Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - It’s Time To STOP Playing Small & ELEVATE Your Frequency, With Heather! Episode 298

Episode Date: February 22, 2023

CLICK HERE NOW! Use code: Confidence to save 15% sitewide at justthrivehealth.com In This Episode You Will Learn About:  Reconnecting with your true purpose and finding worth in every day  The importance of getting in tune with your own frequency levels and learning how to control the energy around you   Why it’s KEY to lean into your faith during times of uncertainty and change    Resources: Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/creatingconfidence and get on your way to being your best self. Use code: Confidence to save 15% sitewide at justthrivehealth.com Show Notes:  Have you been struggling to LET GO of the negativity in your life? Maybe it’s time to reconnect to your “why” and re-discover your passions! I’ve felt called to write a new book for a while now, and I want to hear your feedback on the piece I’m going to read you! It’s time to start tapping into our positive energy and elevate our frequencies! Remember, for every problem there’s a solution out there.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You're back here with me this week. Okay, so it has been a crazy week in my world. I've been back in fourth to New York. I don't even know how many times. And it was not all seamless. I'm just gonna start off there. It was kind of a nightmare. The first flight I had out was like the crack of dawn.

I think I was up at three. It was awful. I don't know if you're like this, but when I have a super early flight, I can't sleep all night. So I looked horrible. I ended up buying a baseball hat. That's how bad I looked.

I was just like a train wreck and I had to speak and an event. And my eyes were swollen. It was just, it was a disaster. But anyways, I let go of it. I'm like, all right, I gotta let go of this negativity, find a way to make anyways, I let go of it. I'm like, all right, I gotta let go of this negativity, find a way to make this work, reconnect with my Y,

like, why am I doing this? And I can make a difference in one person's life. You know, it's all worth it. That's what I always say to myself, anyhow. And turns out I did. And I'm so proud. I know the guy's gonna be listening too, which makes me so happy.

But I had this amazing trip and definitely had the chance to impact not one person's life, but a few. And thank you, by the way, for the nice notes that people send me. And this is just a reminder, when somebody impacts your life in a positive way, let them know. Take the two minutes to send a nice note because it might make that difference in that person's life that day, right? And I don't know, just it's so good to put good out there. So please take a minute, press pause on the show and go send a nice note to someone that deserves it, someone that supported you or encourages you.

I'm so blessed and lucky to have so many people that encourage me. Now, I just reminded myself I have to go send a nice note to a few people after I'm off the air. Okay. So back to this week. So this young man who had sent me a video note, which is so thoughtful. If you really want to be thoughtful, that's like super thoughtful. He sent me this video note before I went to New York and basically just said, you know, that what I do in my content, the impact it has on his life and how much it means to him. And it literally made me cry. I made my son watch it.

I'm like, look how amazing this young man is. You know, he's not much older than you. I'm saying my son I was crying. I was like, this is incredible. Look at the impact you can have on someone's life. Anyhow, my son's like, mom, you're crazy. Get over it. But so I meet this young man at the event and I was so excited to meet him. And we took

a picture together and anyway when I'm leaving that event, because then I had to jump on a flight right away after that event to come back home. And when I'm leaving, the young man says, oh, you're not coming to dinner and you know, there were a bunch of other things at this event that they were doing. And I couldn't because I had to leave. And he says, I'm so bummed, I didn't get to spend more time with you. And I'm like, oh, yeah, well, I'll be back. I'll be back in a day and a half because I was coming back to the city for some meetings and to do a show, the sit and friend show on ABC. And so he says, well, why don't I just stay? Apparently, he didn't live in New York. I didn't know. He says, why don't I just

stay? And I will, you know, meet you and go on this, you know, watch you do the show. And I'm like, oh my gosh, that's the sweetest they ever heard. Okay, if you want to, sure, which is a little crazy, right? I don't even know this kid, but there was just something about him that he has this great energy and I don't know. He just tugs at my heart. So I said, yeah, sure, no problem.

Come meet me and you can come watch the show. So I fly home, I'm home for a day, I fly back to New York and anyhow, I had some meetings, whatever, and then it's the next morning and I'm going to do the show. And the young man's there at ABC Studios when I get there in the morning.

So I'm like, this is kind of bizarre because now this is the kind of stuff I do in my life. I commit to things and I'm like, oh geez. I really didn't think that through. Hopefully he's not a killer. Like hopefully he's not a stalker. He wasn't. He's so sweet.

And he sat and was writing down the things that I would say that would impact him. So we had this whole thing. I ended up spending a day with him. And at the end of the day, had this whole thing of, you know, important notes that he had taken throughout the day. I have to read them to you. They're so cute. So anyhow, make a long story longer.

It really impacted me in such a positive way. But I know that I impacted him because not because of the list, but because of this. So we go, we all go, I'm also with my friend who does my makeup and like, assists me and helps me and supports me in every way Cynthia was with us too. So we're all at the airport together and we're in the American Express Centurion Club, which I'm obsessed with. AMX is not a sponsor of the show, but they should be because I'm obsessed with my AMX. So anyhow, we're sitting in LGA in the Centurion Club, which I'm literally in every other day these

days. And I love it there. The people are so nice. Like they're all my people. And we're having this great time talking. And he asks me, he says, something to the effect of Heather, like what is, like if you have to point to one thing in your life, like what's the difference make or like, you know, what's the real reason why you succeed or like what's your secret? I don't remember exactly, or like what you know, what's the real reason why you succeed? Or like, what's your secret?

I don't remember exactly, or like, what's the key? I don't remember exactly how he phrased it, but I remember how I felt when he asked a question. And immediately I knew what the answer was. It's my faith. That my faith is really what's changed. Listen, I've always been a hard worker. I've always been someone that will seek a solution

no matter what. I'm always someone who's going to ask for what she wants. I'm always someone that's going to go bigger. I'm all like, that's who I am. But things have changed in such a dramatic way in my life since my faith was strengthened. And I've been talking about it on the show on and off for a little over a year now. And it's just incredible. I know I'm so clear on it and so many incredible things have happened in my life. It's unbelievable. Actually, it is believable because it's my faith and you know, however you want to see it, it's a higher power, it's the universe, I see it. It's God in my life. And so my faith is so strong that it's undeniable. And I've just, I'm so grateful for my faith. I'm so grateful that God's given me this gift. And it did not happen overnight, right? It's definitely been a process in my life. But I'm here now and I'm just so grateful

and it's so clear to me. So anyhow, so the young man's asking me, like what is your one key or whatever? And I say it's my faith. And I look at him and I said, what's your relationship with God? And so then he discloses that it hasn't been the greatest right now.

And I've had times in my life like that too. I remember when I got divorced, I kind of was like, I'm done with church, I'm done with it all. You know, and I'm not judging anybody, but when I saw that that was missing from his life, I knew that's what he needed. It was crazy. It was like one of these moments. It was so clear to me. He needs faith. And so he can take all the notes in the world and like learn all the business tips and I can give them all my strategies on how to get ahead. But until he unlocks his faith, it's just going to be more challenging and it should be. He ends up going home and his mother's been like giving him a

hard time about going to church and now he's going to go to church with her and and I truly believe like he's starting down a path now to strengthen his faith. And I'm so grateful. Oh gosh, I was bawling my eyes out. I was so happy like overjoyed like my cup runneth over. It was just an amazing moment for me. And so for anyone listening right now that you're questioning your faith or your faith isn't that strong.

That's okay. You're not alone. Right, I was totally there. It's been a work in progress, but you can strengthen your faith. And when you do miracles, they're gonna start happening your life. Ask God to give you signs and you will see.

If you seek, you will find, right? It's really true and I'm just living proof. And so I can't even put it into words better than this. I mean, I will put it into words better than this because I'm literally writing a book about this. Maybe that's how it came up. Maybe he was asking me what my next book is about, but that's what my next book is going to be

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What you say or don't say impacts the frequency and the message received. How you spend your time changes your frequency. Let me give you some examples. Picture this. You land in a new city knowing you are going to see your team and you love them and so you're excited and anticipating a fantastic trip. You check into your favorite hotel and feel at home ready for a good night's sleep.

The next morning you head out early to meet your team at the office. They are just as excited to see you and kick off a successful meeting. The frequency is so high and vibrations are off the chart. Ideas are flowing and you can sense something really big is happening. This is high vibration and equally high frequency. When you are running on this level, great ideas come to you, opportunities present themselves, and you are at your best. Conversely, on another day, you are heading over to the corporate office.

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Let the games begin. You are immediately ignored, and when you turn to your friend to roll your eyes, your friend messages you how painful the day ahead will be. Things unfold exactly as you knew they would. The day is uncomfortable. Unproductive, full of triggers, sarcastic remarks, and void of creativity or problem solving, as there were low vibrations and a clear lack of trust all the way around. This is low frequency. When you are stuck on this level, you feel stagnant,

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that if you're intentional about, self-aware about, it can impact your life greatly. It's impacted mind greatly. So this is just another way. And the guy, the young man, like impacted my frequency in a positive level, right? Like looking at the people you're surrounding yourself, what, looking how you're spending your time,

being honest with yourself, having honest conversations when you get the urge to say something actually falling through and doing it, it's gonna elevate your frequency. Where all these things are ways to elevate your frequency, and that's a very positive thing. Having a lower frequency is not going to bring the opportunities into your life that you want. But listen, here's the thing, no one's going to be on a high frequency all of the time. Right, we're going to have negative things are going to occur. They happen to everybody's life, but it's how we respond to them, which is the real key.

And so I want to challenge you today to be aware of the frequency that you're on currently, know that you have the power to change it. Like for me doing this podcast right now raises my frequency because I love hanging with you. I love my show, right? I'm so proud of it. So it makes me excited and it puts me in a good mood. Now listen, there's plenty of negative things happening in my email right now. I saw some things I didn't want to deal

with this morning, but I said, you know what, I'm just going to put a pen in that. I'll get back to it. I'll deal with it later on today, but I wanted to raise my vibration first where like I wanted to go and work out, which makes me feel great. Go for a walk outside, which makes me feel amazing and then come to my podcast, which puts me on an even higher vibration. You have the power to do all those things in your life. And I know what you're thinking. No, I don't have there. You know, my life isn't like yours. Don't forget, I had that 3am flight or whatever I was on the other day. And my life isn't always great either. I have to do

things I don't like to do. However, my faith is really the cornerstone of my confidence. And I just have this really strong belief that everything's going to work out. And I ask God every single day, please close the doors that are no longer meant for me. Please open the ones that are. And please show me the way there. I surrender to you. I turn my life over to you. God, show me the way.

And then I thank God for all the miracles in my life. Everything I'm grateful for, my health, my son, my wonderful friends, my beautiful home. This amazing city that I live in, all of these opportunities that come to me, all the good in my life, and so much more. And I thank God, everything I'm grateful for every single day. And I encourage you to do the same. And if you don't have a relationship with God, then think the universe. Think that higher power out there, because I think we all know that there is a higher power, but I don't want you to feel like, just because this is how I'm handling my life

and how I show up, doesn't mean you have to show up that same way I want you to do what works for you. You'll know, you'll feel your frequency will be higher when you're aligning in the right way, whatever that looks like for you today. And by the way, that can change over time as well. So, you know, be mindful, be intentional, elevate your frequency, know that yes, there's challenges that will come,

and those challenges will find solutions to overcome those challenges, and will be stronger as a result, right? Like, we'll become more resilient, which is a beautiful gift. We'll become savvier, we'll find better ways to overcome the challenges, navigate the challenges, and then we'll start anticipating and expecting these beautiful miracles to be all around us. So, okay, I want to read to you what this young man wrote down. Okay, here we go. These are the things that he took away while we did the show

that he felt were important. I hope that you'll find that they are helpful to you. Okay, show up and deliver. Yes, be you, be bold. That's me. Be adaptable. Yes, you have to always be ready for change and constantly evolving yourself. A strong- why, a purpose, and great relationships. A strong why and

purpose is really important in life. If you haven't found yours yet, start asking yourself, what is that why? It all starts with asking good questions. Okay, keep you going, oh, those things keep you going through tough times, true. Data doesn't lie. That's a fact. Anytime you're confused about something, look at the data, the data will shoot you straight. Don't take nose from someone who can't give you a yes. Oh my gosh, that's one of my favorite stories. When years ago, I was taking a no from someone who couldn't give me a yes when I was pitching for a position that I wanted this company to create. And I ended up getting the yes, but only when the individual who I was asking called his father, who was the CEO, never take a know from someone who can't give you a yes.

That's just a door that's closed. It shouldn't be closed. Leaders communicate with transparency. Okay, this is funny. I was on the Sid Rosenberg show and we were talking, actually it was about Biden and the lack of communication. And that's just leadership 101. You've got to communicate clearly with people.

Let people know what you're thinking. Don't be a mystery. Knowledge isn't power. Application is power. Oh, I love that. Yes, you need to access knowledge first, but then you need to apply it if you want to transform. So, information, application, transformation. I love that. Wait, I'm saying that. I love this to the notes that this boy took about me. This is hilarious. Okay. Resilience is the X factor. Oh my gosh, I was just telling you about resilience. Resilience is so important. And that's why we need to welcome challenges and problems that come along.

Resilience is the X factor. And to strengthen your resilience, you've got to face some challenges and overcome them. And you will. Tough times, create resilience. I'm so excited reading this. I just want to jump up and down. See, I need to get a life, clearly. Embrace the challenge, lean into adversity, heck yeah.

Adversity is your advantage. Oh my gosh, I love this. Put in the extra effort with your relationships. It's so true. The grass will grow where you water it. People ask me all the time why I have so many friends for my entire life and I have a crew of best friends. It's massive. We fly all around the country seeing each other and we spend time together and we we make plans together and we talk on the phone and we

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Storytelling is a superpower. Use it. Use it to market yourself on your personal brand and your business absolutely. You can't be overdressed, but you can be underdressed. Oh my gosh, we had this amazing guy on the show, a fashion designer, and he was incredible. So I know that's what he's noting here.

Okay, dress your worth and feel the confidence. Fashion is a message. That's really powerful. And when you think about that, how you dress today, you're sending a message not only to yourself, but to everybody that meets you, that sees you walking down the street, make it a good one. Okay, don't worry about the little things. It's so true. If it's not going to matter five years from now, don't let it matter in five minutes. Let it go. Don't waste your time worrying about the little things. It's so, so true. Prioritize what matters most relationships. Done is better than perfect.

You know, I live by this. Fear is a green light that means go and go faster. Take bold, messy action. Heck yeah, and don't be afraid. Fear is a liar. It's not real. Sleep when you're dead. Oh my gosh, this is hilarious. Dream until it's your reality. This is so crazy. I saw this message after I walked out of the show in New York and I've been wanting to get my own show for so long. First, I won it my own TV show, PS. So we haven't gotten it yet, but when I walked out of ABC, that was a note. I saw written on the concrete right in front of me. Dream until it's your reality. And I think you should dream until it's your reality because if you expect it, it's going to happen. Don't give up.

The world needs your light. Stay in the present, shine your light. So that's a message to you today. Stay in the present, shine your light. The world needs to be a brighter place and you can make that happen. I hope you like this show today. If you like to tag me, share it.

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