Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - New Format, New Me: How to Double Down on YOU with Heather! Episode 102

Episode Date: April 7, 2021

Welcome to the new format! You spoke and I heard you. Now that we have moved to a 2 episode mode, we can really reflect and focus in. We are entering the new normal and options are finally opening up. I am so optimistic for the future and for YOU! Your questions today are on how to explain a resume gap and how to pivot in your 40s. Let’s dive in.   Send Heather feedback on her podcast format here! To inquire about my coaching program opportunity visit https://mentorship.heathermonahan.com/    Review this podcast on Apple Podcast using this LINK and when you DM me the screen shot, I buy you my $299 video course as a thank you!    My book Confidence Creator is available now! get it right HERE   If you are looking for more tips you can download my free E-book at my website and thank you! https://heathermonahan.com    *If you'd like to ask a question and be featured during the wrap up segment of Creating Confidence, contact Heather Monahan directly through her website and don’t forget to subscribe to the mailing list so you don’t skip a beat to all things Confidence Creating!     See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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her. It's so good. And as a mother, I had so many questions. And she fires right away with tactical solutions, very specific ways to handle the challenges that kids are up against. And my son had an in-person meeting with someone this past week and he was getting nervous going. And it's so normal for people who haven't been doing a lot of in-person to feel anxiety or nervous. And it went so amazing. And he said, oh my gosh,

everything went so great and so much better than I thought. And for all of us, I have a client I'm working with right now who's prepping herself for her first in-person event in over a year and speaking at this event and she's got herself all worked up in a tizzy about it. And it's the same thing, whether it be with my child or with myself or with my clients. Everyone gets a little bit nervous around these things and then once it's done, it's so much better than you could ever imagine. And I promise you that your in-person meetings are gonna give you

so much joy, so much energy. They're gonna be so much better than you had planned for or expected, and that I know, for sure. So you've gotta let me know if you love the new format, or if you don't like the new format, definitely DM me. Go to my website HeatherMonninghand.com, give me feedback, I always want to hear from you, and hold tight because we're going to be right back. Hi and welcome back. I'm going to start firing off some answers to the questions that you have submitted whenever you want me to answer

one of your questions on the show. Just DM it to me. Shoot it to me at HeatherMondayne.com and I'm on it. Okay, here we go. I know you're producing major content right now. I might not have time to see this message. Okay, pause right there. Yeah, definitely. I actually had to bring on a new assistant just to manage messages on social media guys. It was such a time suck for me, but I don't want to miss. There's so many great opportunities that can come to you in the DMs. If you're not checking your DMs on social, you are missing the boat. I've had so many unbelievable opportunities come to me.

Speaking engagements, business opportunities, consulting, you know, so many paid business opportunities through DMs that you can't ignore them. It just, it doesn't make sense to. So I had to invest in someone. So that's their full-time job is there in LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram. There are on all these social media pages just checking my DMs, updating a live Google doc for me, and then sending me emails daily, hey, hi, alert, get to this one right away. Do you want me to respond to this one, set a meeting, et cetera?

So this is our first week doing it, and oh my gosh, I'm so optimistic about this. I'm so excited. So, okay, back to the question. I know you're producing major content right now, and might not have time to see this message, but I did, because my assistant sent it to me. I wanted to reach out and ask,

how should I explain a gap in employment during the pandemic? Yet still be seen as someone that can move up and forward in their position. I started my own company during this time, but I've struggled to get clients. Now I'm being interviewed for great positions. How do I explain the gap and still look like a leader? That's so easy.

Number one, always tell the truth. Stand in your confidence, know your worth, right? Know that you're a valuable as an employee. Look at your past reviews and recommendations of your work. Just stand in that, know how good you are. And when you walk in there, people can relate to real people. And people want to do business with people they know, like, and trust, right? So do your homework on the other person. Say you have a

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have so that you can speak as people and connect as people. And when you get to that part of your resume or back story, you know, you're going to share the truth and you're going to say, I'm not sure how COVID has impacted you and your family. Hopefully you guys have been healthy. You know, I would ask the question, right? I'd put that out there. And when they said, you know, oh yeah,

we're doing okay as, you know, it's been tough but we're okay. I'd say, well, I'm sure you understand the rollercoaster that has gone on for so many of us. And that does not exclude me. It, you know, I, I lost my job due to layoffs or whatever the, the true story is. And what I chose to do was pivot immediately so that I could add value and charge my worth from a computer screen, which was challenging.

I didn't have a client acquisition strategy. I didn't have a database of potential clients. I never wanted to go to work for myself, but what I did immediately was I pivoted from this very challenging situation and started building value from home the best I could while I was working with my children in Zoom school. It's been chaotic to say the least

and I'm just so grateful now we're back at a time where I'm able to have the opportunity to sit here with you, have the opportunity to work for an established company and bring my best self to work knowing this is where I belong, having tried it the other way. I would just, I'd be really direct and lead with that truth. And people are going to completely understand.

And if they don't, they are not your people. There's zero chance that I would sit down and interview someone right now, and they would explain to me how difficult the pandemic was for them and how they tried to get a business off the ground and it didn't work. I would have empathy. I'd also ask questions, though, I'd say. So tell me, what was the challenging part for you that you couldn't get it off the ground? I'd be curious. I'd want to understand more. So if you're a designer, it's normal to say that you're

not great at marketing or client acquisition strategies, right? But I wouldn't think you are. I wouldn't think that's your strong suit. So it's okay to explain that. Be honest, tell the truth, relate to the people. They're gonna relate to you. Hey Heather, hope all is well. I was thinking about, oh, this is somebody wanted to repost my quotes. Here's what I'll tell you. You know, I get a lot of people sending me questions

asking if it's possible to use my content. As long as you don't change it and you tag me, that's great. I don't know why anyone would ever, I don't think you have to ask that. I wouldn't ask that. Right, I've shared other people's quotes and other people's content and I just tagged them and and I put hashtag repost. Okay. Loving your content. Thank you for sharing. Thank you. I'm curious if you can share some thoughts on pivoting in your 40s.

I'm turning 40 next week shout out and want to switch out of sales client management. I'm not sure where to even begin on this. I'm done with my NBA in November and want to move into business planning role or procurement is education enough to make this move. You don't even need education to make this move. Just do right take action. People get so caught up in the what if I fail? What if this doesn't work, what if there's some secret strategy and sauce

I should know about and have? There isn't, right? Pump the brakes. I Googled every freaking thing I've done. I Googled how to write a book. I Googled how to launch a podcast. I Googled how to land a TEDx talk. I Googled how to land an agent.

Just Google it and take action now. Take massive action now. You're gonna figure it out along the way or invest in yourself, hire a coach, hire someone to teach you how to do it. Those are the two glaring options to me. Drop everything, start googling and take a massive action to make these things

that you want to happen happen. Surround yourself with people who are your champions and cheering you on and stretching you to grow and to go bigger. And or investing yourself when I wrote a book. I knew I'm stuck. I don't know where to go from here. Boom. I hired an editor, right? Hire someone that's written 19 books if you want to write one.

Hire someone that's been the places that you want to go if you're willing and Ready to make that leap go all in when I Wanted to write my second book which is coming out November I Googled how to find that an agent and once I landed my agent She said you need a book proposal and I thought I have no idea how to write a book proposal But I knew I could find people in the world that are experts in that. And I did. And I invested a lot of money in hiring the best because I wanted the best book

proposal. So if you're ready to go to that next level, double down on you. It's the best investment you will ever make. And that is fact, my friend. All right, until next week, let me know what you think of this new structure and two episodes. I've done so many interviews you guys over the past few weeks. It's crazy. I'm just back logged. I also wonder if I should start doing, just putting more interviews out.

I have so many. So let me know your thoughts. I can't wait to hear from you. So grateful for you and so optimistic for all of our future. Until next week, I'll be creating my confidence and I know you will too. This episode is brought to you by the YAP Media Podcast Network. I'm Holla Taha, CEO of the award-winning digital media empire YAP Media, and host of

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