Crime Junkie - MISSING: Joey Lynn Offutt

Episode Date: May 29, 2023

When firefighters responded to 33-year-old Joey Lynn Offutt’s burning house in Sykesville, Pennsylvania, on July 12th, 2007, they were shocked to discover the remains of her infant son, Alexis Broli...n III. Joey was nowhere to be found and at the time, investigators didn’t know if she was a victim of the crime -- or the perpetrator. But her family is convinced she was set up and their only hope is that someone will come forward with the information they’ve been desperately seeking for 15 years.If you have information about Joey’s disappearance, baby Alexis’ death or the fire, please contact Pennsylvania State Police at (814) 938-0510, or Pennsylvania Crime Stoppers at 1‑800‑4PA‑TIPS.You can also contact Joey’s family directly with information. Click here to find out how or call the Find Joey Tipline at 1-877-440-JOEY (1-877-440-5639).Visit www.findjoey.org or the Help Find Joey Lynn Offutt Facebook page for more information.You can learn more about The Good segment and even submit a story of your own by visiting The Good page on our website!  Did you know you can listen to this episode ad-free? Join the Fan Club! Visit https://crimejunkieapp.com/library/ to view the current membership options and policies.Source materials for this episode cannot be listed here due to character limitations. For a full list of sources, please visit: https://crimejunkiepodcast.com/missing-joey-lynn-offutt/

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hi, Crime Junkies. I'm your host, Ashley Flowers. And I'm Brett. And today's story is about a bizarre, tragic mystery that's been haunting a family for far too long. When investigators make a gruesome discovery after a fire, they don't know if a missing mom is one of the victims or the perpetrator. But her family is convinced that she was set up.
Starting point is 00:00:22 And their only hope is that someone will come forward with information that they've been desperately seeking for nearly 16 years. This is the story of Joelyn Offett and Alexis Brolin III. . Joie Lynn Offett is the kind of person who needs some time to calm down after an argument before she's ready to talk again. Same. I literally was like, this is me.
Starting point is 00:01:18 And listen, no one knows this better than her on-again, off-again boyfriend of four years, 38-year-old Alexis Berlin, Jr. So he's not shocked when she doesn't answer his calls on Wednesday, July 4th of 2007. Now, even though they were supposed to visit his grandmother and watch fireworks, and he's not surprised because you see, they had spent the previous evening together
Starting point is 00:01:39 at Joey's house in Cixville, Pennsylvania with their two-year-old daughter and brand-new baby boy Alexis Brolin III. But, they had gotten into a disagreement. According to Alexis, he had criticized Joey for giving the baby a bath in the dirty kitchen sink, which made Joey mad, and then one thing led to another. And their argument ended in Alexis taking their daughter back to his house in Clearfield about a half an hour away, leaving Joey and the baby alone in her house. Oh, so they don't live together. No, no, they
Starting point is 00:02:09 used to, but again, I said on again off again, their relationship is rocky, so even though they have two children, they're not rushing into anything. Normally, the kids live with Joey, including her eight-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. But this week, it actually is just Joey and their one-month-old baby who they call Lex, because her older daughter is spending a few weeks with Joey's mom Sherry, who lives in Virginia. So, you know, with her toddler at Alexis's house, and her older daughter with her mom, the hope is that Joey can have some one-on-one bonding time with her new baby. So, anyways, Alexis figures that she just needs space after their fight, so he doesn't With her mom, the hope is that Joey can have some one-on-one bonding time with her new baby.
Starting point is 00:02:45 So anyways, Alexis figures that she just needs space after their fight, so he doesn't pressure her to come to the fireworks, but he does call and leave a message apologizing, and he just goes on with his plans for the day. So the next day, he tries calling her again, and she's still not answering. So he goes over to her house just to check on her, but she doesn't come to the door when he knocks. Even though her car is there, does he have a key to the place? No, he doesn't.
Starting point is 00:03:12 And actually, according to an episode of investigation discoveries disappeared, he must try because like, he finds that the door is locked, so he can't just like go in. But even now, he's still not worried. Like, he just assumes she's ignoring him and they'll talk eventually.
Starting point is 00:03:28 Okay. As a personal kind of sewer of the cold shoulder, there's like different kinds, you know? So is this like very clear that she's inside and totally ignoring him or? No, I actually don't think he can tell. Because I mean, I think like, you know, he's not hearing anything as far as like,
Starting point is 00:03:47 what I've like read or watched or whatever. It might be quiet inside, which doesn't mean one thing or another to me because like with a one month old, any time of the day could be quiet time if the baby is sleeping, right? So 1,000%. Yeah, I don't think he's like paying attention to that
Starting point is 00:04:02 or I don't think the silence or not means anything, whatever. I think he just sees the car, assumes or I don't think that the silence or not means anything whatever I think he just sees the car, assumes she's there and just doesn't want to see him yet. So he leaves But when she doesn't answer the phone on Friday the 6th either That's when Alexis starts to wonder if something else is going on Especially when he gets a call that day from a nurse who works for a state health care agency because You see Joey is enrolled in a program that provides low income moms with free prenatal and maternity care.
Starting point is 00:04:29 And this nurse had an appointment to visit her at home earlier that day, but she tells Alexis that Joey wasn't answering the door for her, either. Although, again, her car was out front. But this nurse noticed something else. She said that the male was piling up outside, and that made her a little curious. So she went around and peep through a window. And when she did, she saw a car seat and a diaper bag
Starting point is 00:04:56 on the living room floor, but no signs of movement in the house. So Alexis gets this call. He decides then to like go make another trip to Joey's Saturday morning. This is now three days since he last spoke with her. And this time her car isn't there. So he leaves, right? Like thinking like, okay, like everything I thought was true.
Starting point is 00:05:17 Like you're not here, your car's gone, whatever. But the car is backed by Sunday night when he stops by a third time. As he stands outside the house, he calls her from his cell phone, and he hears her landline ringing inside. But besides that ringing, there's no footsteps. There's no baby crying, nothing. And I'm sure he's already tried herself. Well, she actually doesn't have one. The landline's the only phone that she has at the house. Okay, so has anyone heard from her?
Starting point is 00:05:47 Well, I mean, so far, he only knows that he and the nurse have been trying to contact her. But, you know, now he's starting to wonder kind of the same thing, like if something more is going on. So this is actually the point when he calls her mom Sherry to compare notes to find out if anyone else has heard from her. And he learns that Joey hadn't talked to her mom in a few days either.
Starting point is 00:06:08 But actually up until this call, Sherry, her mom hadn't been concerned necessarily. Like she just saw her daughter a week ago. That was when Joey Alexis and their three kids drove to Sherry's house in Virginia so that she could meet the new grandbaby. And like, you know, the whole crew went, the whole crew stayed the night. And when Joey left, she seemed happy. Like, I mean, granted, fully exhausted. Like, who is it with a newborn?
Starting point is 00:06:32 But happy. And isn't Joey's older daughter with you right now? We, she is, yes. And the thing is, like, it's not like, it's been a week since she talked to her. Like, they've had communication since the visit. Like Joey mailed them a package, they've had a couple of phone calls. The most recent one I think was like on the night of Tuesday the third.
Starting point is 00:06:53 But it's the eighth now. So it has been five days since they spoke. But again, you know, she was thinking this whole time, you know, Joey has a newborn, which like, it feels like a lifetime ago, but month one, I was just trying to keep my head above water. Like so, it's not weird to sherry that she hadn't called in five days, like, which is why she also hadn't called her much over the last few days either. She just kind of wanted to give Joey space, wanted to give her a chance to focus on the
Starting point is 00:07:22 new baby to recharge her batteries. Yeah, not crowded. Yeah, not Crowder. Yeah, totally. Plus, when she now hears from Alexis, it's not even like his call makes her super concerned, because, you know, he's saying like, I haven't talked to her, and then she's like, okay, well, I haven't talked to her. But then Alexis tells her about the argument that they had, and now she's like, okay, this makes even more sense, because even Sherry knows that Joey totally shuts down and she gets mad. So she figures out
Starting point is 00:07:49 quite like listen, she's just laying low. But even though she's laying low, she's a mom. She wants to make sure that Joey is okay. So now she does try calling. But over the next couple of days, all of those calls go unanswered. And that is when Sherry starts to get worried too, because even if Joey is angry with her boyfriend, why would she ignore her mother, her daughters, and the nurse who calls Alexis on Wednesday morning July 11th to let him know that she's going to stop by Joey's house again. Okay, but this has been over a week with no word from Joey. I mean, why hasn't anyone called the police?
Starting point is 00:08:27 Because like I said, I mean, even a week, like this isn't unusual for Joey. According to something I found from WTAJTV, like when she gets stressed or overwhelmed, which obviously she has been in this time of her life, she isolates herself. And here's the thing, is like, even though she's never been formally diagnosed with anything, Joey's family says that she is developmentally delayed. A psychologist once told Sherry that her daughter's mentality is that of,
Starting point is 00:08:54 I mean, like a 14 year old. And her family, like, saw this because even as an adult, Joey, who's like 33, has struggled with certain things, like keeping a job and maintaining long term relationships. Her nephew Jason says that she doesn't always make the best choices, and he told our reporter Nina that she didn't seem to learn from her mistakes. But I mean, it's not to the point where like she has to be supervised or anything.
Starting point is 00:09:20 She's capable of caring for her kids. So again, this is why the family's not overreacting. Yes, it's been a week, but for her, it's, this is still normal. Okay, but what about Alexis? He was so concerned when the baby was in a dirty sink. I guess, where is that emotion when days go by with no communication, no contact,
Starting point is 00:09:40 no like checking in on his baby? I don't know. I go back to like, this is her MO. He's thinking she's gonna come around eventually. Yes, he might be concerned. But right, like, okay, he's even if this dirty sink thing happens, like, he's concerned, you have to say something and they get in the argument,
Starting point is 00:09:59 but he's not like so worried. Like, a dirty sink isn't gonna kill a baby. You don't like it, right? But it's not gonna like kill the baby. And it wasn't enough for him to like take the baby out. And he does still like leave the baby with Joey. Yeah, like he trusts her enough. So like, yes, they got in this argument about her dirty sink,
Starting point is 00:10:13 but I don't think that he doesn't think she can be a good mom or whatever. But here's the thing, even though this is kind of her MO, even though she's done stuff like this before, by the time the 11th rolls around, everyone agrees that something isn't right. So that morning, Alexis drives over to Joey's again, and this is while the nurse is still there, who, by the way, the nurse who doesn't know Joey obviously as well as her family, the nurse have been like recommending that they call police.
Starting point is 00:10:41 So anyways, nurse and Alexis are at Joey's house and the two of them look around and they notice that nothing in the living room has moved. Like again, they're looking like through the windows and stuff. They see that the male is still piling up. And what's odd is like it's been in the mid 80s, like temperature-wise for days, but even though the house has no air conditioner, all of the windows are closed.
Starting point is 00:11:14 And what they notice is that her car again is gone. So still not necessarily wanting to call police. Alexis decides to issue an ultimatum of sorts. In the form of a pre-printed note that he leaves on Joey's door. Uh, pre-printed note that he leaves on Joey's door. Uh, pre-printed? Yeah, I mean, again, like, it's not like he's showing for the first time knowing she's gone, but basically, former Pennsylvania State trooper, David Rae told us that Alexis had typed it up about a half hour before going to Joey's that Wednesday. And in this note that he had typed up, he basically tells her, look, everyone's been trying to reach you,
Starting point is 00:11:43 you need to call me or your mom or someone today. And if you don't, we are probably gonna report you missing or contact child welfare. And then he also kind of adds in the note that he and their daughter are gonna stop by again after dinner, so sometime around like 7 p.m. Now I'm not sure if he actually does end up going back that night.
Starting point is 00:12:04 But what I do know is that around 4am, a couple who lives across the street from Joey wakes up to the sound of glass shattering. According to WJAC TV, at first they think it's a car accident or something, until they look outside and see smoke billowing from Joey's house. The couple calls 911 and volunteer firefighters hurry over. As they arrive, neighbors stand outside to fill them in about the family who lives there, the woman, her two young daughters, and her newborn son. Now, they say no one's been home all week and her car isn't there now, so the house
Starting point is 00:12:44 must be empty. According to America's most wanted, responders quickly douse the flames that are spreading down the stairs, and then they make their way to the second floor bathroom at the back of the house, where the fire is coming from. Now, within 20 minutes, they think that they've got to under control, until they notice something is still burning. This time, in the front of the house, and they realize that there is a second fire coming from the basement. Eventually, they get both fires out, and so they're able to start kind of like looking around,
Starting point is 00:13:14 and they know that a fire with multiple points of origin is a classic sign of arson. And then it becomes abundantly clear that that's what they're dealing with when they find a gas can in an upstairs bedroom. So at that point they call the fire marshal who is a Pennsylvania state police investigator. And when he arrives that morning, the bathroom is still smoldering like he gets there soon. And as he photographs the scorched blackened mess, firefighters tried to clear out some of the
Starting point is 00:13:45 smoke. But suddenly, a piece of debris falls into the bathtub, filled with water. And the movement kind of slashes the water around. And that's when they all see something in the tub. A coordinate episode disappeared. At first, they think it's an animal, maybe a pet that got trapped inside. But then they remember what the neighbors said about a newborn living there. And they realize this isn't a pet, it's a baby.
Starting point is 00:14:15 It is a horrifying sight. All that's left after the fire is skeletal remains and one of the baby's legs. There's also a large clump of hair that's floating in the tub along with a small paring knife. Now they have no idea what to make of the situation. All they know is that they need more investigators at the scene.
Starting point is 00:14:36 So at 10, 12 that morning, the fire marshal calls his state police colleagues. But get this, while the fire marshal is on the phone with a desk officer, another call comes in from Alexis. He says that he wants to report his girlfriend missing. And when he gives them her address, like their heart stopped. So they ask him to come down to the station. And once he's there, they have him, you know, talk them through the past week or so. The argument, the unanswered calls, the ultimatum note, her car coming and going.
Starting point is 00:15:11 And during this conversation, Alexis tells investigators that Joey has been dealing with postpartum depression. Actually, he even says in this conversation that he wanted to take both kids for a few days so she could just get some rest. But he couldn't, he said because he's been trying to start this website business so he doesn't have time to care for an infant on top of that so he only took their daughter.
Starting point is 00:15:33 And in fact, the whole website business thing, that's what Alexis says he was doing that more. And he was home working on his websites. So from what he's telling them, and keep in mind, like they haven't told him that they know anything at this point. They just like were asking him questions, and based on his responses, they're just like, oh, she's missing coming and talking to us, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, so he doesn't, at least to them, it doesn't seem like he knows about
Starting point is 00:15:56 the fire. So, by the time he's done filling them in, they break the news to him. And so, you know, his first question is whether Joey was in the house. They tell him that there's no sign of her, but they did find a newborns remains. And even though they haven't been able to identify the baby yet, I mean, I think it's pretty obvious to everyone that it's Lex. And how does he react? I mean, he cries.
Starting point is 00:16:22 Like, I mean, I think it's the reaction that they expect. I think it's obviously a completely normal reaction, but he cries. Now, while this interview has been going on, investigators have been combing through Joey's house looking for evidence. And when they're there, they see that one fire was set on a workbench in the basement, and the flames had like climbed up the wall and like burned clear through the top of the house. And the second fire that they find was set in the upstairs bathroom. But luckily for investigators, they realized that whoever this arsonist was didn't do a great job because even with all of the damage, some parts of the house are largely undisturbed, especially on
Starting point is 00:17:03 the main floor, which is where they find something else that makes their stomachs churn. Sitting on Joey's kitchen table is a large, half-open package of raw rotting hamburger meat, like to the point where it's crawling with maggots, which is disgusting, but again, good news, because they know that they can use this to get an ETA of when that meat was left out. And they need every scrap of information that they can cobbled together to make a timeline,
Starting point is 00:17:33 because there is a significant gap between when Joey was last seen and when police learned that she was missing. Right, because we know she was last seen on what July 3rd, right? Well, technically, it was like, Well, technically it was like the fourth, it was like the early morning hours of the fourth. So if I remember, so Alexis said that he and their daughter
Starting point is 00:17:51 went to Joey's on the 30, it was like 7 p.m. And then it was around 10 p.m. He says I think it was like he was trying to mow their grass with his new lawn mower that they bought. Oh, which I'm sure the neighbors were thrilled about. Well, actually, I don't think that happened. He said he gave up because the Moor wasn't working well or whatever, but then he goes to the store after that,
Starting point is 00:18:11 which is like 15 minutes away. He picks up some groceries for Joey, but he admits that he used her state benefits card to buy her groceries, but then also some stuff for his house too. So was the hamburger meat on the shopping list? It was, and investigators actually get receipts to back that up.
Starting point is 00:18:29 But what's so interesting too is that part of what he tells investigators is that he and Joey had bought a can of gasoline for the lawnmower that day. And what police realize is that it's the same can of gas that was used to start the fire. So again, that was kind of like all of an aside, but that all happens on July 3rd. Again, he's like trying to move the lawn
Starting point is 00:18:52 at like 10 p.m. doesn't work, whatever. They get into this sink argument later that night. And the argument's like happening like into the early morning hours of July 4th. And it's at that point that Alexis left. So technically, she's lasting on the 4th in the wee hours of the morning. And now it is July 12th.
Starting point is 00:19:13 So, investing years have a ton of time to make up for and a worried family to notify. So local police in Virginia head to Sherries and tell her that she needs to call the Pennsylvania State Police. Now, duh, like she knows that Joey was still MIA, so when she makes that call, she is frantic. And they tell her to get to Cikesville as soon as she can because there's been a fire and a body was found.
Starting point is 00:19:38 So Sherry and one of Joey's sisters make the five-hour drive again in a panic, and nothing can prepare them for the chaos of the scene. The blue two-story house that Sherry had bought her daughter just six months ago, which Joey had been so proud to call her own, is gutted. According to WTAJTV, most of her belongings are just strewn across the lawn. There are piles of just rubble and furniture
Starting point is 00:20:06 and clothes and toys everywhere. And when she gets there, our detectives pull her aside. And they tell Sherry and Joey's sister the terrible news about baby Lex. And they're asking them if they have any idea where Joey might be. But they don't, like they're totally in the dark. But as police keep asking questions, it starts to become clear to Sherry what police are thinking. They think Joey is the culprit. Because to investigators, the piece is fit. Joey is gone. So is her car, so are her keys. Alexis said they argued over the baby's bath. His body is found in a bathtub.
Starting point is 00:20:47 And the chunks of hair in the bathtub with the baby look to be joeys, although I mean, it's too burnt to even test. And they can't tell if it was pulled off or cut off or what. I guess for some reason when you said there was a chunk of hair in there before, I guess I thought it was the baby's hair. No, no, no, no, I know there's like so much information. The chunk of hair is there before. I guess I thought it was the baby's hair. No, no, no, no.
Starting point is 00:21:05 I know there's like so much information. The chunk of hair is like the size of a ponytail. So like way too much for a newborn. Even a newborn with like a full head of hair. So they're thinking this is Joey's hair. And they're also wondering speculating if maybe she isn't experiencing some kind of severe postpartum depression
Starting point is 00:21:24 or even psychosis. And in that state, maybe she killed Lex, then burned the house down to hide the evidence or, you know, maybe she accidentally killed them. I mean, saying it was like intentional. And then she like hung her down over that next week or so trying to figure out what to do. She knew the jig was up when she read that ultimatum note. Maybe she freaked out and cut off all her hair with that parry knife that they found in the tub, so she wouldn't be recognized. And listen, there are a lot of babies, or what ifs, or whatever.
Starting point is 00:21:55 But the one thing, the one thing they're certain of, is that Baby Lex is dead before the fire and now Joey is gone. But how do they know that? If the remains were mostly skeletal. So a little bit of a fair warning, you can skip forward like 30 seconds, trust me they know or I can tell you. So it comes down to maggots. Basically there are maggots underneath the skin
Starting point is 00:22:20 because remember there's one leg that was still kind of intact. And investigators know that there wouldn't be maggots if like this had just happened within the last few hours. He must have been there for a while. That's so heartbreaking to think that, you know, she would have had to have been in a really scary, really severe mental state. If they're thinking that she was in the house this whole time with her dead baby and this rotting meat. Yeah, if they're theory, and I mean, keep in mind,
Starting point is 00:22:49 it's just one possible theory at this point, but if they're theory is right, she has to be in crisis. But there are some little things that don't 100% line up with their theory. Like, for instance, police find her purse and her ID both inside the house, and her family says that she would never go anywhere without her purse. So if she did leave on her own, why didn't she take it? Okay, but if she's in crisis, if she is experiencing severe postpartum depression or even psychosis, I think her usual habits are out the window like we can't even get through those. She's not in her right mind
Starting point is 00:23:25 She's she's not really Joey right now, which is true and even like when her loved ones hear this They're not even sure what to think at this point Like don't be wrong like they don't believe for a moment that she would intentionally harm her child But they don't know the state she's in. And you know, if the baby died of something like SIDS, they wonder if she snapped or panicked if she was veering that she would be blamed. So it's not even like they're, she's spiraled, yeah. Yeah, it's not even like they're outright saying like, oh, this couldn't have happened. Like, you know, we don't believe this at all, but they're like, I think to your point, they're knowing that she's not herself now. So right, like,
Starting point is 00:24:04 her leaving without her purse or ID maybe isn't that strange. And while the idea of her in this kind of state and in this kind of crisis is an awful thought, it is preferable to the alternative that they're proposing, which is like this was intentional and she's on the run. And like, that's what they cannot owe you. So her family knows that if she did something, they're gonna hear from her soon. She cannot survive on her own for long,
Starting point is 00:24:32 emotionally or financially. But then that means if they don't hear from her, then Joey might have met foul play too. And so if she didn't do it, what have they done with Joey? Now of course one of the biggest mysteries in all of this and maybe the key is her car. So they put out an APB for the red 1994 Saturn coupe with Virginia plates and they start trying to piece together a timeline with the help from her neighbors who along with Alexis can place the car at Joey's house
Starting point is 00:25:05 up until the night of Sunday, July 8th. Although, according to Alexis, it wasn't always there, right? Like it was coming and going a little bit, or at least one other time as far as he knows. Now there is one guy who tells police that he saw the car outside of Joey's house just an hour before the fire started.
Starting point is 00:25:23 And it really stuck out to him because he says that Joey typically parks on the street in front of her house. But this time, he says that she was parked on the street along the side of her house. But he didn't see her, he just saw her car. Right, just her car. And again, I could be a little significant.
Starting point is 00:25:44 I know with my neighbors, I know their patterns, right? Like I be a little significant. Like, I know with my neighbors, like, I know their patterns, right? Like, I know who parks on the street, I know who parks on the driveway, I know who parks on the garage, like, all of that. The problem with this is, so even though it seems a little important, police actually don't end up putting a lot of stock in this guy's story because when they really try
Starting point is 00:25:58 and get into the details of this, he doesn't seem to be so sure of like, the exact date that he saw this. Like, at first, he says it was right before the fire started. Would you think you'd remember? But I don't know, when they push, it becomes a little fuzzier. But that being said, tracking the various car sightings
Starting point is 00:26:14 is way easier than tracking Joey steps. The couple who lives across the street, the ones who reported the fire, they tell investigators that her windows have been closed since July 4th, which again is really odd because they're usually open. Beyond that, though, there's not a whole lot of information that these like neighbors can provide, because most people in the area don't actually know anything about Joey. She doesn't socialize much beyond, like just with her family, with Alexis, with the the kids and she's only lived in Sykesville since earlier that year
Starting point is 00:26:47 So where did she live before that? I mean she moved around a lot like she grew up in Virginia Then she went to college for a year in West Virginia Then according to Robin Acton's reporting for the Pittsburgh Tribune Review She got married she moved to Texas for a couple of years Then she returned home when she and that guy split up, and then ever since she met Alexis in 2003, she had been kind of back and forth between Pennsylvania and Virginia. But this is why Sherry bought her that house so she could have a permanent home for her family, no matter what happened with Alexis. And Sykesville seemed like the perfect place to kind of lay down roots, this safe little burrow if you were a little bit more than 1200 residents.
Starting point is 00:27:29 And literally it's so small and we're talking a one stop like town. And the property that Joey's house sits on is literally surrounded by the town's four churches. And actually, it turns out that one of those churches is what yields a big lead. You see, Alexis might not have been the last person to see Joey. A youth pastor from one of the churches says that he saw Joey around maybe 5 or 6 p.m. on Thursday, July 5th, like walking up the sidewalk, pushing a stroller. Although, he doesn't recall if he saw an actual baby in the stroller or not.
Starting point is 00:28:13 Which a lot of people, like online, go back and forth, they're like, oh my god, she's pushing an empty stroller, that must mean something. And what I keep trying to make clear to people, he's not saying he saw her pushing an empty stroller. He just like did not lay eyes on the baby, which I think is an important distinction to me. Right.
Starting point is 00:28:29 Cause like, you have like the little sun shield up, you have a blanket over it. Like there's a lot of reasons. He just might not have seen a baby. A one month old, like granted, I had Joe in January, so she was like bundled up beyond belief and this is summer. But yeah, you're definitely got like the whole sun shield,
Starting point is 00:28:44 the whole, yeah, the whole nine yards. And the baby could be sleeping, right? And anyways, the one thing he does recall though is that he thought that she looked quote unquote, disheveled. OK, but what mom? I mean, little lone a mom of a newborn doesn't look a little disheveled sometimes.
Starting point is 00:29:01 Yeah, no, for sure. Like, I don't feel like I started looking not disheveled until like a solid six to 10 months in. little decheviled sometimes. Yeah, no, for sure. Like, I don't feel like I started looking not decheviled until like a solid six to 10 months in. But I haven't hit that point yet, cool. But like for him, I don't even think it was like, necessarily like an appearance thing. Like it was just her whole demeanor
Starting point is 00:29:17 because what stuck out to him is that even though they had talked before, on this particular day when he says hi to her, she actually didn't acknowledge him, or even like make eye contact. Oh. So I think the whole encounter just felt really strange. Plus, unlike that other guy who had the story about the car, this pastor says he is confident about the date because he saw her outside of the church while doing some cleanup after his brother's wedding that happened there. And this encounter, this is the last time anyone says that they've seen Joey.
Starting point is 00:29:48 And this also fits in with that Magdée meat that was found, which forensic experts conclude was left out on the counter sometime between July 3rd and July 5th. So a couple of puzzle pieces are maybe starting to come together a little? And regardless of what happened or why or whether she disappeared before or after the fifth, I mean, it is clear that Joey is the real key to unraveling this awful mystery.
Starting point is 00:30:16 The more investigators can find out about her, the greater their chances are of locating her, and finding out what really happened in that house. So to do that, they bring Alexis in for a longer interview. He tells police that he and Joey met online. At the time they seemed well matched, they were both single parents with similar beliefs, similar values, and then not long after they got together, Joey and her daughter, who was five at the time, they moved from Virginia to Pennsylvania to be with him. Now, he was there because he was studying psychology
Starting point is 00:30:48 at Penn State, and he lived in an apartment near the main campus. For a while, everything was good. But then they started arguing a lot, and Joey and her daughter moved out. But she and Alexis kept seeing each other, and she got pregnant in the summer of 2004. And kind of unsurprisingly, right when you have a relationship that's up and down like this,
Starting point is 00:31:09 like their problems only got worse. When police run a background check on Alexis, they see that Joey filed a protection order against him in 2005, which eventually ended up lapsing. Oh, whoa. What happened leading up to that? Well, the story that he gives police is that he wanted Joey to leave his house and then she refused, then she attacked him so he grabbed her by her hair, pushed her out the door, at which point she called the cops, he got arrested, and she filed for the protection order. And that might not have been the only incident though. Joey actually documented a lot of their ups and downs online
Starting point is 00:31:48 in this like Yahoo discussion group for single moms. According to David Lawyers reporting for court TV's crime library, Joey posted to the group 525 times from February 2005 to June 5th, 2007. Now some of this information hasn't been confirmed, but these are Joey's words, so I think they're at least valid to share here
Starting point is 00:32:10 with the caveat, right, that like, again, they have not all things have been confirmed. So, Brick, I sent you a couple of her posts. Would you mind reading those just so we kind of get a sense of like what it is she's talking about? Yeah, there's one on March 17th 2005 that says, quote, entered my protection from abuse, PFA, against Alexis today, and taking it to the courthouse tomorrow. It will grant me temporary custody of our baby, as well as
Starting point is 00:32:34 being control of his visitations, likewise financial responsibility, without having to depend on his timing. I'm relieved, a little sad, and at peace. End quote. Then, less than a month later on April 6, she posted, quote, quote, quote, quote, quote, quote,
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Starting point is 00:33:14 He tends to have a hard time with not being physical, confrontative, and shows no initiative in taking special precautions, keeping young children away from his son, which I think is interesting. Uh, his son, I'm confused, the newborn? No, so I had mentioned that both Joey and Alexis were single parents when they met. Oh yeah. He actually had a son and a daughter from previous relationships.
Starting point is 00:33:40 And I think that's the son he's talking about. Okay, so what happened with his son? Uh, I mean, without going into too much detail, apparently there was an incident when this kid was a pre-teen that led to social services getting involved. So, I guess Joey didn't really feel comfortable having his son around her daughter.
Starting point is 00:33:58 But, I mean, again, so you're seeing these posts, you're seeing kind of where she was at, but despite all of this, like by the spring of 2007, Joey posted about how they were trying to work things out because she was pregnant again. And she wrote that even though Alexis was a felon who had struggled with substance use disorder, having children had changed him. And she told the group that he was going to propose to her, which she seemed really excited about. And just in FYI, I know I had said earlier, like some of the stuff she's saying can't be substantiated. This quote unquote felon stuff is true.
Starting point is 00:34:30 So we did a state background check and it shows that Alexis pled guilty to robbery in the late 1980s. He was only given probation, but he violated it when he was found guilty of a misdemeanor. The misdemeanor was like receiving stolen property and that happened in 1991. So he had to serve a couple of years in prison and then he was on parole for a while.
Starting point is 00:34:49 So, okay, so that's just some background. Let's jump back to the police's interview with Alexis. They learned about the ups and downs of their relationship. And the thing that sticks out to them is that Joey and Alexis seem to have starkly different views of where their relationship was heading because in these interviews He tells detectives that they were actually in the process of breaking up Even though they were still having sex and not only that he says baby Lex might not even be his son Does he actually have reason to think that's true or is he just saying it? I don't know. I mean all we know is that they're obviously having problems.
Starting point is 00:35:28 But like, this is what I'm saying about the like the contrast because everything they're getting from like Joey's family, Joey's online posts, like to everyone on that side to their knowledge, she and Alexa are engaged, they're playing to get married next year. So if you would ask anyone on that side,
Starting point is 00:35:44 could Lex have a different dad? They'd all have been like, for sure no. But regardless what Joey and Alexa's relationship was like, he's the boyfriend or fiance or maybe almost ex, at the very least he's the father of one of her children. And he admits they argued the last time that they were together. The police are going to look at him regardless. Right. And police do consider him a person of interest, but he's cooperative. He answers questions. He doesn't even lawyer up. And he even speculates on Joey's potential whereabouts. According to that episode, he disappears and he tells
Starting point is 00:36:19 investigators that she may be running from her problems, and he suggests that they check women's shelters because she's actually stayed in them before. So, he's saying he thinks Joey did something to Lex and set the fire? Well, not quite. I mean, he tells investigators that he doesn't know what happened. Like he's just making suggestions where maybe they can find her. Like he says he can't imagine Joey setting the fire to the house that she loves so much. Because he's still, he's not even saying that she's like a bad person, like he describes her as this protective mother who clings to her kids. I think he's just trying to like come up with anything.
Starting point is 00:36:55 So, after their interview, he lets police search his home and even examine his computers. And when they get worried about a nasty smell coming from his car, he even hands over the floor mat so they can test them to prove that the smell is just left over, like, just some kind of stench from left over frozen turkey that he forgot about. And was it actually turkey? I mean, there wasn't any human blood or anything found, so I get my thing so.
Starting point is 00:37:20 Yeah. So he's talking to them, he's letting them search whatever they want. There's even a point where like a couple of days like into the investigation after the fire, he takes a polygraph. But Trooper Ray isn't surprised when the polygraph is inconclusive. Because like, I mean, even you think about it again, not even from a sinister point of you. Like this news is so fresh, there is bound to be an emotional reaction.
Starting point is 00:37:46 So overall, police are definitely not ready to put Alexis on a shelf. But at this point, Joey being responsible still seems like the most likely scenario. Okay, but is there anyone else who could have done it? What about the father of Joey's older daughter? No, I mean, he's in prison halfway across the country, but definitely wasn't him.
Starting point is 00:38:09 But to your point, like police are looking into everyone they can think of. Like, for instance, there is a maintenance worker who worked around her house occasionally, but he's cleared. They look into sex offenders, no leads there. They also take a deeper look at her online activity because her family brings up this idea. She's way too trusting. leads there. They also take a deeper look at her online activity because, you know, her
Starting point is 00:38:25 family brings up this idea, you know, she's way too trusting. And they tell police about this story, something that happened to her in the past. Like, this is all coming from Sherry. She relayed this in that disappeared episode. But basically, Alexis told Sherry in 2006 that he intercepted emails that Joey was exchanging on his computer with a guy who claimed to be looking for a model to photograph, but this guy was really interested in shooting pornography. Now there's a lot of confusion about what actually happened with that, and I don't know if it was just that one incident or if there were others too, but that fall, Sherry was so concerned about this that she went and got temporary custody of her two granddaughters. And Joey hit the roof when she found out she went to counseling to get them back, which she did.
Starting point is 00:39:14 So naturally, police were intrigued when they found a computer in Joey's burned-down house. But the problem was her internet service was turned off for at least a couple of weeks due to lack of payment, and ultimately there's like nothing useful on the hard drive. So they are looking at other avenues, but they're just not getting anywhere. And it's not until three long days after the fire. This is now Sunday, July 15th, that investigators get the break that they've been waiting for.
Starting point is 00:39:43 Joey's red Saturn has been found. It's parked in the Nittany Gardens apartment complex about 70 miles away. And this is a significant location because Joey in Alexis actually used to live there when they started dating. Oh. According to WJAC TV, police spend a week
Starting point is 00:40:02 canvassing the complex, showing photos of the couple to everyone they can, but no one remembers them. But one resident thinks they know about when the Saturn got there. They say that it was parked in the complex by July 12th. So I think it's important because if this is true that they saw it parked there on the 12th, that's the same day that the fire is set. So the fire set early morning hours, then this car shows up. So investigators searched the car for evidence. They spray the inside with luminol, but there is no blood, no fluids,
Starting point is 00:40:37 nothing indicating foul play, and of the fingerprints that they do find none of them are useful. Are there any surveillance cameras in the area that may have seen something? Yeah, but here's the thing, like every three days, that footage overrides itself. So, and we're out, what, the 15th? Yeah, so it ends up by the time they like get there
Starting point is 00:41:00 and then start looking for the footage, like doing their canvassing, I mean, they like just missed it. Oh my God. Now, what's so interesting about specifically where the car was found is that it kind of plays into one potential theory that's been floating around, which is that if all of this happened
Starting point is 00:41:21 because she was experiencing something mentally. Maybe in her breakdown, she drove there thinking she still lived there. Right, it's a familiar place. Right, however, when her nephew Jason sees a photo of the car, like the way police found it, he gets chills because it doesn't matter to him that she lived there. He doesn't think she went there because she was in a panic state because he doesn't matter to him that she lived there.
Starting point is 00:41:45 He doesn't think she went there because she was in a panic state because he said in that moment, in an instant, he was sure that his aunt wasn't the one who left there because of something specific he saw. The Saturn had been backed into a parking spot. And like, backed in well, like it was perfectly aligned inside the space. But apparently, Joey was like notoriously a bad driver, and she never backed into parking spots. Like, it wouldn't even cross her mind to try it.
Starting point is 00:42:22 Okay, but if she's not herself right now, maybe she would? Okay, so let me keep going because that's not like the main part. Even if she is in a different state and her little habits are changing, even the stuff that's ingrained in her, she's like not paying attention to it,
Starting point is 00:42:40 what doesn't make sense to her family is the fact that it's perfectly parked. They're saying like, even if she tried, even if she's like, today is the day, because I'm not Joey anymore, I'm gonna back in, there is no world in which she could have gotten that car like straight in between the lines the way it was found. It's a skill she doesn't have, right?
Starting point is 00:42:58 Truly. Plus, they say that they can see in the photos that the seat is pushed all the way back, like almost even into like a reclining position, which they say is way too far back for Joey to drive comfortably. Like she's very petite. Her driver's license says she's five three,
Starting point is 00:43:15 but Sherry says she's like barely pushing five one. Now if you ask investigators, this doesn't prove anything, but to her family, this is a smoking gun. They know in their heart of hearts there is no way Joey parked that car. So they try to come up with explanations that aren't the worst case scenario, like maybe someone helped her flee and that person parked it. But ultimately, again, this feels like the biggest lead, it is the biggest lead, but the
Starting point is 00:43:43 problem is finding the car doesn't actually help find Joey. And it just becomes this like frustratingly loose end. As the days continue to pass with no sign of Joey, her family becomes more and more disheartened. But there is one last hope. One beacon in this dark time that her family is still holding on to. Joey's daughter's ninth birthday is coming up in late July and she would never miss it.
Starting point is 00:44:14 If she left voluntarily and any sense of who she is remains, she is gonna reach out on this day. Even if it's just a quick call to say happy birthday, even if she just calls and hangs up something. But the big day passes without a word. And this was like the turning point for them. They are more sure than ever that she is a victim. Either that or she is experiencing like full on amnesia in her mental crisis and literally doesn't know who she is.
Starting point is 00:44:42 So they ramp up their efforts to find her. They start a website, they set up a hotline for tips, they've been talked to reporters, and Jason, her nephew, scours the internet, looking for news stories about unidentified bodies. Oh, and what's Alexis doing all this time? You mean like for search efforts? Yeah, like is he participating?
Starting point is 00:45:02 Like what's going on? Yeah, apparently he's not doing much. Like he and Sherry had discussed like practical matters in this time, like this stuff to do with like he and Joey's daughter, but he's definitely not by their side helping out, which feels like a red flag to some of her loved ones. But whatever their suspicions may be, they have no proof that Alexis was involved, again, involved in what how. Like, and on top of that, I mean, Sharie's just trying to keep the peace, right?
Starting point is 00:45:31 Like, this guy's gonna be in their lives one way or another because of the daughter he shared with Joey. So like, they're not pointing the fingers, and why point the finger when you still don't know what happened. Right, I mean, it's a tricky situation to navigate. Where are Joey's daughters staying with Joey missing? Well, so her older daughter is with Joey's family. Like, she was the one who was staying with grandma anyways at the time. So she's staying with Joey's family. Joey's younger
Starting point is 00:45:59 daughter, who she shares with Alexis, is living with Alexis. And her family is like, during this time, it's still getting to like see her for visits and stuff. And actually, at some point, Sheri even gets joint legal custody. But it does mean that the girls are split up. They're missing each other, not to mention they're missing their mom and their baby brother. I mean, they're lives.
Starting point is 00:46:19 It's not an understatement to say they've been completely upended in this. Over the next few months, as everyone's trying to figure out how to navigate this new reality, Sherry has to end up selling Joey's decimated house, and she ends up selling it to one of the surrounding churches, which just has to level it for a parking lot.
Starting point is 00:46:38 And all that's left to show that Joey and Babylux even lived there is just this little memorial. Now, meanwhile, police have been following up on lead after lead, but none of them are panning out. Like there was this rumor that Alexis may have intentionally set a small fire at his parents house when he was younger,
Starting point is 00:46:59 but like they search high and low for proof of this, they never even confirmed that. Again, not that that would have proved this scenario. Well, what would that even mean? Right. So to her family, it feels like the case is at a standstill. So in April of 2008, that's when they announced a $10,000 reward for information leading to her whereabouts.
Starting point is 00:47:18 But unfortunately, information is still in short supply. And not even just about Joey. Even after police use DNA to officially confirm Baby Lex's identity, they still don't know how he died, which again is another huge key to this. Because there are no signs of trauma on the limited remains that they have to examine.
Starting point is 00:47:39 They know that Lex was a healthy baby. There's no reason he shouldn't be alive, but they don't know why he's not. Were they able to narrow down when he died at all? Well, they have an estimate. So they're thinking that Lex died on July 4th or July 5th. Oh, by the way, this is when they're doing DNA and stuff, so they actually did a test on Lex, because remember we've got this weird claim from So they actually did a test on Lex because remember we got this weird claim from His dad that saying I'm not his dad. The baby is
Starting point is 00:48:10 Alexis. This is his child So fast forward a little ways America's most wanted ends up airing segments about Joey's case twice It was in November and December of 2008 each time like There's some fresh round of leads that come in from across the country. Like, one man says that he's certain he talked to Joey at a shopping plaza in Alabama. Another call, point police in the direction of some sort of cult or church in West Virginia.
Starting point is 00:48:35 But again, every time, every road ends up leading nowhere. And over the next few years, police start leaning away from the theory that Joey is the perpetrator. Because they know that the more time that passes, the less likely she's alive. So kind of like the family has been believing for a while, Trooper Ray starts to believe that Joey was a victim of foul play. Now, I don't know exactly when this switch happens for him, but he is definitely in
Starting point is 00:49:06 that camp by the time he presents the case to the VDoC Society in January of 2013. We've mentioned the VDoC Society a few times, for anyone who doesn't know, there are this high profile team of active and former investigators who review on solve cases. And basically, the VDox society comes to the conclusion that the investigation should be focused on Alexis. But every tactic they suggest, Trooperé has already tried. And what makes things more difficult
Starting point is 00:49:35 is that Alexis' cooperation had kind of dwindled over the years, like he even declined to take a second polygraph at his family's advice. Though he does talk to the media a couple of times, like he was interviewed for that episode a disappeared that I mentioned and for America's most wanted. And every time he's interviewed,
Starting point is 00:49:52 it seems like he's just as confused as everyone else. Like he told America's most wanted, there was, quote, talk a postpartum depression and stuff. But if an accident happened, you know, where's Joey now? End quote. Oh, I meant to ask, this idea about postpartum depression or possibly even psychosis seems
Starting point is 00:50:10 to be a pretty big theory in this case, but was she ever diagnosed or does anyone else see signs of it or was it just a lexas kind of reporting on this? It wasn't just him, so that nurse that was working with Joey, she had confirmed to police that Joey was taking an antidepressant for postpartum depression. Now, I mean, her family, again, she clearly has it. We know she has it. Her family says though, like, you know,
Starting point is 00:50:36 she's happy to have the baby. She's looking forward to the future. But my one tidbit that I'll add is someone who just went through this not too long ago. Like, you don't always feel comfortable talking about it, even with the people that are closest to you. So, we know she had it. I don't know who would be the gauge of like how bad it might actually have been. So, my point was, Alexis is doing these interviews. I mean, he tells investigation, discovery, producers, that he doesn't know what happened, but his
Starting point is 00:51:06 son is never coming back and he's trying his best to forget everything and move on. But for Joey's family, there is no moving on. Even after Sherry has her legally declared dead in 2016, they keep looking for her and police keep working in the case. Year after year though, they got nothing to show for it. Though there isn't interesting, albeit unrelated development that happens in June 2020 that I do want to mention.
Starting point is 00:51:35 Alexis, along with a few dozen other people, is indicted on federal charges involving drug trafficking, money laundering, and unlawful possession of firearms. Oh, okay, that. Yeah, pretty big. Like this indictment came after this lengthy wire tap which targeted a massive methamphetamine ring.
Starting point is 00:51:55 And Alexis, he wouldn't just involve, he's accused of running along with another guy. Whoa. Yeah, according to court records, when police busted him, he had more than two pounds of meth in his possession. So if he's convicted, he's facing a mandatory sentence of life in prison.
Starting point is 00:52:12 Now, right now, he's in county lockup awaiting trial, which has been delayed a few times. And as of this recording, the trial is scheduled to start, I think this summer. Now, we try to get what we could about this, but like lots of the records are sealed,
Starting point is 00:52:26 while it's ongoing, but a bunch of his co-defendants have already pled guilty, including his wife, who is recently sentenced to a decade in prison. And records from her case shed a little bit of light on their home life. Remember, it actually sent you what Nina dug up. Can you give us a quick summary of the allegations?
Starting point is 00:52:44 Sure, basically prosecutors say that during the investigation, Hmm. Embroidered actually sent you what Nina dug up, can you give us a quick summary of the allegations? Sure. Basically, prosecutors say that during the investigation, neither Alexis nor his wife were gameplay employed. Their only income was from Zelling Drugs. The state had removed his daughter from their care in April 2020, but she was actually at their house when police raided it after his arrest. They found a loaded gun on the kitchen table and nine other guns in the home. Meanwhile, at least one of the men Alexis worked with was actively
Starting point is 00:53:13 threatening to kill him over money he owed for a drug debt. Which is like scary stuff, right? I mean, this is like no small thing. Yeah, potentially a great opportunity when he was arrested to go back to him and talk about Joey. Like maybe if there is something that he didn't tell them before, maybe he would now, if there's a deal to be made or something. But when they went back to talk to him, he like had no interest in doing it.
Starting point is 00:53:40 And neither did his wife or the other co-defendants. No one tells police anything useful about Joey. But I think it's still important to note, they've never named Alexis as a suspect regarding what happened to Joey or the baby. Though as of right now, he is the only person of interest. Joey's family doesn't know why anyone would want to hurt her or her son. They think that whoever is responsible staged the scene to make it look like she killed
Starting point is 00:54:11 the baby and then set fire to their house. That way, all of the investigators' focus would be on finding a mom who flipped out instead of the real culprit. They are positive that someone out there knows what happened to Joey and to baby Lex. I mean, their only desire is to find her and to find out what happened in that house. And that desire for answers even outweighs their desire for justice. I mean, Sherry is plagued. She said, a nightmare. she hasn't slept well since Joey vanished. They just want to bring her home, they just want to lay her to rest next to her son so they can
Starting point is 00:54:51 be together. If Joey is alive today, she'd be 49. At the time of her disappearance, she was about 110 pounds with reddish-brown hair and a noticeable list. This case is still active. David Ray is retired from the state police now, but he is still working on the case because after his retirement he went on to be an investigator at the Jefferson County District Attorney's Office. So if you have any information about Joey or about baby Lex or what happened in that house. Please help this family get the piece that they deserve. Call the Pennsylvania State Police at 814-938-0510.
Starting point is 00:55:53 You can find all the source material for this episode on our website, crimejunkiepodcast.com. And you can follow us on Instagram at crimejunkiepodcast. Brittnaya are actually off next week. We will be back the following week with a brand new Brad, but I am ready to hear some good. Uh, yes, please. Yes. And crime junkies, don't forget you can check out the good page on our website, crimejunkiepodcast.com to recap on past month segments, even submit a story of your
Starting point is 00:56:45 own. We love reading each and every one of them. So please, please, please keep submitting. We actually will have a direct link to the page in our show notes. But, drum both, please. Brett, you want to share some good with us? Sure. Ashley and Brett, I'm not sure you'll actually be able to read this. I know you must get tons of stories and emails every day. I debated even writing since I know there's so many, but I genuinely believe in letting people know when they've made a difference, and you both truly have. My oldest daughter is 13 years old, adopted, physically indigenous, and lives with mild intellectual disability.
Starting point is 00:57:22 Her disability makes it hard for her to learn and understand that things aren't always what they seem among many other things. She also, by nature, wants to believe the best of people. She's been an avid lover of Roblox for a while now, so like any internet safety aware parent, I gave her many talks about internet safety and never talking to strangers online. Always met with, yes mama, I know, and a slight eye roll. I know that eye roll. I had that eye roll. I still look like a girl.
Starting point is 00:57:49 In September of last year, I discovered that not only has she been speaking to multiple strangers online, she'd also given her personal cell number to several. I was horrified, and I was terrified for my baby, who already lives with such a significant risk for victimization. Oh my gosh, this is an at least a Navarra, like immediately all over again. I'm getting sick to my stomach.
Starting point is 00:58:11 Pause Ashley. This is the good, right? Remind me, please remind me. I wish I could tell you I handled it graciously, but I didn't. I lost it on her and we had a big fight. The fight happened hours before we had to leave for a camping trip, so I had to pack my angry teenager and younger daughter into the car and go for a long drive. Despite being angry at me, she asked to listen to crime junkie on the drive,
Starting point is 00:58:33 something we love doing together and have spent hours listening to. By an absolute fluke, I chose the Alicia Navarro story and the lesson. I've never seen my daughter's drop so many times as I did while she listened to you tell Alicia's story and say all the things about internet safety and internet predators, I had said countless times. But cool Ashen Brit made more of an impact in 55 minutes than I had had and I don't even know how many talks.
Starting point is 00:59:03 At the end, she looked at me speechless and said, Mom, I didn't know. I'm like gonna cry, I think that's so cool. Now, when we talk about Internet safety, she is attentive and open and reminds me of things you said in the episode. She's also watchful of her little sister and reminds her often not to talk to strangers. I don't know what to say other than thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you for sharing stories and honoring those whose lives are forever changed by evil. Thank you for something to bond with my daughter over as the teen years make common ground more hard to find. And thank you for helping me teach a lesson that I couldn't on my own. One that helps me
Starting point is 00:59:43 keep my girl safe while she learns to navigate the world. All the very best to you both and your family's Tristine from Calgary, Canada. Oh my God. I have tears streaming down my face, Ashley. I don't know about you. I think that is so sinking cool.
Starting point is 01:00:01 Like, and it's such like, it says so much about Alicia and her family, too. Obviously, when we tell these stories, we were working with Anti-Predator Project. We wanted tips about Alicia. But by them sharing the pain that they've gone through and their own story of loss, they're all, like, another girl, another another kid could have been saved.
Starting point is 01:00:25 Right, this is what makes sharing that pain. It's all about, yeah. Yeah, it's just so much bigger. You know, when people ask me, sometimes I'll get interviews or whatever and they're like, you know, have you solved any cases? And I'm like, you know, there's been resolution, you know, with see some justice
Starting point is 01:00:40 and you know, have identified dose or whatever. But I was like, there's been a big... But we made Tristine's daughter safer. Yeah, but there's this like, I think this whole preventative thing that if cool Ash and Britt, which like, I'm gonna save this for my daughter one day, that if we can do that for a younger generation, even an older generation, like we, man,
Starting point is 01:01:00 we all have a lot to learn. I just like, oh, we did a good job. We were done. We did what he said out to learn. I just like, oh, we did a good job. We were done. We did what you said out to do. I think this is so cool. What a good way to end. Crime Junkie is an audio check production. So what do you think, Chuck?
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