Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew - 70 Pregnancy Q&A Round 2

Episode Date: June 16, 2021

This week on Couple Things, we are answering your questions about our pregnancy with little man! A few topics that we cover: how this pregnancy been different than the last what we have done differently this pregnancy that we wished we had done with drew? do we feel more prepared for this pregnancy? lessons learned from pregnancy how we think drew will react to the new baby starting new chapters what life will look like with a boy how shawn feels about having a boy some ways we think we will parent differently with the second child? If you haven’t yet, please rate Couple Things and subscribe to hear more. Follow us on Instagram to keep the conversation going at https://www.instagram.com/couplething... And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format – we might just choose yours! Email us at [e-mail]. We're supported by the following companies that we love! Check them out below: Best Fiends ▶ Simply download Best Fiends for FREE today on the Apple App Store or Google Play. That’s FRIENDS without the R – Best Fiends! Athletic Greens ▶ They are offering our audience a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase if you visit our link today...you’ll basically never have to buy Vitamin D again! Visit http://athleticgreens.com/EASTFAM and join health experts, athletes and health-conscious go-getters around the world who make a daily commitment to their health. SLINGTV ▶ Take control of your TV experience today and get your first month for just $10 by going to SlingTV.com/EASTFAM Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson Follow My Twitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/ShawnJohnson Snapchat! ▶ @ShawneyJ Follow AndrewsTwitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/AndrewDEast Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/AndrewDEast Snapchat! ▶ @AndrewDEast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I think something that goes untalked about and unexplained with pregnancy is pregnancy is very beautiful. But the side that people don't talk about, pregnancy is a very, very kind of isolating thing. And it's something that that's like a feeling that I struggle with. What's up, everybody? Welcome back to a couple things with Sean and Andrew. A podcast all about couples. And the things they go through. Today we are talking about pregnancy round technically three. Yes. But long term round two.

So we have put together a list of questions here that we're just going to talk through. See how this one differs from the previous one and see how things are going because it's definitely been different. It's been so different. But before we get started, if you have it yet, please subscribe to the show on whatever platform you're listening on. Yes. And please comment down below. Give us your thoughts on topics that you want us to cover on what you think about just the show. Also, we're doing predictions now for the due date of this child.

The sooner the better, but if you have a guess as to when this child will come, go ahead and comment it if you're on YouTube down below. And you ready to roll into this? Let's do it, baby. Let's hit it. Okay, so first question, babe. Walk me through how this pregnancy has been different than the last. Okay. So before we dive into this episode, I want to just have a disclaimer.

This pregnancy has been great, but also difficult for so many reasons that we'll dive into. And I want you guys to know, like, from the get-go that just because I tell you things that have been difficult and hard and I vent doesn't mean I'm not so beyond happy and ecstatic and blessed to be pregnant. Yeah. Disclaimer. I accept the disclaimer. But how has this pregnancy been different? It has been different in probably every possible way. Literally.

We are having a little boy. We found out around 20 weeks and 16 weeks. And it made so much sense when we found out we were having a boy. Because from day one, my symptoms were different with Drew, I really wasn't not. I had headaches with Drew and I was tired, but with this little guy, I felt super nauseous. I didn't have any cravings. I don't know. It's just like the original symptoms were completely different. I feel like Drew's pregnancy was stressful from an emotional standpoint and kind of easy from a physical standpoint. And this one's been actually completely flipped. No, or hard on both,

actually, because you had COVID during this pregnancy. You had allergies for months. dude you couldn't breathe the baby's way bigger so you're more uncomfortable the baby grew faster he's like four weeks ahead of drew so okay so i want to take you back though to the first like trimester i got hit with emotions and hormones really hard this time a little bit different than drew i think something that goes untalked about and unexplained with pregnancy is pregnancy is very beautiful and there are so many people out there that love love love being pregnant because because, and I am one of them, as soon as you become pregnant, something switches inside of you where you go into mom mode and you feel this like purpose and you feel filled and you feel so much love

and all of these things. But the side that people don't talk about, and I remember I was having a hard night. I was emotional. I don't know, you know, how it was being shown. I can't remember, but I remember you and I talking and me just trying to explain it to you that pregnancy is a very, very, I don't want to say isolating but kind of isolating thing and it's something that that's like a feeling that I struggle with because all of your hormones are changing and you're so exhausted and you're nauseous and you can't eat certain things and you can't do certain things and your life is just consumed with the creation of your baby it kind of isolates you from your community and your friend group and especially within the first trimester you aren't sharing the news with a lot of people so it it makes you feel distant it makes you feel distant from your husband or your spouse sometimes because your emotions are all crazy and then later on in the pregnancy with your changing body and insecurities and just all of these things it causes a distance and I think I was I was really emotional at the beginning because one I was so ecstatic to be pregnant again and the fact that we were able to get pregnant again

but two I was really scared because that was a hard part of our pregnancy with Drew was how we dealt with it and how I dealt with it with our friends and our family and I was daunted by taking that on again. So it kind of psyched me out from the beginning a little bit. I feel like I don't give you enough credit for what that must feel like. Also it's, I mean, obviously it's the elephant in the room. Maybe that's a bad analogy to use in this scenario. But like, why? But like you're pregnant and it affects every second of every day for you. But you can't, nobody likes the person. that like says oh i'm pregnant i can't do this or hey do you know i'm pre or like talks about pregnancy all the time but obviously it affects you all the time so i don't give you enough credit

there well and i think this pregnancy has been completely different than drew's too because we have drew and coming from the background of being an athlete ander and i are obsessive about our bodies might sound strange clarify please yeah not in a not in a not in a not like vein way but in in the way of like health so like in taking um good care and like resting and making sure we are taking our supplements and making sure like our body is is operating at its highest level yeah and how chiseled our six pack looks and no and with in being pregnant a second time and chasing a toddler around there's just no time for that and when i was pregnant with drew i did everything I possibly could to really take care of my body, to sleep as much as possible,

to keep my feet up, to just sit and watch Netflix for hours on end when I wouldn't feel good and to make sure I was eating the right thing every single hour and taking all the right vitamins and supplements and like on time, all of it. Well, when you have a toddler who is literally year and a half and she got COVID and she has been, she's had a cold and she's gotten her molars and she's gone through sleep regression. and just all of these things, you don't have time for that. And it's been exhausting

and it's made pregnancy a lot harder. I got to say that, you've been killing it. And your attitude's been real top-notch. Really? I will say, though, I've been alluding to, like, this pregnancy is completely different. I'll give you some details as to why. So I think one of the biggest hurdles

to overcome for me, mentally when we got pregnant was we weren't really I don't want to say we weren't prepared to get pregnant when we did but it was kind of a miracle that we got pregnant on our first try and we were expecting it to take a very long time like it did with Drew but I think the reason why that was difficult was because it had been a year since we had Drew and I had finally not like I was rushing to get there. But I had just gotten to the point where I felt like I was me again. I felt like my core was back. I felt like healed. I felt confident in my skin. I felt like I was truly a mom to Drew instead of just like that pregnancy postpartum body. I feel like we had gotten

our groove back. Yeah. I just I just felt like me. And when you're pregnant, you don't feel like you. Your body is not your own. And so when we got pregnant on the first try, I was like, oh, my gosh. That was short-lived. But it's amazing. But the symptoms being different, I, yes, had COVID. I had pregnancy sinusitis or something. I don't know how you say it.

Is that a real thing? It sounds like you made that up. No, it's like pregnancy stuff he knows. It's like pregnancy causes you to have a. congested dose. It's crazy. That sounds like some weak sauce. I'm not going to lie.

Really? I'm just saying pregnancy sinusitis. Get real. No, but it was miserable for you. It was miserable. I had like allergies for like four months. With Drew, she got to be 8.8 pounds, which was a big baby. He's a lot bigger.

And I just feel like I'm carrying him a lot different. He feels very like condensed and in the front. Drew felt like she was spread out. he's also already head down as low as possible which is very uncomfortable and then something completely different this time around i have excruciating tailbone pain yeah an evening at the east household looks like me massaging sean's left butt cheek well it's pretty much what we do yeah yeah today's episode is brought to you by best fiends babe what you're doing over there seem a little distracted. We are in the middle of a podcast episode, but I was just checking my Best

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We'll link it down below. Let's get back to it. You remember for the second question? Yeah. Wow. What have you done differently for this pregnancy that you wish you would have done with Drew? Now you've been through the whole thing once. What lessons did you learn from that time that you carried over to this?

With Drew, I learned that you really can't control anything. That is truly a miracle that is in God's hands. And you and I spent majority of our pregnancy with Drew worrying and in fear. And with this little guy, I feel like, We're just, we've been excited from day one, which has been awesome. We get a little, like, we get nervous for sure when it comes to tests or ultrasounds and stuff. But I feel like for the most part, we've just been happy and excited. So maybe to drill in to specifics, when we go to the doctor now or hear whatever results come back, with Drew, it was, we were so tuned into, oh, this is.

slightly abnormal and what might that mean and like that you get carried away I feel like with the negative possible like yeah the abnormal possibilities of what might happen with you live in a world of what if yeah like fear yeah but then I don't know I guess with Drew you just realize every kid's different man yeah just it is how it is and life will be great no matter what it looks like well and yeah yeah yeah and I think something else that I've done differently this time around than I did with Drew is with Drew I beat myself up that I had to be that perfect pregnant person so don't you dare take a bite of a sandwich or don't you dare soft cheese yeah what like whatever it is and I'm not saying that I intentionally go out and eat a cold turkey sub or

whatever it might be, but I've given myself a lot more grace this time around and just living my life and under the right guidelines. But I think it makes me more sane and makes the pregnancy easier. Yeah, I actually feel like you've still adhered to all of the protocol per se, but anytime you might miss up a little bit. Yeah. It's not this huge. emotional, like, journey for you. Yes. Do you feel more prepared for this pregnancy? I think so.

Well, yes and no. Let me say yes and no. Yeah, I'm curious. I feel more prepared for this baby. I feel less prepared for this pregnancy. I'm nervous for the next couple weeks, dude. Me too. When we got pregnant, I felt like I was like, oh, I know exactly what to expect.

I know at week 30, I'm going to start, you know, slowly getting super uncomfortable. and just all these things. And then starting by week 10, this pregnancy was completely different in every way, shape, or form. And I was like, I don't know what's happening to my body. And so it feels like it's brand new, which almost makes it harder because athlete mindset, I'm used to, like, training for something and mentally preparing. And since I'm mentally prepared for almost like the wrong thing, every single week, I'm like, oh, I need to reset my expectations and redo my mindset.

What do you mean the wrong thing? Like, I keep trying to compare this pregnancy to Drew's every week. I'm like, oh, I remember at 36 weeks, this happened. So let's get ready for that. Whereas I have, I still have yet to accept the fact that this is a whole new ballgame. Yeah. So I want to get a little more specific Because you talked about how you do feel more prepared for this pregnancy

And you've done some things What if you could drill down some of the best lessons that you've learned From that first pregnancy Like what would the specifics be To just Not stress Which is really hard But to truly not stress

And just to let it kind of run its course and do its thing and just to be excited for baby and not to be so concerned with all the what-ifs because when you have a kid, every single moment of your life for the rest of your life can be consumed by a what-if because you love your child so much and you want to protect them. But on top of that, just like little things for me, pregnancy, working out makes pregnancy so much better and easier. It keeps me sane and I feel like keeps me healthy. Eat more chick-fil-A.

Eat more chick-fil-A. You've definitely eaten more chick-fil-A. Or eat more ice cream. I don't know. Just give yourself grace. I feel like, again, I was so obsessed with everything. I was obsessed with gaining the perfect amount of weight and eating the perfect amount of calories.

And just like I lost a lot of the joy of pregnancy and just life with Drew because I obsessed so much. And I think you just got to have to, like you got to have just more grace. I think embracing the chaos, like just having the understanding, A, it's going to be wild out there, just got to ride it out. How do you think Drew's going to react when the baby comes? I'm terrified and so excited for Drew. Andrew and I were talking about this the other night on date night, actually, last week.

That my biggest fear when we went into the hospital to have Drew was what it would do to us. You were my world. And I couldn't picture sharing you and sharing us as someone else or how that would even work with your heart. And it did. It was difficult for a while, just getting used to the transition, but it's you, me, and Drew now. Like, it's us.

Yeah. And I'm terrified going into this little man of the same exact thing. Like, you and her are my world. And I don't know how that expands. I don't want her to ever think she's not my little girl. and yeah I just don't know how to share that sounds bad I feel like in life you go through these phases of I remember when my brother first went to college and you feel like you lost a brother and I remember when he got married and I was like oh my gosh he's not my best friend anymore as someone else's and like there's always this fear of what the other side of this phase is going to look like and for for sure with drew that first pregnancy you're like I feel like we're like I feel like we're we're losing us to a certain extent that your marriage it's like now we're going to be parents and not you know a couple it just that was my perspective and now I have the same thing of like oh shoot

it's you me and Drew and we're going to lose that a little bit but I think you always got to I guess tell yourself that the next phase is going to be better yeah you know it's going to be better I definitely am sentimental though thinking about my dad is like this all the time He's like, oh, man, this is the last time we're going to be together as a family or this is the last time we'll be in Nashville or whatever. You know, he's always like this is calling out these milestones in life. And just to realize that this will be the last time, these last couple weeks, that we get to selfishly be with Drew and have that undivided attention for and with her. I don't want to say I'm going to miss it, but it's been great. And I'm trying to soak it all up right now.

Same. Yeah. Yeah. We will miss it. It'll be better, but we'll miss it. Are you afraid she's going to have like a tantrum? Like people say? I'm sure she'll act out.

I'm sure she'll get jealous someday. I'm sure he'll get jealous someday. You know, that's normal. Are you saying we're going to have a third kid? What was that? Or he'll get jealous of her. Oh, okay, okay, okay. But yeah.

I mean, I think our family will change. And I expect everything to change. So Drew will as well. I really think she'll be a great big sister. Oh, for sure. And she's going to love him so much. And she loves babies so much. I pray that I'm capable of being that parent that can still shower her with love and shower him with love at the same time.

we need tips on that man yeah we need some coaching on that yeah i'm just so anxious to see what our house is going to feel like when we have a second baby around here you know i know it's gonna be fun i'm terrified i will say i went and got a massage today i went to the chiropractor's office and there was a six-week-old baby what and i was like yes i i I can't wait. To hold the baby? I'm just, oh, I can't wait to meet him. Yeah.

Today's episode. I am so excited for him to join our family. Yeah. We got a lot to figure out, though. Like, what is, am I going to be taking Drew? And you take baby? I guess we got a game time decision, because we don't know if he's going to breastfeed or bottle feed or are you going to pump

or is Drew going to go to school. We got lots of things about that. And I think the craziest part, it literally makes my hands, like, start sweating. I was sitting at, like, we were eating dinner the other night, and I had the thought, I was like, how do you put two babies down to sleep by yourself? Well. I know we'll figure it out, but it's like, we have Drew's routine. Are you saying, like, if one of us is gone? Yeah.

How do you put them both down? You can't just be like, Drew, I'll be back in 30 minutes. We'll remember the baby's going to be on a different schedule. I know. I know. But it's like, are you carrying the baby? be around while you're trying to rock drew we do that's it's just strange our evening routine is like pretty Drew centered so yeah we're both up there giving Drew a bath we both will like

do her nighttime routine I ended up putting it in a crib but that's like the last five minutes of the whole process so that's what I mean while we're trying to soak it up yeah because we used to alternate who would put her to sleep and who would do our nighttime routine now it's like we'll both do it every night just so we can yeah soak it up what how do you feel I don't know if I've asked you this about having a boy

I'm really excited I don't know what to do with a boy it's gonna get rowdy yeah I feel I'm gonna get peed on a lot what that's what people keep telling me they're gonna yeah they're gonna get peeed on

We haven't gotten peed on by Drew at all. No. Is that just a timing thing? I don't know. I don't under, I don't know. I don't have had a boy. I don't think it's going to be that much different.

But I'm, I'm really excited. I was, I didn't really have a preference either way, girl or boy. I was probably more nervous for a girl because Drew is my girl. You know, and I didn't know how we would separate that.

But no, I'm, I'm ecstatic. What do you think are the subconscious differences in parenting that we'll experience? And then what are some of the proactive ways you're going to parent differently with a second? So here's, I already feel like we are just because of the time that we have available, less like future focused of, hey, you know, we're not, we're not going to worry about what the next step is. It's like, no, we're just riding out because we have Drew to take care of. and then we also are less focused on like getting everything ready because I feel like

we know we have everything that we need pretty much so there's already this you know this baby is just going to pop right into the scene and not create this whole setting for them I I agree with that I feel like with Drew we were reading every book of like what do we need to do to prepare and what milestones should she be hitting by the day I mean all of it we were super vigilant about that. Vigilant. Yeah. Diligent.

They both work. No? Does it? Hold on. Let me see. Vigilant? Does it? Vigilant?

Keeping careful watch for possible danger. Okay, I'll give it to you. Go ahead. Maybe. Continue. Diligent. About everything with you. And with this little man, I feel like we're just kind of in the mindset right now of, oh, we've

done it. We'll take each day as it comes and we'll, write it out and then i would like to consciously make the effort to one enjoy the process more yeah to realize that you only get this phase once or twice however many kids we have like the infant sage is so stressful for someone using them for so many reasons but also like it's the best because the cuddles and you just are in this weird haze which is not always a but it's also special in some ways. Well, I feel like with your first, too, you don't know what to expect.

People try to prepare you, but until you've gone through it, you don't understand. And so, yeah, you're in a state of insanity because you're sleep deprived and food deprived and you don't know what you're doing and your baby's crying. And it's just, it's crazy. But then, like, Andrew and I looked at it, watched our birth vlog the other day and both started bawling. And it was like, oh, if only we knew now. You didn't cry? I was the only one out there crying

Okay If only we knew now though How fast that goes And then it's truly just a phase And like I just I just want to cuddle Drew And I want to go back And she was a baby

And soak it in And not be like Oh I wish I could sleep two more hours No you don't want to go back I don't want to go back But you know what I mean I agree I think with this little guy

Yes we're going to be exhausted But I think we'll Approach those long nights a little bit differently or I want to yeah I do feel like to your credit babe there's not a whole lot that we will change about parenting because you were so prepared the first time around like with the sleep schedule and the feeding thing and the whole so like whatever all of it you were just like very prepared so it's not like we we learned any hard lessons the first time around that we're kind to yeah it worked it worked really well with true what we did and I mean he might be completely

different. It needs something completely different that we're going to have to figure out. But I feel like we're prepared to kind of go with the flow on it. You think the baby's going to come early? No. You don't? I don't. Frank, I hope he does. For all of our sakes. Hope if he comes early, he comes after 37 weeks. All right, that's fair. But no, I don't think it'll come early. I'd think he will, actually. I think he will be born this month. That would be before 37. We don't want that. first week of July he can come fun fact apparently the larger the baby is the slower they actually develop their organs interesting it's what the doctor said yeah so like that's especially for this

one since he's so big we do want him to bake a little longer yeah get his lungs and anything we want him to come whenever he is ready oh yeah yeah yeah yeah i would love to figure out this tailbone pain and then i would be totally fine to hang out for a few more weeks but before the baby comes though we for sure need to figure out a name or do you think that's just going to be a hospital i think it's going to happen at the hospital i think we're going to be laying in the hospital holding him and we're going to be like okay you think how about this one we just came across a new one the other day we're like huh add that to the list so yeah we have a list right now of like five that we're like oh that's hospital worthy meaning we'll take it to the hospital a lot of good suggestions from you all though

So keep tossing my way because the door is open and we don't know what's going to look like. So anyway, you got anything else, babe? No, I am so excited. I am so impatient and I want to meet him so bad. And I'm just so excited for our family to grow. We should talk about what our schedule will be with all of our content. Oh, yeah. So we are trying to do a better job this time.

Last time we kind of fell off the face of the earth. for maybe a week. We felt like we fell out to face the earth and then we stressed our family out by then trying to catch up and post stuff. So we're trying to again like live in the moment soak up every second we came with the new baby and realize that we only get this phase once.

And so we have started planning out what the rollout of like podcast episodes is going to be and anyway, just have some content banked so that we can keep posting stuff while we enjoy time with the newborn. My one big request this time around with Andrew was because we work from home and we dictate our own schedules and like our career doesn't really have a timeline unless we make it.

We really didn't take like maternity leave at all. We took a week or two off and then we started working again. And my one big request, especially because we're going to have two and with the transition with Drew and everything was I wanted a true maternity leave for us to be a family and to not care about anything else in the world. So we are, like he said, working really hard and diligently. Vigilantly. Pregnancy brain to kind of like backlog a bunch of interviews and content.

So we'll still be able to be with you guys while we're gone. Yeah. So I don't think that we'll even mention. a single posting. I don't think so. Like that's the goal. Unless he comes early. And who knows?

By the time you listen to this, we might have a baby. Don't know. Don't know. Don't know. Anyway, that's how we have. Appreciate your understanding. We are so excited for this next phase and all the help that you've given us to this point.

We look forward to continuing to continue that. Mm-hmm. Continuing to continue. Yes. That during this next phase. So thank you for. sharing time with us babe it's been different this time around but you've still crushed it and it's been fun to see how you've grown thank you baby and i love you i love you little man we can't wait to

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