Date Yourself Instead - How to DETACH AND MOVE ON, FOR GOOD. The only detachment episode you'll ever need.

Episode Date: May 26, 2025

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Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of Date Yourself Instead. Before I dive into today's episode, I want to mention my masterclasses, Dare to Detach and the Mind, Body, Soul Reset, are no longer going to be available starting in June. So I highly recommend if you've been interested, if you've been thinking about taking my masterclasses, you better grab them now. Doors are closing permanently for the summer as we're rebranding. We're doing a lot of different things this summer with the podcast. doors are closing for my most popular masterclass dare to detach very soon.

This masterclass has been such a big game changer for so many of you guys. Dare to Detach is all about cutting the cord and reclaiming your power and literally quantum jumping into your new reality where you're not obsessing over them anymore. You're not waiting on anyone anymore. You're not checking their social media 10 times a day anymore. You're not convincing yourself that they're in love with you when they've literally moved on to someone else, okay? You don't need closure. You need an energy shift. And this masterclass is going to truly change your life in just four days. It's a four day masterclass designed to completely shift your

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been thinking about it. I highly recommend going to the link in my show notes during this episode or after this episode and downloading the masterclasses now. They're at the lowest price they'll ever, ever be. The bundle is at an amazing, amazing value. All of the details, all of the information and all of the testimonials are also on the website and you can get everything you need on the website. Just click the link in the show notes or go to my Instagram at date yourself instead. Click the link in the bio or on my stories. We're running the sale on there for the next two. two weeks and then doors are closing forever. Dare to detach, once again, it's on sale for $97. That's less than the dinner you cried at when he ghosted you. So it's a great value in my

opinion and I highly, highly, highly recommend you go grab it before doors close permanently for the summer. I can't wait to see you there. And now let's get into today's episode, which is actually all about detachment and your step-by-step guide to fully letting go and reclaiming your power. I'm going to say this is a little preview into Dare to Detach, into the Masterclass. This is an episode that's going to break down my mentality around letting go, detaching, and how it changes your frequency and what will happen as a result of you fully letting go and trusting the universe, trusting God and his plan for you. This is going to go into everything that I've done and my thought process around detachment and why it's crucial if you want to better your life and why it's essential if you want to manifest the perfect partner or if you are trying to get someone back into your life.

This episode is going to walk you through everything you need to know. So let's get into it. First things first. Detachment doesn't mean you stop caring. It just means you stop basing your worth and your peace and who you are on something that lives outside of your control, okay? Something that is outside of your control. You're trying so hard.

Stop trying so hard. Number one, detachment is not about not caring. It's about understanding that you are worth more than what you're trying to chase after. the less you hold on and the less you're squeezing and gripping onto something, the more clearly you're going to actually be able to see if it's destined for you, if it's meant for you. Oftentimes we get into a delusional state because we're so focused on this one thing, this one person, this one relationship, and we put this person specifically, I think if you're listening to this, you're probably trying to detach from someone.

we put them on a fucking grand pedestal, okay? We idolize them energetically. It doesn't mean we actually think that they're better than us, but because we're chasing down their energy and because we want them so badly to be with us, we want them back into our life. We want them to want us. That is communicating energetically that they are better than you, that they are more deserving of you in every aspect of their life.

and that you're worth less than them. But the less you squeeze and chase and hold onto this person energetically, the more likely they are to come back to you and move towards you without so much resistance. When you're holding on so tightly, you're creating an unnecessary amount of resistance on them. Okay. This is how the laws of energy work. When we're chasing after someone, when we're forcing shit,

when we're trying so hard to make things work with a specific point, person or a specific situation, what's happening is you're pushing them further and further out of your orbit unintentionally because obviously we have this mechanism in our brain where we're like, you know, if we try harder, if we think about them, if we journal about them, if we manifest them and try to, you know, do these love spells on them, they're going to want to be with us. They're going to want to be with us. The truth is they're not going to want to be with you if you're doing that because what you're saying once again is that they're better than you and that you're not worthy of them and their energy and their presence and the more you talk about them the more you feed into conversations with

them with your friends the more you're screenshoting their messages the more you're giving them your vocal energy and your sacred energy and enveloping them into your energetic field and your space all the time what you're doing is pushing them further away i need to reiterate this the more energy you're throwing at them, the more mental space you're giving them, the more they're living rent free in your head, you are pushing them further away because that is how the laws of energy work. It's just how it is. And I get it. It's so hard and so frustrating in real time because I'm also speaking from direct experience. There was a couple of people in my life that I was frankly, transparently fucking obsessed with, fucking obsessed with. Okay. And

And I didn't realize how energy worked at that time. I didn't know. I didn't understand it. And I thought by trying harder, because I'm a hard worker. I'm very disciplined. I'm a Capricorn. Okay. We like to work hard. We like to use our drive to push things to get what we want. And I've always been a big believer. The more you try, the more you work hard, the more effort you put towards something, the more likely you're going to get it. But with the laws of energy and when it comes to love and relationships and people, specific, specifically, this usually isn't the case because it's sending a signal out to the universe that you're not okay without this thing. You're not okay without this person. And what that does is it repels it further. Because the universe and God wants to make sure that you are fully mentally stable and emotionally okay without this person. Because then you're energetically matching its vibration. If you're chasing it, if you're desperately clinging and chasing onto someone or something, you're communicating, you can't handle the energetic space for it. You're not operating at the same vibration as this person. They're above you vibrationally because you're literally chasing. You're

literally chasing after them because you're trying to fill this void, this need that if you get them, you're worthy, that if you get them, then everything else in life is going to be amazing. If you achieve this, you achieve their love, if you achieve their presence and they want to be with you finally, it's like you win this grand prize and you feel more worthy. But the laws of energy and God and the universe, this could all be tied together. It just doesn't work that way. You receive what you're a vibrational match for. So stop holding on, stop clinging out of desperation and download Dared to detach. No, but really. Seriously, okay, the reason I created Dairy Detach was because I began became obsessed with this idea of understanding how energy works. You are the creator of your reality

through energy. And when you learn how to detach and learn how to live in your own energetic space, the right people, the right situations, and the right blessings will always come into your life. You become a magnet for miracles. You become the creator of your reality through the power of your thoughts. What if I told you, you can change the script of your life, change your reality entirely by the power of your brain and your thoughts and your thinking and your energy because it's true you are the creator of your reality so if you're constantly asking yourself oh my god why aren't they texting me back why don't they like me they were obsessed with me they were obsessed with me they were obsessed with me and now they don't like me anymore they broke up with me they left me for someone else why do you think

that is because you changed you changed because you became desperate for them because you stopped being that magnetic, powerful person that you are, because I know that you are. I know that you have it in you. If you're listening to this right now, I know you're fucking powerful. You have everything you need within you. You have all the love you need within you, okay? But if you're chasing, if you've become the chaser and you've become desperate, that's why they're not acting the same. That's why they're acting up and that's why they are not acting the way they used to act towards you. That's why they're not pursuing you anymore. That's why they're not giving you the same amount of of attention and energy because you've become desperate mode. You've fallen into desperate mode.

And I'm once again speaking from real, real personal experience because I know how powerful I am. There's nothing wrong with knowing how powerful you are as a woman and being confident in your skin and knowing who you are. I know my powers. I know my energy. I know my heart. I know everything I have to bring to the table. And I'm confident in that. But there have been a few people in my life that have made me forgotten who I was. And obviously, looking back, okay, they weren't the right people. Those weren't the right men for me. But at the same time, I thought in the moment that they were.

And I would chase and I would force and I would try to manifest them back. That is not how you get someone back. That's right for you. You could do everything that way and make it really difficult for yourself. and sometimes get results sometimes. But I'm telling you right now, learning how to detach and not even need them at all and mean it when you really mean it and you're not just like, oh, you know, I'm detaching, but then you're stalking their socials. That's not detachment. Okay.

Detachment is when you actually are so in your own energy that you know you're fully okay without them. When you get to that point, two things are going to happen. Either you're going to level up and rise and not even want them anymore and attract a much better relationship or a much better situation for you or they're going to come back. You're going to stand in your power, stand firm in your energy, keep remembering who you are and they're going to have to rise to meet you at the new level that you're at. And maybe it'll work. And maybe you guys will build something together if it's meant to be. If it's truly meant to be, you know, it's meant to be. But either way you're winning, Either way, you're benefiting because nothing is going to fuck up what's meant for you

and you have nothing to lose by getting back into your power and remembering who the fuck you are. You have nothing to lose. The only thing you're losing, the only way you're losing is if you are wasting your energy and your gorgeous, divine potential chasing down someone that isn't giving you the same back in return. That's the only way you're losing. You, when you fully re-center the energy onto you, you win regardless if they come back, or not because you're making your life about you once again. This isn't just about them. This isn't about them at all, actually. This is about getting back to you and yourself. That's why I always say when

people are in the Dare to Detach program and some people message me, they're like, you know, there have been so many success stories where people, you know, their exes come back. They don't even want them anymore. They're like, I'm not even taking them back, but I feel so confident. I feel so powerful. I'm so glad I took this course. And then there's other people who say, oh, my ex didn't come back and I said, well, are you taking the course to just get them back and repeat the same cycle out of desperate mode? If you're downloading the course to manifest your ex-back, that's not why you should be downloading the course. Dare to Detach is designed to get you back in your energy to put you in the driver's seat and to understand the laws of energy and how they work. Okay?

Getting them back is a byproduct. It's a side effect of standing in your power. You shouldn't be taking a detachment course to attach yourself to someone. That doesn't make any sense. That's not why I created it. I created this course so you can remember who the fuck you are. When you commit to that, getting them back into your life is a side effect. If you really are committed to detachment, there's a huge probability that you're not even going to want them anymore because you're going to wake up and take the blinders off and

realize how worthy you are and how deserving you are and how you deserve so much fucking more than what they were giving you anyway. Okay, number two, that was a long rant, but number two, here we go, okay? When you're deeply, deeply attached, you are fucking blocking everything you've ever wanted out of life. I'm just going to be real with you. When you're attached to the outcome of anything so deeply that you're emotionally dependent on it, you're blocking your blessings energetically. It's just how it works.

It's anything. It doesn't even have to be relationships, but this is really focused on relationships because I know most of you listening are probably trying to detach from a person. If you require something to feel mentally okay, you're attached to it. And that's creating the resistance. If you require a person to make you feel happy and good about yourself and excited to wake up, you're fucking attached to them. And that's the issue.

That's the root of the issue. That's creating so much unnecessary pressure. And it strangles the outcome you're hoping for. You're suffocating the outcome you're hoping for because you're communicating energetically. to the universe, if I don't have this person, if they don't come back into my life, I'm miserable without them. I can't live without them. Keep telling yourself that and see where it gets you, okay, that you can't live without someone. You were fine the first 20 years of your life without them. You were fine the first 30 years of your life without them, however old you are, okay? I'm sure you didn't

meet them out of the womb and they were attached to you at the hip. I'm sure you met them in your adult years and you had a whole life prior to them and you could have a whole life after them. They may be the love of your life. Maybe. But that shouldn't dictate how you feel about yourself right now in this very moment. You shouldn't be validating how amazing you are, how confident you are, how beautiful you are, how incredible you are, solely off of whether someone is in your life or not or whether someone chose to stay in your life or not. If they walked away from you, let them walk away, let them do their thing. Detachment is beautiful because once you get to this place of I love myself so much that I know it's their loss and whatever they choose to do, fine. But I'm going to keep working on myself and trusting

the higher plan, trusting God, trusting myself, trusting in my amazingness, trusting in who I am, how amazing I am. And I'm going to keep going because I know what's meant for me will never pass me by. When you get to that place, life gets so fucking magical and magnetic because nothing really affects you deeply anymore. And transparently, it took me a lot of heartbreak to get to that place. took me a lot of pain and a lot of heartbreak to get to a place of pure detachment where, yeah, would I be upset if someone walked away from me? Would I be heartbroken if the love of my life walked out of my life right now if I've really had a connection with someone? Yes, of course, okay? It's normal to grieve. It's normal to be upset. It's normal to have days

where you feel really lonely and you miss them. It's all part of the human process. But just knowing that there's a higher plan, a higher thing working at play and that nothing can fuck up what's truly meant for you. When you really embody that, it makes detaching a whole lot easier. Because you know, I was talking with my friend about this last night. We were walking around London and having really, you know, open conversations about relationships and love and all the things we've been through. And one thing we were discussing was this concept of if someone is meant to be with you and they feel the same about you and they feel the same as you and they really want to make it work, they will find a way to make it work.

Men move mountains for the women they want to be with. Bottom line, I've seen it happen. I've seen people who are married, their husbands, they want to make their wives lives easier. Now, I know there are men who listen to this podcast as well and sorry to exclude you from this portion, but I truly do believe that coming from my experience as a woman and, listening to a lot of women's stories. There's a lot of women who are listening right now that are settling or chasing after men that have done literally nothing for them. Nothing. They can't even get a text back. They can't even get a date planned. I just want to talk about the fact for a second that

the right person for you is not going to walk away and give up so easily. Would you give up on them so easily? Think about it the other way around. If they're willing to give up on you so easily, why is that okay if you are willing to fight for them? It's not. It's not. That is literally the clear sign in itself that you deserve more and you deserve better. Now, me and my friend, we were discussing this and there was a situation that I was in a couple of years ago and it was kind of like the one who got away situation for me where I really had very strong feelings for someone and I never communicated it and I was in the midst of getting out of a really bad breakup, like so toxic, so bad and it was just messy. It was such a mess that things just didn't work out due to

timing. Or so I thought at the time it was a timing issue. But really looking back, when I really replay everything, I'm like, maybe it wasn't just the timing, right? Because there were some huge miscommunications between me and this person. And I didn't know how to tell him straight, point blank. I have very strong feelings for you. That's scary to do. That's. That's very scary to open up to someone like that when I hadn't even really spent that much time with him physically. So it was really just hard for me. And I was going through so much shit at the time. So I held back a lot. And then things didn't go according to plan. And he moved on, which I totally respected. But it kind of killed me. It like literally crushed me for a while. And I was like,

fuck like this is something that I had so much trouble detaching from it was one of those situations where it was like all the what if started replaying in my head if I had done this if I had said this if I had handled this better if I hadn't been an emotional basket case if I hadn't been so overly emotional and responded differently and communicated better would things have been different it fucking killed me because this was the one thing I think the biggest test for me in a relationship where I had to fully detach and I didn't want to. I didn't want to detach. I was still clinging on to the potential, the what if.

And this storyline I had built up in my head for a very long time. I called my dad about it, of course, because we all know if you've listened to the podcast for a while, you know that my dad is the relationship expert and he's really good at calming me down and giving me a more logical perspective on everything. and I explained to him the situation. He knew what had happened. He told me something that helped me detach and see things from a more logical perspective. And that's why I'm sharing this story with you.

He said at the end of the day, regardless of what had happened, regardless of what you did, what you said, how things could have played out if the timing was bad, if, you know, you were emotional at the time, he wasn't ready. Whatever the situation was, if that man really, really wanted. wanted to be with you, he would have chosen you and he would have been with you. That's it. Bottom line, he would have communicated that to you at some point. One point or another, he would have come forward and said, I really want to see where things go. I want to be with you. Maybe not in those words, but he would have chosen the timeline and chosen the situation where you two

ended up together. If that's what he really, really wanted. Then he asked me, he was like, would you have chosen him in the situation? After everything that happened, would you have still chosen him over anyone else? And I was like, yeah, I would have. I actually would have. And then it clicked in my brain. He didn't do the same. Yeah, we could chalk it up to bad timing and we could chalk it up to a million other things and a million other factors.

At the end of the day, we all have choices. And we all have choices to make about who we want to be with and who we want to end up with and who we want to fight for and work with on a relationship. because no relationship is perfect. And we each have our own free will and choices to make. So when my dad put it like that and he was like, a man will choose you if that's what he wants. It is true.

The same way you would choose him because you knew that's what you wanted goes both ways. So that's your answer. You have to move on. And I was like, thanks, dad. Thanks. Thanks for opening my eyes as usual. But it's true. Okay.

Sometimes you just need to hear it. from someone else. Sometimes you just need to hear it from a parent. I knew all this. I knew all the answers. We always have the answers within. But sometimes it's different when you hear it from someone that really does love you unconditionally and wants to see you happy and wants the best for you, whether it's a friend or a stranger. Yeah, I'm so grateful to have parents that want what's best for me. And when he told me that, I think a little bit of the fog of that situation really did lift off my eyes because I knew what I wanted. And when you know what you want, if you want someone, if you want a relationship to work and that person isn't reciprocating that and they choose a different path, that's the answer. That's the closure.

That's what you have to base things off of. And then it'll be easier to detach and let go and trust the process because if it's not them, it's going to be something else. It's going to be someone else that's going to choose you fully and wholeheartedly. And you're going to realize later on why things didn't work out the way that you wanted them to. In the moment, yes, it's hard. But you have to understand that everyone makes a choice. And them not choosing you in itself should be the easiest way to get yourself to detach. Because you love yourself enough to know that you deserve to be chosen.

Fully and wholeheartedly. Okay, number three, I read something on TikTok and I needed to share it with you guys. letting go doesn't mean giving up. It means releasing the belief that your life can only begin after this one thing works out. I struggled with this for a while. If I got that guy back into my life, if I attracted my ex back into my life and he was begging on his hands and knees for me back, my life would get so much better and my life could finally begin. The amount of times I've put my life on hold to energetically throw my life towards a man instead and put my career on hold, my drive on hold, my ambitions on hold. I would put my fucking life on the back burner to try to get a man to love me.

And I'm admitting this because I know there's probably a lot of people listening who have done the same fucking thing. We just don't want to face it. But countless times, I've distracted myself from my mission from God's plan for me to create, to be a better woman, to work on myself in order to try to get a man to see my value. And that's why I started learning about detachment because my whole life revolved around my boyfriends, my relationships, and trying to get men to love me, trying to earn their love. And that's where this whole podcast came from, which I'm very grateful for, because it's brought me so many amazing opportunities and I've built such a beautiful community of the most amazing incredible people that are listening. So everything happens for a reason and I'm so,

so grateful. But let us learn from my mistakes and think about it. Okay. How much of your energy have you spent that you could have been creating and working on yourself and instead thrown that at a man or a relationship where it wasn't working out or someone that didn't see your worth? And you were just using all your precious valuable energy to try to make them see how lovable you are. Once I understood that and I understood how much energy and time I had spent catering to that in my life, that's when the flip really switched in my brain. That's when I started waking up because I was like, why am I waiting for my life to begin based on if this person wants to be with me or not? Why am I waiting for my life to start based off of their validation, based off of if they, what, want to be my boyfriend?

How does that make any sense? So detachment is really about understanding that your life is perfectly, perfectly complete and whole and fine with or without them. Wither without this person or situation, you're shaking and moving in the same fucking way. You're not waiting on them to be happy. You're not waiting on them to live the life of your dreams. You're still moving according to plan and doing everything you've got to do and waking up with a smile on your face knowing how worthy you are. And you're not going to be defined by if this person chooses to be with you or not. And the crazy thing about all of this, we're often just chasing the feeling that that person gave us more than anything.

I know for me when I was around the person I had just previously mentioned, I felt more of myself. I did. I felt happy. I felt like I could be myself. There were so many feelings that came up that I hadn't felt in so long. And I think that's why I had had that emotional connection there because I felt more of myself. But something else I was talking my friend about was this concept of not needing anyone to feel more like yourself. But if they could activate that part of you and show you what you're missing out of your life, maybe that's what they were there for. They were there to make you tap into yourself even more. Now that you have that inspiration and you've gotten that feeling, you can feel that feeling

and tap into that feeling more without them necessarily having to be there. That person was actually an energetic trigger for me to walk away from my old relationship because my old relationship cost me my identity and my life. I lost myself entirely in that relationship. Entirely. I forgot my power. I forgot who I was. That relationship drained my soul and drained my energy.

And to have the polar opposite where I found someone that brought me back to life without, I don't even think he even realizes he did that. But to have someone that kind of reminded me of who I was again was necessary at the time. And maybe it was just a. portal to fully letting go of my ex so I could reclaim my power and remember who I was. So that's the truth about why we want people in our lives or why we want certain things to play out a certain way. It's because we're chasing down the feeling that it will give us. But a lot of the times we can give that feeling to ourselves without it if we find ways to do that.

And I know for me, I've spoken about this before, but creating, doing what I love, tapping into my passions more, and investing in myself, making myself feel beautiful, whether that's, you know, as simple as going for a walk and listening to a self-help podcast, building my relationship with God more, or working out, or writing down my feelings, or manifesting different goals, setting new goals for myself, tapping into new projects, podcasting, venting out to you guys, writing a book, which is coming next year, which I'm very excited about. Anything. When I'm in creation mode, that's how I get excited about my life now.

Because the beauty about being in creation mode, too, is that you're communicating to the universe. I'm focusing on myself and using my own divine energy. And I'm putting it to good use. I'm using my amazing, beautiful energy in the right ways, in productive ways, and I'm putting it to good use. I'm pouring it into my passions, my art. I'm creating things out of love. When you do that, you automatically start aligning yourself with the right situations, experiences, opportunities, and people.

The truth is, the more you focus on someone, the more you start delaying your own blessings. And the moment you start refocusing on yourself, the universe reorganizes and opportunities will just start appearing because you're not leaking your energy towards the wrong things. When you're chasing down a man, you're automatically leaking your energy towards the wrong thing. Okay. Your energy should be going into creation, into yourself, into your purpose. That's how you become a magnet and everything will flow to you. Your energy is too valuable to waste.

And the more you understand how important it is to protect it and to use it wisely, the better your life is going to get. Every thought, every ounce of energy you pour into this person is energy taken from your future and your destiny. I had this joke with my friends and it's an ongoing joke for years. We always say the amount of energy we could have spent on our passions and our projects and our goals instead of a man, we would have been Taylor Swift and Beyonce by now. Because a lot of the times when I would get into relationships, these people would distract me so much from my path and my goal. because I was always trying to put my energy towards making the relationship work or making them see my value, that I completely abandoned my future. It steered me off course so many times.

And another thing I will say, how you know if someone's right for you is if they're steering you off of your path and your goals and your course, they're not the right person for you. If they're distracting you from your dreams and they make you forget your passions and your goals and you can't focus, they're not the right person. for you. If you are constantly being sidetracked because of their presence, they're not the right person for you. If you can't focus at work and your brain's exploding because they're not responding to you and they're not treating you right, they're not the right person for you. So that's another thing to note, okay? Your energy is too valuable to waste. And when you detach, it is an abundance move. You become instantly a magnet for blessings because you are choosing. You are choosing. You are yourself and you're communicating to the universe, I'm going to invest in me and only me. I'm

not investing in someone at all. The only person I'm investing in now is myself. And that will give you the best return energetically. The more you invest your energy into you, that's going to give you the best return, always, because you're going to keep building yourself. You're an incredible human being. You're going to glow more than ever. You're going to be building empires out here. Okay. You're going to be doing what you love. You're going to be putting your heart and soul into your passions into things that make you happy, into things that bring you joy instead of putting your energy into someone who doesn't even deserve it. The other thing I want you to remember, okay, every time you idolize someone, or rather every time you're chasing down someone,

you're basically idolizing them. You are demoting yourself. You're communicating, hmm, I'm not worthy of this person and this is all I deserve. Someone who doesn't want me. That's all I deserve in life. Someone who hates me. Who doesn't want to be with me? Why are you doing yourself the biggest disservice by operating at that frequency? Because if you're chasing down someone who's made it clear that they don't want you or they've let go and they're capable of moving on from you, you're doing yourself the biggest disservice by continuing to think about them, obsess over them and believe that they're the only person for you. That's living in a scarcity, low vibe mentality. God made you in his perfect image. And you're out here chasing down someone who can't even choose you or give you any type of peace.

You're disrespecting yourself. They may be disrespecting you to some degree. But more importantly, you're disrespecting yourself and your higher self because the higher version of you that's sitting high on her throne is not going to chase down someone who isn't choosing them. Bottom line. So my advice to you is to stop allowing yourself to disrespect your higher self. She's really looking down on you saying, babe, you know you fucking deserve better. What are you doing? Where are you placing your energy? Stop doing this to yourself. Stop normalizing an addiction to another human being. Get addicted to yourself and your energy and your purpose. Why are you addicted to their energy? What are they really? giving you at this point other than breadcrumbs inconsistency emotional unavailability stop normalizing

dysfunction and snap and wake the fuck up because your higher self is calling your higher self is waiting for you and the last but not least thing i'll say is your soulmate is not hiding behind inconsistency your soulmate is not out there running away from you that makes no fucking sense okay think about it is the love of your life running away from you and choosing to be with other people and abandoning you and kicking you to the curb? Is that who you want to marry and have children with? Is that who you want to build with and have a future with? Are you even going to trust them if they come back? Or is your relationship going to always be built off of inconsistency, instability, and lack of trust because they keep running away. They keep pulling back. They're playing hot and cold. They're not fully in.

They're not fully choosing you. How are you going to marry someone that isn't fully choosing you? How are you going to settle in a situation like that. You're going to be anxious for the next 50 years. You're going to raise a child with someone who could walk away at any time. And the life that God wants for you is abundant, beautiful with an amazing, safe, stable person who makes you feel seen and appreciated and valued and loved and adored and cherished. So stop selling yourself short on what is ahead for you. What's in store for you? Okay. There is someone out there that's going to make you feel absolutely 100% fully fully fucking chosen. And remember, detachment is a divine choice.

It's how you reclaim your power and your peace and step into the next level of your life. If you haven't accessed Dare to Detach, I highly recommend after listening to this episode, you go to the show notes, you click the link or you go to my Instagram at Date Yourself Instead. Click the link in the bio. Access Dare to Detach now. Put yourself first. finally make the choice pull the trigger and put yourself first detach date yourself love yourself

you are no longer available for hot and cold for energetic tug of war with a person you're no longer available for not being chosen okay call yourself home call in your future self it's time to upgrade the timeline it's time to put yourself first your future self is depending on you your peace and your love for yourself matters so much more than someone who didn't choose you or who's been inconsistent with you. Choose yourself fully, fiercely, and finally. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode. Update yourself instead. Thank you as always for listening to the podcast. I appreciate you. I love you so much. Everything you guys send me, all the messages, all the love, all the comments on Spotify, all the ratings. It really does help the show grow.

it really helps build the community and connect us all and I see everything. I love you. I'm grateful for you. Remember, be sure to download the masterclasses. Dare to detach on the mind, body, soul reset. Those masterclasses are no longer going to be available starting June 1st. So I highly recommend you grab them while you still can. They are on sale for an amazing discount. And I know they will change your life. They are the biggest game changer. Thank you again. I love you. And stay tuned for next Monday.