Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - #10: Staying On Your Yellow Brick Road with Tim Storey

Episode Date: July 9, 2019

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However, the grind and the consistency is definitely what pays off. And I know that. and every time I take my foot off one gas pedal, I lose leverage and I lose momentum. So in my business now, working for myself, there's so many different things I have to focus on each week. So I want to focus on my guests that are coming up and how do I get to new and better guests and reach that ideal guest. And that takes time to reach out to a lot of people, to pitch yourself, to refine your pitch, and to research other people so that you're able to bring value on that day that you reach out. Then there's also the best way to promote a podcast is to go on

other people's podcasts. So I travel around and I go on different shows and I promote my brand, my book, my course, my show. And that's, you know, a lot of different work. My primary revenue driver for me is my speaking engagement. So there's no one that's going to pitch me as much or as often as me. I'm with Harry Walker Speaker Agency, GDA speakers, but they're not going to, they're going to pitch Bill Clinton and Obama and the big names that are out there. So if I want to keep that pipeline full, I constantly need to be out, you know, hitting the ground and just pitching, sending pitches, figuring out who has conferences coming up, who would I be a great fit for? And again, flipping it through the lens of how do I add value to them, why me and why they should hire me?

So it's a lot of work. And also during this time, I have finished my second book. And I decided I wanted to go to the agent route. So I ended up hiring someone to help me put together a book proposal because I didn't know how to do it. We worked long and hard for two months on that proposal, sent it to the agent, and we're told we need to rework some things. So I kind of shelved that project because I was so frustrated. And I don't know about you, but sometimes just walking away for a minute and refocus. on something else that I feel more confident in allows me to regroup and go back. So I'm thinking

of going back this week while everyone's off on holiday and having a great fourth. When I get some free time this week, I think I'm going to dive back into that and reactivate that project now that I feel a little bit more creative. Actually, this weekend, I had a crazy, crazy weekend. My parents split up a couple of months ago, which was horrible in their 70s. just shocking. And my mother just got remarried a couple months later. So it's been jarring to say the least and definitely unexpected. And I want to share this reminder that you never know what other people could be going through. You know, we just got to lead with kindness whenever possible because you never know what kind of struggle someone has. And it was just a really eye-opening window of time for me to see

all of the change and shock and unexpectedness. But remembering just to find peace within myself, I decided to cut some negative people from my life this weekend because I just, I feel like there's different times I'm extremely strong and tough and resilient, but sometimes that hurts me because I allow for or I engage with people that might be bringing me down that I don't realize.

And I talk a lot about. firing the villains in your life and it sounds so harsh but sometimes I need to rethink my situations and who am I around that's making me feel negative or me feel down and I get I really notice that during times where you know big life challenges are happening or big changes are happening in life is you know really paying attention to how you feel around certain people and ensuring that you know you cut the people that are there bringing you down and you surround yourself with the people that are lifting you up. So I made that decision this weekend and wouldn't you know, Monday morning rolled around and some really powerful, unbelievable things happened

that I had been working so hard at one, and I'll share these with you. I can't share them yet because they haven't been announced, but one is massive and I've been working at it for over a year and a half. And it just came together on Monday after I decided to fire negativity from my life. And I don't think that's coincidental. I think that you have to do the hard work and you have to get out there and hustle and provide value and do your homework and access knowledge and people to do things correctly. However, if you're surrounded with negativity, those opportunities aren't going to connect for you or it's going to take such a long and massive delay.

It's not worth it. Fire the negativity from your life and set yourself up to take off because you deserve bigger. you deserve better and you're not going to open that door and access it if you've got that roadblock in front of you. So I'm speaking of this one with massive experience on it many times in my life, but yet again also this week had to remind myself. And sometimes it takes those heartbreaking experiences or jarring experiences to say, hey, this is a moment I need to rethink things. I don't need to be the strongest. I don't need to be the rock for everybody. In fact, I want to be around people who can be my rock and deciding to let those other people.

go so that you can pick yourself back up, open that door for opportunity, and let positive things come in. So I'm continuing to hustle. I'm continuing to do that next right thing. I'm re-engaging on projects that I had detached from. And a lot of that is from this positive framework that I really start stepping into. And it's also important during a period like this to recognize that we can lower expectations on ourselves for a minute and say, okay, I don't have to be killing it every single day. It's actually all right that I'm going to take the 4th of July off. It's all right that I'm going to spend some time relaxing and calming myself down. And it's not only okay. It's really good and important. So I hope that you're doing that same thing this week. I hope that you get a couple

days to do whatever it is that's important to you and be with those people that you love and the ones that most importantly lift you up because we all need those peeps in our life. I sure do. That is for sure. And actually, my next guest, and I'm so excited for you to meet, is now one of those people. Tim's story is just an unbelievably inspiring, kind, joyful, generous individual who happens to be great friends with Oprah. Yeah, it's a little mind-blowing. But, I mean, he's just been everywhere. He's done so much. He's overcome so much adversity. And really, it's just, it's real. And you'll feel it. when you hear him and you learn from him, he shared so much in this interview next that I can't

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All right. Welcome back. I'm here today with the most amazing man. I'm so excited to introduce you to Tim Story. He's an acclaimed author, speaker, and life coach helping people create the future they desire. I'm all for that. He's inspired people from all walks of life, from massive entertainers to professional athletes that you and I definitely know. He's using seasoned foundational principles and humor, which I love, to get honest with people so they can overcome the obstacles that are holding them back. This guy is paving the way for me and for you. Tim, thank you so much for making time to be with us today. What a privilege to be on your show. Oh, and I have to let everyone know what I just shared with you, which is when I researched you,

one of the things I thought was so cool is that you're so concerned with being on time and being punctual, which my experience, Tim, is that is not typically the case in Hollywood. And I'm so I about freaked out when my computer told me, Tim's story is waiting for you, Heather, and that's never happened to me before. So I just wanted to say, I'm right there with you. Being punctual is so impressive. And thank you. Heather, you were right on time, but I was seven minutes early. That is wild. Just so you know, my mother, she's Spanish. She speaks very broken. in English. And she always taught us to be early. So I promise you, I'm early to the airport. I'm early to appointments. If I have like a big meeting like in LA and I know there's going to be

traffic, I leave so early. I'd rather sit in a parking lot an hour early and make calls than be running late. So I do not run late. I run super early. It's such a nice way to respect other people and show respect for yourself too. So cheers to your mom and gosh, major props for your mother. And actually speaking about your family, one of the things that I find so interesting about you is your background. You really went through massively hard times when you were 10 years old and lost your dad. Yeah. You know, it's one of those things that sometimes you live by design, sometimes you live by default. And I think that we all want to live by design,

which is the blueprint. But the default hit us really early. We had a happy home. We were lower income, but we were super happy. And my father decided to go get something to eat one day. He went through a green light. It was at nighttime.

And a man ran a red light and hit him and hit him and killed him. So now my mother had to work one and a half shifts at a place called Winchell's Donuts Shop to help support all over kids. And we had five kids. So that was a really difficult time for us of trying to adjust. And that's a tough thing for a family because you had momentum and then we lost it. So that was tough, but we obviously worked away through it. So at 12 years old, you essentially told your mom that you knew that you could figure out

a way to get your family through those tough times. I have a 12-year-old son, and as a single mother, I can't imagine what you had to be thinking or going through at that age to want to step up and take on responsibility and verbalize it. What was going through your mind then? I think that one of the things is that, and hopefully your son probably hasn't seen his life as well, is that even though I didn't have my dad that was, present, I had little league coaches, football coaches. I had teachers that were really mentoring me.

So my sixth grade teacher, Mr. Probert, he came into my life. He was a white guy. And the reason I say that is because I'm originally from Compton. And so this guy, Mr. Prober, comes into my life. And he really cared about me. He was nurturing. He taught me about reading books. He told me that my mind was brilliant and I do brilliant things and I bought into it. And so that's where I was really at. I was already thinking big in small places at 10, 11, and 12. I knew I would not stay stuck. I knew I would not play small. So when I was 12, my mom talks about this conversation I had and said, Mom, don't worry about it. I got this. I said, by the time I'm in my 20s, you won't have to worry about money. And in my 20s, my mother never worried about money

again to this day. That's amazing and that must be such a fantastic feeling for you to be able to take care of your mother knowing all that she's gone through. Yes, but I want to say this because you are raising your son. I did it because in my culture, you know, I'm Spanish and I'm Cuban. So in my culture that this is just how it should be. So I didn't do it for the applause and I didn't do it for the good feeling. I did it because I honor my mother. So I'm so, into my mom. I take her shopping. I took her to get her haircut four days ago. She's 88 years of age. So I continue to be loving to my mom because she does not have a husband. So that's just the way it is in my culture. So I didn't do it for the accolades or applause. I did it because that's what we do.

So when you were a child and you said you knew you were going to be able to make it and care for your mom financially, what was it that you saw? Because when I was a child, I didn't see some grandiose life for me. I had a difficult childhood as well for different reasons. And I wasn't that kid that sat there and saw this amazing life ahead of me. How did that happen for you?

I think that, again, it was, you know, sometimes we learned by observation. Sometimes we learned by education. And the books that my teacher turned me on to were things about like the life of Michelangelo, who I later met the author's wife, of that, which is a guy named Irving Stone who wrote on the life of Michael Angelo. But, you know, could you imagine I'm in sixth grade reading these books about Michelangelo,

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There's royalty in your DNA to quote my friend, Kendrick Lamar. It's already in there. It's already in there. So all I'm doing is I have to stop look and listen and hear what the blueprint is. So I was listening to my blueprint. I was going to be funny. That's what I am on stage. I was going to be passionate.

I am that on stage. I was going to be a businessman. That's what I am. And yeah, I'm just, I'm manifesting what the universe said. I'm cooperating. I love that you said Kendrick Lamar. So my theme song is Kendrick Lamar's song. I love myself.

That is, that's my fire. I love that song. It's just the best. And my son and I actually listen. We rock out to that song a lot together. So what's interesting about you that I want people to know, you've worked with Kanye. I mean, you have worked with major personalities and entertainment. And yet you talk about the universe.

You're extremely spiritual. You've a background. You've been to the monastery. You are not the typical person. You know, you're so interesting to me. many people, including myself, can be taken aback by quote unquote religion. Yeah. You're very, it's easy to connect with you around your message because it's not so in your face.

I don't know. What would you say your approach is to spirituality and religion and sharing it so that it's easy for others to feel a part of it? My approach is respect. I think that, you know, when I go to these different cultures, And I meet Muslims or I meet Jewish people or Catholics. You know, a lot of them were raised within a culture that that's their religion. So I've never come from a place of what's known as ethnocentrism, which means like, you know, my way is the only way or my way is the best.

Right. I never looked at it that way. So I have a lot of respect from anybody's vantage point where they're coming from. I went to seminary. I have a doctrine and world religion. And so, you know, my relationship with God is I connected to Jesus.

I'm a Christian. But if that's not somebody else's relationship, that that's really not so much any of my business. So I respect where people are coming from. So what I do is from the vantage point that I have, it's kind of like my place at the party. You know, somebody can say,

the party wasn't that great, maybe you weren't like sitting in the right seat. But from my place in the party of me being connected to God the way I am, so I bring some of that vantage point, but I have total respect for other people's vantage point or point of view. And I think that that's what makes me translate everywhere. And yeah, so thanks for the compliment. Well, it's an inclusive feeling, which I really appreciate.

And my experience in corporate America in challenging environments is it's not. inclusive so whenever I'm around people that make you feel a part of something I really I gravitate towards that I embrace that because I've been on the outside of it in a different in a different way so I really appreciate your approach and and your messaging I also love the humor aspect because that's so unique so few people when talking about spirituality in the universe and all of these kind of cosmic things bring it back to being funny or dropping rap lyrics and And I think that that's another way that really allows you to connect.

These guys are so uptight, you know. A lot of them are my buddies. But, you know, all this stuff about like, you know, I'm going to beat the sun up. I mean, and they're saying this, I'm like, take a nap. You look so awesome. So, you know, the on my grind stuff, you know, is good to a point, okay? But I also believe in rest. I believe in the Sabbath.

I believe in being in the moment, fully present, fully feeling fully alive. I think some days were meant to sleep in, no doubt. I think some days were meant just to be alive and be funny and do silly things and just create crap that doesn't matter. I think that's life. So I've been given the gift of life and I choose to live. I live every day. I am alive. like to get to prepare for this amazing podcast that I'm on with you, Heather,

I was listening to Babyface. And then from there, I went to old school P. Diddy. And then from there, I went to Farrell Williams. So that's what I did to prepare for this amazing podcast where, you know, my buddies right now, they'd be all intense and uptight. No, I'm in the moment. So you leverage music as a way to get you fired up for different things in your job? Well, I like music.

And to be honest, I'm not even leveraging anything. I'm just in the moment. Like last night, I was watching documentaries. And then I stayed up to watch The Hills because a lot of my friends are on this show MTV, The Hills. Because the Hills has come back on MTV. be. So, and I'm even on a, uh, on one of the episodes. So, so I see I'm watching that. And no, I'm not, it's, it's really not, I don't think everything is like this for that, this for that, this for that. This for that. Like, I'm talking to you because you're brilliant. So that's why

I'm here. I studied you yesterday because you're brilliant. That's what I, I didn't do it because you You got to study Heather because banky bank. No, I did it because you're brilliant. Let me figure her out. Boom. That's why I did. Well, thank you very much for that. Couple of it.

I really appreciate it. However, I also see that as working your land because when, and I'd love for you to share with my peeps what that means exactly. But to me, you know, you're, that is, it's still the grind. It's still you doing your work to get your message out there. Yes. So that is a very good way of saying it. So before I tell me what working your land is,

but you have to understand that so in the way I look at faith, so Jesus says, my yoke is easy and my burden is light. So the whole idea is that to do God's will to me is not always such a doggong grind. I see it as a privilege to help the homeless. I help people that are incarcerated. I'm now involved in helping people in the human trafficking side of things. I help people in the addiction space.

What a doggone privilege. Okay, so that's what I'm trying to say. Is it to me that's a privilege? To speak as a privilege. To be Heather as a privilege. I mean, what a doggone privilege. Like, thank you. So to work your land, very simple, we all want to harvest.

The harvest could be a good marriage to make a lot of money. The harvest could be the best-selling book. But before you have the harvest, you have to go through the law of the harvest. The law of the harvest, because there's laws in nature, is you have to plow the ground, then you have to plant the right seed. So you can plow but plant the wrong seed and get the wrong results. So you plow the ground, which is effort. You plant the right seed, then you water the seed, which is right.

repetition, and then you'll get a harvest. So you are correct that Heather and Tim, when we were young, we learned to somehow plow, plow, plow, plow, plow, plant, plant, plant, plant, plant, water, water, water. And all of a sudden people go to you, Heather, oh my God, look at this, you got a bestselling book, you're doing all these things, you're speaking everywhere, people want to be on your podcast early, and they see all these things happening, but they don't realize the backstory, the plow, plow, plow, the plant, plant, plant, the water, water, the bam, bam, bam. That's the law of the harvest. That is completely my life. And you articulate it so much better and more concisely than I ever have. But it's that behind the scenes, the grind,

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And I really relate to that one. I know that's Oprah's favorite quote from you that when I got fired, I immediately, you know, had a flipping nervous breakdown, went under a weighted blanket, crying my eyes out. I was so scared that everything had been taken away from me that immediately, Tim, I started thinking, okay, I should just go to a competitor and I'll go back and get another executive level job. Who do I want to work for?

Okay, I have a non-compete. You know, my mind went to the go-back and instead, gosh, I mean, for the universe and all these amazing people in my life that have helped me, I have instead, created a comeback. And it's just, that is such a powerful statement that you make. And I, I really hope that you can share with my peeps, you know, what that means to you. Yeah. So, well, well said, a comeback is not a go-back. So what happens is that what happened in your life had, that is you had some life interruptions. Okay. So nobody gets married to get divorced. So when you're married, you come into this covenant with somebody.

When you get divorced, all of a sudden, you have what's called divided force, because divorce means divided force. So what was one, two people coming together, you now have divided force. And even if you don't like the person, it just can rip you in the center. I know people that don't even like each other. It still rips you in the center. Okay. So now, so let's say if there's people listening today and they had a divorce, are they

lost their job or they found out they were sick or they're battling through some kind of illness. So that is what I call a life interruption. So nobody expects a positive call at three in the morning. So a life interruption is like somebody calling at three in the morning and giving you bad news. Okay. So now what happens is that in that life interruption, most people do not know how to handle it. we have not set up ourselves for life interruptions. It's almost like if you take a journey from California to Florida,

you may have an interruption. So in that case, it's probably good to have auto club. Because if you have a flat tire, right, then maybe someone can help you out. So life interruption comes, and what I have found in dealing with the biggest celebrities in the world and people who just do other types of jobs,

is that most people, when they have a set of, back, they sit in it and they settle in the setback. You sit and you settle, right? Yes. And they get stuck in that place. And then they start thinking, if I can go back and fix it, if I can go back and fix it, if I can go back and that's where I came up,

a comeback is not a go back. You cannot go back and fix everything. And it'll mess up your present and it'll mess up your future. if you keep looking back. How do you work with people in that moment? I have tremendous empathy for people in that moment because I've been there. And for me, it was the fear of the unknown.

And I know you talk a lot about seeing with faith instead of sight. Is that what you ask people to do in order to take those next steps and really start to move forward in faith with themselves? I'm going to give you the steps of a comeback that I've walked through so many people. through probably, you know, at least a million. Number one, you have to become awake. Number two, you have to become aware. You have to wake up. You have to wake up and say, damn it, Heather, how did this happen to your life?

You know, you have to wake up. So you become awake and then you become aware. Then you have to take inventory. I remember I used to work at this place called Miller's Outpost when I was 17. it was like a clothing store, right? And we had to take inventory, which I used to hate, because you had to count all the jeans, okay, there's this many of this many jeans, this length, et cetera.

So in life, you have to become awake, you have to become aware. Then you have to take inventory. You have to really look at what are you dealing with. So I've been divorced too. So I've been single, I think, has been maybe about 17 years. So I have to look and say, okay, so here I am.

I have two kids. this age and this age now. Okay, this is my job. This is what I have to do. I have an aging mother. She's almost 89. I still have two sisters. I have eight jobs.

I have to take inventory. All right? So you become awake aware, take inventory. Sometimes when you take inventory, you don't like what you see. So that's where it's important to partner with power. So this is the real key right now. You have to partner with power.

I need people in my life that may be stronger than me in areas where I'm not strong at that time. This is where I'm a pro. If I don't know something, I'll be glad to ask you. Partner with power. If you're having struggles financially, that's why they reach out to people like you. If they're having a struggle with confidence, reach out to you. Okay? So partner with power.

Awake, aware, take inventory, partner with power. You will have a comeback. So I'd like the partner with power, and it reminds me of an analogy that you use, which was Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz. Yes. Can you walk us through that? I love that. You have done your research on me. Good going.

I'm working my land. So I love the Wizard of Oz. I've probably seen it no less than at least 50 times. So Dorothy, she wants to go to Kansas. So what do they say? Follow the Yellowbrick Road. Follow the Yellow Brook Road. Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the Yellow Brook Road.

Remember that? Yes. So she's following the Yellowbrick Road. So she's got Toto with her, right? The dog. Then she gets the scarecrow, the cowardly lion, and the Tin Man, right? Right. And they all find their way.

They're a little dysfunctional. those three guys. And they're following Yellow Brook Road. But a lot of things are trying to take her off, The Wicked Witch. Then the scarecrow has an episode. He catches on fire. The cowardly lion realizes he needs therapy.

The Tin Man gets wet and gets rusty. Okay. So there's so many situations that are trying to take Porto Dorothy off the Yellowbrook Road. Same thing in your dog on life. Anybody that's listening things are right now trying to take you off your yellow brick road.

It could be your children. It could be your spouse. It could be an illness. It could be your job. It could be how you see politics. It could see, be, you watch the news so much and now you're depressed. So many things that are trying to take you off your priority pathway. So the Yellowbrick Road is my priority pathway.

And I'm going to tell you right now, I stay on my doggone yellow brick. road. Yeah, somebody else's urgent is not mine. Like right now, I guarantee you, there are people screaming at my phone through text. Where are you? All I need is five minutes. Oh, my God. Tim, I can't believe it. Because I life coached the most spoiled men in the world. If your anxiety, depression, or ADHD are more than a rough patch, you don't need just another meditation app. Talkiatry makes it easy to see a psychiatrist online. online using your insurance in days. Takayatry is 100% online psychiatry practice that provides comprehensive evaluations,

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but a lot of them are brats. But it's a privilege. So you go back to a place. of gratitude when you feel like that. Yeah. I mean, come on. I mean, if I said these brats names, these people would know. So these guys are just used to getting away.

So if they can't find me and I don't text within 10 minutes, like, where are you? Seriously? Yeah, one guy texted me last night. It said, seriously? Question mark. Like, you can't even get back to me as his point. Yeah, because I'm doing something.

So somebody else's urgent is not always yours. There's There's the point right there. It doesn't have to be, right. But a lot of times people, where I see people struggle and where I struggled is when you get into that daily grind that you can't pick your head up to say, why was it I was on this yellow brick road anyways

and where was it going? You can lose sight of that. Okay, here's a beautiful thing. So you are in shape. So you've been hiking before? No. Okay. So on some of these hikes that they have,

You're going on this long hike, and maybe it's like, you know, like seven miles to go see a waterfall in Hawaii. So as you're hiking, there's people coming back from the hike. You know what I always say to them? Was it worth it? So if I'm halfway through the doggone hike, it's seven miles and I'm three and a half miles in. It's starting to go uphill. I will say to people who've gone to the waterfall or wherever they're trying to go to. was it worth it?

Most people are going, oh my God, wait until you get there. There's nothing like it. You know what that does? It fires me up. But there's been a few times I'm on these various hikes, and I'll say, was it worth it? People go, no.

The waterfall is dried up because of the summertime, there's no water. I'm like, what? So don't forget on this yellow brick road, we're going up, but there's other people that are older than us that have been through similar experiences or even more experiences. Ask around. See, when I was in my 20s, I used to hang out with people that were in their 50s. In my 30s, I'd hang out with people in their 60s, right?

in my 50s, I hang out with people in my 70s. That's just how I do. Because I want to know, like, is it worth it? Like, if I'm with a Quincy Jones, I want to say, like, is it worth it being Quincy Jones? You know, you work with Michael Jackson, you work with Frank Sinatra, you got like 22 Grammys, you live in a $26 million home.

Is it cool? Is it cool to be Quincy Jones? And he'll say yes. Yeah. So, yeah, follow the Yellowbrick Road, but on your road, make sure to ask some questions. That is exactly why I have this podcast is my goal is to keep people focused on where that yellow brick road is taking them and why they want to keep going, even though they might get deterred today or tomorrow or get bogged down, but learning to put yourself first and learning to stay focused on that vision that you have for your future, that you're committed to achieving

and not giving up because for me, that's what I needed. And now that's what I want to give to everyone else. Because I'm finally, I'm finally living it. And it's taken such a tremendous amount of pain and hard times to get here that I just want to. I want to like give that hand. And I know you're that same way because you pull for the underdog. You feel that empathy. And there's nothing better when you get to hear the feedback from the people

that you reach in your life through your work to hear about what they're accomplishing now and that they did continue their journey because of some of the feedback or insights that you imparted on them. Yes, I love the underdog. I help the underdog on a daily basis and don't talk about it.

Like, wherever I am, I look for the underdog. I love to give people a boost, but that's your style too. But see, I believe that God, God will always deliver his deliverers. So you are a deliverer. You're helping people through your message to deliver them from something. I am a deliverer.

I will always be delivered because I'm a deliverer. I just know that. I could have my back against the wall and I know I'm coming out because I'm a freaking deliverer. That's the best, best feeling. But there had to be a time in your life when you didn't, didn't feel this confident. When is the time when you look back across your entire life's journey, when was the time that your confidence was the lowest, that you didn't have that belief inside of

you? Okay, so I know you teach on confidence and you're good at it. So I think my confidence is a little difference because of my spiritual side. My confidence is more in God's ability to do. so so much of timstory's confidence is not like i don't look at the mirror like dude look at you no i have so much confidence in god in his strength and also who he's created me to be that that's what i'm saying i could be in dire straits and know somehow some ways somehow somehow my ass is getting out of this. Yes. No, for real.

I know. I have been cornered like Maxwell Smart from Get Smart. I have had the walls coming in at me on every angle and still knew I'm going to get out. Do you have time for me to tell you a one and a half minute story about this? Absolutely. Okay, I was in the Ukraine speaking to 6,000 Ukrainians. I was in a five-star hotel, one of the best hotels I've been to, and I got hungry, and they had given me a fruit basket. These people that had invited me.

So that's kind of a cool thing, because I got hungry. I'm like, I don't want, like, room servers, but I had it. They had an apple. So I was drinking water, eating an apple, turned on the news while I was just like, it was like three in the morning. So I'm eating an apple. I start choking on this apple. I literally am choking on an apple at 3 in the morning by myself in the Ukraine to the point I can't breathe. So I'm dying on this apple.

I'm not thinking call the front desk because I can't say anything. They speak Russian and Ukrainian. And I stopped and I went, this is not a heroic cool way to die. Tim's story, life coach to the stars, mogul dies in Ukrainian hotel chokes on Apple. That's not cool. No. I'm not going out that way, Heather. No, you can't.

So I hemelpped myself. This is a true story. I saw that there was a curve in the wall. The wall went flat. Then there was a curve in the wall where there was like this mounting. And I literally thought, Tim, if you go back and rock yourself and hit your back, you can somehow just lodge this apple. Okay.

after about five attempts at this and all my doctor friends laughed they go Tim let me teach you some other ways you can do that which they now have Heather I promise you on about the fifth try I went boom and the apple popped out

so here's my point even while I couldn't breathe I kept thinking I'm not going out this way There was never one time I thought, give in. Let go. You know what popped into my mind when you were explaining that is seek and you shall find. You kept looking for the solution.

I was going to find it. And you did in a very odd way. And do you eat apples anymore? Very carefully. And I'm being told us to do. I do not eat them like I used to. I do not eat pears like I used to. anything that's like that that could lodge,

I'm super careful. I'm not even joking. I don't blame you. I would be too. That's a little too close for comfort. Yes, but I'm alive. And you're living, baby. You are making it happen.

There I am to them. Tim, everybody wants to get a hold of you. They want to hear more. They want to follow you. Where can they go to get more Tim's story? And thank you for that. So just Tim, T-I-M-S-T-O-R-E-Y. I have an E in my name.

So Tim Story, S-T-O-R-E-Y. If you don't mind, I want to talk about my app. I have an app, APP, that's at the iTunes store called Utmost, U-T-M-O-S-T. It's the utmost app where I teach you daily on how to have an utmost life. It's only $1.99. And you just keep getting new material on it like every other week. It's super good. So I got about $30,000 worth of stuff on there,

and you get it for $1.99, the utmost app for 10 story. And then on Instagram, you're Tim Story Official. Tim Story Official. All right, so I will include all of those links in the show notes. And thank you so, so much for your time today. I know how busy you are. I know you're getting texts from a lot of guys right now that are in need of your time, but we appreciate you being here with us today.

What a privilege. Thank you very much. How amazing is Tim Story. I hope that you felt the love and the joy from him. He really is the real deal. I really connected with him and learned so much from his story and teachings. And I'm really grateful that he was on the show. I hope that you felt that same way.

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Download Drop now. You won't regret it. So today I'm answering a couple of different questions. One actually came up in a speaking engagement that I had last week where these were people who are in the media business and they get so busy at work and so overwhelmed with last minute projects and this person, you know, this fire is going on over here and you haven't been able to get to this priority. It's really intense.

And what this young woman asked me is, you know, when you're in that grind, just that getting and trying to get everything done at work, how do you figure out? how to stop the grind to rise above it, how to stop the grind or halt the grind to start thinking about your next career move, your next promotion, your next leaving that industry and doing something totally different. You know, her point was that she gets so overwhelmed at work. All she ever does is think about what's right in front of her. And I empathize with that immensely because that was me for 14 years. You know, I wasn't picking my head up. I was in the same company, the same industry, the same grind, putting out fires. And that is not a way to reach your

potential at all. So there are so many different things. You know, first and foremost for me, I get creative when I have slept well and when I'm working out routinely. Those two things, I'm just not my creative self when I'm not doing those things for whatever reason. Some people need to meditate. Some people need to go outside. Some people need to draw. Some people journal. So whatever your thing is, it's creating and making time for that. You know, blocking off in your day, this is when I'm going to have time for me. And maybe, you know, you're wasting time somewhere during the day because you're watching TV or you're scrolling social media. You know, kind of assess how are you spending your time.

Your phone will tell you how much you're on it, right? And decide what can you cut and what can you reprioritize so that you can put yourself first? You can become your most creative self. When you start getting into that headspace, you can start deciding that, you know what, while I'm at work, I am going to take this window of time daily to pick my head up and look at and think about where I want to go next. What does my future look like? What do I want my future to hold for me? How, you know, do I visualize it? What does it look like? How does it feel like? Start writing it down what those goals are. Get an accountability partner. And if you don't have one, go to my website, heathermonahan.com. I will be your accountability. partner, it's free. You just send your email address into the form. And boom, you'll hear from me every day staying on you like white on rice to make sure you do figure out what your goal is. You do give yourself a deadline. Don't make it a dream. Make it a goal. Give it a deadline. Write it down. Let people know and start taking steps and action towards it if you want to create it. So, you know,

really make that time for yourself. But continuing to put out the fires, going home exhausted every day and not feeling good and then, you know, sitting on your couch and just watching TV, not going to fix the problem. Let's reprioritize, put yourself first and start taking the steps and action to create that better future. It all happens one step at a time. Okay, then I was asked a question on one of my DMs about this person was in digital marketing and had run a campaign for a client and the campaign did not go as well as she thought it would have. Basically, she felt She had let her client down. She felt her client was going to cancel.

And she felt it was this ambiguous area with digital marketing that, you know, you can't guarantee a certain result, but it's expected that you would deliver, you know, a certain level of result. So the feedback that I gave her about that challenge is, number one, first and foremost, communication is key and critical. And I move fast. So you want to communicate on the front end, set expectations before you go into business and sign a deal with someone of what does this look like?

What does success look like? You know, you want to map all these things out ahead of time. So everybody's on the same page and really clear with, you know, the potential pitfalls and and how you'll handle things and how things can work and, you know, what they can expect from you. But to me, what's everything is that you stay in touch with that person. No one wants to be ghosted when a campaign's not going well. And what you need to do is you need to raise your hand. Hi, listen, I wanted to reach out today.

we've got some challenges right now with the campaign. I'm not happy with the results how, you know, it looks right now. I'm sure that you're not. However, I wanted to come together with you to figure out a solution. And I actually, I had a similar challenge myself when I self-published my book Confidence creator and I paid for, I don't even know how 10,000 hardcover books. And the first case came in. And the cover, which I had obsessed over and was so excited to see, was in Matt instead of shiny. And it sounds like a small deal. But when it's your book and your first book and you spent all this money investing in it and it's wrong, I was devastated. I was crying.

I was so upset. And in that moment, I reached out to the company immediately and sent a note that I was livid, that this was wrong, and that this needed to be made right. Now, fast forward a year later, here we are today. I have just reordered my book sold out and I reordered again. And guess what? I got the mat again. So this big error that ended up occurring was for the best. I like how it looks.

I never knew I would like it the way that it is. But you know what happened that day? I sent a fireball email to the company. I was so livid and angry and very emotional. I do not recommend that, by the way. And the president of the company got that email. And the president of the company called me on my. my cell phone. And the president of the company made it right with me. And we worked through what could

a solution look like? We couldn't reprint the 10,000 books, right? That ship had sailed. However, there are some other things that he could do to make this right in my eyes. And we talked through what is a fair viable solution for both parties. And because he hung in there with me during that, and because he directly reached out to me, I have continued to do business with them. I just, you know, reordered my second order through them. So, you know, it's sometimes these error moments are opportunity moments to create trust and to be a bridge to growing your business together. And that was really the recommendation that I gave to this woman. So hope that helps. And if you haven't yet, please subscribe, rate and review. And when you DM me the screenshot of your review, I will

buy you my $299 confidence creation online course, which is really helpful to use at home at nights on the weekends just to give you some tips and some teachings into how you can always be creating confidence because in every moment and any moment you are either creating confidence or chipping away at it. It's that simple. All right. Until next week, keep going, guys. Can't wait to see you next week. Thank you.

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