Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - Making The Impossible, POSSIBLE With Heather! Episode 316

Episode Date: April 26, 2023

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join me here going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity and set you up for better tomorrow. That's a no-sweet thing. I'm ready for my close time. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so I've gotten some good feedback when I share with you a little bit about what happens on my Sunday trips to church.

So I was at church earlier today, and I love, first of all, I love the church. It's incredible. You can totally check it out online, our pastor Rich Wilkerson, Jr.'s incredible, super relevant, funny, cool. It's not blame. I'm just gonna put it out there.

Okay, it's not lame. It's always uplifting in a great message. And today was really interesting. for a couple of different reasons. Our pastors shared two different examples or two different stories that I guess I had heard years ago and completely forgot about. I wanted to share them with you if they've been off your radar or if you never heard of them and how relevant they can be to your life. The first one is the story of Roger Bannister,

who has a legacy in the running world and the runner's world of breaking the four minute mile. Now, if you're not a runner, you're like, what's the big deal? Okay, breaking a four minute mile's ridiculous. It's insane. That's, I can't even, I'm a runner and I just, I mean, if I hit a seven minute, my I'm happy, six and change.

It's like, you know, I'm killing the world. I'm literally, I'm, oh my gosh, I'm in the best shape ever. So the fact that someone, you know, no one was able to break this barrier. That's the whole point is that this big number, this big four minute number became a thing, mentally, for people, and no one could break it. So I was googling the story around Roger Bannister, found a couple of different articles, and I just pulled one up from Harvard Business Review, and I just wanted to read a little bit about the story to you to see how it relates to your life. I definitely see how it relates to mine.

I'm sure you're going to think about how it relates to you. Okay, so the beginning of this article, again, Harvard Business Review, the story about Roger Vanistard, they're talking about how he had passed and he was the first human being to run a four-minute mile. How big his legacy is, not just as one of the greatest athletes in the past century,

but as an innovator, a change agent, and an icon of success. As it turns out, when he broke through a previously unbreakable track and field barrier, he taught all of us what it takes to break new ground. And truly, from what my pastor said today, within the next year, after he broke that record, five other people were able to break the same record. That says so much about the power of watching someone else do something and then realizing it's actually possible for you. So interesting. We talk about this all the time. If you're not going to do it for yourself today, do it for those people coming after you, show them what is

possible, which is exactly what this man did. Okay, most people know the basic story of Roger Bannister. In 1954, he busted the four-minute barrier with a time of three minutes and 59 seconds. But he talks about there's always a behind story, a behind every major story, and the lessons for leaders who want to break through their own barriers, whether that be mental or physical or otherwise. Bryant reminds us that runners have been chasing this goal forever and the challenge involved the most brilliant coaches and most gifted athletes and still no one could do it. For years, people were striving to beat this time, but no one could beat it. It had become as much a psychological barrier as a physical one. And like an uncunkerable mountain,

the closer it was approached, the more daunting it seemed. So, of course, so many people at that point in time would say, it's not possible, right? You try and, you know, the best in the best in the world and the best and brightest coaches are all trying and working towards it and no one can crack this. I'm sure plenty of people are saying it's just impossible. It's just not going to happen. But it just hasn't been done yet. And that's the key is to remember, no matter what it is, and there's so many examples of my life I can use of this, it just hasn't happened yet, right? We can't forecast the future. We don't know what trick or hack or good night's sleep might change everything for us.

It's why you can't accept others' barriers or others' limitations. You have to continue just to break through them for yourself, because you don't know what's possible yet, because what's possible today is going to be totally different than what's possible tomorrow, just from the information that you access. Or like I said, or the good night's sleep could be the game changer. That's typically the game changer for me, by the way. Okay, this was the Holy Grail of athletic achievement. It's fascinating to read about the pressure, the crowds, the media, how intense this was such a big deal. And also the fact that this guy was an outlier and an icon. He was a full-time student who had

little use for coaches. He devised his own system to prepare for the race. And the British press constantly ran stories criticizing him for his lone wolf approach, which people would say not to take on, right? So he did it differently and people gave him a hard time for that. Does that sound familiar in your life when you try to do something differently and people tell you it's never going to work? So the four-minute barrier stood for decades and when it fell, people had never predicted that this man would be the one to break it. Experts believe they knew the precise conditions in which it would fall and they were wrong, right? It wasn't the weather, it wasn't the strategy, it wasn't the kind of day at the track, it it was the same thing. It was the same thing. It was the same thing.

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It was the same thing. It was the same thing. It was the same thing. and his most ardent rivals, briefed as I relieved at last, somebody had finally done it. And once they saw it could be done, they did it too. Just 46 days after Bannister's beat, John Landy, an Australian runner, not only broke the barrier again, but this time he beat Bannister's time.

Then within a year later, three other runners broke the four minute barrier in a single race. Oh my gosh, altogether, that's incredible. Over the last half century, more than 1,000 runners have conquered that barrier that had once been considered hopelessly out of reach. What an interesting example into the human psyche

and what it shows and why it's so important that whatever you are passionate about, whatever talent and skill you have and whatever weird and unique way you want to approach it, don't let others talk you out of it just because it's not right for them just because it doesn't work for them and just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it's not going to happen for you today tomorrow or the next day. Okay, so in fact two Warton School professors analyze the lessons for business of the four-minute mile in their book The Power of Impossible Thinking and the

emphasize that mindset is the bigger deal rather than the physical accomplishment. How is it they wonder that so many runners smash the four minute barrier after banister became the first to do it? Was there a sudden growth spurt in human evolution? No. Was there a genetic engineering spirit? No. What change was the mental model?

It always goes back to mindset. It's so wild. The runners of the past have and held back by the mindset That they could not surpass the four-minute mile because it simply wasn't possible when that limit was broken and other saw Suddenly what had been impossible was now suddenly possible the thinking the strategy the competition and the leadership Emphasizes no matter what it is revenues cost, costs, niches, leverage, innovation, all of those are mental models that allow organizations and their leaders to try not to do what everybody else can do,

but to do what they believe is possible, and not give up and find new and innovative ways to approach it and tune out the naysayers, because just because it wasn't possible for someone else does not mean it's not possible for you. And that's how you transform what is possible in your life, in the world, and for everyone else. So I just, I love, it's such an important story

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That can always and forever be evolving and changing and should be evolving and changing by the people that we're exposed to, the training that we have, the knowledge that we have, and most importantly, the mindset that we're currently carrying. So check your mindset today, it is more important than you realize. Okay, the next story that he shared that was really cool, and I'm not doing it any service. I mean, this was literally it was almost a two hour service. So I'm trying to give you the abbreviated version

because I'm sure you're probably on your way to work. You're out for a walk. We gotta get all this knowledge in and keep it going. So I'm gonna try to keep it fast-paced for you. But this was a really good, another really back-to-mind set, the flea experiment, and I hadn't heard about this in forever, but let me give you a quick synopsis.

I googled it and the top article came up, was from LinkedIn, from Brandon Alexander. So I'll read a bit from his article. If you put fleas in an open transparent jar, so this is what my pastor was talking about today, you put fleas in this research study into a clear glass jar, right? They can jump so high and they can jump right out of the jar, right away. But then if you put a clear lid on the jar, the fleas that had that same crazy tendency to jump so high and get right out of there, they bump their head on the lid, obviously, right? So after a while, the fleas, their condition to the presence of the lid, the clear lid,

they begin jumping slightly below the lid to avoid hitting it. So they're trying to avoid pain, right, which makes sense. I get it not into hurting myself, but I don't need to. So it's a smart way to adapt to situation to avoid the pain, right? And so they stop jumping as high as they used to. So now the fleas are still jumping, but they're not going anywhere near to the top because they want to make sure they don't hit the top. Later on, the researchers removed the clear lid. Guess what happens then? The fleas don't recognize that that barrier has been removed and that there's a whole world for them to jump into outside of that little glass jar so they continue to jump at that low level and just wait within that glass jar.

So the top has been removed. The fleas are allowed to leave the building, and the fleas do not, because they had been conditioned to this new response, and they stay in this routine or in our world, like, comfortable environment that they know, basically putting themselves in a prison that they can't escape, because their minds have put that top on the jar.

Even though the top no longer exists, this is crazy. I actually want to see this in real life because I feel like the visual be so powerful. So again, they're just not jumping a higher because they believe the litus present or they're just conditioned to jumping at that level and they don't challenge it anymore. They're not challenging their own way of thinking or their own belief systems or their own reality or their own paradigm or their own vision. Right? What about us? Are we challenging those things on the day to day? Again, the fleas got into a comfort zone, the lid was on, and they just backed off and stayed where

they were. They never tried to go beyond it. However, if a flea that was not previously in that glass jar is added into the glass jar, then suddenly that flea will go for the major jump to get the heck out. And we'll make it out because there's no longer a top, right? He'll jump right out because he doesn't know the limitations. He doesn't know that these new rules or that there could be a lid. He just knows that he should go for it to get the heck out of there and he's able to. Then the other fleas will follow the example

and jump out of the jar because there was one ahead of them that showed them, there were no limitations. So it's just yet again, it's similar to the Bannister example when we talk about introducing that flea that had not been in the glass jar with the top on it, when someone shows you what is possible, it is so much easier to follow and emulate, right? And so much more challenging for all of us mentally to believe something like new and different and huge is possible for us when nobody else has been able to do

it previously. So just very, very interesting examples today that I thought were so relevant, oh gosh, for me and my business, I remember when I was back in corporate America, I saw a very obvious need at the company that I was working in my late 20s. I saw an obvious need for VPS sales and the company and they did not have one. And the C suite executives at that point in time

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Why wouldn't the family members want to look like all stars to create more wealth for themselves and for their shareholders? Of course they would. The right person hasn't pitched this yet. That's how I saw it, right? And I just couldn't... I shook off the negative feedback that I received from every person that I shared my idea with. I went and met with the president of the company and I gave him my idea. That idea was declined only to find out. It's because I was not asking the ultimate decision maker, always qualify the person you're pitching and make sure that if you give them the best idea in the world, that's going to make them millions of dollars that they can say yes.

And that they don't need anyone else's approval. That should have been my first question at that meeting and it wasn't. Anyhow, I ended up going back a few weeks after my initial meeting and I was letting the president of the company know I was gonna quit and go work somewhere else. And when he said, hang on, I'm gonna go, you know, make a phone call, be right back. He called his father, the CEO, told the father my idea.

The father said, this is a great idea. Yeah, let's do it. And immediately I was promoted to VP of sales. So many people were shocked by that. I was not shocked. I'm like, it was a great idea that could make these people wealthier, make their shareholders wealthier, make them look like all stars. It was just that the right person hadn't presented it yet.

So I share that example as my own real life, one real life example, you know, everyone's going to tell you what limitations are there for them. Everyone's going to tell you why it can't work. You know, that's, it's always going to be easier to criticize than it is to create. Just fact, right? It's lazier. Anyone can sit around and be the Monday morning quarterback, but to actually be the one training and getting into the game Sunday night, that's a heck of a lot scarier. There's a lot more on the line. There's nothing on the line Monday morning. And that's sort of the way that I see it with these people that will give you all of their limitations, all of their

negative self-doubt and all their naysay. You've got to just hand it back to them, smile, and move forward with your own plan. And maybe even in the future, don't even let them know what you're working on. Sarah Blakely's huge into this. She kept her idea for spanks a secret for almost two years because she didn't wanna let any negative thoughts get into her head. She wanted her mindset clear. She wanted to focus on what was possible for her

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you can check him out, just go to Vood Church and you'll see the date and you'll be able to find it. His so many great sermons up there and they're incredible, but okay, so here's the thing, he's talking about relationships. His point today, or the point that I walked away with, he talked a lot about how whether it be with family, friends, or foes, we're going to have challenges. And oftentimes the people that are the closest to you are the ones that can hurt you the most,

even though they might not mean it. But the answer is always in forgiveness. And when he used the example, whether it be of the runner Roger Bannister or the flea example of the lid, he was talking more about how people might isolate themselves. So say you get hurt in a relationship, maybe buy your boss, a partner at work, maybe a loved one, you know, that you want to cut that person off. You want to penalize that person, hurt that person, and then you want to isolate yourself because you don't want that to happen again to you. And that was where he used the

example of the fleas in the jar. You know, instead his approach was, you know, turn it over to God, always forgive, lead with forgiveness, lead with an open heart. What would Jesus do? And realize, you know, all these things happen to Jesus. He was betrayed by family, friends, and pose beyond what any of us could ever imagine when he needed help so much, and this is when he begged his father to forgive others. They know not what they do when When he was going through the process of being nailed to the cross.

So again, his message today was around forgiveness. His message today was around, yes, around mindset and what is possible is always changing and a really uplifting message, but really to look at your life, look at your life, look at your relationships and understand you have that power to forgive because God's given you that power. And you can always turn it over to God, let go and let God. And it can be scary and it can feel unnerving,

but the answer is always going to be in forgiveness. And gosh, every time I am at church and hear a message about forgiveness, there's always someone new that pops into my mind that I could forgive. I'm sure if you think right now, there's somebody in your life that you can forgive and maybe you don't want to call them or write them a letter, but maybe you can just pray about it

and release that upset and anger from your heart. Not only are you going to release that person, more importantly, you're going to release yourself. And that's a really beautiful thing. And it just touched me so much today with such a great point and also to the point of isolating yourself, thinking you're penalizing others is only hurting you.

So rip the bandaid off, go for forgiveness, go for apology, go for understanding that bear but for the grace of off, go for forgiveness, go for apology, go for understanding that bear but for the grace of God go I, you know, thank goodness, maybe you haven't done what this person did to you, but you can find it within your heart and within God's love to forgive them. And I just thought it was such a beautiful message today, such such a great day church. Okay, so and again, that's voo church. You can check them out online, you will love them, but I'll give you updates occasionally for sure.

So, one other thing I want to talk about for let you go today is I have a couple of different one-on-one coaching clients that I work with. And it was really interesting to me this week because two of them are dealing with very similar things. They don't know what I don't share stories from one client to another, but it's interesting because we all know what it's like when things are going awful, right? And when you're in it, like when you're in the fish bowl and everything

stinks, you're not feeling well, like the stress is so bad. You feel like there's no solution. You don't know how to turn everything around. It feels so daunting and like it's never going to change. However, the reality is when you're not in the fish bowl, you can see it so clearly. Oh, this is temporary. This too shall pass. This is a moment in time and it's actually setting you up for some major pivot to take off and to go for so much more and take a new trajectory. And another thing they talked about today at church, when you release something negative,

you're able to start receiving something positive. So, you know, moving through that transitionary period is allowing you to release something negative you're able to start receiving something positive. So, you know, moving through that transitionary period is allowing you to release something that hasn't been working for you so you can start receiving something that will. And it's so clear to others when we watch others go through that. And I know for a second it is so hard when you're in it, it feels awful. And I'll tell you, gosh, I'm 48 years old. I've gone through so many hardships in my life. And still when my feelings are heard, where I'm let down by somebody or disappointed by a situation, I too go into that negative, nelly, you know, oh, this is awful. And when

little things ever get better, like it's almost this was going to say learned experience that that's how we respond to things. But, things, but for a long time in your life, you might have responded that way. And you can lift your head up and say, okay, I'm not gonna do that anymore, but it takes some work, right? It doesn't just happen miraculously overnight. You have to work on yourself and constantly evolve yourself

and constantly remind yourself. So it was easy for me to look at both of these clients and explain to them, listen, I get what it's like, but this is a moment in time. This is not gonna stay that way. And there are things we can do, right? So the first thing to do in these situations is look at what are the things that we actually can control,

right? So one of my clients is quote unquote, being taken advantage of by an employer, which again, we're teaching people how to treat us. So we have to create boundaries, ask for what we want. And it's never too late to go back and redefine that relationship. Right, you can go back to someone and say, I really have appreciated working with you.

However, working for you has been incredibly demanding for me and is taking up far too much of my time and the ROI is not there for me or my business. So at this point in time, I'm gonna shake hands and part friends and wish you the best. I've got a couple of names of people I can suggest for you to work with, but I can't any longer work in this capacity with you, right? You can fire your clients. You can fire people from your life in a kind and loving way in a non-herf away because

it no longer is serving or benefiting you. That's okay. You can always redefine those things as long as you communicate with people in a kind way. And then there's some situations you have no control over, right? Like your health and you need to pray that you're going to get better and you know that you've got to remove negative people and negative situations from your life. So you can't sleep and can't take care of yourself. You need to have faith that things are going to get better. And if you're going through a transitionary period, pray and ask for those things that you need

and do the things that help you to feel better. For me, that's always going outside, running, being with loved ones, having fun, exciting things to look forward to, praising and appreciating all the blessings in my life, focusing on gratitude, day in and day out. And the more we do those things, the more we bring those good things back to us, right? So it's easy to get that mental trap of,

that thing's working for me, and here's why everything sucks. And here's why I wanna cry in my soup. And again, I get it. I've been there. Sure I'll be there again. Right? That's okay. It's just the key is don't stay there long.

Right, and there are things you can do and figure out what are your go-to things. I remember I was going through a really bad time years ago and pressure at work. And I was, you know, I had just gone through a divorce and I had a one year old and the recession hit and was just like, woo, holy, here come the punches. Let's see how we handle them. And I know I'm always getting back up, but getting back up isn't always easy in those situations. And

so I took a post at note and I wrote, breathe, drink water, go for a run, go outside, be grateful for your health. I think it was like something like that. It was so basic, and it was just a few things, and I would focus on those things when I really started getting down. And just focusing on those simple little things would help me get through those really bad rough patches. Where now I have a lot more that I can focus on, and I've developed an arsenal of different things

that I know, or triggers, I can developed an arsenal of different things that I know are triggers I can pull that will help me out of difficult situations. But again, you're still going to fall into them. You're not immune. Give yourself that grace that that's okay. And one of my clients became emotional on a meeting with me the other day and thanked me after for letting her do that.

And I thought to myself, here's something I don't want you to forget. When you are in a position to help other people, when you and we are all in that position at any given day, whether you're opening a door for an elderly person or helping a young child tie their shoe, it doesn't matter to what level you're helping. Anytime you're assisting or helping another human,

you know, good you feel? That's a gift to the other person. I was grateful that that woman had the vulnerability to open up to me and give me the gift of helping her, give me the gift of listening and supporting her. Right, so don't deny other people, those gifts. People, 90% of people, 99% of people, they wanna help, they wanna do good.

And we've all suffered, we've all gone through it. We all know how hard it can be. So many of us out there are cheering you on, good. And we've all suffered. We've all gone through it. We all know how hard it can be. So many of us out there are cheering you on, wanting to support you and wanting to see you win and knowing you will. So start focusing on what you can be grateful for. Focus on the things that you love to do that bring you joy. Start redefining those relationships and situations with boundaries that are not benefiting you. Revis revisit them and change them. It is a never too late. Any moment you can redefine those things

and figure out what's working for you, what's not, and start defining the life that's going to be the one that works for you, 90% of the time, brings you joy that you get fired up and excited about and stay focused on that and that outcome that you want to pursue. Blazing Deals, Boundless Options

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It takes me back to that Roger Bannister, right? Until that guy broke that form in a mile, other people didn't know it was possible. I feel blessed that I was able to make it into the C-suite, that I was able to launch a successful speaking career when everyone told me it was too late, that I was able to launch a top 20 business podcast. All these things that I've been able to do, it took me five years to pull this stuff together and figure out, I'm going to give everybody my keys. The minute we start meeting, asking me anything, you got it all. My whole commitment is to get everybody to that next

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