Daisie Dates - EP8 REWIRING thoughts, mindset, patterns and manifestation - ft Samantha Clinch

Episode Date: October 26, 2023

In this week's episode we are joined by another guest, @samanthaclinch, who is a manifestation and winning expert. We chat about all things therapy and dating and she gives us the low down on her method of attracting soul mates and how she's changed her dating patterns. As always, there's a few personal questions thrown in there too! FOLLOW THE PODCAST EVERYWHERE @DaisieDatesPodcast FACEBOOK: DaisieDates Follow Daisie: @daisiebelle Follow Sammy: @frequency.raisers Love, Dais xo

Hello, welcome to the Daisy Dates podcast where we talk all things mindset, dating apps and heartbreak. I'm Daisy and I'm Sian and today we're joined in the studio by a very special guest. Samantha Clinch is a presenter, voiceover artist, hand model and a winning mindset expert and has so much in the pipeline. Welcome. Thank you so much. I'm a huge fan of the podcast so this is very fun for me. Thank you girls. I feel like she knows everything about me already oh i do we've got a lot to discuss your bad habits behaviors somebody's gonna help us through but before we get into it we want our listeners to get to know you a little bit so we've got a bit of this or that game love it okay so in terms of dating night out or a walk and a coffee i'm a walk and a coffee girl now lovely yeah yeah yeah changed converted

cooking together or dining out I you've got to cook out no no no wait you've got to cooking together is quite intense so like few dates down the line but romantic it's relationshipy isn't it it is it is it's very like yeah I mean i yeah i that would be me okay so you're eating out first definitely okay dressing up or cozying up oh i cozying up yeah i love how much thought you're putting in this is the truth flowers or chocolates um flowers definitely cute beach or mountains oh my god mountains can't be getting sweaty on a beach with like on a date i was Flowers, definitely. Cute. Beach or mountains? Oh my God, mountains. Can't be getting sweaty on a beach on a date. I've literally thought no brainer, obviously beach.

No, I'm with you. Mountains, like hiking with a date. I'm not getting, yeah, on the beach. I literally swipe off if a boy's on a mountain. No, you don't. Yeah, like, we get it. We're on a mountain. Hooray for you. Asthmatic, can't climb.

Fair, fair enough. We'll use that as the excuse. Lay down on the beach. Safety first, love it. Text or phone calls? hooray for you asthmatic can't climb fair fair enough lay down on the beach safety first love it text or phone calls phone calls

of course planned date or spontaneous um sponny yes yeah yeah

gotta be that one too alright three traits you look for in someone um communication consistency and a very good sense of humour

oh okay yeah those are my core values and if they're not aligned we're done, we're not even getting past the second date, do you know what I mean, we're not even there love it, what would you say your green flag is, one of your best traits to date you

my personal green flag, so many because you've really worked on yourself so there probably is like i really have um green flags at me are yeah my my level of communication and i remember you saying that you're this is your thing as well right i think it's something to do with the job isn't it we're very good communicators but there's something about like i can my emotional intelligence i think is pretty spot on yes so I feel like I'd like to be matched in that area but for me personally I'm like if they need empathy if they whatever they need like I've got it and I've kind of like really worked on my boundaries and things with that now

so I'm like those are my green flags like I can give but not you know to the point where I'm burning myself out yeah this is excellent yeah yeah completely the same there um so on that kind of note you you're giving that out you're giving out those frequencies so you've just launched or you are launching frequency raises yes tell us more oh my god so so i've there's just so much to discuss it so i am um obsessed with helping other people to the point where like my whole life has been a bit mad because i i branded myself a winning expert basically like a couple years ago because i would win a bit mad because I branded myself a winning expert, basically, like a couple of years ago,

because I would win the most mad things. So I'd be winning like Armani leather jackets. I'd be winning a year's supply of vegan chicken nuggets. I then won my BBC radio show and it was from a competition called BBC New Voices. I only decided that I was going to do presenting six weeks before and I was like, that's what I'm going to get into. And then all of a sudden did this competition and I won and that's like when

I followed you oh my god was it yeah and then you were winning everything I remember everything it was it was a ridiculous thing because I was like there just has to be a formula to this and I am obsessed with the formula and that's what I do with like life coaching um sort of work as well is I have the formulas to like sort of optimize people's like mental health like to get them out of that rut and get them into feeling like abundant and magnetic and feeling like their frequency is higher so i've got lots of formulas especially around winning success business love relationships all of that and then frequency raises was born because i was like i need to share this with everyone and i need a platform for it and there's

a podcast with my therapist on there and we talk all about these things that we need to learn and how to raise our vibe to attract said tribe is this a spiritual thing or a scientific thing it's definitely both yeah I just think like I feel manifestation as a phrase now has become a cliche people are throwing it around a front and center people are like using it in the wrong way and like it's all a bit like people are i don't believe in it i'm like there's what do you mean you don't believe in it it's like it is a scientific thing like it comes from a cellular place so when you like release your limitations and your limiting beliefs and when you get yourself up into this high frequency state your body is essentially vibrating at a higher frequency

so because our bodies are filled with um like you know cells and inside the cell it's like 80 water right and if you've ever played music to a glass of water it will vibrate so that is happening all the time but our emotions are linked to the way that we ourselves vibrate so if we can get ourselves into these amazing states these high high frequency states, we attract the same frequency back. So yeah, so that is how like the science of it all works. So it is a scientific thing. And yeah, there is a little bit of magic involved too, but.

Yeah, but I think the magic is your brain is a powerful, magical thing. And I think for people that don't believe it often have tried a quick TikTok video with no action behind it. And the universe needs action. Your mind needs action. You can't just expect something to come out of the complete thin air.

No, exactly that. The magic is in the universe as well, though. I do believe that little bit of magic is still there. You need to put in the action, but the magic guides you along. Yeah. I manifest under a full moon and it's magical. Yes, exactly that. Love it.

I can't tell many people that. And don't get me started on if you tell a guy you're dating that that is like a instant ick for them anything to do with that but honestly I believe in it all you're a ball of energy have you always had this positive mindset has it always been there yeah do you know what I've been trying to think about this because I've been asked quite a lot like where this all started and I think it these kind of like this energy I think comes from the lows right so when I was 26 I lost my dad and it was just like like you know when you're like oh this is what the end of the world looks like that this is this is everything and this is like the worst thing that could possibly happen and I think from that moment

I then had a choice and I remember thinking there's two parts here and I could either go off the rails which was very like available to me at that time I was like I could definitely take that choice or I could really work on myself in this sort of like growth sort of mindset way like I was already kind of dipping my toe in meditations kind of dipping my toe in the sort of like that sort of realm and then I just decided I'm going to go for this so I pretty much gave myself like a degree in growth mindset I listened to every podcast I did all the self-help stuff which has obviously helped me massively with like what I teach now um but yeah at the time that was how I think I started to like have this sort

of like awakening of this is how I can pick myself up when I'm going through like the worst time and I've got my tricks and tips and things now that have really helped me through grief which I share with others but I think this kind of energy and this kind of like joy that I have is only because I've like seen the sort of depths I suppose that's a lot that people don't talk about the depths as much because obviously it's not very glamorous is it like we don't get to share a lot on Instagram about the the low times but I really believe from those you alchemise all your own magic and then you become like you have your like butterfly moment for sure yeah yeah wow amazing and I know you're really open about seeing your therapist online as well yeah I love her

yeah tell us about her because I know she has helped you loads oh my god okay so right I I'm obsessed with therapy and it's basically i got this therapy this this therapist because i was like i've got this pattern i'm dating the most ridiculously awful like men like that like when i say murderers and thieves like i'm not joking like okay that's not okay I'm the only one that goes for geeks, guys. It's just me. It's our type, I think. I think it's something of my type.

We need to convert, I think. Oh, my goodness. Okay. Yeah, that was me. That was literally me. I'm not joking. It got to the point where I was on this date with this guy and he was like, I've got a six-month suspended sentence.

I was like, oh, no, this has got to stop. This is now. I had a date with this guy and he was like I've got a six month suspended sentence that I was like oh no this has got to stop this is now this has to stop I had a date with one guy I mean I didn't know before going into it but he told me on the date he was a chef and like he couldn't tell me where so I was like oh do you chef for someone like really famous um and he was like no no like just don't ask I was like oh come on it's our third date, you've got to tell me. He was like, I learnt to chef in prison. I was like, right, you're not walking me home then. You're not walking me home, are you? I pretended I lived a few streets up when I was living in Chiswick at the time because I was like, you're not seeing where I live.

No, stop. Yeah, I mean... Well, not stop, yours had to spend the same as well. We're sorry, you're right. He'd done a year, so very similar. Mine was at home watching Doctor Who. Well, that's stop. Yours had to suspend its head as well. We're sorry, you're right. He'd done a year, so very similar. Mine was at home watching Doctor Who. Well, that's the day in prison, my oxys. Yours was doing Lego on Harry Potter, wasn't he?

No, Star Wars Lego. A little baby Yoda he was doing it lit up. He was well up there. Anyway, carry on. I'm actually obsessed with this. So, wow. Okay, so we hit the rock bottom, okay? And we get there and we're like oh no hang on this

is right this is right so I was like right there's a pattern here I'm gonna get this sorted and I know I need a therapist to help me with this because because what I think is like the key and I think this is what we miss a lot when in like dating no one wants to take accountability for themselves right it's hard to look at your own stuff it's hard to go like what part do I have to play in this because normally it feels like it's always happening to you, right? It's like, why are they doing this? Like, oh, is it like, and then the kind of path you go down is like,

oh, is it because I'm not lovable? Is it because I'm not enough? Is it because all these kind of core wounds that we want to like satisfy? So this is, there's so much to this, but basically the subconscious mind, right, is always driving us to a core wound. So the subconscious mind takes up 80 percent of what we do day to day 80 percent there's not ridiculous only 20 of us is actually conscious

like i'm talking right now there's a lot of our subconscious going on at the moment so um that's basically driving us to core wounding now as children of course we always have we have these little moments where our brains aren't developed enough to work out oh if i fall over in the playground and no one comes over we don't just go they're on their way it's going to be all right we think i'm not lovable so it's in those moments you have these belief systems so when you come from a place like that they kind of like grow you don't really look at them it's all subconscious you don't really like think about it and then you end up on a date with a murderer and you're like right okay there's something here how can i heal this part of myself so went to therapy and my therapist absolutely amazing she works with rtt which

is rapid transformational therapy amazing hypnosis basically so you get into a theta state you get into the parts of like the subconscious that you can't reach i'm i'm learning hypnotherapy right now on a course so you're gonna love this yeah oh my god can we all come back and do live like i need to practice on someone oh my god yeah shut up practice on me so good so it's the i think personally it's the best type because talking therapy i think great but i do think you can carry on with that for a really long time i I was all about rewire my brain now. Let's rewire it. Let's stop attracting the same thing and let's try something different.

So yeah, so I was with her for, I've been with her probably like a couple of years now. And the biggest thing that I've learned has been self love, self trust and how to say no. And those are my three pillars. Yeah. I have a question there.

She did a post about this, I think on New Year's Eve and that they are your three lessons that you've learned why why did you learn them that year what are you saying no to oh my god saying no is the most powerful energetic thing you can do whether it's saying no to a night out saying no to another drink like oh I have another one I'll just stay a bit longer if you can like love yourself enough and trust yourself enough to take yourself home when you really want to and if you can do that for yourself the energetic shift it raises your frequency so high you attract amazing things by clearing that kind of space oh my god saying no is the best thing you can do

I think I've said no to bad friendships and last year. I've said no to, yeah, just doing things I don't want to do anymore. Saying no to, yeah, just like all the things that just do not light me up anymore. I'm just done. And I think it's easy to be like, oh yeah, like saying no is great. But what would you do as the first step for somebody

who's a people pleaser? And if anything, it doesn't feel great. It feels absolutely terrifying to say no to somebody and letting somebody down what would be the first steps to I think it's so important because we do always want to rush to like the final steps and that's the thing it took me a year to get to this point of being able to say no to things and I think it does it lies in self-love and self-trust first so like having that connection with yourself it's doing kind things for yourself all the time so showing up for yourself like even if it's silly things just like making your bed look extra nice for when you get home like future you is like i'm

loved because past me did this for me do you mean it's like getting that connection with yourself which feels really weird at first but like do you mean even food prepping and you're like oh my god like i did that for me what a lovely thing for me to do for me like that whole relationship with yourself if you can build that then that's like one stepping stone to being like oh someone wouldn't do that for me oh oh well I will just sit here and like it'll be okay and no you'd go no I've got a standard I know what I like and what like is worth like worth with it when it comes to men and then the self-trust like part of that would be um really trusting your gut we do not listen to our girls especially in dating it's chronic we are so quick to be like oh like like what are they thinking and like are they like do they like me and it's like no do you like them do you yeah because i've got it's happening

a lot at the moment my friends like do you like them though and they're like but he brought me a croissant and i'm like come on do you like him like no and I'm like right act on it now the quicker you can act on that no the quicker you can get something in that's way way more aligned for you when you're working on those frequencies because when I see your Instagram lifeology you just look like you have like friends and amazing times in abundance how has learning about frequencies changed the people that you're surrounding yourself with and then therefore helped your dating as well?

Do you know what? It's so, it's such an, I've had such an interesting ride with friendships. Like when it comes to, I don't even know where this started. I think it started with school. Like I had, there were some girls at my school and we were all friends,

but there was just something there. And I was like, I remember them being not like very particularly like grateful I remember that being like my value I remember thinking like I can't be around this situation anymore so I remember we we just stopped speaking we like drifted apart anyways then I get into like another group of friends and then that was fine and all good but I think the biggest lesson I learned was that like knowing that friends come in and sometimes some of them are gonna take the piss some of them are gonna push their luck some of them are gonna like you know they might you know use you for bits and bobs like I'm sure you might have felt this as well

like sometimes with career things people come in and just like be like oh okay cool I'll like do whatever and you're like I don't feel comfortable with this but you're my friend so I feel like I have to all this kind of stuff right we wouldn't accept that in relationships like romantic ones so we shouldn't be accepting in our friendships so it's getting super clear with your values i think this is so important like right writing a list of who you are communication consistency community like what it is that lights you up if they're not aligning it helps you with the language to put in the boundaries to say no um so yeah so letting friends go actually i had like a really interesting time like last year where a really really really close friend of mine had to sort of like leave my

life and as he left my life literally because there was a whole thing but anyway he left and he was like oh um Matty's over there and I was like who's Matty anyway so then Matty came over and I was like oh I remember you I met you like last year like randomly and he came and sat down and he that Matty has now been my best friend like ever since like we are so close and I've not seen the other friend since which has been it's been a good thing the distance but yeah having Matty come in I was like oh my god this revolving door revolving doors of life yeah of like what's meant for you you know and that is a huge point as well what is meant for you will not pass you and I think that's the mantra we must remember for sure 100% and also what you said flipping it so don't accept things from relationships that you wouldn't accept in friendships I accept so

much more from men than what I would with a friend why yeah and it's it's like I said again because I'm a people please when I'm working my way through that now yeah all of this just seems really really terrifying but like we said with boundaries you'll feel amazing you just take it one step at a time and something I really try and do is make myself a promise every day and don't break that promise for myself because as a people pleaser I don't break promises to people I'm committed I'm there I would never let anyone down but myself easy peasy can let myself down all the time so every day I make a promise to myself and I don't break that promise people I'm committed I'm there I would never let anyone down but myself easy peasy can let myself down all the time so every day I make a promise to myself and I don't break that promise what was

today's today's was to have high energy and be really positive about the day love it well so far so good yeah honestly I can't tell you how good that is as a hack I started doing that for myself because I noticed with ghosting there's a there's like a big thing of like feeling like let down and like feeling like where have they gone kind of thing and it's like well where in your own life can you show up where can you not ghost yourself oh by making a promise and keeping it oh my god it's a big self-love self-trust say no like moment that is amazing yeah the self-love stuff is huge like you said showing up for yourself like I had done my meal prep I ate my salad today all the little things that you do for yourself satisfy me and fulfill me so that I never sit there thinking I need a partner they just complement my life but I don't actually need them which again is really healthy

when you get to that point um you have been quite through it lately let's say I know that you've had quite a recent upsetting time how have you been able to get through that process of a heartache yeah so so my most yeah my most recent sort of heartbreak has been such an interesting journey like oh my goodness like met the man and instantly gave was like you're gonna be my best friend I was like I we're just this is what this is gonna be and I was like there's no there's nothing romantic here like you're just gonna be my best friend and um very quickly we were like oh no we're soulmates oh oh that oh we are literally like the same mind we are like so amazing and the things that he kind of did for me was just like really level up like all the things that I had been working on previously so like doing the sort

of self-love stuff and like doing, like working out what my love language was, which is acts of service. Like I honestly, if someone like carries a bag for me, I'm like, well up. I'm like,

thank you so much. I love acts of service. And this guy showed up for me in abundance. If I ever needed him just there, like literally turning up at my house with lunch, like stunning, like it was just amazing. So that was,

that was an amazing like experience. So my bar went from obviously like you know lowest of the low to like oh of course this is of course this will make sense now this is who I've become and this is what I've attracted in um it didn't it we were together for quite a while but it didn't work out and in the end which has actually been such a beautiful sort of redirection for me because I know that he he was a teacher for me he had to come in for a certain time he had to bring me up to a certain level because I couldn't you can't see these things for yourself and then I've now have this bar which is so high I feel so grateful for him he's always going to be a friend in my life like I know like with he's so amazing that he will be um and yeah i'm just so so so grateful for that experience

and that is like how i've kind of seen the breakup and like i'm not gonna start using any sort of like language towards him or anything like that like it's hard in the moment you have your fights but when it comes to it you're like no yeah just because they've left your life doesn't mean oh they haven't left your life and yours doesn't mean it's not a blessing and it makes me feel like i spoke about someone in a previous episode of Situationship and I described him as a twin flame. And I still at the back of my head think,

if he felt like a twin flame, then surely I've made a mistake by ending it. But you feel great and he did feel like a soulmate. And maybe we just have like a temporary soulmate or twin flame that comes in for a lesson and leaves. I think it's lessons because I've also spoken about someone that it really it was only a like a couple of days four days or so but it was weekends away together because distance and it felt intense and it really did feel a certain way for me it felt different and I was like this is good this

is how it's meant to feel this is it and it wasn't it but I've learned so many lessons from him because I realized I was putting up with so much that I shouldn't have like inconsistency um which is literally one of my boundaries I shouldn't be putting up with so 100% I think it's a really mature way to look at it and I think that only comes with age I think and understanding that people can be there for lessons and it's absolutely okay and when they go you've just got to let it be don't fight it because you said, what's for you won't pass you. Yeah, exactly that, yeah. Maybe we've all just had our last lesson. Oh, it could be. Well, that's how it works.

We've all met someone that feels like a twin flame or a soulmate and it's our last lesson and they're coming. The real one's coming. I can feel it. What was the biggest lesson from it for you? It was, what's the biggest lesson from it for you it was um what's the biggest lesson it was to know that um no matter what I will always I will always be okay because I always have myself and that is something we forget a lot we have with it as a cult I don't know like culturally

we're just kind of always trying to fill a void we're always trying to like look for external validation like in all sorts of things online in real life with men and dating apps like trying to get the hit right this kind of taught me that like oh my god that external stuff does not matter it is all about like how much love myself and in a time of heartbreak and really low times what do you do to get yourself back up off the ground because i know that you have like a huge friendship group i know you're a bit of an adventurer you do lots of fun stuff what fills up your cup oh my god all the things i think this is such a good question because so i just love all the stuff so i'd say like there's systems right in place so your three

pillars like your systems are working out eating well and just communicating having a chat like surrounding yourself with frequency racers right so that's why i've like built this community because having my friends are they are such good they're so good at lifting me up they they check you and they're like no no you might think you've become the gremlin thought that it's like i'm not good enough and i'm rubbish and all these things like hang on no no it's a lie let me tell you who the hell you are so there that's like that's what I love so much about them so surrounding yourself with the good people yeah doing the systems like sometimes when you are at rock bottom you will just have to do the motions right you just have to

pretend like the world is a simulation and you're in the matrix and you're just like I've just booked in for this gym class I don't want to go but I'm going to put my shoes on baby steps take myself to the thing and then before you know it you've got a hit of endorphins smashed it next thing you know eat something nice oh endorphins continue next thing you know you're slowly going up and you're not even really checking in so yeah I say those three systems I love that so much how are you dating differently through learning all of these lessons and going to therapy how are you dating differently now um friend zoning yeah I that's that's all that's the only thing I do now so technically I've never heard of before but we move just friend zone everyone friend zone until proven otherwise

this is honestly this is my game that I've been playing yeah maybe because I don't do that at all I'm like no you're today only oh see this is the thing I feel like. I'm like, no, you're today only. Oh, see, this is the thing. I feel like where I'm at, like with blokes, I think it's just such an interesting one because I've noticed that obviously when I kind of friend zoned this guy that I was just sort of seeing, oh my God, our foundation is like indestructible now. Like this is why I feel like he can still be in my life

because we had that, we built that friendship and we built such a solid foundation for ourselves that like it's unshakable. So what I do now is like if I meet someone I fancy them and it's so funny actually this is my thing like I always go for 10 out of 10 like it's like a fun game for me I'm like that one and I just go for them and like have great chats and nine out of ten times the chat isn't quite there but we do love just the confidence of just rocking up and being like who are you then what are you doing like let's have's have a chat but I yeah I just love it I'm just like

friend zone I said this in another episode if you ever want to go up to a man just go up to them because nine times out of ten it'll make you not like them anyway it's so true yeah because the good looking ones

that you keep going for girls just the chat's not always there sometimes it is I know sometimes it is the geeks she's really pushing those geeks today we love those

really listen I'm out here on my own for the geeks okay you should have the pick of the bunch i've said this so many times yeah but they're geeks right which obviously is my type so i'm not slagging the geeks off it's just that um right we're gonna talk about manifestation yes because this is your thing can we really manifest the perfect partner okay manifesting a partner my goodness okay so I strongly believe that if you have all of your own values written down and you know exactly who you are as a person you have written down like maybe kind of what you you know what you would like to attract in like maybe a strength to a weakness that you have, for instance, if you can keep it as kind and as kind of like upbeat and

as like high frequency as possible, as you like create this kind of idea of someone, then 100% because the more, obviously the more we focus on something, the more we sort of seek it out, you know, the whole yellow car thing, like think about yellow car, you'll see 20 of them. So it's that kind of thing. It's about really really specific i think so when it comes to manifestation specificity knowing exactly what you want but also knowing exactly who you are we've we skip the stage we're like get the thing to fill us to make us better to make our parents stop telling us to get married have babies like it's just that right we've got to release the whole thing from society and do something for ourselves and it's like what what would I really

like to attract in for me and like who am I and what could lift me up into like another hemisphere I think okay so I've got a question for you now which I think is just for myself to be quite honest what would you say to someone that feels like they've like done the work, raised their frequency, has like manifested, but it hasn't worked. Have you got an answer, Sammy? Because I'm looking for it. I do. I do. I'd say let go now. OK, you've done it. You've done everything you can in that sense. Like, cool, that's great. And all you can do now is just go, oh, just relax. I don't. It's coming. It's coming. Trust it.

And trusting. So ask, believe, receive. It's like the manifestation sort of like, you know, quote. So it's like you've asked for what you want. You've got it all down. Cool. You've believed because you are, you know, your self-worth is high. You're working on your limitations. You're limiting beliefs.

You're like working on yourself. You're like doing the bits. And then just let it, like allow yourself to receive it. I think sometimes we can go for the action a bit too much, especially with dating. I see it a lot, actually, a lot of people on the apps, like, multiple dates a day, like, trying to find the one. Some people believe in a numbers game.

Like, personally, I don't believe in numbers games at all. Like, I just think it can ebb away at your soul. And we need to keep that frequency up, right? So the letting go, the letting go of it all. Like, I would say, I don't, like, if you, I don't know, I'm trying to do that frequency up right so the letting go the letting go of it all like i would say i don't like if you i don't know i'm trying to do this with my friend at the moment like right delete the apps for a week just do it for one week and see what magic you can like bring in that week it's just a little experiment like the the formula for insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results so try something completely different something you'd never do and see how it goes i think deleting the apps makes you put

yourself out there and puts yourself in a position where if you're not relying on them which i wish everyone would stop relying on them then you will meet someone in my life because you have to there's nothing else to rely on yeah exactly that and also like with that extra sort of thing of what i was saying earlier about like making friends with people you take that edge away you let go of that mask that you might not even realize your subconscious might be putting up of going like you're beautiful i want to be with you i can actually imagine our children right now it's like removing that so they're not getting a weird vibe from you like oh my god are they coming to me like are they proposing like what's going on so if you can like go into friend zone in that sense of like warmth and openness with the open heart and like the receiving energy it's

got like a big yin energy the like the healed masculine can show up with their yang and just be like oh my god this girl i know exactly how to sort of like be with her serve her like be the guy in the couple i feel i love that i mean she said try something now so you're gonna why don't you try friend zoning yeah i'll try friends please do yeah i will absolutely i'm up for it if it's working i'll do it um with manifestation you've said a few times um be careful what you wish for what do you mean my god you really do so the thing is right our subconscious mind driving that ship eight percent of it doesn't have a sense of humor so whatever you say it is essentially a spell now that's why we call writing spelling right because we are making spells all the time with our language we are casting spells okay so if you're like i'm not very good at that or if you're self-deprecating all the

time or if you're like on there never choose me or men are this or men are that you're making up these stories okay and those will become true and I believe this so so so much you have to kind of fake it a little bit at the beginning like it might not feel authentic to be like men are amazing all of them are amazing and they all like one is going to show up all these kind of things just fake whatever you need to fake at the beginning to get into that neural pathway of believing that you know that this is going to happen for you or like that you are enough or that um great things always happen to you it's lucky girl syndrome right so when you but you have to be careful what you wish for in the sense that like sometimes if you're self-deprecating if you're saying like oh i'll just end up with like you know whoever or whatever or like whatever it is um you really

will your your subconscious will drive you to that person so yeah be very careful with the language that you use because it's always listening yeah analyze the language and habits that you've picked up with phrases i would always say i'm tired 100 sometimes i wasn't even tired i just got myself into a habit of being like i'm tired and i think i think I'm like, I don't know why I said that. I'm not tired. And it's these habits and phrases of words that you're not even noticing you're saying that you're putting out. And you're just going to keep bringing back, analyse, catch yourself in those moments and be like, I'm not tired.

I'm so energetic. Yeah, honestly. And it does feel like you're gaslighting yourself a bit, but also it's listening. So just give it what it needs to get you through. I think. Yeah. How do you manifest? Do you literally write it down? a bit but also it's listening so just give it what it needs to get you through i think yeah how do you manifest do you literally write it down do you think the thoughts do you sit under a full moon do you like kind of what do you do you know i love it i love a practice like i love a full moon ritual i love i love all of that stuff i love getting in tune with like natures and like

seasons and cycles and all those things and i'm a huge fan of sound baths like massive fan them so much yeah so i love all that but really what i do now is i'll plant the seed so if there's something i want or something that's out there that i'm like oh like that's a bit me it's kind of how it all that the winning thing started it's like i'll be like oh that's the thing that i'd like or i'd like to do i'd plant the seed I'd then like ignite the fire within me which is like that inner child that's like the game like to gamify it to be like I'd really like that would be so fun and like just be silly with it in that kind of non you know like you're not put any chains or like blocks around it because you're like oh it'd just be really cool

just like have that thing and that'd be amazing and like obviously I'll get it and then you have the belief system that comes with planting the seed because you're like well yeah obviously like there is no doubt in my mind that that i can't get that so you've then like conditioned your mind the seed is planted it starts to grow and the next thing you know by letting by letting it go and being like completely fine with whatever outcome you get the thing will always come in always amazing you're just like a tea yeah you are you're like well you're a witch in our studio just giving us advice i love it uh why that because i know a lot of people like their own little methods of manifest manifesting for me i imagine hearing myself say i got it or so when i manifested passing my driving test, I did it so quickly. And I imagined and I could hear his voice of my instructor going, you ready for your test?

And the next day when I had my lesson, he went, you ready for your test? In exactly the way that I heard it. And I think that's a good little method. If you're not as good at visualising, hear yourself say something that you're going to say in the moment that it happens. Yeah. See, I'm a big visualiser. So I can visualise a dream that I want and saying and I truly believe I've manifested a lot of the a lot of my career moves anyway especially like I wrote a note to myself about the BBC because I also joined the same competition that you did but

just in a different area and I got my show a few months later not from that competition but eventually because I put my name in the drawer you know they heard about me and I truly believe I manifested that role and I've since manifested something coming up that is on a pink post-it note on my mirror right now that I did in March and it's happening next month oh my god when they fall though the manifest sorry to go off on tangent but when the manifestation gets so close and then stops at the very end and you don't quite cross the finish line, what do you think that is? And that's a personal question for Meg.

Yeah, it's a limiting belief there. So there'll be something that's blocking you, basically. So it'll be something subconscious and it will be a belief system that might not be aligning. Because I think with my BBC job and that whole winning thing, because I decided to do it six weeks before I was there was no limitations I mean there was like oh yeah let's see that's fine like there was that silliness of like that playfulness of like oh but if I don't then fine because I've got this other career that I've been doing my whole life so whatever like

do you mean it's that whole like silliness and playfulness so if there's anything going on for you at that moment where you can just be like oh no actually you know what I'll let that go yeah maybe my time span was six months of auditions for a reality tv show maybe it had given me too much time to put a block there for the time I was like 10 days out from going in wow yeah and then I was I always wondered why when I and it was on my vision board and it was a random manifestation that like I just kind of randomly put it on there and it all just happened so quick to go on a channel for reality show and then 10 days i was going on it my bags were packed and in 10 days i got an email being like yeah sorry no you've been dropped and i always wondered i manifested that though and why did i not get to the very end yeah that's so

interesting and i think that um will come from a place of you did everything you could and i think we need to remember with manifesting and all the kind of like magical stuff that happens to us like when the bad things happen it is never our fault like we can always ask ourselves like i could have done better but that's that's not how we should we should never go down that kind of path that's the gremlin path and but always to go okay it's out of my hands like this final result was like it wasn't my fault but what it will do hold up a mirror for you and it will also show you a whole new path and go but what it will do hold up a mirror for you and it will also show you a whole new path and go okay i got this close what can i get more specific with what do i really want because this is taking me somewhere else and that path is definitely right for you not to have done that like anything

could have happened that show you could have been edited really badly and like you know lost loads of jobs it could have been awful so it's kind of like always looking for like the blessing and going like okay cool we've got redirected like amazing where am i supposed to go next because i'm so excited that was the key word i was gonna say i believe whenever things like that happen it's rubbish but that's the universe just redirecting yeah they do say that i want this manifestation or something better yeah and i suppose that was well it led me here i probably wouldn't have been doing this if it wasn't so yeah didn't you manifest being a hand model? Didn't you just, that was a belief system for you, no? Didn't you just say, I'm a hand model, and you did that then?

Yeah, that was more my, like, sort of, like, fuck you to, like, the structure of how working worlds work. Do you know what I mean? Like, it was just such a ridiculous thing, because I was just like, yeah. Everyone at drama school was like, what are you going to do to make money then? I'm like, obviously I'm Hollywood.

Like, obviously I'm going to make millions, don't worry about me. And then I was like, like fine i'll be a hand model like as a joke and the next thing i know just got calls like i heard your hand model what's your day rate and i was like that's actually hilarious because that was a joke so do you mean like no bounds on that and also like knowing that they are stunning yeah we're now looking at the hands yeah show them to the camera amazing i love that it's all about just saying what you are i truly believe that oh my god obviously within reason guys but yeah um i'd say like the best formula for success is audacity like you are only as successful as how audaciously you show up and uh i think we can see it and i

don't i hate to like generalize but like you know there's there's big bossy oh men out there and they are not afraid to spread their wings. They take up space. And that's, for women, I feel like this is our biggest thing, like be audacious because that's where success lies. I think we're getting there, women, 100%. We're getting there. Don't worry about that.

So we always have a finale question on the podcast. And today's is how would your manifested partner show up how do they look to you uh do you know what like he is probably he's okay so I actually think that's quite a lot I think he is me and I think he is like in this sense of like kind of out there realm but like he is a version of me that has all those qualities that mirror back to me why I'm the way I am and they and I see like my value like rocket when I'm around them so that kind of man is like what I see for my future in that sense of like someone that will level me up but also like make like keep me feeling safe and like full of communication consistency and all those gorgeous gorgeous values how about you um so we we had previously wrote ours out uh daisy has hers obsessed yes um mine was because i read it not that long ago and i hadn't opened it for four or five years and mine

was that he would work in youtube he would have a youtube channel that would be his career and i talked about his apartment i said that he could be funny but not funnier than Meg um but now like you said I really just want someone that makes me feel safe and not have to question anything and quiets my brain down um and yeah that's really all I care about is to make me feel safe and it's not even about and be ambitious I don't have a view of what he'll look like I just want him to have the same morals I want him to make me feel safe I want him to make my overactive brain quieter because there's just no questions and just to have that feeling of being a soulmate and I'd be happy love it the feeling of being a soulmate yeah 100% I think

you do feel that when you meet the right person. Mine's hilarious. I've got lists. There's lots of pages here. But I'm just reading it now and I think sometimes the bar is so low when you're manifesting this. Don't read it. Like a really good communicator, I talk to myself. I'm like, not going to be available? Tell me. Being off with me? Tell the truth. Tell me why. Open up from honest communication, work ethic close to family I've got it all here consistency and respect I mean that's a low bar but come on consistency and

respect but I agree with you I am kind of looking for all of the traits I can give someone and them to reflect that back at me all of the great traits I've worked on and I I have an abundance I am looking for that yeah but for a man to give that to I have an abundance, I am looking for that. Yeah. But for a man to give that to me too. I think I'm looking for the opposite of me. Yeah. Well, that's fine. Like a jigsaw, so everything that I do and they do.

And I think I would, oh, someone else would like me. That would be hard work. No, I've always gone for opposite. And I think that compliment me. That's so interesting, isn't it? Yes. So good. So, Sammy, you've been amazing. Lots of lessons.

We could have went on and on and on. Tell us what you've got coming up with Frequency Raisers as well. Yeah, so podcasts and courses and one-to-one coaching and all of that good stuff. And I run a retreat company as well, and I do the mindset talks on retreats. So we go all over the country. And, yeah, I've got one coming up in october um which will be under a full moon actually better come to that because we love it big manifestation moon situation um

and that's yoga breath work and yeah healing on a cellular level that's what we do fantastic and where can they follow you um at samantha clinch is my main sort of page and then frequency.raisers on Instagram and yeah Breathtaking Retreat as well thank you for your time it's been unreal

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