Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - #439: How to Conquer Your Fears: Taking on the Next Big Challenge With Heather!
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overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Hi and
welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so I told you I would give you
a little more insight into the last couple weeks, which have been pretty crazy. Not gonna lie, a lot going on, a lot behind the scenes
that people don't know about.
And it's funny because I'm actually,
just so you understand,
so I have a team that does my social media,
I have a team that does my podcast,
and then I have a team that sells my programs,
and then I have my support team.
So there's a lot of people involved.
It is not one person doing everything on their own.
And it's funny because I'll see people message,
like you're always working and I do work a lot, right?
I do love what I do.
And I like to make a lot of money
and I wanna grow my business
and I know the potential that's within it
and it's not even close to reaching it yet.
So I can impact so many more people
and do so much more good.
So I have a lot of work to do. that drives me to work hard but it's funny people
message like you're always online newsflash no I'm not the team that
represents me at my social media team is huge right till there's multiple people
on multiple platforms all the time showing up as me right we've trained
them we've worked with them they know how how I speak, how I talk. It's just wild that people assume,
don't make assumptions, I guess that's the message, right? Like don't make
assumptions that I work 24-7 and I'm on every platform. I mean, how could you even
do that? I don't think anyone could do that, right? So don't make assumptions. We
never know the whole story and social media can be so misleading, right?
Someone else was messaging me about, you know, you work too much, this or that.
You should have fun. Oh, my gosh.
I should have less fun, by the way.
It should be illegal to have as much fun as I do.
And in fact, that's one of the things I'm like over the last week.
I I've had so much fun the last couple of weeks and I've been traveling a lot for work.
But I still have a really fun time when I'm on my work
trips sometimes way too much which has been the last two weeks because there was a lot of pressure
and it was just I don't know every time that we would actually be done with something major
I was like let's go out let's go out for dinner I have someone from my team with me and then there's
great people that you know we're friends with in all these different places so it just can be so
so fun well anyways the point is this so I actually am doing a post on my Instagram feed this week
about it that just because you don't see me out on a boat on the weekend doesn't mean I'm not out on
a boat on the weekend with all my friends right it just it's funny because I'm and all my friends
know this I'm the worst the absolute worst at stopping everything and taking pictures
when I'm out having fun.
The worst. Don't ever expect me to do it because everyone knows I'm the last
person that will do it. And what's funny is you know so much of my brand is about
being public and sharing what I'm doing. So that's easy to do when I strategically
plan for it ahead of time, which I do right? I always have someone from my team
with me at my events or you know I ask the events if they can capture photos and footage so that I can share it and that's great and I love that
I'm able to do that 90% of the time
I mean never once in a while, you know
People don't let you or you forget or you didn't have someone with you or you know things happen
But the majority of the time we nail that
However in my personal life, I never take the pictures
So thank goodness for certain friends of mine,
one of my friends is a model and she's always quick to say,
let's stop and do a picture.
I'm like, oh great, good idea.
I would have never thought of that.
So they see a lot of pictures of me and my friend Iman
because she's always so good at that.
My other friend Kelly is a really good
at always taking pictures of herself.
So when she's with me, we have tons of pictures, right?
But other than that, when I'm with anyone else, if I'm not with those two, I swear, you'll never see a pictures of herself. So when she's with me, we have tons of pictures, right? But other than that, when I'm with anyone else,
if I'm not with those two, I swear,
you'll never see a picture of it.
So anyhow, I'm actually doing a post about it this week
to say, just because you don't see it
doesn't mean it didn't happen.
And we never really know someone's whole life,
so we can't just assume that we do know it, right?
And that's the weird part about this whole social media world that we live in
It's like with anything right unless you live with someone and are on the phone with them all the time
You're not gonna know what's actually going on in their life when they're upset when they're stressed out the levels of
Things that are happening with their kids with their health with their workouts with their sleep with their romantic relationships with their business with their business
their sleep, with their romantic relationships, with their business, with their business partners, with their friends, with their friends' families.
Like there's so many layers of things going on all the time with anyone.
You just need to give people grace.
I actually said that to my son today.
We were on our way home from church and someone was driving, not very nicely,
completely wrong, right?
And trying to cut my son off.
And he was like, what the heck?
Why would someone do that?
And I just said to him, listen, I have no idea,
but I just think it's our duty to give people grace.
Who knows what's going on that person's head right now
or in their life or what they're so stressed out about.
Just let them go ahead, even though it's wrong
and you know, shouldn't be doing that.
On your way, my friend, on your way
and best of luck to you.
The world would be a better place
if we could all try to do that.
And I try to do it all the time.
However, I will tell you, I have my moments too,
just like we all do.
So give grace whenever you can to yourself first and foremost
and to all those around us for sure,
because we really don't know what others are going through.
But it was funny today we were at church
and we had a guest pastor and he was so funny.
He was telling a story.
First he was saying, one of the ways he needs to mature is that he listens and
eavesdrops to people's conversations often, and that he was eavesdropping on
someone's conversation the other day.
And they were complaining about the hashtag stay blessed and how upset it's
making them.
And he was so funny to say with all the wars going on in the world, famine in
the world, killings, people dying.
This is what you're upset about. Hashtag stay blessed. He said,
so I couldn't help myself on my way out of the restaurant.
I walked by their table and said, stay blessed my friends. And it was just so funny.
You know, we all get caught up in these silly little things that honestly,
in the big picture mean nothing. So hopefully we can take a step back today.
That certainly made me laugh. You know, what am I getting upset about today?
I don't need to stress out about the week ahead or you know, what's going on next
with my schedule or all the things I haven't been able to do because my travels been so
hectic. Nope, I can instead feel grateful, get excited about all the good that's happening
and feel grateful for where I am in this present moment, which will be a moment. I won't take
a picture because I do like being in the present and I do like fully enjoying it. And I am so grateful for my friends that remember to
take the pic. So whichever side you're on, I got you. I appreciate you. I love you. I'm with you.
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okay so back to as I had mentioned the past couple weeks has been just a bunch
of travel and a bunch of live events which is my favorite thing to do in my business.
I love speaking at live events.
And as you know, as I mentioned,
I had the Tony Robbins Dean Graziosi event last week,
which was a bucket list moment for me
because you might not know this,
but it was six years ago that I told a friend of mine,
I wanted to take that stage, six years ago.
It took six years for this to come to fruition.
And so often people think that things just happen miraculously or it's easy.
You don't have the whole picture, right?
This has been six years in the making.
Am I proud of it? Heck yeah.
Did I get amazing feedback? Absolutely. Right.
When Dean was finally off the stage, he came over to give me a high five
and tell me that I killed it.
And I was like a little kid just sitting there waiting for that feedback.
Because in your mind, it doesn't matter how good of a speaker you are.
When you take somebody else's stage, you need to make them happy because it's
their audience they're extending to you.
Right.
And so it's a little bit of a different scenario.
It's, I don't know, you don't really know until you hear the feedback from them.
The person that hired you, the person that brought you on, and the person that's giving you their
community, their audience. It's a lot, especially when it's like the biggest names in the game,
right? So I was super excited, super hyped and feeling really, really proud. So what I want to
share with you is this was six years in the making. However, in 2020 is when I first met Dean
and Dean came on my podcast.
And so that's four years ago,
he came on my show for the first time.
Then two years later, 2022, he came on the show again
and we had a great talk and dialogue.
And we started talking about the potential
of working together then.
In 2023, he brought me out to Arizona to film a course for him and Tony's
platform Mastermind. I have a course all about owning your voice that's killing it on their
platform. I'm super proud of it. So, so proud. And I did a small talk for a small group of his
Mastermind, which was like 50 people while I was there live in Scottsdale. What's so cool about
this is, well, I thought for sure,
I don't know if you've ever had these moments,
I've had nine million of them, where I'm like,
oh, we just killed it, they loved us,
all the signs are showing me that this is happening.
I just knew it in my heart of hearts it was happening.
And then crickets, nothing.
And for me, there's nothing worse than crickets, right?
Like you just, I'd rather have you tell me
that you don't like me, you don't wanna work with me,
so I can just turn the page on the book and move on.
I get real frustrated with not knowing what's happening.
You know, it's totally out of your control.
And also I had seen so many signs,
I had prayed about this so much,
and I was seeing all these signs that this is it.
Like this is the big next step for Heather Monaghan,
this is the big next thing for her business.
And when I got the crickets, I just was waiting and waiting.
And they actually asked me, hey, we need to know,
can you clear out the rest of the year?
And we have so many events going on.
So there was some dialogue back and forth
that wasn't finalized, right?
Nothing's finalized until you sign agreement,
but all signs were showing that this was a done deal.
And then it wasn't. And listen listen this happens in business, right?
People get busy. It's not the right timing. Maybe you're not the right fit
Maybe they need to meet with more people, but I don't you can't again
You can't assume for somebody else you just need to kind of turn it over and know that
You know God's plans better and bigger than yours and whatever it's gonna be is gonna be so
There was this window of time for me.
At the end of last year, I was feeling a little frustrated, right?
And Dean sent me this beautiful Christmas gift with this beautiful card and just basically said,
listen, we are working together in 2024.
Like, don't lose your faith.
I don't know exactly how it's going to be, but I know it's happening.
And here's the thing, right?
You want so bad to be like, I feel the same way too, but then why is that happening?
Right? Like having patience can be very, very challenging.
And it's funny, being patient is one of my weaknesses, right?
It's, I am not good at that.
I'm great at taking action.
I'm great at taking messy action.
I'm great at like taking major risks, showing up, being patient.
Oh, that is, it's a sore spot for me, right?
We all have strengths, we all have weaknesses,
and managing our weaknesses can be a challenge.
So for me, trying to stay calm,
trying to add value from afar to them,
trying not to get obsessed with what they have going on,
because I really don't know other than I can make up my own story
based on their social media feed, but as I started this show off, we don't know based on some social media feed what's actually
going on, right?
We don't know the closed conversations.
Here's what I do know is that when we build relationships, not just with the lead people,
right?
Not just with the Dean and Tony's of the world, but with their teams, with the support people,
with the people running the operations, that's how you start really finding out what's going on,
figuring out how you can add value,
understanding how you've been positioned or how people are seeing you,
so you can show up better.
I learned that in the media business, right?
So I might have been meeting with the head of marketing for all of Geico in DC,
but the person that really helped me the most was the regional person out of the Southeast who I'd become really close to.
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And I was just reminded about that on this trip out there.
I over the last year have worked on my relationships with the team.
They have gotten much stronger, so much better. I mean,
I've been meeting with them once a week for probably the last, I don't know,
months. Right. So, and again, we still did not have anything finalized.
We've had so many different discussions about what does a partnership look like?
What does a deal look like?
And again, I didn't know.
And you just had to have this faith that,
hey, we're moving in the right direction.
It's not happening at the timeline
that I wished it would have.
However, keep moving forward.
But as I move forward with that,
because it wasn't finalized,
I move forward with a lot of different
potential partnerships, potential opportunities,
speaking engagements, and business opportunities because I wasn't solidified on that one, right? So
it's just one of those things I've learned as I've gotten older that it's not on your timing,
it's God's timing. You've got to turn it over. It's not easy for some of us to do that, but you've
got to give yourself grace, be grateful for what you do have in front of you and have faith that
things will work out, that the best is yet to come.
And the other thing that I've found a lot of solace in lately is this idea and it comes
from a Forrest Frank song that when one door closes, a better one opens.
God opens a better door every time one is closed.
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believe it is, but if for some reason it isn't something else greater is gonna show up but that door will have
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beginning of 2018 I was so obsessing about what I had quote-unquote lost
right I thought I had lost something so big but the reality was that door had to close in order for this new life to open for
Me right there had to be death to what was to give birth to what could be and I never realized that I do realize
It now and I see it so clearly in my romantic relationships, right?
So in order for one thing to begin you had to close the door and completely end the other thing.
It's not, a lot of people will say like,
oh, you know, well, keep that going
until you find something better.
I just don't believe in that.
I really believe you send a message out
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a romantic relationship, a friendship, an idea, a business plan,
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Okay, so back to Dean and Tony's event.
So we're out in Arizona.
And the good news was this,
because they had had me out there last year,
it wasn't my first rodeo.
I knew what I was walking into.
And anytime we go anywhere for the second time,
it's gonna be easier because we're not a beginner.
I know the team this time.
I know the layout.
I know the office.
I know we're not gonna get lost in the morning going there.
Like I know Dean.
I know these people because now I've been working
with them for over a year.
And so there is a comfort and this confidence that comes from all these things.
Now, doesn't mean that I didn't get there.
And of course, last minute things happen.
And this is something that in my mastermind and guys were like,
I'm two weeks out of closing the mastermind.
You won't be able to get in again for another year.
But I talked to my team about this all the time.
Mistakes will occur.
Last minute changes will occur. Don't get hooked into this idea that everything's
going to go perfectly seamlessly. It does not. I have never spoken at an event where
things were seamless, perfect, no issue. Just doesn't happen, right? There's always going
to be something, a change that'll come up last minute. Technology will go out. You'll
get your heel caught. Your outfit's going to have a rip in it or a stain on it.
Like crazy things happen, right?
You just gotta roll with the punches and figure out a way to make it work.
Step into the opportunity, which is the possibility, which is the uncertainty, right?
So I headed in there from our hotel and had my team with me and we'd all been there and
we were hyped up and excited and like doing all the things that I do to get myself in a great mindset. And we got in there and I saw Dean
and I was so fired up and I gave him a hug and he was so gracious and so great. And I
was able to watch, they have so many viewing areas, so I was able to watch him on stage
before I was getting introduced. He was on stage for 45 minutes. The guy's literally
a master.
But again, he did infomercials for 20-something years,
just like Tony Robbins did, right?
They both did.
That's why they're both the absolute best in the best.
They put the work in, they put the reps in.
For them to get up and speak for hours
to a live audience of millions is nothing.
And it's incredible to watch.
They literally are masters.
So that's who I wanna be with.
Right, like they're ahead of me in this
game, in this arena, and they put more reps in than I have. They've been in more situations,
and they're frankly better than I am. But this is going to not sound very humble, but I don't know
a lot of people that are. They are. So you want to identify who are those people that are ahead of
you get in their arena. That's how you learn. that's how you get better. And I flat out had that conversation with Dean
that that's something really attractive to me.
I wanna be around those two people
because I know they are ahead of me.
They are better than I am.
And I know I have the potential to get better
if I'm around them, right?
Cause it's like learning a language.
If you really wanna learn a new language,
go to the country where they speak that language
and you will learn it real fast, real quick, right? Immerse yourself, get to the country where they speak that language and you will learn it real fast,
real quick, right?
Immerse yourself, get around the people that speak that language, whether it's speaking,
whether it's keynote speaking, whether it's building a personal brand, whether it's building
a business, driving revenues or speaking Spanish, immerse yourself in that arena and around
those people and that's how you'll learn faster than ever, right?
Don't stay around people and just read books about it.
Like you gotta go live it.
You have to immerse yourself in it.
And so that was really important to me going out to the strip.
Anyhow, when I'm out there, I'm saying hello to everyone.
I'm getting fired up.
I'm watching Dean and they took a break and he came out for a minute and he's like, what
are you talking about today?
I mean, he has a huge team, right?
A massive team.
So obviously I'd been prepped and I had documents on this a couple of weeks ahead of the event. So we talked about the things I was talking about and I think we decided
on overcoming adversity and like turning adversity into opportunity, which I give talks about all the
time. So that's super easy because I've done it a million times. I had just done it the week before
in DC. And so when I told him what I was going to talk about, he said, oh, that's great. Good. Yeah.
I think the audience will love that, Heather.
He said, however, why don't you bring up a little bit
about your experience with Mastermind?
Now the name of his company is Mastermind.com,
him and Tony's company is called Mastermind.com.
And so he's like, I think it would be valuable
for you to tie it back into the Mastermind.
Now you're listening right now and you're thinking like,
oh, cool, okay, well well here's what's different.
This was the biggest audience I've ever spoken to
in the United States, right, millions of people.
And so listen, was I afraid about that?
No, I was not nervous about that
because I had recently been in Saudi Arabia
speaking in front of 380,000 people live in person, right?
That was more intimidating to me for whatever reason, right? Like that was just seemed a little more intimidating.
So I wasn't scared about that. But when he made that comment to me, and it's now I'm
like five minutes before going on and all I want us to do a great job for them. All
I want to do is knock it out of the park, right? I put, I'm the one putting all the
pressure on me. They've been nothing but supportive to me and encouraging to me and hype that I was there.
And I was the only woman speaking at this event.
Right? Like there were so...
I was putting a lot of pressure on myself for a lot of reasons.
I wanted to show women out there what's possible.
I wanted to show the world why women should be on stages.
I wanted to show the world why I should be on that stage.
And I wanted to show them, guys, I'm worth bringing into this fold at a higher level on a more serious level.
But like, I had a lot of goals in my mind. I wanted everyone walking away from this thing
being like, girl killed it. We need her back. We need her as a, you know, as a fixture in
this operation somehow. Not sure how that looks like. But I just, I knew I wanted to
be in their sphere on the daily, right? Because if you want to get better, get around the
people who are doing it and living it. So when he says this to me a couple of minutes before I'm going on, I thought,
yeah, OK, great, great.
OK, Heather, how the heck?
Now he walks away because he's going back on stage to introduce me.
So I have a couple of minutes to say, how are you going to rechange and rethink your talk?
And so I have a couple of minutes.
Now, one of the things that I'll share with you is, obviously, if you start panicking, you're gonna bomb.
You can't panic, right?
So these are the moments you have to give yourself grace,
take the pressure off, and think about the one person
that you can impact or help.
And in those moments, I always say to myself,
if I blow it out there, as long as I helped one person,
I did my job, right?
Like, I have to lower the expectation or I'll go cuckoo.
So I know to do that, I know to calm myself down,
I know to put my AirPods in and start rocking out
to my Drake and my Kanye so that I can get my mind primed
that I'm about to go crush it.
And I do all these things ahead of time too.
So I've sort of trained my brain,
I visualize that I'm gonna kill it.
I know I'm gonna kill it, right?
It's happened, it's happened in my heart and in my mind.
But these moments, they can trigger you a little bit
that, oh gosh, how do I redo this? One of the things that's helpful for me, again, lower expectations,
give yourself grace, make it about the people you're serving, not about yourself. Don't make
it about perfect. Perfect doesn't exist. Perfect is a lie. It's not real. And no one likes anything
perfect, by the way, too. Life is all about imperfection, celebrating it. So I'm going
through all these things. But the other thing that I do is I break apart talks oftentimes into little mini lessons or
stories. So I knew let's make it up. I was going to do three potential different stories and then I
can weave them together. I know how to segue because I've been doing this. I've been talking
on stages for 20 years. So I know how to segue two parts together so I can flip parts, right?
I hope this makes sense.
But basically, I have these little stories, they're little lessons.
And so when he said, I want you to weave in mastermind, I thought to myself,
what could I pull out and pop mastermind into?
And then how would I weave that together?
So that was I had five minutes for that.
So I don't know. Listen, was it my best talk ever?
I didn't think so, but did I do a great job?
Absolutely.
Like the data doesn't lie, right?
And so I went right over to the head of the team
and I said, give me the data.
And he's like, it is off the charts
because the way that they tell in real time,
when you're on Dean and Tony's stage like this,
they have so many threads going in real time.
It's insane. And these guys laser into data so well.
Dean literally doesn't leave the main control room,
and while you're on, he's standing over you,
watching all this happen, you know,
I don't wanna call it being judged,
but you're being seen, right?
You're either killing it or you're not.
And again, I'm sure there's a million times
people have done better,
and a million times people have done worse,
but you don't know when you're out
there. So you're kind of like, you're in it.
But my peripheral I'm watching him in the control room, because I know,
and I'm trying to like see his face, which is so, you should not do that.
You need to be in the present moment. And I know that,
but I'm just letting you know, like these are all the crazy things that can go
on. So no matter what,
if you're standing up giving a talk at work or at your kid's school,
don't think you're alone that you're standing up giving a talk at work or at your kid's school, don't
think you're alone that you're getting in your head or wondering how someone else is
written.
Like I do that too.
And I do this for a living.
Right.
So give yourself grace around that.
But at the end of the day, it went well.
It went really well.
The feedback was great.
You know, the team was awesome.
And I spent a lot of time with the team this year, more time than I did last year.
And I think that went a long way.
So hopefully I will have more information for you
very, very shortly on this,
but I'll leave you with this,
that put the reps in, do the work,
going back the second time is always easier
than the first time, right?
The first time you show up as a beginner,
no matter where you are,
and it's just gonna be a little bit harder
because you get to figure out your way.
And you can be surprised by some things that are great
and maybe challenged by some things you didn't expect.
And all of that just builds out confidence muscle for you to step into that next
Challenging thing or that next scary thing next time with more confidence with more security and it gives you that reminder of you know
What that didn't crush me?
This isn't going to either and that's kind of what Saudi Arabia gave me for this was I was petrified going to Saudi Arabia
And as I walked in to Arizona,
I thought, you know what, I was able to speak a little bit of Arabic on the biggest stage in the
world and pull it off. I can pull this off too. Right. So do that next big scary thing. Step onto
that next big stage because that will propel you forward for that next whatever thing that you're
going to do. And it will also open doors for you that you would have never imagined because
you were getting out of that proverbial small bubble in your life and putting
yourself into these bigger arenas and you impact more people,
which means you receive more opportunity. So there's been some incredible opportunity that have come out of just this, you know,
in the last week.
We're not even at a week yet.
I'm recording this on a Sunday and I gave that talk on Monday of last week.
So I'm not even at a week yet.
One of the amazing things that happened this week that I was so hyped about and it's so you're not going to be shocked by it but it meant so much
to me is I got my formal written offer from Leap for 2025 for February, right? So I'm back in
Saudi Arabia. I'm back in Riyadh and I'm back on the largest stage in the world for the biggest tech
conference in the world in Saudi Arabia which now I am friends with the largest stage in the world for the biggest tech conference in the world, in Saudi Arabia, which now I am friends with the princess,
know the princess, know Stephen Bartlett,
like the list of people I know in Saudi,
I have my own driver there, like I have my own team there,
they're incredible, they listen to Tupac and Biggie,
like I have my people.
So for me going in my second time to Saudi,
oh, watch out this thing,
it's gonna be so different this time.
I don't have one ounce of fear.
Now, I'm sure things will go wrong.
I'm sure things will come up.
I'm sure there'll be last minute changes
in demands and faults and alarms that go off
and all the crazy things that occur,
but we'll handle it because it's what we do.
Step into uncertainty, start seeing it as a possibility
and start watching what doors unlock when you show up
as that real version of you stepping into your passion,
your purpose and your mission.
It's like millions of hands just coming out of nowhere
to help support you, guide you and lead you to where you're destined to be.
OK, so I'm so hyped about so much right now.
What? Yeah, I really I'm really OK. This week, I'm actually I'm giving hyped about so much right now. What? Yeah, I really am.
Okay, this week I'm actually I'm giving a speech out in Palm Beach this week for a very
different type of audience.
I'm super excited to give this talk.
I'm doing a virtual talk later in the week, right?
So listen, we're not slowing down for anything, but I will say this.
It's the last two weeks left this week and next week to apply for my mastermind.
Do not miss it.
And here's what I want you to know.
In the last couple of weeks,
we've started soft launching my mastermind for this year.
It goes for one year.
You're in my inner circle for one year
with incredible group of people.
A couple of the people in my mastermind really came to me
because they wanted all my contacts, right?
And I get it.
And so I'm gonna be able to pitch a couple of these people
to Saudi Arabia for the LEAP event.
I don't know if they'll get it. It'll be if they're, you know, if they are a good fit,
but I'm getting the opportunity to bring people forward they wouldn't have seen otherwise. I
connected people with my social media team and then they hired them. I connected people with this
woman that I partnered with on someone and they hired her. I've connected people with my podcast
team and they hired them. So they're basically replicating what I've done with my brand for them
in 24 hours, which took me years to do. Like, is to
find and vet people and find the right people and work deals and negotiate.
It takes years and I'm able to hand these things over lock and key to them in 24
hours and they're up and running. And it's just, it's for me, it's such a
blessing and miracle to watch that. And I feel so blessed to be able to give them
this gift because I didn't have it. And I feel so blessed to be able to give them this gift
because I didn't have it.
And it is frustrating when you have to figure out
and you don't know who to trust.
And I'm just grateful I can hand these opportunities
over to people that are so excited to launch their brand.
Because the reality is this,
launching your brand is critical.
Everyone has a brand today.
You have a brand already,
whether you're narrating it and holding the pen
or you're letting somebody else do it for you,
take control of it, own it,
and know that there is such value there.
I had this meeting with this billionaire founder
who was looking at me and considering me
for a board seat on their board.
And the conversation he said to me,
one of the reasons we're so interested in you
is because of your personal brand.
And I said, so what's your personal brand like?
He's like, oh, I never really developed it.
I said, you're kidding me. I said, and how many companies do you have? And he said, so what's your personal brand like? He's like, oh, I never really developed it. I said, you're kidding me.
I said, and how many companies do you have?
And he's so many companies.
And I said, so why don't you start today?
And he's like, no, I should have started back
when you did six years ago.
I'm like, yeah, I get it.
If six years ago was the best time, today is the only time.
You're only gonna keep getting bigger.
You're only gonna keep launching more companies,
more products, more opportunities, more services.
You're only gonna keep wanting to impact
and help more people.
Start shining your light, start telling your story, start teaching your teaching,
start amplifying your voice.
The world needs it.
The world needs a brighter place where people share more information from a
place of good, start rocking that brand and watch what happens for you.
So if you've been thinking about amplifying your voice, if you've been
thinking that you're made for more, maybe you've got this full time job and it's just not it anymore.
I'm not saying you quit. I'm saying you layer on the mastermind for the next 12 months.
And I guarantee you this, you will be in a much different place in one year. But do it
on your timeline. Don't do it the way I did where I got fired and felt panicked and didn't
know what to do next. That was scary. That is not something I would recommend to anyone.
But what I would suggest is build your side business now,
build your brand now, build your platform now.
In 12 months, you will be set up to take off.
That I've lived, that I've seen,
and I'm gonna give you my roadmap.
I'm gonna give you my contacts.
I'm gonna give you my teams.
I'm gonna give you access to everything that I have.
And literally this mastermind this year is the most incredible people,
supportive, challenging, holding each other accountable.
Already we're seeing it happen.
If you need that little push to get to the next level, this is the thing to do it.
Check out the link in the show notes below apply.
Now we will set up a call with you this week.
You can even get in by Friday. We get a team meeting Friday
I'd love to see you there. I'd love to see you take off and so would the world the world needs your message
The world needs what you have to bring forth in your unique style your unique frequency and in your unique way
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