Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 272 | The 25 Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Each Other

Starting point is 00:00:00 What's up, everybody, and welcome back to a couple things. With Sean and Andrew. Today, we are doing 25 questions to ask before you get married. Must have conversations. I'm excited about this because I'm not sure we had all these. No. And so this is coming from our nine years of marriage, maybe some difficult conversations and topics that we talked about that probably would have been better off if we talked about

Starting point is 00:00:24 them before we said, I do. And our premarital counseling. A lot of these are from that, from that, which really opened. open our eyes to conversations that we weren't having that we should have had. And I will say and encourage you guys, even though you might think it's awkward and like, oh, we're just dating. We're not married. You should have these conversations because it's either going to lead you to success in marriage

Starting point is 00:00:46 or potentially a lot of frustration. Yeah. And there is something to be said about just the psychological confidence you have and making a quality choice when it comes to your spouse. And so the more signals you could build and the positive direction of that, the better, right? Sean and I did premarital counseling. That was extremely valuable because we had some of these conversations and talked about some of these things where otherwise we might not have.

Starting point is 00:01:16 So I would just recommend putting yourself in whatever context, whatever situation you can to address topics that otherwise might be a blind spot before you go into marriage. so like things like hey what's your parenting style going to be like obviously what ends up happening might be different than what is projected but like still getting an idea of of the background for their answer is really valuable and I think sometimes people forget in the dating world that like the purpose of dating is to find a spouse and if you're just like dating to like impress each other and like have a good time and stuff and then all of a sudden you end up being engaged just like I hope you've done your

Starting point is 00:02:05 preparation for like what you're actually we're setting yourself up for let me clarify our purpose of dating is to get married maybe we're old school in that sense but sean and I sorry I think that the good life involves deep long relationships so that that that is why I was interested in getting married. That's why I was interested in dating to get married. I don't think maybe everyone has that perspective, though. Funny. Like, I had no interest in dating people to date people.

Starting point is 00:02:38 I think some people are here for a good time. I was, like, actively dating to find a husband. Yeah, me too. Yeah. And I'm glad. You're dating to find a husband? It's been good so far. Sorry.

Starting point is 00:02:49 Marriage has been good so far. Yeah. So whether you're newly dating, engaged, or just thinking about the future with someone else we wanted to put together this list of questions to help you uncover things about each other that often don't come up until later on down the line and sometimes they come up when it's nearly too late Sean and I talk all the time about the more you can make the strategy the battle plan strategy ahead of the battle the better off you are the worst case scenario for us has been the kids are screaming there's a decision that needs to be made immediately you haven't thought

Starting point is 00:03:23 about it so then you're just slinging hot takes and you guys got different perspectives yeah and then all of a sudden it's a massive argument where it's like hey let's just take five minutes and iron this out and you're in a way better position than like trying to handle it live agree challenge for you guys listening so if you are married go ahead and take note of all these as well and like have a conversation and see how many you know the answer to and you know like see if you've had these conversations. But if you're not married, please listen in. Write them down and note that in your dating journey, if you're looking to get married, these are conversations that you should have. And if you are dating, maybe start to kind of sprinkle these in and actually have conversations

Starting point is 00:04:05 around them. That's right. The goal of these questions is to create intimacy, understanding, and overall unity. So shall we begin? Yes. The questions are also not meant to be like yes or no or like check the box. It's supposed to be like conversation-based and should spark real in-depth, you know, philosophical debates potentially. These are meant to be an invitation to be vulnerable. Okay.

Starting point is 00:04:30 So first, what does marriage mean to you? Again, this could be a real short answer to this. Or it could be like, oh, that's interesting. Well, my background and context, for marriage is that my parents were married their entire lives. My grandpa were married their whole life for 60 years. And so my expectation, marriage means a lifelong commitment. It means a partnership.

Starting point is 00:04:58 It means a team. It means your co-parenting. Even my parents did work together. So that was kind of a natural association I made with it. You could find out that someone doesn't believe in marriage, but they also believe in like a partnership or a union forever. Like, it can showcase what people believe a marriage looks like in the sense of we just sign papers and they don't mean anything or actually we go to an altar and it has to be like ordained or like it can show you a lot about what they believe marriage is. Yeah, I would also say my parents laughed a lot together.

Starting point is 00:05:33 So I think friendship being best friends with my wife was something that I can consider part of marriage. Maybe other people think it's just like a, and this is not right or wrong, but like a financial arrangement. or a social status difference. I also want to say we have a friend of ours who is in the dating to find a spouse world and something that they get tripped up on a lot which we try to like counsel them in which is funny since we should be counseling people.

Starting point is 00:06:03 But is this idea of if you are asking these questions and say you get an answer that you don't like, that doesn't mean the relationship is over. It's just a starting point for conversations. Andrew and I have had many conversations over the years where we were on wildly different sides. And use that as a challenge to one another to understand why, where it comes from,

Starting point is 00:06:31 where it stems from. Maybe you see a different light in it and you go to their side or vice versa. But that doesn't mean you're not like compatible. It just shows an understanding of each. other that you either need to work through and figure out a compromise for or how to live with each other or like yeah i think the longer we've been married the more of those differences have sparked curiosity yeah instead of sparked frustration and i actually think a lot of those

Starting point is 00:07:02 differences that we've noticed or picked up on over the years have actually become very very similar like we've grown towards each other and them and not a way yeah or we understand that actually we were closer than we thought we were, just different styles. Yes. All right. Next up, you got it. How do you handle conflict? It's a great question to ask someone.

Starting point is 00:07:23 Do you retreat? Do you argue? Do you get defensive? Or even take it a step further and say, how did your parents handle conflict? Or the people that you were raised around? I thought about to say, if you don't know how to answer the question, it's like, okay, the people closest to you, how did they handle conflict, or what did you see them do in conflict? It might be a better way to approach that

Starting point is 00:07:45 if you don't have an explicit answer. And not because there's a right way to handle it or a wrong way. I mean, the professionals might say there's a right way or wrong way. But in the moment, one way is not right or wrong, but it's good to know going into a marriage. Like during those tough times,

Starting point is 00:08:00 what should I expect? And how can we work on that together so that we can best support one another? We were just with someone overseas and they were talking about how, have this relationship where they'll like a husband and wife will just yell at each other almost nonstop but neither of them get offended yeah even though it sounds super aggressive just because that's what both of them grew up with and so they're both used to it and so it's just like how they do it yeah

Starting point is 00:08:28 and it's like it's home to them which is fine but if one person doesn't come from that context and that's then what they walk into with a spouse it's like that could be really traumatizing you know what I'm saying like, oh my gosh, this person is always mad at me. So it's a fascinating thing to navigate. Third question, what was your parents' relationship like and how do you think it shaped your view of marriage? No matter the answer here, whether they think it shaped their view or not, it did shape their view.

Starting point is 00:08:57 Like subconsciously, you will always hold on to how your parents' relationship was. So if someone comes from a divorced family, just know in the back of their mind, they might have a fear of like abandonment or that marriage can't last. And you have to understand people's baggage and their background in order to love them and work through their insecurities as best as possible. Yeah. And you're not going to fully understand someone's back. I've known Sean for 13 years.

Starting point is 00:09:30 I still don't understand her full background. There's still things we talk about. We're like, you have never told me that. That changes everything, right? but I do think people either embrace their past or try to rebel against it so maybe they'll be like

Starting point is 00:09:43 oh I don't care about a divorce it doesn't mean anything to me or I don't it doesn't matter the longevity of a relationship and it's like well maybe you're embracing what your parents did or maybe you're just rebelling against it but yeah you're trying to build this constellation

Starting point is 00:09:58 of understanding what this potential partner's background is so that's good next very important one do you want kids if yes how many and what's your ideal timeline are you open to being flexible on it actually it astounds me yeah the amount of conversations i have with friends of mine that they'll they'll not know certain aspects of their of their wife that are very important

Starting point is 00:10:29 like this so it's like a young friend of mine just got married it's like does your wife want kids you'd be like, yeah, I don't really know. You should know that. What do you mean? What are you guys doing when you're together? I feel like you should be asking questions and really know. Like, or what is your wife do for work? Oh, I think she's this.

Starting point is 00:10:48 It's like, what? Yeah. Get to know them. It's the whole point. Yeah. You get to be a front row seat to this wonderful human being. It's like a simultaneously incredible and frustrating and roller coaster of a journey, but it's so fulfilling and so fun.

Starting point is 00:11:03 And then all of a sudden, you fast forward five, ten years. You've got a partner that you're like, wow, this is my right or freaking die. I can't believe this. Now, Sean and I are like, dude, I get hyped about the team mate that I have. And I'm constantly impressed by her, somewhat annoyed by her sometimes. And it's just fun. I wouldn't have it any other way. And, yeah.

Starting point is 00:11:29 This question reminds me of the movie that I was bawling my eyes out hysterically over. what was it called the adoption one no the with the spider-man uh what with spider-man we live in time we live in time we live in time go watch it grab the tissues i feel like it exemplifies a lot of this of like you should have conversations and they shouldn't scare you it should just be like an understanding of each other and why you got to that point number five what role does faith or spirituality play in your life and is this something that affects your day-to-day living? We have a friend who dated

Starting point is 00:12:09 someone for seven years. A lot of their youth they dated, they dated this person. Yeah. And then it was like they had to end the relationship because one person was one religion, the other person was another, and it was like, dang. Now, I'm not saying they didn't have fun for seven years,

Starting point is 00:12:25 but we could have avoided this. And there was heartbreak at the end, too. It was very, very difficult. They're like, I don't know why we couldn't make it work. It's like, I do. I could have figured that out in the first week. And they both wanted to get married to each other. They just couldn't because of this thing. Because of their faith.

Starting point is 00:12:41 They came from drastically opposite sides. Neither were willing to forfeit that. They were not willing to forfeit that with their children that they were going to have. And it's just like, though they were madly in love with each other, if there is an issue like that, we should figure that out pretty early on. and we should figure out pretty early on are you willing to budge convert convert that's not budging that's drastic if like if i am of a religion where i'm like there's no chance i'm converting you know but i bet look my my boyfriend will convert i better ask and be pretty confident

Starting point is 00:13:22 yeah yeah obviously these are all hard things they are you know and it's not fun and this is not first date questions probably but yeah could you imagine someone shows up with our 25 questions on a first date yeah i mean it would be effective i also think the faith and spirituality question i think doesn't hit the same when you're younger when life is so exciting and you have so many things going on and then you know like life is in four year chunks when you're younger until you graduate college and then you're 30 and all of a sudden it's more about the subtlety because you're living a more routine day, year after year after year. Kids change your beliefs in the sense of like they either solidify them or erase them.

Starting point is 00:14:06 So the spirituality thing, I think, becomes more of an issue the older you get. So just something to consider. Next up, how do you currently handle money, spending, saving, budgeting? Versus how do you want to handle money? Which is maybe a different question. Yeah. it's good to know are you a penny pincher do you like spending money on vacations do you like expensive bags is your boyfriend really into cars like find out what money means to them

Starting point is 00:14:41 where it goes and why it goes there and I think it tells you a lot about about your significant other this is something that Sean and I have a vast difference on that is one of the things that I've grown to appreciate so much. I kind of think we're merging, though. 100%. We're merging. Yeah. You have unlocked an appreciation of me for spending money.

Starting point is 00:15:00 And you've unlocked an appreciation for investing and saving. But this is one thing where it's like, dang, it actually does create a more balanced life. Like, I thought penny pinching was always the right thing. And it's like, not. Hey, we should. There's a book called Die with Zero. And it's like, yeah, you should actually enjoy life and money is a, a conduit to that to a certain extent.

Starting point is 00:15:23 But that's our personal belief. It doesn't have to be everybody. Yeah, sure, sure. Okay. All right, let's talk about summer snacks. Because if your family is anything like ours, you're constantly on the move this time we are doing pool days, park days, road trips, tee ball games, you name it.

Starting point is 00:15:38 That's why we are obsessed with chomps meat sticks. They are the ultimate grab and go snack. You just toss a few in your bag and you are set. There's no refrigeration needed, no melting, no sticky fingers, just real, high-quality protein that keeps everyone fueled and happy. Our whole family is huge fans of choms. Our kids love the original beef flavor,

Starting point is 00:16:00 and I always reach for the jalapeno beef. It's just got that perfect little kick. And Sean and I were actually just arguing the other day over who got the last one before he reordered them. I won, if you were wondering. Each chomp stick has over 10 grams of high-quality protein, zero sugar, and is made with ingredients you can actually recognize and taste.

Starting point is 00:16:18 I'm talking 100% grass-fed and finished beef and venison, antibiotic-free turkey, and real herbs and spices you can actually see in every bite. High, high quality. Sean and I are both pretty health-conscious with our kids, and it's a snack that we both feel good about handing to them. Plus, we eat it ourselves. So if you're trying to keep your family full without the mess or sugar crash, Choms has your summer snack game covered. Grab a few and thank me later. Get 15% off plus free shipping on your next order of Choms Meat Sticks at chomps.com with code shan. Again, that's code shan for 15% off plus free shipping at chomps.com.

Starting point is 00:16:56 7. What's your love language? How do you feel most cared for? Also, the love languages are in case you don't know them. Access, service, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, and quality time. Okay. Something we learned from a counselor was how you best receive love is usually how you show it follow me here how your significant other receives love is often how they show it and if they aren't the same then that means i might not be loving my spouse the best way he needs if i'm only doing what comes natural what comes natural so you have to learn what your spouse or your significant other's true love languages and you have to figure out how to do it

Starting point is 00:17:48 and that's something we've both worked on I mean we still work on it every day when people say marriage takes work this is one of the things they're referring to like I show love with physical touch because physical touch is what I need like I want to cuddle and I want to hug and I want to hold hands

Starting point is 00:18:04 okay but that's not how he feels most loved is his words of affirmation so I have to remember all the time, I'm like, oh, Frick, I need to say something to Andrew today, because that's what you need to feel full. Some of Mishan's biggest influences were Russian and Chinese, which the words of affirmation, like, doesn't really come naturally. Yeah. No words are really needed.

Starting point is 00:18:31 You can kind of say whatever you want. Figure it out, yeah. Yeah. All right. You get the next one. What are your expectations around sex and intimacy in marriage? Yeah. Great.

Starting point is 00:18:44 We know people on both ends of the spectrum. Some people are like real horn dogs, you know? Friggin' sex is like the highest priority in marriage. Every day, all day. Some people, there's like real scars around. Yeah. I think they grew up in like a really religious home where sex only had negative connectivity. And then that's bled over into marriage where they don't have any interest in sex because it's like a bad thing.

Starting point is 00:19:08 You know what I'm saying? So anyway, it's kind of interesting to get people's context around that. Yeah. Number nine, what are your political or social values and how important is it that we align on these? I actually. I don't love it. You don't like the question? I don't know if I like the question.

Starting point is 00:19:25 You and I are different this way, though. Meaning this is not super important to us? Like, if there's differences, it's not super important. It's not super important to us for us to align on them. I think, I, if politics and social values mean that much to you to ask, then you should ask. but like Andrew and I I remember going into voting say four years ago

Starting point is 00:19:49 and we both voted and we were both like we don't need to know like highly respect you no matter your choice and your option like you don't need to share with me that's your that's that's for you

Starting point is 00:20:07 yeah yeah and the list of things that makes me love you your political views would be so low on list. Yeah. The way you live your life makes that almost insignificant to me. Or I trust your decision enough that we're aligned on everything else. Yeah.

Starting point is 00:20:25 That this is like an anomaly. But a good question to ask if it means that much. Yeah. I also think people over-prioritize this. I do. They make it more an issue than maybe it needs to be. I think a great exercise you can do. with the political or social values

Starting point is 00:20:45 is, you know, like when you're researching and you're following all the different things that a politician stands for, all the different categories, remember we did this? Sit down with your spouse and go through each one. Yeah, yeah. Every single category and like, what's the word? Topic?

Starting point is 00:21:04 Yeah, pretty much topic. Issues. And go through every issue and see where your spouse aligns because that gives you a better view of each other and the whys and like everything than just a person's name. Yeah, here's how I feel about this. It's a hot take.

Starting point is 00:21:19 I think political conversations bring out the worst in people when really the functional lifestyle that those people might be having is so much more aligned than what they would converse about. People get so enraged. So we shouldn't sit down on a date

Starting point is 00:21:35 and be like, who'd you vote for? Yeah, yeah. We should say, where do you, like, how do you feel about this issue. Yeah. And why? Yeah.

Starting point is 00:21:46 The surface level conversations usually aren't quality. And you know the important part of that is and why? Mm-hmm. Okay. Number 10. How do you envision our roles in marriage doing housework, parenting, careers, etc.? Yeah, this is interesting.

Starting point is 00:22:01 We know a couple who had kids and then it turns out the mom didn't want to give up her career, which ended up causing friction. Mm-hmm. I think we know another couple, whereas vice versa. so anyway so that's that is important again something that probably both people will end up needing to compromise on but it's good to know expectations going in yep here's a fine one what are your biggest lifelong dreams and how can I support them that's a beautiful question it is but it's also important because let's take you playing in the NFL how can I

Starting point is 00:22:38 support them the NFL then unlocks this conversation of like okay that means we could move at the drop of a hat many times in a year are you okay with uprooting a home and a family and like whatever it is

Starting point is 00:22:54 but understanding that and knowing why it means so much to someone and how you can see that either come to light or not is really important yeah there's consequences to dreams which are interesting to consider

Starting point is 00:23:10 so I mean it's also a signal if someone says, my biggest lifelong dream is to be a billionaire. It's like, okay, interesting. Well, then maybe you'll do whatever it takes to make money. You know, it's like, what do the dreams say about the person?

Starting point is 00:23:25 But again, asking, I think with all these questions, what are your biggest lifelong dreams and why? And then what are your biggest lifelong dreams and how can I support them? You could probably add those two taglong questions to every one of these. There's some good ones coming up. Number 12, how do you handle stress

Starting point is 00:23:40 or mental health challenges? It might be hard for some people to answer if they haven't dealt with a lot of it, but a good question to ask. Yeah, it's good to get the person's answer, but then also observe them actually be stressed. And I think that's very informative. I've been really open with conversations we've had with all of you guys about like eating disorders in my past and stuff. I tried to sit Andrew down and like walk him through that, how I handled it, what I did well, what I did bad, what are my triggers. so like he could understand if I was having a bad month or phase or whatever if we went to a restaurant and I whatever the more you can understand that from your significant other the better

Starting point is 00:24:23 got it number 13 have you ever been in therapy or counseling would you be open to it that's a good question great question yeah there will be some issues that probably need a third party mediator. Also, let's get rid of any stigma that therapy or counseling is bad. Like, throw that out the window. We live in a new generation. Therapy and counseling is incredible. It means that someone is actively wanting guidance and betterment and like to work on something. Yeah. So if someone has been in counseling or therapy, don't make that a red flag. Make that like actually a green flag. Yeah. Trying to get better. Number 14. How do you handled friendships with the opposite sex when in a relationship.

Starting point is 00:25:12 We had this conversation. We did. And it was actually, Sean mostly had male friends, which honestly was kind of a red flag to me on first glance. Because I'd never trusted that. But the way she had the relationships gave me so much trust that, like, oh, this is not concerning.

Starting point is 00:25:31 I'm just not. I wasn't a girly girl. I couldn't hang with the girls. Yeah. I just wanted to go lift weights to the guys. Yeah. so something that was a like initial pushback for me became something that was really exciting to me of like oh wow I can trust her so much in these content but I will say it did evolve

Starting point is 00:25:48 yeah like it has evolved ever since we got married of just like respecting each other enough to know it's not necessary for me to go have a one-on-one coffee with a guy friend yeah yeah you never really did which I never did but it's more so just like Yeah, understanding that. I truly cannot believe summer is over and it's back to school season. Well, I'm excited for all the fun the school year brings. I am not excited for the back-to-school sicknesses. Oh, man, I forgot about that.

Starting point is 00:26:20 It literally happens every year. It happens every year. This is a big part of why we co-created Beam Kids to help support our kids' immune health. Our three little ones still drink their Beam Kids every single night before bed and we feel really good about all the vitamins and probiotics they're getting to fill in the gout. They really do ask about it if we forget about it, too, which is funny. But Beams Back to School sale is live now through August 21st, and you could save up to 50% off while supplies last. That is the biggest deal we've done yet, so you don't want to miss out.

Starting point is 00:26:52 Yes, and we also just launched the duo packs, which is a fun way to taste us different flavors. Jet loves chocolate chip and Drew loves chocolate, so it's a win-win. Whether you want to strengthen your kid's immune system before the back-to-school germs hit or give them extra vitamins that tastes like dessert, Check out Beam Kids. Head to shopbeam.com slash beam kids and get up to 50% off while supplies last. Do you have any boundaries emotionally, physically, or even digitally with social media texting that you would want to talk about? I love that question. Yeah, that's really revealing.

Starting point is 00:27:25 Yeah. I don't like phones at the table when we're eating. Now you know how to respect that person a little better. It's good. Number 16, what would you do if one of us lost a job or had a health crisis? that's a tough question to like answer and know the real answer to but still if someone shares their answer you at least kind of know what their North Star is yeah I think and what Sean and I did in our dating process it was different than any other person I dated was the answer

Starting point is 00:27:57 and honesty of that answer to questions like this was most was most true I'm saying I wasn't concerned about trying to morph my answer into something that I thought would impress the other person. Which is what we both did prior to each other. We spent time in serious relationships trying to make the other person like us. Yeah. By like changing us. Okay.

Starting point is 00:28:24 17. Who are the most influential voices in your life right now? And do you see them sticking around? I love that question. Yeah, I ask people who are your biggest mentors? outside of your parents. That's good. 18.

Starting point is 00:28:37 What's your relationship like with your family and how involved do you want them to be in our marriage and kids' lives? Really important. This changes as you get older too

Starting point is 00:28:45 or it's like, oh, yeah, I don't want to live in Indiana anymore is what I thought. It's like, no, then you have kids. You're like, I need support. So the closer I can get

Starting point is 00:28:54 to anybody that's willing to do that, the better. Another one stemming off of that is stereotypically a lot of people meet in college yeah um college is usually not where you live a huge question

Starting point is 00:29:11 where do you want to live or where do you see us living is it in Italy is it where like if you both aren't from the same hometown is it where he lives or she lives or yeah some people really get off on travel it's like okay that's informative like maybe they don't they aren't as rooted or family oriented you know

Starting point is 00:29:39 I don't know it's but picking sides is hard like are we going to your hometown or mine like a hundred percent big question yeah okay how do you recharge are you more introverted or extroverted great question I like it 20 why do you want to marry me specifically if you are in the depths of a marriage conversation or like engaged or talking about engagement. Great question. Why me? Yeah. And this is not a hype me up question. It's like

Starting point is 00:30:09 no. Sean, I think you are one of the most talented, capable people that I know. And I don't know if you see that. I love your meekness. I think I love the family values that you came from. You love my meekness?

Starting point is 00:30:25 No, sorry, your humility. No, I'm saying like... Dude, you want me to be lively out there. Anyway, it's like actually use meaningful adjectives is a point. Yeah. 21, how are you raised and what would you want to replicate or do differently? That's good. 22, how would we handle infertility or unexpected parenting challenges?

Starting point is 00:30:52 If you don't want to ask a question in that sense because you don't really know, ask. what are if people want kids say do you want biological are you okay how do you feel about adoption how do you feel about IVF how do you feel about you know different things like that uh what's the surrogacy what do you think about that yeah all interesting this honestly this just leads to like fascinating conversations and this is how sean and i connect is really through like philosophical conversations we love these kinds of conversations 23 how much time do you expect to spend together apart, hobbies, friendships, alone time, etc. Hard question to answer because life changes

Starting point is 00:31:32 and life goes in phases, but if able to answer, would be eye-opening. Yeah. Sean wanted to spend more time together than I did. I'm a big alone time guy, but but I just told her that and then we laughed about it and then we ended up spending a lot of time together because that was way more enjoyable to me than the alone time. Yeah. Anyway, you got the next. I just like to sit in the same room, okay?

Starting point is 00:31:56 uh 24 do you have any debt or financial obligations i should know about yeah we should know about that we have a friend who after marriage found out that their spouse had crippling crippling debt that they were too ashamed to talk about and they were too ashamed to like share and it came out in a not great way and they dealt with it beautifully and they figured it out but let's just go without saying, like, we should share everything with each other. Yeah. Like, it did become a really unifying, bonding,

Starting point is 00:32:35 beautiful reconciliation as a result of that, but we should, let's not, we don't need that opportunity to reconcile. So let's talk about it beforehand. If your spouse is choosing all of you, good and bad, they're choosing all of you good and bad. And you've got to embrace that at some point and say, you know what, I'm not proud of this.

Starting point is 00:32:53 It's something that I am ashamed of. I've been done, but I have to tell you about it. Like, head on. Honestly, I never really used to think twice about my underwear. I used to think about your underwear all the time. Okay, I throw on whatever I had in my drawer and focused more on the outfit and what I felt confident. But once I tried skims, that totally changed.

Starting point is 00:33:15 Now I realize that confidence starts underneath the cute outfit. When you have on a pair of underwear that you love, it honestly just elevates the day. You may be the one person to notice, but hey, the little joys in life. One of my biggest pet peeves is when it comes to underwear is when they stretch out or lose their shape throughout the day. That's the worst. I've tried so many brands and really nothing compares to skims. When I tried it, I threw every pair I had and only kept this.

Starting point is 00:33:40 They have this pair called Fits Everybody Boy Shorts, and it is my favorite. The fabric is so soft, it never loses its shape. I have worn and washed mine so many times, and they are still my favorite. They're perfect for everyday wear and a good bedtime pair, too. You know what I mean. I always get so excited when I place my new order from Skims and see them in my drawer, their quality really is worth the hype. Shop my favorite bras and underwear at skims.com.

Starting point is 00:34:07 After you place the order, be sure to let them know we sent you. Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the drop-down menu that follows. Are those those those? I know. You look good at them. They're the best. 25. What are your views on health, diet, exercise, and self-care?

Starting point is 00:34:25 Yeah. Again, some people will make this their highest priority, which is a signal and a sign. It tells you something about that person. Other people are like, no, I'm, I just am here for longevity. Other people are like, whatever. They have different takes on it that are revealing. Curious what you guys thought. Before you say I do, make sure you ask these questions or majority of them.

Starting point is 00:34:48 Yeah. Highly recommend it. Are we missing any questions? Please let us know in the comments below. and if you made it this far, please like this episode and subscribe to it on whatever platform you're listening to. And thank you for listening. Sean and I love having these conversations.

Starting point is 00:35:04 We hope you love listening to them. And we hope that these episodes spark conversation with you in your home. Yeah. That's all we have. I'm Andrew. I'm Sean. Until next time.

Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 272 | The 25 Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Each Other

There aren't comments yet for this episode. Click on any sentence in the transcript to leave a comment.