Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - EMBRACE Your Confidence and SEE What Happens, With Heather! Episode 224

Episode Date: June 8, 2022

In This Episode You Will Learn About:  The value of feedback   Expressing your confidence  Appreciating the people around you Staying positive  Resources: Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Read James Altucher’s blog Show Notes:  Showing appreciation for the people around you can go a LONG way. It’s so important to realize that when someone feels special and appreciated, they WILL go the EXTRA mile and then some for you! Make a point to follow up with your clients so you can improve your work and feel confident in your results. Let your confidence shine through! Surround yourself with people who see your value, and leave behind the people who DON’T. There is NO need to waste your energy on negativity. The more good you do, the more good will find you!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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there is you're going to get updates on guests that I have on the podcast right here. Hello, updates on the podcast in general, as well as any deals I'm offering when I'm speaking live and it's open to the general public or just updates, right? So this week I felt compelled to write about something that had happened in my life and I got a lot of feedback on it. So of course, I'm going to share it with you today. So I wrote my newsletter this week about the idea that when someone feels appreciated, they will go the extra mile and then some for you. Right, and that's in life and in business. So what I mean by that is, you know, I'll use my own life as an example, of course, and I'm going to

use an example of something that happened to me this week. So as you know, my primary business is the speaking business. And in this weird world, we live in, sometimes we're still doing Zoom events, you know, not everything is in person, which is fine. It's better than nothing, right? Of course, I miss in person and can't wait till we're back full throttle in person, which is happening. But right now, I'm still getting booked for a lot of virtual events. And so this week, I had a virtual event for a great company that during the pandemic reached out to me, wanted me to headline their in-person event in Vermont, which ended up getting canceled and delayed

because of COVID. Cut to, they ended up saying, all right, we're sick of waiting. Let's just do a virtual event. So they brought me on for the virtual event. It went great. We got really amazing feedback. I was so grateful. And I, of course, any time I work with a client, you know, I want to follow up and make sure they were happy, you know, get feedback and then potentially ask for testimonial,

either my LinkedIn or from my website to promote my business, and you should do the same, right? We always want to circle back, close the loop, make sure that the client was happy, ask when we're going to interface with them again, ask, you know, for testimonial and then figure out what next steps are. So when I was circling back with her, she said, listen, here's a thing Heather, as you know, we've had to cancel and delay in person events driving us crazy. However, we are going to move forward now that things are looking better with this fall in California in person event. I don't know if I'm going to be able to afford you, but I'm going to do whatever it takes to get the

funds done because our team loved having you virtually and we really want to have you in person. the funds done because our team loved having you virtually and we really want to have you in person. So unbeknownst to me, I had no idea. This woman was very grateful for the job that I did for her event. I was grateful working for her. She's an amazing person. She's just one of these women that supports other women, just cool, transparent, quick to follow up, just perfect when you deal with someone in business.

She was really happy with the job I did. I was happy that I had the opportunity, happy to work with her and her team. Cut to, I get back from Memorial Day weekend and there's an incredible bouquet of flowers, roses, white roses. For me, and I'm thinking, who the heck is this from? You know, this has got to be wrong. I opened it up and it's from her and her team thanking me for doing such a great job for their virtual event and making it so special. And it was one of those moments that I just paused and thought, wow, you know, I really feel so appreciated by these people. And immediately in my mind, I thought, you know what, I don't care if this woman can't

get the full fee for my in-person event for her. I'll find a way to make it work. I'll go the extra mile for this lady because she so went the extra mile for me. She did make me feel special. She did make me feel appreciated. It was totally unexpected. And it just, I was so grateful for that moment. It also reminded me.

Back when I was in corporate America, I worked at that same company for 14 years. I was a cheap revenue officer. I won every award that there was out there. Hit every number. I mean overachieved, overachieved. I can count not only on one hand in 14 years, but on one finger, the one time that I felt appreciated there. Is that crazy? Right, this is the first time I did a live event, even though it was just on Zoom with this woman, and she's sending me a bouquet of flowers to my home with a beautiful note, follow up emails to thank me. I worked for that other company over delivered for 14 years, and I remember one time that somebody ahead of me, you know, or a superior in the organization pointed me out to make me feel appreciated.

That's nuts. So here's the message, if you're in a situation currently in your personal life or in your work life where you're not appreciated, I'm here today to remind you that's not okay. And there are people out there that will appreciate you that do want you there. It's just on us to leave the situation where we're not being appreciated so we can open up the opportunity for people who will appreciate us to show up. Okay, then it doesn't stop there.

It was just a crazy week of me feeling really appreciated, which if you've got a team of people, make them feel special. Use this as an opportunity or a reminder right now. Send everybody a personalized note, you know, that we're about halfway through the year and you want to thank them so much for their hard work, their effort, acknowledge something special they've done, make them feel special, ask them what you can do to support them. That's one of the important things we can do for our teams and for the people we surround ourselves with, so they feel seen, so they feel appreciated, and they feel special. So it was so crazy that it happened the same week, but HarperCollins leadership has many different divisions, right? There's the book

division, there's a speaking division, there's a marketing division, there's all these different divisions. And because there's so many different divisions, depending on what you're working on, you might deal with one more than another. Well, I get an email from the speakers division this week saying, hey, Heather, we'd love to feature you alongside a couple other author slash podcast hosts, which include two of my friends and guests that have been on the show and send this out to our million plus email list. Are you good with it? And I open up the email and it's just this really beautiful overview of a couple of my friends and their shows and them as speakers and me and my show and me as a speaker for nothing.

I didn't ask for it. Right. I wasn't I haven't been banging on their doors saying promote me, you know, for the love of God, I need you to start promoting me. This was just them coming to me saying, hey, we want to do something special to help you out. We're including a few other people with you. Ironically, it's people I know and love that I've worked with many times and I'm a supporter of and just brought such a smile to my face. And I told them, wow, thanks for making me feel special. Thanks for including me. You know, please let me know how I can help. I'll retweet this. I'll repost it on all my socials to try to help drive business back to you. I'm really grateful for this opportunity. So I close that down and wouldn't you know, two days later, I get an email from the book division of HarperCollins leadership from a guy I don't

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about your personal life and experience you've had with other people, how do you protect yourself from potential lawsuits? While one could say a solution could be just leave that part out, it's important to include in the book to build the story, credibility, and message. Just like you, Heather, wrote about the woman that fired you. How did you protect yourself from any lawsuits, any advice on how to word this in a book? Obviously not naming the people. Also, would it be different if these are personal relationships versus a professional relationship? Okay, here's why this is interesting and hang with me on this because I think you'll like this answer. No, I know you'll like this answer. So there's a funny backstory that I haven't told on this. I'm gonna tell you now because you're here in the fam. And I want you to know, it's interesting

because a good friend of mine who I hadn't seen since before the pandemic, and I had the opportunity to spend the day with the other day, she asked me the exact same question around, how come you never got sued by that lady? And by the way, what happened? Did she come after you? Did you cover it up?

What's, give us the real dirt. So I just had a good friend ask me this and then I got this. No. So number one, first and foremost, I am not an attorney. Right? Now, probably this might confuse you a little bit and I hope it doesn't. But here, just to set it straight, I'm not an attorney. So I'm not someone to give legal advice. I can explain my situation. That doesn't mean I'm advising you on yours. I am not equipped to give legal advice. I will share with you what happened in my situation, and I'll share with you the advice that I got and what I decided to do.

But you need to make your own decisions. I highly recommend anyone that has a legal question, reach out to a lawyer. That's just the smart thing to do. I always talk about this. Never take direction from someone who hasn't been where you're going. You know, yes, I've been in a situation

so you can hear what I have to say, but I'm not the authority on it. I'm not an attorney. So I'm going to share it with you, take it or leave it, but definitely speak to an attorney and find out what they think. Because I have no idea I never pretend to be an attorney. Now here's what's interesting. Back in 2018 is when I wrote and self-published my first book

confidence creator and this is really what she's referencing right because this is the first book and this is right out I just got and fired. I got fired at the end of 2017 actually coming up on five years which is so crazy. So I just got got fired and then I was writing and self-publishing this book. I was petrified by the way if anyone doesn't remember this petrified. Literally, like hiding under my bed scared that this lady was going to come after me. And here's why she was now the CEO of this company, making hundreds of millions of dollars. I'm this single mom who just been cast out had no job, could not go back to the industry. I was an expert in because they had me sign an 18 month non-compete non-solicit, which meant I could not compete in the industry.

I had expertise, knowledge. Now, I mean, I could have crushed it. If I could have gone back, I truly believe now that happens for a reason. That was the way to push me out of that industry and to get myself to do, take this leap of faith and go to work for myself, which seriously is a leap of faith. It is not easy. It's not for the faint of heart,

but I would have never done it if I could have just gone across the street and competed against them, right? So here's the thing, I was so scared back then. And I remember when I first finished Confidence Creator my first book, I sent it to my family members. My sister is an attorney. She called me immediately and said, hey, here's the thing.

You can't publish this. She's an attorney, my dude. And she said, you can't publish this. You're going to get sued. You're going to get sued by the lady that you call out. You're going to get sued by anyone and everyone you call out. And you're even going to get sued by Jen Sincero. The author of you are a bad-ass because your book is similar and she's going to sue you. And so this was legal expert advice, right? So I hung up with her made a smart decision. I called my editor. He written 19 books. And I

told him I said, my sister is an attorney. She said, I can't do this. I'm going to get sued. And he said, Heather, how many books have I written? I said 19. He said, you don't think that anyone ever told me I was going to get sued? I said, I don't know. And he said, no, plenty of people told me I was, but I just went for it anyways. And guess what? I never got sued. And that made me think back to my time in corporate America, you know, over 20 years I was leading teams and working for publicly traded companies in high profile positions. I was sued many times, right, in that environment. However, you have legal and a general counsel and the company's funds to protect you. So it wasn't something I worried about.

I dealt with it, you know, going to court depositions, all this kind of stuff. But so I'm familiar with the process. I don't like it at all. It's painful waste of time. But in most cases, you know, it's not true. And so you're just wasting your time defending that it's not true. So in the end, you know, either the company pays them to go away or you prove that it wasn't true and it's over and just frustrating. So anyhow, so back to all this is going on, my editor says, just do it anyways. I'm so scared because it's like that David and Goliath story, right? I'm this one individual person and she's the CEO, this massive company, hundreds of millions of dollars, a general counsel full time working for her.

I don't have that. Right, so I remember thinking all these things. My sister said I was going to get sued. Right, so there was just all this general fear around, oh my God, fear. Oh my gosh, here we are again, talking about fear. Fear is a green light that means go and go faster. Remember, so I was really clinging to this fear. Now cut to today, I was thinking about this,

and I remember thinking, okay, have I ever talked about this prior to now? And I remembered I had. So here's the thing, in 2018, a good friend of mine was a producer on the James Altature podcast, which is a huge podcast in New York City. He used to film it live

out of his comedy nightclub. And I had the opportunity to go on be his guest. He's incredible. Now, he's a friend of mine. And big fan of James Altature checked the podcast out. It's so good. Check out this episode. He actually has it up on YouTube. And it's hilarious. And here's why James is brilliant, man, super successful, written many books, right? He's light years ahead in me as an entrepreneur. He has his own challenges with confidence, which was really interesting for us to get into

on the conversation. But what's cool about this? And I'm gonna, I actually went to his website to search it up and I found a blog. He wrote about this. It's so spot on. So you're gonna love it. I'm gonna read it to you right now. Again, check out the about this. It's so spot on. So you're going to love it. I'm going to read it to you right now.

Again, check out the whole episode. It's so cool. But he interviewed me about the book, Confidence Creator. This was the week before it was coming out. And we get into right at the end when we're about to get off the show. We get into this whole legal question. And he really helped me break it down and push me through.

So number one, asking my editor for advice and direction was a really smart choice and then ending up in front of James who had, who's an author who had done this many times and getting advice from him really propelled me through. I mean, this is how I did it. Again, I do not give legal advice, hire an attorney if you want legal advice. Okay, here we go. So this is up on the James Altatur blog, and it's about this conversation James and I had

after he interviewed me on creating confidence. Here we go. The mic was off. Thanks for coming, I said. That was great. And everyone in the room agreed. When does the book come out again? Tuesday, I'm freaking out.

She said, that's me, by the way. Wait, why I was confused. We just did an hour long podcast about confidence. Where do you afraid of, I asked? And then I looked at my engineer, Jay, make sure you're rolling. Okay, stop for a second. So I had no idea James was gonna do this.

We were like off air having a personal conversation. And he says, no, hit record, let's put this on. Rolling, we're on. The podcast was back on. I was talking to Heather Monahan, author of Confidence Creator, which just came out this week. I thought we had a great conversation. I learned a lot.

But more on that later, I wanted to know what she was afraid of. It's her first book. And to me, that means one thing, opportunity. I think I'm going to get sued, she said. I'm so scared of that. Why are you afraid you're gonna be sued? James said. She told me some of her fears.

I started to tackle each one. That'll never happen because they need to prove X. And no, you don't have to even think about that because of why. And my friend Bill Betrete, he's a lawyer, turned comedian, he was in the room, and he agreed with everything.

So then I asked her, what else are you afraid of? And she said, missing my flight, I checked the time, and she left. I just spent the last hour playing devil's advocate with her. She was the positive one telling me how to create confidence, and I was the challenger, because she made it sound easy. Confidence isn't easy. I know this because I don't have any. These were the questions I asked, and I learned a lot.

I learned that I think I'll be a little more confident if I just take a few steps in the right direction. Number one, I said, it's hard to just start, particularly if you've gone deeper into the no confidence zone. So how can someone start Heather? She told me about her moment, moments, getting fired as a chief revenue officer because someone else didn't like her personality, getting divorced and questioning herself, her choices, and questioning who she was as a person. It's not about hard or easy, she said, this is a choice. If confidence was easy, everyone would have it. It's a discipline

and a choice. And she's right. The reason she bounced back from those low moments was because she decided to. You don't just bounce back by mistake. So when I asked her to walk me through step one, she made it clear. Decide. Decide if confidence is something you're willing to work on. Get clear on it. Number two, how do you make the leap? If you just got fired, divorced, went broke. How do you say, okay, I'm going to make myself priority number one. So in any moment, you're either going to be building your confidence or chipping away at it, Heather said. So she said after step one of deciding, you need step two, build reminders for yourself.

One of the ways she does that is with a 30-day plan. What does that look like, I asked? She told me about her son who broke his leg playing basketball. It was cool, she said. Not that he broke his leg. That was horrible. And for him, it was devastating because he was 10 and loves basketball. How do you break his leg?

A basketball game. He was devastated because he'd have to be basketball. How do you break his leg? A basketball game. He was devastated because he'd have to be out of the game for a while, but instead of allowing it to be some unknown amount of time, Heather helped him create a 30-day plan. I like to give myself that sense of, okay, I can get through today, I can cross this day off. They showed themselves that they could make it back,

and they had a bigger focus and goal of getting back on the court, getting back to the parts of life that they really enjoy. One of these days Heather's son even wrote on his shoes, I can do all things. Heather also did a 30 day plan trick when she got fired from her job. She made a priorities list each day. She asked herself, what do I want to focus on? Keyword, want, not need. That's so important. Because if she only did what she needed to do, she'd still be suffering. Staying sad for more than 30 days, that was never an option for me. She said, I had that map for the first 30 days. I was allowing myself to feel what I needed to feel. But honestly, within the first 10 days, I wasn't feeling that sad anymore. Doing what she wanted, making a list of it and checking it off each day, helped her

get out of her sadness and into her confidence. 3. How long should you allow yourself to feel sad? I like that she didn't push it away. This is actually the first tip she gives in her book, Confidence Creator. She said, it's okay to feel sad and to reach out and talk to people about it. But she also didn't let herself get trapped in it. So when I asked her how long someone can be sad for, she talked about vision. Beyond 30 days for me, I saw more for my future and my vision for where I wanted to go. So the first 30 days after getting fired, getting divorced

and so on, Heather dedicates to just getting through the day. She set her priorities and goes down the list. But after that, she makes a new plan, and it doesn't have to be exact. She didn't know the name of her buff or what she was going to write about. She even made a mock-up book one day just to push herself a little closer to the direction she wanted to achieve. It looked terrible, she said, but it helped me realize this is what I'm working towards. I think the reason so many people feel like their confidence is static is because we forget

to move past the 30 days. Something bad happens. We either bounce back or we don't. And wherever we land, usually ends up being our new status quo. But Heather showed me it doesn't have to be. I can make a new plan any day, and I don't even have to believe in it. I can just fake it until it comes true.

Heather even bought Cheryl Sandberg's book, Option B, for in case things didn't work out. Her son walked by it, saw it one day and said, you don't need a plan B, mom. So let's throw this book away, which she did. Okay, so I'm going to stop there. This article goes on and on, right? So that he's kind of recapping the whole show.

Check it out. James, Alta Chair podcast, just type in James Alta Chair, Heather Monahan. It comes up on YouTube. You can read this blog or you can go check out his podcast and listen to the whole episode. So a lot of the back end of the episode is about the legal part. So ultimately, James advised me, do not feel fearful about getting sued. It's not gonna happen. Anyone can sue you for anything.

It's completely irrelevant. And that should not stop you from creating or moving forward with your plans, right? So his advice as an author and entrepreneur was, just go for it, it's not gonna happen. My sister's advice, whose successful attorney was, don't do it, you're gonna get get sued. So everyone comes at things from their own life perspective, their own experience, which is great. My editor, who had written 19

books, came at it from his experience, he said, go for it, you're not going to get sued. So here we are today, cut to, you know, the behind the scenes. Here we are today, almost well now, I guess four years later, from book launch launch and I never got sued. And so of course where there are times I was so petrified when I would hear you have an official note at the desk Heather and my building I think oh my gosh that is here I'm so dead I'm gonna get sued and I'm gonna lose two years of my life in court and I'm gonna have no money. Of course I thought those things right I was super, super nervous. However, I needed a little bit of information

to understand some things. James and my editor gave me the push forward that I needed in that moment of time. I'm grateful for them. And I'm grateful I listened to them. Doesn't mean you should listen to them, but you know, consult an attorney and see what your truth is.

For me, that was my truth. I needed that push. They gave me and it worked out. Cut to, I signed with HarperCollins leadership and the end of 2020. And one of the things that happens when you sign with a big publishing house is they have a huge legal team. Yet again, it was like being back at a big company

in corporate America. Now I had a legal team at my disposal to use, to help me. So I had, now this is my second book, Overcome Your Villains. And so I get on a call the first time with one of the attorneys on my team and he had read my new book Overcome Your Villains. And he said, okay, let's get into some of the legal situations. Obviously, I don't want to use these people's real names. Blah, blah, blah.

Is everything that you're saying true? Yes. Okay. He said,. Blah, blah, blah. Is everything that you're saying true? Yes. Okay. He said, so here's the thing, Heather. He said, your first of all confidence creator. He said, I'm going to be honest with you. I'm surprised you didn't get sued for that. I said, really? You're kidding.

He said, but you didn't. And here's the great news. Because she didn't sue you for that, her statue of limitations has expired. I had no idea what that was. But apparently, I think it's a two-year statute of limitations. So he said if I was going to get sued, it would have had to have been in 2018 with confidence creator or in 2019 with my TED Talk, which I addressed her bullying me at work. He said, so it had to have been one of those two things.

He said, I'm here to give you some really good news. She didn't do it, she didn't pull the trigger while she had the chance, and so she can't anymore. He said, so we're pretty much in the clear with overcome your villains because you're not basically, I'm not releasing some whole new hidden thing that I've never talked about before. I might get into more detail on some things and overcome your villains, but I've already addressed them and the bigger picture earlier on, so he explains to me as my attorney that there's nothing she can do anymore, which is so crazy that, you know, had he not told me that, I'd still have a little bit of fear around it, right? I mean, it's kind of a weird thing when it's the unknown. You just don't know what to expect.

Okay, so that was great news. And then so I was talking to my girl from last week about it And she's saying are you shocked that she didn't see you or or you not shocked? Here's what I know. I'm sure she got legal advice, right? But here's what I think she got for advice that maybe she regrets now Maybe she doesn't I don't know it doesn't really matter, right?'s irrelevant, but I have a feeling that someone said this to her that, you know, you suing her, Heather will blow it up on social media. She'll expose it and she'll leverage it and use it to her advantage, which of course

I would, right? I would definitely bring you into the story on it and I would definitely let people know. And here's the thing, you know, Heather was telling the truth with what happened. So really, for you to make a case that she's defaming you or, you know, saying something that isn't true, how are you going to do that? Right? You're going to be pouring gasoline on a fire that doesn't need to be amped up. Just give it some time. Heather will, you know, go away or Heather will go back to corporate America, take another job and no one will ever talk about this again. In my mind, I have a feeling she probably thought, yeah, that's, you know, listen, there's really nothing to sue her about because she's telling the truth and to make

this a big deal and try to shut her down, it's going to be really hard to do that. And we just be amping up her voice, amplifying her voice even more. So they probably decided, okay, just, you know, let Heather go away. The weird thing is, and I shared this on my social a couple of weeks ago, when I left that company, we were trading at, I think it was $11 a share price was, right? And that was at the end of 2017, in 2018, that stock started going down. It's gone down consistently for the last five years. It's trading at a dollar, the last time I checked, a dollar and 30 cents, I believe it was. So what's weird is I mentioned the David and Goliath concept,

right, like this huge company and then this little me. And so, I mean, I'm still not some huge company, but the trajectory has changed. And the reason why I share that with you is, things don't always go the way you think they will, right? Like I was so sure I was going to get sued. I didn't get sued and then I found out from my attorney now, I can't get sued by her. Like it's over.

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And so I was talking to her about this morning, I was so happy for her and she said, you know, just the weirdest thing. She said, as soon as I shared my sadness and released this awful thing, it happened and that I was struggling, she said it was only a couple weeks later, I thought, oh my gosh, something's not right. She went in to get tested and she became pregnant right away. And I said, you know, it's just miracles happen. You letting go of the fear, you letting go of the upset instead of hanging on and clinging

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I got that advice from James Alta-Turham. So grateful I got that advice from my editor and that I went for it. And now I'm so grateful for my attorney telling me, I don't have to worry about it anymore. And now that I have all this knowledge, I wish I hadn't worried about it for four years. Right. I was giving my energy away. So stop giving your energy away to worry.

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