew went in for a hug with Andy, erotic, and Brooklyn Decker. And it was like the most, awkward hysterical they're good friends of ours now but it was the most awkward like no I got stiff arms straight up I got stiff arm by who uh Brooklyn Decker

Brooklyn Decker yeah it's okay my my prides will be it'll be forever damaged but she's so sweet nice oh yeah yeah no we're good friends with them and everything but it was just funny I was like babe you just got turned down yeah um quick side note too Tim I'm a I'm a Commodore. So I don't know how you feel about that, but, you know, we had the pleasure of beating the gators down in the swamp. Barely. That was by luck. I don't know what his response is about to be. You hear that? She said. Why you got our wet feelings? Unfortunately, she's wearing bold out of colors, though, at least. Oh, man. Okay. That was a good conversation. I want to hear, I want to hear how you guys met.

I have a response for the Commodore, so. All I'm saying is we beat you guys. Okay, continue. Yes, unfortunately, the gator's lost, but. Fair enough, fair enough, fair enough. All right. I could go with this whole conversation. Your message is loud and clear, Tim.

Coming through loud and clear. Yeah, we all agree. please do us a favor you know I'm the newest follower it's always fun when we'd go play because the city was so great though is this gonna freaking plague the conversation

yes I'm the newest follower of the Tebow pack oh my gosh oh dimmy just found out what a Commodore is oh yeah I didn't know it's some like pirate thing it's a captain of captains

if we're being technical but let's carry on what type of mascot is that the tibo pack is sweeping the nation it's the hottest thing on instagram right now i do have to ask what's it like having three little baby children now well it's wonderful it's really been oh they're so sweet they're growing up so fast cobi and chung just got their adult teeth so they have like these like big front teeth that doesn't fit in their mouth right now so they stop. And Paris loved getting on this white couch, especially when she's funny, and comes out from the rain.

But it's crazy, crazy, crazy how much joy they bring. It is so fun. And yes, Paris still peas in the house. And it's, they literally urged. She ate the Wi-Fi court this morning. She did. Oh, no. So they're absolute joy givers and it's been it's been so much freaking fun.

I think just the loyalty that dogs have is so precious and so special and you know just like going to give them breakfast in the morning and how excited they were to see you and how they love you and it's really sweet. I know especially with Paris, she's deaf and she's pretty rambluxish. she uses her senses and stuff she can hear a tiny but she doesn't know where it's coming from and stuff um but it's like she's be i think because of that a little bit sensitive and so she's like you can tell she also gets super attached you know yeah and she will literally hang on my hip like a baby yeah it's crazy like this like a husband like a good it's the best so backstory i'm Pittsburgh and then we found out on her eight-week checkup that she's hearing in Paris.

So I was like, well, Tim, now we can have to get her. No, I said she came to me. I finished up a meeting right in this room. I walked out and she's, Jimmy is all just disheveled and flustered. And she's talking about Paris and she's like, she's deaf. And I was like, oh, I'm so sorry, baby. Well, you know, we can, we can we can look some more. Oh, we can do whatever you want.

And she's like, what? No. This afternoon. So we got in the car and drove her a few hours, picked her up, and then we decided that she needed to have some brothers. So we also got her some brothers. Yeah. So we have a cuddle buddy and two watchdogs. Oh, my gosh.

I was going to say, do you guys, you know, explore the possibility of not just jumping straight to three, but maybe going maybe one or two, starting off. Yeah. See, I didn't want to, I didn't want to do one. Because I think with just our schedule, they need to have friends and they need to be able to. So I was like, you know, it would be better if we at least get two than, and honestly, I had, I had, I had six picked out. And were you going to get six? I went from one to three and he went from six to three. Yeah, we met three.

What a beautiful story of compromise right there. Are you listening to this? We're not going to get another. So that means we need three to six. What are you doing to us right now? You do. Okay, I am curious. Did you guys have a dog together before the three?

No, she had the chance to meet my last dog who died this past fall. His name was Broncos. I got him when I got drafted by the Broncos. And he's an amazing dog. He passed away in the fall. And he's a Rhodesian Ridgeback. so it was dogs

yeah they're amazing but he was Bronco was like a person right now he wouldn't sit on the floor he would sit right here if he would look like if there was

three people in there the four seat is his he would get in there and like everything was like a person and I loved it but he oh yeah he like

spoke English like you know that she didn't love all of the tendencies because he would i would honestly from the time he was eight weeks old i fed him off of a spoon he split breakfast and lunch and like he was a person split breakfast with the same spoon like here here you go bronco it was the best so okay i don't know you guys are anything like us but she didn't let me do it now I mean I wouldn't

either has a dog or three dogs have they so with our dog before we had Drew our daughter we argued more about the dog than anything else because here's a situation

Sean treated a dog is a human being yeah for me and so for me I love dogs but yes Sean is just another level. Did you guys go through this or no? He needs his own room. He needs home-cooked food. And then we always disagreed on different things.

Have you guys noticed that you have any differences when it comes to raising your puppies? I didn't think as big as a difference. For sure, but I like treating them even more off of the table or my play or a boy that it brings and she's like you're treating you're teaching them bad manners and they're going to bed and so there's nothing more irritating than having guests over and the dog is like jumping on you and i'm like timmy i don't want people coming to visit us and be like well we're going to see tim and demi but oh man oh sorry is it you know and i'm like you know our dogs you don't like us okay that's my page

I'm on that page. Yeah, I think Demi and I are more viving, for sure. If you don't like my dog, you shouldn't come over to our house. Yeah. I want to be a manor too, but there's, like, some things that I just don't care about. Like, I want them to be nice. I want to be kind. I want them to be loving.

I want them to be sweet. But, like, I want them to have personality. I want them to jump on me. I want them to wrestle. I want to play with them. them. I don't want to like overly train them where like you sit, you stay, you don't bark, you don't, you know, you take away their personality. And so I think training's good, but like I don't want a robot. I want to, I want a friend, you know? You see how he leaned up when he gave

that answer. He was like that passionate about it. He went from this to like this. Let me. but you do weigh over 100 pounds more than me so if Trump jumps on you and he's 100 pounds not going to make it big of an impact I know you should see the three of them wrestle with me it is oh my gosh

wow and I was like wow this puppy thing is really like it's really like with children told me this last night. And then she was like, I'm feeling pretty good. Like, I feel like,

how do that? Oh, man. Yeah. Just go for it, guys. I, uh. Going, you're picking up way to there. Do you hear it?

I said, just go for it. Yeah. No, she said that. Uh, does one of you want more kids? Like, Tim,

you're trying to have like six kids? Yes. yeah we both went kids I am I love kids dogs like people I'm very like I love people around I love the chaos I'm the baby of five we we just understatement you love every single room in the house to be filled with people all the time I like people I just I'm very to a certain extent I feed off of it I get joy off of people the relationship aspect I think that's one area where like we differ and we have to understand each other is she likes people but then she needs a little bit of like her

dimmy time where she rejuvenates having you know 45 minutes yeah taking your bath through good do my nails what I just think a little yeah I And I don't really need that as much. People energize. Yeah, they energize me a little bit more. Or maybe we come off of a day where we have people over and she needs to have a little bit of time doing her stuff. And then for me, it's like I can kind of go right into the next thing

because they've been over and I get energy. We're exactly the same. I like my time and my space. I'm also an only child. Wait, what? What? Okay. And he's one of five.

and he just loves people all the time. I'm the middle of five, so, you know, I have a baby brother. I kind of understand what you're about now, Tim, after understanding this. But I'm a very social guy, but I definitely need, like, an hour quiet time. If I don't have that, I go berserk. I think that a little bit, but I think everyone needs it a little bit. I just don't need it as much as Jimmy does, nor do I want it as much. But that's so good.

I think it's also for my time, it's, I don't need to be totally isolated. Like I can still have two or three of my friends over and still have that time where she needs it to be her thinking and processing and meditating-ish, you know? Yeah. That would be the same way. Okay, so, Demi, I saw you're trying to do these 300 shuttles or no, you're not trying, you're demolishing the 300-yard shuttles. Do you guys work out well together?

because Sean and I have not figured that out. I do different workouts than him off his feet. I feel like we run good together and we do more so when I finish a workout and then I like will help her little things or hey try this and it's better. But sometimes it's fun just being in the gym with each other and I'm doing my thing. using his thing and in between breaks like catching up on things or I think we both are pretty good with getting more than one thing done at the same time so do a set and then catch up on this and honestly it's kind of nice especially for like me when I'm the yeah a very much a multitasker

ADD like I would love to finish a set hey babe what do you think about this what do you know and then it's it's nice for me sometimes it's easier to do that like in action then it just sit down on a couch and we have our best conversations when we do something honestly our best conversations are hot tub you know playing a game in the sauna working out you guys play nerds how did you would play nerds it's a card game nerds no please please inform us we love game we're hardcore gamers we just found out last Wednesday night about it and we played like seven times already but it's like five minutes of

it's like five minutes of havoc it is it's like as fast as you can't move cards and you're playing everything and oh that's not my vibe Sean would demolish me and I love that erodes I like that I feel like Andrew is probably envious of you guys working out together that was one thing we had to learn very early on in our relationship is cannot work out together. I'm so why. Andrew, Andrew likes to like do the sets and talk and he likes to make a 30 minute workout last two hours. I'm like all business. I want to get in and I want to get out. No, but on top of that. And I always practice form. Yeah, on top of that, she's in there and like insulting me like I'm a freaking newbie in the gym. I'm like, Sean, I've done this a time or two.

you don't have to tell me how my power clean form sucks it's like i'm helping you out in the long arm we're still figuring it out we're optimistic guys what's those best um exercise are we about to compare prs right now no jim like what is what is shot like like she coach you on like what's your best exercise where she's like you need to do this and this isn't good enough well let me just tell you a little story here tim wait no no Let me tell you a story. During his pro day, I upped his bench by 75 pounds. You're welcome.

No, no, no, by like 12 reps. Yeah, you did. That's true. Sean, you upped his bench by 12 reps. Yes. Dude, she put me through this. This episode's now about us. So he should now want to work out with me.

Okay. She put me through this like insane bench press program. It was not scientific or smart at all, but it was just like, she was like, you're going to bench press until you can't move your arms anymore. And I was like, I was like, okay, I'm here for it. But so I'm getting into CrossFit. I don't know what your guys' feelings are on that. And there's a lot of gymnastics skills in there. And so I'm trying to learn, you know, handstands and like these kips, whatever.

Sean was trying to teach me for like a year and a half. But every time we would start like practicing, she would just. she would just be like appalled that I couldn't get it like she did on her first try. So one day I just stumbled in there trying to do my own practice and there's this like little eight year old girl and I'm like how the heck I got to learn this Kip we're like who was also a gymnast. Yeah and she taught me in no joke 30 seconds. Because you listen to her.

And I'm like there you go. There you go. Anyway. Okay. We're getting way off topic. Back to you guys in your relationship because I have quite. questions. Okay. So I think it's important just on that note to like just figure each other out and see what works for you and yeah. Yeah. And you don't work out well together then maybe be the

water girl. Yes. We each get our alone time that we need during the day working out at separate times. So it works out. Honestly, you two should be the host of this podcast if we're being real. Sean and I just banter back and forth. Okay, so I really would love to know, and I think everyone else here listening would like to know. How did you guys meet? I want to get into like relationship conversations. Oh, it's actually a sweet story. Go ahead.

You want me to tell that? Sure. My last year, she ended up being a matchmaker through the TTF Foundation's, um like night to shine worldwide prom that they have once a year um in 2018 the first the first night to shine was in south africa as well so well it was we've been doing for years it was the first time it was in south africa we it's a worldwide problem for for people with special needs and we we have it all around the world and it was the first time it was in south Africa and um that's where i'm from and um so tim i was i just moved to new york at that time

i i i'm in the universe and i you know i guess somehow talked about her sister and so we invited her family or sister to um the night to shine and although my sister couldn't go just because of her health condition um my parents got to be volunteers and And we stayed in touch and we set up a phone call, like 10, 15 minute phone call that, you know, just too pro-religistics and find out more about Night to Shine. And he called me and, I mean, this quick phone call that was supposed to be 10 minutes, lasted two hours, 24 minutes, and six seconds. Whoa, wow. Down to the second. It wasn't a day after that we hadn't spoken.

And we had met. yeah we hadn't met in person so we hadn't even met passing no dates yeah just yeah so it went yeah to yeah to the email then we had the first phone conversation and then that led to like we'd get another one and then was it the next day yeah and then and then all then we finally got the chance to have our first date and then it was it was a wrap Wait, I don't mean to be nitpicky here, but you guys first connected over the younger sister. How did the connection, was it, did you slide in the DMs, Tim? How did that first, how did that happen?

Yes, it was. Yeah, my dude. I was on my sister's birthday. I made a post about her and then picked that up and sent me the 99 video. Yeah. Yeah. And it honestly did start from the, just the foundation side of we invited her, the foundation, invited her, blah, blah, blah. And then it was getting, it was getting more information. And then it was like, we'll tell us more about it. What is it? Where is it? And so then it was, then we went to email. So then we went back and forth on email a few times. And then it was. to talk logistics right right right okay so how soon after this phone call that we now have down to the second which is amazing that you know that detail um how long after the phone call did you guys start like dating

and then how did the dating progression go how long did you date before you got engaged well we knew got off that phone call something special. And so she was traveling, and I was traveling. I was in middle of baseball season. She was on my way, Miss Universe going all over the place. I was on my way to like seven weeks out of Preston trip. And so she had to go to seven countries in seven weeks. And so I was like, oh, shoot, I need to freaking be able to take this girl on a date before she goes.

Then I might not have the chance, you know? And found a way. and we, after a game, I rushed over to see her, we met, we hung out, and honestly, at the end of that, it was, I think both of us knew, like, honestly, we're probably getting married. On the first real date. First date, you told me and you, like, oh, you could have met him that first day. Yeah. Wow.

What a freaking line, Tim. You're like out of a freaking romantic movie, man. yeah can we have a movie made of you guys um okay real though that was real like we're like it's it was i don't know it's just so so easy that way um yeah kind of hard to describe i have a question about this and this might be i'm diving into a deeper question so you guys are very openly faith-based which we love and i'm curious we've asked a few different couples about this you you say after your first date you're like i i think this is the last first date do you believe in the one um yeah i think i think that that god sets up someone special for us and i think

there's it's very different right i mean some some you know there's incidents as people's life where one they're you know significant other passes away and so there's a lot of you know i don't think that's something we could just say that there's just one but I do feel like God picks someone special and puts them in your life for a reason for a purpose and I mean you know it's arguably one of the most passionate things for me is is being able to fight for people that can't fight for themselves and a big population of that is special needs and for her to have a special need sister and for me to first see her doing an interview of that talking about her sister and we were getting ready to have night to shine south

africa and south africa i was like my heart was like it was like oh wow like i was even blown away listening to her interview of it and i was like told you got to invite her if they're there to be a part of this so we can honor her sister as well as all the other special needs guests and we crown every single one as the king or the queen of the prom and like for us it was and then you know a few weeks later when we finally got to have our conversation, whenever it was later we had our first date, it was just so easy that it did feel like it was that special in, right, and ordainedish, you know? And so I think that there's different circumstances for different people, but I think it's all part of God's bigger blame for all of us. We did, we spoke with Jeremy and Addy

camp. I'm pretty sure you guys know Jeremy and Addy. And, uh, I think they speak on this topic so well. What did you say? Oh, South African. Yeah, I know. What are the ads? It's nuts. They're awesome couple.

But Jeremy talks about how, yeah, there's not just one person, but God does put these people in your life for a reason at a certain time and, you know, whatever that looks like. However, if there is an ending to that, it's like, he spoke about it very well and I really respected you know having to deal with something that tragic his perspective on it is uh is really really cool but yeah yeah and give a shout at this movie it's just so good and we're grateful incredible life and their impact and their testimony and they're just such great world models and yeah they're sweet people and they're such a sweet couple i mean yes i've never met either of same i feel like i know them but social media may feel like you know i know i know i think you

definitely have a thicker south african accent though dimmy really compared way longer than me i've only been here for two years and i irritate myself so much when i end up catching on from him and saying rat instead of ross he doesn't want to look raw i don't want to lose it but sometimes it's just you just kind of pulling to do it and you just adapt because people don't understand when you ask the water. I feel like we should all say it like you do. Water. Water.

It makes it sound so like. I would pay more. I would pay more if someone said, do you want to buy some water? And I'll be like, yeah, I'll give you a 20 bucks. Yeah. Okay. I have to go back to the first date. So first day or technically first date, you guys finish the first date.

You know, like, I think that's our last first date. What was it about each other? What was the first impression? What was it that you felt that made you feel that way? I'll go. To me, I think, one, I've never watched a football or a baseball game in my life before I made sense. I'm like 100% honesty. Never, didn't even know what a quarterback was.

Like, I thought it's a coin or something. One of his friends told, he's like, yeah, when he went to the Heisman and the Heism, I'm like, who's that man? Like, what high thing? Yeah. No idea. So I think, like, just being able to get to know him, like, for who he is. And then, you know, obviously before meeting him, I did a little bit of research, just making sure the sky's kosher. No, but the best part about it is she knew me as the nightly shine.

Yeah. Oh, that's the Night to Shine guy, you know? I thought it was so cool. That was, when I first knew, I, you know, with my sister, the Miss Universe organization was like, you should check this organization out, or a sister that could be, you know, so awesome, and that's how I, when you go to each other, how I remember them. But anyway, one of the story is, I think for me, when made me just really, I can be full in love with him was just...

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better in person and you know that he was just just so real and I think just we shared a sense of humor and we laughed and had great conversations and that was important to just have good conversations and we cared about so much of the same things yeah I think when you were like when an outsider sees it on the surface level it's like I've been into sports she's been into passion you know like pageants and in different things I'm very far from that's such surface level like sports or

pageants not who you are it's just part of what you do you know and how many conversations we've ever had about that like honestly probably two handfuls like that's it but when we talk about sports I don't even tell her like what I'm working

on or something it's like the deeper part of it's the heart or it's the passion or it's the purpose or it's the meaning behind it. I think from surface level, it doesn't look like we have that much in common. But on the deeper level, unlike the heart posture level, I think that's where we really connected the heart for special needs, the heart for people, the silly humor, the like to have fun, kind of make fun of yourself. I think the accent also was... Wait, the accent on both sides?

Tim has zero accent. It's an American accent from South African, right? Yeah, I guess that's true. Her accent is unbelievable. I love it. Yeah, it is pretty spectacular. Demi. Tim's always like, in Afrikaans, you'll be like, what's wrong, what happened?

Why are you fighting with your mom? I'm like, come on. It's like the most harsh language ever. That's German and Latin. So it's got like really harsh sounds. Sounds like they're fighting, though. Wow. I've never heard it, so I wouldn't know.

Tim, you said it's even better in person. Does that apply to Tim's biceps as well or no? No. Okay. I do want to talk about the proposal, Tim, because I'm really intrigued at how you pulled this off. Let me just give you some background on how I proposed to Sean. I didn't know I was,

I didn't know I was going to propose until that morning. Really romantic. Actually, it all kind of, it all kind of like finalized. I didn't know I wanted to marry her until, you know, that day. I got the ring and I was going to, I got it right before my first training camp with the chiefs. And so I was going to wait through my rookie season and propose after,

after the season. But I sat down with a mentor and I was like telling him, yeah, I'm pumped. He's like, well, what are you waiting on to propose? I was like, I don't know. I just, you know, I wanted to wait until after the season. He was like, nah, think about doing it at the next memorable event that you guys

both attend. And so I looked at the schedule and I was like, well, she's throwing out the first pitch at the Cubs game tomorrow. So let me just, I called these people up. I was like, hey, like, what if I wanted to propose? Like, what would that look like? Could we make that happen? He was like, let me call you back.

tomorrow the day of the game the guy didn't call me back until like an hour and a half before i actually did so it all came together very quickly i say all that because i get the sense that yours was a little bit different the whole engagement yeah it was slightly similar except totally opposite this engagement for yeah probably six months i was putting in lies in her head for six things, okay? You was telling me, I want to do something special for my dad on the farm, like, what ideas do you have? What could we get in Christmas?

I was playing it up, playing it up, playing it up, hard for it playing it out. Yeah. It was hard. I had to plan it in between such busy days and stuff. So we had, we were for Christmas, we were in South Africa, and it was in between bowl game. So we made it. First of all, my family was in Israel.

She was giving up her crown in Thailand. I flew from Israel to Thailand for like nine hours and went to support her giving away her crown. Flew with her from Thailand, South Africa. Flew one part of South Africa, spent two days with this family, secretly asked those parents for permission. Then we got on a plane, flew to the other parts of South Africa

with that side of her family. secretly asked them for permission, celebrated Christmas on Christmas Day, flew back to the States, had to go to semifinals, whatever semifinal it was that year, to work at FreeSPN, then flew to the Sugar Bowl to work that with ESPN.

And then we had to go to the National Championship, which was in San Francisco, San Jose, right outside of San Francisco. And so Alabama versus Clemson, finished the game, got on a plane to get back in time for the next day we had our family Christmas because we couldn't have it together. So it was January 8th

or Christmas was. So we get back like, I don't know, 10, 11 in the morning, run over, family gets together. We all celebrate Christmas that day. The next morning we finish our Christmas and the whole family knows they're all in on it. So in the meantime, I was flying her family in and her four best friends and they didn't know it so we finished Christmas that morning and then we were all like okay we're going over to mom and dads for the big

Christmas dinner we don't have a we don't have a Christmas dinner but we built it up all my siblings everywhere was involved and so they have what are you wearing remember it's Christmas dinner like fancy oh my gosh but we don't actually do this we don't dress up. We were like pajamas for Christmas, but we were playing it up for it. All his sister is and sister and those are all in my room trying to find a draught and like, and help her like playing it off. And so she had always said when we get engaged, I have to have my nails done. So her and her friends promised each other, they have to have their nails done like out of everything. Nails is like tiny,

but it's fine. It's because the pictures of the ring. Nobody even ever looks at finger or toenail. So I don't get that, No, all women do, okay? You have to have your nails done. And all promises, why wouldn't it be like the dress or the makeup or something? Nail polish, but anyways. And so we, all that's done and they're finishing getting ready. And so I have a brand new Ford F-150 pull into my house.

And I'm like, Demi, the truck from my dad's here. She's like, you got him a truck? I'm like, yeah. Because I feel like she's like catching on a little bit to, maybe something special could happen and so I literally had a truck pull up with a bow on it to say and shows she's like oh in her heart oh by the way I just gave her a ring that day I'm wearing it oh my gosh that's a good way to throw her off that's a good way to throw her off engagement ring and old she was so he was so like butt hurt you know yeah I was see for any guy if you're in the

like season or sense that there's a proposal coming and you gift a girl a ring that is not an engagement ring that's risky territory i like to play tim yes but it totally threw her off so the ring threw her off the truck threw her off and also then you were like well you know i know he's spending so much time with the family and we haven't had a lot of time for ourselves so maybe tonight you and i just go for dinner by ourselves and i'm like okay maybe then but But it didn't matter. It's going to be over by then, okay? So we get in the brand new truck with a bow on it. We drive over to my parents' house.

And I had to have everybody see that already there. And the cars I had to pull away so I can't see cars. And so they're all in the house waiting. We get there. But I grew up on a mini farm on the west side of Jacksonville. And on the farm, there is a little pond where I was very meaningful to me. It's where I would go out and pray, where I made big decisions. I made the decision to go to Florida there.

I buried my first dog there. I buried Bronco there. And so I had an arch built like a photo arch, and then I had a wooden bench that was handcrafted with some special wording of just meaningful things to us under the bottom of it, planning that day, knowing that day it was made for that day. And so I was like, hey, before we go in and give this a dad,

let's just walk out here and take a look. I want you to see what I had done for dad. And it wasn't done for dad at all. But my dad was like, we had all these cranes out there building this arch. He's like, what are you doing in my pastoral? You know? And so we're walking out there to the pond. In grass and my high bills.

I'm like, why are you making you walk out here on the beach? So we walk out there. And another one of the things she always asked me is if, when I proposed that someone's there to capture it. Obviously, yes, you have to have pictures. But what she didn't know is there was mics in everything around it. No, he took a big part. Oh, yeah.

And we had videographers planted with secret cameras all around. And so we get there, and then I start telling her what she means to me. And then I get on. There was also a speaker in the living room. So her whole family, my whole family, and our friends could hear the whole thing. Sick. That's amazing. While everyone else is, like, peeking out to the bathroom.

They're a washing, but she doesn't know. And so then I get out my knee. I propose. And, you know, it was just so important to me. Like, it's not about just giving a ring. It's not about just getting the act done. It's about making memories and having special moments because it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing. And so for me, it's about everything needs to have a story.

story of how much you care and the meaning behind it and so for she's yawning at me telling her story and then you start yawning so um so i gave her the ring and um after i told her how much she means to me and um and i searched for freaking ever and got so many people involved to find a diamond that was from south Africa, just like her. And then I heard that there's this so-called thing as an internally flawless diamond. So now I got to get that for her. And so then I told her the rings internally flawless, the diamonds internally flawless, just like you are, and it's from South Africa, just like you are. And so to bring that story to life. And then I played a song

on the way over that was always kind of our song by a south african artist named matthew mole called the wedding song and it's really sweet it's really sweet i listened to it before this it's great i was gonna sing it but i didn't shot yeah okay then i was like you know it's a perfect time for me to play the wedding song so i hit play on my phone and we're staying there kind of just like swaying back and forth and matthew's behind a hay bale he walks out and picks up where it was on my phone Wow. He turns around and sees him and freaks out. He keeps playing it.

But I kind of hold her this way. Yeah. And I have a cue to my assistant to have her four parents come out. And so then I turn her around and her four parents are there. She doesn't know they're in the country from South Africa. And so she sees them and then she just... My parents and I was so close and I speak to them every day. Like when I wake up, I always text them.

So my dad was freaking out. He like got the Wi-Fi on the plane. And he's like, she's going to text me, and I'm not going to respond. She's going to give it away. And so then just I had an awesome moment with them. And then we had her friends stationed in another area. And then they popped out and surprised her. And then my family and everybody.

And so then we just had a huge celebration that night. And then we just, the party went out for a long time. It was really fun. It was so special. Yeah. It was the best of the day. I think this is the greatest engagement. story I've ever heard.

And then she told my dad, she was like, well, sorry, you're not getting drunk, but you got a daughter. Okay. To any guy listening, take notes, because I think that's the best. Demi, the smile on your face during that whole time he was telling the story, it was pretty priceless. Appreciate you. That was.

Like two days. I wish I could be able to step for me that day and a little day. I just think it's important you know you have so few times to ever relive moments like that so the more like thought and detail and the way you can personalize it is just so it's important you know and so I just think you know how can you take a special moment and turn it into a forever memory and so I think that's important. Tim, which were you more nervous for? Was it asking her parents for permission or actually getting on a knee? Or maybe we could even throw like some moments in your sports career. I don't know, I don't know. But all as I know is the moment I had to ask her dad to marry me or for his permission

to let me marry his daughter, bro, I locked up like I'd never locked up before. So she has four parents. So I had to, she like put dog. and I was like I'm not that guy that I'm just going to like go to one of them and get permission like I went personally to offer or talk to them individually meaningful times it's just so important I wanted to honor her I wanted to honor her family I'm very traditional like that and and so I was nervous for that but I got to tell you there was a bit of me that was kind of excited like like I was like, the talk, you know, like, I was kind of like...

I loved it. I loved it. I got to tell you, really thinking about it, I think I was most nervous for the wedding. Because I wanted it to go, I had more control over the rehearsal dinner, or over the engagement. And yes, a lot of it was timing and planning, but the wedding had it was like I knew it was so important to her that I was so nervous that everything went well I was nervous for the wedding

we have a tradition in South Africa where the bride and see or speak at least 24 hours before the wedding so and we don't do rehearsal dinner is we usually just have their wedding yeah they don't even know what a rehearsal dinner is we still had one two days ago we did it was awesome

incredible but then the next day we're taking the day I'm with my guys, she's with the girls, we're doing everything, but it's pouring. We're having a Cape Town, South African outdoor, pretty, you know, vineyard's wedding and I was like, oh no, like I just know she's crushed right now. And thankfully, we couldn't speak because I'm like, no, I'm not going to say, I'm like texting with my assistant to his assistant to tell him, like, what are we doing? yeah and um it was miserable but thankfully the next day the wind and the rain calmed down

i woke up that morning and i was like is it raining i don't want to open up i know and thankfully it was it was windy but like it was yeah oh my gosh you guys literally need a movie like a hallmark as just perfect as it gets movie because it's just yeah i would watch it um okay so we ask the same three questions to every couple however before you know the questions you have to choose who goes first who answers first you'll choose who goes for it doesn't matter to me okay um i we haven't gotten that answer before which is interesting you usually see like husband or wife be like no you go or you go or whatever um so demi how about you go first so you guys get married you move in you're living together you guys have been married now for

four months. Four more months. So you learn a lot about couples and about each other through dating, engagement through all of it. And I always, we always think it's interesting to hear how people answer this question. But Demi, it's two-part question. One, what's your biggest pet peeve with Tim? Oh, that's easy. Jack to answer that first.

Yeah. Okay. um but you I leave cans all over the place like I love like I love McCroys Zia's

ahas and I just drink them I don't drink soda so I just I drink a lot of sparkling water is that like work really hard to stay hydrated so I just crush them and I just leave them all over the place like I'll go into

but I never had to worry about it like never had someone that's been like pick up your can no i picked them up when i wanted to pick them up yeah i'll wait till there's like 200 and then i'll come back and there's not really just toss them in the bag and pick them up when i want and she's like you can't just leave but she would like pick it up before i'm even fully done with it you know oh don't set it put a coaster down you know that was a pretty good south african accent right there tim i appreciate the effort Okay, hold on, I'm just appalled that Demi couldn't even think of one. Fine, you got to, what's your own pet people, right?

So I probably now would be like probably the dogs, like letting them up on, like stand up on the table and, you know, or I don't get on to them when they get, oh, hanging out my towels. Yeah, I don't hang out my towel and he hates that. It's a bummer. Okay, but Tim was your biggest pet pee with Demi? Bicking up the cans and you... You're making up the cans, yeah. That's a big one. Golly.

I'll give you a chance to redeem yourselves after this. Don't worry. Maybe it's how long it takes her to get ready for bed. Preach. She's like I'm ready for bed. I'm ready for bed. And I'm like, you won't be ready, like, ready for bed for four and five minutes. Okay, I'm ready. Let's go to the room.

Let's go to bed. Listen, I have at least another half a movie or full... Before you're actually ready to get in bed. She'll get in a bath. She'll brush her teeth more than any dentist would recommend. You have to do. the skin care you have to take the makeup off yes she will put on like the flexaw cream and the deep blue cream and i love this he gets he gets annoyed with me with that every night he's like

can you turn the lights off or something i said he gets annoyed too okay so part two of the question though is so now tim you go first what is it that you love the most about demi oh that's a much harder question um why is they're not a lot I think there's so many things that I think really brought us together that I love and I think it would be easy for me to say conversations or laughter or fun or especially the stupid jokes and stupid things that we do that no one else is really even privy to. but I would say it would be a common link in in like I think it's our heart posture for the easiest way I could probably describe it or heart posture for each other and just the knowing how much we root for each other and want to support one another and truly want to be the others biggest advocates like they were each other's biggest fans and you know my mom said to me the other day is she was like telling me oh you know i'm going to pray for you so much and i'm your biggest prayer oh wait no i'm not demi's probably now your number one biggest prayer

warrior and it was like so encouraging just like you know just the the advocate and the support of one another and i think right like all the other things are amazing but knowing that you have someone that you're, you're not there, you're not just going to hang out with, right? You're not just going to go on dates with. But man, no matter what, good or bad, it's, we're there for each other and we're in it. And I think we both have that heart posture. And in a long answer, I would probably say that, is that deeper level than I could probably even explain even with my parents or siblings which i'm very close with you know is that that's really

sweet that's beautiful okay demi um well you've given me a little bit time to thank you yeah don't screw it up you know you know how the bible says that you know take your husband as a leader in that house and look up to him, and I think for me, as a life, it's so special that I get to look up with him as a leader, that I don't make decisions without him, that I want to seek his counsel, and that it means so much to me, and that I value it so much, and that I can always count on his growth, and that he doesn't make promises me, doesn't keep. And so that's a lot of attributes. And I think mainly just it's one of the things I love most about him

is that I get to take him as the leader of our household and mistakes and as that, not just because the Bible says I should, but because I really can. And because he really is that great of a leader. Yeah. I think that's awesome. level i was uh tim you're talking about how you had special words written on that arch for where you proposed this is a terrible transition after the heartfelt messages you just shared but i was thinking

about the special words that i might carve into wood for you and i was the first thing that came to mind was like chick-fil-a so i don't know if that i don't know if that made the list but i Explain that? No, I don't need an explanation. Whatever. Anyway. You guys, I love your guys' dynamic. I love how much you respect one another and how you talk about each other.

It's, again, we've gotten to interview so many couples and it's always fascinating to see people's dynamics. And I think they're all different, which is why we love interviewing couples. But your guys' dynamic is awesome. And it's really cool to hear your story. So can we close with a bit of advice that you might give other couples? there's plenty of people who look up to you both, and I'm curious, now that you guys are married, what you might say to someone who's about to get married or a little discouraged in a relationship?

I would say to a couple that's either seriously dating, engaged, or married, and I'm also saying this to myself because it truly is something I'm trying to practice and get better at. but I think what happens when you get engaged and when you say I do there's a piece of you that's saying I'm done right I want I got her I wanted her I got her now now we're going to be together but I'm done doing all the things that I did to get her right and there's a piece of that it's like I don't I don't need to continue to take you on the days I don't need to write all the notes I don't need to give you the flowers I don't need to do all those little things and the piece of advice that I would give that I'm giving to myself that I'm really trying to constantly get better at too is having the same mindset that I had on our first date and and it's I don't want her to I don't want to think about her as my wife I want to think about her as my girlfriend and I want to think about our relationships that's still dating and I think that's important is we we it's honestly it's so

crazy easy for that to happen and like when we finished when we um finished all this the ceremony at the wedding and everything and then we went to the honeymoon which was awesome and then we flew from there to meet up with some of our team at night to shine spend a few hours in in rome few hours in paris and then we flew or three hours in albania rome paris and then uh then we flew and hit seven states on the east coast and finished up night to shine this was all in about two and a half days and and then we finished that and then which was awesome and we loved it and we did did it together and it was so much fun and then we finished that and three days later or I had two speaking engagements and then the next after that I went to baseball and now all of a sudden spring training

started and then life got in the way and it was like we just got married it was like all these other things and it was like you still like even in spring training and baseball and you're trying to make it and you're trying to make the big leagues right but it's still I can't put that goal ahead of her needs, you know? And I still got to have the same mindset I did when we were dating of every day trying to win her over, you know, and honor her. And I think that's important to remember because it's so easy that you just get caught up in a busy time. Life's going to get in the way, get in the way, get in the way. And it's like, well, I don't have to put her at the forefront like I did. Yes, you do. Like, that's part of our calling as husbands is you do

have to honor her you know you do have to put her needs first and even though other things are important is she's always that important you know i just would encourage guys with that that was amazing um one thing um one thing i wanted to add was I was so intrigued in what you were saying. Oh, this is what I wanted to say. I wanted to say that I think as newlyweds, one, we've been quarantined for most of all, like, I was just pre-training by three and a half weeks,

and I was like, oh, this is done. Go home. Yeah. I think one thing that I've learned is, you know, as individuals were, like, constantly evolving and changing and growing, and as prognors, you kind of have to keep up with each other. It's great saying, like, know each other and talk and have to communication.

But that's also always changing, right? Because we're changing as humans. But I think aside from that, it's also really important to know that, okay, yes, I need to figure myself out as an individual, but also we're a team now. And I realize like when we work together as a team, and I feel like the work is doing that really well,

but the outcome is always better than me trying to figure it out by myself. So I think just always looking at a situation with love and respect for one another and, you know, knowing that we're in this together and fighting through whatever you're going through together, whether you figure out how to raise puppies or a child, whatever that may be. Yeah, but I think it also plays into that we've done so many things on our own independently. And so now you're saying, like, we both kind of have the mindset, like, or we've been in it so long, like, I can do this. And she's like, I can do this. And I'm like, I can do this.

And you say, I can do this. And then it's like, wait a second. It's not about, it's not about if I can do it. It's that we have to do it. Not the my way, our way. And it's adapting from her way and my way to what is our way going to be, you know? And figuring that out. and compromise it's something we do every day for sure and I pick up my cans yeah yeah hey we're so

grateful that you guys gave us the time to talk today I hope you feel the same way that I know Sean and I do and that I think we have new friends and I I think I think speak for a lot of people when I generally thank you for all that both of you stand for. Demi, your story is incredible. Tim, your story is incredible. And the message that you guys spread changes lives on so many different levels in so many different areas. And yeah, I'm just honored to be able to help share that with maybe some people who haven't heard your message. And I think your guys is marriage.

I'm so excited. I know you're only four months in, but that's just going to be added to how you guys are going to change lives and emulate fantastic marriage and fantastic relationship. So we appreciate the time and I hope we talk soon. Yeah, well, we appreciate y'all's time. And thank you for having us. We're so grateful that we could both find the time to make this work. And just thank you for the kind words in this time.

And y'all just, you're so sweet. and we're grateful. We look forward to, I know we were supposed to hang out before. Yeah. Delayed. Delayed. Delayed.

Yes. We have a tradition where everybody has to say go doors before they sign off. Absolutely not. If we could just. Tim was offended. He was not about that. Know what that mean. Oh, man.

Anyway, hey, thanks, guys. We'll talk. Yeah, you guys are awesome. Thank you so much.