Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - Tim Storey, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, & Author, Answers Your Questions Episode 83

Episode Date: December 1, 2020

Tim Storey is a masterful life coach who is known for motivating everyone from celebrities to executives to children to manifest their dreams. Today he joins Heather and her mentees to share his expertise on mentorship, resilience, self care, and more. Everyone feels bogged down and lost sometimes. Everyone feels discouraged or depressed. Tim is here to share the tough lessons he learned to get out of that rut and how to become a worldshaker.  About the Guest: Tim Storey is an acclaimed author, speaker and life coach, well known for inspiring and motivating people of all walks of life, from entertainment executives, celebrities and athletes to adults and children in the most deprived neighborhoods in the country. Tim has traveled to seventy-five countries and spoken to millions of people. He often meets privately to counsel high-profile leaders in various industries. Tim Storey helps people create the future they desire. His ability to listen and genuinely care for those he comes in contact with has led to unique favorability among some the most influential leaders in the world. He has inspired people from all walks of life, from entertainment legends to professional athletes... from executives to children in third world countries. Using seasoned foundational principles and humor to get honest with people so they can overcome the obstacles that are holding them back.  Finding Tim Storey: Visit his website: https://www.timstorey.com/ Check out his Life Coaching Masterclass Instagram: @timstoreyofficial To inquire about my coaching program opportunity visit https://mentorship.heathermonahan.com/  Review this podcast on Apple Podcast using this LINK and when you DM me the screen shot, I buy you my $299 video course as a thank you!  My book Confidence Creator is available now! get it right HERE If you are looking for more tips you can download my free E-book at my website and thank you! https://heathermonahan.com  *If you'd like to ask a question and be featured during the wrap up segment of Creating Confidence, contact Heather Monahan directly through her website and don’t forget to subscribe to the mailing list so you don’t skip a beat to all things Confidence Creating!   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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goals. overcome adversity and set back. I'm so glad you're here with this week being the week right after Thanksgiving. Of course, thinking a lot about gratitude and all that we each one of us have to be grateful for, even though it's been a very challenging year for most everyone. And a very different year with myself included, no travel for Thanksgiving. I know so many of us are staying in and trying to limit the amount of exposure that we have to others, which is super hard and definitely a bummer, but trying to focus on all of the good that is out there and all that there is to be grateful for today. So one of the things I was thinking about when I looked back on this whole year 2020 is that, and I didn't really realize it initially, however, I noticed it today because I was

posting about, I received some super thoughtful little gifts that came in from people I had spoken for this year. And I thought that was such an interesting turn of events and so different from me. Meaning when I was back in corporate America working for someone who's trying to set me up sabotage me and hold me back, that woman wasn't sending me nice thoughtful gifts of brownies saying thank you. Right or a picture of me with the cute card, or that would have never happened, right? Clearly, she fired me. She wasn't sending me thoughtful gifts. And it's not about the gift, great.

These are little thoughtful things. It means so much to receive something like that unexpectedly. And basically, it made me realize that a big difference for me this year was choosing whether it was conscious or subconscious to work with and for people who I really liked and respected and aligned with in a bigger picture way. So yeah, there were times this year that I spoke at a conference. I didn't really have a connection with the people or didn't know them very well, but

I'll tell you 90% of the time, I did know the people, I got to know people, I spent time on calls with them before their events, and I really worked to make sure that we were on the same page with mission and purpose. And now as I'm reflecting and looking at all these really thoughtful things that people have sent me right around Thanksgiving and focusing on gratitude, I'm really grateful that this shift occurred.

And I guess what I want to share with you is that when we choose people who choose us, when we choose people who align with our morals, our purpose, our mission, things just work out so much better. You don't have to worry about someone stabbing you in the back. Or did they really mean what they said? Or, gosh, I hope they're happy with my work because you know going in, it's all going to turn out for good because they're good people. And that you're going to ask for expectations and communicate

clearly with them and ask for feedback along the way. So you know you'll do a good job. And that comfort and change for me is massive. And I'm super proud of it now that I reflect back on this year. And I look back on what a difference it makes to work with people that you're actually grateful for. So if you are in a situation where you are not working with people that you're grateful for and that aren't grateful for you High time to get out of there and this is also one of the ways that I'm approaching There's a lot of new business opportunities that have very recently come into my world and People ask me a lot, you know, hey, how do you know which opportunities to go after which ones to pass on? more and more I'm leaning to

this gut feeling that I get when I meet someone. And I'll tell you when I go against that and say, oh, but it is a good financial opportunity, and I should go for it anyways, even though I've got this resistance somehow. It never turns out the way that I hoped and ends up taking more time or not coming to fruition. And I'm just learning, still at 46 years old, learning so much, but I'm learning that when I feel really good about working with people and companies, it just really turns out better in the end. So for you, when you're looking at new opportunities or thinking about partnerships and who should you invest in and spend your time with? I would challenge you to say,

how do you feel that first time that you met with them? How do you feel going back and sitting with them? Is it a safe situation where you know you'll be supported? We don't have to worry about minsing words, but you just show up as yourself. And those are the partnerships. I'm drawn to, those are the partnerships. I'm drawn to those are the partnerships. I'm entering into and I'm definitely leading with gratitude for the remainder of this year,

which we still have a whole other month left. And for next year and beyond, it definitely is something different that I've done that's starting to pay some really positive dividends mentally, financially, and professionally. So choose your partners wisely. Choose your clients wisely. Don't be afraid to fire bad customers or clients because you deserve more and why not now and why not today. Grateful for you at hoping that you had a great Thanksgiving and that you're feeling the gratitude today. Whole-tight, we're gonna be right back. Meet a different guest each week.

Go to our department! All of us, really. Tim, can you share for the people, they're probably only a few here that don't know your backstory, I mean, your upbringing, and actually at our event planner Expo, a couple of weeks ago, there was a story

you shared that I hadn't heard before about that special teacher and how that touched your life. To me, I love that story and it just made me think how I could affect somebody else through going through something similar to what you did. Thank you. I think that, you know, a lot of people say like, what's the secret of what you've done? I think that a lot of people say, like, what's the secret of what you've done? I really am a person that has had amazing mentors. And so that's really like the secret. And so, born in Compton, which I love that city, and I still do a lot for the city. But we had seven people in a two bedroom apartment, which is called cramped and crowded.

And my mother had a six-grade education. She is Spanish, Vesanthita Gonzalez. My father is Cuban, Black Afro-Cuban. Some Afro-Cuban in Spanish. He had a 10th grade education. My mother worked at a donut shop called Winchells. My father worked at Bethlehem Steele. We were very just common. There was not a lot of like big talk going on. But later in life, we moved to a all-white neighborhood, which was like culture shock to me, but I learned to adjust, adapt, and I was funny in that probably helped. But I had a teacher in my sixth grade teacher who asked me to stay after class one day and he said, Timmy, can you stay after class? And you guys remember these days, like all the kids in the class went, ooh, like he's probably in trouble. So the teacher says to me, Timmy,

I want to tell you something. I think you are in Marisol, I didn't know what he was going to say. I think you are a good dancer, I think you're a good basketball player. He says, I think you are brilliant. And because you're brilliant, I want to see if you want to read one of my books from my private library. So Heather, he had three books lined up on the desk, and one was a book about the life of Michelangelo. Little did he know by me checking out this book by him in the sixth grade that it would change my life because it took me beyond, beyond my upbringing, beyond the low ceiling,

beyond the small thinking. It took me beyond to read about this guy Michael Angelo of how he had his own hardships but he found a way to do brilliant things and this teacher stuck with me in the seventh grade he would call me to see if I was doing well in the eighth grade he'd call me to see if I was doing well in the ninth grade he'd call me to see if I was going, doing well, this guy totally lit my fire that I really was brilliant and that I was called to do brilliant things.

You had never had someone speak to you that way before you met or before he called on you and asked you to stay after, right? Never in my life because my mother bless her heart. She's 89 and still tough. It's like, mom, you're 89, slow down. So my mother never said big compliments to us. She was all about the work ethic. She had five children, all of us have done well in life because we have like a strong work ethic. But that's how

she knew how to raise us. So I'd never heard anything positive from her. Like, you're amazing, you're gonna do amazing things. It was more like, you know, do the dishes, but doing better, clean your room, but do it better. So this guy's words, man, there's power and words. He spoke me to the place I was supposed to be. He spoke me to the uncommon Tim story that I later became. Did this happen before your father passed away or after? Heather, you do your homework. It happened right after. So in hindsight, I think that the reason he

did it is because he knew I had a need. So that was pretty cool of him because my father, who was super cool, very tall, handsome guy, he was just going through a green light, guys, at 730 at night, but it was in January, so an LA was getting dark already. It was dark. You just going through a green light, going to get my mother food and a man, bless his heart, ran a red light and my father died. So what was taken on my father died is the joy, the energy, the atmosphere because my mother did not have that.

And so I think that this teacher really felt that there was probably a need, but he never said that. He just spoke into my life, and then he later, like I said, Heather, called me, could you imagine when I went to the seventh grade, the eighth grade, and then kept checking up on me. But later in life, I went back, and I bought him a very expensive Rolex watch, like the big, big one,

and I've been a very big blessing to the guy's life. As he was to you, that's pretty flipping awesome. What was the transition like to overcome so much adversity coming from such a challenging place, going through so much loss? How did that young man become a world shaker? To me, it just, I don't understand the magic that occurred next.

Yeah, so I think that it's a principle Heather that you know I teach, that in order to get the right harvest, you have to do these steps. Number one, you have to plow the ground. You got to plow. And then you have to plant the right seed. So that's what's so important. Like I'm in this gear because my trainer just left because my gym shut down. So I just build a whole gym in my house, a really nice one. So my trainer just left because my gym shut down so I just build a whole gym in my house a really nice one

So my trainer just left so so every day I'm hustling and I like that song every day. I'm hustling every every every every every Every day I'm hustling so you got to plow the ground You got to plant the seed but the right seed and then you got to water the seed which is repetition Okay, and then you will reap a harvest. So I do not believe that mine is any form of an overnight success story. Mine is a story of I plow, I plow, I plow, I plant, I plant, I plant, I water, I water, I water, I harvest, I harvest, I harvest, I harvest, I harvest. Like my break in Hollywood was almost by accident. I was a humanitarian, been to 75 countries of the world helping people in third world nations. A famous actress found me, I won't say their name

right now, but you guys know her. She found me, older actress, put me in front of her friends, there were 13 people there, and 10 of them were all household names. And I was only 29 years of age. Well, there it went. That was my life. All of a sudden, these guys are wanting to go to Spogos with me, they're wanting to hang out with me, they're wanting to support my nonprofit, they're wanting me to go on vacation with them. And you know, you learn from education, observation and conversation. I had so many great conversations with the greatest people, greatest mindsets, and they helped catapult my life into just crazy dimensions. You never know what's going to happen next. That's why you have got to show up. That's what I always tell

myself. Someone just asked him, you were talking earlier about sitting and settling in the problem when you were talking about resilience. Where is the moment that you decide not to settle and instead choose to become resilient? Okay, so when you feel like you might be settling, there are steps. So if you feel like you might be settling, whether be watched, like I guess I'll just always feel this way physically or I got divorced. And so now I feel shame and guilt or my sons having problems. He may not get out or my daughters having problems. They may not get out or whatever, whatever you feel like you're sitting and settling in. Number one, you have to wake up. You have to wake up. You have to wake up.

Secondly, you have to take inventory. That's a difficult part guys to take inventory and say, Okay, where is my life? Like dog gone it. What happened to my joy? What happened to my peace? What happened to my creativity? So number one wake up number two take inventory number three Here's where someone like Heather comes in. You got a partner with the right people So you got to partner with the right people. So you got to partner with power, partner with people that have the answers that you do not have. Okay, and that will help get you out of that place of settling.

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Question, does Tim plant multiple crops and maintain or does he focus on just one or two? Tim, I will tell you, I typically, I'm so interested to hear what you say because I believe in the octopus strategy that who knows what is gonna go crazy next and you have to have multiple revenue streams, but I learned that the hard way. And Jesse Itzler told me I was crazy for that strategy.

He's like, you're wrong, focus on one. So I'm so interested to hear what you think about that. Okay, so Heather, I agree with you and I agree with Jesse. It is a hybrid. So there's a book by Keller, as you know, called The One Thing. And so I like that book, but I also see Heather's side that you can do the one thing, but then you can plant seed in multiple things. So I think you gotta really master the one thing, like master one thing, Malcolm Gladwell,

the 10,000 hours, okay? So you wanna master one thing. So I'm master becoming the best comeback coach in the world. I cannot be beat in the comeback. That's why the top sports stars come to me, rap stars, actors, politicians. I can't be beat in that. But I can be beat in cooking. I'm not that great. Don't ask me to work on your car. Not that great. Okay. But the comeback I've mastered. So you've got to master the one thing. Malcolm Gladwell. But as Heather's saying, you have to plant seed in other areas.

Like many of the stars I work with, they had an A and a B side of the record back in the day, and they've told me the B side is the one that became the hit, but they thought it was going to be the A side. So great thinking Heather, great thinking. Yeah, it's funny that you mentioned, you know, working the 10,000 hours to master something. And this is, as we get older, I'm 46, I know we have a lot of people here in late 40s, 50s,

you know, I mastered sales and sales leadership in corporate America, cut to three years ago, I get fired. So I'm a master at something that now I've walked away from, however, what I like to share with people is as an author, you need to be a badass seller. As an entrepreneur, you need to be a salesperson and a leader. So you can also master one thing and then take some of those learnings and apply them to something that you are a rookie in. Fantastic.

So as Heather's saying, what you do, this stuff that we're learning in the trenches, it feels like we don't like it. It's good for you. It's, it's like eating spinach. Eat it because then you can master and hill cop yourself like Heather's doing and Heather's just getting started. She's a very young. Whatever age she's supposed to be. Heather, you're a star. Heather, I'm going to tell you right now, he's a star. I'm around stars every other day or every day of my life. I was with one last night. Heather is a star. She can't help herself. It's not a fault. Too bad. Deal with it. So you're going to hit it in all different dynamics and places. Thank you so much, Tim. So someone just wrote, thank you Tim so much. I can't believe you're going to hit it in all different dynamics and places. Thank you so much, Tim.

So someone just wrote, thank you, Tim, so much. I can't believe you're here. This is amazing. How do you stay fired up during the times where you are low so that you can then fire up your team? Okay, so number one, I don't lead by hype. You know, I still got some comp to me, yo. So I don't lead by hype.

Like what you see coming out of me right now is spirit. So my strength is I think I am supernaturally connected. Like I'll sit with people and I won't name drop somebody, but it's a person you know. And they said to me the other day that said, holy crap, it's like something's coming out of you. I said, it is. So to me, I believe I could tap into a God flow.

So to me, it's not like I got to hide myself up like, I'm on my grind, I beat the sun up. Some of these guys would say, I'm on my grind to beat the sun up. I feel like saying you look like crap, go back to sleep. But mine is like a God flow. And so I'm just flowing, guys. I'm flowing in creativity, I'm flowing ideas.

I'm constantly studying. I'm constantly talking to amazing minds like you guys. And so the way I motivate is by example. I teach by example. My guys around me, they're just watching me. And I started seeing that they walked like me, they're just watching me. And I started seeing that they walk like me. They start talking like me. I lead by example. That is such a great point. But it could not have always been that way for you. Right,

Tim? So going back, and I do, I feel that, and I was talking to everybody earlier about when you were speaking on the event planner. And you were just so chill talking, but it was pure magic, and it radiates from you, which is obviously a really special gift that you have that goes back to your faith. I don't know anyone that has such strong faith the way that you do. It's so rooted in who you are, and that is such a power of yours. But how did you get to that place could not have been that way forever? Well, number one, thank you. So to me, like, I didn't come to faith because I did not have something

and I needed something to fill the void. My thing was, like, if there is really this utmost God that could take me to utmost places, I wanna find ways to tap into them because I think there's three levels of living, almost, which means not quite Most, which means there's a ceiling and utmost, which means there's no ceiling. So I believe that at utmost God Did not create almost children. So I wanted to tap into that utmost God header and so I?

Really started to get to know God through studying research, reading books for myself, not for religion, not to convert human beings, but just because I wanted to live this at most life. And I'm trying to tell you, it created what I call a miracle mentality in my mind. And a miracle is a supernatural intervention into God that he helps you with things that are not supposed to happen. And so a miracle is something extra ordinary watch, not common, not the usual, not the regular. So this is the life that I've been able to manifest all these years. Yeah.

Tim was so many people now becoming depressed, becoming addicted to drugs, to alcohol, more than what we would typically see in any given time. What are some of the strategies that you suggest or implement with people when you work with depressed anxiety and addiction. Which I do every day. So I'm in the addiction space. I've been part owner of addiction centers for the last five years. I'm also do a lot in the air of addiction with nonprofits. I just hosted a big summit on mental health. Number one, don't put yourself down. No matter where you're at in this situation, don't put yourself down. So if you're depressed, if you're down, if you're addicted, if you're afflicted, don't put yourself down. So what we need to do is realize that what's

happening to you is not working for you. And I say this way, Heather, the real you will make a demand on the you that you've become. So if you're an addict, something you are saying, that's not you. If you're living in depression and just letting yourself be overwhelmed, you're saying, that's not really me. So in that case, as I said earlier, look, guys, you got to reach for help. I'm not afraid to reach for help. To get to where I am in life and to go beyond I reach for help

I still have two therapists you say what do you have to in case one is off? Now are you talking to them about serious stuff not so much a lot of times I just go in there I crack them up with jokes, but I do it for accountability. And so I'm always reaching for the stronger people. So today I'm reaching for you guys and I'm drawing strength even from the energy I'm feeling from you guys. So you guys need to take time and meditate and stop looking listen because the real you is talking to you.

So you don't forget your dream has a voice But some of you have turned the volume down Meditation and prayer turns the volume up and the real you says get up The real you said you can get through this the real you says you're gonna be a person like Heather Monhan and start touching millions of people That's what happened to Heather the real Heather Rose up from the things you've been through and said, bam, rise up and be who you're called to be. I told you guys he was going to drop so much knowledge on you. I'm so excited. But Tim, you know what's funny when you're talking about that and obviously we all have our low moments,

myself included, make poor decisions, you know, beat myself up the next day. And I've got to do better. One of the things that I've been saying to myself this year specifically because it's been very challenging. My sons at Zoom School at home, quarantine, you know, all the same things that we're all dealing with. Some of the things on when I have a bad day and I'm like, oh, is it five o'clock yet, you know, can I have a shard and a I'll start saying, okay, if I don't want to take that away in this moment, what could I add to my day that could help me get in a better way? Could I run?

Could I put lemon in my water? Could I eat salad tonight? I start thinking I can add or I can subtract things sometimes to help me through a rut just to get out of that bad, because you're probably having a bad day or whatever, hopefully. Then, and so that's my new thing I try to do. Like, what could I add to it to make it better and what can I pull away from it right now so that either way I'm improving my situation.

So I love that. So I call it shifting your satellite dish. So wherever you put your satellite dish, that's what you pick up. So watch, guys, if you're in the trenches and you're working all the time and you're working, working, working, working, working, working, that's where your satellite dish is. If you are a mother and you have like three little, little kids, that's where your satellite dish is. Okay, if you have a grumpy husband or grumpy wife, that's where your satellite dish is. So you have to on the daily, shift your satellite dish to other networks that make you feel better.

Like one of my go-to's is music. So I'm really into like Stevie Wonder, old stuff, Earth, Wind, and Fire, Al Green. It's over with when that music comes on. Because listen, my job, I got friends in jail right now. I got people with COVID. I just found that one of my buddies that just had a heart attack. He's in the hospital. So I got so much coming at Tim's story. So, but when I put on Stevie Wonder looking back at when I was a little nappy headed boy. Man, boom, boom, shift my satellite dish and I'm little Timmy who's tan again. So you guys got to shift your satellite dish on a daily basis. As Heather said, whether that's going for a run, whether that is just going outside

and bird watching or whether that's getting up, going for a drive, going to Starbucks drive through, but just to get out and breathe, shift your satellite dish. Boom. Someone just asked, what other daily habits big or small do you have that give you the most back in your life?

I'm really into contacting people. So I've sent out already probably 10 texts today and it's only 1047 AM my time and just encouraging people like hey just thinking about you I'm excited about your new project or hey wow that was super that you got them on your podcast or whoa I'm glad the NBA is coming back in December you're gonna have a good season. I've already seen out 10, it's only 1048. So I am constantly encouraging somebody else. I'm just sowing seeds into other people.

But I do that because I want to. But what I have found out is what you may happen for somebody else, life will make happen for you. You'll hear that from a lot of my male friends. They're like, Tim is unusual. Like, he sends me like all kinds of encouraging messages and calls me and sometimes even sends emojis. We all love a good emoji.

Okay, how do you serve the way that you do, like the level that you do with this frequency without being discouraged? It seems like you have to give, give and give. How do you take care of yourself when you give so much yourself to the world? Okay. So the reality is sometimes I am discouraged, sometimes I'm disappointed, and sometimes my stuff didn't work. So I have clients that I work with that they are still very addicted and even got worse.

I have marriages that I helped that they look like they're going to make it a month later they say we just filed for divorce. So there are times I'm disappointed and discouraged. It's like being a really good running back in the NFL football. You may be a great running back but you're still going to finish the game and your right hip hurts and your head hurts because you got hit so much. So when you do what we do, like I know Heather's job, I don't know all your guys' job, but when you do what we do when you're in the front lines, guys, you're taking shots. So I'm taking more shots in the average person. So what I have to do, watch, is I have to go to what I call the holy Ground is a place of secrets, significance, safety,

seclusion, and supernatural power. I'm a pro at running to the Holy Ground. I say no to a lot of things. Tim, you want to go to Master's? No, I don't want to go. Tim, you want to go so and so? No, I don't want to go. You're such a homebody.

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There's times where I'm like so exhausted and they'll say, this person really is a fan of yours and they're in the hospital. And I go, okay, I'm going to go to Cedar Sinai Hospital and I'm going to go see hospital. And I go, okay, I'm gonna go to Cedar Sinai Hospital and I'm gonna go see him. And I go in there like dragging myself and then Heather and I leave and I'm like flying. So there's really some type of supernatural energy I think that comes back to you as we give,

as we so we reap back. So no doubt about it. Okay, this is a really interesting question. Tim, for someone who loves to serve and help others the way you do, how do you justify to yourself raising your rates without the fear of losing people that need you that you still want to get to, is that like I am a humanitarian, I do a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of things for free. But what my peers have helped me with is Tim, your value is high. And so you need to bring your rates up

to where your value is. And so I had to literally be talked into that years ago. But what I found is that people gave me more respect when I raised my rates up. A lot of times they value what they pay for. And Heather, a lot of times, it would be with famous people. I'd say, okay, we have a Zoom call at 8 in the morning. I'd be waiting in front of the computer and they don't show up.

But when you charge them, look at me guys, there they are. So I have my humanitarian side, which will always be me, but I also have my business side. But thank you to my peers that picked me up and said, that's your value. Do it. Okay, here's a really great question to you. How does Tim use social media? Sounds like he is more energized by connecting with people directly versus on social. What is his point of view on how we can use social media which feels so impersonal and fake at times? I think the key for all of us, the key guys is to always be authentic. And you've heard that saying you've been born in an original don't die a copy. So what I want from you on social

media is I want you. I want you. And then if you are trying to monetize and sell something, I want you, but I want you to be you, but properly selling that product. And so that's, that was the greatness of Johnny Carson, who's before your day. Is that Johnny Carson would just lay back and he was such a good interviewer and such a good listener. So the way I use social media is I am organically Tim's story and then I tell you about what I'm up to and what we're doing and it's working for us. We do very, very well in our returns on social media, but I think it's because of being very authentic.

Okay, Tim, how can you help others see their value when we struggle to see our own value? I think that we have to understand what's important today. I think we're so caught by the visual, the visual, the visual, or the visual of they drive this car, are they live in the 902.0? Some of the greatest people I've met are they have great minds. Are they have a great sense of humor?

Are they have great compassion? So the idea is called soaring with your strengths. Like I think my greatest strength is my ability to listen. I was raised by three sisters and a mother when my father passed. I am a phenomenal listener. Listening has taken Tim's story to the top. So I don't come in with, oh, I'm charismatic or, oh, I'm semi-handsome or, oh, I've done well for a living. No, my strength is, I'm a good listener and I care. That's my strength. That comes through so clearly. And you're launching

a new program to actually teach people how to coach. Can you tell us about that? Yes, you know, I'm very excited about this. Is it this is another thing that we have to pay attention to our blind spots in the area of coaching for probably 10 years. People have been saying Tim, you should do your own certified coaching program because you got swag. Do it Tim's story style. Inside, go na na. But three years ago, I decided to say yes. And I hired six psychologists, one psychiatrist. We put together a whole curriculum that's phenomenal. And I teach you how to be a life coach. So to seven week program, it's all online, but here's what's unheard of.

For two years, I continue to coach you at the same price. So you pay one price for two years, I continue to coach you. So every quarter I get on with all my coaches and we stay on for several hours. And we talk about how to monetize, how to deal with people, how it's working for you, how to create your own curriculum. So I will tell you how well this is going. We had a call recently and we had about 111 people on the call and 81 of the 111 showed interest to sign up. So that's showing you that people want what I'm doing. I can help you to become a better coach to your kids, in your business, a coach to your own

life because sometimes you got to coach yourself or to monetize your coaching business. And can I give them the website? Okay, so it's TimStory.com. So T-I-M-S-T-O-R-E-Y.com, I think the price is very fair mostly for the other prices that are out there. And this could change your life, guys. I didn't know this would make me TimStory life coach to the stars. I was just trying to help humans. So who knows what's going to happen with your life. So look into that because it could really help you. Guys, there's no better coach out there. He is at the top of the top. He is goals to me and I would love it if you take your computers off of mute so we can give him a round of

applause for being here today because I am so freaking grateful for him and I know you are too. Guys, please show him love. I want everyone to post about Tim today on social media, let him feel the love and Tim love you so much. Thank you so much for being here. Real friends. I'm so proud of you, Heather. Thank you so much. You are the best. Everyone have a blessed weekend. Thank you. I hope you to try to find your passion. I hope you loved getting to hang with my friend Tim's story. He is amazing. He's the world shaker.

He's Oprah's bestie. I mean, come on. The guy's unbelievable. And I get so excited when I get the chance to speak to him and be around him. Choose people that you get excited to be around. It makes your day so much brighter. Okay, so I've gotten a couple of questions that I wanted to bring up today. One is, came to me from LinkedIn and it's, hey, I watch

your videos and your podcast, your inspiration to me. Thank you. Here's my request. Will you create some content on how to balance your personal life and with your professional life being a working woman and working mom. So here's the thing, and this year's so different, right? Because I'm home all the time now. My son's home all the time. So I have so much more time with my son. However, it's funny because in the old world, I was traveling a lot,

but it was kind of, I would work a lot when I was gone, and then when I was home and my son wasn't in school, we would go do things together. Then when he would go to school, I would work. And then when I would travel, I'd focus on work. So it was this ebb and flow where now it's different, right? Because you're working at home all the time. So there really aren't those boundaries. And it's more trying to carve out meaningful things.

If you're just home a lot with your kids and your family You need to make I think more of an effort, right? Because it kind of all blurs together now So I'm trying to carve out specific things that we can do that are special or meaningful Otherwise, it just starts all blending together which is no bueno But for me, you know, balance means taking care of yourself and your health. Really, the times I regret is when I don't sleep or I'm not working out, because I lose my mind and become a stress case, which nothing good comes from. So balance

for me starts there, taking care of yourself, making sure you're doing the things that you need to do. So you can take care of everybody else in your life. That's when things start going a heck of a lot better. Okay, now we could just got another question. Here we go. Heather, I don't struggle with confidence, but I can't put my finger on what's happening with my social media audience. They're not responding to my messages, my conversations, or my posts. I feel like I have a network filled with men who maybe just like how I look, not an

activated network of people that want to engage and have conversations around business, corporate and entrepreneurial work. What do you think? So here's the thing, and I've explained this a few times, but we'll explain it again. You know, we need to look at data, right? So data doesn't lie. When you look at your social media posts, I use a tool on LinkedIn called Shield. I use a tool on Instagram called IconaSquare. You know, figure out what tools work for you. I don't, you know, promote or partner with any of them.

Just pick what works for you and dig into the data. So for me, I noticed this year specifically, really aggressive, more controversial posts are doing way better than they used to. And I think that's because everyone's in this heightened, you know, tense window, so I posted about some woman sent me some crazy message on my website, Heather Monahan.com. I had this little bot. It's ahead of me. And you can talk to it. And she wrote in there, hey, love your content, love your work. However, when you show your workout videos, we can see your legs and your chest. And it's really not helpful for women that you post things like this. You need to stop posting things like that and cover yourself up more. It was so ridiculous. I thought, so I posted to the woman that just sent me this note, you know, and I put the the copy that she utilized

I see here's a thing you do you if you want to you know cover yourself up and not work out Perfect for you. That's awesome. Go go. Yes, applauding you congrats However, you know, I don't work for you. You're not in charge of me So until the social media platform on mine tells me it's illegal to post workout videos, and I work out, I'll post my workout videos, right? So I'll do me, you do you, and rock on, cheering you on from afar. But I don't like this idea that people think

they can come in and tell you what to do. Okay, so posts like that are doing really well this year, I'm seeing that in the data, also inspirational posts are doing really well, People want that inspiration. They want to be reminded to hang on. But again, I wouldn't know that if I didn't analyze the data each week and each month to see what's resonating or what's not resonating.

Now, what this woman's saying is she thinks maybe she has the wrong audience because her messages aren't resonating. I guarantee you this, there's some of her messages that are resonating. She's not digging in enough to her data and get in a little bit deeper in that data analysis so that you can start finding out.

But here's the thing, if you wanna grow and attract a different audience, you probably need different messaging or you need to show up in different areas. My suggestions would be a really easy way, be a guest on podcast, right? I did this the first two years after I got fired. I went on more podcasts.

Every single day I went on podcasts. I don't do it anymore because I definitely feel like I did the work and built up the audiences. Now I have a different approach and that isn't necessarily the best use of my time. But earlier on when you're trying to establish your social media presence, it's super helpful. If you choose to go that route, it really worked and helped me. So I would say if you're a woman looking to attract a female audience and go on a big

female show, right, you know, expose yourself to that audience, the other thing you can do is follow big audiences, big female audiences on different social media networks, like their stuff, share their stuff, respond. Respond to their followers, engage in conversation, and give people a reason to follow back to your page. So you want to attract that audience, find out where they are. Are they in Facebook groups? Are they in LinkedIn groups?

Are they in networking Zoom groups? Just try to figure out where those groups are, and then you start showing up shining your light and you will attract those people to you. So instead of stopping in this idea of, oh, my messages aren't working, I have the wrong audience, take action to pull that right audience towards you,

dig into the data, start seeing what's working, and lean in more to what works versus what doesn't. Okay, then I have a woman that I've been working with the past couple of months and we were on a call this week and it was such a good call, I found an interesting one in that she was saying to me, I don't, you know, people are taking this time

at the end of one year to start forecasting what are my big picture goals? What's my Everest as Colin O'Brady would say for next year? What's that big thing I'm going after? And she came to this realization, she wants to work for herself, but she doesn't know what that looks like.

And I'm sitting there cheering because that's exactly how I felt when I got fired. I thought, okay, I wanna work for me, but I have no idea what I would do. And I put out on social media that I needed help and I didn't know what I wanted to do. I asked for help, right? Opportunity started showing up.

I'd step into the fear and go for them. That led me to the Elvis Durant show, which was the first time someone said to me, you're obviously writing a book. That was the first time I thought, maybe I should write a book. And so I googled, how do you write a book? And then I wrote a book. And then I self-published my book, right? So I didn't know I was going to do any of those things. And then when I googled how do you sell books, I found out you speak and I didn't

know speaking was a career that I could get paid a lot of money for. Hello, had I known that? I would have quit corporate America 20 years ago and just gone into speaking. Oh my gosh, misstopper, tooday. But we're here now. So I guess my point is you don't need to know what it's going to look like. You need to raise your hand, put yourself out there, start having the conversations and taking the steps to move things forward, trusting that you will figure it out along the way. And I know that's the antithesis of corporate America. So it's super scary and hard at first, put over time and through discipline and showing up,

you'll teach yourself that all successful people don't know the how, they just bet on themselves to figure it out along the way. And that is exactly what we're doing. Okay, and then in closing, I had another really good call this week with a gentleman that I've been working with, and he's been back and forth with his employer

on his new contract agreement for 2021 and beyond. You know, when you're not in the throes of someone's life day to day, you only meet with them once a week or a couple of times a month, sometimes you can see things much more clearly than they can, right, when you're in the 24-7 of it, you might not notice. Well, I asked him, I said,

hey, where are we at with your contract? Did you get it done? And he says, and this is after, gosh, it must be six weeks, four or six weeks. And he said, no, we still haven't. He said, but, you know, I guess we all have to give some and, you know, everyone needs to compromise. And I said, whoop pump the brakes now. Number one, you over delivered for this year. Number two, the goals and expectations they have for you for next year are massive. Hang on. What if you were to leave?

Stop looking at it from the company's perspective and start looking at it from your value perspective. They will be crazy to let you walk out that door. In fact, they need this contract down a million times more than you do. I don't think you're seeing your value or the leverage that you have. And I remember being in that similar situation thinking, oh, I want to get this done, but they're not giving in. Okay, maybe I should give in more when the reality was they needed me and I needed to own that.

And I convinced him. I said, listen, own that, you know, they're asking you to triple revenues next year that you killed it during a pandemic, own that and go back to them and say, guys, I think we're all really happy with the performances here, correct? And get them to start saying yes. I think you're happy with my team and their performance, correct? Yes, yes, you're doing a great job. And I think you're happy with the expectations and goals you set for me tripling revenue

for 2021, correct? Well, if you'd like me to do so, I need to get back to work and focus on delivering results. We need to get this contract wrapped up. As we've discussed, I sent you the changes that I need. I think my performance warned said, can we please get this done today so I can get back to work and delivering on your goals for 2021? Boom, done. You don't need to be emotional. You don't need to argue. You don't need to fight, you just need to own your value and ask the company if you can please get back to work and stop being distracted with contract negotiation. Don't lose sight of your value, I'm not losing sight of mine anymore and I hope that this

episode left you with confidence and that you keep on creating your confidence all week. I will see you next week as I'll be creating mine right alongside you. I'm gonna write a word over here. I decided to change that tiny amount and the right amount. I couldn't be more excited for what you're getting here. Start learning and growing.

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