Date Yourself Instead - Give me 20 minutes to shift your reality.

Episode Date: September 27, 2025

20 MINUTES. That's all it takes. In this video, I emphasize the importance of taking control of your life by focusing on healing both your mind and body. Through my personal experiences, I highlight how physical wellness directly impacts your ability to manifest and achieve your dreams. I cover crucial steps to resetting your life, cutting off negative influences, prioritizing self-care, and believing in your own vision. This talk encourages you to let go of past burdens, be selfish with your time, and push forward with determination and faith.00:00 Introduction: The Power of Self-Rescue00:16 Mind-Body Connection: The Key to Healing01:25 Personal Journey: Overcoming Health Challenges03:14 Manifestation and Physical Health04:42 The Importance of Routine and Mental Clarity05:37 Rock Bottom: A Turning Point10:15 Embracing Change and Letting Go21:26 The Power of Self-Belief and Vision29:29 Conclusion: Trusting Your Vision and Moving Forward

No one is coming to save you. You have to rescue yourself. You have to save yourself. I'm giving you a pep talk on how to change your entire life and reprogram your entire brain in order to reset not only your mind, but your body as well. There are two pieces of the puzzle that I think are fundamental parts of healing in order to get to the next level of your life

and step into the highest version of you, you have to heal the mind and body together. Both of them are equally as significant and important. What are we without our health? What can we do? What can we accomplish in life if we don't have our health? Keeping your health in check is the most fundamental piece of attracting everything you desire. Manifestation comes with feeling good and physically well.

Manifestation comes with vibrating at such a high frequency, and that includes physical wellness. Now, this doesn't mean you have to go to the gym seven days a week. This doesn't mean you have to eat perfectly clean seven days out of the week and stress out over these little nitpicky things regarding fitness. You don't have to be an expert in fitness and nutrition. You don't even need a personal trainer. But you do need to be aware of the fact that when you feel good in your body and you feel grounded and confident in your body, that's when you're going to attract abundance.

That's when you're going to get to the next level of your life. Your physical health is tied to your ability to manifest. I didn't know this. When I was in high school, I gained 40 pounds. I did fluctuate with my weight a lot. And there were periods of time where I felt really good. And there were periods of time where I felt sluggish, weak, tired, and depressed. A lot of that came when I was dealing with relationships.

Now, I was on and off with my first boyfriend for many years. And whenever we would go through a breakup, I would take it out on my body physically. This also happened to me when I was going through a major depression and I was studying abroad. I was isolated, I was feeling really alone and I was really sad and going through a time in my life where I felt really lost and I ended up putting on 40 pounds. When I got back to the States, I realized I needed to make a change. I realized that I was at a point of my life that felt like rock bottom at that time and I needed to get myself out of it. No one was coming to save me. No one was coming to rescue me and hold my hand and say, okay, we need to take care of your health.

No one was coming to do that. I had to do that. I had to look in the mirror one day and wake up and say, snap out of it. Your health matters, your life matters. Do you want to wake up feeling tired and sluggish and fatigued and just not yourself every day? Or do you want to actually wake up and feel unstoppable, strong, confident, like you could take on the world and you could actually achieve your dreams and you could actually manifest and live the life that you want to create for yourself because you feel good in your body?

I wish someone had held my hand and talked me through it, but through the power of talking to the universe and believing that there was a special spirit guide or God or angel watching over me at the time, I was able to dig myself out of that mentality and start a new life for myself through the power of movement and exercise and taking care of my body and my health. Our body is made up of energy. We are energy. Our souls are energy. When we don't take care of that soul, when we don't feed our body properly and nourish ourselves properly and take care of our health, it can cause blockages. It can cause energetic blockages in our body that prevent us from manifesting properly. You'll notice that if you feel sluggish, tired, fatigued, and you're not taking care of your health, everything in your life starts to slow down. Things become stagnant. Things don't manifest as fast. And you don't see the results you want in other aspects of your life because you don't feel your best and you just feel like you're drained and you can't seem

to attract what you're trying to attract. But when you start taking care of your physical health, I can guarantee you things will start to manifest. Things will start to manifest at lightning speed. You will be amazed how quickly things start falling into place when you feel more grounded in your body and when you feel more energized and happy because you're taking care of your physical health. Physical health is the number one key to getting everything else you want. in life. It helps you manifest so much faster. It helps you attract abundance. It helps you get to the next level because you feel good and when you feel good, you start vibrating at a high frequency. And when you vibrate at a high frequency, you start to attract miracles and you start

to attract things you could have never possibly imagined and you will see everything else in your life start to fall into place. I've also noticed when I don't have a set routine, when I'm not organized with my schedule. When I'm kind of just letting my mind race and go all over the place where I don't create a structure for myself and my life, things start to get messy because your brain is all over the place and your brain controls your reality. Your mind dictates everything. Your mind is in control of everything around you in your current physical reality. Whether you want to believe it or not, your subconscious is programmed and wired to attract certain things into your frequency and into your timeline.

Your subconscious mind right now is attracting this experience. Your subconscious mind is attracting everything that you're experiencing right now in this very moment, whether good or bad. It doesn't matter what it is, whatever is programmed in your subconscious mind is what you're seeing in your physical reality right now. The best place to start to rewire your subconscious mind is with your physical health. When I was going through the worst breakup I've ever gone through, which was my four-year on-and-off relationship.

I had nowhere to go. I had nowhere to turn. I was at rock bottom. I was negative in my bank account. Keep in mind, this was only two and a half years ago. I had nothing left to my name. I had nowhere to live. I had nowhere to go.

I had someone who I thought was the love of my life, deeply betray me. And I had nothing. I felt like I had nothing and no purpose. This was right before I started my podcast and my brand and everything I've created for myself. I knew when I was at rock bottom in that moment, I was like, I need to change my reality. I do anything to change my circumstances.

I don't want to live like this. I don't want to live broke, depressed, and feeling lost for the rest of my life. What other choice do I have but to try to take some sort of action and recreate myself, reinvent myself, rebuild myself from scratch? And the first thing that really came to my mind was taking care of my physical health more than ever. It was the biggest investment I ever made in getting myself back on track. And you know why? I knew that if I started there and I started forcing myself to go to the gym after being bedridden for weeks and being unable to move and being unable to go out and socialize and be

happy, if I just got myself to the gym and if I just pushed myself to get to the gym, I knew there was hope for me. I knew that I'd be able to make a small step towards greatness again. I knew that I'd be able to make a small step towards changing my life for the better. And it wasn't easy. It was really hard because when you're going through a major depression, when you're going through a major difficult time in your life, it's hard to push yourself to do things. But you have to remember that life can be so good for you.

If you learn the concept of having faith and trust in God in the universe and persevering and knowing that you were meant for so much more than laying in your bed and crying over a man who couldn't give you anything, who couldn't give you anything but the bare minimum, or less than the bare minimum. You deserve everything you've ever wanted in your life. You deserve to fulfill your passions and your dreams. I'm no better than you. Why do I get to travel to Bali

and experience these amazing experiences I'm experiencing now and do what I want and have a business that I love and a passion that I'm driven about? Why do I get to experience these things? Because I pushed myself. I did everything possible to get myself out of the biggest rut I've ever been in in my life.

And you can do it too. I know that if I could do it, I promise you, you can do it too. You deserve a total reset. You are going to feel so fucking unstoppable and you're never going to look back at your old self. You're not even going to recognize that person anymore. You're not going to even want to look back at your old self. When you look at photos of you now and then in six months from now, I promise you. Even in a month from now, I promise you, you will be like, who is that person?

I don't recognize her. I don't recognize that version of me because I'm resetting my mind, body, and soul. I'm resetting my life and I choose to live a completely different reality because I'm going to tell myself every day that I deserve better. Everyone deserves to live the life of their dreams and I stand by that. When I see someone who isn't fulfilling their mission and their passion and they're not doing what they love and they're struggling or they're going through a really bad breakup or they're just going through a really hard time in their life, all I want to do is help them and show them the other side because I know how good life can get because I've been at rock bottom

but I got myself back up again and I know you can do the same and I know you're going to do the same you were brought here for a reason destiny brought us together because you know that you deserve more out of life and you know you're about to get more out of life you just need that little extra push to get you there

and I'm going to be that extra little push for you because I want to see you happy I want to see you glow up, succeed, and become the best version of you. That's all I want for you because I know you deserve it. If you're a good person with a good heart and you radiate kindness and all you want is to be the best version of you, I've got you covered. All you need is a little push to tap into that highest version of you and to unlock that higher timeline where you could fulfill your potential

and become the greatest version of you. Because you're really there. That version of you, if you see that version, if you could visualize that person just to bit and see them thriving and see them happy, that timeline for you already exists. That timeline for you is there. It's just a matter of accessing it and opening the door. But I have to be completely real with you. You can't have one foot in your old life and have one foot in the new life and expect to

see results. You need to be fully committed to the new life. Are you ready to make that change? Are you ready to let go of the toxic X? Are you ready to let go of the toxic friendship, of the toxic family members, of the people, people that judge you and hold you back and are draining you and sucking your life force? Are you ready to detach and let go? Are you fully going to commit to this new version of you?

The key is to leave the old self behind. You have to be brave enough to walk away from your past. You cannot hold on to the past and expect a change in your future. You can't. If you keep clinging on to the past, if you keep holding on to that person that's been hurting you for the last few years, if you keep holding on to friends that are judging, you're judging you and nitpicking you and preventing you from tapping into your highest potential. If you're holding on to that job that's making you miserable every single day, if you're

afraid to let go of literally anything that you know isn't serving you, you are blocking yourself from tapping into your fullest potential. You are blocking yourself. You are causing the blockage by not letting go. Letting go is a part of leveling up. The most successful people in this world are able to live the life of their dreams and get everything they want out of life because they were willing to sacrifice their old self. They were willing to burn their old self at the stake and jump into a new reality and trust that it was going to work out for them, even though it was fucking terrifying. Every time I've ascended to the next level of my life and started a new chapter of my life and jumped into a higher version of me, I've had to let go

of people, places, and situations, and it was not easy, but it was necessary. I was in a very abusive relationship, and my blessings were constantly being blocked because I could not let go of this man for the life of me. He was my soulmate. I would do anything for him. I would bend over backwards for him, even though I knew that the relationship wasn't healthy. I was so addicted to the toxicity. I was so addicted to the chase and the highs and the ups and downs and the roller coasters that I was so blinded and I kept blocking my blessings. But because I finally made that conscious decision to cut ties and walk away, and I finally trusted God over my own brain that was clouded and that wasn't thinking clearly and that wasn't

judging the situation clearly, when I finally leaned into my future self and I said, you know what, it's time. I can't do this anymore. Something inside me snapped. I needed that push. I needed that push into the next level of my life. And I said, I'm done. I am done. And the second I slammed that door shut finally, I slammed it shut hard. The world opened up for me. I met new people. I made new friends. I made triple my income. I was glowing from the inside out. I became closer with my family members. I became closer to God and discovered God and built a relationship with him where I'm now doing what I love times 10 because he's given me so many new opportunities having that new sense of power and having that vision now that I had that I didn't have before where I could see

so clearly and see my future self and see my goals and see what I deserve whereas before I always felt stuck when I finally slammed that door shut and finally decided to let go and said I need a reset I need to reset my mind body and soul right now. Everything changed for me. After I slammed that door closed, people started to look at me differently and treat me differently. When you start to respect yourself and you create new boundaries for yourself energetically and you feel different because you're like, I'm not tolerating bullshit anymore. I'm ready to be my future self. I'm ready to be that strong, confident, unstoppable person. People will take you way more seriously because they'll feel your energy shift

and they're going to be like, whoa, what changed in this person? Life is so, valuable and precious. Your life matters. Your life matters. Don't you want to live every single day feeling incredible, feeling powerful, feeling like you've gotten everything you want out of life, living out your dreams, feeling like when you wake up, you just want to create, feeling inspired. Don't you want to live a life like that? We have one shot. You have one shot. You have one shot on this earth to create your life, to create your dream reality. Stop letting these people and these weirdos that don't value you hold you back. That is no way to live.

And that's also why I'm here because I want you to reset your life. I want you to reset your soul and wake up and be like, what was I thinking? That wasn't me. That wasn't me. That version of me does not exist anymore. It is time to become the best version of you. will physically see it too. When you're taking care of your physical health and combining it with resetting your subconscious mind, people will not even be able to handle you energetically.

There will be people that will drop out of your life like flies because they don't know how to handle that version of you because you're too powerful. When I finally close the door in that relationship, I looked different in the best possible way. People around me were telling me that I looked like I was literally glowing like an angel. My best friends, they were looking at me. We went out to dinner and they were staring at me, and one of my friends says to me, she's like, I can't take my eyes off of you. You look like an entirely new person. What did you do? What did you do?

Did you have like work done or something? I'm like, no, not recently. I mean, I've had Botox before. But no, nothing new, nothing different had changed. Nothing different had changed. She said it was an energy thing. It literally looked like there was an angel light shining around me. Because there was.

Because once you reset your soul and your energy feel, Everything else in your life will change and you will literally glow. It's called a glow up for a good reason because your energy will make you glow. Your energy will be so good and in such a high vibe place and you'll be vibrating so high at such a high frequency that you're literally going to glow. And people will see that and people will be like, what did you do? You look amazing. And you know why you look amazing?

amazing because you reset your energy. And you took your power back. You are so powerful. And when you start to give it away to other people, you start to lose that glow. You lose that glow because you've given your power away to someone or something that isn't serving you and isn't right for you. God will tell you when something's not right for you because you'll look dull. That might sound a little harsh, but it's true. Whenever I've been with someone that wasn't right for me, I started to literally look uglier. And I was talking about this with a couple of friends of mine. It's true. You'll literally look less attractive because you are giving your life force and your good, powerful energy away to someone and they're sucking it out of you. That is what

energy vampires do. They will make you literally look uglier because they are slowly sucking your power. It is facts. I have been through enough situations and relationships to know that energy vampires are out there in the world, sucking the life force out of amazing, incredible, powerful people like yourself. So if you're in a situation like this, or you've been in a relationship like this, where you felt amazing and powerful and confident and beautiful, and then someone came into your life and knocked you upside down and made you feel worthless, you don't have to do this to yourself anymore.

You can change the narrative. You could take your power back. You could get that energy back just by refocusing where you're placing your attention. stop giving your attention and your valuable golden glowing energy to people that don't love you or value you or respect you all they're doing is taking it and not giving you anything in return the right person will make you glow will make you shine will make you better the right relationships the right career the right situations the right environment anything that is right for you will make you glow even more what is holding you back and draining your life

force right now I want you to get out a pen and paper and write down some things in your life that you think might be draining you or holding you back. Get real with yourself. Who or what is holding you back and stopping you from achieving your life and becoming the best version of you. What's stopping you? Who's stopping you?

Cut them. Cut them and cut whatever it is and let go of whatever it is that is no longer aligned with your higher self. Be real with who you are. Do you want to let external life forces control you and control the show of your life? Or do you want to take action and say,

I'm ready to step into my power and let go of the bullshit? I dictate the rules. I dictate my reality. I say what goes. Everything is up here in your mind. Everything is up here in your mind. Your brain is so insanely powerful and you don't even realize it sometimes

because you're so lost in the fog of the BS of the everyday small details of your life. And I'm guilty of it too. And that's why I'm here to teach you and pull you out of it it because I've been through it. I've been through it. Focusing on a man who doesn't text me back. Focusing on the breakup when it happened two years ago. Focusing on a friend who might be envious of me. Focusing on a business partner or a family member that seems to be resenting me for some reason. Okay? Whatever it is. Whatever it is. Snap out of it. Wake up. Wake up.

It's time to reset with a new mindset of strength, of resilience. of determination, of drive, of passion, where you're not going to let the small things get to you. You're going to be able to brush things off your back, like it's a piece of fucking cake. That's how the most successful people in life get to where they are in life. They don't get swept up in the bullshit.

They focus on the long term. Where do you want to be in five years from now? Where do you want to be in 10 years from now? 15 years from now? Do you still want to be sitting on your couch, eating ice cream and sobbing over a man who can't reciprocate or a woman who can't reciprocate? Or do you want to be on top of the world, on top of your game,

making a lot of money, if that's what you want to do, fulfilling your dreams, building an empire, raising an amazing family with the love of your life? What are your goals? You just have to know what your goals are and know what your standards are for the life that you want to create. What type of life do you want? It's okay to stay where you are,

but I think you want to change. There's a part of you that wants to evolve and get to that higher timeline Because you know that you are capable of anything. You know that you're capable of so much more than the life you're living right now. But you just need that little push and you're going to get there because I believe in you.

And you believe in you. I know you do. Being selfish is necessary. In order to get to the next level of success and to actually be successful, you have to be selfish. You have to place boundaries on yourself, who you allow into your life, what you do in a day basis matters, where you put your energy matters, where you show up matters and where you put

your energy matters and where you focus your attention matters greatly when you're trying to build yourself and access that future timeline. When you want to access that future version of you, you need to be a little bit selfish. It's just how it goes. People will tell you that's really selfish that you're always trying to put yourself first. That's really selfish that you canceled plans. That's really selfish that you're not willing to give me all of your time and attention? Why is that selfish? Why do we always have to cater to everyone else? What about catering to ourselves so then we could show up as better people and help other people once we're healed, once we have what it takes and once we have enough to give? You can't give from an empty cup.

If you're struggling right now, why are you putting your friend's feelings and other people's feelings before your own? If you are in a place in your life where you want to get to the next level, why are you helping other people build their dreams? You have to understand that being selfish is a part of leveling up. Some people are going to watch you start to prioritize your needs over theirs and they're going to get uncomfortable. You have to block out the noise. Those aren't your people. Your people are waiting for you in your future timeline, in your future reality. You have to cut out people that aren't allowing you to grow. Because if you're not allowed to grow because someone's jealous or uncomfortable with it, it's going to hold you back. It will hold you back.

One of my favorite motivational speakers and authors, Joe Dispenza, talks about the concept of being on an airplane. They tell you to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. Why? Because you need oxygen to be able to help other people. If you didn't have oxygen, you would be useless. If you're not in a good place in your life and people are expecting you to show up for them all the time, what good is that if you can't show up properly? You can't You can't show up as this amazing friend if you can't take care of yourself. You can't show up as an amazing partner if you don't love yourself. You have to fill your own cup before you help others.

Being selfish during your healing process is necessary. You don't have to feel guilty about prioritizing yourself and prioritizing your boundaries and your standards and your needs. That's the only way to get to where you need to be. If you currently have a 9 to 5 job and you don't have a lot of free time, think about where you could use your energy when you do have that free time. If you're currently spending your weekends going out and getting wasted but you want an entirely new life, a new profession and you want to build on your dreams of being an entrepreneur

and being independent and not working a 9 to 5, maybe you have to give up that weekend lifestyle. Maybe you have to give up partying on the weekends and sacrifice that a little bit just so you could get to the next level. You have to make significant changes in order to access that future version of you. You have to be willing to give up old habits that may be keeping you stuck. When I was in college, my dream was to work for myself out of college. I was studying to be a teacher, but I didn't feel that that was my soul calling. If that's your soul calling and you feel that you were born to do that, that is incredible and that is special. And I think teachers are special and it's a life-changing job and teachers have changed my life. But for me personally,

I knew that wasn't my purpose. I believe that everyone is put on this earth for a specific mission and a purpose. I knew that wasn't mine, but I didn't know what to do. I had no plan. I had no job. I had nothing. I was working as a hostess. I was trying to figure it out. Nothing was clicking. And then Instagram came out. And Instagram was a new platform that was not by any means no one had an Instagram at this time. It was years and years ago. And I had one vision. All you need is a vision and the rest will fall into place. The vision was I want to do something creative with my life. That was the message I got in my head, but I didn't know the steps I needed to take. I didn't know what I was going to do. I just knew that I didn't want to be a teacher and I wanted to do something creative and I wanted to work for myself. Now here's where the interesting part comes in. Instagram was so new that there was no such thing as an influencer. There was no such thing as brands on Instagram paying people to travel or to post them. It was none of that.

It was nothing close to what it is today. But I had a vision. I had a vision of me doing something with social media that was going to help me build a career. I didn't know what. I didn't know what I was doing. I was going in blind. But I knew one thing. I was determined to make it happen.

All you need is determination and drive. All you need is the vision and then everything else will fall into place. God will support you in that vision. God has your back. I believed in myself. I believed in myself. And when you believe in yourself, you're an extension of God. You're an extension of energy and of the universe and everything that the world is made up of.

You are an extension of that because you are energy. So at the time, I truly believed in myself. And my parents were like, so what are you doing after school? What are you going to do? I'm like, I don't know, I'm going to figure it out. And that's exactly what I did. I gave up my college life to focus on building my first Instagram account. I gave up going out, partying, drinking, I gave up friends, I gave up time with my roommates.

I gave up everything. I cut everything out of my life to go all in on my dream and my vision. And I didn't know where it was going to take me. For all I knew, Instagram could have existed for six months and it could have tanked and it could have been an app that never existed ever again because there's a lot of apps that are popular for a hot minute and they fade. but I had faith in what I was doing, and I saw the future in Instagram, and I saw the future in social media, and I ran with it. I also had one cheerleader that really helped me through it too, which was my older brother. Now, there were a lot of people that were saying,

oh, what are you going to do if Instagram goes away tomorrow? They've been saying that since 2010. People are going to infiltrate doubt in your head and fear in your head. If you hear all those voices in your head, and maybe it's your own voice too, it might be riddled with fear, might be riddled with, you know, doubt because that's normal and people are always going to have something to say. But you have to believe in you and all you have to do is affirm that you're making the right decision for yourself and trust that inner calling and trust that knowing. For some reason, I just knew that social media was going to take off and Instagram was going to be a thing. So I ran with it and I pushed myself. Even though people were bullying me, were making

fun of me, had these anonymous forums about me in college, people were destroying me, okay? And I had very few friends. I had some friends, but I had very few. And it took all of me to keep going. I remember I had so many low moments in school where I felt so isolated and so sad because there were so many nights where I was just working on building my empire and building my social media. And I wasn't around anyone. I was doing the work alone. The only voice I had was me. The only voice I had was me. That taught me that I was enough. Because after all of those nights and after the sacrifices that I made to get to where I am, I am so grateful I kept going and I am so grateful I trusted myself and I am so grateful that I pushed on and moved forward

and created the life I created for myself. Has a lot changed since then? Yes. But if that story can inspire you a little to actually trust yourself and to stop listening to other people and go all in with something new and listen to that inner voice and listen to that calling, just know that it's all worth it. Your soul knows where it needs to go. You just just have to tap into it and trust it and tune out the noise. Tune out the haters, block the haters. People are always going to have something to say. Even two years ago, I was literally at $0 to my name.

My parents were very concerned, as parents would be, if their child is struggling financially, and they were like, what are you going to do? Where is this podcast going? What are you doing? I'm like, listen. I have a vision. I have the vision. I just see it.

Date yourself instead as a movement. It's not just a podcast. it's a movement. I want to help people. I want to change the world. I want to help people heal. That's my soul calling. That's what I've always wanted to do. I love giving advice. I love helping people. I love seeing people become the best versions of themselves. That's literally what I was put on this earth to do. And not a lot of people are going to understand your vision. But if you understand it, that's what's going to pull you through and that's what's going to get you to the next level of your life. All that matters is that you stick to your vision and you believe it. I believe in you,

and I'm rooting for you, so let's fucking go.