Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - Why Your Mindset Is The KEY To Success! With Sara Blakley & Jesse Itzler Episode 240

Episode Date: August 3, 2022

In This Episode You Will Learn About:  The power of your mindset   Staying present   Taking risks  Visualizing success  Resources: Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Show Notes:  I’m cutting right to it- the interview of a LIFETIME! I sat down with Sara Blakley, the founder of SPANX, and her husband Jesse Itzler, a serial entrepreneur, to share with you the power of your mindset. Sarah and Jesse share the risks they took that changed EVERYTHING, and why you should NEVER underestimate your mind! If you can stay positive and focused on the work in front of you, then there’s NOTHING you can’t accomplish. Start spending your time and energy on pursuing your ideas, NOT defending them!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I am so grateful to everyone at HyperGro's for giving me the opportunity to share this interview with you. It is the interview of a lifetime and I'm so excited for you to hear it. Can't wait to hear what you think and I'm going to cut right to it because you're going to be blown away by Sarah Blakely, the founder of Spanx and her husband, Jesse Itzler, entrepreneur, and unbelievable guy. And I'm so grateful I got the opportunity to interview both of them.

If you did not catch hyper growth in Boston, you've got to catch hyper growth in San Francisco. It's an amazing event where you get to meet thought leaders. And I got the opportunity to interview Sarah and Jesse live on stage. And now you get the chance to hear it can't wait to hear what you think Sarah and Jesse and as was just mentioned You guys have had a lot going on in a last week. Yes, that's definitely true

It not much sleep not a lot of sleep in case some of the people here don't follow you on Instagram Can you kind of break down what last man standing was all about? Yeah, so I just that's the reason why I'm laying flip flops I just got back from a race called the last man standing. You guys see any okay? Okay, so like an operator And the format of the race is you run a 4.2 mile loop, you have an hour to do it. And if you finish earlier, you can rest, finish in 50 minutes, you have a 10 minute rest, and then they line you up again at the top of the hour, and you do it again, and you keep going until one person is left.

So my white, it was in Maine, and when I, when I, the, the, well, when I googled it, it said that there were, there was moderate elevation. Yeah, if you live in Maine, it was crazy terrain. So I ended up, I just got back. I did 20 hours, 80 miles, and I came and said, I think that deserves a round of applause. And my wife was the last wife standing. Yes, I win last wife standing. Yes, I win last wife standing.

Yes. I sleep for 35 hours, so I was supporting him. And it's really challenging. I said at one point I had a breakdown. I think at like four in the morning, where I just started crying, because I said marriage is hard when you have to really support each other's dreams, and especially if you have to watch the person you love suffer and

Jesse had a pep talk with me before and he said no matter what Tell me I look good tell me I look strong don't pull me out of the race don't tell me that you're worried about me So I didn't say to say it like this. Oh, you look you look good That's true, That's true. But it was really a wild experience of just human spirit. You know, what we all have inside of us, that grid and determination. And there were 112 of really intensely impressive ultra runners there. And wow, I was just blown away by mindset really because I asked Jesse after this.

I mean, Jesse's 51. So I said, honey, even though you didn't get the last man standing, you definitely won the oldest man standing because he was 10 to 20 years older than every other racer in this race. And, um, yeah. So. in this race. And yeah, so. And so I said to him, I was so curious,

because I knew mindset, I'm a huge believer in mindset. And I said, what was your mindset? What were you thinking during the race? And he looked at me with laser focus after it. And he said, I was saying repeatedly to myself, I push my body and my body responds. And boyd it at ever. I mean, because his knees, his ankles,

I mean, the rest of his body really, I mean, was shutting down, but his mindset was there. And that push, and I would say, I mean, at mile 47, I thought you were done. I love you, but I really did. I was like, she's so worried. And then, you know, you just can't, you can't ever doubt the mindset. The mindset of the person is in the right place, then they just go way beyond what you expect.

What's interesting about this race is, you know, you can get lost in how long it's going to be or how, what the distance is. And it's like anything you're doing in your entrepreneurial journey or any challenge, any goal. It's really just being laser focused on what's happening right now, what's the most important thing and not getting, not patting yourself on your back for all your achievements, like, oh, I got to mile 25 or whatever and not thinking about how far you want to go. It was literally just saying super present and I always say, be where your feet are. And right here I'm in this loop. I'm in this loop right now.

Let me get back to the to the chair, get my little rest and go on the next loop. Right now this is my job to get to the loop. And that was the focus. Wow. It's very, very impressive. And if any of you guys want to be super entertained and inspired, it's on my Instagram page at Sarah Blakely. And it's in one of those, you know, I put it in a permanent circle in the bar below the descriptor of my name

and it's called the last man standing and it's really, it is very... Yeah, you have to check it out. Her and her and her stories are really funny. So Sarah, you mentioned mindset and the importance and effect that mindset has not only for Jesse, but you know people look at you and your company today and they think you're enormously successful and it was probably always that way. However, you were a salesperson at one point in time and had a very different life. Do you attribute the things that have happened in your life to mindset or what do you attribute that success to? Yeah definitely mindset I mean I sold

facs machines door to door for seven years after graduating from college and I for 20 years thanks is gonna be 20 I started it in the year 2000 and the sound bite in the media has been Sarah cut the feed out of Penny has solved an undergarment issue and you know now thanks is here. And while that is true, there was so much more about the behind the scenes of why this happened. And people ask me, can I have 10 minutes, 15 minutes of your time? I want to pick your brain on how things started. But that real answer is it started way before I cut the feet out of my pantyhose. And it started when I was much younger. And I had a series of kind of tragic events happen to me when I was in high school.

And it led me to Wayne Dyer, who is a motivational, inspirational speaker. He passed away about two years ago. But I got exposed to him and I listened to his cassette tapes over and over and over again. To the point that I had his one series called How to Be a No Limit Person, memorized all 10 cassette tapes front and back. And try living with that.

Yeah, that's funny, because in high school, no one wanted to get stuck in my car. Like after a party, they're like, she's going to make you listen to the shit. But then, you know, I said, I think I would take simple things like, I'm just going to do the laundry tomorrow and she'd like, you know the ramifications of waiting till tomorrow with like, so, but then fast forward, you know, I think it was 10 to 15 years after high school that I ended up on the cover of Forbes and the text I got in my phone were so funny. I mean, literally all my friends were like, damn, shoulda listened to that shit. So, I'm a big believer in it.

I learned early on about manifesting law of attraction, not caring what other people think about you, which is a really big one for an entrepreneur or, you know, in life, really. And I'm a work in progress on that. There are times where I do care and I check myself and say, you know, let's work on this. But it's very freeing to not care what other people think. You'll take more risks to not really focus on the outcome and be so afraid to fail. So all of that is a big part of my journey and thanks for sure. So I think mindset is I work on it daily.

We all need to, I need to get those cassettes. Jesse, you didn't start out an MTV wrapper. You didn't start out owning an MBA team. You were sleeping on couches for quite a while, which people probably find hard to bleed. Do you attribute your success to mindset or what do you attribute it to? Well, I definitely have my own version of mindset. When I have a goal, I like to say that's the end of the movie. I go to the end of the movie first,

where I want the outcome today. And that's unwavering. I don't negotiate that. I don't try not to ever negotiate my goals. The script changes the plot, changes how you get there. You have all kinds of obstacles, but the end of the movie really never changes for me. I don't know, shape my goals. The script changes, the plot changes, how you get there. You have all kinds of obstacles, but the end of the movie really never changes for me.

So that's my form of visualization and how I kind of attack it. Sorry, you mentioned that you didn't share your invention with anyone for that first year. Why would you take that approach instead of enlisting others to help you or it support you take that approach instead of enlisting others to help you or support you through that? That really came from a gut feeling I really honor my gut and intuition a lot and still do through the journey that I'm on.

But when I cut the feed out of my pantyhose and started spanks, I had actually asked for the idea two years prior. So I was selling facts machines. I had one really bad day. I'd been kicked out of an two years prior. So I was selling fax machines. I had one really bad day. I had been kicked out of an office again. I mean, I got usually business cards ripped up in my face about once or twice a week. I got a squirted out of buildings all the time.

And this day was just hard. I mean, I'm seven years into 100% cold colonies to sell people a fax machine. And I pulled over and I said, I'm in the wrong movie. How did this happen? Call the director. Call the producer. This is not my life. I'm redirecting my life.

And I went home and I wrote down a list of what I'm good at in the positive column and strengths. And I saw sales. And I thought, OK, well, what is it about sales that I'm good at? And it led me to the fact that I like to offer people things that they may not know they need.

And then really makes a difference for them. And I wrote down in my journal that night, I'm going to invent a product that I can sell to millions of people that will make them feel good. And then I looked up in the air in my apartment and I said, I'm ready for the idea. If you give it to me, I won't squander it. And two years later, I cut the feed out of control top panios one night to wear white pants to a party and not have a panty line or anything show.

Because guys, you're out there in the audience. I don't know how many of you struggle with what to wear under white pants. But it's a legit problem that we have. And so I cut the feed out of my panios one time. And I thought this could be the idea because I had already set the intention for the idea to show up.

So as soon as I started on the path of it, I thought, okay, I don't want to tell anybody my idea because I feel that ideas are the most vulnerable in the moment that you have them. And it is our human nature that the minute we have an idea, we tell our friend, our coworker, our wife, our husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, and in those moments out of love and care and all the right intentions half the time, the person might say something that completely squashes it or makes you not pursue it.

So I didn't wanna tell my family and friends and I have very supportive family and friends, but I didn't want ego to have to get involved too early on in the process. I wanted to spend my time pursuing it and not defending it. So at night and on the weekends for two years, I would sell facts machines during the day and then at night I would stay up and I was working on the patent and I was doing all my research and driving, taking vacation days to drive to North Carolina where the manufacturing plants were and begging them to help make the first prototype.

But that is really why. And I have to say, I mean, everybody in their life has a million dollar, even a billion dollar idea. I mean, we do. They can't have it. I haven't had mine yet. Well, you do. And I feel like recognizing it is a big one.

And then also holding it sacred for me. And I'm glad I did, because I sat my family down a year later, and all they knew was Sarah's working on some crazy idea. And a year later, I sat him down, and I said, okay, guys, are you ready? It's floodless pantyhose. And I mean, they were like, so sweetie, if it's such a good idea, why hasn't anybody else created it?

And then someone else in my family was like, well, honey, you know, and even if this is a good idea, the big guys are just going to knock you off in the first six months and you will have spent your savings on this. And if I had heard those things in the moment that I had it, I probably would still be selling fax machines or something like it. So I really believe that. I believe that you got to really protect it. Now, it didn't mean I didn't tell people that would help me pursue it. I was telling lawyers, having them help me try to write the patent.

I was cold calling manufacturers and talking to them. I just didn't seek out people simply for validation until I knew I had put enough of my own sweat equity into this idea that no matter what the validation came back as, I wouldn't waver. That was a tweetable moment for me. I'm going to spend my time in energy pursuing it, not defending it. I think that's really powerful. Do you see ideas the same way that they need to be nurtured and protected or were you

more, I mean, because you created a lot of different companies and concepts over your career in life. Did you bring people in earlier on or did you take that same approach? Well, I have to agree with everything we're married. So, of course, I agree. No, I think one of the most important things as an entrepreneur, I found, is figuring out how to get from point A to point B the fastest. And if that is telling someone, or if that in my case, maybe it was getting a key investor,

getting a celebrity as part of ZICO or one of our brands, whether it was a key partnership, I think that's a critical part of my journey. Because when I started out, I did sleep on 18 different couches. The one thing I needed that we all need is we need a story. We need momentum. People buy into stories and momentum more than they buy into products. Like we're the business plan.

And when I started out, I started out in the music business. I had a record out on a label called Delicious Final. And right when my album came out, I did a Club MTV, which is a big show on MTV at the time. I was 21 years old, and I thought, like, wow, man, mom, I made it. I'm on MTV. This is unbelievable.

And I did my first show in Pittsburgh. And I got off the airplane in Pittsburgh. And when I got off the airplane, there was a huge newsstand. And on the cover of this big magazine called Rap Pages, at the time, was my picture. And I'm like, holy shit. I'm gonna cover rap pages and I'm like I'm like this is not so beautiful. There's like thing on four specials like I'm on rap pages and I go and I get the magazine and the

cover of the magazine with my picture on it was our white rappers ruining hip hop. That was a- I have not heard this story. Why do I want to tell you what the married makes? So, I need a story. I need a story. So, for me, at that age, you know, it wasn't about when I had an idea of telling people,

it was about getting momentum, and I went to the New York Knicks with an idea to do a theme song for the Knicks. I was 22 years old, and I said, you know, sports is changing. People sit in seats for three hours in an arena, but the game is only 48 minutes. So you have to entertain them for over two hours. Let's do a song in a video and we'll get all the celebrities in New York. The song was called Go in New York Go, and the Nick's paid

me $4,000 for the song. And by the time I paid the studio, the engineer, the singer, the producer, the drummer, next paid me $4,000 for the song. And by the time I paid, the studio, the engineer, the singer, the producer, the drummer, it cost me $4,800 to do the song. So is that a good business model? No. Right, they paid me $4,000. They paid me $4,000 to cost me $4,800. You guys think that's a good business model.

Wrong. That's an amazing business model. Because I would have paid the next $5,000 to do the song for them to help me get the point be faster. Because now I had a story. And I could call up the bulls and be like, I did the next song. And every team that came into Madison Square Garden was like, why don't we have a song like that? And that was what really jumped start in my career. So for me, it's like, how do you get from A to B, the fastest?

And then you wrote and produced a song for the NBA that actually won an Emmy. I did. And then you created another company out of this concept, right? So it actually was a good business model losing $5,000. Yeah. Well, I mean, we figured out the business model after that. It wasn't sustainable, but it got me in the door,

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store to act like excited customers and they would stand around my display table and go, we'd like queue it, we'd like customer coming and this like really fancy lady, you know, perfectly dressed would be walking up and my friends would all go, tell me more, what is this? I can't believe I'm just finding out about this. And it would always cause the customer to go, what's happening? And then I'd be like, yes, I get an opportunity to explain it to her. I love that you brought that story up.

Would you mind sharing that story of how you sold it into Neiman Marcus? Because that is such a great face to face. And it just pulls on that past track record that you had with the cold calling and how it paid off for you. Neiman Marcus was my first account. And two things about that that are just something that I reflect back on. One is, everybody in the industry

after I landed Neemons came up to me and said, how in the world did you land Neem in Marcus? And I would look at them and I'd say, I called them. What do you do? And they'd say, oh my god, we go to trade shows and we set up a booth and we've been doing it for seven years. And everybody says around year six or seven that you get a chance with Neemons, I didn't even know go to trade shows and we set up a booth and we've been doing it for seven years and everybody says around your Six or seven that you get a chance with Neemons. I didn't even know there were trade shows

So I often say what you don't know can be your greatest asset if you let it if you're not Intimidated by the self-talk of I have no idea what I'm doing and that shuts you down So if you can power through the I have no idea what I'm doing and actually see it as a positive and go That means I'm gonna do it different and that's where you break real ground It takes a lot of courage and a lot of willingness to look stupid and Potentially fall on your face, but that's where the magic is so anyway I land I got a chance to go and cold call Neiman Marcus I flew on a plane from Atlanta where I live to Dallas and I met with the buyer and she was impeccably dressed.

I'm in the intimidating Neemons headquarters. I had my lucky red backpack from college. I had the prototype in a ziplock bag from my kitchen and a color copy of the packaging that I had created on my friend's computer. And halfway through my pitch, I was telling her what it is and I could tell I was losing her. You know, after seven years of cold calling

and trying to sell things to people, you get really good at reading non-verbals. And I always say non-verbals tell you way more than the verbal. You know, when people sit there and shake their head and say, I love it, and I'll call you tomorrow. You're like, oh my God, Mayday, you know, that's when you pull the shoe and say, I've got to like try everything. And so she was kind of doing that.

She was like, okay, thanks. And I just stopped and said, you know what, Diane, will you come to the bathroom with me? And she literally was like, excuse me. I'm like, I know it's a little weird, but can you just follow me to the bathroom? And I'm going to actually show you what my product can do. I'm going to go in the stall and she was like, OK. And she walked down the hall and I went in the stall

and I put it on under my white pants. And I came out, so I showed her before before and then I showed her with the product on and she just sat there and she goes, I get it, it's brilliant and I'm going to try it in seven stores. And I was like, that deserves a round of applause. I love that story. Yeah. Woo!

So you guys talk a lot about humor and embarrassing yourself, poking fun at yourself in business and in life and have a lot of fun with that. And we mentioned specifically on Instagram, can you talk a little bit about what that looks like? I just think we both, you know, don't take ourselves super seriously and humor works, humor's fun. I think one thing we've both had in our entrepreneurial journey is we've had fun and I think a lot of people forget how fun it can be and you know and we work on making it fun. We try to do fun things, incorporate fun things into our household, with our kids, with our cultures, and our

companies and it's an important part of the process. I mean, I would say to add to that, I recognize that the two biggest fears that we all have as human beings are basically the fear of public speaking and the fear of being embarrassed. And so I want that to lose its power over me. So I will intentionally embarrass myself

or I will intentionally find scenarios where I'm not good at something. And then I go through it, and it usually mends up making me laugh, or if something ridiculous happens to me, I immediately want to share it with people, because then I start to find that it loses its power over me. And then you also find that when these things happen, if you can make somebody else laugh or smile, then it wasn't all in vain. And that's where real human vulnerability

and connection happens, especially even with your customers. So I learned that from selling fax machines. I mean, anytime I tried to act perfect or put on the perfect pitch, I got kicked out time and time again. You know, if I walked in and was like, look, I'm nervous, it's hard for me to walk through your door. I'm sorry, I know there's no soliciting sign. I mean, I would get farther with that, but just calling out the humanists and the real

of what we're all dealing with and not being afraid of it. So we do that at Spanx too. We have oops meetings at Spanx where we have the whole company get together and we stand up and we share what we've failed at or an oops or a mistake that we made. And everybody claps and it's just like diffuses it. That's such a great culture. I believe we actually may have a video or two that we can share. I happen to be a huge fan of this one bird video if we could cue this video up the Instagram stories. Lovely. Yeah. Oh, great.

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I didn't use it. I didn't use it. I didn't use it. I didn't use it. I see him. My husband has been running every day on the island and says a bird attacks him. So I'm on the walk with him where his jaw got this because I don't believe me. Honey, where how bad can it be? Come on! How are you gonna get past this walking spot? Nothing's attacking me. He's fine. I say him and he's fine. I say, I'm and he's fine. The birds there, he's not raised properly. That's ridiculous. That's ridiculous. Ridiculed as a kid. I had a time. I'm so happy that you shared that video.

I had shown it to my son after I'd gone to interview you. And I said, you know, Jesse said a great guy. And I was showing it to my son. He said, Mom, I thought he was a really strong guy and a guy until right now. I ran the same route every day and I would come home and say I would say how was the run. I was like the run was great, but I got attacked by a bird every time. And she's like, it's impossible. I know you got to come with me and she walked by the bird didn't care. I walked by the bird when bonkers. It's very obviously, for the bird with Jesse.

I don't know. Maybe it thought your hair was a mess, Tony. I don't know. Sarah, you actually spent some time doing stand-up comedy. Were you petrified to do that? Because now it seems natural. I feel like you could just grab a mic and walk around doing it. I was so petrified.

I did it when I was selling fax machines door to door, and I have this thing where if something terrifies me, or if I think I would never do that, and the answer is because I'm scared, it kind of becomes something I really want to try to do, and that was one of those things. And I just did open Mike mostly around the country for two years while I was a trainer

for the company that I worked for. But it was terrifying. I mean, I was so nervous. And I wasn't that good, so. It sounds like the hardest job in the world. It's the hardest, well, it's, I mean, it's taking the number one fear in America, which is public speaking to the next level,

because you can be in front of an audience and be bombing and not really know, you know, like, the whole back section could be asleep or on their phone and you still ramble on. But if you're doing stand-up comedy, I mean, you get validation or you get crickets every 15 seconds. So it's like the most immediate, like, you're failing, you're not failing, you're failing, you're not failing. And the only way to test it is in front of an audience. So you have to be so willing to bomb in front of an audience. So you have to be so willing to bomb in front

of a group of people. Or to these laugh at our jokes. Yeah, exactly. Or to learn what's funny or not funny. So, but you know what, I didn't know it at the time. This combination said I wanted to be a lawyer, but I'm a terrible test taker. I'm not good in, like, I have trouble with reading comprehension. So I'm sure I have some sort of undiagnosed learning disability. But anyway, so I was, did debate all through high school and college and then I get to the LSAT and I bombed it, not once but twice. So it derailed my whole vision of being a lawyer and that was really depressing at the time. And then I naturally then went to Disney World and tried out to be goofy.

And you have to be, you have to be five eight in order to be goofy and I'm only five six. So I'm the height of a chip monk. So like this was rock bottom for me. I mean, my family, everyone's like, what's happening? I said, I'm too short to be goofy. And I don't want to be a chip monk. And so I just started selling facts, machines,

sorted orgs. It's really, I mean, you needed a pulse to be hired there. And so anyway, but the stand-up comedy I did, but life has a weird way of giving you these experiences because when I started spanks, the combination of the amount of rejection I had had was perfect to start a company because I was told, no, every day for two years, the idea's no good, no, thank you.

We don't want to help you. we think this is stupid, whatever. And it didn't really phase me. And then the writing comedy for two years, while I was doing that, helped me do all the writing for spanks and the marketing. And spanks didn't advertise for 16 years. We became a household name and a household brand around the world without ever advertising.

And I believe we did so much of that through humor and through the connection that we had with our customer and storytelling. Jesse mentioned it, lead with story. Your customers are so much more interested in why than they will ever be interested in what. What you're selling, why you're selling it, why you're doing it, who are you in the world, what matters, what's your why? That is what people really respond to.

So if you can do it and make somebody laugh or smile, it's so much better. I mean, you have a chance of them telling five other people, which is what happened with banks. It became a word of mouth brand. Jesse, did you have that same experience that Sarah had getting into stand-up comedy, being afraid of it when you became a rapper? Was it that same, did you have that same experience that Sarah had getting into stand up comedy being afraid of it when you became a rapper?

Was it that same, you know, we were petrified it? Did you gravitate towards it? Well, the first, right when I got signed to my record label, Delicious Final, they had two huge acts at the time. One was the guy named Tonloak. I mean, might not remember Tonloak. Yeah, I'll thank Funk equal Medina.

Yeah, the other was a guy named young MC who wanted Grammy for his song called Bust a Move. And I was one of the next artists signed to the label. So before my album even came out, I got a call from the owner. Wait, Jesse was best known for two songs. Shake it like a white girl and college girls are easy. Please Google it. Please Google it.

Hey. Sonya, is that a cool one? Which I had a lot of fun telling my dad. I was like, Dad, dad, I think I met the one. He's like, that's nice, honey. What does he do? He's a rapper. That's known for shake it like a white girl.

Like, college girls are easy. People buy into stories. He's all part of the plan. Anyway, before my album came out, I got a call from the owner of the record company who said that they're having this huge concert in Atlanta where we live now at the Georgia dome, and they were busting in 36,000 inner city kids from all over the state of Georgia for this concert that they coined to increase the peace concert because they were going to have black artists and white artists come together in this community bonding event and

The day before the concert vanilla ice cancel and they needed a white wrapper So they volunteered me to be the white act So I get to the venue and as soon as I get there I meet I recognize immediately like the places on Rulie. There's fist fights going on They put the house lights on and police everywhere and the kids are booing Every single act that came on stage they put the house lights on and police everywhere and the kids are booing. Every single act that came on stage, they booed them off stage. So the first guy up was like LL Cool J and his prime and they booed LL Cool J off the stage. I'm sitting over here in the green room about to go on next to sing my song called

Shake It Like a White Girl. It's like all my mother and I said mom I got a really big problem and they're booing LL and she was like sweetie just be yourself They're gonna love you And I get up on stage the answer is like you know all the way from California Give it up for my man Jesse James, which is my stage name. Do not Google it And as I'm going on stage the record company gave me some t-shirts like promotional t-shirts So I grab them as I come on stage I'm like I'm looking at the kids in the front row and they're pissed off That I'm even invited to the venue, but I have these t-shirts

So I'm like does this section over here want some free t-shirts and the kids go crazy. I throw them out I'm like the section over here to my right. You want some t-shirts. They went nuts I threw them out like middle section you want some t-shirts back there. They went bonkers I threw them out said thank you very much salt and pepper something like that fuck out of there man that never let them boo you never let them boo you's like the first rule I got in business no I'm not doing stand up how can I made it is this man oh my my gosh, I can't take it. Okay, so Sarah, after you had made it, you made a very shocking decision in my opinion

to really put yourself out there and go on Richard Branson's reality TV show. Why did you make that decision? You know, I read his book in college and I really thought he was seemed like such an interesting guy that I would like to know. So that was a start of it. When he declared that he was doing his own version of the apprentice, his own reality show, I just thought this was a great opportunity to meet him. He started Virgin overseas in London. He's just a really colorful,

fascinating, adventurous guy. Yeah. So, Spanks was four years old at the time and my lawyers literally begged me not to do it. They're like, why would you ever do a reality show? You're the face of this brand and you're putting your reputation over to Fox and you have no idea what they're going to, how they're going to edit you or what they're going to do. And I just had confidence that Richard from what I'd read about him would be a part of something that wouldn't edit me the way that I am. But I got a 27 page contract before I did this. And it was the most insane contract.

It literally said we can burn you, we can submerge you underwater, we can drop you in political unrest. I mean, it was like insane. So my dad is a lawyer, and I emailed it to my dad, and I said, dad, I'm thinking about doing this reality show, can you help me edit the contract? And all he wrote back was no sane person would sign this love dad.

And I signed it. And I went and I see. Which is a great influence on our kids. Yeah, we have not let the kids see the video footage, I went and I Which is a great influence on our kids Yeah, we have not let the kids see the video footage But it was two months of the most intense stuff what they didn't tell me but I should have figured out and put the two and two together from the contract was that if you Lost the business challenge each business challenge took place in a different city around the world So instead of every challenge being in New York City one one was in Hong Kong, one was in Africa, one was in Tokyo, sorry, it was wild.

We were traveling all around the world. But if you didn't win the business challenge, instead of going to a boardroom and just being fired, you had to do a world record-breaking debt to find stunt with Richard. And two days into filming, I literally was in Atlanta in the Starbucks line like the day before, and then the next day I'm in England, and they woke me up at three in the morning and handed me a helmet and I said

I'm an entrepreneur. Why do I need a helmet? And I had to scale the side of a hot air balloon at 10,000 feet in the air and have tea on top of the hot air balloon with Richard. And you're afraid of heights. And I'm so afraid of heights. Like I cry on planes, I cry during take-off. I don't like heights. Yeah, so that was crazy. And that was the first day of filming. But Jesse can't even watch it. Jesse's watched half of the first episode.

That's not so ridiculous. It was like, Sarah, climb the scale, the top of the building, and jump in this glass of water. You know? And then when you're in the water, I'm going to throw you in with the sharks, and then you swim around and come up I was like, this is crazy.

So you guys weren't married back then? No. He didn't know me that. Was it worth it now when you look back? Are you glad that you did that? I'm so glad I did it. I mean, I think that I don't think I would have done the challenges if I was a mother at the time, but I wasn't. I was single and...

Definitely not. Yeah. But yes, I was single and... Definitely not. Yeah. But yes, I'm so happy. I mean, Richard's actually a great friend. I'm actually going to Switzerland this Friday with Richard and about 35 entrepreneurs from around the world and we're doing a physical challenge through the Swiss Alps to raise money for education.

And I'm not like my husband. I'm not this physical challenge person, but I had had too much to Keela when Richard asked me if I wanted to go, and I said yes. And so I'm going to go in. I'm glad I'm terrified. But we're going to swim, bike, and hike through Switzerland. And it starts with a glacier lake swim

in a full-body, wetsuit. Well, in just a case, you guys haven't, can't picture this or haven't seen this show. We brought you a clip. Oh, you haven't, which clip is it? Is it a product clip? The next challenge is that we're going to go up into the top of the balloon, something I've never done.

It's not going to be easy at all. On the top of the balloon, we're going to have a tea party and have a discussion. We wasted out on the ladder ladder suspended at 10,000 feet on the side of a hot air balloon is terrifying. I am so scared. I'm going to press sweat. I'm going to full sweat. I rather run for 20 hours. That was so intense.

There was so many things about that, but it took me 48 minutes to climb. It was a dangling rope ladder, so there was nothing anchoring it. So I spent the first 25 minutes of the climb just flailing around in the air. And then the last 20 minutes, I kept saying, just get to the balloon,

get to the balloon, but once I got to the balloon, the balloon was hot. And the rope was very taught against the balloon. So I'd nowhere to put my fingers anymore around the rungs of the ladder. So I'd use my fingertips. And then once I did the little T thing, I was like, woo, that was great.

I started bawling because I realized I had to climb down. Oh my gosh. I was like, wait, how do we get down? So we had to go back down the ladder. It sounds horrific. Yeah, no, but think about your hearing. Listen, I'm here and what an experience. Say you have a business idea, but you're not sure what to do next.

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build your life resume community, which is really amazing. Check it out if you guys haven't seen it. Alright, we got some keeps here! Yay! Awesome. Some of the feedback just that really pops out at me, the things that people like the takeaway is the brownie. What is your unique brownie? Can you share what that means and how you develop that?

It's just a reference to a story when I was in college. I was a crossroads my senior year of college. I was either going to the music business, which I loved, or I was going to sell a product called Ant Franny's Brownies. I had a roommate in college that had an Ant Franny. And every month she sent us a shipment of brownies, and I don't know what she put in the brownies, but they made everybody happy. I was like, I can market these. This is going to work.

So for my advertising class, senior year, we had to create a fictitious brand from scratch, soup to not like, you know, jingle, which I was good at, billboard slogan, packaging, everything so I said, I'll use this advertising class as my R&D department. And if they like my Aunt Franny's Brownies presentation, I'll just roll it out and I'll sell Brownies. So the way that the final exam was set up, there were a hundred kids in the classroom. It was small. And everybody had a hand in their campaign, but five people were going to get picked at

random to present a 30-minute state of the union of the business they were going into, the industry they were going into in front of the class. So, like, I'm a senior in college. There's a 5% chance that I wanted to get picked, like nobody prepared for the oral presentation. You didn't want to get picked. And sitting to my right in the classroom was a guy named Ronnie Cohn. Ronnie Cohn was a professional jackass. No, Ronnie Cohn bullied half of the class

for four years of college. So when the professor said, we're going to do this in democratic way. Everyone write down your name and I'll take off my hat and I'll pick out the name. When he came to me, I took 25 pieces of paper and I wrote Ronnie Cohn's name down. I stuffed them in the hat. And when he picked out the name, this is a true

story. Sure enough, the first thing that came out was Jesse Itzer. The jackass did the same thing. He's such an asshole. So I went up there and I pitched to Anne Franney's brownies in 30 seconds into my presentation. And by the way, the tuition in American University is $40,000 a year. That's where I went. So for four years of tuition, $160,000 of my parents' money, this is literally the only thing I remember. The professor stopped me. For $160,000, he stopped me.

In the middle of my presentation, 30 seconds in, he said, son, I want to know, what is your point of differentiation? And I was like, what does that even mean? He said, what makes your brownie different than all the other brownies on the market? And I was like, well, they're more single-ishers, they're, they could be gluten free, they're home-based, blah, blah, blah, and he was like, no, he said, son,

there's a thousand brownies that come out every year and substitute them for marketer, for restaurant tour, for advertising, for lawyer, for whatever you do, there's a thousand of you that come out. And if you want to make it, your brownie, whatever it is, has to be different than all the other brownies. Sit down and he made me sit down. And I realized that that moment, like it was a real powerful moment for me because I asked myself at that moment, like, and since since then as an entrepreneur, I've always asked myself, how am I different?

What makes my product stand out? How can I treat my customers differently than everybody else? Zara mentioned it early, but if you rip up the playbook that everybody in the industry is using and you say, how would I do it if I never was taught how to do it, that's where innovation comes from. So I always ask myself in an authentic way, you know, if you're quirky, be quirky, if you're this, be this, but what makes you different? I just remember not to believe at this point, but I remember when we started

Marquis Jet, which was a private jet company that I started with my partner. We had no aviation experience, we had no airplanes, we didn't know a lot of rich people, and we started this company that had, and not a great formula. I'm surprised, but we ended up building companies that did $5 billion in sales, and we sold it to Warren Buffett's netchets, and I remember sitting with our sales team,

and I would go in and I would listen to pitches, and they would pitch the way Kenny and I, my partner and I were pitching, and I'd be like, what are you doing? Like you're a single mom, help be who you are, you know, and be unique for you and be different for what you are. You're not the co-found. So it's always been a mantra of mine to just kind of like what makes you uniquely different.

And I was a question Sarah asks all the time to her team and to her employees, you know. She always asks her employees, if no one told you how to do your job, how would you do it? Yeah, because we're on autopilot as human beings. I mean, think about it almost every single thing that we do. Someone taught us how to do it or we observed how it was done. So, I like the space of closing your eyes and saying, if no one showed you how to do this, how would you do it? Would you be doing it differently?

And oftentimes you will, and the answer or the vision comes to you, and then that's a real nugget for yourself. Yeah, I would just put an asterisk next to that, because I just ran this race, and I'm a big believer in becoming the expert in this face you're going into. So before I approach this race, I called everyone that I could find, anyone I could find that did this race and asked them a lot of questions. How many calories you have to take? How many ounces of fluids you have to take every hour?

How much sodium do you need every hour? And in a very, very short amount of time, I became what I believe in my own head was an expert. And I would come in every station and say to my pit crew, I'd be like, I had one goo half a bottle of rock team, which was the drink that I was drinking. I had 200 calories, 70. You know, I need 350 milligrams of soda. I got was very aware of it. So in certain circumstances, you want to become the expert and follow the advice, but in others, you want to stand out for what, you know, what you want.

Please do not get mad at me, but unfortunately, we have to move to the lightning round of questions. And we're about ready to wrap up, and even though no one wants these two to leave. OK, what's happening in your life right now? I'm going to Switzerland on Friday, which sounds very fabulous. That sounds very exciting.

OK, how do you feel in your inner room with Richard Branson, Microsoft Giving Pledge? How do I feel when I'm in the Giving Pledge room? Super humbled. And how did I get in this room? Pinch me. Kind of feeling. Sarah's agreed to give away half of her wealth to charity.

You may think. You may think. You may think. You may think. You may think. You may think. What would your career be if you didn't start thanks? I mean, I'm a frustrated beautician.

I might have my own salon or I was someone who did everyone's hair for prom and I always like doing makeovers and things like that. Oh, that sounds fun. Theme song for your life. Your speed rounds we. Oh gosh. Theme song for my life. Either one or you can even Either one is baby got back

I'm in the bus business. Okay, that's good. Oh, there's a song called here. I come it's a reggae song That's one of my choice like here I come so it's strong personal thing. Okay favorite party trick Like here I come, so it's my own personal thing. OK, favorite party trick. I can make people say no. I had this crazy thing. I could do it with you after Heather. Have you ever heard it before? No.

God. Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah. All right, that was good. Weird treat about you. Weird what? A weird treat about either one of you. I mean, this is so weird, but I can vibrate my eyes You can why doesn't even mean what you say I can vibrate my eyes

You learn something new all the time we met for 10 years. I never see you vibrate your eyes I can vibrate my eyes and the weird thing is this Charlie just looked up at me and vibrate in his eyes the other day our little boys so apparently it's genetic I've only had fruit until 12 o'clock noon for 28 29 years now unwaveringly Tell me brother and I didn't like that smoothie that you gave me Listen, okay, what's your biggest pet peeve? Pepe? Oh, I know what yours is. Oh wait like the newlywake Pepe? Oh, Pepe.

I know what yours is. Oh, wait, it's like the newlywaking. What do you know? What do you think mine is? Well, I mean, you're probably about to answer something different, but running water. Absolutely. Absolutely. Don't get me started on running water.

Yeah. Did anyone notice the clock is now going the opposite direction? What? A little confused. Okay. My pet Pepe is when the windshield wipers are going more than they need to. That's a fair one. I'm cleaning.

I get the bra, I mean, so we'll be driving and sound like Shut the window, the wipers off. Lower the wipers, I'm like, it's a setting me. Based on the wind, raise the wipers, lower the wipers. Okay, here's a good one Sarah. Shut the wipers off. Who is your celebrity crush? Well, growing up is your celebrity crush?

Well, growing up, my celebrity crush was Jean Wilder. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm looking like Mary. I'm expecting. I'm looking like Mary. I'm expecting. I'm expecting.

I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting. I'm expecting Wonder Woman. Guess who I'm married. Oh, I love that!

I love that! That was awesome. We're going to wrap up, even though we don't want to lose these two right now. But if you thought this day couldn't get any better, Sarah has something that she wants to share with everyone. Yeah, I'm sorry. Okay, okay. Yeah, so, listen. All you have to do, I'm going to share with everyone. Yeah, I'm sorry. What was it?

Okay, okay. Yes, so listen, all you have to do, I'm going to give away some awesome Spanx products, okay? Yes, yes. And for the guys out there that are like, look, you've got a wife, a daughter, a sister, a mother, they're going to love you for this. And I also happen to make man's Spanx.

So you can buy yourself something too. Okay. Jesse, my underwear, well, not my underwear, but the underwear that I make for space is his favorite underwear. He loves the man's banks underwear, but anyway, I digress. So, um, all you should do is get out your phones and go to Instagram and follow at Sarah Blakely and that's a R.A. without an H at Sarah Blakely. And then in the last post, which actually was his last man standing post, just put hashtag hyper growth. And I'm going to pick 20 of you at random and I'm going to send you some awesome spanks leggings. And if you're a guide, you don't want leggings, you want something else, I'm happy to you some awesome spank leggings. And if you're a guy, you know what leggings, you want something else, I'm happy to send that to you.

But we have a cult following for our faux leather leggings. People love them, you will love them. Hold on. Can I do a promotion? I can't. If you guys, I'm gonna out-promote you. No, I'm gonna out-promote you.

Try it, we're doing a promotion. We just found out. All right. Go to my Instagram at chesie at Slough. Here's the same hashtag. Come to a Hawks game with me. Court side, I'll take three people. Oh my gosh, this is a big game.

Yeah. No, no, no. You can wear your stanks. And I'll take three people. You'll come to a game. We'll go early, we'll go to shoot around. And if we win, you get invited back. That's awesome.

All right, guys. Please join me in thanking these two amazing human beings. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you guys. Thank you. I've been excited to change that dining room. I know I'm gonna laugh.

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