Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - #306: The Key To Getting NEGATIVITY Out Of Your Life, With Heather!

Episode Date: March 22, 2023

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I'm on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals. We'll overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so if you've been with me week in and week out, you know that last week I had an incredible opportunity to go to a special private Maxwell leadership, John Maxwell event with 17 other people. And I had no idea what to expect. It was funny. So much is who we surround ourselves with. So pause for a minute and think about, you know, obviously the person you're married to or in a relationship with is the most important

because that person has the most influence on you day in and day out. And then besides that person, the people you work with that you spend a lot of time with or your closest friends, right? Those people impact the way you think, the opportunities that are presented to you, the doors that open or are not open, and so much else. It reminds me so much of my book, Overcome Your Villains. The key and most important thing is to get negative people out of your life, get people who are trying to hold you back out of your life, and get around the rooms and the people that are ahead of you, that want to stretch you, that want to encourage you, that want to pour into you and want to love on you. And if you haven't met those people yet, I want you to know, the best is yet to come. There are better days ahead. And the minute you start removing the negative people, you make space for those positive people to show up.

So that journey for me started five years ago when I was fired and I had been surrounded by some really negative people that wanted to hold me back, wanted me to play small and did everything they could to try to make that happen. what a blessing and gift it was to be fired and get thrust into a totally different space, suddenly positive people started showing up for me. And it was like a domino effect over the last five years. So many incredible people have shown up into my life that I didn't know even just a couple years ago. One of them is my friend Jordan that actually got me connected to Maxwell leadership and then got on this invite. So I had one good friend that was going to be there at this event. And the funny thing is, and I think I told you this last week, for the last couple of years, I've been speaking at conferences all over, many virtual, now much more in person.

But this was going to be the first time I was attending a conference. And I hadn't done that in years, right? It's so different to go into a venue in one way, one perspective, right? You're being paid to be there as a speaker. You have pre-calls. You know what to expect. You see the agenda, the itinerary. You're all behind the scenes. and you're all, you know, coached up on what the goals are. This was different attending, right? So it was super exciting. I didn't know what to expect. Of course, it's new, so there's some fear.

I didn't know the other 17 people in the room at all. And it was definitely, you know, exciting. I guess there's a fine line between fear and excitement. I always choose to lean into excitement. And so I went not even knowing what clothes were the right clothes to bring, right? I brought a few different outfits because I thought, You know, geez, it's in Orlando. It's this huge conference hall. Is everybody going to be in business suits? Right. I think about these things ahead of time. Are people going to be wearing jeans? Should I

wear a dress? So I just brought a bunch of different options, jumps on a plane and went, having no idea what to expect. And the first night we got there, it was incredible. I literally have to tell you, these two days changed me for the better. And if you ever think about investing in yourself and, you know, buying a ticket to something, let me encourage you to do it. because this was incredible, life-changing. And I saw after the event, after our event wrapped, ours was a two-day event, the event opened up to thousands of people, right? And they had a three-day event with thousands and thousands of people.

And I saw all the social media. And so many people's lives were changed, not just mine, right? You didn't have to be in the small group to have a life-changing situation going down in Orlando at Maxwell Leadership. It definitely thousands of people were on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter posting about how life-changing John Maxwell is and Maxwell leadership. So invest in yourself, take the leap, get in those rooms with good people that are ahead of you that will encourage you. And if you're not right now, that's okay. They are out there. These people exist. You maybe just haven't met them

yet. And so this was a one-of-a-kind, unique life-changing experience for me. I can't say that enough. It was just so positive, so unexpected, and so incredible. And I want to remind you that not only are those people out there for you, you can be that person for people as well. You know, that was one of the messages that I walked away with was, you know, servant leadership is such a big part of who John Maxwell is and who Maxwell leadership is as a team. I saw it firsthand how they pour into others, poured into me, poured into everyone, give, give, and give. But they were still regular, cool, fun, smart people, right?

It was nothing short of amazing. That's what I will tell you. It was nothing short of amazing. So, okay, so the first night we get there, I only know my one friend, and he had already gotten there earlier in the day. So I walk into a venue, to a room with 20 people that I don't know except for my friend, and I sit down and the conversation is already going, and they're kind of round-tabling. The Maxwell leadership people are there, and they're talking about, all right, everyone had

to introduce themselves. Everyone had to break down, you know, what challenge are you currently facing, essentially be really vulnerable. in a room of 20 people, very intimate, that you don't know at all, right? And I mean, a few of the people knew a couple of people, but no one knew everyone. So everyone was kind of in the same boat. And you had to share who you are, what your deal is what you do. And there was everyone from CEOs to there was a lot of speakers there.

There were a lot of pastors there of massive churches. You know, it was like a mixed group of leaders in different niches in business and in life. But everyone had a tremendous amount of success in some arena. You know, whether they were an author or a speaker or a pastor or a CEO, they had established a great deal of respect throughout the room just by reading the bio. There was NFL players that. I mean, it was crazy. So I jump into this and sit down. And of course, I'm a little nervous because I'm thinking, oh, my gosh, what am I going to say?

Right. And, you know, in those moments, you have to open up and be vulnerable because that's the only way you're going to get through a situation like that. And when you're with a group at a really high level, you don't want to be the one that holds back. That's not going to add value to anyone. No, you want to lean into that fear. You want to be a leader in a room full of leaders. And that's what I was trying to say to myself in my mind. And then, you know, some people started crying and sharing such vulnerable family stuff that they were going through.

It was the first time in my life that I sat in a room of people. It was the majority were men. There was three women there that were talking about how important their marriage is to them and how they wanted to better their marriage and asking questions and for support. How can I be a better husband? I am not used to being around groups of guys like that. I haven't, I didn't grow up like that. And, you know, it was not the guys I hung out with. So it was so warming and incredible. And it just made me realize at 48, I'm meeting new people that are unlike anybody else I've ever met before. That's amazing. Right. So you're not. not, you haven't met all the people you're going to meet yet. You haven't met all the champions that are going to be there and stand up for you yet. You haven't met all the people that will love you in your life because I just met a whole new crew that I'm so grateful I met and so excited about and so encouraged about it. It opened my eyes to what else is out there in the world, which I wasn't aware of previously. So if that happened for me, and I tell you, I have traveled all over this

country for 25 years for work and have been to so many conferences, events, meetings, and met thousands and thousands of people. If I hadn't met these kind of people, let me tell you, there's a really good chance you haven't met those right people for you yet, too. So be open-minded, start showing up for events, start putting yourself into the uncertain, start taking the call, pick up when someone asks for you to go to something, go. Right? I was wondering when I first got the invite to this, because I wasn't paid to go to this. So I thought, well, this is weird. I'm going to a speaking event. I'm not getting paid. but then I thought about the person who was asking me to do it.

And this guy is such a wonderful human being. I said, I don't care. I'm just going to blindly, I'll figure it out. I'll cancel my two days. I'm going to figure it out and just go because I believe in that person so much. So when you do have connections to good people, lean into those good people because they're going to know other good people. And that's really what this was a testament to is that one great person introduced me to this onslaught of amazing people that now I have a really tight bond. with and relationship. And I'll tell you, after a couple of years of virtual, being in person

with people for two days straight the way that we were in that tight proximity, in those vulnerability groups, in those leadership conversations, it was spectacular. And people got so close, so fast versus, you know, over the internet or on the phone or on text, it takes it longer. It just does. The magic of in person is undeniable, irrefutable, get. And, in person. Big things happen when you're in person. You change exchange cell numbers. Opportunities present themselves. You start talking about who you can connect someone else with. You start making magic happen because you're in the room. Get in the room. Take the chance. Let this be your sign. You need to go for it. You need to invest in you and get in some different rooms. I'm so grateful

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And it was a domino effect that was incredible. So we went from there to, we went to dinner with John Maxwell. And it was just us and John Baxwell, which is so cool, I had never met him before. He not only is he, you know, one of the most famous speakers, authors in the world right now, but he is so unique and so different. And anytime you're going to meet someone super famous like this, you never know what you're going to get, right? Because there are some people I've had on the podcast that I will just be honest with you, what I've met them in real life. I was, they did not seem like the people that they seem like on their social media brand or whatever.

right? Then there's most, I will say the majority are the real deal. But there are always a few that are not. It's kind of a disappointment when that happens. John Maxwell does not disappoint. He walked, he didn't, I don't think he ate the whole night. He walked the room and had meaningful private conversations with each person, including your girl right here. He called me Miami, which was so funny. And that's what he called me for the two days I was there. It cracked me up. But he was just so cool and so engaged and present. And he was really listening to you. He put his arm on every person as he stood with them and spoke with them. He pulled up a chair and sat next to you. I mean, it was just so warm and genuine. And he's funny, sarcastic, regular, cool, smart guy. Like, just not standoffish, not fake, calling it out. Just was incredible.

Just mind blowing it. And I saw why this man, you know, has sold millions and millions of books and has thousands and thousands of people at his venues and events and coaches in his program. And, you know, he cares. And it really seems like that bedrock and foundation for him is servant leadership. And he's so committed to giving back the amount of work this man is doing in the world, not even just in our country, but in the world, is incredible. It made me feel like I'm asleep at the wheel. Like, I am not doing anything. Here is this icon so much older than I am. And he's exhausting himself, literally working nonstop, getting up at five in the morning and working until, you know, whatever, midnight, every night doing these events because he wants to change the world.

And he wants to be a bright light and a dark space. And he is, right? He's changing school systems and their programs are going into school systems to help children in different countries and just it's so exhilarating. And it challenges you to think bigger and go bigger and do. do more when you give yourself the opportunity to be in a room with someone like this. So that was one of the really big things is that I'm not doing enough. There's more out there. If this man can do what he's doing in his age, I need to giddy up and get moving, sister. Like, let's go. We need to try a little harder. We need to put ourselves out there more.

We need to go bigger. We need to go for more. We need to start living God's plan, not just our small plan that's trying to keep us safe. We need to step into bigger because we can do better and we can change the world, just like he is doing right now. And what an incredible leader, he is showing all of us that. Okay, so that was the second part of the first day. Then we went from there to he did a book signing for all of us. And they gave us the books, which aren't even out yet, the 16 undeniable laws of communication, which, oh my gosh, then he did a talk for us, a keynote speech for us, which was, okay, so first of all, you get to do a picture with him and he autographs your book. and I mean, the guy is such a pro.

He remembered everyone's name. I mean, it's incredible how present and how much attention he pays and how funny he is, how cool he is. And so it was just so fun to hang out with him. And then after we did the book signing and took pictures with him, we all sat down and he took the stage to give his keynote on his new book, the 16 Undeniable Laws of Communication. And it was like a master class and how to sell a book. It was incredible. Now, one of the funny things is I speak all over, and when I'm speaking, I definitely know one of the memorable things people say to me after speech is my energy is incredible. Well, partially, part of that is I get myself super hyped up, jumping up and down.

I'm all over a stage. Like, I am out there, right? I'm like, my arms are up. I'm like moving up everywhere. What was so cool about John Maxwell, and I had never seen this done, at least not successfully until now, he's sat that entire speech. He gave a keynote to an audience in the dark, basically, where you'd think people would fall asleep. People were riveted. And he sat in a chair the whole time. So his power is so massive that he can do it so differently than anyone else. He doesn't have to jump up and

down backstage like I do and, you know, be a maniac physically on the stage. He just does it with the power of his words. And he was very thoughtful in his pauses. He took so many pauses. It was captivating. It was almost like watching an actor. And what's cool about that is there's so many different ways to be successful. And I want you to remember this. Success doesn't look one way, right? I can get a standing ovation at a speech by jumping up and down and imparting knowledge. In my unique way, he got a standing ovation sitting down the entire. time taking massive pauses, like these dramatic pauses, which is very different than what I do and very different than anything I had ever seen from a speaker. I saw Jesse Itzler lately was bringing

basically a DJ on to his keynotes with him. He has a totally different approach. So success doesn't have to look just one way. I think it's great to expose yourself to different successful people, the different ways they do it, and then start allowing your creativity to start flowing and thinking like, well, they do that and they've found success. What's some different ways that I could do it? How could I make this look different? You know, what could success look like for me? Just don't get stuck in that idea that, you know, if Oprah Winfrey's the number one female speaker, I need to do it just like Oprah. No, you don't. And this just reminded me of it. And I don't need to sit the whole time like John Maxwell does. That's his thing, right? I don't feel compelled or drawn to do that. So that's not my thing right now.

And that's okay. Be you. Don't be a B-rate version of someone else. So I was definitely reminded about how unique John was and how different his speaking engagement was so different than anything I'd ever seen, but so powerful and so captivating. And literally a masterclass on how to sell a book. He had everyone dying to get into that book and read it. I couldn't wait to get back to my hotel room to go through the actual content because he teased it in such dramatic and interesting way. it was really powerful. So if you haven't seen John speak before, I highly encourage you go to one of his events. It was just, it was really mind-blowing. So very different, very unique, very present, and very thoughtful. And the other thing I'll say is he definitely rehearsed. We tend to think that when people

become this successful, or at least I tend to think this, they don't have to practice anymore. He definitely had worked hard at rehearsing. It was very very, very much. orchestrated. And that reminded me of my pastors, right? You know, I talk a lot about Vue Church and how incredible our pastors are there. They work so hard every single week at their sermon. And John Maxwell's a preacher as well and was talking about that's what gave him his start was preaching. So, again, success can look totally different for everybody, but there are some commonalities. And one is putting the reps in, practicing, practicing time and time again, exposing yourself to other talented people that are different than you so you can learn and pick up

ideas and open your mind to what different and better can look like. So no matter where you are, it doesn't have to be speaking. It can be anything. Make sure you're exposing yourself to other great people in that same line of work or in different lines of work, but people that are excelling so that you can get ideas that can help you innovate in your business, help you grow in your business. Okay. So while we were there during all of this, my friend, that was the one basically that connected me into this program, looks at me and says, I've got a problem. And I said, what's going on? And he said, I forgot my deodorant. And I said, okay, don't worry, I'll take care of it. He said, no, you can't leave. This is John Maxwell's event.

We can't walk out. I said, I'm not leaving. Don't worry. And I share this story with you because I believe so often people just think, oh gosh, there's no store in this private John Maxwell event. I'm screwed and I just have to not have deodorant. No. Here's what I want you to know. No matter where you are at any point in time, there is always a solution. I live my life like that. I'm always looking for the solution. Don't look for the obstacle. Do not spend your time looking for the obstacle, looking around and saying there's no store in here to buy deodorant. Spend your time saying, how can I find a way to bring deodorant to me? So it took me about 60 seconds to look around the room. I found one of the servers and I said, I've got a 911 emergency.

Can you please get me the head of the event or the event manager and have it. them come over to me when you have a chance. Right away, the event manager came over. And I said, listen, I've got a problem. I forgot my deodorant. I just wasn't going to say it was my friend, just, you know, to be kind. And I said, I really need your help. Can you please help me to get deodorant immediately, number one? And number two, can you try fast because this thing, the ship's going down? And so this woman was so kind. And she said, oh my gosh, absolutely. We actually have a store on, you know, floor five, I will have one of our runners that's going up there anyways to get food on the same floor, stop by and purchase deodorant. I gave a lady $20. Done. A couple of minutes

later, there's a bottle of deodorant on the table. The only mistake I made was I didn't tell her it wasn't for me that it was for a man. So my poor friend got a nice bottle of women's secret deodorant that he got to put on at the venue. But I share that story with you because I just want you to know what's possible. Anything is possible. Anywhere you are in any situation. So the next time you're confronted with, oh, gosh, you know, I've got this problem or I can't find a solution for this. Stop focusing on the problem. Start focusing on the solution in that minute and start asking for help, asking questions and start looking around. Open your mind to the possibility. And I promise you, you will find one. I'll never forget a few years ago. I'd taken my son to the NBA All-Star game and we were at the dunk competition. We were in Toronto.

It was like negative 25 degrees, the coldest place I've ever been in my life. It was him and I alone, and my phone had died. We were staying at a hotel that was probably a 25-minute drive away. I had booked a car service, but when we went outside the stadium, we walked out, and there was 800 black cars out there. I mean, the place was so packed. It was insane. And my phone was dead. So I didn't know how to find our car, first-world problems, I know, but it was scary. It was late at night. I have my little boy with me. We're alone in a city, I don't know. We don't have any friends there, right? And I know I've got to get this kid out of here. It's negative 25 degrees. And his eyes start tearing up because he was that cold and probably that's

scared too because we were in Toronto and had no idea where to go or what to do. I look around and I see a Fairmont, which is a gorgeous, amazing hotel and was next door to where the shootout was. So I said, let's go. I grab his hand. We go running into that hotel. Of course I know that hotel's going to be sold out, right? I'm not crazy. I know that. But I also know where the there's a will, there's a way. And so I walk up to the front desk. My son's, he has tears coming out his eyes. And I said, I need to speak to the general manager right away, please. And they ran and got the general manager. And I said, listen, I am sure you are sold out. Your hotel is gorgeous. Every NBA player in the world is here. Every celebrity is here. I get it. However, I'm a single

mother. My phone is dead. I can't find our car service. This is the hotel I'm staying at. I don't know how to get there. It doesn't look like there is a way from. me to get there. I mean, literally the roads are jammed up. I've got to get my kid to sleep. Is there any chance you have one available hotel room in this hotel that we could take for whatever you want to charge me? I will just be so grateful to be able to get my son in bed and I'll be gone first thing in the morning. And that man looked at me and he said one minute. And he said, well, we actually had a cancellation today. One of the players had reserved, you know, five rooms and they only ended up using four. I do have a room for you. And so he gave me

that hotel room. I mean, he charged me. It was at a concierge level. It was crazy. Super nice. And my son and I went upstairs to bed. And it was one of those reminders for me that if we don't ask, we will never know. And being honest, being vulnerable, you know, sharing your challenge and your situation and asking with kindness and hopefully doing the right thing all the other days that you're not there asking for someone to help you. But when others are asking you that you're helping others, that door will be open, that grace will be given. And that hopefully, hotel room will be there. So I was grateful I learned that lesson. That's what sets me up to find deodorant. And it was funny, my friend and I were walking out of the venue that night. And he said,

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It made it clear, for me anyway, the people I want to be in business with now, I want to have that shared commonality of faith and belief in God. And, you know, it just, it really opened my eyes to a totally different way of doing business. And I felt so safe. I felt in such great company. And I felt I was exactly where I was meant to be. It was a really beautiful experience. So if you haven't found those people yet, they're out there. I'm telling you, they're out there.

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room, start stepping into some new opportunities, start investing in yourself and start being vulnerable. Okay, so after that, Q&A with John Maxwell, then we went to, oh, they opened up for a few different speakers to come in. And one of the women that were at my event ended up being a speaker on the main stage. She was incredible, killed it. She was so good. So we were all there to support her, encourage her, pour into her. Then we left there and went to a luncheon where we were back to really that vulnerability leadership roundtable again, which it was incredible. I got to know people so well, so fast. Then we went back to see John speak again. It was back and forth, back and forth. Okay, so at this point, they start opening up and letting more groups of people

and I can start seeing lines develop and lines develop. And I see John is standing at that front of lines. And literally thousands of people now are standing in line to see him. And I just, that magnitude, and I felt so lucky that I had that opportunity, you know, for that last day and a half to really be in this tight, small group with him. And what an honor it was. And just the core values of his team, Maxwell leadership, Chad, the leader from Maxwell leadership that was leading us, beautiful people with amazing hearts and strong faith and business acumen and smart. savvy business people, all about giving back, encouraging others and pouring into others. And it was just, it was such a beautiful experience. That is how business should be. And if that's not how business is

being done where you work, where you are, it's time to make a move. It's time to invest in you. It's time to get in a room with people that want to help stretch you to that next level. If something doesn't feel right, it's not right. Walk away from it. This is just your friendly reminder from your friend Heather telling you, if it doesn't feel right in your heart and your soul, it's not. And if there's signs that you're asking for from God and they're showing up, pay attention to them, listen to them, and act on them. They are all around us. That is for sure. I definitely see them myself all the time. Again, John Maxwell's new book, The 16 Undeniable Laws of Communication. He has so many incredible chapters in here. I'll just touch on a couple.

Everyone has a message. You have a message. the way. If you don't think you have a message, you're wrong. You do. A lot of people will say that to me. Heather, you have a message because you got fired. You're so lucky. First of all, that's not my message. I mean, I make it part of the story. But my message, I hope, is about resilience, making you stronger and the ability to overcome it anything and your ability to create confidence in your life in any moment and step into your possibility and your potential. And yes, I tell a number of different personal stories to really iterate what that can look like for you. But I hope my message is more than just getting fired.

You don't need to have been fired to have a message. You know, that certainly is not John Maxwell's message, and it doesn't need to be yours. It can be the most simplistic story. It can be the most simplistic learning. But just the fact that you're sharing it with the world from your heart, that is your message. Okay, next, he has your most effective message is the one you live by. I love this one. There's a lot of people on social media.

You can tell it's a fraud. It's a fake. that's never going to translate. And if it does translate for a little bit, okay, that sky is going to come crashing down. There's no legs on it. You've got to be real and true. There's no way John Maxwell could have run this event with thousands and thousands of people. Open up for Q&A if he wasn't actually living what he was preaching.

Because when you start opening up for Q&A and I've done many live Q&As, people will discover if you've got the hoodspa or not, if you have the experience or not. And he talked a lot about that. Do not speak about things you do not know, thinking you're impressing someone. You will be found out. And that shame and embarrassment is going to hurt a heck a lot more than not speaking about it in the first place. Stick to what you know. Stick to what your greatness is. And if you feel like you're not that great at that much yet, that's okay. The best is yet to come. You're just getting started. Start owning that instead. Another great one. Good communicators learn from great communicators. Okay, this is going back to what I was saying earlier. If you haven't

been investing yourself, if you haven't been getting in these rooms, start stepping into new rooms where people are ahead of you. Start learning from people who have done it. Okay, and that brings me to the final thing I wanted to share with you today, which I'm so excited about, and this just was a total tipping point for me, the John Maxwell-Maxwell leadership event. So incredible. You know, I've had a lot of people asking me for the past couple of years, how can we work together, how can I learn to be a professional speaker, how can I land a TED Talk, how can I craft my story, How can I start landing big stages? How can I get paid as a speaker? How can I show up on the speaker bureaus? How when you Google me, can I show up as a speaker? I get so many of these questions all the time.

How can I launch a podcast like yours? Here's a thing. I am going live right now to you. I'm going to put, I'm only taking 20 people in this. This is a one year commitment. It's my one year mastermind. It's the elite next level mastermind. If you want to be in a group of people who are pushing themselves to go to that level and to bring you along and encourage you with us, this is the group for you. It's the elite mastermind. The link is in the show notes below. You can apply there. See if this is the right fit for you. The 20 that we are going to move forward with, I'm telling you this is going to be game changing, life changing, because I'm going to pour every bit of knowledge I have in how I did it and teach you how I did it so that we can do it together for you and for the 20 people that are coming with us.

You know, no one succeeds alone. And to do things in community, there is a next level feeling and vibration and just excitement about being in community. And that's what I'm most excited for leading this journey with this mastermind is being a part of this journey with each of you, the 20 that we move forward with. I can't wait. This is going to be the only major mastermind I do this year with a one year commitment. This is going to be my number one priority. This is it. This is it. So if you've been wanting to work with me, you've been wanting to go to that next level, you want to be a part of a team like-minded people pushing each other, cheering for each other, encouraging each other. And I'm telling you, I did it for two days this week. It changed my life. One year is going to be game-changing. The link is in the show notes below.

Check it out. If you want more info, apply for it. We will get you up to speed. I'd love to have you. We only have 20 spots. I will not open more than 20 spots because I want to make sure this is intimate, just like how I felt in that room for you. for Maxwell leadership. So if you're not following John Maxwell, Maxwell, Maxwell leadership,

please follow them. These are great people. I am so encouraged by them. I'm following them. I'm champions for them. And I wouldn't steer you wrong. Until next week, keep creating your confidence. You know I will be.