Crime Weekly - Cari Farver | The Pattern Everyone Missed (Part 3)

Episode Date: May 29, 2026

On November 16, 2012, 37-year-old Cari Farver was reported missing by her mother, Nancy, after she suddenly stopped showing up for work and answering calls. No one had seen Cari since the morning of N...ovember 13, but her phone was active, sending messages and posting online, making it seem like she hadn’t disappeared at all. Still, Nancy was adamant something was wrong. The messages didn’t sound like Cari. As detectives began looking into Cari’s disappearance, they started receiving reports that she was stalking and threatening multiple people. For more than two years, the behavior continued, growing more intense and dangerous than anyone could have imagined. And by the time detectives finally uncovered what was really going on, they were left trying to untangle a case so complicated, and so bizarre, that prosecutors worried a jury wouldn’t believe it was true.  Try our coffee! - www.CriminalCoffeeCo.com Become a Patreon member -- > https://www.patreon.com/CrimeWeekly Shop for your Crime Weekly gear here --> https://crimeweeklypodcast.com/shop Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/CrimeWeeklyPodcast Website: CrimeWeeklyPodcast.com Instagram: @CrimeWeeklyPod Twitter: @CrimeWeeklyPod Facebook: @CrimeWeeklyPod ADS: https://www.HelixSleep.com/CrimeWeekly - Get 27% off sitewide!        2. https://www.OneSkin.co/CrimeWeekly - Use code CRIMEWEEKLY for 15% off! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hello, everybody. Welcome back to Crime Weekly. I'm Stephanie Harlow. And I'm Derek Lavasar. And we are diving into part three of the Carrie Farver case today. You know what's weird, though? Like, I feel like Inception right now because as we're recording this, we're recording it early, you and I are literally standing together right now at CrimeCon talking to some of you guys. Well, I don't get the Inception reference because I never really did get Inception.
Starting point is 00:00:37 Like a world instead of a world or something. Yeah. Like I feel like we're inside the world we're talking to because right now there might be people who are sitting at crime con waiting to come downstairs to hang out with us but are also watching our video. Did anybody get Inception? Everybody did. If you got it, you're just pretending to get it. Have you got to watch it again. I don't want to make it about inception.
Starting point is 00:00:57 You got to watch it again. It's really, really good. But yeah, if you're at CrimeCon, we're super excited. As of today, if you're listening on audio, it's Friday out there. And so today we are doing our live show. which is going to be a really fascinating story. Stephanie's familiar with. What's the name of that case?
Starting point is 00:01:16 Stephanie Wasolition. I can never say that last name, but it's hard, but I've said so many times. It was hard at first, but I've said it so many times. Washalition. Wasolition. Wasolition. Wasolition. Yep.
Starting point is 00:01:28 Okay. And her daughter, Nikki. Yep. Right? She's going to be there with us. And then on Saturday, we're going to have, we're doing, we're officiating a wedding. Yes, we are. For one of you guys, a crime weekly fan who's going to be out there.
Starting point is 00:01:39 and we also are doing something super secretive that we have been keeping under wraps that's going to be in a later episode. But we're going to be doing that as well. Saturday morning, yep. We think you guys are going to be really surprised by that. So a lot of good things in the works. And yeah, now we can dive into the episode. All right. So I'm going to give you a quick recap, all right?
Starting point is 00:01:58 Because it's part three, but a lot's happened. And I remember at the end of part two, Derek was like, hey, this feels like where it should end. like they've identified the person and but but it's not because there's two more parts because it's a case within a case yeah it's crazy to me it's inception we were saying it yeah there you go another reference and we were saying it on cwn like it's it's interesting because i did think that was going to be the end and not only is it not the end but there's a part four to this and i was saying in crime weekly news how is there a part four to this story we know who did it we've known who did it for a while now and yet you keep proving me wrong that there is
Starting point is 00:02:37 is so much more that we haven't covered it. Yeah, well, Liz can't go out like that, all right? I feel like she's going out guns blazing, but... There's complexities to Liz. Liz is an inception. Okay, all right. Well, we'll see. Okay, for more than two years, 37-year-old Carrie Farver appeared to be missing but alive, right?
Starting point is 00:02:55 Her phone stayed active. Her Facebook page continued posting, and the people closest to her, including Dave Krupa, the man she had briefly dated, he was receiving thousands of text, emails and threats that seemed to be coming directly from Carrie. So police believed Carrie had become obsessed with Dave, which caused her to launch a relentless stalking campaign against him and his sort of trauma-bonded girlfriend, Liz Goiler, and anyone else who got close to him, like anyone else he would date.
Starting point is 00:03:24 But Carrie's family never believed it. They knew something was wrong. By 2015, after years of unanswered questions, detectives Ryan Avis and Jim Doty reopened Carrie's case and started from the beginning. And they brought in David. digital forensics administrator Anthony Kava to help. And as they reviewed phone data, emails and thousands of digital files, disturbing inconsistencies began to emerge. Then they found
Starting point is 00:03:47 something that changed everything. And that was a photo of Carrie's missing Ford Explorer on Liz's phone. And this was taken after Carrie vanished, but before the vehicle had been recovered. And if you remember, it was recovered in Dave Krupa's apartment complex parking lot. And it was covered in snow and everything. And Dave was like, it definitely was not there before the blizzard. Right, right. So that's not good for Liz, and that kind of ties it together where how would you have access to this photo if nobody knew where the car was? So detectives then came to a shocking conclusion. Liz Goiler was not another victim in Carrie's stalking campaign. They believed Liz had been impersonating Carrie, stalking both herself, like Liz was stalking herself and Dave, and was responsible for Carrie's disappearance and suspected murder.
Starting point is 00:04:32 And for the first time in more than 900 days, which please, understand. It's over two years, basically. Yeah. It's crazy. It's just incredibly crazy. Finally, after two years, a thorough investigation was underway. And I will say this. It's easy for us to sit here and go, yeah, this is obviously what happened. But I'll tell you, internally, for Doty and Avis, this is something you have to be very certain about, because essentially what you're doing is you're accusing the quote-unquote victim, right? And, and, you're, and, And this is someone who probably had a lot of sympathy coming their way, someone who everyone felt bad for. So for you to turn around and go, wait a second, you're no victim.
Starting point is 00:05:15 You're actually the offender. You better be right because this is the type of thing. If you're wrong, you're getting demoted to basically the crossing guard duty. I mean, especially after two years of nothing happening and other police officers being on it, Avis and Doty are probably like, wait, how did they miss this? Yes. And that's the other thing, right? That's a great dynamic you're bringing up.
Starting point is 00:05:37 Like there's been other people who've worked this case and completely missed it. So now you're not only accusing the victim, but you're second guessing the work of your peers. And for us not, obviously it has to be done, but we also have to acknowledge that dynamic. And regardless of what workforce you're in, it applies everywhere. When you go over to your colleague and you say, hey, I think you got this one wrong, it can create some problems. And so you're seeing these people every day. So shout out to Doty and Avis for doing the right. think. Yeah, Avis and Doty, dynamic duo. Yep. So, that sounds like a TV show. I know. I was
Starting point is 00:06:11 thinking. I was like, like a company, you know, shout out to Avis and Doty. Well, Avis is a company. Yeah. Rental car. All right. So detectives, Avis and Doty look closely at the timeline. They tried to figure out exactly when Carrie had been murdered because by now they believed, yeah, she would have to be deceased in order for Liz to be impersonating her and having access to her social media and her phone and her car. So as we've talked about, on Monday, November 12, 2012, Carrie started staying with Dave. She was working on a special project at work, and she was having her mom watch her son Max for a little while. So she went to the office that day. She left later that night sometime between 8 p.m. and 9 p.m.
Starting point is 00:06:51 Records from her work laptop and phone showed that at 6.15 the following morning, Carrie called work from Dave's place to provide an update. that would end up being the last time anyone ever heard Carrie's voice. Then at 6.39 a.m., so not long after she calls work, her laptop logged on to Facebook and then logged off just three minutes later. So Carrie should have gone into work within the next few hours, but she never showed up. There was no additional data until 9.54 a.m. when Carrie's phone logged on to Facebook and Dave Krupa was immediately unfriended. Then just a few minutes later, Dave got that unexpected text, remember, where he said Carrie texted him when he was at work.
Starting point is 00:07:31 And she was like, hey, we should move in together. And he was like, no. And almost immediately another message came from Carrie saying, like, well, I hate you and we're done. I don't want to see you anymore. Don't call me. So detectives Aves and Doty noted that while no one ever heard Carrie's voice again, her phone continued reaching out to people. The problem was these messages sounded completely different. So I almost, when I'm looking at the timeline, 6.39 a.m., her laptop logs onto Facebook, logged off a few minutes later.
Starting point is 00:08:02 Carrie should have gone into work within the next few hours. She never showed up. And then it was 954 when her phone logged into Facebook and then unfriended Dave. This is when I believe she's no longer in charge. Liz is already in possession of the phone. So we're looking at a window from 640 to essentially 950, the window where whatever happened occurred. Yep. These messages that are going out after this do not sound like Carrie. She's not the sweet, caring person that everyone knew in her place with someone mean, angry, and harassing people
Starting point is 00:08:33 in ways that were completely out of character. No one who knew Carrie well, at least, believed it was actually her behind those messages. Because at this point, Dave doesn't really know Carrie all that well. He thinks he does, but they've been dating for a few months. He likes her, but he's also seen that, you know, people can switch up on you. So the people who knew Carrie well, though they knew something was wrong. But like we talked about before, the original detectives on the case did not agree. Based on the timeline they had so far,
Starting point is 00:09:00 detectives Avis and Doty believed that Liz had killed Carrie sometime after she called into work in before 9.54 a.m. when activity resumed on her phone. Liz then tried to become Carrie, but Liz didn't just impersonate her. Detectives believed she killed Carrie, then used that impersonation to stalk Dave, Carrie's family, and even herself over the next three years.
Starting point is 00:09:21 Wow, sicko. And so Ava Sanky. and Doty had made progress in building out this new theory, but they still had no idea exactly how or where Carrie had been murdered. Had Liz broken into Dave's apartment and done something to carry there, which would have been my theory, did Liz wait until Carrie walked out to her vehicle to go to work, or was it something else entirely? And at that point, they weren't sure. This is definitely a question I have, too, at this point, right? Like, I, you would think it would happen in Dave's apartment because that's how Liz would get access to her. But then you would think,
Starting point is 00:09:50 forensically, there'd be something there are at minimum, because Dave's not in on it, up to this point at least, as far as I know, Dave would have come into his apartment and seen some signs of struggle, something that was out of place that wasn't like that before he left. So, well, no, because remember, the first date they had, Dave brought Carrie back to his apartment and they were, you know, like putting on the candles, drinking the wine. And then Liz shows up and she's like, I need my stuff. And Dave's like, oh, it's just a crazy girl I used to date. like let me take care of this and then Carrie walked out past Liz so now a Liz knows what
Starting point is 00:10:24 Carrie knows what Liz looks like Carrie knows what Liz looks like carry knows in some context who Liz is so maybe Liz shows up knocks on the door and Carrie answers it and she's like I forgot my coat here or I need my medicine she goes in the apartment and so Carrie's like okay yeah come in like because what's she going to do what's she going to say this isn't her apartment you know and she would know if there was security cameras or anything there because she's been there before okay But you're right, the smartest way would be for Liz to wait for Carrie to leave and then be maybe waiting in her explorer. Because now we know she has a picture of the explorer and the explorer goes missing with Carrie. Yep, wait in the back seat or whatever.
Starting point is 00:11:00 Yeah, I'm interested to see how that plays out because we always thought whatever happened happened in the proximity of Dave's apartment. But nothing was out of the ordinary. No blood, nothing. I don't know. That's one of the parts I'm interested to hear about. Liz would have to be watching Dave and Carrie pretty closely to know that Carrie was spending the night at Dave's apartment for more than one night because she was staying there for a project. Not a shock. She's stalking this dude for sure.
Starting point is 00:11:26 And probably stalking Perry as well. She knows where she works and everything, right? So as detectives kept digging, they learned that on Thursday, November 15th, Liz filled out an application for Carrie's job using her legal name. So this is two days after she goes missing where now Liz is filling. out a job application at the place where Carrie works. Crazy. Crazy. I don't know what the rationale is. I'm looking forward to hearing that excuse. So the following day, Carrie's mom, Nancy, reported Carrie missing. Then just one day after that, Nancy received that strange text from Carrie's phone with a photo of the $5,000 starter check made out to Carrie with bedroom sat written on the memo line.
Starting point is 00:12:06 The message said Nancy should let a friend come pick up Carrie's furniture. Nancy said no, and passed all of that information along to the original investigators, but like so many other things in this case, it didn't go anywhere. Now, with fresh eyes on the case, detectives looked at that check again, and they immediately noticed something that stood out. The person who signed it was none other than Shana Goiler, who we know as Liz. Remember, that's Liz's real first name, but she goes by Liz. So to detectives, the whole thing was really bizarre. Liz had tried to get Carrie's job, and she used her real legal name, and now she appeared be trying to get her furniture too, and she's signing with her real legal name.
Starting point is 00:12:44 So it almost felt like Liz believed she could somehow step into Carrie's life and take over. As herself. As herself, because it was even stranger that Liz had done all of that using her real name. And somehow, once again, the first detectives on the case never put two and two together. Call him out. Phillips. Yeah. And amongst other, I mean, Phillips, man. Sergeant Phillips.
Starting point is 00:13:06 Sergeant Phillips, who is, from what we can tell, in a leadership or managerial role overseeing Doty and Avis. As far as we can call. Let's spend some uncomfortable conversations, huh? Yep. So based on everything they were uncovering, Avis and Doty felt like they were finally on the right path to figuring out what happened to carry, but feeling confident in having enough evidence to arrest someone for a murder are two very
Starting point is 00:13:29 different things. Like you said. She's been a victim. She's been a victim for two years. A horribly harassed victim. Somebody tried to set her house on fire. They called her kids ugly. Okay.
Starting point is 00:13:39 bad bad stuff happening here i'll tell you what it's it's scary i've never had something like that come up while on the job where it turns out that a victim was actually a uh a perpetrator yeah the only example i have is traitors and is i called out a guy on the show and i was very certain about it but i was sweating bullets because i knew if i was wrong it was going to be one of the most embarrassing moments in reality tv as a former detective so the the the risk here And the weight of what they're doing is so much higher than that. And I was shit in bricks. So I can't imagine what this is like, not only to call this person out,
Starting point is 00:14:18 but to essentially say, hey, boss, Sergeant Phillips, you did a terrible job on this case. But I mean, we have seen multiple instances in true crime. All the time. Where the victim turns out to be the perpetrator, right? Casey Anthony, allegedly, in my opinion, Gypsy Rose Blanchard, the Sherry Popini, right? Yeah. Sherry Papini. a lesser degree, we're just talking about it, but like McKenzie Shrilla.
Starting point is 00:14:42 Yeah, all of these cases where, or something happens to the children, and then it turns out to be the parents who did it. And they were, you know, sitting there crying in front of the cameras, Chris Watts, okay? Oh, yeah. This is pretty common. Yeah. So it was very strange. But at that point, detectives Avis and Doty, they still didn't have enough to charge Liz.
Starting point is 00:15:02 And the last thing they wanted to do was tip her off that she was under suspicion. So they kept digging. All right? That's kind of where I think they did the right thing here because if I was Liz, even from the beginning, when I was dealing with Phillips and all the other people, I would have been nervous. Like, how are they not putting two and two together? Like, how are they not figuring this out? And these two detectives are kind of picking up the case and they're not really telling Liz or anyone that they're looking into it now because she thinks at this point she's in the clear. She's gotten away with this for two years.
Starting point is 00:15:33 I don't know how big this department was. I almost have a feeling that Avis and Doty may not have been directly under Phillips. and we're working this laterally. I almost wonder if they told anybody that they were doing it. Yeah, they might have been just doing their thing and they may have had a difference. Maybe they didn't want to alert anyone in the department either. Because they don't know who knows and who's in on it or whatever. So they keep it under wraps.
Starting point is 00:15:53 They work it kind of laterally with whatever other cases they're working until they start to actually get some substance to what they're thinking. And then. Especially when they find out someone in the digital forensics department is kind of connected to Liz. Right. So now they're like, okay, who else is a. mole here. Yep.
Starting point is 00:16:10 I agree. Who else is a traitor? I would love to talk to them because I bet this is a story within a story that there was some stuff going on internally that. That would be like, yeah, that would be a freaking Netflix special where there was some there was some power dynamics there that Avis and Doady had to navigate as they were doing this. It sounds like.
Starting point is 00:16:28 I feel like there always is anyways. There is. There absolutely is. And it's unfortunate because these are, there's people's lives on the line here and shouldn't be like that. This should be the job. It shouldn't be. This is honestly why I don't.
Starting point is 00:16:39 like working in kind of systems like this where like what we do is great because it's like you and me and we are responsible for everything that happens and there's not like some hierarchy we have to check with or be careful or tiptoe around. I don't function while in that. And I feel like in general, the results of anything that comes out of a system like that are always watered down and sort of based on politics or like work dynamics. I don't like it. But we're going to take a quick break. We'll be right back. You know what's weird? People will sleep badly for years, and then they kind of just decide that's normal. Like something unhealthy becomes normalized.
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Starting point is 00:19:22 He found a photo of Carrie's Ford Explorer during the period it had been missing before it was officially found. So Avis and Doty decided to go back to. to the vehicle evidence and see if they could tie Liz to the Ford Explorer more directly. Now previously, remember, a single fingerprint had been recovered from inside the Explorer. Everything else was wiped down. Carrie's fingerprints weren't even found in the Explorer, but the single fingerprint had been found on a mint container. And they said that the fingerprints weren't on file, meaning nobody had left the fingerprint
Starting point is 00:19:53 who had been in the system, who had committed a crime and been fingerprinted. So detectives had that print tested against Liz's fingerprints and it came back as a match. Surprise, surprise to no one. Love it. Love it. Which once again, though, this could have been done when the Ford Explorer was found. Like, this could have been done.
Starting point is 00:20:14 Well, at that point, Liz wasn't on the radar. Yeah, but how did Avis and Doty get Liz's fingerprints, right, if they're not asking her? It makes it sound like they already had access to them. They could have had access to them. Or again, maybe there's more to the story where they met up with. her or they found something that she was holding on to a mug or they like sat outside her house and waited for her to throw a coffee cup out or something something like that but they could have her come in
Starting point is 00:20:39 and say hey we just need a little bit more information on this case we're trying to track down carry we know she's stalking you you know you put a couple bottles of water some mugs in front of her you whatever you do something where she's going to have to touch something or you even just say directly hey we need to take your prints just as exclusionary prints you know just so we have them on file so if we find your print anywhere, we can rule it out as a... What would you feel if you found out that somehow the police department already had Liz's fingerprints at some time around when the Ford Explorer was taken into custody or shortly after?
Starting point is 00:21:15 It'd just be an oversight. That would be, would it be an oversight? Yeah, oversight in the next, like a bad way, right? Like, that's, they should have done that. It should have been something that was ruled out to say, okay, just, we're just canceling the same way you cancel out detectives prints and, crime scene texts that are on scene, you do that to say, hey, we know for certain that this print doesn't belong to anybody else that we've already talked to.
Starting point is 00:21:36 Yeah. So, no, that'd be an oversight. I would want to know how they got that print because I don't think she has a previous criminal history. So. Well, she didn't, right? Because they said, well, they wanted the system. Right.
Starting point is 00:21:47 She wasn't in Aphus. So I don't know how they would have gotten them. Here's what I'm thinking. Because she was the quote unquote victim of all this stalking. So remember, the fire was set at her house. And I wonder if they came in like arson investigators and fingerprinted the house to see who set the fire. And then obviously they have to take Liz's fingerprints to exclude her fingerprints because she lives there. So maybe that's how they got the fingerprints.
Starting point is 00:22:13 Yeah, exactly. The exclusionary prints just have her come in and say, hey, you know, we just were doing the crime scene stuff. And we just got to have your prints on file so we can say, yeah, it's definitely this isn't a suspect print because that belongs to Liz. No, but I don't think they did that like surreptitiously. like we're going to get her fingerprints so we can compare them. I think that was already done as part of the arson investigation because it would have had to have been. It's a criminal case. How would they know if they had an unidentified print that they didn't ask her about or didn't get a comparison print too?
Starting point is 00:22:40 No, so listen, the fire getting set at Liz's house and then the Avis and Doty checking the fingerprints are two separate things. So the fire gets set at the house. And Liz is saying, Carrie set this fire, right? So they have to go in and fingerprint it anyways. Like even the insurance company will have to. So you're saying they got those prints. So they already had those prints. And then they had to say, Liz, we need your fingerprints because we have to exclude whatever
Starting point is 00:23:04 fingerprints are yours so we can figure out which ones aren't yours. So we can see who was in your house. So they already had her fingerprints on file. So now Doty and Avis are able to pull those and check them. Yeah, I mean, if that's what happened, that's, again, why wasn't that done initially? Why wasn't it done initially? Right. Or as soon as they had Liz's fingerprints, why wouldn't somebody be like, hey, let's check
Starting point is 00:23:25 against the random fingerprint that, you know what I mean? So that's interesting. But we now have the match of Liz's fingerprints in Cary's Ford Explorer, the only fingerprint there on a random mint thing that nobody. And someone she does not have a prior relationship with, no excuse for her fingerprint being inside that vehicle. Somebody who claims they're being harassed by her. So what the hell were you doing in her car?
Starting point is 00:23:47 Right. So it still wasn't enough for charges, though. Okay. And so Avis and Doty, they kept investigating and they learned everything they could about Liz and her background. And this is when the story starts to unravel. This is when the real darkness rears its head. So Shana Elizabeth Goiler was born on June 28, 1975 in Kalamazoo, Michigan, to her mother, Dee, and father, Al. Around a year later, after her birth, Dee and Al welcomed a son named George, but things were not good at home. Al was abusive, and by early 1978, things had
Starting point is 00:24:20 gotten bad enough that Liz and George were removed from the home. Then just, just a little bit of a few months later, tragedy struck again when Liz's mother, D, was hit by a car and killed by the driver. So this was especially heartbreaking because she had just broken off things with her abusive husband, Al, and she was in the process of getting her kids back. In fact, at the time she was killed, Dee had been walking to a laundromat to wash their bedding because she was going to be having her children live with her again. It's very sad, actually. Now, following their mother's death, Liz and George entered foster care. And Liz later alleged that she was abused in at least one of the homes she was placed in. Eventually, when Liz was around four or five years old, she ended up with a family in Battle Creek, Michigan, where she would end up staying.
Starting point is 00:25:08 And not much is known about the rest of Liz's childhood. What we do know is that when Liz was barely 20 years old, she married her first husband. They did not have children, and they divorced within two years. By that point, it was 1997 and Liz was 22 years old and working at a plastic factory. She soon began dating a fellow co-worker named Ray. Now, things were fine with Ray for a short time, but Ray quickly realized that Liz was unreasonably jealous about female co-workers. For example, one time Ray had an innocent conversation with a woman at work and Liz snapped
Starting point is 00:25:44 at him, asking, quote, what did that bitch want? end quote. This is something every man that Liz dated would later report that she was incredibly jealous. But Ray really liked Liz and by that point they'd already been living together so it felt easier to just keep going with the relationship. Less than a year into dating, Liz got pregnant and Ray bought a house for them to raise their family in. He expected Liz to be happy because he was settling down with her. They were having children. They were having a home they could build this family But Liz wasn't happy. So instead of moving into the new place with Ray,
Starting point is 00:26:18 Liz moved into the home of a man named Neil. And she said Neil was just a roommate, but Ray didn't believe that, which is kind of crazy because it's very hypocritical for Liz to be mad that Ray's talking to a female co-worker. But then she's like, I'm pregnant with your child and you bought a house for us to live in together. But I'm going to live with my roommate Neil.
Starting point is 00:26:38 Yeah. Talk about a double standard. Right. So obviously, after the move, Things became complicated. Sometimes Liz would stay with Ray, her boyfriend. Sometimes she stayed with Neil, her quote unquote roommate. Roommate.
Starting point is 00:26:53 The roommate. The roommate. The one they told you not to worry about. Well, yeah. She's like, well, it's always the most, the extremely jealous ones who are also kind of doing something, right? They say that. Why are they extremely jealous?
Starting point is 00:27:04 It's projection. Yeah, it's projections. Because they know what they're doing. Yeah. Exactly. They know the ins and outs. They know how easy it is for them to lie to someone's face. and to cheat.
Starting point is 00:27:15 And so when they see their partner being around people of the opposite sex, it's like, oh, well, I know what you're doing because I'm doing it. Not always. I will say, to be fair, and I want to be fair. Not always. Sometimes when someone's been with someone who lied and cheated and, you know, they got gaslit for it with for years. And then they found out that everything they thought was true was true.
Starting point is 00:27:36 That can cause some like. Yeah. There could be some scar tissue there. But I think, I think more times than not, if you. are, you almost should be a little naive to these ins and outs because you haven't experienced it, but when you're very familiar with it, I do think there's something to be said for thinking everyone's like you. Oh yeah.
Starting point is 00:27:56 That's a human condition, actually. Yeah. Yeah. Thinking everyone thinks the same as you and, yes. Exactly. So, so sometimes Liz is with Ray, her boyfriend, who she's having a baby with. And sometimes she's with her quote unquote roommate Neil and other times she would stay at a woman's shelter.
Starting point is 00:28:11 So at one point, Ray started wondering, is this baby even mine? You know, but when their son Cody was born, those doubts quickly disappeared because Cody looked exactly like Ray. So Ray was like, all right, this is fine. It's mine. It's got to be mine. I mean, unless maybe Neil looked like Ray. No, it's just like, right?
Starting point is 00:28:32 And she has a type. You know, it's like, oh, Cody's got brown hair and brown eyes just like me, Ray. But Neil also has brown hair and brown eyes. So, you know, it's a baby. baby. They're babies. We don't really know. But Ray loved Cody instantly and wanted to be around him as much as possible, but Liz kept him from the baby who by that point, she was clearly raising with a roommate Neil. It was obvious that Neil and Liz were dating and over the next few months, Ray only got to see Cody a handful of times. And instead of letting Ray help raise his son, Liz had other people
Starting point is 00:29:05 caring for Cody who was collicky. Cody was collicky and, you know, cried a lot and, you know, it's a hard thing to deal with a baby like that. And probably Cody, as a collicky baby, would want to be with his mother or father. But Liz was like, no, I'm going to make sure that Ray doesn't get to see his child as often as he would like. And Liz also had other people paying her bills, too. And this would soon become another theme with Liz. She always seemed to have someone doing something for her.
Starting point is 00:29:33 She always seemed to have more than one man in her life. Sadly, in January of 1999, tragedy struck when Cody died. And he was just five months old. His cause of death was ruled shaken baby syndrome. And Liz's boyfriend, Neil, was arrested. At that time, though, many people questioned whether Neil was actually responsible. They didn't think he was capable of killing Cody. He had helped care for babies in the past, including his own,
Starting point is 00:30:00 and people who knew him described him as very caring. And because of that, some believed it was much more likely that Liz herself was responsible. Considering the context of what we're talking about here and what it appear she's capable of, I think, I think those assumptions are valid. I don't know. That's rough. That's hard. Why did they blame Neil?
Starting point is 00:30:20 There had to have been some evidence. I don't know what the context was behind that case, but I would imagine in many circumstances when you have a woman there with a boyfriend who's not the father of the child, more than likely it's going to be the step-parent who has the capacity to kill that child because it's not their own. And you look at Liz, and I'm sure she's a good actor. We know she's a good actor. She puts on a front where maybe she did it, put the baby back in the crib, and now Neil doesn't have an alibi.
Starting point is 00:30:50 He doesn't have an excuse. So maybe she made Neil believe he had done it, right? Maybe. We know she's manipulative. Or maybe he did. I don't know. But, you know, we all believe, I mean, it's not a secret by this point. We believe that Liz murdered Carrie.
Starting point is 00:31:04 Yes, we do it. So she's clearly capable of taking life. Yes. And she's also seems to be kind of selfish, right? 100%. And maybe this baby to her, Cody, was quote unquote, a nuisance in her mind. He was colicky. You know how hard a colicky baby is to, yeah.
Starting point is 00:31:21 She wanted to be free, a la Casey Anthony wants to be free, wants to be able to go out and do what she wants. And there's something standing in her way, her child. So, I mean, we know how nice she is to her own children that she had when she, you know, was finally trying to capture Dave and she's sending him messages like, look at these ugly children. Even you were like, whoa, I can never, you know, even in that scenario. No, no, it's like that's bad karma. Yeah, that's not good.
Starting point is 00:31:48 So, yeah, I agree. There's something going on there. And this was not just a theory that people were like, you know, whispering on the outskirts. The theory that Liz was responsible for her child, Cody's death, it even came up during trial when Neil's attorneys argued that Liz was the one who had killed Cody. Oh, surprise, surprise. And then Liz testified and read a series of letters. She claimed Neil had written to her from prison. The letters were well written, and they talked about how much Neil loved her.
Starting point is 00:32:18 And they also asked Liz if she would take the blame for Neil so he wouldn't have to go to jail for Cody's death. But the problem with Liz's testimony was that Neil had a learning disability. And according to his family, he was incapable of writing such long, eloquent letters. they did not believe the letters were real. And once again, given what we know about Liz and her seemingly like very, you know, quick penchant to impersonate people and write messages from people who she is not, you know, to pretending to be other people. And she appears to be a pathological liar. To get what she wants. Yes.
Starting point is 00:32:56 That's pretty likely. I would say that's definitely likely those letters were not. Not too much of a stretch here. Yeah. Those letters were not from Neil. So Neil's family and the people who knew him, they were like, no, we don't think Neil wrote those letters. Just like Carrie's family was like, she's not writing those messages. But the jury believed that Neil had written the letters.
Starting point is 00:33:14 And in the end, Neil was convicted and spent nearly 10 years in prison. And to this day, multiple people, including Neil's family and Cody's father Ray, and Cody's father Ray, believe that Liz was actually the one responsible for Cody's death. And well, now they know about all this other stuff, too. And that's pretty damning, I think, because Ray has. a motive or a reason, it would be understandable for him to be mad at Neil and not like Neil, not even if it's logical, just like this is another man. And my girlfriend, who was carrying my baby, was living with him. And they were definitely dating and something was going on.
Starting point is 00:33:48 And then this man was raising my child. And this man was in, you know, the vicinity when my child was killed. And if I'd been there, like I should have been, this wouldn't have happened. So he has a reason to really not like Neil. But he's defending Neil here. And he's like, yeah, Neil didn't do that. It was Liz. So that's interesting.
Starting point is 00:34:06 Yeah, I think my money is on Liz. Yeah. I mean, if you had to, if you asked me, like you got to say, do you think it was Neil or Liz? I'm going to say Liz. I see, I say Liz. I think he was collicky. I think he was a tougher baby to handle.
Starting point is 00:34:21 She wanted to be out there doing her own thing. She probably got sick of Neil, just like she got sick of everybody else. She got sick of Ray and, yeah. Yep. And I think at some point. Seems like she gets sick of the men who want to be with her, right? Right. Right. Yeah, exactly. They got to play hard to get. But once frustrations rose and she got angry, I think something happened. And I don't think she was that upset about it.
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Starting point is 00:36:54 One more time, that's 15% off at OneSkin.com with code Crime Weekly. And after you purchase, they'll ask where you heard about them. Please support our show. and let them know we sent you. So not long after Neil went to prison, Liz moved to Nebraska and had another child, this time a daughter. Now, very little is known about who the girl's father was. What we do know is that when the daughter was around two years old, Liz started dating a man named
Starting point is 00:37:24 Dirk. Not long after they got together, Liz got pregnant again. So Dirk later told author Leslie Ruhl that he didn't particularly like Liz because she was extremely jealous, but he wanted to stay together for the sake of the baby. Okay, so here's, let me break this down. Liz moves to Nebraska. She's pregnant again. We don't. I need a Venn diagram for this. We don't really know who the father of this daughter was. Then she dates Dirk, gets pregnant again by Dirk. So now, technically, over the course of just a few years, she has dated Ray Neal, and then Cody was allegedly Ray's son, but she was also dating Neil. And now she's,
Starting point is 00:38:04 She gets pregnant by someone else. And then she's not dating that person anymore. She's dating Dirk. And then she gets pregnant by Dirk. So it almost kind of feels like maybe does Liz feel like the way to trap these men or get them connected to her is by having a child with them? Absolutely. Yeah. 100%.
Starting point is 00:38:23 Either that or she just doesn't believe in contraception. That's also an option as well. Like maybe, I mean, maybe she's just out there and she's just like, oh, I'll, you know, we're all adults here. She's just maybe a really bad at the pullout method. I don't know. I don't know, man, because back in the day before there was contraception, you know, there would be women knew. They were like, hey, I can't have 55 kids, you know, like we can't afford it.
Starting point is 00:38:46 It's the Great Depression, whatever. Like, they knew how to make sure that those things wouldn't happen. And they were certain methods. Like, if you don't want to get pregnant, there's a thing called birth control. And condoms and things like that. But there's also other things you can do, right? there's other things you can do. Last time I checked it worked pretty good.
Starting point is 00:39:06 And yes, accidents happen, but this doesn't seem like accidents. No, exactly. So I don't. It's like 90. What success rate for birth control? Like 97% or something like that? I don't know. Like if you have to be taken it correctly and stuff. But not even that like there's the morning after pill and things like that.
Starting point is 00:39:22 So I know I feel like there's going to be, of course, people who are like yelling at me and mad because I say you don't get pregnant. I don't mean people don't get pregnant if they don't want to. I mean that they don't get pregnant this often if they don't want to in this short amount of time. If you get pregnant once and it's an accident, you probably learn from that and take more precautions in the future. It doesn't seem like that's the case here. This is three pregnancies in the course of a few years. And real quick, just because I don't want to be confused here, it was Ray, then Neil, then there was another person. And then Dirk.
Starting point is 00:39:55 And she got pregnant by him. She got pregnant by other dude. Got rid of other dude. And then he got rid of other dude and then gets pregnant again. with Dirk. Got it. Got it. So that's what I'm saying.
Starting point is 00:40:06 Just a few handful of years, lots of pregnancies happening. Okay. But I'm sure somebody will still be mad at me. So, but remember, Dirk told author Leslie Ruhl, I didn't really like Liz. You know, she was very jealous, but I wanted to stay together for the sake of the baby. And isn't that kind of what Ray said to? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:40:25 So as you would expect, after their son was born, things did not improve. Dirk stayed for as long as he could. but after around two years, he couldn't take it anymore. He moved out. A few weeks later, Dirk met someone named Melissa, and they started dating. Almost immediately, Liz started showing up unexpectedly at Dirk's place. She also sent threatening messages, keyed Melissa's car, and did whatever she could to interrupt their relationship. Okay, so we've seen the story before.
Starting point is 00:40:52 But it kind of stops at the showing up unexpectedly at Dirk's place. We saw Liz show up unexpectedly at Dave's place when Dave was with Carrie. but there was really, you know, and then after this, Carrie got some, you know, had some spray painting happening on her car, but she didn't really think anything of it. But it looks like with Liz and Carrie, Liz was almost like, okay, I'm not going to do all this stuff as me because that didn't work out for me last time with Dirk. I'm going to do it as Carrie. And maybe she does something similar with Melissa because as time passed, things escalated into full-blown stalking. Liz enrolled in the same college program that Melissa was in, and she got hair extensions, so her hair looked more like Melissa's. She also bought a Mitsubishi, just like Melissa drove, and took it to the same auto shop Melissa used and told employees her name was Melissa.
Starting point is 00:41:44 It was like Liz was trying to become Melissa. Dirk and the real Melissa were freaked out, but undeterred. They continued dating and eventually got married and had a baby. But even that didn't stop Liz. She continued stalking Melissa for years, escalating to the point. point of taking out a loan in Melissa's name. And eventually, out of nowhere, Liz stopped stalking Melissa. And it's unclear why.
Starting point is 00:42:06 But if I had to guess, it's because she shifted her focus to someone else. But here's what I'm interested in. Was there police reports filed when Liz is stalking Melissa and doing all of this? Because this is pretty extreme, you know, like going in the same college program, taking out a loan in her name? At that point, you've reached criminal activity. were their police reports filed? If there had been, you would hope, now here's the thing, even if there had been reports, if it's not something that rises to a level of a criminal matter where they take it to trial,
Starting point is 00:42:39 she's not found guilty of anything. More than likely these files, these reports would be in this internal database. And unfortunately, and I don't even know the answer to solving this, but. Because it wouldn't be the same city. Yeah. So I'll just give an example where I'm from. So we're talking about Providence, Rhode Island. But if you are in Newport, Rhode Island, which is a different police department, we don't have the connection to their internal databases.
Starting point is 00:43:04 So even if there's a ton of history where if I searched her name at the time and it's in that other database, it would not flag on my end. The only way to get that information would be to literally call around to every municipality in your state, if it even happened in your state. And that's like it's impossible to do that. It's impossible to just, hey, do you have any record for Stephanie Harlow? And then knowing that you could check every municipality. But if she did something over in Connecticut or Massachusetts, you have to do those municipalities in those states as well. And there's nothing that connects these, right?
Starting point is 00:43:41 Unfortunately not. Should there be? Like with where we are, 2026 and AI and like all of that. Like it can be done. There's reasons it isn't, right? So there's a lot to it. And some of it is privacy, right? Like, well, some of its logistics, right?
Starting point is 00:43:56 Like different departments use different systems. Like Central Falls uses IMC. I know that Providence uses, I believe, Guardian. Like there's all these different brands. It's almost like Google Drive, right? But the other issue is those databases will also contain files that aren't, that shouldn't be shared publicly. So you could have juvenile cases, cases involving women who don't want their information
Starting point is 00:44:19 out there. And if you have someone who's nosy in another department, they would have access to that information. So there are certain reasons for it because it's really hard to track who's going into your databases. But I agree with you. I wish there was a way to quickly identify if someone else has had contact with other jurisdictions. Because as of right now, only if it gets to the level of NCIC, right, which is our national crimes database where if they've been arrested or there's a restraining order, would you have the ability to search that? this helps with your pattern recognition, right? So if what was happening with Liz was happening with Liz and what was happening with Carrie was happening with Carrie and the police had looked
Starting point is 00:44:57 into Liz and they were like, oh, hey, she stalked an ex-boyfriend. And then she took over his new girlfriend's identity and did this and it's like, this is the same thing that's happening that Carrie is doing, but nobody's heard from Carrie. You know, this would have made this a lot quicker and easier. So it feels like with technology the way it is today, like there should be some way to put a bridge between these local police. Departments. I will say when I was leaving in 2017, other departments that had the same program, IMC, there was something where you could put it in a different search where you could see the reference number and call them. And then be like, hey, I got this happening. Is anything similar
Starting point is 00:45:42 like that in your database? Oh, it's even like if I have you come into my station and I type your name in for a report. When I type your name in for a report, it would say to me, hey, Newport Police Department has had an interaction with Stephanie. Here's the case number. If I wanted to look into it, I could call over there and say, hey, Detective Levasse, can you pull up this case number for me? I'm working with Mrs. Harlow, and I want to see if there's anything there that I should be aware of. So there was something in 2017, but again, being on different systems, it's hard to connect everyone. Yeah. I mean, For things like this, I understand privacy reasons and all the other things you gave. But for things like this, it would have made things a lot easier, right?
Starting point is 00:46:23 Well, let's be honest. I don't want to go off on a tangent here, but you have cops that aren't doing the right things, right? You have some stalker cops. Yeah, we're going to talk about one of them in a second, yeah. Okay. So, and I don't even, I haven't even read the script, but there's stalker cops out there where they got a girlfriend in another municipality and they're running, they're checking her name
Starting point is 00:46:39 to make sure she's not out with anybody or having interactions with someone. True. Yeah. So that's like the other issue for this, too. like not all cops are good and they're using these systems for bad reasons. So it's a lot. It's a lot. Well, this is kind of where we talk about like Liz stops stalking Melissa.
Starting point is 00:46:57 We don't know why, but we do know in the fall of 2010, Liz was in her mid-30s and dating Todd Butterbow. And we know that name because he worked in the IT department for the sheriff's office. And Liz told Todd that men had mistreated her and used. her in the past, so she had become disillusioned with relationships. And Todd was like, not me, not me, Liz. Poor baby. I got you. I am the exception, not the rule. I will never hurt you. He said he would be different. And as far as he knew, they then started an exclusive monogamous relationship. He had no idea that Liz was seeing other men at the same time and would continue
Starting point is 00:47:38 doing so throughout the entirety of their relationship. And like she had with other men before him, Liz quickly showed Todd her jealousy and her insecurities. But because she said she'd been mistreated in the past, Todd tried to be understanding and he brushed a lot of it off. Todd felt so bad for Liz that he often paid her bills and watched her kids a night while she said she was working her house cleaning business. Oh, man. Todd. Todd, you're getting played, bud.
Starting point is 00:48:06 Kind of feel bad for Todd. Todd. Oh, man. She's like, I'm going to go clean some houses. Yeah, she's cleaning something. Why you need Todd to pay your bills if you have your own business? Geez, Louise. Hey, maybe she was cleaning houses, but the houses of the other guy she was dating.
Starting point is 00:48:25 I'm sure she was cleaning houses. I'm sure she had a French made outfit and everything. Oh, man. That's why Dave liked Liz so much. She was the best house cleaner there ever was. So Todd Butterbow and Liz, they never moved in together, though, at least not during this time frame. Then in the summer of 2012, Liz met Dave Krupa on a dating website and she started seeing him too. And then you got to look at like Todd Butterbow, right?
Starting point is 00:48:51 He works in IT for a sheriff's department. And he's like just so trusting. And he's not using his IT skills to check on Liz and see if she's on dating sites. He just blindly believes her. Like you should be able to do in a relationship. I feel bad for him. So obviously Liz kept this relationship a secret from Todd Butterbow while at the same time pressuring Dave to date her exclusively, but Dave and Todd were not the only men in the picture.
Starting point is 00:49:16 Liz was dating multiple men at once, and during that same time period, she also spent months catfishing a woman online while pretending to be a man. She is out of her mind. Liz was so convincing that she led this woman to believe she was in a committed, loving relationship and even convinced the woman to send nude photos to Liz, who she thought was like her male boyfriend. And this is just another example of how manipulative Liz could be. And also like just messing with people for the fun of it kind of seems like, right?
Starting point is 00:49:51 Yeah. You know, like, did you want Dave to be exclusive with you? Or was it a game you were playing to see if you could make someone who didn't want to be in a committed relationship, be in a committed relationship with you only for you to be like, psych, I'm dating like 12 other guys? Like, what's the thing here? What's the motive? Why would you catfish a woman online and make her think you were a man that was in love with her? Well, she's a sick individual.
Starting point is 00:50:16 It seems like she gets a kick out of it, right? Yeah, no, there's a gratification there that is not normal. There's some enjoyment in this. I think like the anxiety that comes with it, like the, oh, I could get caught type thing. She probably embraces it. I don't know. I'll also say, and I'm quick to judge the appearance. of men. I'm a little bit more cautious with women, but I just got to say, I was looking up Liz
Starting point is 00:50:43 a little while ago while you were talking and I'm, I'm not seeing it. I'll just say that. I'm not seeing why all these men are like so apt to to sleep with her and have kids with her. I'm not seeing it. You guys can be the judge for yourself when you look it up, but not my, not my type. That's for sure. Just saying. I see your face. You're like cringing. No, I just, I don't know. I don't know how to like, I don't know how to say. this without making everyone sound bad. But remember the guy who was in our comment section and he was like, men will take sex and then if they didn't, you know, the weirdo, I was like, you're a weirdo dude. Yes.
Starting point is 00:51:21 There's a lot of men like that where like it doesn't matter. It really doesn't matter. That's fair. They're so sexually driven. They're so lustful. It doesn't matter to them. Like there's no discernment. And I don't, I'm not, I'm not trying to talk negatively about men. And I'm sure. get uncomfortable in my chair. I'm like, I feel like I got a... You're like, I have discernment. I have to like defend this somehow.
Starting point is 00:51:43 I'm not trying to speak badly about men, but like once again, and we talked about this, I think in episode one of this case, for women I like to believe, at least for me, like there has to be more than like a physical attraction. There has to be some sort of like, I'm safe with you. We vibe on like a different level. Like there is a relationship here where I feel like we are. where there's multiple things connecting us for the sex to be good, right? Otherwise, it's just like random sex.
Starting point is 00:52:13 But men don't care. Random sex is fine for men, a lot of men, not or some men, allegedly. Some men, allegedly. I'm not trying to speak in generalities, but yeah, they don't care. Liz was down for anything, all right? Here's my gripe. There may be people I know of who have had random encounters with a woman, and the sex is good, so you'll keep doing it.
Starting point is 00:52:35 But as soon as there's a problem, it's not worth it anymore. It's like, okay, you know what? Not that good. Where with Liz, once these behaviors started showing themselves, I would think that at that point, you'd be like, you know what, I'm going to step away. I wasn't that attracted. I wasn't that into it anyways. I don't know why they kept coming back, including Dave.
Starting point is 00:52:55 I don't know why they kept coming back. Maybe. She was putting it out there. So it was just that good? These freaking men, they can't say no when it's right there. They don't even have to work for it. Men used to be hunters where it was like the whole, you know, like motivation and the feeling of success afterwards was like, I went out and I got something like a good game that was worth getting and it was challenging. And now these men, they want princess treatment.
Starting point is 00:53:21 They just want everything served up to them on a platter. And it doesn't matter if it's a steak being served to them on a platter or some like McDonald's chicken nuggets that we don't even know are real meat, to be honest. Liz being a chicken nugget, not even a real chicken nugget. Not even a Chick-fil-A chicken nugget. No, Liz is a McDonald's chicken nugget. You don't really know where it comes from, but you're hungry, so why the hell not? You know, why would I want to cook something and go out and pick some vegetables and hunt a boar when I can just eat these fake chicken nuggets that are presented to me and appear suddenly in front of me? Oh, no.
Starting point is 00:53:56 And listen, I don't like to talk badly about people in general, but if social media has taught me anything, men these days, man, they just don't care. Oh, the girl was hot so they put up with it. But like, I don't know. That's all saying about it. Maybe in a relationship way.
Starting point is 00:54:13 Yeah. But these men don't want her for a relationship, you know, but when they come over to her house and she's jumping on them and they're like, well, it's here. The chicken nuggets here. And I am kind of hungry.
Starting point is 00:54:28 I mean, I just ate, but I could eat again. This is why, men are too driven by sex and lust now. And it's a problem. It's a problem. Okay? I don't respect it. I don't respect it.
Starting point is 00:54:43 Anyways, yeah, this is, you know, Liz is manipulative, but men, a lot of men, are easy. Amen. You see men, and you see this into the celebrity world. These men, Jude Law and Sienna Miller is the perfect example. Jude Law had no business ever being with Sienna Miller. She's a goddess. And he cheats on her anyways. He cheats on her anyways with the nanny.
Starting point is 00:55:07 Okay? They just want their egos to be fed. They just want to know that somebody wants what's between their legs. And it makes them feel good about themselves because they don't have self-esteem and they don't have confidence. And it's gross. And it's not. Your Honor, I object. It's gross.
Starting point is 00:55:23 I object, Your Honor. It has nothing to do with the woman. It has to do with how they feel about themselves. Two percent of the men watching the show. I'm here for you guys. Look at Jude Law now, okay? You could have still been with Sienna Miller, who is still a goddess, but you messed up because you... I'm sure Jude's done all right.
Starting point is 00:55:40 If you say so, if you say... Jude's a good-looking guy. Jude Law now? Listen. Listen, Jude Law in the day, he could get it. It's called aging, Stephanie. We all do it. But he didn't age well.
Starting point is 00:55:54 Now Henry Cavill aged well. Jude Law is a lot older than Henry Cavill. We're getting off the... Jude Law's hairline ran. away with his marriage. I mean, listen, it happens. It happens. Well, I don't like, I don't like, I don't, I don't, I don't respect it. So, yeah, it's like when men cheat on their beautiful, gorgeous goddess wives with women who is just like they're throwing themselves at them and they're just like there. It's like, what are you doing? But, you know, that's, that's what men do. It's a man thing. And I'm not saying, we're talking about Liz. I'm not saying it's just a man thing. I'm, I'm sure someone, how this came. I'm sure some women do it too. I'm sorry. It is mostly a self-esteem confidence issue, but men are more driven by. And I'm not. We're not saying. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm sex, I think. Liz is the bad guy here. Liz is definitely the bad guy here.
Starting point is 00:56:36 Okay. I'm sorry, don't get it twisted. Liz is definitely the bad guy. Okay. Let's making sure. So we know that Liz is out here manipulating men, catfishing and manipulating women. She's just doing it for the thrill of it. But Liz's behavior would only escalate when Dave started dating Carrie Farver in late
Starting point is 00:56:52 October of 2012. And just like she had done with Dirk and Melissa years earlier, Liz did whatever she could to interfere with Dave and Carrie's relationship. She called Dave incessantly while he was on dates, showed up at his apartment, demanding her things, vandalized Carrie's car. And two weeks into Carrie and Dave seeing each other, Carrie started staying with Dave for her work project. Now, detectives Doty and Davis believed that was the fact that kind of pushed Liz to the breaking point, right? Because in their minds, stalking and harassing Carrie, the way she had other victims was no longer enough. because now it seems like Dave is committing to Carrie in a way that he never wanted to do with Liz.
Starting point is 00:57:32 And the detectives believed Liz decided she had to get rid of Carrie. And that's exactly what happened on the morning of November 13th. Then Liz had to cover up the murder. And so she began impersonating and stalking Carrie. So we've talked about a lot here. We've had some good stimulating conversations that will probably get one or both of us canceled. I feel like I get undressed for a minute there. Jesus. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I have opinions.
Starting point is 00:57:57 Clearly. Let's take a quick break. We'll breathe. You can resettle in your seat. We'll be right back. Yeah, get comfortable again. Okay, we're back. So using her Carrie impersonation, Liz contacted multiple people in Carrie's life. We know this, including Carrie's mom, Nancy, Carrie's son, Max, and of course, Dave. And for around six weeks, though, Liz did not use the impersonation to contact anyone in her own life, like in Liz's life. but that changed on January 1st, 2013, when she decided to take things a step further, and she started texting and emailing her own boyfriend, Todd. Now, the messages claimed Carrie was one of Liz's friends and that Liz had given her Todd's
Starting point is 00:58:44 information in case she ever needed an emergency contact. And Todd thought the whole thing was strange and he asked Liz about it. And Liz told him that she and Carrie were friends and said it was completely fine for them to talk. Weird. Now, of course, Todd had no idea that Carrie was really Liz, and over the next nine days, the two exchanged more than 200 texts. Most of the messages from the Carrie profile were flirtatious and critical of Liz, saying things like she was a bad girlfriend and Todd deserved better. The whole situation was bizarre. But when Avis and Doty reviewed those conversations, they believed Liz had a plan.
Starting point is 00:59:22 In their minds, she was trying to get Todd emotionally invested in Carrie, so he would stop demanding so much attention from Liz, that way Liz could focus more of her time on Dave. This feels like hard work. Really? I agree that that's what she's trying to do. She's trying to basically get rid of him, putting him on Carrie. I was kind of trying to, like, maybe she's trying to see if Todd will like engage and will like talk crap about Liz and like flirt with Carrie.
Starting point is 00:59:50 I'm sure that's part of it. And if she did, then maybe Liz would want him more again. Yeah, right. You know, like, but I think that was part of it. I think it's like trying to put him on Carrie, also trying to fish to see if he talks shit about her. All of it. I think it's all encompassing. I mean, I guess he's paying her bills.
Starting point is 01:00:05 He's a sicko. Yeah, he's paying her bills and watching her kids so she could do her house cleaning jobs. And by the way, if he, if he quote unquote emotionally cheats on her with Carrie, now she has an argument to say, oh, you need to take care of me. You betrayed my trust. I gave you permission to talk to her and not flirt with her. Why would Todd flirt with Carrie if, if Liz told her Carrie was her friend? Like, why wouldn't he think he was being set up, I guess? I would definitely be like something ain't right here.
Starting point is 01:00:31 Yeah. Yeah, this is definitely a setup. So by this point, Liz needed as much free time as possible because stalking Dave and herself had essentially become a full-time job. She was sending dozens and dozens of text and emails every single day using various phone numbers and more than 40 email addresses. Digital Forensics Administrator Anthony Kava determined that some messages had been scheduled in advance through apps so Liz could be physically. with Dave while making it appear that both of them were receiving threatening messages from Carrie at the exact same time. Then there was everything else she had to keep up with vandalizing property at Dave's place and her own, showing up to jiggle doorknobs, throwing bricks through windows,
Starting point is 01:01:12 doing whatever she needed to do to make it seem like Carrie had shown up and caused problems. And this was a lot, and it wasn't really working the way Liz wanted. No matter what she did, Dave would not commit to being with her exclusively. He continued dating other women and maintaining an amicable relationship with his ex-Amy, all of which made Liz very angry because her methods weren't working. But once again, it's like, I know I'm trying to logically make sense of a person who's not being logical, but it doesn't seem like you really want committed relationships. And when you have them, they are a burden to you. So is this just a game? Is this a game to just once again, like see how many people you can collect who fall in love with you only so you can be the one
Starting point is 01:01:55 to be like, uh, you're too much, you know, like. I definitely think that's part of it. You know, you talked about men and like they're the same, you know, men can be the same way where it's just about like how many women can you sleep with, right? It's like an ego thing. So that could be something here too as well. It's not just specific to men. Women can do it as well.
Starting point is 01:02:16 I suppose. Yeah. I mean, they definitely can. but is, I don't know, but if you ever know. She's like collecting infinity stones here. Yeah. Have you ever known a man to do that much work? Because.
Starting point is 01:02:28 No, probably not this much work. But I do think there's something to be said where it's like. Men, I think they don't want you to be committed. Like, they don't want you to fall in love. So they're going to do the most to make sure that doesn't happen. But I'll also say in your defense or women's defense, there are men who are like, don't want you until you don't want them. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 01:02:44 And so it's like they just want it to be casual. But as soon as you start dating someone seriously, now they want you every day. Well, yeah, then when they have you, they're like, you're disposable. Yeah. So it does work. I don't think it's gender specific. This is weird to me.
Starting point is 01:03:00 This is weird to me. So during the first week of January, Liz escalated things, taking Carey's Ford Explorer and parking it at Dave's apartment complex. Now, it's unclear where it had been before that point. And I would be very interested to know. There's still so much about what Liz did that we don't know. It's unclear where she'd hidden carries forward. Explorer. But either way, we know she wiped it down to remove fingerprints, but we know she missed
Starting point is 01:03:24 that one spot, the mint container. So like we talked about earlier in the series, the Explorer was found on January 8th. And that same day, Liz and Dave went to the sheriff's office and let detectives download their phones. Now, this was back when the police still believed Carrie was the stalker and Liz was a victim, so they didn't do anything with that data, even though they should have, until detectives Avis and Doty took over. And when they were investigating, they learned that just one day after Liz had her phone downloaded, she went to lunch with Todd Butterbow. So during the conversation when she's at lunch with Todd, Liz mentioned for the first time that someone had been harassing and stalking her, but she didn't mention Carrie's name.
Starting point is 01:04:04 Because remember, as far as Todd knows, Carrie and Liz are friends. Okay? And he's talking to both of them. Now, despite having just told the sheriff's office one day earlier that Carrie was to blame for everything, Liz was not telling this to Todd. All Liz. told Todd was that the detectives were helping her and had downloaded her phone. Then she asked a question, what exactly could detectives get off her phone? And probably this was a question she should have asked Todd before she gave the police her phone and let them download the information off of it. But Todd obviously didn't think much of it because he's not really understanding the depth of what's happening. So he answered and he told Carrie and he told Liz what they could get off of her phone.
Starting point is 01:04:47 but not long after that lunch, the original detective on the case brought Todd in for an interview because they had found out he was talking to Carrie and they wanted to warn him about her. Oh, Jesus, this is, I understand now why this is three parts. This is, the fact that this hasn't been a Netflix documentary is crazy. It might have been. It was a book. I mean. Okay, well, that would make sense.
Starting point is 01:05:13 I know. They're like, they bring Todd and then they're not like Todd. Did you do anything? or, you know, did you do anything to Carrie? Or they're like, we got to warn you about this girl. And I wonder, like, did they ask him, how did you meet, you know, carry? And then he would have said, well, my girlfriend, Liz, you think that things are going to be put together at this point. But according to Todd, detectives told him at this time that his girlfriend, Liz, had been cheating on him with Dave Krupa.
Starting point is 01:05:42 So the detectives at this time knew that Liz was. was dating Todd and Todd was talking to Carrie and Liz was also dating Dave and they're still not thinking this is weird. Wouldn't you at this point think this is weird? I would like to think I would. Yeah, I'd like to hope that if I were the one working this case, I'd say something is off here. Yes. Like, hey, who's the person in common with all these people? Person in common with Dave, person in common with Carrie, person in common with Todd. It's Liz. Yeah, that's what I was saying earlier. We need like basically a Venn diagram because they all interoperated. sect and the crossover where they all meet in the middle is Liz.
Starting point is 01:06:20 So the police told Todd that Dave had briefly dated Carrie and then Carrie began stalking him and Liz. And that had gone on for weeks. So Dave and Liz came up with a plan to redirect Carrie's attention towards Todd so Carrie would fall for him and leave Dave and Liz alone. And that's why Carrie started reaching out to Todd and flirting with him. So now the police are like, sorry Todd. You're basically like, not only are you being lied to and betrayed, but the people who are lying to you and betraying you, not only are doing that, but they directed a stalker in your direction.
Starting point is 01:06:57 And that might be something, too, to this as well, where conversations were happening with Liz and Dave, where they were talking about, you know, working together to push Kerry onto Todd. And so it was something, again, Liz could bond with Dave over. Like, oh, look what we're doing. We're putting this crazy person on Todd, not telling Dave,
Starting point is 01:07:15 that, hey, I'm also sleeping with Todd and obviously not telling Todd, I'm sleeping with Kerry's boyfriend, Dave, who's, you know, Kerry's now longer here. Like, the web here is crazy. I agree. It's getting pretty, getting pretty tangled. Now, obviously, I want to be really clear. This is based on what Todd told Leslie Rule so that she could write this book. I want to say, take it with a grain of salt.
Starting point is 01:07:42 but something about the way the investigation was initially handled by the initial detectives, I kind of believe it. You know, I kind of believe it. There might be some creative liberties taken to make yourself look better. I think a human instinct is a lot to do that. And Todd might be looking at this after the fact going, I'm going to manipulate or maybe alter a couple things. Or maybe from his perspective,
Starting point is 01:08:07 he just felt like it was different. But I think that's understandable to have that reaction to want to protect. yourself and your name. And so, yeah, I would listen to what he had to say, but understand, I think it's important that you mention that, that that's the source of it. I think that's something that should be considered. Yeah, absolutely. But it's, you know, something to be considered. But also, this is crazy. And we know the original detectives didn't really do the best job. So it kind of just seemed like they thought Carrie was this crazy stalker. So that's the way they would approach it. I agree. Now, the original detectives could not have been more wrong about
Starting point is 01:08:39 what was really happening. But obviously, Todd didn't know that. At that point, point he was mostly upset that Liz, who he had been dating for more than two years, was cheating on him. That was kind of the main thing in his head. So he confronted Liz, and she immediately denied everything. She claimed detectives had been wrong, and she said she had dated Dave years earlier, but they were just friends now. And then she flipped things around on Todd and asked, like, how could you even believe something like that about me? You know, if you think I'm cheating on you, then you're just as crazy as Carrie, who she now claimed was her stalker, her friend. So it's like, you crazy people deserve each other. You should be together. You know,
Starting point is 01:09:16 like how could you even think that about me? Now, Todd chose to believe Liz, but as time went on, he started feeling like something wasn't right. And it didn't help that Liz was a pretty terrible girlfriend. She was cold towards him. She didn't seem to care much about him at all. Mostly Todd felt like he was there to help pay her bills and take care of her kids because that's what he was there for. And then as the summer of 2013 approached, Liz started telling Todd she was struggling financially and she might end up homeless. And Todd had already spent years helping to pick up the slack, but this time he did not immediately step in to help.
Starting point is 01:09:51 Good for you, buddy. Todd's all right, yeah. Good for you, Todd. I mean, it feels like as soon as he's like, for sure, you know, something's not right. Like, what are these house cleaning jobs you're going on? He was starting to listen to his instincts. Better late than never.
Starting point is 01:10:05 So without Todd's help, things got so bad that Liz ended up receiving a 30-day eviction notice. Around the same time, Dave was pulling away from Liz in a big way, so suddenly Liz became much warmer towards Todd. She smiled more, listened more closely when he talked, and was more affectionate that she had been in a long time. To Todd, it genuinely seemed like things between them were finally getting better. God, Todd, why? Now, because of that, because Todd thought that Liz was being nicer to him, he offered for Liz and the kids to move in with him. And Liz accepted, though she took her time, moving things out of the old house, knowing the eviction
Starting point is 01:10:40 process would likely drag on through August of 2013. So Liz is a con artist, essentially. She's a user and a con artist. Now almost immediately after getting what she wanted, Liz went right back to being cold towards Todd. She didn't move into his bedroom and instead stayed in the basement. She rarely spoke to him unless she needed something. And whenever Todd questioned the sudden shift and like her energy and her mood, Liz reassured him they were still exclusive. Meanwhile, Todd continued watching her kids at night while Liz supposedly worked her cleaning business, except detectives Avis and Doty believed she really wasn't working much at all. Instead, they believed Liz was spending time with Dave trying to convince him to be exclusive or
Starting point is 01:11:22 continuing her impersonation of Carrie. Yes, I don't think Liz was doing much house cleaning. I agree with the detectives. She didn't pick up a mop. No, no. Not once. She would probably like have cleaning jobs and she'd go in, which first of all, what cleaning jobs are you doing at night unless they're offices? Okay. Yeah?
Starting point is 01:11:39 Probably, okay. Yeah, that's a good point. If they are offices, she's probably going in sitting there not doing anything, just like, you know, bringing her laptop in so she can impersonate Carrie. And then the next day the businesses are like, hey, Liz, you know, were you here yesterday? Because you invoiced us, but it doesn't look like anything was clean. And she would gaslight them into believing that she had cleaned the office and that she'd be like, I'm really offended that you think I would charge you for something I didn't do.
Starting point is 01:12:02 Like, how could you believe that about me? Yeah. I do think that's an important point to make here. like we were talking about these quote unquote house cleaning visits and I'm sure a lot of them were to meet up with other men. But I also think it's important to mention that this was a full-time job, her doing all the stalking and planning everything. So she can't do that with Todd present. So there were probably times where she left to go quote unquote clean houses. But in reality, she's somewhere in a library or at a gas station somewhere on a laptop on her phone making all these moves.
Starting point is 01:12:34 Yes. Or, you know, she was scheduling messages. so that they would show up when she's not in on it. Dave's not in on it. So she has to do that when she's alone. And so she was probably using the public Wi-Fi to send a lot of this stuff. Oh, for sure. Or even, you know, when she was at her own house.
Starting point is 01:12:51 Because remember, she still was like taking her time. She could have been doing it at Todd's house because it doesn't sound like they were sharing a bed or really sharing a life at all, right? So she could have been doing a lot of that at night when she should have been in bed with her boyfriend. But she was, you know, in the basement, like a little troll because that's where internet that troll stay anyways, the basement. And that's what she was doing. So now we have detectives, Avis, and Doty starting to recognize and notice a pattern.
Starting point is 01:13:14 Whenever Dave pulled away again, Carrie would suddenly do something big, vandalized property, send threats, or create some new crisis. Then Dave and Liz would end up pulled back together because of their mutual fear and frustration surrounding Carrie. And so by mid-August of 2013, Dave's pulling away again. So this time, this is when Liz decides to go big. This is when she sets fire to her house. but remember, she's already moving out of her house because she's getting evicted.
Starting point is 01:13:39 So there's not like a ton of stuff on the line here besides the fact that she left her pets there, which I think she left her pets there to make it seem like it was serious. I think she intended, she could have moved her pets out and brought them to Todd's house by now. There's also a pot when we go back and we look at everything now, these pets in her mind may have been viewed as an inconvenience, right? maybe having to move these pets into Todd's house or anybody's house for that matter, maybe something that was a little bit of a barrier to entry in doing so. So because they were inconvenient, she decided to dispose of them. And when you think about that in relation to her history, it brings me back to Cody.
Starting point is 01:14:20 It brings me back to him being viewed in her eyes as an inconvenience and having to get rid of him. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, she doesn't. If you're not adding value to my life, you're disposable. She doesn't really seem like. If she's killing her kid, she's definitely willing to kill some pets. That was dark, Derek. That was dark.
Starting point is 01:14:41 But it makes sense. Yeah. If you're not contributing to what I want to do, I'm going to get rid of you. Well, like I said, she sets her house on fire, but it's not really her house because she's being evicted. And detectives believed that Liz had doused the home and gasoline set it on fire. And once again, to make herself look like the biggest victim possible, she'd didn't take her four pets out beforehand, right? Because, yeah, you'd look as an arson investigator and be like, you're already moving everything out.
Starting point is 01:15:06 You already moved everything important out. You know, was this like to get back because you were being evicted? Because then it might look like that. But to leave her dogs in there, most normal people are going to be like, who would do that to their own pets? Who would do that, exactly. Oof. All right. Now that it's got dark, let's take our last break.
Starting point is 01:15:21 We'll be right back. Okay, we're back. So after the fire, obviously Liz blamed everything on Carrie and called Dave. for comfort. She told Todd about the fire too. And with him, she played the victim, saying that her pets had died, her belongings were destroyed. Even her cleaning equipment had been ruined. So, well, she could no longer work because she can't be a cleaning lady. She can't be a fake cleaning lady with no equipment. And it gave Liz an excuse to continue relying on Todd financially and also more time to focus fully on her mission of getting Dave to be with her and only her. And she absolutely
Starting point is 01:16:02 took advantage of the time. Liz continued stalking Dave and herself through texts, emails, vandalism, and in-person incidents. Even after Dave moved to counsel bluffs, she kept it going. Now, around the same time that Dave moved, Avis and Doty began reopening Carrie's case and uncovered everything Liz had been doing. And Liz had absolutely no idea she was under the microscope, so she kept going right on with business as usual. But by the summer of 2015, Todd was done with the games and asked Liz to move out. She refused, saying she couldn't afford. afford it. They broke up, but Liz stayed anyway. Todd later said he let her stay because he was afraid of what she might do to his house if he forced her out. So Todd recognizes the red flags,
Starting point is 01:16:44 but now he feels almost like what trapped, basically. Like, what is she going to do? You know, she's not a stable person. He kind of sees this. Now, at the same time, Dave was getting fed up, too, more than usual. Liz was still incredibly jealous, especially when it came to Dave's amicable relationship with his ex-Amy. And things finally came to a head around Thanksgiving of 2015 when Dave helped take care of Amy's sick baby, which wasn't his baby. This was a baby with the person she was with after Dave. But he did this instead of spending time with Liz.
Starting point is 01:17:16 And after Liz freaked out on him, Dave told her it was over and this time he meant it. So a few days later, Dave came home and discovered someone had broken into his apartment and stolen his gun, his shotgun, which had been stored right next to the hand. gun had not been touched and nothing else was missing. So Dave reported the theft to police and counsel bluffs, but detectives Avis and Doty were with the Potwami County Sheriff's Office. So at this time, they had no idea the gun had been stolen. And see, this is what I'm talking about. Yeah, that communication system. That communication system. Yeah. Yeah, that's, that is a problem that still goes on to this day, where there could be something happening in neighboring towns or cities
Starting point is 01:17:54 and the other department not even know about it. Yeah, but would it have made sense for Avis and Doty, knowing that Dave had moved to Council Bluffs and he was kind of involved in all of this to notify the Council Bluffs police department and be like, hey, like keep it on the down low. But Dave and his girlfriend, Liz, are they kind of the focus of an investigation right now, we're keeping it under wraps. But if something goes down with Dave or Liz, or there's some stalking incidents or whatever, or he reports something to you, can you please give us a call? Possible. The concern there would be they appear, at least from what we've been reading, Doty and Avis appear to be keeping this under wraps. from everyone, as you had said earlier. They just don't trust anyone with it.
Starting point is 01:18:32 They don't want to get them out. They don't want Liz being tipped off. So is it possible that at this point, they didn't know if Dave was in on it as well? I'm sure at some point, I know if I was working it, I would be considering the fact that Dave was an accomplice in all of this, especially because they're quote unquote both being stalked. So my concern would be tipping off Dave, tipping off Liz by reporting something to this outside agency who I don't have a relationship with and maybe it getting back to him.
Starting point is 01:19:02 But I'm on board with you. It's like there's got to be something where we can have access to that system where we could put a flag out there that if this person's name pops up in your agency or their address pops up in your agency, I as a detective and a, you know, a neighboring agency will get a notification. Yeah. I mean, just to say, like, even if you don't know if Dave's involved technically, he's still involved in some way. So like if something happens or there's a new stalking incident that
Starting point is 01:19:32 Liz is trying to attribute to carry, it would happen now in Council Bluffs or Dave lives. So they'd want to know about that, right? Yeah. So here's the thing. And this has happened, right? The concern. And this is like super deep layer like not something you're going to see reported in the news. But I've had cases where I've been working with a neighboring agency, right? And it's in their internal databases. And overzealous or ambitious, patrolman gets access to that. And they show up to a call for a drug dealer's house that I was investigating and not realizing it. They say something stupid like, yeah, that's why narcotics in Central Falls are looking at you. We know what you're doing. Where's the drugs? So you're saying if
Starting point is 01:20:11 somebody says something stupid? Yeah, because they want to make the, they want to make the collar. They want to get the arrest. So now there's also a problem where I've had incidents where we flag a house in a neighboring city. And again, some patrolmen who are trying to make names for themselves will start monitoring that house and driving by more consistently than they usually do. And they actually tip off the guy that we're looking at. So it's a lot. I'm not saying it still shouldn't be done because there's risks with everything. Just looking at it from the outside, I agree with you.
Starting point is 01:20:40 Like there's got to be better communication. Yeah. And there should have been. But yeah, how that works, I don't know. With a gun, you know. Yeah. Yeah. Well, that would be reported.
Starting point is 01:20:49 That would be an NCIC, right? That would be in the system. But I'm with you. In a perfect world, we would develop a system. where everyone can talk with everybody and it'd be just this sharing of information that would kept in-house and nobody who wouldn't or shouldn't have access to it wouldn't, you know. But then you have the Todd, Todd's of the world who are in there and they're telling the girlfriend about things, you know, allegedly.
Starting point is 01:21:12 I got to say, like, I give Todd credit because he's like, hey, he knew that Liz had given her phone to be downloaded to his unit, basically. And then the police were like, she's been cheating on you. And Liz was like, no, I haven't. He could have technically gone and checked the downloaded data from her phone. He could have, but there might have been metadata showing he was in there and he knew that he would know that. Like he's been tampering with evidence. Yeah, but I mean, some men would have done that, not caring.
Starting point is 01:21:35 Absolutely. Yeah. No, there's a lot there. There's a lot of layers to it where we've already said a million times. Not everyone working for a police department is doing the right thing. And who are they talking to? Who are they communicating with? If you have a family member or a friend of someone you're targeting in another neighborhood, another jurisdiction, they could tip them off.
Starting point is 01:21:55 now they see that you're looking at Derek. Hey, Derek, listen, man, Central Falls PD is looking at you, man. You better, you better clean it up. Like, things like that happen all the time. Well, things took a major turn just days later because now, of course, we have a gun being stolen. And this was on December 4th when Liz showed up at the Potawatomi County Sheriff's Office saying she wanted to file harassment report against Amy. So this is Dave's ex who he has kids with. Yep.
Starting point is 01:22:22 So Detective Avis actually ran into Liz. while she was there. So he followed her out to the parking lot and told her he had been appointed to help with the case. Man, I love this guy. He's good. Yeah. He's good. Then he followed her home to take the report.
Starting point is 01:22:36 Now, by that point, Avis knew quite a bit about Liz's life, including the fact that she was living with Todd Butterbow. But when he asked who lived in the house, Liz said it was just her and her children. Later in the interview, he asked again. Oh, just setting her up. But got the same answer. Also, Liz is probably like, hey, I can add another person to my collection of boyfriends, a police detective would be great.
Starting point is 01:22:56 Oh, man. Yeah. I can't let him know I have a boyfriend. Yep. That could be part of it. Yeah. But I also think it's part because she doesn't want him to know she's got someone on the inside. Maybe or maybe she's like, I can't tell a guy that I might be flirting with that I have a boyfriend that I live with.
Starting point is 01:23:11 Yeah. Yeah. So as Detective Avis took the report, Liz told him that for years, she believed Carrie was the person stalking her, the one who vandalized property, sent threatening messages, broken to homes, committed arson, ruined lives. But now Liz said she had realized Carrie was not responsible and that it had to be Amy instead. And according to Liz, she came to this realization after Dave's gun was stolen, something that Detective Avis was hearing about for the first time. Liz said Amy had a key to Dave's place. So to her, it made more sense that Amy was the one who stole the gun.
Starting point is 01:23:42 And on top of that, she pointed out that Carrie and Dave had only dated for a few weeks. So in her mind, it no longer made sense that Carrie would still be obsessed over him years later. Amy, on the other hand, was the mother of Dave's children and had been in his life for years. But Liz, you said, you said it was Carrie, and she was sending you messages from her phone. So how did Amy get Carrie's phone? So later, Detective Ava said he was fascinated by how quickly Liz shifted blame after spending years accusing Carrie. But he didn't push back. He's playing good cop, right?
Starting point is 01:24:13 He played along. He acted as if he believed Amy could be responsible. And Liz told him that if detectives needed proof, Amy was harassing her, she could provide because her phone was full of threatening messages. Avis asked if he could download the phone. And to his surprise, Liz agreed. Brilliant. So he downloaded everything.
Starting point is 01:24:32 Before leaving, Avis told Liz he would talk to Amy about the harassment. He also gave her his number and told her to reach out if anything happened over the weekend. He was probably doing a little undercover flirting himself. Oh, I think he was too. He was like, you can call me for anything over the weekend off business hours. Yeah. I love it. I mean, he's playing good cop all right.
Starting point is 01:24:50 He's seen her pattern, right? Yeah, he knows what she, she knows what she likes. He knows what she's, what her whole, like, pattern and motivation is. That flirtation may have been the reason she gave him the phone. Like, hey, more reason to talk with you. He's like, if I see any pictures in there that I shouldn't, you know, I'll pretend I didn't. I'll look away. So the very next day, Liz texted Detective Avis additional messages.
Starting point is 01:25:16 She claimed her from Amy. And Avis responded, acknowledged her concerns, and reassured her that he would be speaking. speaking with Amy. Then just hours later, things took another dramatic turn. At 641 p.m., police were dispatched to Big Lake Park in Council Bluffs, Iowa, the same city where Dave lived. When officers arrived, they found Liz sitting on the ground near the driver's side of the only vehicle in the parking lot. She had been shot in the left thigh. Liz was asked who shot her. She said it was Amy. Oh my God.
Starting point is 01:25:49 Wow. Yeah, this is a sicko. You're calling your kids ugly, killing your own pets. Now you're shooting yourself? Holy shit. Man. And obviously, based on Liz's statements, because this isn't Padua Tommy Police Department, this is Council Bluffs.
Starting point is 01:26:07 So based on Liz's statement, Council Bluffs police went to Amy's house, believing they would be arresting an attempted murderer. but that and everything else that happened next, we'll have to wait for part four because we're not done yet. We're not done. I mean, I cannot believe by part four, we're ending with Liz on the ground, more than likely shot herself,
Starting point is 01:26:29 and now she switched gears and Amy is the offender. This is wild. Yep. Well, because Carrie's not technically around to be a threat anymore, right? Amy's the clear and present threat to Liz getting the love and commitment of a man that she doesn't even want love and commitment. commitment from. She just wants to say she could. This is crazy. I have five thoughts. I can't wait. Can't wait for part four. You were right. It's four parts. I want to end on a positive
Starting point is 01:26:54 note real quick. I'm not going to say their last names, but an act of kindness happened this week with one of our, our two of our fans who are also Patreon members. And I just wanted to shout them out because it's incredible. Stephanie and Christina reached out to me. They unfortunately have some issues going on in the family, some health issues, and they're going to be unable to make CrimeCon. We're currently at CrimeCon as you're probably seeing this. And instead of getting a refund, which they probably could have done, they gave the tickets away for free. I put it on my Instagram. They said, hey, we want two other people to experience this. Let me tell you, the passes are not cheap. So for them to do this, that's incredible. And I wanted to thank them and
Starting point is 01:27:34 give them a personal shout out in the episode. They did not ask for it, but they deserve it. And the Patreon community we're building is incredible. We thank everybody for being over there. We're in the discussion boards. We have ad-free episodes you can check out. We do the bonus episodes. We have our live that we do every single month with our Patreon members. In fact, we have one coming up, I think, Monday.
Starting point is 01:27:56 So we got that one coming up soon. And we just appreciate everybody over there. We love getting to interact with you guys. Shout out again to Christina and Stephanie for doing that. You didn't have to. And I was really proud of you to see that. I'm like, oh, that's awesome. Awesome. Yeah. So that's going to do it for us, guys. We're going to be back next week for part four.
Starting point is 01:28:15 Until then, everyone stay safe out there. We'll see you soon. Bye.

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