Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - Let Go Of Scarcity & Let In Abundance With Author & Podcast Host Cathy Heller Episode 201

Episode Date: March 22, 2022

In This Episode You Will Learn About:  How to receive Finding your peace & prosperity  Practicing mindfulness Resources: Website: https://www.cathyheller.com/  Listen to The Cathy Heller Show Read Don't Keep Your Day Job Instagram: @cathy.heller Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Get your TAJA x Heather Monahan candle & use code: Creatingconfidence15 at checkout! Show Notes:  Do you ever feel caught in anxiety, fear, and scarcity? It’s so hard to do things without the certainty that it will work out! But that’s the KEY! We need to move forward with uncertainty and connect with our consciousness instead. How can we do this? Host of one of the top inspirational podcasts, The Cathy Heller Show, and author of Don’t Keep Your Day Job, Cathy Heller, is here to show us! Take a trip into “oneness” and discover the beautiful abundance that is waiting for you! About The Guest: Cathy Heller is a fire hose of inspiration. She’s the host of the popular podcast The Cathy Heller Show, which was given the #1 spot on iTunes recommend list of shows for the New Year in 2018 and 2019. Each week, Cathy encourages thousands and thousands of listeners to find more purpose in their life and get paid to do what they love full time. From her start as a successful singer songwriter for TV and film, she is now author, coach, and host of her top ranked podcast. When she’s not teaching or interviewing amazing guests, you can find Cathy playing with her three little girls, writing her book, songwriting for tv shows and commercials, or enjoying a moment with friends. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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do do do do do do do. Where look at the anatomy, the feminine receives the masculine does. Look at making a child, for instance, they're both inextricably linked. They're both an absolute necessity. But the masculine, it's a moment, and then the feminine holds the space and receives and receives and allows and expands and expands. And that's 99% of the process of making a child is this feminine, allowing, expanding, receiving.

So in our world, we tend to be sort of convinced that it's about what are you doing? What are you asserting? What are you pushing? What are you, right? Well, that piece is critical, but that's literally one percent of it. I'm on this journey with me.

Each week when you join me, you're going to chase down our goals. Overcome adversity and set you up for better tomorrow. That's a no-sleeping day. I'm ready for my close-up. Hi and welcome back. I'm so excited for you to meet my new friend, Kathy Heller. She is a fire hose of inspiration. She's the host of the popular podcast Don't Keep Your Day job, which has over 28 million downloads.

She's been featuring Forbes, Entrepreneur Magazine, HuffPose, Inc. The list goes on and on. Her show has had the biggest names, most recently, including Tony Robbins. Kathy's book Don't Keep Your Day job was released in November 2019. It's filled with inspirational stories from the people in her community who have taken control of their own life's journey. Her book goes into the detail of how to find work you're meant to do, grow your business and wake up to a life you love. Who doesn't want that? She's a phenomenal leader for creative entrepreneurs and she's helping people everywhere add their gift to the world. Kathy, I'm so excited to have you here today. I'm happy to be with you. I'm just gonna say not to correct you

because I do this on my show and I'm like, oh no, but I only mean it for the good. We actually changed the name of my podcast this year in January to just the Kathy Heller show. And everything else you said is totally accurate. Well, I was glad I got to get the updated numbers in there jumping from 24 million to 28 million downloads, which is literally guys for everyone listening right now.

That is mind-blowing. Like, you have made it. How the heck did you get your show to be this big? Well, that's a good question. I asked myself that question a lot. People ask me that. In fact, I also teach a podcasting program, which we're going to be running again soon,

because I love podcasting. I guess I'll answer the question by saying intimacy is currency and podcasting is different than YouTube. It's different than reading a blog. It's different in so many ways. There's 169 million videos on YouTube. There's two million podcasts. Okay. And when people listen to podcasts, they listen intently, right? If you are watching a YouTube video, maybe if you could keep somebody's attention for four minutes, that's like incredible because people are sort of multitasking and they're looking around. But podcast listeners are self-selecting content that they want to really, they want to do a deep dive.

And so most podcast listeners, the behavior patterns and the data show that they listen to the whole episode. So I didn't know that going in. But I know that now what I did know going in is that the Talmud says that words from the heart speak to the heart. And I think that I fully have always done this in my life. Like, there is no Esther Hicks as there is no amount of action that can compensate for energy. Right? 98% of the world really is energy. This isn't like woo woo, this is like an atom, right? Like we're all made of atoms is it's actually 99% energy and it's less than 1% physical. In fact, even the physical part of an atom, the kind of physicality it is is more like a liquid, so I don't even know how much physicality is involved.

But anyway, there is this unified field, right? That's Einstein theory, right? There's a unified field. And so people talk about the law of attraction and all that stuff. The word kabbalah means to receive. So my rabbi would say, it's not really the law of attraction, it's a law of reception. So I have always, you know, known that. It's kind of like, if you change your energy, the vibrational signature you're putting in the world, your life is completely different, right? Like our life is a combination of how we think and how we feel and then how we think and how we feel determines what you're going to do. It determines your behavior. What also happens though is that when we think of thought, we don't just think of thought every thought that we think has a chemical that comes with it in the brain. in thoughts, they make you happy. You get literally this internal pharmacy drip of oxytocin when you think something that makes you happy, gratitude, joy, compassion, excitement,

enthusiasm. When we think things that make us feel stressed or gloom and dooms type things, we immediately get a hit of cortisol in the brain. Then the body actually becomes addicted to it. Cortisol has been proven to be more addicted than nicotine. So people are addicted to suffering, people are literally addicted to it. And then you're, you're cells actually develop receptor sites for things that you're addicted to sugar. So the more, the more you have, the more you need it. And then there's a dependency, there's a chemical dependency, just like we would have on any, any chemical. So if by three o'clock, you've been actually starting to feel excited about this new guy you're dating or your body is going to be like really a need of that cortisol, you're probably going to start to think some like shame self doubt because your body is obsessed right. This is how it works. and I love where they come together. I studied mindfulness at UCLA for two years. I have a mindfulness research center.

I studied there and I was just blown away and then I studied in Jerusalem for two years, studying mysticism and Kabbalah. And I've been on the search, and we've had 600 guests on my show and I've interviewed Deepak Chopra, Miriam Sintoni Robbins, Dr. Phil, Barbara Quarker, and I mean, like Howard Schultz

and then like all these other amazing people like you and so many of my incredible inspiring empowered female friends, but the point is it's all the same thing like it is all the same thing it is about we are directing the movie of our life we are casting it we're directing it right so it has a huge effect right I said to somebody, do you think that you're in control of what happens to you? Most people are, their first reaction is no. So then I say, okay, well, do you think that your personality has an impact on your life? Maybe a little bit. And so, let's look at your personality. Your personality is a combination of how you think and how you feel because that determines what you do, right? So if somebody thinks a certain way and feels a certain way and then does a certain behavior, what would you say that is? Like, oh, maybe they're in like a mood, right?

But if they continue to do this, that's what we say. Like, oh, that's just how that person is. So your life is equal to the thoughts that you think you get that, right? So it's all about us. like we have been given the power. God's not like over there like whatever the word God is that's like an interesting word but I mean in the Torah there's 80 words for God. So it's like Eskimos have 70 words for snow. You don't just say it's snowing. You're like what does that mean? It's always snowing. What kind of snow is it's sleet? Is it sledge? Is it whatever the are, right? Is it powder? Is it so that word is an interesting word, but the point is whatever that unified field is of consciousness, it's inside of everybody. So we are in control of writing this movie because we've

been given this ability to connect with that. So that's how my show has become what it is. And that's how anybody's anything has become what it is. It's like no one's coming to save us, nobody ever came to save anyone, no one's coming, no one, but it's inside of us. And so when you are frequency, like a radio is tuned to a certain station, you'll hear certain kinds of music. If you turn the radio three degrees to the left or right,

you'll hear different music. So what are we receiving? We're receiving whatever we're tuned to. Does that make sense? This is mind blowing to me because, you know, this is so funny. So often I'll have people on the show and their experts and different things and I'm always curious and interested to learn what you're talking about right now.

Like this is what I'm on the doorstep of where you've already moved into the house. So to me, it is I'm just learning about all the stuff that you're talking about. When you just shared that quote, I believe you said Esther Hicks, something around, you know, being the hardest worker is never going to compare to the energy they hold with something like action can never compensate for energy. Yeah. In my mind, when I heard that, that's how I built all the success that I've had in my past life in corporate America.

It was 100% built on hard work, outwork, everybody. You remember when you, I had had in my past life in corporate America, it was 100% built on hard work, out work, everybody's forced. I know you remember when I had you on my show and I kept being like, this is so cool because you talked about being at that sort of vendigram of having been all in on the action, but now having realized that so much of the alignment piece like really it sort of creates these ripple effects, like an atom bomb of that's what people don't get,

because in Kabbalah, the right and the left represent different aspects of gender, right? And we all have, every human being has a masculine and feminine energy inside of us. That's the beauty of, right? That's like, it exists in everyone, no matter what they identify as. So, the right is the masculine masculine and the left is the feminine.

That's just like what it says. And different traditions have like chakras, right? And it's fascinating how they all actually overlap, right? It's like the seven chakras is identical to the sphero, which is in the cabal. It's just amazing, because these people didn't have conference calls. So how did they come up with the same information, right?

It's like there's some truth. It just, we all keep coming back to you, whether you were living in India or you were living in Jerusalem. It's like, we got to the same answer without getting on zoom and asking if we, it says, it's really cool. The point is, most of the time, we're obsessed with the right, with the masculine. And the masculine is like, do, do, do, do, do. Look at the anatomy.

The feminine receives the masculine does. But if you look at that, right, look, do, do, do, do, do. Look at the anatomy. The feminine receives the masculine does. But if you look at that, right, look at making a child, for instance. First of all, you need both. Like, it doesn't happen, right? So they're both, they're both inextricably linked. They're both an absolute necessity. But the masculine is like, it's a moment, right?

And then the feminine holds the space and receives and receives and allows and allows and expands and expands and expands. And that's 99% of the process of making a child is this feminine allowing, expanding, receiving. So in our world, we tend to be sort of convinced that it's about what are you doing, what are you asserting, what are you pushing, what are you, right? Well, that piece is critical, but that's literally, if you look at what I just said, of creation, that's creating life, right? That's probably a good model.

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99% of it is, what did we say before? They're allowing, they're receiving the expansion. Think about women you know as an example, who date the same kind of guy over and over and over again. There's just a way she's drawing that to her, right? Think about women who have this incredible amount of class and grace. Let's use the royal family, for instance, like Megan Merkel and Kate Middleton.

There's nothing about them, at least in what we all see. That's like assertive in terms of like, you will recognize me and blah, blah, blah, blah, and look what I had to do. It's kind of the exact opposite. It's like so back in the pocket of like, this is just what is that everybody is like, oh, let me get the door for you. Oh, thank you so much. Right. So there's a way in which when I first moved to Los Angeles, I was 23. I wanted to get a record deal. And that's a whole fun journey. I did get a record deal.

I was signed to InnerScope. I got dropped from InnerScope. I got signed to Atlanta. I got dropped from Atlanta. I went on a writing music for TV shows and films for 10 years, like pretty little liars and criminal minds and switched to birth and McDonald's commercials. And I made a career out of that.

And that was what I thought was gonna be like it for me. And I had a couple of my two first daughters at the time. And then I wanted to actually continue to follow the breadcrumbs. And my whole world opened up so much more than I ever thought. And I started a podcast and wrote books and all that stuff. But when I was first in L.A., I didn't have a trust fund. My parents are divorced. My mom was a single mom.

We lived in an apartment growing up with very, very little. I slept in the living room and had to work a couple jobs just to kind of have enough money to pay for lunch in school. You know, that kind of a thing. No big deal, but like it wasn't a silver spoon kind of a life. And when I was in LA, I got my, you know, whatever job I could get to pay my bills and I had my roommate and everything. And I would take $200. That's a lot of money for me when I was 24 years old. And I would take $200 and I would spend it to go to the peninsula and go to the spa at this beautiful five-star hotel in Beverly Hills. And I knew that if you bought this massage, you had access to the spa for as long as you wanted. So I was like, you know what,

that's such a great way to spend the day because I'll go get a massage. And then I'll spend an hour like in the seam room and then afterwards I'll go in the sauna and I'll use those lavender icy towels with the eucalyptus. And my friends would say to me, you should be careful, like that's so much money, you can't really afford that. And I would say like, I can't afford not to do that.

That day would give me so much,. And I would say, like, I can't afford not to do that. That day would give me so much the way I would expand, the way I would feel, the way I would start to allow more of what's possible to seep in, the way I would start to align with, that the amount of things that would happen afterwards were just giant. And it's always been that way. Like you always go first, right? We go first. We co-sign scarcity or possibility. And so I was always like, I would go first when it came to abundance, when I started my podcast. Like I didn't think what's gonna be the ROI,

how fast are people gonna listen? It was just like, I'm doing this end of story. So it will be. And then yeah, for every 16 people in the beginning, I asked to be on, there will only be one person who said, yes, but it didn't matter. And it was the same thing with writing music. When I got dropped from the label, I had a day job for a couple of years. And I thought, oh, this is what I have to do because my dream didn't work out. And I have to be practical and get a job. But I was so unhappy. And finally one day I was looking at myself in the elevator doors.

And I saw myself wearing high heels and like a double breasted pants suit. I just started to cry because I was like, you came out here with this like authentic alive spirit. And now you're like, you don't even recognize yourself. I quit and I didn't have anything to fall back on. And now I don't tell people that they should quit. I say, hey, use your job as your investor and build the bridge. And let's work together to figure out what you're gonna do

instead of scrolling your phone because everyone's on their phone at least six to 10 hours, at least a week, not 40. I was like, let's use those hours to build your side hustle. And then in like three to six, nine months, you'll quit your job and people they do. And they're very successful that way. I didn't know that. I didn't have a coach. So I just quit, but I had to because I knew I was, I didn't have any other possibility. It wasn't clear and I was like, I gotta get out of here. And when I did, I started looking around

and I was like, who says that I can't do music? Just because I didn't actually get to tour the world like Rihanna or Taylor Swift. Like there must be something here because I got so close. So I started to ask a different question. If you ask a new question, you'll get different answers. And I was like, is there any other way for me to do music? And I started to Google how do other people do this? And I saw there were artists doing this thing called

licensing their songs. And I was like, what does it mean to license your song? And why is Jocelyn's Creek and one tree hill and Grey's Anatomy? Why are they using all these indie artists like Ingrid Michelson and why are they using all these people? Christina Perry's song was licensed to, so you think you could dance. And the next night she had 200,000 downloads of this song. And she was a waitress, like I was like, oh my God, I never even thought of it.

So I was like, that's what I'm gonna do. And I started to reach out to all of these people at Netflix NBC Paramount and I was nervous. I felt crazy. Of course I did. I was like, I don Paramount, and I was nervous. I felt crazy. Of course I did. I was like, I don't even know what I'm asking for. I don't know what I'm, I mean, I was like, so you'll be uncomfortable.

So what? And I was. And then I learned, okay, that doesn't get you past the front desk, ask it a different way. And then I learned, oh, the name of the person who chooses the music is called a music supervisor. So then when I would call a network or I would call a a network or I would call

a movie studio or I would call an ad agency because they have them too, I would say can I talk to the music supervisor. Then I got smarter and I would look up who the name of the music supervisor is. I would Google, do a job advertising or ABC family music. And I'm going, oh, can I speak to so-and-so. And then I got better at having the conversations. And my point is like my friends would be like, that's insane. You should have an agent, aren't there people who do that? And I said, look, no agent is going to wake up and think about me as much as I'm going to think about me. So I'm going to do it.

What's the difference? I can figure it out. And I wound up figuring out that it's about having empathy and asking people questions and not saying, let me pitch you and be impressive. It's like, no, let me make a relationship with you. Oh, hey, Scott at Leo, I'm making this up. Leo Brunecht, Chicago.

I know you're doing McDonald's. I saw your last ad. I love that song by Spencer Ludwig. How do you like living in Chicago, PS? Oh, you like it. What's your favorite pizza place? Me too. I've actually been there.

Oh, do you like Uno's East? And if you are, what's the storyline? Oh, you know, it's a McDonald's ad about best friends. We're gonna need something that's like Edward Sharp and the Magnet, Netflix Zero's meets blah, blah, blah. And I would be like, you know what? What if I wrote you something and I'll send it to you? And he'd be like, cool. Yeah, I don't have any guarantees, but go for it.

I'd be like, cool, I'll reach out. I'll reach out when it's done. Then I would go to a producer in LA and I would say, hey, I can't pay you for this track up front, but I just spoke to this guy who works on blah blah. And is it worth your time to like give me studio time with you two hours in the evening when you're done with whatever you're doing? And I'll cut you in on the back end. And it's like be resourceful. Like your greatest resource is not any resource, it's your resourcefulness. But do you see how there what I mean? Like it was always like a fate of complete.

It's like, I'm doing this. It's like, I'm doing this. We'll figure it out. It's not landing on the moon. And even that, we figured out how to do. So then it would work out. And then sometimes it would work out in the sense that the guy at the ad agency or NBC or Netflix would say,

you know what, that song doesn't work? But let me tell you this, there's something else we're doing. Would you write a song about, or sisters or brand new day? I'd be like, yeah. So then I would get in the pipeline because I wasn't again looking for the ROI. I was like, I need it to work out. And why didn't I was, this is the energy, right? I was always in this energy of like, this is so fun.

I'm anticipating how cool this is going to be. And I wound up making about 400 grand a year writing music for film and TV and sitting over there on my shelf, I could grab them right now. But I was featured in Billboard and variety, not like a blurb in Billboard magazine, like they did a full page spread with a picture of me, like, who is this girl making this money without a label without an agent? Then the same thing happened in Variety magazine, full page. My cousin was at the news stand in New York City and he's like, is this real? Like, there's a full page spread on you. And I was like, I actually said to the editor of Billboard when we sat down to do the interview. I'm like, is this really newsworthy? And he's like, Kathy, note to sell. Like, don't ask

me, you know, because it makes, why would you want me to sit? And I was like, you're right, you're right, you're right. But I was just kind of doing my own thing. And then, oh my God, I saw the next possibility and next possibility. And I wound up long story short, being featured on like six or seven music podcasts. I never thought I'd have a podcast. And people who had music podcasts would say, let's talk about the business of music and how you did it. blah, blah, blah. And then one of the girls, there were so many emails that would come in from artists saying, I heard your interview, oh my God,

can you coach me? And I was like, no, no, I don't coach. What are you talking about? Like, I don't do anything like that. And this is 2016. And one of the girls wrote me an email, and she's like, you should start an online class. Because there's so many songwriters around.

And I was like, what's an online class? What are you talking about? And she's like, you should start an online class. Because there's so many songwriters around. And I was like, what's an online class? What are you talking about? And she's like, yeah, people do this stuff online. I'm like, I don't even have an Instagram account. I don't even have a Twitter. I'm not on my, I never was an online person. I said, you know what? I was pregnant with my third daughter.

I was like, what do I have to lose? I guess I could teach an online class to songwriters. I didn't have a podcast yet. Still didn't have an Instagram, no email list. And I just decided, okay, and so I did a webinar, but it wasn't a webinar. Like, I didn't make a slideshow. I don't know how to make a slideshow.

So was it a webinar? I don't know. I was live for an hour, and it was the first time I had ever even used the software. It was like a Google Hangouts, or I don't even know what I used. But I figured it out was nothing fancy, there was no funnel.

And for three weeks leading up to it, I posted it in different songwriting groups, like, hey, I'm gonna do this thing. And you can tell from the way I wrote it, like there was no cool, polished, like it was just like, I'm doing this, people didn't even know who I was. It was like, okay, come to it.

And we did this Google Hangouts webinar, I guess you could call that, I was pregnant, I was just myself. And at the who I was. It was like, okay, come to it. And we did this Google Hangouts webinar, I guess you could call that, I was pregnant. I was just myself. And at the end of it, I was like, I'm gonna teach a class, it's $1,000. I didn't know what I was doing. I was like, well, figure it out together. I'll answer your questions.

Maybe I'll bring in some music supervisors here and there to answer questions for you that what they look for. And 147 people signed up that night. And I got off and I was like, this is crazy. Like, yes, I was already making $400,000 a year, something like that. We had already bought our first cute Spanish like style house in LA and we were able to afford

the kids to go to a good school. But that was crazy. I was like 147 a grand, it was on for an hour. Like, that's crazy. And now I'm just gonna talk to these people once a week. And I loved it. And then three months, four months later, one of our students, Amy, she said to me,

this has to be a podcast. And I was like, what's, what does that even look like? Like, I don't listen to any part. I think I've been on a few. She's like, just start one. And so I said, okay, I'm so busy. Now I have three kids. The youngest one was like a month old.

And I was like, well, no time like the president, I'm not gonna get any less busy. I have three little kids under five and I have a career. So I was a final start of podcasts. I was like, I'm just gonna do it. It wasn't like, I'll do it until I have a thousand down. I'll just do it. And I started the podcast and as the podcast was growing,

I was like, I'm not going to be doing music much longer. I could just feel like this is what I came for. This is really what I like to do. I loved it. I didn't care if I was interviewing someone early on who just owned their own bakery. I didn't care if I was interviewing because in the beginning, it wasn't famous. People, I just loved that. Here's what I started with and here's where I landed and I get to do something I love and I'm making 10,000 croissants a month and I can't believe like I went from dropping at high school to doing this or whatever people said. And then it just, it really grew. And the reason that downloads moved from what you first said is because we get about a million downloads a month now,

that's how much it grew. And yeah, I've gotten to meet, I've interviewed Rob Lowe and Matthew McConaughey and the property brothers and Harry Connick Jr. Like, I've interviewed all these guys that like, I've had a crush on my whole, it's so awesome. And not to mention G-Pock and Marianne Williamson and tomorrow I'm interviewing Ben Rector who not everybody knows him, but he's a songwriter that I just love.

My kids are so excited. So I love doing the podcast. The podcast turned my business from, you know, with the class, my first class for songwriters, I think we did make a million dollars the first year. But the podcast has turned my business into multi-multi-millions. Like it's about to be eight figures this year. For people that don't have the certainty,

because that's one of the things that I've struggled with as I'm learning about this power, that we all have, that I was not aware of existed. Right? I just did not know. And so becoming aware is like step one, right? Like, okay, this is a thing. But now, how do you develop that certainty when it was something that you didn't even believe before?

Ooh, I love that you're using this word because it's the actual opposite of that. So the ego, right, the way that Freud and every psychologist who studied the way that humans are constructed, the way that we understand who we are, we have an ego, and we have our, sort of, our higher self, our consciousness. So let's just look at that for a second. So when a person would be sitting under a tree or talking to their boyfriend or eating yummy sushi, there's the part of you that's eating the sushi, and then there's a part of you that's aware, like, oh my god, this is so good. That's your consciousness having an experience of your experience. It's like a, it's the drone shot,

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They know fresh. Sincerely food. Sincerely Randalls. So the ego is a construct, it's a fictionalized thing that gets created by the brains wanting to protect us. Okay, so when a deer hears gunshots, they go into fight or flight. Their heart races, the pupils dilate, the blood rushes to the extremities. They're in their ego, they're all ego, they want to protect, and then they find a place. Hopefully they

get to safety. And they can do the studies to see like when those gunshots have been gone for like 15 minutes, the deer goes right back into flow state. They're not in that revved up place. Their heart rate isn't right. The ego, what's so interesting and really terrible for us is bad news, but we can fix it for humans is we actually live in that fight or flight most of the time. Well, when you're in that fight or fight place, you get bought into the illusion, there's scarcity and you need certainty and you need to kind of get to safety all the time when there's no tiger in the living room. Everything's really fine.

Like 99% of the time, it's really okay. It's better than okay. It's amazing. It's a gift. It's awesome. So the brain has 70,000, let's say, thoughts a day, and most of them repeat. That's an automatic software program that's been running for like 30 years. Like as long as I'm, since I'm eight years old, this is the same program every day. That's all ego made up. That's all made up by my ego. It's like, oh my God, what's she gonna say?

So that's where we have to sort of go, only my ego, like really wants certainty. Because why? Certainties a way to protect ourself. I didn't have any certainty. That's why everything good happens. Because that's the magic, right? When Michelangelo is playing with color,

the reason something magical happens is because he steps beyond that edge of needing certainty, right? Like the amazing discoveries are beyond the horizon. It's, that's the reward for letting go. When Tom Petty comes up with a song, he can't get there from ego. Like, oh my God, and I'm so nervous. I had already hit. And how is it going to happen? And you're not tapped in. When you close your eyes and you can just breathe a little bit

and get out of your mind spinning, there's always a part of us that's connected to the infinite one self. It's like Marion Williams and said to me the other day, if you were to look at the ocean, you can see that every wave is connected. But there's no way to like separate one wave from another. And there's certainly no way to separate the wave from the ocean itself. They're all connected. That's how we are. We're all connected to this infinite oneness,

this infinite fluid energy, right? And when we connect to that, we get the, and we go, oh my god, when we close our eyes this infinite fluid energy, right? And when we connect to that, we get the, and we go, oh my god, when we close our eyes, and we take a few deep breaths, we're like, yeah, there is like this well-being outside of, and Depokchooper says it this way, like, if you say to yourself, I am Cathy Heller,

your mind will give you a lot of evidence and a lot of images that make up what that means. If you just say, I am. I was just like, hmm, what's that? So the I am part of all of us, that's what's abundant, whole, infinite, amazing. That part of us doesn't need any certainty. We're totally at peace. That's part of us is full of compassion for ourselves, for every other being, that would be ridiculous to think that part of us needs certainty. We're fine.

In fact, we're very happy there. We just don't live in the IAM most of the time. So I've been practicing meditation for years, and that's why I was saying, like, I love that place. I don't really wanna get too certain because certainty is what I can predict and what I can predict is only what I've already experienced and I want something that's amazing and beyond, right? What do we all want? A transcendent, wow, kind of experience. Well, the wow comes from, oh my gosh,

just all of a sudden this thing happens. Like, yeah, because you went beyond what your ego could be certain of or predict, that's where all the magic lives. Nobody really wants certainty, right? We want this unbelievable mystical, incredible experience, which comes from this feeling that, see, we don't create from lack. We can't. And we don't, people talk about manifesting, like, we don't manifest what we want. Never. We manifest what we are. We don't create what we want. We create what we are. We don't get what we want. We get what we are. So when we are the IAM, when we are connected to the part of us that's creative, that's whole, that's open-hearted, that's loving, that's enthusiastic, that's passionate, that's full, so full, so full heart, so amazed, so beyond blown away by this moment, we get everything, because we are, we're a match for it. Abundance is a match for more abundance.

You can't be in scarcity and say, I really want wholeness, but it's outside of me. That's not true, right? So that's how, does that make sense? Well, I mean, it's outside of me. That's not true, right? So that's how, does that make sense? Well, I mean, it's a lot. I'm gonna tell you that it's a lot for people who aren't, you know, you've been living in this. So explain this to me. When did you make the switch from, you know,

you explain how you grew up, which did not sound like you were living with the same way of being, this I am wasn't there. Do you have this one breakthrough moment in your life when it just came together for you? When I was in college, I started out as a theater major because I write songs and sing and I was like, oh I guess I'll do that. And then my parents had been divorced for so long and there was so much pain for so long and I was like, you know, I really just want to read books that give me a sense of peace and meaning and so a friend of mine said, you know, you can get a degree reading those books. I said, what how? And she's like, just walk over to the dean in the humanities department and ask him like, what major would let you just read psychology

books, philosophy books, religion books and you get here for your degree for it? I was like, that's amazing. What a cool idea. So I go over to the dean and he's like, there's like five ways you can get that degree. And he's like, why don't you, he's like, why don't you just be a comparative religion major? Then you can take classes in Buddhism, Judaism, Sikhism, Jainism, Christianity, whatever you want. And because you need to fill out the major, you can take philosophy classes. You can take whatever you want, but we'll fill it all in. You'll take international studies stuff, you'll take some anthropology. I'm like, great. I was like, this is so much more fun than theater. Like I grew up doing theater. I didn't need to study that. So off I went. And that's where it started.

Right? Like I started studying while my friends were going to a bar or reading, I don't know, an advertising book, taking a communications major. I was reading about Siddhartha. I was reading about sitting by the river. I started reading John Kabat-Zin. I started reading Kapol. I started reading and understanding and appreciating

like the similarities between Moses and the Buddha. I started to study this stuff. And then I went on a trip to Israel, which I wasn't going to go. I was like, oh, it's far away. But I had never been. So I went and I was so blown away. I was like, oh, I'm going to come back after college.

And so after college, I was like, let me just go to Jerusalem for like three weeks and see what happens. And I stayed for three years. I stayed in Jerusalem for three years. So I was 21, 22, 23, and then I moved to LA. So I was like swimming in it. It's kind of like the equivalent of Jay Shetty. He was like, I was a monk for what was he a monk for like two years. So when I was in Jerusalem, I was so full, like learning and study and walking these 3,000 year old cobblestone streets. I didn't have a TV. I wasn't watching movies.

I didn't have a self. I was like in it. So when I moved to LA, I kind of had an upper hand, which was I was totally and fully present. Like I was really there and happy, like in a very genuine way. And so tell it. Everything turned to gold. Yeah, and so that's why I say to people like, because I witnessed my parents suffering so much,

my mom was suicidal, my parents had so much violence in my house. My dad was so anxious, he used to not only drink all the time, but he would scratch his arm till it was like raw all the time, like so much anxiety, so much pain, and so much suffering. And once I started to like live in this world of meditation and prayer and mindfulness and understanding like the concepts of the universe and studying science and quantum physics,

I was like, it really makes all problems go away. Like there's no problems. I'm serious, it's like suffering is totally optional. Pain is inevitable, but that's good too. It's like the day is gonna have 12 hours of light, 12 hours of darkness, totally designed that way. That contrast is fine. It's built into the universe.

It's the getting caught in this place where we're literally not in wholeness. And so that is the work that I hope people do that. And from that place, then yeah, I love all the action stuff too. It is 2% of it, but we can totally talk about it. I geek out on it because that part is fun. And after you've done something like several times, right? Tony Robbins says success leaves clues.

It does. And so I love teaching people like you want to make your first hundred grand. Totally doable. Let's do it. Let's reverse engineer how you're going to do that. But before you even start, you have to be this potent energy. You have to be aligned. You haven't like, what does that mean? I'm like, I'm going to start to help you. And slowly people learn, oh, this is always a breath away. So I don't know if that helps,

but what are some of the steps for people who they're aware? They hear what you're saying, but they don't know how to immerse themselves in it the way that you really immersed yourself in it. What are some of the steps they can take? I mean, one thing that's super easy, I've just been giving this to people as a gift on Amazon. And I'm not sponsored by them, I should be. But there are these two little speakers.

I think it's like $175. It's called Now. I think it's called like tone therapy or something. It's a meditation and it's three minutes. It'll shut off after three minutes. And it's a recording of sound bath, like a sound bowl. So you hear different sounds coming out of both speakers. You push them both at the same time.

And they go off after three minutes. And everyone has three freaking minutes, right? And it's brilliant because the way that they've designed it, the scientists who made these said that if you can just listen for three minutes, it's equivalent to a much longer meditation. And I like mixing the sound with the meditation because meditation is just focusing your attention, but focusing your attention on breath, which is what most people do. That's like the black belt of meditation. It's hard. It's really hard. And the mind wanders. That's what minds do.

There's nothing wrong with that, but the mind wanders and the ego is very busy and the ego is very used to suffering. So it goes into it all the time. But if you're listening to the bells, it's just easier for your mind to focus the attention, which within 25 seconds, you'll start to feel this like your nervous system will calm the hell down. And you'll start to feel this part of you and you'll go, I like this. Like I really like this. And your body will be like, Hey, this is way more stimulating and better for you than scrolling your phone. And you will be addicted to the suffering because that's the way your biology is wired. But if you do it every day, you'll start to

want to do three minutes in the night too. You won't want to miss it because it feels so good. So I would start there. I would also say that you can meditate without meditating. You can just be mindful. For instance, you can decide that every day between walking to your fridge and walking to the coffee maker, you're going to notice the feeling of the balls of your feet and your heels touching the floor. That's going to start to bring you into the present moment. And the more we start to be in the present moment, we feel happy and we feel peaceful. And the best, most productive thing you can do for your careers to feel happy and peaceful right now. Because when you start to feel happy and peaceful, the creative ideas, you're going to be like,

oh, you know who I should text? Oh, you know what, real I should make? See the whispers, the breadcrumb, the flow state of your amazing creative genius zone. It's all there. But when we're in doubt and constantly replaying this, who's going to listen and what you're never going to hear the whisper of the next right action and you're not going to be aligned. So even if you did it, you're like, hi guys, and you're going to feel in your live or

you're going to feel in your post, there's a codependency. You're going to feel this person needs the likes. It doesn't work that way. It won't work that way. So these are a few things and now we can talk about whatever you want, but I'm so happy to talk about some of the strategic steps to any of it because I literally geek out on all of this stuff. I love making millions of dollars and I see how simple it is because there's a simple way to put something in the market and test and validate and then scale it.

It's not hard. It's just that we like give up so easily or we don't necessarily see psychologically like what makes people buy. Why do they lean into things people never buy anything they buy feelings. So what's the feeling involved. What's the story being told, we just miss a lot of stuff. But when you actually see it, it's not hard. It really is not hard. I know it's not hard because I was an Australian student and I don't have anything unique other than being tapped in. Which is so incredibly powerful. And just the fact that you shared that this with everyone

and with me, because this is the right where I am on my journey. I'm so, so appreciative for the way you explained it, the steps that you gave us. And I'm writing everything down. I'm getting, I'm getting the speakers. I will be doing the meditation. I'm all in because for me, I know that's a difference maker.

And for everyone listening right now, this is legit. Kathy is the real deal. I mean, check out her podcast, the Kathy Heller Show, unbelievable teachings and truly start opening your mind to that suffering is optional. And that's just so powerful. Kathy, how can everybody find you?

Oh my gosh, come, come, come. Come on, come on. The podcast is the Kathy Heller show. You can find it wherever you listen to podcasts, Apple, Spotify, whatever. And on Instagram, I'm at Kathy.heller and Kathy's with the C. And thank you for just like such a fun, delicious conversation. You're the best. I can't wait to get to see you in real life and give you a hug. Thank you for all the good work you're doing for the world. You're so welcome. Thanks for having me.

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