Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - Staying On Your Yellow Brick Road with Tim Storey Episode 10

Episode Date: July 9, 2019

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on each week. So I want to focus on my guests that are coming up and how do I get to new and better guests and reach, you know, that ideal guest and that takes time to reach out to a lot of people to pitch yourself, to refine your pitch, and to research other people so that you're able to bring value on that day that you reach out. Then there's also the best way to promote a podcast is to go on other people's podcasts. So I travel around and I go on different shows and I promote my brand, my book, my course, my show. And that's a lot of different work.

My primary revenue driver for me is my speaking engagement. So there's no one that's going to pitch me as much or as often as me. I'm with Harry Walker Speaker Agency, GDA Speakers, but they're not gonna, they're gonna pitch Bill Clinton and Obama and the big names that are out there. So if I want to keep that pipeline full, I constantly need to be out, you know, hitting the ground and just pitching, sending pitches, figuring out who has conferences coming up, who would I be a great fit for? And again, flipping it through the lens up, how do I add value to them, why me,

and why they should hire me? So it's a lot of work. And also during this time, I have finished my second book, and I decided I wanted to go to the agent route, so I ended up hiring someone to help me put together a book proposal, because I didn't know how to do it.

We worked long and hard for two months on that proposal, sent it to the agent and we're told we need to rework some things. So I kind of shelved that project because I was so frustrated and I don't want to talk to you, but sometimes just walking away for a minute and refocusing on something else that I feel more confident and allows me to regroup and go back. So I'm thinking of going back this week while everyone's off on holiday and having a great fourth.

When I get some free time this week, I think I'm gonna dive back into that and reactivate that project now that I feel a little bit more creative. Actually, this weekend I had a crazy, crazy weekend. My parents split up a couple of months ago, which was horrible in their 70s and just shocking. And my mother just got remarried a couple months later.

So it's been jarring to stay the least and definitely unexpected. And I want to share this reminder that you never know what other people could be going through. You know, we just got to lead with kindness whenever possible because you never know what kind of struggle someone has. And it was just a really eye-opening window of time for me to see all of the change and shock and unexpectedness. But remembering just to find peace within myself, I decided to cut some negative people

from my life this weekend, because I just, I feel like there's different times I'm extremely strong and tough and resilient, but sometimes that hurts me because I allow for, or I engage with people that might be bringing me down that I don't realize. And I talk a lot about firing the villains in your life and it sounds so harsh. But sometimes I need to rethink my situations and who am I around that's making me feel negative or me feel down. And I get I really notice that during times where you know big life challenges

are happening or big changes are happening in life is really paying attention to how you feel around certain people and ensuring that you cut the people that are there bringing you down and you surround yourself with the people that are lifting you up. So I made that decision this weekend and wouldn't you know Monday morning rolled around and some really powerful, unbelievable things happened that I had been working so hard at one,

and I'll share these with you, I can't share them yet because they haven't been announced, but one is massive and I've been working at it for over a year and a half and it just came together on Monday after I decided to fire negativity from my life and I don't think that's coincidental. I think that you have to do the hard work and you have to get out there and hustle and

provide value and do your homework and access knowledge to, you know, and people to do things correctly. However, if you're surrounded with negativity, those opportunities aren't going to connect for you or it's going to take such a long and massive delay. It's not worth it. Fire the negativity from your life and set yourself up to take off because you deserve bigger, you deserve better and you're not going to open that door and access it if you've got that roadblock in front of you.

So I'm speaking to you of this one with massive experience on it many times in my life, but yet again, also this week had to remind myself. And sometimes it takes those heartbreaking experiences or jarring experiences to say, Hey, this is a moment I need to rethink things. I don't need to be the strongest. I don't need to be the rock for everybody. In fact, I want to be around people who can be my rock and deciding to let those other people go so that you can pick yourself back up, open that door for opportunity and let positive things come in. So I'm continuing to hustle, I'm continuing to do that next great thing. I'm re-engaging on projects that I had to touch from and a lot of that is from this positive framework that I really start stepping into. And it's also

important during a period like this to recognize that we can lower expectations on ourself for a minute and say okay I don't have to be killing it every single day it's actually all right that I'm going to take the fourth of July off it's all right that I'm going to spend some time relaxing and calming myself down and it's not only okay. It's really good and important So I hope that you're doing that same thing this week I hope that you get a couple days to do whatever it is that's important to you and be with those people that you love and The ones that most importantly lifts you up because we all need those peeps in our life I sure do that is for sure and, my next guest that I'm so excited

for you to meet is now one of those people. Tim's story is just an unbelievably inspiring, kind, joyful, generous individual who happens to be great friends with Oprah. Yeah, it's a little mind blowing, but I mean, he's just been everywhere, he's done so much. He's overcome so much adversity and really it's just it's real and you'll feel it when when you hear him and you learn from him. He shared so much in this interview next that I can't wait to share it with you. But before we get to it

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I'm all for that. He's inspired people from all walks of life, from massive entertainers to professional athletes that you and I definitely know. He's using seasoned foundational principles and humor, which I love, to get honest with people so they can overcome the obstacles that are holding them back. This guy is paving the way for me and for you. Tim, thank you so much for making time to be with us today.

What a privilege to be on your show. Oh, and I have to let everyone know what I just shared with you, which is when I researched you, one of the things I thought was so cool is that you're so concerned with being on time and being punctual. Yes. My experience, Tim, is that is not typically the case

in Hollywood. And so I about freaked out when my computer told me, Tim's story is waiting for you, Heather, and that's never happened to me before. So I just want to say, I'm right there with you being punctual is so impressive and they- Heather, you were right on time,

but I was seven minutes early. That is wild. Yes, so you know, my mother, she's Spanish, she speaks very broken English. And she always taught us to be early. So I promise you I'm early to the airport. I'm early to appointments. If I have like a big meeting like in LA,

and I know there's gonna be traffic, I leave so early, I'd rather sit in a parking lot an hour early and make calls than be running late. So I do not run late, I run super early. It's such a nice way to respect other people and show respect for yourself too. So cheers to your mom and and gosh, major props for your mother. And actually speaking about your family, one of the things that I find so Interesting about you is your background. You really went through massively hard times when you were 10 years old and lost your dad.

Yeah, you know, it's it's one of those things that sometimes You live by design sometimes you live by default and I think that we all want to live by design, which is the blueprint. But the default hit us really early. We had a happy home. We were lower income, but we were super happy. And my father decided to go get something to eat one day. He went through a green light. It was at nighttime.

And a man ran a red light and hit him and killed him. So now my mother had to work one and a half shifts at a place called Winchells Don't Shop to help support all over kids and we had five kids. So that was a really difficult time for us of trying to adjust and that's a tough thing for a family because you had momentum and then we lost it. So that was tough, but we obviously worked away through it. So at 12 years old, you essentially told your mom

that you knew that you could figure out a way to get your family through those tough times. I have a 12 year old son. And as a single mother, I can't imagine what you had to be thinking or going through at that age to want to step up and take on responsibility and verbalize it. What was going through your mind then? I think that one of the things is that, and hopefully your son probably has as in his life as well, is that even though I didn't have my dad that was present,

I had literally coaches, football coaches, I had teachers that were really mentoring me. So my six great teacher, Mr. Probert, he came into my life, He was a white guy. And the reason I say that is because I'm originally from Compton. And so this guy, Mr. Probert, comes into my life. And he really cared about me.

He was nurturing. He taught me about reading books. He told me that my mind was brilliant. And I do brilliant things. And I bought into it. And so that's where I was really at. I was already thinking big in small places at 10, 11, and 12. I knew I would not stay stuck.

I knew I would not play small. So when I was 12, my mom talks about this conversation I had and said, mom, don't worry about it. I got this. I said, by the time I'm in my 20s, you won't have to worry about money. And in my 20s, my mother never worried about money again to this day. That's amazing. And that must 20s, my mother never worried about money again to this day.

That's amazing. And that must be such a fantastic feeling for you to be able to take care of your mother knowing all that she's gone through. Yes, but I want to say this because you are raising your son. I did it because in my culture, you know, I'm Spanish and Cuban. So. So my in my culture, that this is just how it should be. So I didn't do it for the applause and I didn't do it for the good feeling. I did it because I honor my mother. So I'm so into my mom, I take her shopping, I took her to get a haircut four days ago. She's 88 years of age. So I continue to be loving to my mom because she does not have a husband.

So that's just the way it is in my culture. So I didn't do it for the act of a cause I did it because that's what we do. So when you were a child and you said, you knew you were gonna be able to make it and care for your mom financially, what was it that you saw? Because when I was a child,

I didn't see some grandiose life for me. I had a difficult childhood as well for different reasons. And I wasn't that kid that sat there and saw this amazing life ahead of me. How did that happen for you? I think that again, it was, you know, sometimes we learned by observation, sometimes we learned by education.

And the books in my teacher turned me on to were things about the life of Michael Angelo, who I later met the author's wife of that, which was a guy named Irving Stone, who wrote on the life of Michael Angelo. But you know, could you imagine I'm in sixth grade reading these books about Michael Angelo and I'm reading books about different poets. I'm reading Kurt Vonnegut in sixth grade. So this particular teacher helped to educate my mind where I sort of thinking beyond. So I would admit that's not usually the mindset of a 10, 11 or 12 year old, but it was my mindset. So I was already thinking outside of the box at 10, 11, and 12. And I was reprogramming

myself to be everything that I am today. I mean, I literally saw myself being this guy. Like people say, did you see this happening? I say, not exactly, but I did see it happening. Like I got a present from the Oprah Winfrey, literally, from her personally just about four days ago, because I'm in her book, The Path Made Clear. Now, before I met Oprah, I always told people, I'm gonna be one of Oprah's best friends. And I am. I go to all her parties. I hang out.

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there's royalty in your DNA, the quote my friend Kendrick Lamar. It's already in there, it's already in there. So all I'm doing is I have to stop looking, listen and hear what the blueprint is. So I was listening to my blueprint, I was gonna be funny, that's what I am on stage, I was gonna be passionate, I am that on stage,

I was gonna be a businessman, that's what I am. And yeah, I'm just, I'm manifesting what the universe said, I'm cooperating. I love that you said Kendrick Lamar. So my theme song is Kendrick Lamar's song, I love myself, that is, that's my fire. I love that song, it's just the best in my son and I actually listen, we rock out to that song a lot together.

So what's interesting about you that I want people to know, you've worked with Kanye, I mean you have worked with major personalities and entertainment, and yet you talk about the universe, you're extremely spiritual, you've a background, you've been to the monastery, you are not the typical person, you know, you're so interesting to me. not the typical person, you know, you're so interesting to me. Many people, including myself, can be taken aback by quote unquote religion. Like you're very, it's easy to connect with you around your message because it's not so in your face. I don't know. What would you say your approach is to spiritual, the religion and sharing it so that it's easy for others to feel a part of it? My approach is respect.

I think that when I go to these different cultures, and I meet Muslims or I meet Jewish people, or Catholics, a lot of them will raise within a culture that that's their religion. So I've never come from a place of what's known as ethnocentrism, which means like, you know, my way is the only way or my way is the best. Right. I never looked at it that way. So I have a lot of respect from anybody's vantage point where they're coming from. I went to seminary, I have a doctrine in world religion.

And so, you know, my relationship with God is I have connected to Jesus, I'm a Christian, but if that's not somebody else's relationship, that that's really not so much any of my business. So I respect where people are coming from. So what I do is from the vantage point that I have, it's kind of like my place at the party. Somebody can say, the party wasn't that great

because maybe you weren't like sitting in the right seat. But for my place in the party, I mean, being connected to God the way I am. So I bring some of that vantage point but I have total respect for other people's vantage point of point of view. And I think that that's what makes me translate everywhere. And yeah, so thanks for the compliment. Well, it's an inclusive feeling which I really appreciate in my experience in corporate America in challenging environments is it's not inclusive. So whenever I'm around people that make you feel a part of something,

I really, I gravitate towards that. I embrace that because I've been on the outside of it in a different, in a different way. So I really appreciate your approach and, and your messaging. I also love the humor aspects because that's so unique. So few people when talking about spirituality in the universe and all of these kind of cosmic things bring it back to being funny or dropping rap lyrics. And I think that that's another way that really allows you to connect. These guys are so tight, you know, a lot of them are my buddies, but. But all this stuff about like, I'm gonna beat the sun up. I mean, they're saying this, I'm like, take a nap.

You look so awesome. So, the online grind stuff is good to a point. But I also believe in rest. I believe in the Sabbath. I believe in being in the moment, fully present, fully present, fully feeling, fully alive. I think some days were meant to sleep in, no doubt.

I think some days were meant just to be alive and be funny and do silly things and just create crap that doesn't matter. I think that's life. So I've been given the gift of life and I choose to live. I live every day. I am alive.

Like to get to prepare for this amazing podcast that I'm on with you, Heather. I was listening to Babyface. And then from there, I went to O School P. Diddy. And then from there, I went to Ferrell Williams. So that's what I did to prepare for this amazing podcast where you know my buddies right now, they'd be all intense and uptight. I'm in the moment. So you leverage music as a way to get you fired up for

different things in your job? Well, I like music and to be honest, I'm not even leveraging anything. I'm just in the moment, like last night, I was watching documentaries and then I stayed up to watch the Hills because a lot of my friends are on this show MTV The Hills because the heels has come back on MTV. So and I'm even on one of the episodes. So I see I'm watching that. And no, I'm not, it's really not, I don't think everything is like this for that, this for that, this for that. No, this for this.

Like I'm talking to you because you're brilliant. So that's why I'm here. I studied you yesterday because you're brilliant. That's why I didn't do it because you got to study Heather because banky bank. No, I did it because you're brilliant. Let me figure out. Boom. That's why. Well, thank you very much for that. Cop of it. I really appreciate it. However, I also see that as working your land. Because when, and I'd love for you to share with my peeps, what that means exactly. But to me, you know, you're, that is, that's still the grind. It's still you doing your work to get your message out there. Yes, so that's, that is a very good way of saying it.

So before I tell him what working in land is, but you have to understand that in the way I look at faith. So Jesus says, my yoke is easy and my burden is light. So the whole idea is that to do God's will to me is not always such a dog on grind. I see it as a privilege to help the homeless. I help people that are incarcerated. I'm now involved in helping people with human trafficking side of things. I help people in the addiction space.

What a dog on privilege. Okay, so that's what I'm trying to say. Is it to me, that's a privilege, to speak as a privilege, to be Heather as a privilege. I mean, what a dog on privilege, like, thank you. So to work your land, very simple. We all want a harvest. The harvest could be a good marriage, to make a lot of money, the harvest could be the best-selling book. But before you have the harvest, you have to go through the law of the harvest. The law of the harvest, because there's laws in nature, is you have to plow the ground, then you have to plant the right seed. So you can plow, but plant the wrong seed and get the wrong results. So you plow the ground,

which is effort, you plant the right seed, then you water the seed which is repetition and then you will get a harvest. So you are correct that Heather and Tim, when we were young, we learned to somehow plow plow plow plow plow plow plow plant plant plant plant plant water water water and all of a sudden people go to you Heather, oh my god look at this, you got a best selling book, you're and all of a sudden people go to you Heather, oh my god, look at this, you got a best selling book, you're doing all these things, you're speaking everywhere, people want to be on your podcast early. And they see all these things happening, but they don't realize the backstory, the plow,

plow, plow, the plant, plant,, water, water, the band, band, band. That's a lot of artists. That is completely my life and you articulate it so much better and more concisely than I ever have, but it's that behind the scenes, the grind, the researching people, reading people's books, flying all over the country, to find ways to connect with them, you know, making your work a priority and really that behind the scenes is so taken for granted and past

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Who do I want to work for? Okay, I have a non-compete. My mind went to the go back and instead, gosh, I mean, for the universe and all these amazing people in my life that have helped me, I have instead created a comeback and it's just that is such a powerful statement that you make and I really hope that you can share with my peeps, you know, what that means to you. Yes, so well, well said, a comeback is not a go back. So what happens is that what happened in your life, that is you had some life interruptions. Okay. So nobody gets married to get divorced. So when you're married, you, you come into this covenant with somebody, when you get divorced, all of a sudden you have what's called divided force,

because divorce being divided force. So well, it was one, two people coming together, you now have divided force. And even if you don't like the person, it just can rip you in the center. I know people that don't even like each other, it still rips you in the center, okay? So now, so let's say if there's people listening to the end of divorce, are they lost their job, or the fact that they were sick, or they're battling through some kind of illness? So that is what I call a life interruption. So nobody expects a positive call at three in the morning.

So a life interruption is like somebody calling a three in the morning and giving you bad news, okay? So now what happens is that in that life interruption, most people do not know how to handle it. We have not set up ourselves for life interruptions. It's almost like if you take a journey from California to Florida, you may have an interruption. So in that case, it's probably good to have auto clone. Because if you have a flat tire, right, then maybe someone can help you out. So life interruption comes and what I have found in dealing with the biggest celebrities

in the world and people who just do other types of jobs is that most people, when they have a setback, they sit in it and they settle in the setback. You sit in your settle, right? Yes. And they get stuck in that place. And then they start thinking, if I can go back and fix it, if I can go back and fix it, if I can go back and that's where I came up, a comeback is not a go back. You cannot go back and fix everything. And it'll mess up your present and it'll mess up your future if you keep looking back. How do you work with people in that moment? I have tremendous empathy for people in that moment because I've

been there. And for me, it was the fear of the unknown. And I know you talk a lot about seeing with faith instead of sight. Is that what you ask people to do in order to take those next steps and really start to move forward in faith with themselves? Okay, I'm going to give you the steps of a comeback that I've walked through so many people through probably, you know, at least a million. Number one, you have to become awake. Number two, you have to become aware. You have to wake up. You have to wake up and say, damn it, have this happened to your life. You know, you have to wake up. So you become awake and then you become aware, then you have to take

inventory. I remember I used to work at this place called Miller's Outpost when I was 17. It was like a clothing store, right? And we had to take inventory, which I used to hate because you had to count all the jeans, okay. There's this many of this many jeans, this length, etc. So in life, you have to become awake, you have to become aware. Then you have to take inventory, you have to really look at what are you dealing with. So I've been divorced too. So I've been single, I think, has been maybe about 17 years. So I have to look and say, okay, so here I am,

I have two kids, they're this age and this age now. Okay, this is my job, this is what I have to do. I have an aging mother, she's almost 89. I still have two sisters, I have eight jobs. I have to take inventory, all right? So you become awake, aware, take inventory. Sometimes when you take inventory, you don't like what you see. So that's where it's important to partner with power.

So this is the real key right now. You have to partner with power. So this is the real key right now. You have to partner with power. I need people in my life that may be stronger than me in areas where I'm not strong at that time. This is where I'm a pro. If I don't know something, I'll be glad to ask you. Partner with power, if you're having struggles financially, that's why they reach out to people like you.

If they're having struggle with confidence, reach out to you. Okay? So partner with power, awake, aware to inventory partner with power, you will have a comeback. So I'd like to partner with power and it reminds me of an analogy that you use which was Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz. Yes. Can you

want to do that? I love that. John, your research on me. Good going. I'm working my land. So I love I love the Wizard of Oz. I've probably seen it no less than at least 50 times. it no less than at least 50 times. So Dorothy, she wants to go to Kansas. So what do they say? Follow the Yellow brick road, follow the Yellow brick road, follow follow follow follow the Yellow brick road. Remember that? Yes. So she's following the Yellow brick road. So she's got to do with the right, the dog. Then she gets the scarecrow, the cowardly lion and the tin man, right? Right. And they all find their way, their little dysfunctional, those those three guys. And they're following Yelvich Road. But a lot of things they're trying to take off the Wicked

Witch. Then the scarecrow has an episode, catches on fire, the cowardly lion realizes he needs therapy, the tin man gets wet and gets rusty. Okay, so there's so many situations that are trying to take portal dorthy off the yellow big road. Same thing in your dog on life. Anybody that's listening, things are right now trying to take off your yellow brick road. It could be your children, it could be your spouse, it could be an illness, it could be your job, it could be how you see politics, it could see me,

you watched the news so much and now you're depressed. So many things are trying to take you off your priority pathway. See, so the yellow brick road is my priority pathway. And I'm gonna tell you right now, I stand on my dog on yellow brick road. Yeah, somebody else's urgent is not mine. Like right now, I get into you. There are people screaming at my phone through text. Where are you? I'll need to five minutes. Oh my god. Tim, I can't believe it

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of glass. So. That doesn't necessarily sound fun. Do you ever not look forward to one of those calls? I will say this way, it's a privilege to live coaches spoil brass. Most of them are very powerful and rich, but there are a lot of them are brass, but it's a privilege. So you go back to a place of gratitude

when you feel like that? Yeah, I mean, come on. I mean, if I said these brats names, these people would know. So you should get in the way. So if they can't find me and I don't text within 10 minutes, like, where are you? Seriously? Yeah, one guy texted me last night. It said seriously. Question mark, like, you can't even get back to me as is point. Yeah, because I'm doing something.

So somebody else's urgent is not always yours. There's the point right there. It doesn't have to be, right? But a lot of times people where I see people struggle and where I struggle is when you get into that daily grind that you can't pick your head up to say, why was it I was on this yellow brick road anyways and where was it going? You can lose sight of that.

Okay, here's a beautiful thing. So you are in shape. So you've been hiking before? No. Okay, so on some of these heights that they have, you're going on this long hike and maybe it's like, you know know like seven miles to go see a waterfall

in Hawaii. So as you're as you're hiking there's people coming back from the hike. You know what I always say to them? Was it worth it? So if I'm halfway through the dog on hike it's seven miles and I'm three and a half miles in. It's starting to go uphill. I will say to people who've gone to the waterfall or wherever they're trying to go to Was it worth it? Most people are going, oh my god. Wait till you get there. There's nothing like it, you know that that fires me up But there's been a few times

on these various hikes. And I'll say, was it worth the people go? No. The waterfall is dried up because of the summer time. There's no water. I'm like, what? So, so don't forget on the the yellow brick road, we're going up, but there's other people that are older than us that have been through similar experiences or even more experiences. Ask around. See, when I was in my 20s, I used to hang out with people that were in their 50s. In my 30s, I'd hang out with people in their 60s. Right? In my 50s, I hang out with people in my 70s.

That's just how I do. Because I want to know, like, is it worth it? Like, if I'm with a Quincy Jones, I want to say, like, is it worth it being Quincy Jones? You know, you work with Michael Jackson, you work with Frank Sinatra, you got like 22 Grammys, you live in a 26 million dollar home. Is it cool? Is it cool to be Quincy Jones? And he'll say yes. Yeah.

So, yeah, follow the yellow brick road, but on your road, make sure to ask some questions. That is exactly why I have this podcast is my goal is to keep people focused on where that yellow brick road is taking them and why they want to keep going, even though they might get deterred today or tomorrow or get bogged down, but learning to put yourself first and learning to stay focused on that vision that you have for your future, that you're committed to achieving and not giving up. Because for me, that's what I needed. And now that's what I want to give to everyone else. Because I'm finally, I'm finally living it. And it's taken such a tremendous amount of pain and hard times to get here.

That I just wanted to get it. I wanna like give that hand and I know you're that same way because you pull for the underdog, you feel that empathy and there's nothing better when you get to hear the feedback from the people that you reach in your life through your work to hear about what they're accomplishing now and that they did continue their journey

because of some of the feedback or insights that you imparted on them. Yes, I love the underdog. I help the underdog on a daily basis and don't talk about it. Wherever I am, I look for the underdog. I love to give people a boost, but that's your style too. See, I believe that God will always deliver His deliverers. So you are a deliverer. You're helping people through your message to deliver them from something.

I am a deliverer. I will always be delivered because I'm a deliverer. I just know that. I could have my back against the wall. And I know I'm coming out because I'm a freaking deliverer. That's the best best feeling. But there had to be a time in your life when you didn't feel this confident. When is the time when you look back across your entire life journey? When was the time that your confidence was the lowest that you didn't have that belief

inside of you? Okay, so I know you teach on confidence and you're good at it. So I think my confidence is a little difference because of my spiritual side, my confidence is more in God's ability to do. So so much of Tim's stories, confidence is not like, I don't look at the mirror like, dude, look at you. Oh, no. I have so much confidence in God and his strength

and also he's created me to be that that's what I'm saying I could be in dire straits and knows somehow some way somehow some way somehow my ass is getting out of this. Yes. No, for real. I know. I'm having ordered like match well smart from get smart. I have had the walls coming in and me on every angle and still new, I'm gonna get out. Do you have time for me to tell you

a one and a half minute story about this? Absolutely. Okay, I was in the Ukraine speaking to 6,000 Ukrainians. I was in a five-star hotel, one of the best hotels I've been to, and I got hungry, and they had given me a fruit basket. These people they'd invited me. So that's kind of a cool thing because I got hungry. I'm like, I don't want like room serves, but I had it. They had an apple.

So I was drinking water, eating an apple, turned on the news. Well, I was just like it was like three in the morning. So I'm eating an apple as a choking on this apple. I literally am choking on an apple at three in the morning by myself and Ukraine to the point I can't breathe. So I'm dying on this apple. I'm not thinking, call the front desk because I can't say anything. They speak Russian and Ukrainian and I stopped and I went, this is not a heroic way to die. Tim's story, life coach to the stars, Mogul dies in Ukrainian hotel,

chokes on alcohol. That's not cool. No, I'm not going out that way either. No, you can't. So I That way, Heather. No, you can't. So I high left myself. This is a true story. I saw that there was a curve in the wall, the wall in flat. Then there was a curve in the wall where there was like this mounting. And I literally thought, Tim, if you go back and rock yourself and hit your back, you can somehow just lodge this apple. After about five attempts at this, and all my doctor friends laugh, they go, Tim, let me teach you some other ways you can do that, which they now have.

How do I promise you? On about the fifth try, I went boom, and the apple popped out. So here's my point. Even while I couldn't breathe, I kept thinking I'm not going out this way. It was never one time I thought, give it in. Let go.

You know what popped into my mind when you were explaining that is seek and you shall find you just you kept looking for the solution. I was going to find it. And you did in a very odd way. And do you eat apples anymore? Very carefully and I'm being told I do not eat them like I used to. I do not eat pears like I used to. Anything that's like that that could lodge. I'm super careful. I'm not eat pears like I used to. Anything that's like that that could lodge. I'm super careful. I'm not even joking. I don't blame you. I would be too.

That's that's a little too close for comfort. Yes, but I'm alive. And you're a livin' baby. You are making it happen. I am to them. Tim, everybody wants to get ahold of you. They want to hear more. They want to follow you. Where can they go to get more Tim's story? And thank you for that.

So just Tim, T-I-M, S-T-O-R-E-Y. I have an E-M I name. So Tim's story, S-T-O-R-E-Y. If you don't mind, I want to talk about my app. I have an app, A-P-P, that's at the iTunes store called Atmost, UT-MOST. It's the Atmost app where I teach you daily and have atmost like. It's only $1.99. And you just keep getting new material on it like every other week. It's super good. So I got about $30,000 worth of stuff on there and you get it for $1.99. The utmost app for Tim's story. And then on Instagram, your

Tim's story official. Tim's story official. All right, so I will include all of those links in the show notes and thank you so, so much for your time today. I know how busy you are. I know you're getting texts from a lot of guys right now that are in need of your time, but we appreciate you being here with us today. What a privilege. Thank you, Barry. How amazing is Tim's story.

I hope that you felt the love and the joy from him. He really is the real deal. I really connected with him and learned so much from his story and teachings. And I'm really grateful that he was on the show. I hope that you felt that same way. But before I get to my Q&A, I need to share something with you

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So today I'm answering a couple of different questions. One actually came up in a speaking engagement that I had last week, where these were people who are in the media business and they get so busy at work and so overwhelmed with last minute projects and this person, this fire is going on over here and you haven't been able to get to this priority, it's really intense. And what this young woman asked me is, you know, when you're

in that grind, just that getting and trying to get everything done at work, how do you figure out how to stop the grind to rise above it? How to stop the grind or halt the grind to start thinking about your next career move, your next promotion, your next leaving that industry and doing something totally different. You know, her point was that she gets so overwhelmed at work all she ever does is think about what's right in front of her. And I empathize with that immensely because that was me for 14 years. You know, I wasn't picking my head up.

I was in the same company, the same industry, the same grind, putting out fires. And that is not a way to reach your potential at all. So there are so many different things, you know, first and foremost for me, I get creative when I have slept well and when I'm working out routinely. Those two things, I'm just not my creative self when I'm not doing those things for whatever reason. Some people need to meditate, some people need to go outside, some people need to draw. Some people journal. So whatever your thing is, it's creating and making time for that. You know, blocking off in your day, this is when I'm going to have time for me. And maybe, you know, you're wasting time

somewhere during the day because you're watching TV or you're scrolling social media, you know, kind of assess how are you spending your time? Your phone will tell you how much you're on it, right? And decide what can you cut and what can you reprioritize so that you can put yourself first, you can become your most creative self. When you start getting into that headspace, you can start deciding that, you know what, while I'm at work, I am going to take this window of time daily to pick my head up and look at and think about where I want to go next. What does my future look like? What do I want my future to hold for me? How, you know, do I visualize it?

What does it look like? How does it feel like? Start writing it down what those goals are. Get an accountability partner. And if you don't have one, go to my website, Heather Monahan.com. I will be your accountability partner. And if you don't have one, go to my website Heathermontahan.com. I will be your accountability partner. It's free. You just send your email address into the form and boom, you'll hear from me every day, staying on you like white on rice to make sure you do figure out what your goal is. You do give yourself a deadline. Don't make it a dream. Make it a goal. Give it a deadline. write it down, let people know, and start taking steps and action towards it if you want to create it. So, you know, really make that time for yourself. But continue to put out the fires,

going home exhausted every day and not feeling good and then, you know, sitting on your couch and just watching TV, not gonna fix the problem. Let's prioritize, put yourself first, and start taking the steps and action to create that better future. It all happens one step at a time. Okay, then I was asked a question on one of my DMs about this person was in digital marketing and had run a campaign for a client and the campaign did not go

as well as she thought it would have. Basically, she felt she had let her client down, she felt her client was gonna cancel, and she felt it was this ambiguous area with digital marketing that you can't guarantee a certain result, but it's expected that you would deliver a certain level of result. So the feedback that I gave her about that challenge is number one, first and foremost, communication is key and critical, and I move

fast. You want to communicate on the front end, set expectations before you go into business and sign a deal with someone, of what does this look like, what does success look like. You want to map all these things out ahead of time, so everybody is on the same page, and really clear with the potential pitfalls and how you'll handle things and how things can work and, you know, what they can expect from you. But to me, what's everything is that you stay in touch with that person. No one wants to be ghosted when a campaign is not going well. And what you need to do is you need to raise your hand. Hi, listen, I wanted to reach out today. We've got some challenges right now with the campaign. I'm not happy with the results. How, you know, it looks right now. I'm sure that you're not. However, I wanted to come together with you to figure out a solution.

And I actually, I had a similar challenge myself when I self-published my book Confidence Creator. And I paid for, I don't even know, how 10,000 hardcover books. And the first case came in and the cover, which I had obsessed over and was so excited to see, was in Matt instead of shiny. And it sounds like a small deal, but when it's your book and your first book and you spent all this money investing in it and it's wrong, I was devastated. I was crying. I was so upset. And in that moment, I reached out to the company immediately and sent a note that I was livid that this was wrong and that this needed to be made right. Now, fast forward a year later, here we are today. I have just reordered my book sold out and I reordered again. And guess what? I got the mat again. So this big error

that ends up occurring was for the best. I like how it looks. I never knew I would like it the way that it is. But you know what happened that day? I sent a fireball email to the company and I was so live it in angry and very emotional. I do not recommend that, by the way. And the president of the company got that email and the president of the company called me on my cell phone and the president of the company made it right with me and we worked through what could a solution look like we couldn't reprint the 10,000 books right that shiphead sailed however there are some other things that he could do to make this right in my eyes and we talked through what is a fair

viable solution for both parties and because he hung in there with me during that and because he directly reached out with me during that, and because he directly reached out to me, I have continued to do business with them. I can, I just, you know, reordered my second order through them. So, you know, it's sometimes these error moments are opportunity moments to create trust and to be a bridge to growing your business together. And that was really the recommendation that I gave to this woman. So hope that helps. And if you haven't yet, please subscribe, rate and review. And when you DM me the screenshot of your review, I will buy you my $299 confidence creation online course, which is really helpful

to use at home at nights on the weekends, just to give you some tips and some teachings into how you can always be creating confidence because in every moment and any moment you are either creating confidence or chipping away at it. It's that simple. Alright, until next week, keep going guys. Can't wait to see you next week. Thank you.

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