Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - #419: Harness Your Faith: Start Preparing For Your Dreams Today with Heather!

Episode Date: April 17, 2024

The biggest stages in the world are waiting to welcome you. Are you ready to take the stage? Let me teach you how…. Join The Elite Mastermind with me! There are only 20 seats available. Link here: https://heathermonahan.com/the-elite-mastermind/ In This Episode You Will Learn About: The extra step that people always miss when manifesting Why you should start preparing for your dreams before they happen What it means when you trust that the best is yet to come The best tactics to try if you aren’t seeing what you want Resources: Visit heathermonahan.com Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Show Notes:  What if the answer to all of your prayers was right around the corner? It is possible! So why not just believe that your dreams ARE within reach? If you believe it, you will start to see it. I can guarantee that! But if you don’t believe in yourself, lean into negativity, and ignore the red flags, you will never reach your goals. Fire the villains in your life and keep the faith! I am learning from everyone around me and embracing my inner knowing. Begin manifesting with me. And let’s all start preparing for the future we want, TODAY! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at Shopify.com slash Monahan, all lower case. Go to Shopify.com slash Monahan now to grow your business no matter what stage you're in. Shopify.com slash Monahan. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Hi and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so I have a couple of messages for you today. The first one was around red flags versus green flags. And let me tell you what I mean by that. So for a long time in business, when I was younger, I didn't have strong boundaries.

I felt desperate for opportunities. You know, I wasn't very confident, even though people thought I definitely was. So red flags would present themselves, whether it be from a business deal, a client, a partner, whatever, and I would ignore it intentionally thinking, okay, I'm sure this is just a fluke incident, it's gonna get better, whatever.

Here's what I learned, here's what I know for sure. When you see red flags, run. You wanna work with and do business with and be in relationships with people that are good people, right, that want to people, right? That want to do the right thing. If you start seeing red flags, that is the smoke before the fire, right? That is a sign of what's to come. I remember in 2019, I think it was, I did not know my friend Amy Moore in that well. We'd only known each other for a year. We were

brought in with a few other people, James Altucher, some other really great people that I knew, and we were doing an event together. It was actually a magazine that was hosting it. We didn't know the people at the magazine and there were tons of red flags in the beginning. So Amy came to me privately and said, listen, I think we need to jump out of this. There's way too many red flags. This is not gonna go well. And I basically asked her to stick in it with me. I said, no, we'll do it together. We'll find a way where great people will make it work. Trust me on this.

I didn't wanna look at the red flag yet again. And wouldn't you know, it was a disaster, a nightmare, and ended up falling apart and taking a lot of time and energy and left a bad taste in everyone's mouth. It was such a great reminder for me that red flags are the smoke before the fire that you're walking into. Red flags mean run the other way, no matter what. And it was funny because a friend of mine called me about a deal that she's

looking at doing and I explained to her, wait a minute, huge red flag here. Let me explain what that is. And I told her, and I said, you need to run from this deal. And it's so interesting because everybody comes to this realization on their own. Sometimes you have to get burnt enough to understand why you don't touch a hot stove and no one can make you feel that pain.

Sometimes you just have to go through it yourself. So while I want to protect my friend, I'm begging her not to do the deal. If she does it, she's going to find out maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next month, but she'll find out that that red flag meant she should have walked do the deal. If she does it, she's going to find out, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next month, but she'll find out that that red flag meant she should have walked from this deal. So I'm just reminding you, when you see red flags,

run the other way. There are billions of people in the world. There are billions of opportunities out there. There are so many potential partners, partnerships, business deals, ventures. It's never ending. Pick the ones that hold the same morals, values, and standards that you do.

It's one thing to make a mistake, jump in and own it, and let everybody know it's not gonna happen again. Be honest with people. We all make mistakes, but a red flag is something that's pretty glaring and nobody's jumping up and owning as a mistake, right? It's there, you see it, you know it, you're trying not to look at it. You wish it wasn't true, but the reality is it is.

See it for what it is. Save yourself the time, save yourself the energy and the effort. Walk away from people with red flags. Okay, that's my reminder for you today. But here's the idea about green flags. Instead of focusing so much on red flags, I did that for a really long time. And over time, I realized, okay, I'm not doing business with people with red flags anymore. I'm not getting into relationships with people with red flags. I used to say like, oh, I could save them.

I can help them. Oh my gosh. The amount of time I wasted, it's insane. I learned the hard lesson, stay away from people with the red flags. Now because I've become very proficient at spotting red flags, quickly I see it really far away because I look at things clearly. I don't look at them through the lens of how I wish they would be, which is a big change for me. So I look at things for what they are and run from the red flags. But now I've started looking for green flags, meaning, and I'm asking you this question, what are the green flags you look for in a relationship, a

partnership, a business venture, a client, right? I look for loyalty, honesty, empathy, love, joyfulness, encouragement, enthusiasm, right? Just a joy for a life. Fun, humor, those are all green flags to me. And the more and more I think about it, the more I realized those are the people I surround myself with. When I started podcasting, an online store was the furthest thing from my mind. Now I'm selling my group coaching on the regular and it is just so easy all because I use Shopify. Shopify is the global commerce platform that helps you sell at every stage of

your business from the launch, your online shop stage to the first real life store stage all the way to did we just hit a million order stage? Shopify is there to help you grow. Whether you're selling scented soaps or offering outdoor outfits, Shopify helps you sell everywhere, from their all-in-one e-commerce platform

to their in-person POS system, wherever and whatever you're selling. Shopify has got you covered. Shopify helps you turn browsers into buyers with the internet's best converting checkout 36% better on average compared to other leading commerce platforms and sell more with less effort.

Thanks to Shopify magic, your AI powered all-star. I didn't know what I was gonna do when I got fired. Launching my own business seems so intimidating. I didn't know how to set up a website and I really didn't need to. Shopify does it all for you and they make it so easy. It was that breakthrough moment for me that I realized I can do this. I can go to work for myself thanks to Shopify. What I love about Shopify is you don't need to have all this technology information ready to, you don't need to know how to plan and run things. You just need to go to the platform, turn it on

and know what you're selling. And Shopify is gonna help you figure out the rest. Shopify powers 10% of all e-commerce in the US and Shopify is the global force behind Allbirds, Rothies and Brooklyn and millions of other entrepreneurs of every size across 175 countries including your girl right here plus Shopify's award-winning help is there to support your success every step of the way Because businesses that grow grow with Shopify sign up for a one dollar per month trial period at Shopify

com-slash Monahan all lowercase go to Shopify.com shopify.com slash Monahan, all lowercase. Go to shopify.com slash Monahan now to grow your business no matter what stage you're in. Shopify.com slash Monahan. No matter what stage you're at, they're gonna make it easy. I asked you to try to find your passion. At an event the other day, I was with a bunch of my friends and every single one of them had all these green flags and spades. And it just made me so happy because my life is happier, my life is more joyful.

I am vibrating at a higher level because I'm picking people with green flags all around me. And I want that for you too. So yes, it is important to be aware of the red flags and run from them and run from those people but it's even more important to realize what your green flags are and make sure you're pulling in choosing and picking the people with the green flags. That will make you happier, that will make you more joyful and that makes the whole journey so much more fun. So that was my red flag green flag reminder for you today. And again, focusing on green flags now today and every day. And I hope you are too. Okay. So

this week, this is so cool. I'm speaking for Google this week and now I've spoken for Google multiple times. And the reason why I'm sharing this with you is I remember the first time, I guess it was maybe three or four years ago. I spoke for Google for the first time. I was petrified I was super nervous, right? It's like the biggest name in the game and I had them on a pedestal and I thought oh my gosh I hope I don't blow this and I hope I you know warrant the money that I'm getting for this and you know I was self doubt full of self doubt Well, the more you step into fear the more you do the things scare you, and the more you realize no one belongs on a pedestal, we are all equals. There's great things about Google and there's not so great things, just

like there's great things about anything and not so great things about some things, right? Like there's always pros and cons to anything, and the more you embrace that for people's great attributes and their flaws, and understand no one's perfect, no company is perfect. No entity is perfect We're all flawed and show up as your real self knowing you might be able to add value and help one person Hopefully more you start stepping into that fear you start building your confidence and once you've done it once it's suddenly not so scary now It's exciting and now you start thinking more creatively. How can I add value differently this time? And so it's cool. I'm going into this really excited, not nervous at all. Sometimes I trick myself and say, Oh, I'm excited. I'm excited when

I'm really nervous, right? Because there's a fine line between being nervous or being excited. But now I'm just really excited. And so the more I'm stepping into that, I'm thinking, how can I add more value this time? And I'm actually speaking for the women's group at Google, which I've never spoken for before. And I did a pre-call and we were going through what their goals are for my keynote. And they really opened my mind up

to like all these different frameworks that I could bring forward. And I'm gonna launch a very different coaching program just for women that I've never done before based off this call and what this woman opened my mind up to you know around what still happens in corporate America. The majority of women aren't making it to the C-suite. In fact data came out last week that said less women are making it to the C-suite now than in the past 10

years. Right we thought we were making all this progress and suddenly it's not happening. And I've made those moves, I've broken those glass ceilings in corporate America and I can teach other people how to do it. And it's funny, I kind of forgot about that for a while because I started going down a totally different path. I think this happens to all of us. Instead of talent stacking and looking at, I've got this expertise and this expertise and how can I bring them all together, sometimes we separate them out. And I sort of had forgotten about that portion of my career.

Instead now what I'm trying to do is take that portion of my career with me and have it layer and add value onto what I'm doing with my keynote speaking, with my consulting, with my coaching, right? And I challenge you to do the same thing. Look in your life instead of separating the different experiences and expertise you have,

is there a way instead to talent stack it, layer it in and allow it to add value in different ways? Maybe even drive rates for you, maybe even drive new opportunities for you, new frameworks for you, add value to clients in different ways. I promise you there's a way. We've just got to creatively challenge ourselves new opportunities for you, new frameworks for you, add value to clients in different ways. I promise you there's a way we've just got to creatively challenge ourselves to start

thinking differently and listen, test and try it. Right. And that's what I'm going to do. So I'm super excited about that. And I would have never approached that pre-call the way that I did this time if I hadn't done it previously, right? The first time you're always a beginner and you're not good at it yet, but the more you step in and do it,

the more you can pick your head up, go in with confidence and look at things from a standpoint of curiosity and creativity and seeing it differently. And when you do that, new ideas and opportunities and momentum build. So I'm super excited. I want you to be stepping into fear.

Please step into fear this week. I don't know what it is, but I want to hear from you. Tag me in your post. Let me know what fear you are stepping into, because you're just not great at it yet. You're a beginner now, but you won't be forever. Everyone starts as a beginner. And I just want you to know this week going into this speech,

I'm feeling so excited. No matter what it is you're afraid of that you're stepping into, after you've done it once, you're going to be excited that next time you go back, the fear is suddenly gone because the fear was never real to begin with. So another thing I wanted to talk to you about was a message from church today, which was really around this idea that everything can change in a day. And it truly, truly can. And our pastor was telling the story of his brother-in-law had made it to the voice back in 2012, and then all these promises and hopes and expectations

that he was gonna make it, and then it just dwindled, dwindled, dwindled, and dwindled, but he never gave up. He hustled and struggled and put the work in, and finally last week he got the call, he landed his first Broadway show and it was this huge win. But here it is 12 years later, right? Like it looks like it had happened overnight

and his whole life did change in one day, that is for sure. He's made it to what his ultimate goal always was. But really it was this 12 year work in progress when you look back at it. So maybe you're in a valley right now, maybe you're in that struggle phase. And I thought about my own self, when I was listening to him tell that story about,

I thought I write conference creator, it would become an international bestseller selling millions of copies across the world and I'd have millions of dollars overnight. That was my expectation. I was just coming out of corporate America where I had done incredibly well. What I had forgotten was it took years to make it in corporate America. I forgot about that part.

The journey was long, arduous, not always joyful. But once you made it, you made it and you knew you were there and you reap the rewards and the benefits. And it did seem like, you know, it happened overnight when I got the job, but it was years in the making, and it's no different today in this business that I'm in. Just seems like things always take longer

than what you think they should. I just want to give you the message today to stay encouraged, to keep going, and to understand it could all change tomorrow. That one shot, that one dream, it could all come together tomorrow. So shot, that one dream, it could all come together tomorrow. So your hard work is not for naught. Do not give up. You have not been buried. You have been planted and you are blooming. And I don't want

you to forget that. Okay, so also at church today they were talking about it's important to have faith, right? We know that, we've gotta have faith. And when we have faith, it's also important to expect that the best is yet to come, right? We talk about that all the time. The best is yet to come because it absolutely is. And we have these expectations that good is gonna come.

Not, you know, what's the worst that can happen? No, what's the best that can happen? Let's shift those expectations to what incredible positive experience could be coming. But even to go one step further than that, our pastor got into this today in church was not only to have faith, not only to have that expectation that it's happening

in this strong belief that it's coming, this is a knowing that we know will happen, but let's take the preparation for it's coming. This is a knowing that we know will happen, but let's take the preparation for it as well. That means, you know, if you're wanting to get married and have this committed life, like start showing up as if it already were that way now, right? Get your home ready for that. Get yourself ready for that commitment now. Don't wait for the day that comes. If you want to go to France and you're hopeful that you're gonna get approved into some program

that allows you to go, start taking the French lessons now. Start packing now, start organizing your schedule. So accommodate as if it already has happened, that clarity is there. That expectation must be met with that preparation so that you can be ready because things can change overnight.

And when you get that call, you wanna be prepared. So I thought that was really, it really hit me. It just, you know, there's so many other things I could be doing. Yes, I have tremendous faith. Yes, I speak so much into existence. And yes, I believe and I know that these things will happen,

but am I necessarily taking the steps to prepare myself as though that time is now? Not always, right? I even remember when I was selling my last condo, what that preparation looked like is there was a dark season there where the market started unraveling and I started freaking out. Maybe my place wasn't going to sell and I had my hopes up and I so had faith it was going to but deals were falling through four times right things got really shaky for a while and that's when I doubled down and just started packing and cleared so much out of my home and

decluttered and gave so much away because I was preparing for a move even though I didn't have the deal done yet, but wouldn't you know here? we are a year and a half later moved into a new condo and loving life over here so Not only should you have that expectation Not only do you need to have that vision and that clarity and that belief in the faith that it will happen? But let's start taking the steps today to prepare for it. And what does that look like for you? If that's a new job that you want,

if you're not happy in the job you're in, update the resume, start sending it out, start having conversations with people that could potentially help you, prepare for it. What's that gonna look like for you? Maybe you need new clothes for this new job. Maybe you need to get a car because you can't walk to work anymore, whatever it is, prepare for that change that is coming and could

happen tomorrow. I think it's really really powerful, it's just a powerful step that everyone can take. Okay so it was funny, a good friend of mine is not religious, it does not go to church, and we spend time walking together often, and we do a lot of things together, and she's an amazing person, I love her to death. And it was funny, she talks a lot about manifestation, which I believe in too, and I've actually, I've taken some courses over the last year

through Mindvalley, yes, I'm always investing in myself too, I always wanna learn and see things from different people's lens from their perspective, to see what can I pick up from this person or that person or what lands from this one or that. The more we expose ourselves to knowledge, the more we can change, evolve and up level as a person. It doesn't mean you need to agree with everything that you're exposed to But it just helps you to see what's out there and then you can connect those dots back to what you're knowing is your belief

System is which I think is super interesting So I love learning from people that are very different than me in the mind Valley experience has been very different stuff I'm not you know a big yogi or you know But I love learning from these people because they think so differently than me. However, and my friend pointed this out to me, she was saying so much about the work that she's been doing around manifesting and visualizing and feeling the feels and having the belief that these things are coming to fruition and they've already happened. sounds very, very similar to me and Christian faith and the messages I bring to her from the church. And it was so interesting, we're always talking about in church,

you know, this faith and this knowing and this belief that this is happening, even when you can't see it, this belief and this trust and this knowing. And she was right, there's a lot of parallels. And I know this through the lens of the church. But listening to her, I saw the parallels, I saw the alignment, I saw that, listen, whether it's the movie, The Secret, or, you know, you're taking a class at Mindvalley and learning about how to manifest something, or there's books going back to literally the Bible, which is talking about planting the seeds for growth for you know the future vision that your future casting very different words but all

of the methodology is so so similar so that's not by chance right i just want you to know that whether it be Napoleon Hill's famous book thinking grow, or there's these books going back, you know, 100 years ago, hundreds of years ago, and back to the Bible, they're all saying the same thing. You've got to believe in order to receive. You've got to believe it in order to see it. You've got to have faith. You've got to have this knowing.

And yes, you need to expect it, expect it, and know that it's gonna come, not knowing how it will and being And yes, you need to expect it. Expect it and know it that it's going to come. Not knowing how it will and being open to that, but preparing for it now as if today is the day. When starting out a new business, it's a complete pain to get through the LLC part. Taylor Brands makes it 90% easier. It's easy and affordable to get your LLC with Taylor Brands. Taylor Brands offers all the legal requirements for LLCs

such as registered agent, annual compliance, EIN, operating agreement, business license, and permits, and much more. Taylor Brands walks you through each step of building a successful business and has everything you need all in one place. Bookkeeping, invoicing, business licenses and permits, business documents, bank accounts and so much more.

And our listeners will receive 35% off Taylor Brands LLC formation plans using this link, TaylorBrands.com slash confidence. That's T-A-I-L-O-R-B-R-A-N-D-S.com slash confidence. So get started today with Taylor Brands. Confidence creator, I ask you to try to find your passion. And it's just so wild to me to see all this come together now and realize these messages are everywhere and they're ultimately saying very, very similar things. That is not by chance. It's because it's a truth.

And so wherever you are in your journey and how, whatever lens you see it through, that's up to you, but do know, to be your most powerful self, to achieve your goals, there are so many ways to go about it, but I'll go back to these facts and truths I see everywhere. Get rid of negative people. And when the negative person is yourself, rewrite that self-talk, you know,

create the narrative that you want to own. And a lot of that's based in our subconscious and there's so many ways to deal with that. There's hypnosis, there's prayer, there's relationships, there's therapy, right? There's millions of different ways to address that and you should do what works for you. Surround yourself by people who uplift you,

cheer you on, encourage you. They're your green flag people, right? Surround yourself by those people, elevate your frequency and your vibration that you're on by being around great and incredible people. However you do that, invest in yourself so that you can leapfrog everybody and jump ahead. It's the same way that I did when I wanted to write a book. I hired an editor that had written 19 books, right? So I could move so much faster. Don't take direction from those who haven't been where you are going. Take it from people

who are light years ahead of you and watch you move at lightning speeds, right? So there are all these same truths. Believe it before you see it. Have faith. Have this belief. Have this knowing and walk in it. Act as if it's happening right now and be prepared because it can happen now it can happen overnight tomorrow everything can change and as you start feeling those feelings watch out it's going to happen visualize it right visualization is another really powerful process that you can use to help you practice hold hold yourself accountable, write your claims down in I am statements and feel the feelings as if it's coming to fruition right here and now.

Believe you're worthy of it because you are and watch it all come together. Pray for and ask for what you need and what you want and watch it all unfold right before your very eyes. I've seen it happen so many times and I was talking to you the other day on one of my solo episodes about that book, Praying to the Heavens. And I can't tell you how many things have come true that I prayed for from that little tiny book, which is really just about praying to God, praying to your angels, and asking for the help that you need, the smallest, smallest things, whether you lost something or you're looking for your soulmate or you want to know if you

should take a job or not or it doesn't matter what it is, but stopping, getting still, being very, very intentional, praying for and asking for what it is you need and then letting it go. And since I've been practicing this over the last, I told you the first time I did it was right before Saudi Arabia. And every single thing came true that I prayed for it was crazy. And I just did what it said to do in the book. It was wild, just miraculous, literally not short of a miracle.

And so simple. Pray for and ask for what you want and need. And then let it go and have this knowing in this faith that it's going to happen and watch that it will. I have faith in you. I'm so excited for you. I do know that the best is yet to come. And I also know that it can all change overnight, whether it's my pastor's brother-in-law who's been working on his Broadway career for 12 years and finally got the call. It can all change in one day, in one moment, in one night.

And I'm excited to hear how things are changing and Happening for you. Okay. I don't know if you remember but last year I launched my first mastermind It's working with me for one year. You are on my ride or die for one year This is the one solid the one big program I do a year and I am wrapping up my current mastermind now. We've had the biggest breakthroughs. I mean, literally, I've had one person that left her massive job

at one of the biggest companies in the US and took a leap of faith and went to work for a startup and is happier than she's ever been. I have another gentleman who's leaving his company. He's walking away from it. He launched a podcast, launched a personal brand, landed a TED Talk and is writing a book. The things, I have another woman who just landed her first.

TEDxTalk, so many big things are happening in this community. There's tremendous power in not just my communities or working with me, but in working with like-minded people who are all going after big things. It's going to hold you accountable. It's going to push you to do more. And there's just this power and energy around it that is really exciting and miracles just start happening.

You'll just start seeing incredible things happen. I saw it all year this year with this mastermind and I'm excited to welcome you. If you want to get into my new mastermind for 2024 and to ride with me for the next year. I can promise you this, a big change will happen. Unbelievable change will happen. And if you're ready to take that next level, if you're not happy with where you are right now,

you want to go for more. You want to learn what it takes to launch your personal brand, write your book, take the biggest stages, pitch yourself to go for more, break into the C-suite, whatever your goals may be. This is the community to do it in. Get with like-minded people that are investing in themselves and just a simple act of pulling the trigger and investing yourself puts a notice out there that you are worthy and you will begin to see major change in your life. Okay.

Check the show notes. There'll be a link below. You can link up with one of my masterminders from this past year. She'll give you a 15 minute call explaining to you what you can expect, find out if you're a good fit for it. And if you are, I would love to have you. I would love to be on this next year journey with you,

see your change, celebrate your change, and celebrate you. Until next week, keep creating your confidence. You know I will be. I decided to change that dynamic. I couldn't be more excited for what you're gonna hear. Start learning and growing. Inevitably something will happen. No one succeeds alone. you don't stop and

look around once in a while you could miss it i'm on this journey with me quick math the less your business spends on operations on multiple systems on delivering your product or service the more margin you have the more money you keep but But with higher expenses on materials, employees, distribution, borrowing, everything costs more. So to reduce costs and headaches, smart businesses are graduating to NetSuite by Oracle. NetSuite is the number one cloud financial system bringing accounting, financial management, inventory, HR into one platform and one source of truth. With NetSuite, you reduce IT costs because NetSuite lives in the cloud with no hardware required, accessed from anywhere.

You cut the cost of maintaining multiple systems because you've got one unified business management suite. You improve efficiency by bringing all your major business processes into one platform, slashing manual tasks and errors. Over 37,000 companies have already made the move. So do the math. See how you'll profit with NetSuite. I want you to know that finding ways to be more efficient, cut costs, and get rid of

errors and mistakes can completely transform your business, boost your performance at the same time. This is why you need NetSuite now. Now through April 15th, NetSuite is offering a one-of-a-kind flexible financing program. Head to netsuite.com slash monahan. netsuite.com slash monahan. netsuite.com slash monahan.