Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - #298: It’s Time To STOP Playing Small & ELEVATE Your Frequency, With Heather!

Episode Date: February 22, 2023

CLICK HERE NOW! Use code: Confidence to save 15% sitewide at justthrivehealth.com In This Episode You Will Learn About:  Reconnecting with your true purpose and finding worth in every day  The importance of getting in tune with your own frequency levels and learning how to control the energy around you   Why it’s KEY to lean into your faith during times of uncertainty and change    Resources: Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/creatingconfidence and get on your way to being your best self. Use code: Confidence to save 15% sitewide at justthrivehealth.com Show Notes:  Have you been struggling to LET GO of the negativity in your life? Maybe it’s time to reconnect to your “why” and re-discover your passions! I’ve felt called to write a new book for a while now, and I want to hear your feedback on the piece I’m going to read you! It’s time to start tapping into our positive energy and elevate our frequencies! Remember, for every problem there’s a solution out there. 

I'm on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals. We'll overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so excited. You're back here with me this week. Okay, so it has been a crazy week in my world.

I've been back and forth to New York. I don't even know how many times. And it was not all seamless. I'm just going to start off there. It was kind of a nightmare. The first flight I had out was like the crack of dawn. I think I was up at three. It was awful.

I don't know if you're like this, but when I have a super early flight, I can't sleep all night. So I looked horrible. I ended up buying a baseball hat. That's how bad I looked. I was just like a train wreck and I had to speak at an event. And my eyes were swollen. It was just was a disaster. But anyways, I let go of it.

I'm like, all right, I got to let go of this negativity. Find a way to make this work. reconnect with my why, like, why am I doing this? And if I can make a difference in one person's life, you know, it's all worth it. That's what I always say to myself anyhow. And turns out I did. And I'm so proud. I know this guy's going to be listening to, which makes me so happy. But I had this amazing trip and definitely had the chance to impact not one person's life, but a few. And thank you, by the way, for the nice notes that people send me. And this is just a reminder. When somebody impacts your life in a positive way, let them know.

Take the two minutes to send a nice note because it might make that difference in that person's life that day, right? And I don't know, just it's so good to put good out there. So please take a minute, press pause on the show and go send a nice note to someone that deserves it, someone that supported you or encourages you. I'm so blessed and lucky to have so many people that encouraged me. Now, I just reminded myself, I have to go send a nice note to a few people after I'm off the air. Okay. So back to this week. So this young man who had sent me a video note, which is so thoughtful, if you really want to be thoughtful, that's like super thoughtful. He sent me this video note before I went to New York and basically just said, you know, that what I do and my content, the impact it has on his life and how much it means to him. And it literally made me cry. I made my son watch it. I'm like, look how amazing this young man is. You know, he's not much older than you. I'm saying, my son, I was crying. I was like, this is incredible. Look at the impact you can have on someone's

life. Anyhow, my son's like, mom, you're crazy. Get over it. But so I meet this young man at the event, and I was so excited to meet him. And we took a picture together. And anyway, when I'm leaving that event, because then I had to jump on a flight right away after that event to come back home. And when I'm leaving, the young man says, oh, you're not coming to dinner. And, you know, there were a bunch of other things at this event that they were doing. And I couldn't because I had to leave. And he says, I'm so bummed. I didn't get to spend more time with you. And I'm like, oh, yeah, well, I'll be back. I'll be back at a day and a half because I was coming back to the city for some meetings and to do a show, the sit and friends show on ABC. And so he says, well, why don't

I just stay? Apparently, he didn't live in New York. I didn't know. He says, why don't I just stay and I will, you know, meet you and go on the, you know, watch you do the show. And I'm like, oh my gosh, that's the sweetest thing I ever heard. Okay, if you want to. sure, which is a little crazy, right? I don't even know this kid, but there was just something about him that he has this great energy and, I don't know, he just tugs at my heart. So I said, yeah, sure, no problem. Come meet me and you can come watch the show. So I fly home. I'm home for a day. I fly back to New York and anyhow, I had some meetings, whatever, and then it's the next morning and I'm going to do the show. And the young man's there at ABC Studios when I get there in the morning.

So I'm like, this is kind of bizarre because now this is a, kind of stuff I do in my life. I commit to things and I'm like, oh, geez, I really didn't think that through. Hopefully he's not a killer. Like, hopefully he's not a stalker. He wasn't. He's so sweet. And he sat and was writing down the things that I would say that would impact him. So he had this whole thing. I ended up spending a day with him. And at the end of the day, had this whole thing of, you know, important notes that he had taken throughout the day. I have to read him to you. They're so cute. So anyhow, to make a long story longer, it really, it impacts. It impacts. me in such a positive way. But I know that I impacted him because not because of the list,

but because of this. So we go, we all go, I'm also with my friend who does my makeup and like assists me and helps me and supports me in every way Cynthia was with us too. So we're all at the airport together and we're in the American Express Centurion Club, which I'm obsessed with. Amex is not a sponsor of this show, but they should be because I'm obsessed with my Amex. So anyhow, we're sitting in LGA in the Centurion Club, which I'm literally in every other day these days. And I love it there. The people are so nice. Like, they're all my people.

And we're having this great time talking. And he asks me, he says, something to the effect of Heather, like, what is, like, if you have to point to one thing in your life, like, what's the difference maker? Like, you know, what's the real reason why you succeed or, like, what's your secret? I don't remember exactly. Or, like, what's the key? I don't remember exactly how he phrased it, but I remember how I felt when he asked a question and immediately I knew what the answer was. It's my faith. My faith is really what's changed. Listen, I've always been a hard worker. I've always been someone that will seek a solution no matter what. I'm always someone who's going to ask for what she wants. I'm always someone that's going to go bigger.

That's who I am. But things have changed in such a dramatic way in my life. since my faith was strengthened. And I've been talking about it on the show on and off for a little over a year now. And it's just incredible. I know I'm so clear on it. And so many incredible things have happened in my life. It's unbelievable. Actually, it is believable because it's my faith. And, you know, however you want to see it, it's a higher power, it's the universe. I see it. It's God in my life. And so my faith is so strong that it's undeniable. And I've just, I'm so grateful for my faith. I'm so grateful that God's given me this gift. And it did not happen overnight, right?

It's definitely been a process in my life, but I'm here now. And I'm just so grateful and it's so clear to me. So anyhow, so the young man's asking me, like, what is your one key or whatever? And I say, it's my faith. And I look at him and I said, what's your relationship with God? like. And so, you know, then he discloses that it hasn't been, you know, the greatest right now. And I've had times in my life like that too. I remember when I got divorced, I kind of was like, I'm done with church. I'm done with it all. You know, and I'm not judging anybody, but when I saw that that was missing from his life, I knew that's what he needed. It was crazy. It was like one of these moments. It was so clear to me, he needs faith. And so he can take all the notes in the world and like learn all the business tips. and I can give him all my strategies on how to get ahead. But until he unlocks his faith, it's just going to be more challenging than it should be.

He ends up going home, and his mother's been giving him a hard time about going to church, and now he's going to go to church with her. And I truly believe he's starting down a path now to strengthen his faith. And I'm so grateful, gosh, I was bawling my eyes out. I was so happy, like overjoyed. Like my cup runneth over. it was just an amazing moment for me. And so for anyone listening right now that you're questioning your faith or your faith isn't that strong, that's okay.

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For years, I traveled the country every week working with my radio stations. As soon as I would land in the city, I would tune into the frequency. that we owned in that city, and I would listen to the radio station. When I was in Philly, tuning into 96.5 would get me to our station wired for today's best hip-hop. Oh my gosh, I love hip-hop, by the way. Then I would fly home to Miami and tune into 96.5 to listen to Power, 96, a much more Latin vibe, but still, including hip-hop artists. For years, I was so focused on the frequency of the radio stations I was leading, I never stopped to tune into the most important frequency, my own. After getting fired, I suddenly didn't have any radio stations that I

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to my energy, protecting my energy, elevating my energy, removing blocks as well as the frequency that I'm on, right? Like, I really, I really believe that this is something that if you're intentional about, self-aware about, it can impact your life greatly. It's impacted mine greatly. So this is just another way. And the guy, the young man, like, impacted my frequency in a positive level, right? Like, looking at the people you're surrounding yourself, what, looking how you're spending your time. Being honest with yourself, having honest conversations, when you get the urge to say something, actually falling through and doing it, it's going to elevate your frequency. All of these things are ways to elevate your frequency, and that's a very positive thing.

Having a lower frequency is not going to bring the opportunities into your life that you want. But listen, here's a thing. No one's going to be on a high frequency all of the time. Right. We're going to have negative things that are going to occur. They happen to everybody's life. but it's how we respond to them, which is the real key. And so I want to challenge you today to be aware of the frequency that you're on currently, know that you have the power to change it. Like for me doing this podcast right now raises my frequency because I love hanging with you. I love my show, right? I'm so proud of it. So it makes me excited and it puts me in a good mood. Now, listen, there's plenty of negative things happening in my email right now. I saw some things

I didn't want to deal with this morning. But I said, you know what? I'm just going to put a pin in that. I'll get back to it. I'll deal with it later on today. But I wanted to raise my vibration first, right? Like I wanted to go and work out, which makes me feel great. Go for a walk outside, which makes me feel amazing. And then come to my podcast, which puts me on an even higher vibration. You have the power to do all those things in your life. And I know what you're thinking. No, I don't, Heather. You know, my life isn't like yours. Don't forget. I had that 3 a.m. flight or whatever I was on the other day. And my life isn't always great either. I have to do things I don't like to do. However, my faith is really the cornerstone of my confidence, and I just have this really strong belief that everything's going to work out.

And I ask God every single day, please close the doors that are no longer meant for me. Please open the ones that are, and please show me the way there. I surrender to you. I turn my life over to you, God. Show me the way. And then I thank God for all the miracles in my life. Everything I'm grateful for, my health, my son, my wonderful friends, my beautiful home, this amazing city that I live in, all of these, opportunities that come to me, all of the good in my life and so much more. And, you know,

I thank God or everything I'm grateful for every single day. And I encourage you to do the same. And if you don't have a relationship with God, then thank the universe. Think that higher power out there because I think we all know that there is a higher power. But I don't want you to feel like just because this is how I'm handling my life and, you know, how I show up doesn't mean you have to show up that same way. I want you to do what works for you. You'll know, Like you'll feel your frequency will be higher when you're aligning in the right way for whatever that looks like for you today. And by the way, that can change over time as well. So, you know, be mindful, be intentional, elevate your frequency.

Know that, yes, there's challenges that will come. And those challenges will find solutions to overcome those challenges and will be stronger as a result, right? Like we'll become more resilient, which is a beautiful gift. We'll become savvier. We'll find better ways to overcome the challenges, navigate the challenges. And then we'll start anticipating and expecting these beautiful miracles to be all around us. So, okay, I want to read to you what this young man wrote down. Okay, here we go. These are the things that he took away while we did the show that he felt were important. I hope that you'll find that they are helpful to you. Okay. Show up and deliver. Yes. Be you, be bold. That's me. Be adaptable. Yes, you have to always be ready for change and constantly evolving yourself. A strong why, a purpose, and great relationships. A strong why in purpose is really important in life. If you haven't found yours yet, start asking yourself, what is that why? It all starts with asking good questions. Okay, keep you going, oh, those things keep you going through tough times, true.

Data doesn't lie. That's a fact. Anytime you're confused about something, look at the data, the data will shoot you straight. Don't take noes from someone who can't give you a yes. Oh my gosh. That's one of my favorite stories when years ago I was taking a no from someone who couldn't give me a yes when I was pitching for a position that I wanted this company to create. And I ended up getting the yes, but only when the individual who I was asking called his father, who was the CEO. Never take a no from someone who can't give you a yes. That's just a door that's closed. It shouldn't be closed. Leaders communicate with transparency. Okay, this is funny. I was on the Sid Rosenberg show. We were talking, actually it was about Biden and the lack of communication, and that's just

leadership 101. You've got to communicate clearly with people. Let people know what you're thinking. Don't be a mystery. Knowledge isn't power. Application is power. Oh, I love that. Yes, you need to access knowledge first, but then you need to apply it if you want to transform.

So information, application, transformation. I love that. Wait, I'm saying that I love this to the notes that this boy took about me. This is hilarious. Okay. resilience is the X factor. Oh my gosh, I was just telling you about resilience. Resilience is so important. And that's why we need to welcome challenges and problems that come along. Resilience is the X factor. And to strengthen your resilience, got to face some challenges and overcome them.

And you will. Tough times, create resilience. I'm so excited reading this. I just want to jump up and down. Sir, I need to get a life, clearly. Embrace the challenge, lean into adversity. Heck yeah. Adversity is your advantage. Oh my gosh, I love this. But in the extra effort with your relationships, it's so true. The grass will grow where you water it. People ask me all the time why I have so many friends for my entire life and I have a crew of best friends that's massive. We fly all around the country seeing each other and we spend time together and we make plans together and we talk on the phone and we text and we make each other feel important and we send nice notes. You know, even my guy friends do that. You know, it's just the grass will grow where you water it. So important. Okay. Roll the dice. I am all about rolling the dice. I love that. People connect with your

story. Relatable connects. Yes. Oh my gosh. So true. Storytelling is a superpower. Use it to market yourself on your personal brand and your business. Absolutely. You can't be overdressed, but you can be underdressed. Oh my gosh. We had this amazing guy on the show, a fashion designer, and he was incredible. So I know that's what he's noting here. Okay, dress your worth and feel the confidence. Fashion is a message. That's really powerful. And when you think about that, how you dress today, you're sending a message not only to yourself, but to everybody that meets you, that sees you walking down the street. Make it a good one. Okay, don't worry about the little things. It's so true. If it's not going to matter five years from now, don't let it matter in five minutes. Let it go. Don't waste your time worrying about the little things. It's so, so true. Prioritize what matters most. relationships. Done is better than perfect. You know I live by this. Fear is a green light that means go and go faster. Take bold, messy action. Heck yeah. And don't be afraid. Fear is a liar. It's not real. Sleep when you're dead. Oh my gosh. This is hilarious. Dream until it's your reality. This is so crazy. I saw this message after I walked out of the show in New York. And I've been wanting to

get my own show for so long. First of all, I wanted my own TV show, P.S. So we haven't gotten it yet. But when I walked out of ABC, that was the note I saw written on the concrete right in front of me. Dream until it's your reality. And I think you should dream until it's your reality because if you expect it, it's going to happen. Don't give up. The world needs your light. Stay in the present. Shine your light.

So that's a message to you today. Stay in the present. Shine your light. The world needs to be a brighter place. And you can make that happen. I hope you like the show today. If you like to tag me, share it. Your girl needs your help.

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And I can't wait to hear what you think. Until next week, keep creating your confidence. You know I will be.