Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - How To Be Aware, Be Relentless, & Take Yourself To The Next LEVEL with Heather! Episode 116

Episode Date: May 26, 2021

Have you ever been completely called in to assess the standard you hold yourself to? That’s what happened to me this week and it has totally inspired me to take myself to the NEXT LEVEL! And I encourage you to do the same. This week we discuss how our environments affect us and how to use our surroundings to our advantage. And we also cover one of my most asked questions: how did I book Gary Vee? Come along for this quick dose of knowledge and keep building your confidence!  Rate, Review, and Subscribe to the podcast here! To inquire about my coaching program opportunity visit https://mentorship.heathermonahan.com/    Review this podcast on Apple Podcast using this LINK and when you DM me the screen shot, I buy you my $299 video course as a thank you!    My book Confidence Creator is available now! get it right HERE   If you are looking for more tips you can download my free E-book at my website and thank you! https://heathermonahan.com    *If you'd like to ask a question and be featured during the wrap up segment of Creating Confidence, contact Heather Monahan directly through her website and don’t forget to subscribe to the mailing list so you don’t skip a beat to all things Confidence Creating!     See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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as per normal, a lot going on. You know, the thing that I was thinking about this week, well, a few things, this has been the craziest week that I have to share with you, but it's been a tremendous amount of highs and lows, which is so interesting, because when good things happen, you would think, oh, this is just great.

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was happy to share. Super, super excited about it. And excited about working with new people that, you know, from all over the country. And it's just, it's a great opportunity. Okay, and learn about a new business too. Okay, so that was great. What was not so great was I had this huge opportunity. I was in conversations with, I'm not going to say who it is because I need to get this, the baby's not been born.

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you want to check, right? And Google's one of those marquee brands that it's a huge one, right? It's sort of like Harvard. You know, checking that one is the ultimate. And for me, I was so freaking nervous for this talk. It was virtual, which was sad because I really wanted to be in front of the Google logo, right?

And get that cachet, that didn't happen. But hopefully in the future, things are changing so quickly now that, you know, maybe that's just a few months away. I'll be hopeful and optimistic about that. But no, this one was done virtually and I was super, super nervous. It was crazy. I put so much pressure on myself.

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concerned about what the long-term impact is going to be. So I actually reached out to physical therapy rehab facility to try to figure something out. So it's just been one day something great is happening the next day, something not so great is happening the next day. And just trying to navigate through all the highs and lows. And I'll tell you, the one thing that I am super optimistic about is change is occurring so quickly right now, just didn't the world in general. And I'm seeing the South Beach Food and Wine Festival is going on here in Miami right now, which is crazy.

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And it's just going to be really interesting for all of us to see what the things are that we're excited to go back to and what the things are that we are going to miss from the pandemic. And oddly enough, first world problem, I love during the pandemic that our soul cycle class was on top of a roof in the most beautiful city. In Miami, right, we're sitting on top of a roof in the most beautiful city. In Miami, right, we're sitting

on top of a roof looking at the ocean and trees and it was so exceptional. And now that's gone and we're back to the real studio. And I miss, so I'm already missing something from the pandemic. I'm hopeful that come winter this year that they allow us back outside again. Hopefully it wasn't just for the pandemic, because it really, you know, your environment impacts you, affects you a lot, a lot more than I realized, and that making that switch from outdoor, you know, really appreciating all the beauty

around us to now going indoor into a small dark room, it really resonated with me. Wow, our environment impacts us profoundly. And the way I perceived people, so when I would see the instructors outside, they were up on an elevated area, and we were down beneath them a little bit. And just that simple change,

they looked bigger and grander than the way they looked to me now in this little tiny room eye-to-eye with us, right? So that just reminds me when you're speaking or in a meeting, you know, your environment really affects how people see you. And it's just, it's something that I didn't typically think about, but I'm really being conscious of now. Okay, so then there was this crazy experience that I had this week. All right, so I was hired to speak for Harvard. As you know, I was teaching at Harvard, but this is separate. This is a different division.

I was hired to be a speaker for an event, June 23rd, from Harvard. So this is working with a completely different group of people than who I was working with teaching. And so I get this note sent to me saying, you need to set up your tech check call, because it's a virtual speech.

I'm not going in person. The whole event is done virtually. And so I'm thinking, why do I need to do a tech check when I've been teaching there all a year? Obviously, my tech is fine. I don't understand. So I tried to get out of it. They wouldn't let me.

They scheduled me for an hour-long tech check. And I'm thinking, who the heck? I've spoken for hundreds of companies all around the country in the past year virtually and no one doesn't a one hour long tech check, right? That's nuts. Here's why they're Harvard. And this is something I want you to think about when you think about levels of excellence. And I hadn't thought about this previously. So I get on the call, I get on a Zoom actually with a guy from Harvard. He's in a suit, a full blown suit.

And he has me mapped out for a one hour tech check call. So immediately I say to him, wait a minute, pump the brakes. Why are you in a suit? And he says to me, this is Harvard. And there's just this level of excellence, this level of something other, it's other level, right? And I haven't seen someone in a suit in a long time. So I said, well, to that point, let me ask you a question.

On the day of our event, should I wear a suit? He said, would you wear a suit if it was in person at Harvard? I said, I guess I probably would wear a dress or a suit. Yeah, I would. He said, then you need to do the same thing virtually. Super interesting to me because I have been much more casual this year than I've ever been in my life, ever been in my career because it's been a pandemic. But right away, he snapped me back to, okay, this is a different

level of excellence. This is about the next level of this. It's Harvard. So then he started with, and this was crazy. I had to share my screen and he went in and checked. He ran an internet test on my computer to make sure the internet ran fast enough. He went and saw the storage on my computer to make sure I had enough space. He tested things that I didn't even know existed. The good news is I had just gotten a new computer. So he said I was in great shape. Then he tested my microphones. Then he had me change my microphones. Then he told me I couldn't use my airpods. He went shape. Then he tested my microphones. Then he had me change my microphones. Then he told me I couldn't use my airpods. He went through.

Then he tested my lighting. I had to put my lighting. It was crazy. And here's what's so interesting. He said there is zero tolerance for any failure at Harvard. And I said, explains me what that means. And he said, the reason why we go through these massive tech checks, we will not allow for any error.

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the level of excellence. It just made me think, you know, how often do we hold ourselves to that level or that standard? To him, it was crystal clear. This is Harvard. Yes, I wear a suit. Yes, we do a one-hour tech check. And yes, there is zero room for error. And we will not have anything go wrong. So, now that he's raised the bar on me, I am going to dress much nicer than I would have. I am going to practice more, right? I realize that this is another level. So so crazy knowing that I've been teaching there all year long and now seeing this different division and realizing the level of excellence and the standard

they hold themselves to. And now I'm going to push myself to that next level too. So I ask you this, what level or standard are you holding yourself to? And do you think it's time to myself to that next level too. So I ask you this, what level or standard are you holding yourself to? And do you think it's time to go to that next level? Hold tight, I'm going to be right back. I mean a different guest each week. Okay, so I have gotten a question that I feel like I answered this a million times, but I'm going to go ahead and answer it again. People are asking me how I landed Gary V.

How did you get Gary V in the show or how do you get these amazing guests on your show? This week I had James Altature on my show, which he is an amazing human being. We had a mutual friend, and that's how I was able to meet him initially back in 2018 when my book launched. He had me on his show, and then we became friends,

and then I had him on my show, and we became friends and then I had him on my show and now I had him on, again, on my show because he's promoting a new book which is freaking amazing and you definitely want to check it out. And so if you haven't heard that episode yet this week, go back and listen to it, it just dropped and he's an unbelievable guest. He's brilliant and just he's a wonderful person. Okay, that's that. Now, so back to GaryVee. People have been asking me about that. Here's the thing, for three years, I DMed him. Three years. It wasn't like I reached out to Gary Vee and got him. For three years, I DMed him occasionally he'd respond or someone on his team would respond to me, right? And there'd be dialogue and then crickets. And so when I got serious about launching my show,

I said, I've got to go big. I want Gary Vee to be my first guest. So I made that decision. He was going to be my first guest. And I took out a Google alert on his name and take out Google alerts on things that you want to happen because it opens your eyes to what's happening in these people's lives. So I learned that he was launching a wine company with another man. And I figured I bet this other guy is easier to get to think Gary Vee. So I got a hold of Trowdy. This is the other man, his partner, and I sent him a DM and said, hey, I was in the wine business for a long time, did really well.

I'd love to give you a couple of tips and tricks that I learned to help set you up for more success with your new company. He called me right away. We jumped on a call, we talked for about an hour, and at the end of the call, he said, there's ever anything I can do for you, please let me know.

And I said, sure, can you get Gary to be my guest on my show? And he started laughing. And that started the process, right? So showing up and helping other people, well, first declaring that I'm going to make it happen, then taking out the Google alert, putting three years of effort and work into this, and then putting myself out there, reaching out to some guy, I don't know, and offering to help and support him

and add value to him in what's important to him and his initiative. That's how I got on the call. Call went great, and then he opened the door by saying, you know, how can I help you? And I capitalized on that. So it was a long process, but here's the thing, and people get frustrated or discouraged,

and they just walk away from things. I guess my top tip to you on this one is just don't give up. Keep going, keep going over the obstacles. Stay focused on the solutions and stay focused on your goal. Never give up. Be relentless about whatever your goal is and you'll find it. That's exactly how I land my guess. I'm relentless in my pursuit for them.

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