Daily Motivations - TIME TO GHOST EVERYONE & GRIND IN SILENCE. I'LL BE BACK STRONGER
Episode Date: July 21, 2022TIME TO GHOST EVERYONE & GRIND IN SILENCE. I'LL BE BACK STRONGER Hustle Quotes To Motivate and Inspire Your Grind The only way to get ahead in life is to always stay on your grind, and these hustl...e quotes will inspire that mover and shaker in you to keep steady. If you know someone else like you that hustles hard, then share these quotes about hustle with them that the two of you mutually understand and embrace. You hear the word ‘hustle’ a lot lately – but what does it really mean? Entrepreneurs do it, millennials are after it, and successful people swear by it. No, ‘hustling’ has nothing to do with scamming or forcing someone to do something (although that’s the original definition). ‘Hustle’ today means going after what you want – by spending all your time and energy on working harder than everybody else. Inspirational Hustle Quotes For Ambitious People 1. “Things may come to those who wait…but only the things left by those who hustle.” – Abraham Lincoln 2. “The person who is waiting for something to turn up might start with their shirt sleeves.” – Garth Henrichs 3. “All the so-called ‘secrets of success will not work unless you do.” – Jaymin Shah Instagram - @daily_motivationsorg Facebook- @daily_motivationsorg Interested in sponsoring this show reach out to us via Dailymotivationsorg@gmail.com Grab your Ultimate Female Body Fitness Guide Ebook copy now at an exclusive 50% off discount https://selar.co/42zb40?currency=USD Kindly Support Us Below to sustain future episodes. Support the Show.
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you want your life to be better i can't help you lee can't help you joe rogan can't help you
ari can't help you god can't help you only you can help you grab your balls get a fucking notebook
and write down what you're gonna do this year and this is it you're not gonna have these
problems to drugs to cigarettes it all starts today all right no more excuses that's the
this is the year of the soldier we're going in like in marines you understand me
what the hell are we all waiting for to start attacking life
fucking stars to align back when when I was growing up,
a song came out.
All I need is a miracle.
Well, guess what? That miracle ain't coming.
There is no perfect
time to start. You gotta start now
with changing your life.
We're all being tested in life.
And guess what?
This is one test you can't cheat on.
We all have our own test.
Some of us are obese.
Some of us are depressed.
Some of us are insecure.
You have to get your deal with the life.
And the only way to overcome it is for you or you alone to face it.
You have to do your best work when you're least motivated.
So those days you don't want to do it guess what you gotta do
you gotta suck the fuck up to do it stay hard
it's grind season homie it's not about today it's about the the future. You do the work now.
Do the work now.
It's time to stay focused, man.
No, don't be fooled by the outside.
God is working behind the scenes. In that realm that you can't see, things have shifted.
The moment you receive what you believe for, things started lining up in your
family. Good breaks, the right people, healing, abundance started hitting your way. We talk
about how unfair it is. We talk about how hard it is. We talk about how nobody gets
it. And guess what? All those things are true. It's not fair. Most people don't get it. And guess what? All those things are f***ing true. It's not f***ing fair.
Most people don't get it.
Most people have no idea how f***ing hard it is for you.
And guess what?
They're never gonna.
So why are you screaming about it?
Take this opportunity to recognize that the chaos in your life is actually forging you
and improving you because you're choosing to press on when everybody else is falling off The personality of a person, the ways of a person,
the thoughts, the deeds, the actions,
it's all based around his heart.
For what is a man? A man is his heart. A lying, cheating heart
means a lying, cheating man. A loving, merciful heart means a loving, merciful man. A living
heart means a living man. A dead heart means a dead man. Regardless to man's title, regardless to man's wealth,
rank, or position, if the heart is not great, then he cannot be great. But if the heart
is great, that man remains great under all circumstances, rich or poor, large or small,
so it is the heart that makes one large or small.
Teaching people how to find that generous present moment and actually relax in the unknown and
dissociate from their body, dissociate from their environment, and dissociate from time,
the predictable future, and the familiar past causes them for some reason
to get a reboot
that to me
is taking all of your
attention or disinvesting all of your
attention out of this three dimensional
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it's easy to use your childhood as a crutch instead of seeing it as a chisel when the door to creation or mystical moment really begins to happen for people.
It's easy to use your childhood as a crutch instead of seeing it as a chisel.
There are a lot of divorces out there, so that means a lot of kids come from broken homes.
I always hear people say, my family is so dysfunctional, using it as an excuse or something.
But it's not really a valid excuse because everybody's family is dysfunctional in some way.
There are so many crutches people want to use to justify themselves but for me you have to eliminate every single one of them get rid of them all then tell yourself it's up to you what are you going to do now
that you let go of all those crutches blaming others is an easy way out. the funds, the connections, but God does. You're just one transfer away from seeing that dream come to pass.
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I think a lot of us out here, we don't have control.
We don't have the whistle.
There's someone out there blowing that whistle and we hit the dirt.
Some of us choose to stay down
but it's that motherfucker
who constantly gets up as fast as they can
those are the motherfuckers that make it in life
so it's our job
to always be ready for the whistle
who is controlling your life
who's making the choices
in your life
every single day what's making the choices in your life every single day? What's
pulling the strings in your life? And before you say yourself, I really want you to think
about that. Every day you wake up, did you make the choices that you know you needed
to make to progress your life. I need that.
I need it badly.
Of course it's gonna get
hard. Of course there's all kind of stuff
that can put your focus.
But you gotta, you gotta stick
that shit out, man.
Ladies, fellas, come on.
It's another level to this shit man
if you can see it here and you have the courage enough to speak it
it will happen
a lot of times people believe in certain things, but they
keep to themselves. They don't put it out there. You truly believe in it. If you become
vocal with it, you are creating that law of attraction and it will become reality. Because
your dreams have to be bigger than all your fears and all your consequences. What makes people go back is you dream too small. See, your problem in life ain't if you aim too high
and you miss it. Your problem in life is if you aim too low and you hit it. That's what
you messed up now. So when you aim to the moon and you miss, you're still amongst the stars.
You ask the question, what do you want?
Man, I want to be diamond.
Tell me something I don't know.
Everybody wants it.
But the raw reality of it is,
everybody don't get it.
And the crazy thing is,
if you want it, you can get it.
It's not like somebody is stopping you or holding a gun to your head and telling you,
you can't get it.
It's a matter of will. It's a matter of hard work. It's a matter of sacrifice. It's a like somebody is stopping you or holding a gun to your head and telling you you can't get it. It's a matter of will.
It's a matter of hard work.
It's a matter of sacrifice.
It's a matter of dedication.
It's a matter of commitment.
And I'm not talking about the commitment that says, yes, I'll show up, not that commitment.
I'm talking about the commitment.
I'm going to stay true to what I said I would do long after the mood that I set it in head flip. Look guys, this pursuing success, becoming someone who is abnormal,
becoming someone who sets the standard for others, becoming someone who shows the rest
of the world what is possible is a very difficult path.
You are going to have people shoot you.
You are going to have unexpected circumstances arise.
You are going to have all these things that you never f***ing counted on
come and smack you in the face over and over and over again.
This is just part of being on that path.
Like what's the GPS that's on the end of our decisions and our choices? Like where is it
really taking us? Because at the end of the day in life, it's only two things that matter.
And it's not about the biggest car. It's not about the biggest house. It's not about the
bank account. It's only two things that matter. It's about who we become in life. It's not about the biggest house. It's not about the bank account. It's only two things that matter.
It's about who we become in life.
It's about what we give back to life.
Please don't be the people in this world that become a public success, but they're private failures. God has an incredible life for you.
All you got to do is ask him for it.
Be willing to put in the work.
But now this work part is hard.
Success is hard.
But let me ask you a question.
Ain't not being successful hard too?
So now which hard you want?
You want the hard with some options and some benefits or you want the hard with ain't nothing going on?
That's true of your goals and dreams as well.
There's an inevitability to success.
It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when,
when we adopt one more,
when we adopt compound pounding. Do you know the kind of confidence you begin to have when you just
accept in your life that I am going to be relentless, I'm always going to do extra,
and you accept the fact that all things break down over time. All the barriers will go away,
all the obstacles will go away. Everything in your way
will go away if you keep after it over an extended period of time. Most people overestimate what they
can do in a year. They do. They set up goals for a year and they overestimate where they're
going to get to. And they dramatically underestimate what they can do in a decade.
You have the power within you as you begin to develop your consciousness as you hold the vision
of what it is that you want to do as you decide to enter this small voice within you because as
you respond to this voice that's telling you you ought to do this the way will come ideas will come
to you you will begin to attract things you need and things that you don't even know that you need right now. You will develop the skills in the process. Every single one of you who is
struggling right now, you need to understand this. What you're going through right now,
it's necessary because what's happening right now is you are forging the f***ing skills.
You are forging the determination. You are forging the grit. You are forging the fortitude.
You are forging all the f***ing things that nobody else is gaining because they're sitting
on their hands and you're willing to push through.
Efficient, but not effective.
I did things right, but I never did the right thing.
Efficient, not effective.
Hollow.
Jelly bean.
Hard on the outside, soft on the inside.
Don't possess nothing.
Most people go through life as volunteer victims.
They go through life volunteering to be victims,
giving excuses of why they're not pursuing their greatness,
giving excuses of why they're not doing the things that they want to do, putting it off again and again and again, wasting valuable time.
Life is very valuable, ladies and gentlemen.
Time is very valuable.
And it's very fragile.
You've got to decide to do what you can right now and don't delay.
Live your life like a sense of urgency.
Everything I've ever been a part of,
everything I've ever been connected to,
and everything I've aspired to do,
everything I've ever wanted to accomplish,
at a certain point I understood
my perspective about it had to be right
because my perspective will always affect my performance.
How I view what I do will always affect how I do what I do.
When you're complaining,
you know what you're doing?
You're focusing on everything
that's wrong in your life.
What you focus on,
you move towards.
And also what you focus on,
you attract.
When you're complaining,
you know what you're doing?
You're focusing on what's shh in your life.
Keep complaining.
You can take control of your life
and be a person that's not a creature
so he's a creator.
Because, sure, life is tough.
But it gets a lot easier when you're laughing at it.
So, despite the suffering, in fact, to spite the suffering, to spite the hardship, to spite the challenges, laugh at them all.
They can't stand it when you do.
And they all get easier.
Yes, laugh at them all.
Laughter wins. We are so.
You will have good days and you'll have bad days.
But you will always learn something more or something new.
And you will learn more overall on bad days than good days. You will learn more about yourself. You'll learn more about relationships. You'll learn about life and
principles and it'll build your character. You may have arms and legs, but unless you know three
things, number one, who are you and what your value is?
Number two, what is your purpose here in life?
And number three, what is your destiny when you're done here?
If you don't know the answers of any of those three questions, you're more disabled than I.
We want the shortcut to the winner's podium.
We need instant gratification.
And when we don't get the short-term glory,
sometimes we lose sight of those long-term goals. They fade.
We lose focus.
So we stop the daily tasks and the daily disciplines
that will allow us to achieve our goals.
Then a day slips by.
And then another day.
Then a day turns into a week and a week into a year.
And you look up in six weeks or six months or six years and you've made no progress.
None.
Stay with us. We'll be right back.
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The tragedy lies in not having any goals to reach.
It isn't a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled,
but it is a calamity not to dream.
It's not a disaster to be unable to capture your ideas,
but it is a disaster to have no ideas to capture.
It's not a disgrace
not to reach for the stars but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach right
because we all know it character is not something we inherit character so we
gotta wake up every single day we gotta fight it we gotta build it. Embed that long-term goal in your mind.
Burn it into your soul.
Think about it.
Write about it.
Talk about it.
Hang it up on your wall.
But most important, do something about it.
Every day.
You've got 60 years to put yourself together
and God only knows
what you could become.
And that's so,
that message is so much more,
it's so funny because it's so, it's such an attack, but it's so positive because there's faith there in the potential that makes up the person rather than the miserable actuality that happens to be manifesting itself at the moment. And so you've got to begin to think about the things you want to materialize in your life
on a regular basis and think about it repetitiously. Literally the things that we obsess about become
the things that we possess in our lives. Most people, those variable 9% of the thoughts is
the new thing they're worried about, the new fear they have, the new response to an email they have
to make, and they never dictate the terms. Remember this, your mind is a weapon and you got to be able to use it and pick that weapon up and control it.
Most people are out of control with their mind. They don't point it at something. They let the
world point it and they misfire all the time. So today I want you to pick up that weapon that is
your mind and begin to point it at the things you want, knowing that it's a magnet that draws to you
the things in your life that you would most like to have or that you would
most not like to have.
Constantly know that you're not what you could be.
To take responsibility for that and to commit yourself, like body and soul,
to the attainment of that ideal.
Commitment is staying true to what you said you would do
long after the move that you've set it in has left.
Commitment is staying true to what you said
you would do long after the move that you've
set it in has left.
Similarly, there is no such thing as my life and your life.
There is just a living cosmos.
If you capture more life, then you will see you have more grace. The depth, dimension and scope of your life
is determined by how much life you capture within you.
It doesn't matter what kind of body you have,
what kind of intelligence you have.
If you have not captured substantial life within you,
you will live a small life.
That's how it is.
I say you've got goals and dreams things that you're reaching for things
that will make you stretch things that will challenge you i say don't lose that passion
and that drive for life it will keep you alive stand up in yourself you've got to fight you
will have opposition things gonna happen to you in. It's called life and it's not personal.
But what it takes to go down that unforgiving race to winning, they don't want to do because it's just too hard. heart. Here's the secret. If you were to meditate for 20 years, this is where you'd finally get to
just be your self, but be all of you using the energy of my personality to actually serve the purpose of my soul.
And that purpose I'm here to tell you gets revealed to you daily.
It is not just one thing.
It is the thread that is connecting the dots of everything that you do.
Like, is your dedication that cheap? Is your level of commitment that cheap to where all it takes is for something not to go the way that I want it to go and I'm not the same individual and the level of which I once cared I no longer care that deep about.
Like is it that cheap?
Because that goal isn't going to achieve itself.
It is all on you.
And I'm not saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it.
I'm saying that you can't achieve it. I'm saying that you can't achieve it. I'm saying that you can't achieve it. I'm saying that you can't achieve it. I'm saying that you can't going to achieve itself.
It is all on you.
The quote says,
when you come out of the storm,
you won't be the same person that walked into it.
That's what the storm is all about.
When you can't control what's happening to you,
control how you respond to it.
That's where your power is.
When you can become in the midst of activity,
this is the true state of nature.
Happiness and comfort is not real happiness.
When you can be happy in the midst of hardship, then you can see the true potential of the mind.
Happiness and comfort is not real happiness.
When you can be happy in the midst of hardship, then you can see the true potential of the mind.
Each and every one of you, at some point in your life, you are going to hit rock bottom.
The question isn't, will you hit rock bottom?
The question is, what are you going to do with yourself when it happens?
In order to reach your goals and do some incredible things ladies and gentlemen
I say that you have something special
you have got to have faith
and ignorance
you've got to believe in yourself
you've got to believe in what you're doing
you've got to believe in your product
you've got to believe in your services
you've got to believe in a power greater than yourself you've got to believe in your services. You've got to believe in a power greater than yourself. You've got to believe
in the power of pursuit.
And you've got to be ignorant enough
to know that you
don't know what you can't do. Don't rule
anything out.
It's when are you going to start
showing up for you? Perfect time
that exists is right now, man.
Don't wait for the clouds to clear
for you to show up. Learn how to dance in the rain and allow what's trying to use you
to use it for your good. If the game of break go against you, don't let up. Put on more steam.
If the game of break goes against you don't let up put on more steam
you can never lose faith that's the key you have to believe in something that you can never lose faith. That's the key. You have to believe in something that you can't see.
You have to believe when you don't see no way how.
You have to buckle down and keep believing.
God is always coming.
Here's the deal.
The moment you ask God for something,
he boxes it up and he ships it to you.
Here's the problem with the package.
He never gives you the date that it's going to arrive.
It's going to come.
He just don't tell you when.
I came back with a fitness.
I was driven by purpose.
I'm telling you, you'll never be what you're supposed to be.
You'll never have what you're supposed to have.
You'll never ball out until you got a purpose for why you do what you do.
The people who blew up, they blew up because there was something that was going wrong in their life
and they took that pain and they turned that pain into something.
What if you lose? What if you fail? What if things don't work out? So? So what? It's not about the
goals that you reach, it's about what you become in the process. That's what it's about.
The price you will pay for not making your dream come true is far greater than the one that you will pay to make it come true.
The price you will pay, the suffering you will go through to make your dream come true is incredibly small, infinitely smaller than the price you will pay if you never do.
You'll pay that one the rest of your life.
I am so uninterested in empty dreamers, I can't see straight.
What I care about, do you have the fortitude to fail?
In life, with your goals, your dreams, your aspirations,
the things that you seek to do, the things that you aspire to do, the things that you aspire to do, the things that
you want to accomplish. Never forget first and foremost how brilliant you are. Never forget the
people that played a part in you getting in this position. Never forget what you're made out of.
But on the road to success, on the road to accomplishment, on the road to evolving and
development, people burn out, people quit, and people underachieve
because life makes them forget why they do it.
But you owe it to yourself to release the past
so you can free yourself from the things that happened
that disappointed you and move into a bold
and brilliant and gorgeous future.
Please do not let a stained past deny your spotless future.
You're paying too much attention to everything around you.
Not enough attention to this one.
But the quality of your life is essentially determined by how you carry this one
Yes or no?
this moment
What kind of clothes you're wearing?
What kind of car you parked outside? What kind of home you live in does not determine the quality of your life?
This moment how joyful are you feeling within yourself, determines the quality of your
life, isn't it so? Nothing has been done about it. You think it will happen in consequence,
and you're setting impossible goals for your happiness. The thing that's so interesting about
being alive is that you're all in. No matter what you do, you're all in. This is going to kill you.
So I think you might as well play the most magnificent game you can while you're waiting. Because do you have anything better to do? Why not
pick the best thing possible that you could do? Because you're more powerful than you think. Way
more powerful than you think. I mean, God only knows what you are in the final analysis. You're
blind to your own weaknesses, but you're also blind to your own strengths. How far can you take that?
How much good could you do? Well, I would say why don't you find out?
Are you telling the story of your own life or are you hiding in the story of other people's lives?
We hide in the story of other people's lives through gossip of people that are around us,
talking bad about them.
We hide in reality TV.
We hide in the news.
We hide in politicians.
And we hide pretending we play for these sports teams.
Those are all stories about other people's lives.
Are you in the story of your own life. Doing more work than anybody else
is required for greatness.
The most important step we'll ever take in life
is our next one.
A lot of us get our feet
stuck in concrete. We get our feet stuck in concrete.
We get our feet stuck in concrete
because we're afraid to make enemies.
We're afraid to speak what's on our mind.
All that fear clouds your brain,
clouds your thinking.
One thing in life,
we're going to always have haters.
Embrace them.
The key to freedom is knowledge and the key to knowledge is true
the key to knowledge is true.
It's possible for you to live your dream.
It's necessary that you associate
with winners. That you work
your system. That you are
relentless. That you never give up.
It's you. You've got to take
personal responsibility. You've got
to make it your personal business
to make it happen.
And you've got to resolve within yourself that I can do this, that it's hard.
But you've got to say, I'm the one.
But you know it's going to be hard.
But find out what will make it worth it for you. Fear. Fear is normal.
Every person feels fear at some point.
What should you do?
Step. Step. Take the step.
Step aggressively toward your fear.
That is the step into bravery.
We are scared of what we don't know.
And there is but one way to confront that fear.
Step. Go.
And that simple action, this simple attitude answers so many questions.
How do you get to the gym every day? Step. Go. How do you
change your diet? Step. Go. How do you overcome fear of failure or fear of success or fear of
fear itself? Step. Go. How do you face the fear of the unknown? Step. Go.
We're built to walk uphill.
And when you reach the pinnacle of the hill,
you want to stop and appreciate the vision,
but the next thing you want is a higher hill in the distance because it's the uphill climb that,
it's from the uphill climb that we derive our value
you want a goal that you can never attain right so you can always move closer to the goal that
recedes as you move towards it don't wait anymore don't think anymore don't plan anymore. Don't plan anymore. Don't contemplate anymore. Don't make any more excuses or justifications. Don't rationalize anything else. No, no, no, no.
Instead, be aggressive. Take action now.
You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts,
worrying about the pathway to the future,
but all there will ever be is what's happening here and the decisions
we make in this moment which are based in either love or fear.
So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality.
What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect, so we never
dare to ask the universe for it there are many ways to get the things that we
want for ourselves in our lives but basically it all begins with how we choose to think
as you think so shall you be seven little words that I think are perhaps the most important things that we can learn
and master in our lives. Because as you pursue that goal, you put yourself together and your
life does get better and richer and more abundant. And that's why the highest levels of virtue and
goal are in some sense transcendent.
You want them to be above everything you're doing
so you can continually move towards something
that's more sublime and better.
That's what you are.
You're here to live, not to sleep.
Excuses sound best to the person that's making them up
because you grew up in a household with dysfunction excuses sound best to the person that's making them up.
Because you grew up in a household with dysfunction, drama, mental, spiritual, physical and emotional abuse.
Doesn't mean that that's the outcome of what your life, your career is destined to be. And what I know for sure is that the biggest choices begin and end with you.
Your internal big questions.
Who do I want to be in the world?
My relationship to source energy,
to all that is God.
I'm not talking about what you believe in God. I'm talking about
your experience of that which is all life, which is divine and universal. I'm talking about the
big deal, being connected and aligned with that. When you are tuned in and charged into that,
whenever you feel empty,
you go inside yourself and you connect to the source
and you know that all things are possible.
Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing.
One of the central principles of my life is that no one knows enough to be a pessimist.
When we close our mind to what is possible for us or what is possible for humanity closes off the
genius that resides and lives in each and every one of us.
If the lion is the king of the jungle, how can he be the king of the jungle? If he's not the biggest,
he can't be the fastest because that's a cheetah.
He can't be the smartest.
So he's not the biggest, the fastest, or the smartest.
So how does a lion become the king of the jungle?
His mentality.
That's the only difference of a lion and an elephant. When a lion walks
up and sees an elephant, he thinks lunch. And it's all mentality. He may be outnumbered by a pack of hyenas, but I'm king of my jungle because of my mentality.
My number one competition is me.
It's always you versus you.
You gotta be the one to get up every morning,
be disciplined, put in the consistent daily hard work
because that gains success.
No coach, no trainer, no mentor, no boss can do it. You versus you.
Life will not always be set in the inside.
Life is the ultimate competitor. It's relentless and will continue to attack you in the least
expected. We must learn to adapt and overcome
to any and all obstacles that are in front of us.
We have to evolve.
If you want a thing bad enough to go out and fight for it,
to work day and night for it, to give up your time,
your peace, and your sleep for it,
if all that you dream and scheme is about it, to give up your time, your peace, and your sleep for it, if all that you dream
and scheme is about it, and life seems useless and worthless without it, and if you gladly
sweat for it and fret for it and plan for it and lose all your terror of the opposition
for it, and if you simply go after that thing that you want with all of your capacity, strength
and sagacity, faith, hope, and confidence, and stern pertinacity.
If neither cold poverty, famish or gulf, sickness or pain, or body and brain can keep you away from
the thing that you want. If dogged and grim, you besiege and beset it. With the help of God, you to know something.
That the bigger your dream is,
I want you to understand the heart of the grind.
There, listen to me.
Luck is for leprechauns.
And you ain't green.
I'm not bringing you a fairy tale.
What I am telling you is that if you're
willing to go beast mode, you can have whatever you want. I'm a living example. You can start
from nothing. He said, I want what all other men want. He said, I guarantee you when I
line up and they line up, I want what all other men want. I guarantee you when you line
up in your one-on-one battles, you want what all other men want. I guarantee you when you line up in your one-on-one battles You want what all other men want the same way you want the victory. They want the victory. I want what all other men want
He said but when the pressure hits
when the opposition hits
When the challenge hits when the pain creeps in when the uncertainty creeps in when the cuts when the scars when the bruises come
I want what all other men want
he said when the opposition
and adversity shows up
I just want a little bit more than they wanted
and so that's how I conquer
and that's how nobody has ever beaten me yet
I just want one thing from you
as great as you are
as skilled as you are
as talented as you are
I just want one thing from you never allow life to make you forget why you skilled as you are, as talented as you are, I just want one thing from you.
Never allow life to make you forget why you do what you do.
Lazy people do a little work and think they should be winning, but winners work as hard
as possible and still worry if they're being lazy.
You might not be a lion yet.
Some of you in this room, you might be an ant. You might have be a lion yet Some of you in this room You might be an ant
You might have small beginnings
You might not have a lot of money
You might not have a lot of resources
But he's determined
He's strong
He has a dream and a goal
And he'll do whatever it takes
And I need you to understand
That the bigger your dream is
The earlier you're going to have to get up
The longer you're going to have to understand that the bigger your dream is the earlier you have to get up the longer you will have to stay up the bigger your dream is more effort you will have to put in
you'll never see it for those of you who are 70 percent 70 percent beast mode 30 percent gazelle
that's just enough for that other person I'll do you now I'm just gonna get in front of you
don't let stop you don't let deter you
navigate around that
me versus me it means that i'm going to try to be the best that I can be.
The strongest, the fastest, the smartest human being that I can become.
That is what I'm going to go for.
And it doesn't matter that I will not be better than others when I compare myself to them.
No.
I will look at others who do achieve greatness in a category and I will say look at what is possible
How close can I get to that greatness? How close can I get to that glory?
But my glory
Doesn't happen in front of a crowd
It doesn't happen in a stadium or on a stage. There are no medals handed out
It happens in the darkness of the early morning,
in solitude.
Only thing noble about victimhood is overcoming. You can understand that the only thing noble
about your life is going to be what you show people is actually possible. Okay. We're all put here for
a reason and it's not to go over here and beat on this drum about what should be and what's not
there. The world will never be fair. The world will never ever be fair. Someone will always have
an easier path than you. Someone will always have a more difficult
path than you. Regardless of how difficult you think your path is, there's lots of people out
there who have had that same path and actually won huge with that path.
If we respect it the way we say we respect it, if we love it the way we say we love it,
if we cherish it the way we say we cherish it,
every single day should be nothing less than excellence.
You might not always be your best,
but you can always bring me the best.
Then claim one victory that no one can ever take away from me, ever.
The victory that is earned every single day.
Because I will not stop.
There's more to us than there is to the horror.
His nature is bent on our destruction.
Bad as culture is.
As malevolent as you are in the darkest part of your heart,
and that's plenty malevolent,
the possibility that's within you that can well up
the courage and the truth and the ability and the skill and the willingness to set things right, if you are willing to set them right, is more powerful than all of that. was proof for me of an old saying I read from Carl Jung. It's an alchemical motif,
in stirculinus inventur, which is what you most want to be found will be found where you least
want to look, essentially. And it's so interesting because it means that if you're willing to turn
around and to stand up, say, and stand up straight and face the darkness like fully what you discover at the darkest part is the
brightest light and not something that's so much worth discovering because there's going to be
terrible darkness in your life We bought into this complete falsehood
that at some point you're going to have the courage,
at some point you're going to have the confidence,
and it's total...
It's complete garbage.
And so there are so many people in the world,
and you may be watching this right now,
and you have these incredible ideas, You know, you may be watching this right now.
And you have these incredible ideas, and what you think is missing is motivation.
And that's not true.
Because the way that our minds are wired, and the fact about human beings, is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable, or scary, or difficult.
Our brains are designed to protect us from those things, because our brains are trying or scary or difficult. Our brains are designed to protect
us from those things because our brains are trying to keep us alive. And in order to change,
in order to build a business, in order to be the best parent, the best spouse, to do all those
things that you know you want to do with your life, with your work, with your dreams, you're
going to have to do things that are difficult uncertain or
scary which sets up this problem for all of us you're never gonna feel like it
motivations garbage you only feel motivated to do the things that are easy
and how you think and how you feel broadcast an electromagnetic signature
that influences every single atom in your life.
The thought sends the signal out, now think about this, and the feeling draws the event back.
So you could have the intent that you want wealth, you want health, you want success,
that's your intent, that's your thought, but if you're waiting for the experience to happen,
to feel it, then you're not drawing the experience to you because you're not feeling the emotion, right?
So then teaching people once again how to balance their thoughts and feelings because you can enter that cycle either place.
We start opening our heart, we start elevating the body's energy, and then those emotions can drive certain thoughts of your future other times you open your awareness you create brain coherence you have the vision of
your future you begin to emotionally experience it however you want to jump on that cycle
and then sustain it because the longer you're conscious of that energy the more you're drawing
your future to you
so everything all your goals all your dreams all your visions you're gonna
have to get your body up and drag it through space every day to pay off that
you know that home that's in your future right when
you create from the field instead of from matter when you the vibrational
match between your energy and some potential and your thoughts and feelings
are coherent now you are going to begin to collapse time and space or the
experience is going to be drawn to you now now you're the vortex to your
destiny and now you don't have to go anywhere to get it
because you're not playing by the rules.
Wherever you are isn't good enough.
And to some degree that's actually a good thing
because if it was good enough, well, there's nothing for you to do. So it's actually maybe a good thing that it's insufficient.
And that might be why sometimes having less is better than having more. And I don't want to be a
Pollyanna about that. But it isn't always the case that starting with little is...
If you start with little little you start with more possibility
everyone has an element that they thrive in. If you take someone out of it, their element, they won't be the same.
So we have to create an environment where we thrive.
And then finally it's energy.
Some of us love high energy environments, high pressure.
Some of us succeed in low energy environments
and low pressure.
Figuring out your energy and the frequency
on which you operate best will help you thrive as well.
So for me, those are the three E's.
To really create a thriving environment.
Know your element, know your environment, and know your energy.
And so at all times, if I see anything going wrong, I'm going, is my element out of alignment?
Is my environment out of alignment?
Or is my energy out of alignment is my Environment out of alignment or is my energy out of alignment?
That's a great three question test you can do to yourself when you don't think things are going right
And all you have to do is bring that back
You think when it comes to success like getting getting there, making it, achieving it,
the way that you see somebody that's achieved it now, however you define that,
and you look at them and you think, oh my God, they're amazing.
You think you're going to think the same thing about yourself, and you won't.
The thing that you'll resent isn't whether or not you make it.
The thing that you'll resent is, now that you know you can, will you actually try?
Trying is what you're going to judge yourself on.
Your family won't weep for you if you don't succeed.
Two things will happen on your deathbed if you fail.
You really went for something and you failed.
One, they will all mourn that you weren't able to live your life because you were so myopically focused on the goal
that you forgot to enjoy the journey.
And somewhere along the way, you stopped loving.
You stopped loving them.
You stopped loving yourself.
Because all you could see was succeeding,
getting that thing, the tick on the paper box, and you lost your way. That's possibility
number one. Possibility number two is they're like, hey, this tribe, and it was inspiring.
And just to see them go day after day after day
in the face of so much defeat
but to have the will and determination
to keep going.
Winston Churchill said,
and I quote,
success is going from failure
to failure to failure
without a loss of enthusiasm.
It doesn't matter if you win,
that's not success.
The success is going from the failure
to the failure to the failure
and still being excited to show up.
It's like, this is how I liken success.
Success is like love.
You know the beautiful part about love?
Getting the shit kicked out of you
and then coming back for more.
That's so hopeful.
That's so optimistic.
To be like, whoa, I just had my
ass handed to me. And yet I want to be vulnerable again. I want to go through this again. I want to
open myself up to this. I want to be touched by that. I want to feel that people can get behind
that, man. We can get excited about that. We want to be friends with people like that. We want to
feel that in our own lives lives that willingness to have tasted defeat
and still come in open and not jaded how beautiful is that
you know i believe that self-love is very important
you know i'm always talking about loving oneself I never trust anybody who tells me he or she loves me
if the person doesn't love herself or himself.
So I like to look at self-love.
It is very important that it comes from within,
that you have a sense of yourself,
so that when you walk into an office,
you don't go alone.
Bring your people with you.
Bring everybody who has loved you.
Life is always happening for you, not to you.
If you believe it's happening to you, of course it is. You look for what's wrong, what's wrong is always happening for you, not to you. If you believe it's happening to you, of course it is.
You know, you look for what's wrong, what's wrong is always available.
But if you train yourself to look for what's right and you find it,
you won't be the person sitting on the curb crying or feeling sorry or...
You'll be like, I'm going to crush it.
And I'm going to find the good in this.
It's not good on the surface.
But it becomes good when you do something with it.
Many people in this world that are wanting, waiting, saying, asking, begging, hoping,
will someone help me cross?
We all have the power to be a point of life. Head down endurance, and that'll get you through bad times, that endurance.
It's such an underrepresented virtue, that ability to trudge forward under a unfairly burdensome load
is a testament to character.
And it's something that should be encouraged and valued.
I mentioned courage, and I would like to say something else about that.
Finding courage in the leaders and in you who will become leaders.
Courage is the most important of all the virtues.
Because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You see, you can't be consistently kind or fair or humane or generous.
Not without courage.
Because if you don't have it sooner or later, you'll stop and say,
ah, the threat is too much.
The difficulty is too high.
The challenge is too much. The difficulty is too high. The challenge is too great.
When you are able to align who you are, who you've become in the world, with really what you've come to do in the world, when your personality serves the soul.
The more you allow your pain to render you inactive,
the worse the outcome, including exacerbation of the pain.
And depression is a pain disorder,
and so that's very much worth thinking about too.
It's like, move forward, move forward, move forward.
It's like one bloody foot in front of the other up the hill. People say you have to have a lot of passion for what you're doing and it's totally true and
the reason is is because it's so hard that if you don't any rational person would give up
it's really hard and you have to do it over a sustained period of time so if you don't love it
if you're not having fun doing it you don't't really love it, you're going to give up.
And that's what happens to most people, actually.
If you really look at the ones that ended up, you know,
being successful, unquote, in the eyes of society and the ones that didn't,
oftentimes it's the ones that were successful loved what they did
so they could persevere, you know, when it got really tough.
And the ones that didn't love it quit
because they're sane, right?
Who would want to put up with this stuff
if you don't love it?
There is thought and there is emotion.
The way you think is the way you emote, isn't it so?
Thought is agile.
It changes direction just like that.
Emotion is little sappy.
It takes time to turn around.
So that period you struggle as if there are two dimensions of thing happening.
And it's worth asking yourself it's like drop what you're doing that's foolish that you know
is foolish and pick a name that's worthwhile you know to make things better for yourself like
you're worth taking care of like you're worth something you know and to surround yourself with
people who who believe the same and who are are rejoicing in your accomplishments and unhappy
when you fail, right? And you're comparing yourself to your accomplishments of yesterday and not to
someone else's today so that you're not jealous and bitter. And you put your own house in order
so that you're not cursing the world when some of its disarray might be your fault. And you're
trying to pursue something meaningful,
and you're doing your best to tell the truth, and all of that.
And then you see what happens.
Who the hell are you?
You know, you think you're a miracle of some bloody bizarre sort.
You've been around for three and a half billion years.
You know, every single one of your relatives propagated successfully.
And here you are, against all possible odds.
And yet, God only knows what's inside you.
This capacity for consciousness, the capacity to confront potential,
and to turn it into something good.
That's our responsibility.
And it really is who we are.
Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them
looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.
You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the
dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well-worn path and that will make all the difference
what is the dream for you what does the Creator's dream hold for you so often we
spend our lives wishing and hoping and hoping and wishing and desiring things
this is what I know for sure.
You don't get what you wish for.
You don't even get what you hope for.
You get what you believe.
See, unforgettable has everything to do with serving
at a level so high, so big, so massive,
that people feel like they have to change their lives
because they crossed your path.
And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.
If you haven't found it yet, keep looking and don't settle.
As with all matters of the heart, you are absolutely truthful to yourself.
With yourself, you are one hundred percent truthful.
Otherwise all kinds of tricks keep happening. happening
well an apple tree is not trying to be an oak tree, but an apple tree wants to be a full-fledged apple tree.
That effort is on in every life.
So is it in human beings.
But the problem with humanity is just this, that for every other creature, nature has
drawn two lines.
Within these two lines, they live and die.
So their idea of full-fledged is hitting the ceiling of their life. But if a human being
hits a ceiling, he gets frustrated and miserable. So essentially, what human life is, when life was in the other forms of life that you see
on the planet, nature determined a certain compulsive, instinctive ways of functioning.
Once you become human, these lines have been removed.
You can act consciously.
That means what you call as human potential is not of any kind of measurable limit.
It can go as far as you desire or as far as you have the courage to walk.
Because almost everything, all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure.
These things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking
you have something to lose. there is no reason not to follow your heart
I believe that if we are honest with ourselves
that the most fascinating problem in the world is who am I?
You don't know how the universe shines the stars, constellates the constellation, and galactifies the galaxies you don't know.
But that doesn't mean to say that you aren't doing it in just the same way as
you're breathing without knowing how you breathe. that this now moment in which I'm talking
and you're listening
is eternal
that although we have
somehow conned ourselves
into the notion
that this moment is rather ordinary
and that we may not feel very well
and that we're some
vaguely frustrated and worried and so on and that it may not feel very well and that we're some vaguely frustrated and
worried and so on and that it ought to be changed
this is it so you don't need to do anything at all what do you feel when you say the word I
I myself
I don't think
there can be any more fascinating
preoccupation than that and so therefore it's so important to consider this question what do i desire
because the moment you have a situation where you are really in control of things, that
is to say in which the future is almost completely predictable.
A completely predictable future is already the past.
You've had it.
That's not what you want.
You want a surprise.
You don't know what that's going to be,
because obviously it wouldn't be a surprise if you did.
I, a stranger and afraid in a world I never made.
And so therefore we speak of confronting reality facing the facts we speak of coming into this world and this whole sensation that we are brought up to have of being an island of consciousness
locked up in a bag of skin,
facing outside us
a world that is profoundly alien to us
in the sense that what is outside me is not me.
This sets up a fundamental sensation of hostility and estrangement.
Existence requires always as its third you can get the rocks knocking, the Sun
and the moisture, the tree crashing to the ground, the sun pouring out electrical energy.
But none of these things constitute existence
until related with the neurological complex.
Then you have to look backwards and say at the same time,
the neurological complex belongs to the same evoke the world.
If you investigate yourself, what do you mean by you?
How do you know you exist? In terms of what? What do you discover by you how do you know you exist in terms of what what
do you discover if you push that why you discover everything else that you
thought wasn't you you only know you exist because you reflect the external
world so investigate you and you'll get the external world music differs from say travel when you travel you are trying to get somewhere
and of course we because being a very compulsive and purposive culture are
busy getting everywhere faster and faster and faster till we eliminate the distance between
places we thought of life by analogy with a journey, with a pilgrimage, which had a serious purpose
at the end, and the thing was to get to that end, success or whatever it is, or maybe heaven
after your death.
But we missed the point the whole way along.
It was a musical thing and you were supposed to sing or to dance while the music was being played.
That existence is musical in nature, that is to say that it is not serious,
it is the play of all kinds of patterns.
Happiness is an emotional response to an outcome.
If I win, I will be happy.
If I don't, I won't.
It's an if-then, cause-and-effect, quid pro quo,
standard that we cannot sustain because we immediately raise it every time we attain it.
You see, happiness demands a certain outcome.
It is result-reliant.
And I say, if happiness is what you're after, then
you're going to be let down frequently and you're going to be unhappy much of your time.
Joy, though. Joy is a different thing. It's something else. Joy is not a choice.
It's not a response to some result. It's a constant. Joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are
fashioned to do, no matter the outcome. I want you to think about something right now.
What are five of the most important choices you've made in your life?
Just think about that for a second. Begin to list them off in your head.
Five of the most important choices you've made in your life.
What are the five most important choices of your life?
Just think about them for a second.
And if you altered those five choices, good, bad, or indifferent, how different would your
life be today?
Because I'm a believer that there's everyday choices we make
that when you stack them up, they make a massive difference in our life. But I'm also a believer
that there are between five and ten, a handful of moments in everybody's life, that if we make
the proper choices in those moments, the complete trajectory of our life changes. And I think as
you just asked yourself that question, you may say there haven't been five there's been two but were they and how they alter the
direction of your life I make the case consider continually that there's no
such thing as atomized individuality and so for example if you're going to treat
yourself properly which you should you have to treat yourself as an iterated
process across time properly so you you today, you tomorrow, you
next week, you next month, you when you're old, you're already a community if you're going to
treat yourself properly. And if you treat yourself properly, you're going to take into account your
family, and you're also going to take into account your community all simultaneously.
But the right place to start is with the things that are within your local control,
and there's some humility in that.
It certainly has nothing to do with instantaneous self-gratification or selfishness.
And he said the common denominator of success is informing the habit of doing things that failures don't like to do. Failure means you've now learned another valuable lesson
that pushes you one step closer to success. Failure is not the end all.
It's, it's, and, and it's clear about that. And you've got to be willing to go with that
bend because that bend in the road is the only way. Success is
not a straight line. It's crooked. It's down in the valley. It's back up over a mountain.
You could tell much about a man's character by how much truth he could tolerate which is very interesting you know
there's an idea the truth is the way and the path of life and and that no one comes to the father
except through the truth and i believe that to be the case because i don't think that you can
manifest who you are without the truth
and so I think it's it's literally and metaphorically true the the pathway to
who you could be if you were completely who you were is through the truth
and so the truth does set you free but the the problem is that it destroys everything that isn't worthy in you as it sets you free.
And that's a process of burning.
And it's painful because you cling to what you shouldn't be, partly out of pride and partly out of ignorance and partly out of laziness.
And so then you encounter something true.
And you all know this.
You all know this perfectly well.
Because when was the last time that you learned something important
that wasn't a blow of some sort, you know?
And it's often you look back at your life and you think,
oh, God, I really learned something there.
I wouldn't want to do that again.
But it really changed my life.
I mean, sometimes it can really destroy you, you know an encounter with the truth and you never really recover
But now and then something comes along and straightens you out and a lot of you has to go a lot
of you has to burn away, you know, and and I suppose in some sense the idea is that everything about you that isn't worthy
is to be put into the flames and
that's
that's another reason to be not so casual about claiming what you believe
because it isn't something that you undertake
out due caution. See life loves you, life really loves See, life loves you.
Life really loves you.
But if you don't love yourself,
it's very hard for life to bring you the goodies
because you've got this wall.
So when you can learn to love who you are,
and that's the way you were born,
when you were a little tiny baby,
we all adored ourselves.
We loved our bodies.
We loved every part of ourselves.
And then we started to listen to other people who told us we weren't good enough,
or we didn't do it right, or no, no, no.
And so we've decided that maybe we weren't very good.
And that's where we get all mixed up.
But when we can get back to that point of just adoring this marvelous critter in here. Then life says, oh,
she's got it. She's got it. Let's give her goodies. And then the next step is to be very grateful.
When you're really grateful between order and novelty,
that manifests itself to you as deep engagement.
And that's a signal.
And it's not merely cognitive. It's way deeper than
that, that you're in the right place doing the right thing at the right time. And everyone wants
that all the time. Images of paradox are representations of that state of being. So it's
there for you, but there are preconditions that you strive to aim at the best, and that has to be your fundamental ethos.
And it's a decision that, despite all of the calamities of being,
that your primary ethical obligation
is to work for the betterment of yourself and others.
How come at 7 billion meetings in the world if I lonely?
How come you lack the sense of agency control authority in your life?
Why we in so much emotional pain the loneliness the lack of power?
Love control the anxiety these are forms of emotional pain
So my mantra on addiction is not why the addiction but why the pain
where it actually is is an attempt to solve a human life problem that of
emotional pain loneliness distress anxiety whatever it is and the real
question then is what happened in my life that we incurred pain and then how do we deal
with our pain because the addiction itself magnifies the pain
it multiplies it it increases it, and they end in pain.
You have to do the process. The process is non-negotiable. It's just you have to do it.
All right, so if you have to do something, I don't have highs about it or lows about it. I know it has to get done. And if I let my emotions get involved in it,
it's not going to get done to its best abilities. So if people say you got to love the process and
then something comes in the process that you don't really love, but you have to do it.
You have to do it. You take emotions out of it and you do it. The process is a non-negotiable thing. All right. The end result is not always there.
That win isn't always there.
You can go through the whole process
and somebody went through,
didn't be as meticulous as you,
and they may get that win.
Because winning has no loyalty to any of us.
You know, people that don't work as hard,
they end up getting that win. People that aren't as hard they end up getting they end up getting that with people that aren't as qualified for the
job they end up getting that they end up getting that with do you stop the
process no you continue to get more maniacal with the process
because it's through the humanities that you that you make contact with the magic of your culture
and that makes you more than merely the child of your parents
because you are more than merely the child of your parents
you're the child of nature
and you're the child of culture
and until you understand what that means understand that you have the child of culture. And until you understand what that means,
understand that you have two sets of parents,
like the divine hero always has two sets of parents,
you can't construe yourself properly as an individual.
You're not situated properly in the world.
You don't know what your responsibilities are.
You can't orient your values properly.
And you will suffer from that.
Because life is so difficult,
you have to do something that's truly worthwhile
in order to justify it.
Time to time, you may stumble, fall.
You will for sure count on this.
No doubt.
You will have questions and you will have doubts about your path.
But I know this, if you're willing to listen, to be guided by that still small voice that is the GPS within yourself. To find out what makes you come alive,
you will be more than okay.
You will be happy.
You will be successful.
And you will make a difference in the world.
If you do what it is that you're called upon to do,
which is to lift your eyes up above the mundane,
daily, selfish, impulsive issues that might beset you and attempt to enter
into a contractual relationship with that which you might hold in the highest
regard, whatever that might be, to aim high and to make that important above
all else in your life, that that fortifies you against the vicissitudes of existence
like nothing else can.
Truly believe that that's the most practical advice that you could possibly receive.
Taking risk is not just about going for a job.
It's also about knowing what you know and what you don't know. It's about being open to people and to ideas.
It begins to take small steps, small risks.
To not only take risks, but to be open to life to accept new views and to be open to new opinions
for while it may be frightening it will also be rewarding because the chances you take
the people you meet the people you love the faith you have, that's what's going to define you.
Never be discouraged. Never hold back. Give everything you've got.
And when you fall throughout life, and remember this, fall forward. Today matters.
We over-exaggerate yesterday.
We over-estimate tomorrow.
And if we all got our act together collectively
and stopped making things worse,
because that's another thing people do all the time,
not only do they not do what they should to make things better,
they actively attempt to make things worse
because they're spiteful or resentful or arrogant or deceitful
or bundled together in an absolutely pathological package.
If people stop really, really trying just to make things worse,
we have no idea how much better they would get just because of that.
And the failure of individuals to adopt the responsibility that they know they should adopt.
Because it isn't merely that your fate depends on whether or not you get your act together
and to what degree you decide that you're going to live out your own genuine being.
It isn't only your fate.
It's the fate of everyone that you're
networked with. And so, you know, you think, well, 7 billion people in the world, and who are you?
You're just one little dust mote among that 7 billion. And so it really doesn't matter what
you do or don't do, but that's simply not the case. It's the wrong model because you're at the center of a network
It's not the critic who counts
It's not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done it better
The credit belongs to the person who's actually in the arena
Who at the best in the end knows the triumph of high achievement and who at worst if he fails he fails daring greatly
it is not about winning it's not about losing it's about showing up and being seen
the second thing this is who I want to be.
I want to create.
I want to make things that didn't exist before I touched them.
I want to show up and be seen in my work and in my life.
And if you're going to show up and be seen, there is only one guarantee, and that is you
will get your ass kicked.
So you have to decide at that moment
if courage is a value that we hold,
this is a consequence.
Running through the tape in your mind,
telling yourself you're not good enough,
you're not worthy enough,
you're not smart enough,
you're not enough. If you're not worthy enough, you're not smart enough, you're not enough.
If you're not conscious of that, then you end up acting out of that belief system
and not out of what you know to be the truest or want to be the truest for yourself.
You don't become what you want because so much of wanting is about living in the space of what you don't have.
Your better future is a dream for yourself and for your family. Where do you want to go? What
do you want to do? What do you want to be? What do you want to see? You've got to dream dreams.
Without dreams and visions, people perish. You've got to have something to go for that inspires the heart and the soul.
The dreams of love and enterprise and travel, doing things, becoming something
unique on your journey here. Don't lose your dream. Do some dreaming. You are doing something that you don't want to do, so you want to postpone it.
I am asking, why the hell are you doing something that you don't want to do?
No, because if I do this, I will get that, I will get that.
That's not the point.
There is nothing to get in this life.
There is really nothing to get in this life.
Either you lived this life in a profound and intense manner
or you did not.
What will you get in the end?
Huh?
So in the end, what will happen to you and me?
They will either bury us or burn us.
That's all will happen in the end.
You think something else they'll give you a prize?
Nothing will happen in the end.
Only thing is the process of life.
How wonderfully did you live?
That's all there is. So if you are doing
something really wonderful, do you want to pre-pone it or postpone it? So you must find
what is it that you really want to do. If you find that one thing, you will always pre-pone
everything not postpone.
And so that's how you're connected.
And the things you do, they're like dropping a stone in a pond.
The ripples move outward and they affect things in ways that you can't fully comprehend.
And it means that the things that you do and that you don't do are far more important than you think. I know you. You were too short. You had bad skin. You couldn't talk to them very well.
Words didn't seem to work. They lied when they came out of your mouth.
You tried so hard to understand them. You wanted to be part of what was happening.
You saw them having fun, and it seemed like such a mystery, almost magic, made you think
that there was something wrong with you.
You'd look in the mirror trying to find it.
You thought that you were ugly
and that everyone was looking at you.
So you learned to be invisible
to look down
to avoid conversation.
The hours
days weekends to avoid conversation. The hours, days, weekends.
Ah, the weekend nights alone.
Where were you?
In the basement?
In the attic?
In your room?
Working some job?
Just to have something to do?
Just to have a place to put yourself?
Just to have a way to get away from them?
A chance to get away from the ones that make you feel so strange and ill at ease inside yourself?
Did you ever get invited to one of their parties?
You sat and wondered whether you would go or not?
For hours, you imagined the scenarios that might transpire.
They would laugh at you.
If you would know what to do.
If you would have the right things on.
If they would notice that you came from a different planet.
Did you get all brave in your thoughts? Like you're going to be able to go in there and deal with it and have a great time?
Did you think that you might be the life of the party? That all these people were gonna talk to you? And you would find out that you were wrong?
That you had a lot of friends? And you weren't so strange after all? Did you end up going?
Did they mess with you? Did they single you out? Did you find out that you were invited because they thought that you were so weird?
Yeah, I think I know you.
You spent a lot of time full of hate.
A hate that was pure sunshine.
A hate that saw for miles.
A hate that kept you up at night.
A hate that filled your every waking moment.
A hate that carried you for a long time.
Yes, I think I know you.
You couldn't figure out what they saw and the way they lived.
Home was not home.
Your room was home.
A corner was home.
The place they weren't, that was home.
I know you.
You're sensitive, and you hide it
because you fear getting stepped on one more time.
It seems that when you show a part of yourself that is the least bit vulnerable,
someone takes advantage of you.
One of them steps on you.
They mistake kindness for weakness.
But you know the difference.
You've been the brunt of their weakness for years
and strength is something you know a bit about
because you've had to be strong to keep yourself alive.
You know yourself very well now
and you don't trust people.
You know them too well.
You try to find that special person,
someone you can be with,
someone you can touch,
someone you can talk to,
someone you won't feel so strange around,
and you found that they don't really exist.
You feel closer to people on movie screens, strange around, and you found that they don't really exist?
You feel closer to people on movie screens.
Yeah, I think I know you. You spend a lot of time daydreaming Telling you that you're self-involved and self-centered.
But they don't know, do they?
About the long night shifts alone.
About the years of keeping yourself company.
All the nights you wrapped your arms around yourself.
So you could imagine someone holding you.
The hours of indecision, self-doubt, the intense depression, the blinding hate, the rage that made you stagger. The devastation of rejection.
Well, maybe they do know.
But if they do, they sure do a good job of hiding it.
It astounds you how they can be so smooth.
How they seem to pass through life as if life itself was some divine gift and it infuriates
you to watch yourself with your apparent skill at finding every way possible to screw it up
for you life is a long trip terrifying and. Birds sing to you at night. The rain and the sun,
the changing seasons are true friends. Solitude is a hard-won ally, faithful, patient. Yeah,
I think I know you.
If you want an extraordinary life,
if you want a magnificent life,
which by my definition has nothing to do with me,
it's life on your terms.
The universe, from my experience,
creates a window if you do want to change.
If you do want help, a window is created. Now it may not be the window you want,
and it may not be this fabulous straight site
you want to open up, but there'll be a window.
Because all of a sudden your mindset is believing
there's a window, and it believes that you can change.
The mind has a tactical advantage over you at all times.
At all times of your life, the mind has a tactical advantage over you at all times. At all times of your life, the mind has a tactical advantage over you.
Why is that?
It knows what you're afraid of.
It knows your insecurities.
It knows your deep, dark lies.
And it starts to push you away from that shift.
It pushes you in a direction that is comfortable.
And I think one of the most powerful things we deserve is having to become clear of what the controlling force is
that's controlling the quality of your life.
And you and I both know
it's not the amount of money in your pocket.
It's not who you know.
It's not even what you've been through.
It's really the decisions you make moment to moment
about a couple of different things.
You want to take responsibility for your life.
I got me here.
I can get me out of this.
And I'm getting out. I'm not going to be a
volunteer victim. You could be in the best place and be absolutely miserable. You can live in a
palace and be horrendously miserable. You can live on the street and be exuberantly joyful, both are possible.
So your experience of life is where your destiny is because it's your experience of life that
determines the quality of your life, not where you are, where you're going, what you're doing.
No, these things are only socially relevant, they are not existentially relevant. Existentially
for you as you sit here, what is your experience of life?
How profound is it?
How pleasant is it?
How wonderful is it?
This is all that determines.
Now it's time to just be out on a journey through life,
experiencing new things, new ideas, exposure.
And that's what I realized.
A lot of us don't expose ourselves to new things, new ideas.
We're not open, open to new things, new ideas.
We're not open, open to different, open to change.
One of the things that we know about life is that it is always changing.
Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down.
Sometimes things go real well, and sometimes they don't.
Sometimes you're happy, and sometimes you're sad.
Now that's that thing called life.
Everybody wants to win
but in order to know how to win
you gotta know how to lose
because you're gonna lose more than you're gonna win.
But every time you lose
what do you gain from it? What are you paying for?
This destiny 100% you can take charge of this because human experience is caused from within. Pain and pleasure, joy and misery, agony and ecstasy happens from within us.
So when it is happening from within us, at least what is happening from within us must happen my way.
What is happening from within me must happen my way.
What is around me is not all mine.
Everybody has their peace in it.
Maybe I also have a peace, I can push for a bigger piece but that's it there is never going to be any time
for any human being
where the external situations will be 100%
the way you want it
it never ever will happen
but what is within me must be 100%
the way I want otherwise I am a lost case
sometimes your life will be
in a slump
just like sports
some of the best shooters
can't hit baskets different times
in games, they get in a slump
do they sit on the sideline and say
I just didn't hit a basket today
no, they continue to execute
I suggest to you that
if you are facing a challenge, don't stop
stay busy
work your plan
continue to do those things that you know that work for you after you have evaluated yourself in the situation. Continue to move. Stay busy. It's about the obstacles.
It's about the challenges.
It's about the pain that you endure along the way.
So the way out, first and foremost, we want to become conscious.
We want to see those patterns.
We want to see ourself operating.
We want to learn how to consciously become an observer of ourselves.
For a lot of us, that's the first practice.
Because consciousness is a practice.
There's only one way you succeed long term.
Anybody can get lucky and do something for a period of time.
But real success in any measure whatsoever comes when you do more for others than anybody else.
To me, everything's about grieving, right?
Like to me, everything is about like take full ownership for everything and then everything gets easy because then you're in control.
I think one of the most important success attributes is open mindedness and because open mindedness also breeds curiosity. And if we are open-minded and curious, we are generally in a great position
to find those lanes inside of which we will excel.
Your passion is for you.
Your purpose is for others.
Your passion makes you happy.
But when you use your passion
to make a difference in someone else's life,
that's a service, that's a purpose,
and that's the hack.
I urge everyone out there to create change for themselves. And you do it by practicing a new
thought, by over time allowing in a little more confirmatory evidence of that new thought. And
then before you know it, you do start to see more and more evidence. And now you've lived the
experience of changing the belief. Because when you understand the power of a five-second decision,
and you understand that you always have a choice to go from autopilot to decision maker,
everything in your life will change.
You will be a different negotiator.
You will be different in sales.
You will be unstoppable in the gym.
Because you will realize the amount of garbage that you put in the way of your hopes,
of your dreams, of your potential, of your confidence, of your courage.
Everything comes down to the decisions that you make.
There's something you want in your life really bad.
And I know the secret to making that happen.
The only secret that exists is getting out of your own way.
Finding all the myriad ways that you trip yourself up.
See, a lot of us, because of our limited vision of ourselves,
a lot of us who begin to focus on problems and enable them to overwhelm us,
we begin to think that we have no options.
We begin to believe that there's no way out.
You've got to make those kind of declarations to yourself.
I'm unstoppable.
This will not get me down.
Knowing where you are in your world today,
or maybe your second worst day,
it's time to make the best of it.
Because out of every tragedy, out of every pain,
it only gets healed when we find a deeper meaning.
When we find there's a higher purpose in it.