Daily Motivations - The Battle You Tell No One About

Episode Date: September 18, 2024

Visit joinmochi.com and use code MOTIVATIONS for $40 off your first month. The battle you tell no one about is a great concept about the lonely chapter. This Hopecore compilation dives deep into the mindset that nothing changes if nothing changes. It's time to embrace the power of doing it alone because in the end, no risk means no story. Whether you’re looking for the best motivational speech or the unshakable drive that defines a champion's mentality, this episode has it all. Get ready to be inspired by the words of David Goggins—one of the toughest voices in motivation. With a focus on resilience, determination, and relentless pursuit of greatness, this David Goggins motivational speech compilation will push you to your limits.

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contact Connex Ontario at 1-866-531-2600 to speak to an advisor free of charge. BetMGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with iGaming Ontario. The odds were stacked against me. I won anyway because I win. You won because you got lucky. Guys like you always think other people get lucky. I don't

get lucky. I make my own luck. And in this case, it's bleeding you dry. Everybody, when I was sleeping on the gym floor, right? Like, you know, I was the, I was the underdog and everyone, you know, my clients were all like, oh, good for you. You know, you're going after your dream. And they'd see my blanket and my pillow in the corner of the gym. And they knew I was sleeping there. And it was evident, you know, I, I, I lived there. I didn't have a shower. I didn't have a shower. I didn't

go to the YMCA to take a shower. Everybody was like pro me. And then people come in, they sign up like, I'm going to support you. Right. And then within nine months, I had hired people and I had a manager and I pulled up and I walked in the lobby and all the same, the same people were like, oh, boss man's here. Oh, you're not too good for us now, right? And I remember being so jarred by the experience and I was like, you guys rooted for me. And I was like, and now I did what you said you were rooting for me to do. And that was when I realized that people want you to do well but not better than them.

The one thing that made me who I am today is being vulnerable. It's breaking myself down to that absolute rock bottom and being able to tell people who I am. And that's how I fixed it. Literally, you know, life created this person, me. Life created me to be this person that I was back in the day. And I had to realize, man, that's okay, man. It's not my fault.

Now I can go back and fix this so a lot of this isn't your fault why you do some things you do why you feel the way you feel but no one's coming back to save your ass you have to go back to where this started wherever that place is for everybody and have the courage to go back there and start fixing what broke you I'd say one of the strongest mental frames that has gotten me through my hardest times is thinking this will be the story that I will one day tell. And that means the harder it is,

the bigger the dragon, the more epic the story, and by consequence, the more epic the hero. And if you think about the difference between winners and losers, winners define themselves by what they made happen and losers define themselves by what happened to them. And the difficult part of the lonely chapter is that the rocky cut scene lasts 90 seconds in the movie and lasts five years in reality. That's what's painful is that it takes more effort to start in the beginning and more people are

right about the fact they're like, Hey, you're not going to hit it big. And guess what? A month in you're not, but they're only measuring on months. And at six months, you're also not going to hit it big. And they're going to be like, I'm still right. And at a year, you're still not going to hit it big and they'll stilling right. And every day that you haven't hit it, they're going to feel like they were right. But they're wrong. Because they're measuring in days and you're measuring in decades.

Why do you do it? Why? Why get up? Why keep fighting? You must be able to see it, Mr. Andersonerson you must know it by now you can't win it's pointless to keep fighting why mr anderson why why do you persist because i choose to

the energy requires to start doing something is way more than the energy required to continue doing the thing and the beginning of doing anything results in the lowest amount of reward both internal and external than when you've been doing it for ages every single person who wants to do something with their life and has done something with their life has gone through the exact chapter that you're going through and it it's the lonely chapter. It's the chapter where you, you're, you don't fit in with your own friends, but you don't have the outcomes yet to fit into a new group of friends. And you're doing this thing, you're consuming content on the internet. You're, you're doing these free tutorials online to try and figure out how to set up a podcast. And what do I host this thing? And

then there, and, and you're going through this and you're like, am I, is this even worth it? Because you have no signs of success, right? But if there's anything that you can take away from what we're saying right now is that the sign of success is the hate that you get along the way. And what you can't do is bend the knee to their hate and fit back into the conformity because it's comfortable and it's warm. Because like in the Matrix, when Trinity opens the door when when neo's about to go take the red pill and he wants to get out of the car she says neo you've been down that road and you know exactly

where it leads and i know that's not where you want to be and then he closes the door like right now this moment that you're going through is trinity opening the door and being like you could go back but then you'd have to remember exactly what the reason was that you decided not to go out to begin with. Just because you listen to this podcast and you consume this constantly, you're like, I can do more than this. Like, because you are starting to live in some of that hell where you look in the mirror and you're like, I can do more. And you start to see the person that you could be. And you're like, this does start to feel like hell. But you know, happiness can be found even in the darkest of times.

If one only remembers to turn on the light. Throughout my life, I wanted to be accepted. Growing up, I lied, I fucked with what I could. Be my friend, be my buddy. That fucking weak ass shit. I found out through this path of life, who is David Goggins? Who am I? So going through all, i did it alone there was no trophy on the wall the mantle that trophy's in my brain no one helped me get to know i paid my

bills no one did you know no one ran those miles lost that weight with look i suffered on my own and developed this man who said it's who i am man a very competitive ultra competitive dude that take it what you want man you start putting yourself in situations that suck you'll find yourself there's a thousand ways to say this but listen because i'm only going to say it once i fought for it because no one gave it to me because i it was just me me alone in the gym, me alone in the mirror, me alone in my head. No one did it for me. I worked for it and I'm never going to let someone else take that from me. Many people want to be exceptional, but they're afraid of being an exception. I think it's such a, it's, it's wanting, it's wanting an outcome without the requirement that the outcome has.

And so we can't do the same thing that everyone else approves of and then somehow get a different outcome that everyone else does. If you have a belief and you can't explain why you believe it, it's not yours, it's someone else's. The biggest thing you have to do is shut off technology. You have to go dark.

What I mean by that is you have to be quiet in your mind. Get away from people. We love being around people. We love talking. We love parties. It's okay to be alone. It's okay to be unhappy sometimes, man. So you got to go to the truth first. Who are you? Get really accountable. It's okay. Who am I what's the truth about me?

Get to that dark place in your mind figure out it may take months may take years figure out your purpose Figure out what you want to be in life and then from there Okay, I have my purpose it may take a long time. No one knows their purpose because it's too loud. You're going to leave as people be? Or you're the one that's going to find yourself a new plug? You don't mean that shit? What the fuck I don't? I built this shit.

Me. Brick by brick. And I'll be damned if I let you tear it down just because you don't like the way another talk the superpower of learning to be alone and enjoying it well i think it's critical and i and i do think that this this these times where you just think about things just be alone and think about things are so rare these days and I think during those rare times is when you really get to understand what you actually believe or don't believe admit it you aren't like them you're not even close so I came up with this idea a couple of weeks ago called the lonely chapter love it so there is a period in

everybody's journey where they are so different because they've started to do new things that they no longer fit in with their old set of friends. But they're not sufficiently developed that they've gained their new set of friends. And they're unsure. Should I go back? Should I lean back into getting a bag in with the boys on a weekend? Is that the highest way that I can live my life passion forward? Because that's what everybody else does. And all of my friends are taking the piss. Oh, not drinking again. Too good for us, are we? Not going out again this week. Oh, okay. Well, like, enjoy staying at home and reading.

So you're going to feel the pain of being ostracized from the group of friends that you used to have. But you're stuck in this messy middle where you haven't yet worked out who you are on the other side of this. And that lonely chapter that's in the middle is something that I would say almost nobody that I've ever met who has gone from a place where they are to a place where they want to be hasn't gone through. Most people walk around parroting other people's words for the vast majority of their lives. And so they basically act as recorders where they click record at one point of their life and then they click play at another time in their life.

And they're just clicking record, play, record, play, record, play over and over again. And it makes sense that people feel alone and they feel like they're acting because they never say what they think. And as a result, they also sound like everyone else because they were never themselves to begin with. I just want more. I just want more. I just want to be successful, and I want to be able to take care of the people that I love. I want to be able to be of service and go.

You don't want to be comfortable. I feel like as a man, if you're comfortable, that's a bad sign. No man should ever be comfortable. I think the problem is people don't really value life. Like I wake up, it's a blessing to be alive. Every time I pray, I thank you God for another day of life. Thank you God for another chance to get it right. You know, people died today and that's a sign of favor. I don't think people understand like when you wake up, you're favored. This episode is brought to you by Mochi Health, your go-to telehealth platform for personalized medication-based weight loss solutions.

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towards your health goals without shame or blame. Ready to transform your weight management journey? Visit joinmochi.com and use code MOTIVATIONS for $40 off your first month. Links are in the show notes below. If I could just walk one more mile after being in the worst shape of my entire life,

this would change everything for me mentally going forward. From this kid who came from dirt and nothing, who couldn't read until he was a junior in high school, and is now here. I went, I walked a mile. I said, hmm, maybe I can walk one more mile. Maybe I can walk another mile. At mile 81, my ex-wife looked at me and said, you're not going to make the time. When your mind knows it's not going to quit, and this is what I found out. This is my 40% rule. When your mind knows it's not going to quit, your body will adapt to whatever is in front of it.

I ended up running 20 more miles. I and 101 miles in 19 hours and 6 minutes and that one day changed that one 19 hours it wasn't civil training it wasn't ranger school wasn't Delta Force it wasn't any of that crap I went through it was this 19 hours and 6 minutes that forever changed my life to know that we as human beings are capable of anything and we don't need any special kind of parents or tools to get there so i end you with this don't stop when you're tired stop when you're done thank you very much no one is patient and for you to lose weight for you to stop drink if you where the hell you going through, it takes a lot of patience, a lot of time, and a lot of pitfalls, a lot of plateaus.

You can hit so many plateaus, if you don't know how to get around that plateau, it's not going to happen fast. Like everyone else, you want to learn the way to win, but never to accept the way to lose.

To accept defeat, to learn to die is to be liberated from it. So when tomorrow comes, you must free your ambitious mind and learn the art of dying. Every hardship that you encounter, if you reframe it as the story that you will someday tell to yourself of the person that you've become based on the dragons you've slain and the obstacles you've overcome, then I think that makes those obstacles a unique opportunity for self-improvement because we can be grateful for these things. I think Jocko has a whole bit on this, where whenever something bad happens, he says, good. And I think it's a great trained response,

because if something bad happens, my trained response isn't good, it's, I will tell this story someday. And so I think if you have that frame, then everything serves you. Because if something good happens, cool. If something bad happens, it'll be a story that I will suddenly tell. Because it assumes that you will live through it.

And it assumes that you will eventually figure it out. And so, then you can't lose. As long as you don't quit. Is if right now, whoever's listening to this, if you wrote a book right now about your life and you gave to someone, would it change their life for the better? If not, you got to get to work.

What I would tell people right now is this. There's a process to all this stuff, man. The process starts with you got to shut off technology. You got to go here. so go to that dark place i call it the dark room where you're alone no cell phones no music no tvs no computers you by yourself very few people want to be alone anymore they want to be around noise and people and they have to, you can't think. Be alone. Go to that dark space. In that dark space, but the first advice I would give people, man, is shut life off a little bit. Go to a dark place in your mind and figure out what the f*** you want to be. You don't know what you want to be because you haven't spent time real time with yourself and once you find

that passion that purpose your goals your purpose everything will just start lining up the one companion that's always going to be with you is yourself and i think the first thing you have to do i think the first thing we have to do is we have to get ourselves to the point where we don't necessarily need a companion. It's not ideal. It's not ideal. But it's doable. And sometimes it beats the alternative. But sometimes we choose less than ideal companions.

Because to us, that beats the alternative of not having any companion. And the reason why we cannot face the concept of not having any companion is because we're not comfortable with ourself as a companion. The idea of the Lonely Chapter resonates so much with people because it literally is like taking the red pill. If you see this version of the world where you go, I can impact my outcomes. I can learn a thing, apply a thing,

and then I change as a byproduct of doing that. As soon as you take those steps, you realize almost all of the people around you who have parts of their life that they're not happy about are kind of making a choice for it to be that way. And then you go, oh, that means that all of the things I don't like about me and I don't like about my life are my responsibility because I can change it. So forgive me. But you know, if you're going to create anything of value in this life, you're going to, even if it's with

other people, you're going to have to be willing to be on your own for a bit, to forage on your own, to take walks alone and then return to people, to your tribe, so to speak, and share with them what you've learned, or maybe even just show up with whatever energy shift has occurred while you were off. If you had to create a human, what would you put them through to make them tough? It probably wouldn't be a really chill life. What would you put them through to make them patient? You probably wouldn't give them things immediately. And so it's like we want these traits,

but each of the traits has a price tag attached to it. And it's just like, do you want to pay the price tag to get the thing? And so I think if, if people reframe the, the period of life that they're going through as the price that they're paying out of their wallet, but the wallet is their time is the seconds of life that they're trading for it. Then I think more people will be willing to make the trade because at least when I look at myself, like when I'm 80 something years old and I'm looking back at my life, I want to have these traits, but in order to have those traits, I know I have to go through these things. And I think for me, that's given me a lot of comfort in hard times.

We will not bend. We will not break. We will not yield. We will never give in. We will never give up. And we will never back down. We will never, ever surrender. You know, when you're built different than everybody else and you have this

desire for more and this desire for achievement and this desire to win everybody else looks at you like like you're up and they'll tell you that too you know what the is wrong with you like why can't you just relax why can't you just do this why can't because i'm i'm just not built that way man and it's sort of embracing the fact that this provides a lot of good. But there's a lot of things that you have to deal with that come that aren't so good. And at that time, at mile 81, something clicked that I'll never probably be able to do again. With my mind, body, spirit, soul, everything disconnected. And my mind knew I wasn't fucking around anymore. It knew I wasn't going to quit.

It knew that guy was dead and buried and gone and i was gonna die out here on this one for whatever reason why i was gonna get through this mother i didn't give a damn it made no there was no crowds there was no trophy at the end there was i wasn't even in a race in my mind there was it was nothing it was me against me. And I used all these different dark places to start bringing out light and just going deeper and deeper. And so if someone says you're not like everyone else, then you can just reframe that as like, I am exceptional. And that's not a bad thing. There's a teacher and he's got two classes that he teaches. And one class, he says, the only assignment for this whole semester is that you come back with a perfect clay pot.

That's it. That's the assignment. The other class, he says, your objective is to make the most total quantity of clay pots, and you'll be measured by how many pots you make. And at the end of the quarter, the pots that came from the team that had to just make sheer volume, not only did they make more pots, but the quality of all of their pots was better compared to the teams that only had to make one. And it just underlines the biggest lesson that I've learned in my life, which is that volume negates luck is that you can try to be lucky and pick the one perfect thing and try and make it. But if you don't want to try

and be lucky, you can just do so much work that you will you will brute force your way to figuring it out like if you do a thousand podcasts you'll be pretty good at podcasts right but if you try to say okay you're you're rent you're brand new and all you have to do is make one perfect podcast the problem is that you don't have the perspective in which to make a judgment to say what is good. Never ever give up. Don't give up. Don't allow it to happen. If there's a concrete wall in front of you, go through it, go over it, go around it, but get to the other side of that wall. Most people are overweight. They're distracted. They're poor. They have so few skills because it has never been easier to start a business, to make money, to get in shape.

It's just also never been easier to do nothing. You really can solve a lot of problems by getting in shape and making money. You still have problems, they're just smaller and you have more resources to handle them. The world is there for the taking for anyone who can learn from their mistakes do what they say they were going to do and stick with it even if it's not sexy what used to make a man acceptable now makes you extraordinary the bar for winning has never been so low who am i so going through all i did it alone there was no trophy on the wall, the mantle.

That trophy's in my brain. Most people's definition of work is a negative one, which is why they abhor it, which is also why they misunderstand so many people who quote, I'll say quote here are successful or ahead of them or whatever, is that both people, one person says the word work and the other person hears the word pain. And so the first step to like becoming more successful is understanding the language that the people who are successful are using. They're actually defining the word differently. And so whatever that thing is that you actually enjoy

doing, where you lose track of time when you're in it, even if it's challenging, but usually it is challenging, right? Like it's not easy because then it's boring, right? Which is also why the uncertainty thing is so key, right? To not knowing if it's going to, if it's going to work or not, you are going to work though, either way, um, is that the people who are quote addicted to work, make it easy to be addicted to work because they do things worth doing. And I think a lot of it is coming down to making sure that you take the few precious seconds that we have to do the few things that are worth doing for the rest of your life the more time you spend alone with yourself the more time that you will be able to understand who you are when i mean

understand who you are i'm talking about without any outside interference, without any friends, without any peer pressure of wanting to be like someone else. The more time you spend alone, you're going to figure out, okay, what your purpose is. And I say that because of this. God will talk to you. You start seeking. In those moments of. Not having any outside distractions.

What happens is. Things become clear. Clarity sets in. And you're able to make decisions. Not based on what you saw that day. Or what you heard that day. Or what that person may have said to you. You're able to make decisions based on. you saw that day or what you heard that day or what that person may have said to you able to make decisions based on how you feel internally everybody wants to have you there's no hack man there's no hack what

do you think is the biggest stumbling block that most people face with this kind of journey honestly is they have the woe is me mentality. It's too hard. Life isn't fair. These things in life are not easy for me. You look to your left, you look to your right, and you start to judge yourself off other people. Like if you're a female, well, she's skinny. She doesn't work out as hard as I do.

And everything starts to corrupt your mind. You start to look around too much at other people and what they're doing. And that starts to corrupt your mind you start to look around too much at other people what they're doing and that starts to corrupt your own dialogue we are judging ourselves against too many people you have to judge yourself against yourself and that's the one thing I started learning man this isn't a race against me and Rich Roll this is a race against David Goggins and David Goggins alone. And once you can silence all that bull, all the outside interference and things that are attracting your mind to everything, you can then start to grow. There's a quote from Jason Pargan that says, accept that all of your heroes are full of your heroes. Aren't gods. They're just regular people

who probably got good at one thing by neglecting literally everything else. It won't get harder. Like this is the hardest part. And so if you can just make it through this, everything else is downhill. It's not that the things that you're, the dragons are going to slay aren't going to get bigger. They are, but you become so much more equipped to slay them back. And you have so many more allies. You have people in the stands cheering for you. You have the audience, you have all of these other things that are behind you. But at the beginning, it's just you with a stick against a bear. And arguably that fight is a harder fight to win than beating a dragon when you have a nuclear bomb and six nations behind you. And so it's not even like the, the size of the hardship. It's just also the resources and how few of them you have and how so much of the beginning is literally burning the one thing you

have, which is time because you have no leverage. You don't have the money to pay other people to help you. You don't have the resources to go like get someone to, to, no one can learn it for you. It's like, there's a lot of the things that we care about a lot. Like no one can work out for you. It doesn't matter how much money you have. No one can learn skills for you. And so in the early days, like it feels so painful because you're like, you look around to see who can help you. And then you're like, it's me again. That whenever I'm down, like, oh, hang on.

Oh, you know, you know the truth. You know that you, you know, the darkness of the dungeons and the demons that fly you know and then from there it's like okay you were there you know this there was no one there to pick up the rucksack to pick up the boat to pick up the log to go in there it was you it was you there was no pat on the back at 300 at 275 at 220. No, that was you. People are looking for that pound in the back. Where is it? Oh, I don't need it. Because what I've done is in the f***ing unseen work.

So whenever s*** gets nasty, David Goggins goes, you had nobody anyway, mother f***er. Look around you. There was no f***ing team. team it was you there was no weight loss program or mom and dad waking you up saying you can do it you can be better trying to build belief you built belief when you had nothing rock bottom the what if mentality is a mentality of a lot of us in this world have people who say we cannot do something. You can't do it. You're too short. You look a certain way. You act a certain way. You're not smart enough.

I hit that roadblock every time. I was 300 pounds. I'll never forget. I was 300 pounds. I went from 175 to 300 pounds and my goal was to be a Navy SEAL. Impossible goal. And every Navy recruiter that saw me said that, besides one. Every recruiter said, there's no way, man. You're 297 pounds, and you got to lose so much weight so fast. I talked to one recruiter, and I forget getting back in my truck, and he said, you cannot do this but I got my truck and I said to myself but what if I could what if I could pull off this miracle

how will I feel at the very end if I can defy all the odds the what if mentality is this guy told me I was a 36th African-American Navy SEAL in Navy SEAL history in over 70 years. This guy told me there's only 35 African-Americans to ever be a Navy SEAL. He was pretty much telling me you ain't got what it takes. I took that and said, what if I can be the 36th versus taking what he said, the negativity he's putting on me because he can't he can't imagine himself doing what I'm about to do so most people who can't imagine it they they reflect it's like a mirror they put that right on you if they can't see themselves doing it I can't see you doing it I take that mirror and I totally discard it. I say what if I can be the 36th person to ever do it? So I use all their negativity as positivity and fuel to get me to where I need to go The stoic response to hate is to agree and one-up

Sometimes in life when everything's going great for you and you don't know good from bad You need to experience a little rain sometimes so you can enjoy the sunshine again you don't want it and that's the harsh reality i can't give you it you can't give them you can give you ideas in the day when i was losing the weight i had to miserably wake up every morning in the cold. Because it was Indiana, November when it started. I was miserable. This is your new life.

Take it or leave it. And the only thing I want was being alone. And they think, your whole life you think, oh, I'll just keep judging and keeping people at a distance. But guess what? There's this thing in the distance making you think, oh, that you win somehow, or that I'll win somehow by doing that.

I'm not saying you, I'm saying me. But then I get to the end of my life and I'll realize, you know what, I didn't win anything by doing that. That was a trick. You know, I want to be able to be as loving as I can. And I know that sometimes I have to examine relationships in my life to see where I have hangups. Time alone, again, will make you see who you are. And the third thing, it lets you see what will fit you, what's suitable for your life, where is your sweet spot, what works for you.

What are we optimizing for? What problem are we solving? It's my favorite. It's probably the number one most frequently asked question that I asked to our portfolio companies whenever we're about to do anything, which is what problem are we solving? If the problem that we're solving is that I want to be content, well, there's a lot of ways to do that. You don't need to do all these other things. If the problem you're solving is that you want to be the richest man in the world, well, you're going to have to have a lot of superiority complex. You're gonna have a lot of crippling insecurity and you're gonna have a lot of impulse control and you have to wait a long

time. Stop trying to get rich, get better. And if you get better, getting rich will happen as a consequence. Getting rich is an outcome. Getting better is an input. Warren Buffett said that the difference between really successful people and the most successful people is that the most successful people say no to almost everything. And I've tried to take that because it's so hard. And I think that a lot of the, you know, it's so simple and so hard, which a lot of success habits are, which is like if you do the same thing for a very long period of time. He said success comes down to doing the obvious thing for an extraordinary period of time without convincing yourself you're smarter than you are. I'm astounded by how many people want to be spectacular in life, but also want to be normal by being normal. You are by definition aiming for average, normal people get normal results.

Exceptional people get exceptional results. You literally can't do what everyone else does and expect to not get what everyone else has got by doing what everyone else does you guarantee average results i know every mother ain't gonna do what i'm gonna do so this is how you level up i know there's a whole bunch of people that have the ability and just refuse to get off that couch refuse Refuse to study a few more hours. Refuse to go deeper, to go further. And that's where I gained the advantage. This is a video I'm making for a young man

who's struggling and said he was sick and tired of being poor and didn't know how to get out. You're going to need to assume that luck isn't real or that it applies to everyone else but you. Because the only way you're going to get out of your surroundings is by having something of value that other people want. And right now, the only thing you have is your time with low skills to trade, which is a hard game to play.

You have to trade a lot of it only to get a little. One of the most important things, never, ever quit. Never quit. But I've watched some of the people grow. I've watched some of the most incredible, brilliant students. And they didn't make it like other people made it because they didn't have that drive. They didn't have that never give up ability. How am I able to just extract dopamine, the good dopamine whenever I want man I've trained 99% of my life alone no one

had me on the back I did all of the work alone and while I'm still hard on myself I know what I did so whenever times get bad people all this who's your carry the boats to look That's real. I hate that people know me for that guy because that guy is not every day. Like when they see me, they want that energy. That's not me every day. I can extract it immediately when I need to because when you train alone and I lived alone for so many years in this misery, and you're able to get out by yourself. I can take myself to such a level of real, real passion and purpose,

and like, the feeling I get is something I can't even explain by myself. I don't need anyone. That's why people come to me to motivate them. No one can motivate me. The bottom line is, no one's coming. No one is no one's coming no one no one's coming to push you no one's coming to tell you to turn the TV off no one's coming to tell you to get out the door and exercise nobody's coming to tell you

to apply for that job that you've always dreamt about nobody's coming to write the business plan for you it It's up to you. And because you're only ever going to do the things that you feel like doing right now or that feel good right now, unless you understand that you've got to parent yourself, you've got to push yourself, you're not going to make your dreams come true.

You're just not. We're not wired that way. You weren't born that way. You weren't that way when you were growing up. And you're certainly not that make your dreams come true. You're just not. We're not wired that way. You weren't born that way. You weren't that way when you were growing up. And you're certainly not that way as an adult. It's so easy to be great nowadays, my friend, because most people are weak. Most people don't want to go to that extra mile.

Most people don't want to find that extra because it sucks. It's miserable. It's lonely. That's the only place to be. You always have to be the person who roots for you before everyone else does. And it's usually a single clap in the auditorium for a very long period of time. It is a slow clap that's just you, rooting for you. And that visual, I think, is one that you can kind of take because it is.

People struggle to do things alone and the path of the exceptional person is one of an exception, which means that you are not with other people. And rather than fighting that or bemoaning it, see it as an indicator that you're on the right path. Because if everyone else were cheering you on, then it means you're not in the right place. Because it means you're just like everyone else and that's not where you want to be. So whenever it gets nasty, David Goggins goes, you had nobody anyway, mother. So see how I'm talking to myself right now? That's me. That shit fires me the fuck me. That shit fires me the fuck up. That shit makes me fucking nuts. You had nobody anyway, mother. Look around you.

There was no fucking team. It was you. There was no weight loss programmer. Mom and dad waking you up saying you can do it. You can be better. Trying to build belief belief you built belief when you had nothing rock bottom if life is a long journey of self-acceptance i think the earlier you can accept your own peculiarities as just part of you rather than trying to justify them or mold to what you to the archetype that you think is acceptable within your social circle um at least for me like there's this period of discomfort when you change anything because everyone around you wants you to fit within the label that they are comfortable with. But they also have the anchor of what you were before.

Yeah, exactly. And so they try and like, they, people don't like that. And so they're like, no, no,

I like you in this box. So just say, I know you're having a little thing right now. Don't worry. Just, just, and they just want to shove you back into it. And there's,

there's a lot of uncomfortable conversations that you have to have where it becomes really socially awkward. And so all of a sudden you're sitting there and you're thinking, man, I thought my life was together. Now it's in shambles at my feet. No, it's not. No, it's not. It's not. It's all right. It's all right.

You're not supposed to have it together. All right. Those who go to college, get out of college, get a job, stay in that job until they retire, then retire and buy property down the floor. That's an anomaly. That's not normal. It happens, but it's an anomaly. And and most of those people, you know, they might be really good people. But they ain't got cool stories to tell.

And you don't get wisdom. You don't get wisdom past a certain point by living that life. So now you know why there's so many people that have failed in this world. You create your own self. Most people are missing something because there's so much trapped in there. I don't even want to say potential.

I think that's a word used out too much too. There's so much in you that God or wherever the hell you believe in, or if you're an atheist, in you, that you have not unlocked. That you walk around with this gorgeous wife or great husband and all this money. You're like, God, I feel like I'm missing something. Yeah, because it's about 75% of you is still in there. Still chained up because you just didn't want to find your willpower.

Didn't want to find your soul, your will, your heart, your determination, your guts, your courage. Who cares? Let it go. And when you're young, that is so hard. Because you really don't know who you are yet. And you don't usually have the mature self-confidence to be strong enough to believe that you are unique and you are special. But don't worry what other people think. Be unique.

Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud. But mainly, be you. Oftentimes, if it doesn't go our way, we don't see it as a blessing right if something happens an experience if it doesn't go the way we want it to go oftentimes we don't consider that to be a blessing but some of the greatest blessings in our lives are things that didn't turn out or work out the way that we wanted it to you're not supposed to have it all together you're not supposed to have it all together. You're not expected to have it all together.

Anybody looks at you and says, Hey man, what's wrong with you? How come you don't have everything figured out? They're a fool. Knowledge and experience and wisdom takes time. Wisdom comes from experience. And experience takes time. The more more experience you have the more you learn from that experience the wiser you can get if you haven't lived long enough to have a

broad enough portfolio of experience then you can't expect to have knowledge and wisdom. If you haven't gotten what you want, then you're not worthy of it. Period. And that's okay. Now you can admit that you suck and improve. Better to know you're bad for a season than pretend you're good for a lifetime. You're not making as much money as you want because you're not as good as you think you are. You're not struggling from imposter syndrome.

You're a student and pretending to be a teacher. No students say they feel like frauds for trying to learn. You're a fraud when you get up to teach the class and you've never done it. I think it's just giving yourself permission to suck. It's giving yourself permission to be unhappy. It's giving yourself permission to not achieve while you do for a long period of time. It's giving yourself permission to lose friends. It's giving yourself permission to not achieve while you do for a long period of time.

It's giving yourself permission to lose friends. It's giving yourself permission to do things that's different than people in your social circle or your age group are doing. It's giving you permission, giving yourself permission to be an exception so that you can become exceptional. And once you peel the crust away and see who you really are, you open your mind to a whole other world. So I've opened my mind up to a whole other world that most people can't even fathom

because they haven't dug deep into their own personal problems. So people think I'm crazy because I found a whole other way of living. I think they're crazy because I found a whole other way of living. I think they're crazy for never even trying to get to the other side of whatever's in front of them. When I wake up every day, there's only one voice I have to listen to. And so then it's like, just do it for me.

What drives me today is being my best. And my best is a never ending journey a lot of people call me obsessed that's fine i probably am obsessed when you finally realize like for me that humble beginning i had when you realize that i could have literally given up and right now at 43 I can still be a 300 pound man spraying for cockroaches it's truly amazing that a lot of us walk this planet earth being a fraction of what we're capable of being I I look back on when I was 24 years old, and that could have been my 100%. If I chose to take the path of least resistance, that could have been my 100%. Never knowing that in that 300-pound body,

the kid who couldn't read, all this other stuff, forget reading level, is now a person that's been through almost every special ops training in the world, has broke several records, and has continued to grow. Once you realize what's on the other side of that, that will keep you, I'm the most driven person in the world. Because I realized that I was leaving so much on the table. I was leaving so much on the table, never knowing that inside that fat guy was this person here. You be that warrior in that garden and you stand strong. You be a strong man.

You be a good man. And you just let the world rage around you. That most men live lives of quiet desperation. It's one of my favorite quotes ever because it's true. And I've been that guy. You're just in this world where you just can't wait to just run away. But the only way I could be this person now is if I took that chance when I was 21, when I was dead broke and had my cars repossessed and all that stuff, that's the only way you ever get where you want to go. You have to take a path that's dangerous. And most people want to take the safe path.

And the safe path leaves you stuck in quiet desperation almost every time. It's hell. Your family's looking for that one guy right now they're looking for that one guy who's strong who's that pillar for the family in hard times make sure they look around they look around and find you these are the times right now for you to step up be that guy that can take anything reminder that if you want to be exceptional you're going to be different from everyone else. That's what makes you exceptional.

You can't fit in and also be exceptional. Both have discomfort. When you fit in, you have internal conflict because you're not being 100% you. When you're exceptional, you have external conflict because everyone sees you as different. Pick one. When your friends start to say, you've changed, remember it's because they don't know how to say you've grown You see that look right there don't ever let a man see you like that

Did you give him the power over you You gotta take it out you take it with your head up Chest out Like a man Everything was done to try to learn How to become a better basketball player Everything You know we have a million and one excuses That we can go to Fact of the matter is we're not going to make it

They played better than we did in the series We had opportunities to win it They didn't go for us So we have to regroup Like I said next season starts right now They played better than we did in the series. We had opportunities to win it. Then go for us. So we have to regroup. Like I said, next season starts right now and we'll come back next season with the club. How much harder will you work in this offseason now to get back to the championship? I push myself so exhaustion. And so when you have that point of view Then literally the world becomes your library to help you to become better at your craft.

Out of the hundred men that go into war, ten shouldn't even be there. Eighty of them are just targets. Ten do most of, or nine do most of fighting. One is a warrior. And it's a true quote to life. I saw it going through training. I saw it everywhere I went. There's so many people who just show up to life.

They shouldn't even be around. And there's few people who do all the work. I wanted to be part of that nine. And I'm working towards being that one. If you had to create a human, what would you put them through to make them tough? It probably wouldn't be a really chill life. What would you put them through to make them patient? You probably wouldn't give them things immediately. And so it's like, we want these traits,

but each of the traits has a price tag attached to it. And it's just like, do you want to pay the price tag to get the thing? And so I think if people reframe the period of life that they're going through as the price that they're going through as the price that they're paying out of their wallet, but the wallet is their time, it's the seconds of life that they're trading for it, then I think more people will be willing to make the trade. Because at least when I look at myself, like when I'm 80 something years old, I'm looking back at my life, I want to have these traits. But in order to have those traits, I know I have to go through these things. And I think for me, that's given me a lot of comfort in hard times. You are a man. Stand up and be a man.

Make the hard decisions. Make the sacrifices. Make the unpopular decisions. And become comfortable in your own skin. And if you are not a person that you are comfortable being alone with, that is the one person in this universe that you have full power, full right, and full responsibility to change. It's the moments in life, the decisions you make on a moment-to-moment basis that add up to be the guy or not the guy.

Tonight, I did something, you know, that I feel more of a guy for me who I am my guy your pride and your ego has been killing your career growth your could be on another level you know better but you're deciding to not do better you are a lazy un unprofessional, mean attitude having And yet, when things are not happening good for you When things are not coming your way When things are not happening as fast as you want them to happen You blame everybody else and what they're doing and saying And you completely disown everything that you're doing to contribute

to your career, not going to another level. You know better, but you don't want to do better. My personal goal is to squeeze every ounce of potential out of whatever I have. And I think that if you feel like you have potential left over, then it will eat you alive until you do something about it. The winners always show up. They're willing to lose in order to gain. Big mental thing there, guys. This body, as great as you are,

as sharp as you make the arsenal, it can't do anything. If you don't have confidence in yourself, we all fall down in life. The question is, who gets back up? You go after and you give it all you have. If you lose, at least you try, man. I failed.

It's ten times more of a man than someone said what if. Because what if never went to the arena. When you guys find a fear, that fear will either create you or destroy you. I love fear. The reason why, behind every fear is the person you want to be fear is self-imposed me it doesn't exist you create it you can destroy it too it's an intangible if you face your fears guys you realize it's not that big and once you face it you are my god master all this time running from it it was so small I just faced it my god not only that face that beat it

back energy is never lost. Transfer. That negative energy, that fear, is destroyed. It comes back in as confidence. What else am I capable of? What else am I holding my back from? That I'm capable of more. Where am I running from when I don't need to?

What else can I overcome? You face your fears. You become the person you want to be. You run from your fears. You're not living. You're alive. It's easy to give up. Hell yeah. It's the easiest thing in the world to do. You're alive. It's easy to get up. Hell yeah.

It's the easiest thing in the world to do. All right, man, I'm done. I ain't going. I ain't going to keep going. I don't feel like going to work. I'm done. It's easy. It's very easy.

But what's hard is going, yo, yesterday I got nothing from working as hard as I could. Nothing happened from that. I'm going to do the same thing again today But I'm gonna try to go harder That's the hardest thing in the world To get up every day And give 100% And be in the same position that you were Each day

But mentally know that you're trying and trying and trying That's a real That's a real grind That's not normal Cause we don't wanna be normal Normality Is what weak people call living I call it death

Let's We'll break up Any type of normality that you might fix in your head I'll also Push you past what you currently thought you could do Giving you confidence And you know what you currently thought you could do, giving you confidence. And you know what? I'm selling myself too short. I'm capable of more. I just saw something happen there. I like that taste. I want some more of that taste.

And I'm hungry for it. Success is the only revenge. As you expand, they shrink into irrelevance. As you get louder, no one can hear them. You don't beat them. You cast a you get louder, no one can hear them. You don't beat them, you cast a shadow so big, no one can see them to begin with. When people copy, they copy the wrong stuff, because they don't know why it worked to begin with. And when it breaks, they don't know how to fix it, because they didn't build it. So don't sweat it, copycats will always be behind. Everything counts. Everything behind. Everything counts.

Everything that you do counts. The biggest mistake that people make is they think that only what they want to count counts. No. When you read a book, when you listen to an audio program, when you go to a course, when you go to bed early and get up early and work, it all counts. If you haven't gotten what you want, then you're not worthy of it. Period. And that's okay.

Now you can admit that you suck and improve. Better to know you're bad for a season than pretend you're good for a lifetime. You're not making as much money as you want because you're not as good as you think you are. You're a student and pretending to be a teacher. No students say they feel like frauds for trying to learn. You're a fraud when you get up to teach the class, and you've never done it. Yeah, there comes a day, man. Everyone's going to have this day. There comes a day where being average, being mediocre, is just sickening to you. It's just sickening. It makes you

want to throw up because you've seen people with far less talent than you as you're growing up with them. Their childhood buddies or whoever else, they didn't have what you had yet now they're going to become something that you haven't. There comes that day. It's either when you're young and it strikes you on the baseball field because you're sick of spiking out

or it's when you get fired from your fifth job when your wife and kids are on your ass because you don't have support anymore. There comes a f***ing day where push comes to shove. Where being mediocre, being like average and s*** just f***ing burns. It sucks so much. You can't deal with it one more day. And you get off your f***ing ass.

And you create something that's always been there. It's always been inside of you trying to come out. But you've never wanted to unwrap it because it's too much pain and commitment. You were scared you were going to fail. You were scared if you started, you'd never finish it. You didn't want to tell anybody. You knew it was there,

but you never wanted to embark on it until something hits. You get fired or somebody else gets success to remind you of what you could have been. And then that spark is born. And no matter what happens, I'm never going to be in this boat again. And you get up and you go. You're going to get knocked down.

You just keep going, keep going. You're a wild man. And life has never been so sweet. That can happen at an early age. It can happen at a later age. It's going to happen to somebody every, you know, no matter what's going to happen to you. And when it does happen to you,

thank you, look at these stars. And finally, you're alive. It's time to unwrap the potential you can be. Superior, man. It's within you. It's within every single one of us. And the people that have risen to that level were no different than any one of us. It's just they believed it and they're willing to

work their ass off to get it. It's time to stay focused. It's time to decide. Clubs, partying, trying to fit in and socialize. Rub elbows with everybody so people can stop calling you weird. We don't want to be left alone, by ourselves, with ourselves. So we come in and we sit down and we get on our phone or we turn on the TV or we go wherever we do whatever. Because we don't want to face the reality of being by ourselves with ourselves. Start making yourself a companion that you're comfortable with. If you had a friend, if you had a person you want to sit down and spend all the

time with, what would you want from that person? What would you want? Well, I would want to spend time with somebody who's honest. Make sense? I don't want to spend time with somebody who's going to be lying to me all the time. Someone who's going to gently tell me the truth about myself. You've got to face the reality of who you are. You've got to face the reality of what you are. Right? who you are. You gotta face the reality of what you are. Alright? And nobody's gonna tell you that like you yourself will tell you that.

You're going to lose sleep. You'll doubt whether it'll work. You'll stress to make ends meet. You won't finish your to-do list. You'll wonder whether you made the right call and have no way to know for years. This is what hard feels like and that's okay. Everything worth doing is hard and the more worth doing it is, the harder it is. The greater the payoff, the greater the hardship. If it's hard, good. It means no one else will do it. More for you.

This is all about the quitting mind. So what's's the quitting mind so let's say it's day one of a job interview we all know what that feels like you have your clothes laid out you got your food ready to go in the morning you've been preparing for weeks and weeks and weeks you show up and you bring your best self. You get the job. Merry Christmas. All right. After a couple months, you start showing up to work a little later.

You don't look as good. Your clothes aren't laid out. Your breakfast isn't ready. Your mind is getting softer. We do that to everything in life life When New Year's coming up Guess what? Don't have a f***ing quitting mind Repetition every day

Stay hard How bad do you want this? If it's as bad as you want to Live or breathe or sleep Whatever the hell it may be I can work with it But a lot of people Most people don't want it that badly That's why they always ask the question How do you get to where you are? either sleep, whatever the hell it may be, I can work with it. A lot of people, most people,

don't want it that badly. That's why they always ask the question, how do you get to where you are? You know how to do it. You know exactly how to be you or how to be me. You don't want to do it. So I can't make you do it.

Nor do I have the time or energy to force you into that place that I know you have to be to do it. There's no luck in this game. It may be a little bit of luck, but the luck happens after you bust your ass and you put yourself in that lucky situation. Luck doesn't happen. You put yourself in that situation where luck might happen. If you haven't gotten what you want, then you're not worthy of it, period. And that's okay. Now you want, then you're not worthy of it period and that's okay Now you can admit that you suck and improve better to know you're bad for a season than pretend you're good for a lifetime

You're not making as much money as you want because you're not as good as you think you are You're being a to yourself man. Not getting out there and squeezing that f***ing soul out every day If you grind hard, I got time to worry about you more than you do. I got time to worry about you, man. Because tomorrow, I got to go back to the grind. And tomorrow, I go back to the grind again and again and again and again. I don't have time to put you into the hate bank. There's no hate.

It's all filtered out, man, through the grind. You don't get it. There's great joy in the grind. Great joy in the suffering. It totally cleanses your body out, man, of any kind of hate. It makes you grow up. You're not running the day. The day's running you. You always be the dervish, not the master, guys. If you find a fear, the quickest, easiest way you can beat it is initially, right when it comes in. If you allow the sin, it will grow roots and start breaking you down, destroying

the potential of the person you can be. Again, they're champions, guys. It's not their potential. It's not their genetics. It's their perseverance. Always show up. Always willing to fail because then failure, that's part of success. Success is not, you know, a marathon of life with just ups.

Success is formulated through failures.