Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - #215: Reclaim Your POWER With Iman Oubou Founder Of SWAAY Media & Miss New York US 2015

Episode Date: May 10, 2022

In This Episode You Will Learn About:  Claiming your power       Embracing your FULL identity  Making an impact as an entrepreneur Resources: Website: swaay.com Read The Glass Ledge Join Voices+ Listen to Women Who SWAAY Podcast   Email: [e-mail]  LinkedIn: @Iman Oubou Instagram: @imanoubou Facebook: @swaaymedia Twitter: @ImanOubou Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Show Notes:  You possess the power to CHANGE your life; use it! Take control of your circumstances and build the life YOU want. Successful entrepreneur and former Miss New York US, Iman Oubou is here to help us learn how to showcase the BEST version of ourselves and embrace our FULL identities. If you can step into your OWN power, you’ve already accomplished the hardest part. Iman will share the nitty gritty details behind building a business from the ground up, and navigating the obstacles that come with it. You don’t have to hide or change who you are to reach your goals. Don’t be timid; reclaim your power today!  About The Guest: Joining us today is Iman Oubou, an American entrepreneur, author, published scientist, and National beauty pageant winner! She won the title of Miss New York United States and was second runner up at the 2015 Miss United States pageant. Known for her advocacy work, Iman has been featured in Harper's Bazaar, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, and SO MANY more. She founded SWAAY Media in 2015, a leading publishing platform that provides writing and editorial support, and creates a thought provoking community of like minded women!  If You Liked This Episode You Might Also Like These Episodes: Living Life on Purpose with Les Brown How Your Mindset Can Change EVERYTHING For You with Heather!  It's Never Too Late To Start!

I have never really explored my own relationship with power until I was in a position of not having any power at all. And that's with these investor meetings. And so at that point, for me, instead of actually taking a step back during those meetings or after those meetings and figuring out what went wrong and how can I claim that power back, I played the victim and realized, okay, there's nothing I can do. Instead of me taking control of the role I play in changing my circumstances, I dwelled more and more and more into becoming more of a victim as opposed to a change agent in my own life. Let's make sure that you know and you're self-aware of your own relationship with each of these themes.

I'm on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals. We'll overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so excited for you today. It's so rare I have one of my real friends on the show. Today, Amon Ubu.

She's an American entrepreneur, author, published scientists, and National Beauty Pagent winner. We're going to get into that. So if you're cringing right now, don't. She won the title of Miss New York, United States and was second runner-up at the 2015 Miss United States pageant. Amon was awarded the Women's Advocate of the Year Award in 2019 in Dubai

and has been featured in Harper's Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, Fortune, Vogue, everything. She's founder of Sway Media, leading publishing platform, to championing female thought leadership by providing access to editorial and writing support as well as a supportive community of like-minded women. I mean, I'm going to go on and on about her, but I have to tell you, she was named one of the female entrepreneurs to watch in 2018 by CIO magazine. Same year, Amman was a keynote speaker at Harvard and MIT. She was a first ever face of Morocco ambassador, a new initiative uplifting female voices in Morocco and the Middle East. And she was also part

the first all female judge panel at Miss Universe 2018 and Judge Miss Teen USA, Miss Earth, USA and other state pageants. And now she is the author of the Glass Ledge. Amon, thank you so much for being here today. Yeah, thank you for having me. I'm excited to finally be doing this podcast. I remember how much fun we had when you were on my podcast a couple years ago. So this is going to be fun. Oh my gosh. All right. So let's get started. And I want to jump into the pageant thing first because for me, I used to be one of those people that would be like, oh, she's a pageant person. Oh, how ridiculous. You know, oh, she's too pretty, too perfect. That's such BS. Putting wrong emphasis on looks. That's what I used to, you know, wrongly think until

you became my friend. So can you tell us a little bit about the pageant life and what pageants really mean and why they are so positive and impactful? Yeah. I was one of those people that thought the exact same thing. And honestly, I only went into it because my mom pushed me into, quote, unquote, getting more in touch with my feminine side. So I kind of, you know, had to please her at that time. And, you know, I went along with it. She went through so much trouble to sign me up and I was accepted. So I was like, fine, I'll try this out. And I had the exact same perspective as many people. You know, it's shallow. It's a lot of just a bunch of pretty girls walking around on stage. It's not very substantive, but I tell you, it was a very surprising and shocking experience for me because I had never

really felt so empowered to be the best version of myself until I competed in my first beauty pageants back in Colorado in 2013. And that was also my very first time encountering this environment where women are supportive of each other, even though they're competing for the exact same thing at that same time. And up until then, I was obviously in college. I never even dared to rush for a sorority or even have a lot of girlfriends around me because I just never felt that kind of support system

from the girlfriends I had prior to that. I was never a girl's girl. And I just was terrified of being like in a room full of beautiful, competitive and smart women because I would just get insecure right away. But there was something very different about being part of the pageant world. because I think you are also trained to show up as a different version of yourself, one that is secure with herself, self-assured, wants to see other women succeed,

someone who also knows who they are and are very self-aware, and they know what their values are, what they would want to do with that title, how are they going to show up as a change agent in the community if they do get that title? All of this stuff isn't really talked about enough when we address pageantry. And I think it's a little bit of the media's fault, but also it is what we're shown on TV. You know, on TV, the competition is mostly about how you show up on stage, how you look, you know, your fitness, your body type, and then your gown. And then there is that one stage question that is often asked in a lot of women sometimes feel the pressure.

And it's not the best answer you would expect. But you have to understand that that's a very nerve-wracking position to be in. And so it's not a reflection of the person's intellect. You know, I think anyone going up on that stage, especially if they haven't done it often, would sometimes mess up. But I think for me, it was what I fell in love with the most about pageantry.

And outside of just competing and wanting to win, because I love winning, is, of course, changing myself and bettering myself and having something to look forward to that I can showcase my best version that I worked for for so long. Oh, it's so true. And because of our friendship and because of your support, I ended up judging one of these contests.

And it was an incredible experience learning how hard these women were working, number one, how they were all supporting one another, the same, you know, that you just described to us. And it was such a powerful and positive experience. So yet again, you know, just stereotyping the way all of us do in some way. It's so fun to open your eyes to the possibility that something is very different. And I'm really grateful that you did that for me. So thank you. And it's funny to hear you talk about a time in your life where you didn't have supportive women around you when you've built so much of your success around supporting other women. And that's really how you and I came together.

So can you talk us through how that journey changed for you from being one of you kind of out there on your own to you building community around supporting others? Pageantry really was the vehicle for me to realize that I do want to build some kind of platform that brings women to. together. And when I won the title of Miss New York U.S. in 2015, you know, you usually pick a platform to have as a title holder. And for me at the time, I chose women empowerment and women's entrepreneurship. And so that's, again, why I launched a podcast shortly after to really be able to bring those stories to light and really tell stories that weren't necessarily prioritized by mainstream media, but they were important and inspiring the next generation of young women who might be feeling a little lost, which I was at the time. You know, I think

when I won't Miss New York in 2015, I also was a science communication specialist. I was a scientist that was my day job. And to me, I was going to live in this double life a little bit because by day I'm like this nerdy scientist who's also like helping all this biotech emerging startups to translate their technology and their science into words, people without a science background can understand. And then by night, I'm like doing appearances on the red carpet with Vera Wang and all these celebrities and things. And it's just like people look at me like, wait, you're a scientist? That's your job and you're Miss New York.

How come? Like, what's the connection here? And I just, I never really expected for people to be that surprised by the multi-dimensional facade I had. And it's like, oh, just because I'm a scientist, I can also be a Miss New York or a title holder. But I think, you know, people think that if you're doing pageants, then you automatically are a model or do you want to be in entertainment, which is not always the case, especially not today anymore. But prior to pageantry, I didn't really have the women's support. I mean,

in college, even growing up, I don't think that I ever was able to build healthy friendships with girls or young women. I'm not really sure what it was. Maybe it was also insecurities that I was struggling with that I, you know, I'm now learning how to process properly and overcome. But the platform that pageantry gave me was ultimately what led me to kind of build up on that and create kind of a similar world to what I experience in pageantry, but in the media and a platform like sway, where those stories come together and one under one roof. Because I think when I was first kind navigating the pageant world, what I love the most is hearing other women's stories that were competing with me. And that wasn't something that made me insecure. If anything, that was something

that made me empowered and excited. I was like, wow, I'm in the same room as all these awesome women. So that means that I also, I'm awesome. Like, you know, it's kind of being surrounded by great women who also want to see you succeed. I'm like, I don't see that. How do I replicate this experience in the real world? Because when I was in STEM, it was mostly men. It was a very male dominated world, you know, and I didn't really experience that kind of women's support in my day job. So ultimately, my goal would sway was a little bit selfish and with the podcast is. I love this feeling. How can I continue replicating it? Even side of the pageant world, even after I'm retired from the pageant world, I want to continue

having this family of women around me that continue to support me and also show me what's possible. And so that's ultimately what I ended up doing. And again, meeting women like yourself. And I was a little bit surprised too that it was met with a lot of excitement because I think my first initial instinct was that, you know, not a lot of women would want to come together and help each other out, you know, and this was, you know, 2014, 2015. a little pre-Me2 movement, pre-women's movement. But I was excited to see that maybe I created that platform in the right time as we were all kind of taken our voices higher and higher

and elevating each other, whether it's in the workplace or in personal lives. And it was just the perfect timing. Share with us something that I'm very familiar with, which is some of the challenges that you dealt with in launching sway and growing sway. I think the biggest challenge was just access to resources. Obviously, I was very lucky to have a lot of the initial women in my network invest in the opportunity and wanting to be part of it and help me at the pre-seed level. But again, those checks were smaller and only can go as far.

So when I was getting ready to raise my official seat around like a normal startup, especially with all the traction we were getting and the brand we built and the community that's around it and also the mission that we really set for ourselves, I didn't really think that we would have that much of a hard time getting investors to be excited about the opportunity because also remember at the time, a lot more VCs and investors were committing to investing in more women forward, more women driven and female forward initiative. So I was like, perfect, great timing. I have it all. Let's do this. To this day, it still has been challenging for me as a founder and just for the country.

company to really land that big seed funding that would really make us just worry about the operations and the growth as opposed to being scrappy. That scrappy, you know, startup we've always been. And a lot of the time for me personally going to investor meetings as a young female founder at the time when I started first fundraising, I was like 24, 25. And on the heels of my beauty page and success, that didn't really help. A lot of the investors were men and, you know, much older. And I think kind of with the outdated preconceived notions of what a person like me is capable of or not capable of in that case. And so I was met with a lot of, you know, inappropriate comments. The focus was more on my appearance. And sometimes when I try to tone that down because of

the previous comments I've gotten, people would be like, wait, you showed up in flats today? Why? Like, that's not okay. So there was always like a comment around what I'm wearing, what I look like, the fact that I don't remember this New York and it's not a good thing because people can't take me seriously. It was a lot of noise that I was not prepared for because all I was trying to do is here is a great business. The opportunity is here, the number we're here that's all we need to talk about. why are we distracted by other things that I don't have anything to do with what I'm here for? You know, don't ask me out for dinner. Let's talk about this business deal at the conference room we're in right now. So it was a very, and you know, I was young. I didn't know how to really react to that.

And I think what ended up happening, and this is again, what I talk about at the beginning of the book, is that I internalized a lot of that. That became my truth. That became my narrative. I became kind of also defensive and aggressive and just angry. And that's not really my nature. I was already, like before I would even go to meetings, I would anticipate the frustration that, you know, the comments that are going to be, you know, that I'm going to be met with.

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because she's like, why don't you think about writing a book about confidence? And, you know, she reached out to me at my rock bottom. As I'm like, I had zero confidence at the time. I'm like, me, a confident. No, I'm like, plus I'm like, I know my friend, she's much better at this. And like, I'll leave her be the expert at confidence because she truly is the confidence queen. But I'm like, I don't think that that's, I'm like, I'm open to writing a book. But confidence is probably not the subject I'm an expert in.

I could write as part of the book, but it's not all. And so what I told her was, look, I have probably a lot of self-work to do myself before I think I'm in a good place to write a book or give advice to other women because I am myself right now, I'm struggling a little bit to find my way out out of this devastating, I would say, fail at the time. But I know I'm going to get out of it. And I feel like that that's going to be a much better story to tell because I know I'm going to uncover a lot of lessons along the way of rebuilding myself and rebuilding this business in a way sustainable. And maybe we'll check back in in a couple of years.

and then see if there is a story there, if I made it out alive, and maybe there's some lessons to share. And so, yeah, that's exactly what happened. In 2020, we kind of reconnected, and we talked a little bit about my journey leading up from the moment she reached out to the moment we reconnected, and I told her about just what happened and all the kind of tactics and things I had to unlearn and learn

along the way to be in a better position to build my business and not let the outside world and external barriers become kind of a burden on who I am. And that's kind of how the book really conceptualized. So we talked a lot about how I was constantly trying to break glass ceilings. And that was kind of like my journey. I was out there trying to break glass ceil. But I didn't realize that I was also teetering on a glass ledge, which to me is a representation of self-imposed glass ceilings. And I'm like, that's what I really want to talk about more in the book and just what I want my message to be, because I had realized that during my fight for women empowerment,

I had actually became disempowered myself. And a lot of that was because of the self-imposed glass ceilings I was putting in place for myself without really realizing it. And that's really what I want to shine the light on. And that's how the book came about. Wow. So it's so full circle. I love that idea of that real glass ceiling being the one that we've put on ourselves.

It's so accurate, number one, and not talked about very much. So share with us some of those lessons that readers will learn from the Glass Ledge. Yeah. So I think so the way I structured the book is in 10 chapters. Each chapter has its own theme that I kind of dive deeper in using my own personal experience. And some of the examples are power, likability, appearance, which talked about also relating to both discrimination and also coming from a world of page. expertise, confidence, which I definitely, you're part of it as well.

Conflict. Conflict is a big one for me because I just didn't know how to address conflicts and I would shy away from it and run away from it as opposed to being comfortable with that concept and finding my balance with it. And then the same thing. I think a lot of the chapters that I, you know, the way I outlined the chapter is not to go one way or another, but rather figuring out what your balance is when it comes to that theme.

So power, for example, I have never really. explored my own relationship with power until I was in a position of not having any power at all. And that's with these investor meetings. And so at that point, for me, instead of actually taken a step back during those meetings or after those meetings and figuring out what went wrong and how can I claim that power back, I just kind of played the victim and realized, okay, there's nothing I can do. You know, the world is unfair. It's unfair that they treat me that way, which is true, it's unfair. But instead of me taking control of the role I'm I play in changing my circumstances, I kind of dwelled more and more and more into becoming more of a

victim as opposed to a change agent in my own life. And so that's kind of what I make sure in each chapter is let's make sure that you know and you're self-aware of your own relationship with each of these themes. Same thing with likability, right? I think for me, when I started a company at such a young age, my biggest thing was to be liked by my employees, by my community, by my investors instead of actually putting my foot down when I needed to and demand respect. And so my relationship and my understanding of the theme of likability wasn't really right and it wasn't really well explored. And I didn't even know anything about that. So I make sure that you're aware of how you act and why you act the way you do so that you're able to know how to balance your relationship

with each of these themes and really kind of, you know, sometimes you need to be like, sometimes you don't need to be like. So at what point do you really know what strategies to adopt? So that's really what I wanted to make sure is not telling you what to do and how to act in certain situations, but giving you the tools to know how to change your situation faster than the outside world can change for you in regards to all these themes. That's so funny. I remember when I was young in business, I was the opposite of you. I did not want to be liked. I wanted to be respected. And so I went the polar opposite way, which was not the right way to go. But I was so tough and hard on people and created such concrete boundaries because I was so fearful that if they got to really know me or

see that I am caring or that they'd want to take advantage of me or they wouldn't respect me, right? Then I went off the rails the other way, which again, didn't benefit me. And in business specifically, until you find that balance of, you know, showing who you really are and that vulnerability coupled with boundaries and having a healthy respect for yourself and the job that you do and commanding that respect and culture that you're looking for in business, it definitely is a dance where many of us can fall. That's why I'm all about like the balance. That's why I call it the glasses and balancing on the glass ledge because everything in love, every issue that we deal with, there is not one way or another that's always going to work in every situation. For example,

my femininity, right? Like, I was either not feminine. I was a tomboy growing up, or then with the beauty pageant was just like all feminine and that would just be that. And then when people started kind of making kind of comments and appropriate comments

about just my appearance and femininity, I completely suppressed that. And I just left it alone. And I'm like, no, but you can use your femininity as a tool, you know, in the right situations, in the right way. If you find that balance

of how you explore your relationship with your femininity, and, you know, there are times where my masculine side has to step in. And then there are times where I have to show my feminine side as a leader. So again, like it's all about establishing that balance when it comes to different situations. But again, you can't establish that balance unless you build self-awareness. You need to know what triggers you, why you act the way you do, what situations you need to use this side or that side. And a lot of that takes practice. It takes a lot of self-work. And I think a lot of conversations were uncomfortable of having with ourselves. My favorite quote is someone said that the most important conversations you have in your life are the ones you have with yourself. So make sure they're productive ones or positive ones. And so I think a lot of people don't really think about that at all.

They are so busy talking to everyone else, minding everybody else's business as opposed to taking time for themselves and checking in with themselves every now and then to see, why did I act that way yesterday? What was that? What triggered me? Let me write it down and make sure that I understand it so I can address that issue better next time. And these are things that require a lot of maturity and patience and self-awareness, but it's easier not to do that and just continue being the way you are. And we always kind of blame it in the word, that's my authentic self. But I talk about in the book, in my chapter on authenticity, is that we all have an authentic self and an adaptive self. And you need to know when to let which one lead. And they all need. they both need to be in sync. So sometimes my authentic self was not to be an entrepreneur or a CEO.

I had no business doing that. And that's not really what I would have chosen to do. But at the time, my adaptive self stepped in and said, you need to adapt because now you need to be a CEO and you need to learn how to be one, as opposed to taking the easy road and saying, look, my authentic self is not to be this kind of leader. And I'm just going to be who I am. No, we can change. And that's when adaptive selves take control over our action. and decisions. I hope everyone listening right now gets this message that I'm getting loud and clear, which is really about the word and instead of an in place of the word or, right? So for people who see Amman and say she had to be a scientist or she could be a beauty queen. No, she was a scientist and a beauty queen. Right. And just like you're talking about now with the book showing there's two

sides to everything, you don't have to pick one or the other. In fact, it's about that and that joining and that balance in different situations and different moments and embracing both. People naturally, they swing to the way it was, why, I can't be this and that I have to pick aside. And even like I talk about this a lot and I think it's all out there in the press that I got is that the first question I've gotten in my first pageant was if you had to choose between being smart or pretty or smart or beautiful, which one would it be? And that's what it all clicked for me because I was never really like a one faceted person. and I was always very multidimensional.

And I never was brought up with this idea that I had to choose between being things. And if I wanted to be both or multiple things, then it's possible. Maybe not all at once and not all at the same time, but it's okay to maybe realize along the way that this is no longer working for you. And now you want to become this. And that's okay to pivot as well. And I've done that multiple times in my career. And I think that's really how I built my confidence actually along the way, because I was able to see that I was going to take on a new role that I had absolutely no experience in or no,

you know, precedent. And I built myself through it. And so that gave me the confidence to go into the next chapter of my life and be able to do the same thing. When I first stepped on that stage in pageant world, I was like, well, if I could walk on stage in front of thousands of people in a swimsuits and heels and be open to being judged, like, guys, I'm literally here for you to judge me. I can do anything, you know? And it's just like you have to remind yourself of what you're capable of because other people will sure not remind you of that. And it's your responsibility.

It's your choice to be able to say, I've been through this or I've overcome this. And because of that, I built the confidence to do this. Our stories are very different but very similar. When I hear you tell that story, it just reminds me of being fired and being told all your good at is sales, all your good at is sales leadership in corporate America. that's the lane you're supposed to be in. What are you going to do now? You got fired and you can't compete in that business. And I had to come to terms with myself that maybe there's more to me than this one lane, one job. Maybe there's other skills intrinsically within me that I can explore and tap

into that I just never paid attention to before. And I've seen you evolve through this process, through all these changes and the technology that you're now embracing in business and doing so many different things. And that is exactly that same path that I've been on. Okay, I can still be that person that's great in corporate America, but I can write a book and I can launch a podcast and I can jump into the unknown world of entrepreneurship as a rookie, having no expertise at it and just make some mistakes and start figuring it out. And you're right, through those steps, through those low moments is what gives you that true confidence that no one can take from you. It's not something outside of you. It's something within that said, I built this from zero. I stepped into

that unknown. And if I was able to get out there after getting fired and not knowing what I was going to do and build this company that I have today, I can do anything, just like you in the swimsuit on that, you know, on that massive stage. It's a good reminder. And I think people, again, and I don't talk a lot about this with fear of failure, which I know, I know we're all paralyzed by that. But look, everybody fails. And that there is a reassurance to tell yourself, that. And you see people fail publicly much worse than we do. So if they can go through that, then we could easily do it ourselves, especially if you're not someone who's living your life in public. And if you do fail, most of the time, people are going to move on from it. Everyone has their

own issues. No one's going to judge you for that or making mistakes because we're all doing it. And if I see someone, wow, built a company and it didn't work out, I don't sit here and like dwell and like laugh at it because I'm like, I have my own problems to go through as well. And maybe I'm about to fail as well. But it's like people just get in their own head and they think that they're like the center of the world and everybody's going to judge them and everybody's going to come at them with these comments and, you know, they're going to say this or say that. But now you're falling again, victim to the outside world expectation. And I think to me, the first thing I thought when I hit rock bottom in 2018 and I thought I lost the company and everything I built is that what are

people going to think? But I didn't think, oh, I don't have any money in my bank account or that shit, my creditors are calling me, like, asking, like, I didn't think any of that, which was the most important thing to figure out. All I thought was day and night, what are people going to say about me? Now it's embarrassing or, oh, shit, like, I've been talking about all these dreams of mine and now people are going to judge me for not being able to make it happen. It's all in my head. And I put this extra pressure on me and I'm already going through a lot. You know, I'm having anxiety around, all right, what's the next step in my career? And now I also have to feel like I need to be perfect for the outside.

world's expectation and live my life as what people expect out of me, which, you know, is not a healthy way at all to think or even just adapt as a strategy for your own life. So I had to slowly figure out how to stop caring about what people think about me. And it's, you know, this day, sometimes you struggle with it, but you have to remind yourself, I don't care. And you know who's a great, my brother is so great at that because I call him every time. I'm like, so this person emailed me and they asked where it is. And I'm not sure what to say, like, Who cares? Just tell them this and to fuck up. I was like, I need someone, I need, you need a champion in your life that can constantly remind you that right now you're thinking about the wrong thing because what you're thinking has to do with what people think of you and it's not the right question to ask. You're asking the wrong question. You know, and everything that you're thinking about should be about how to live purposefully, how to be fulfilled on your own. Whether or not people see what you're doing, whether people are not are aware of your accomplishment or lack thereof, You should be the one focusing on what actually fulfills your soul at the core,

as opposed to how much money it makes you or how much followers you'll get from it or how much press or outside validation or how much hype you'll get from that. And I know early on I made that mistake with when starting the company because I just had this big chip on my shoulder that I had to prove myself all along. I was always doing things because I felt like they would give me more credibility to the outside world then people are going to see me as a more competent or more credible or better. And it was just the wrong mentality to have. Obviously, yes, you should care about your reputation because that's important.

But that's not the same thing as caring about what people think of you. That is so good. Come on, tell me, who is the glass ledge for? I mean, I wrote it for every woman, no matter what, at what point she is on her journey. Women in business, professional women in corporate, graduate students, students in high school or college more are still trying to think about their future and what they want to do. Even women at the peak of their careers and C-suite level, you know, it's just written in a way that it can always serve as some kind of reminder or there's always lessons there that you

can remind yourself of no matter what you've been through and no matter what your journey is or what your industry is or what your dreams are. So I really wanted it to be kind of encompassing from, you know, a professional woman being ambitious in her career all the way to even a stay-at-home mom, figuring out how to be a better mom for her children and how to also balance her dreams and ambitions with her new motherhood. Well, I am so excited for you. I am so proud of you and I can't wait for everybody to get their hands on this book. Where can everybody find it? Yeah. So it's available on Amazon, which I feel like everyone's go-to for a book purchases, but it's also available on Barnes & Noble and every other retailer that you can think of. You can just type up the glass ledge

Amazon. It'll pop up. Also, it's all over my social media. If you want to follow me at Iman Ubu, I-M-A-N-O-U-U-B-O-U. And there will be a website for the book coming up this week, the BlastLedge.com. So that's going to have all the information that you need about the book signings and book tours and events and also signing out for my newsletter for more tips and advice. Oh my gosh. Get in the community. Get the book. You will not regret it. This book is really, just like you were describing, you reach out to your brother when you need someone to pick you up. This book is that pick me up. So you need it.

Be your own champion. Get the glass ledge now. Until next week, keep creating your confidence. You know we will be too.