Date Yourself Instead - How to have a GOLDEN AURA - you are the SUN, radiant, golden, magnetic!!! 🌞

Episode Date: April 25, 2025

GOLDEN AURA GODDESSES UNITE. Let yourself shine and radiate like the sun. YOU ARE THE LIGHT.If you enjoyed this episode, please share it and drop a comment below on Spotify and message me on instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead.JOIN MY MASTERCLASSES BELOW.Use code DETACH at checkout for an exclusive discount.⁠⁠⁠⁠Dare to Detach⁠⁠⁠⁠ - cut the energy cords now and step into your power⁠⁠⁠⁠Mind Body Soul Reset⁠⁠⁠⁠ - heal yourself from the inside out With love and light,Lyss

On today's episode, I'm going to be talking about how to be the best version of yourself, waking up every single day, ready to take on the day, confident, radiating that golden aura. Having a golden aura means you're healed, you're happy, you're abundant, you're radiating a golden frequency. People ask what you've done differently. People see your glow up. People are mesmerized by your presence. When you show up golden in the world, it affects everything and everyone else. you. People will feel your magnetism. People will feel how beautiful your energy is. On today's

episode, I really wanted to discuss ways I've been able to raise my frequency, raise my vibration, and change my aura from gray to gold. You are the sun. You are magnetic. This is how to really radiate that golden energy and become unstoppable in every single part of your life. When you have a well-balanced life in your career, your friendships, your romantic relationships, wellness. When you have a really good balance between everything, you start to radiate magnetic energy because everything is in sync. Everything is aligned. When you nourish your mind, body, soul and really take care of each of these aspects, your world will change for the better. Everything around you will start to change. It's literally a domino effect. This has been the

ultimate game changer for me. Going from a relationship where I suffered a lot of emotional abuse and turmoil and I felt like my world was literally collapsing and having to rebuild myself from scratch, having a gray dull aura, having a black cloud over my head, having people look at me and notice that I've changed in a way that I didn't want to change. My light was diminished. My light was dull. I had lost pieces of who I was, and people started to notice that and recognize that, and it reflected in every single area of my life. I wasn't motivated. I didn't have a solid workout routine anymore. I wasn't taking care of my physical health.

I wasn't meditating. I wasn't taking care of my spiritual health. I wasn't nourishing my friendships. I felt disconnected and isolated from the world. I wasn't nourishing my family relationships. I had no relationship with my nieces, nephews, my brothers. I didn't really speak to them. I barely spoke to my dad. I barely spoke to my mom when I did speak to them. I did feel this underlying strange tension between me and my family, which is often a sign that you're not in the right romantic relationship. When you're in a very narcissistic relationship or a relationship that's really not aligned with your higher self and not aligned for you, it can tend to bring you down, bring your vibration down, lower your energy fields and isolate you from the world and from people. It's so hard to recognize and spot the signs when you're so deeply in it because you're in love and you're blinded and you're in this bubble with this person where everything is normalized to you because you're used to them and you're used to dating them and you're used to a routine with this person.

But if someone is dragging your vibration down, isolating you from your goals, your dreams and your family members and your friends, it starts to really affect every. little detail of your life. It's something that compounds. It's something that builds over time. When we're in a relationship, things are usually pretty good in the beginning. And then over time, this person will start to drain us, chip away at our self-esteem and take away from little pieces of our life over a significant long period of time. So by the end of the relationship, we've completely lost ourselves and we've completely gone in this direction that we never intended to go in. and we suddenly get out of the relationship and we're like, oh my God, my life has just been burned to the ground. My life used to be so much different and I used to be so much happier and I used to radiate positivity.

And now I'm feeling like there's this dark cloud over my head. So on today's episode, my priority, if you're listening to this, is to get inspired to start building yourself up again, to start feeling good again, to start radiating that golden energy again and to find yourself again and take. your power back and really reset your entire life. If you want to be someone that attracts abundance into your life frequently, if you want to be someone that radiates that magnetism where people want to be around you, want to be next, you want to be near you, if you want to be that person that radiates that magnetism and confidence on a daily basis, this episode is for you. A golden aura and energy is cultivated through several different things. And I'm going to break this down throughout the episode. But the first thing I want to talk about is how you show up for the people in your life

and how you nourish the relationships in your life and how you treat others and how you respect others. So I'm going to get a little personal right now because I want to give you guys a solid example. My dad and I used to be really close when I was younger. Okay. I feel like I had a better relationship with my dad than my mom when I was younger. I have an amazing relationship with both of them. But when I was younger, I was like a daddy's girl. For example, when I was younger and I had surgery, the doctor asked, which parent do you want to come into the room with you? And I asked for my dad to come in. You know what I mean? So it was when I was much younger. And I remember just always feeling very protected and safe with my dad. And then over the years,

as I started to get into romantic relationships, as I started to have boyfriends and start dating, I feel like that relationship was slowly burned away. I had these other male figures in my life. Instead of going to my dad for advice or going to him for comfort or protection, I had boyfriends instead. I had these other male figures in my life that kind of felt like it almost energetically replaced my father figure. Of course, this is a subconscious thing or something that I didn't really know or understand or think about at all because I was so young, you know, being in high school and being in college, you don't really think about these things. You don't think about the psychology of any of this. I never really thought about it at all. I still talk to my parents. I still talk to my dad. But I never really thought of it as, oh, I started talking to him less. We started to grow apart. I didn't go to him for as much anymore. He was also someone that really supported his kids. Me and my brothers, we played a lot of sports growing up. We played basketball and my dad was the coach, for example. And he wanted to be engaged and active in his children's lives. I'll never forget those things because I know some people don't have that type of relationship with

their dad or they never did. And for me, I genuinely feel like over time because as you get older, life gets in the way. I started dating. I started being occupied with other things. I moved away for college. We just naturally didn't have the same relationship that I had when I was younger. And then it was really called to my attention in my very last relationship that I was in, that was a four-year relationship with someone that was not treating me the right way. I felt very isolated from my parents and especially my dad. My dad didn't support the relationship. He knew this person wasn't a good person and I denied it. I was in complete denial. I didn't want to listen. I didn't care. I started to become more protective of my partner than nourish the

relationship with my dad. And what ended up happening was we grew apart and I barely spoke to him because I was almost afraid to talk to my dad because he did not support my relationship with this person because he saw things that I didn't. He could see more clearly than I could because he was on the outside and I'm his daughter. But at the time, I was angry and I was upset because I was like, you don't understand my relationship. My boyfriend loves me. He is a good guy. I don't know why you don't like him. I was so defensive and protective of what I had. So we naturally just got distant. I felt almost uncomfortable to talk to my dad. I knew that he was disappointed in a sense that I was dating this person. And then when that relationship ended and it was revealed that this person had

betrayed me so deeply and wasn't the person that I thought he was and he was exactly who my dad said he was. Everything shifted and changed. My relationship with my dad completely shifted. He never held it against me. He never said, you know, I told you so. He never said anything. He just understood all was forgiven and we cultivated a new relationship dynamic and now we're really close. He's my best friend and I will go to him for everything. I'll go to him for any type of advice. and I trust his word now. Obviously, that was a lesson learned for me. But I was pouring my energy into people who actually didn't have my best interested heart. And it weighed me down. It affected my whole life. My life started burning to the ground and was transparently going to shit because I was

nourishing relationships with people that didn't truly value or love me or care about me the way that my family did. It was so hard to see that and see it the way I see it now when I was in that relationship. But when I got out of it and I got a clear logical perspective and I finally was able to take my goggles off, I realized that there was such a fundamental piece of my life missing and a piece of my aura and my energy missing because I didn't have close relationships with my family. So I made it a priority after that relationship ended to heal those relationships and to heal what felt a little disconnected or broken. I healed that timeline. I chose to actively start nourishing my family relationships, not just my dad, but my mom, my brothers, their children.

I wanted to start making an active effort to heal those relationships because those are the people that love me the most. When you nourish the relationships with people that love you the most, you become healed. You start to realize what love truly is, what unconditional love truly is in your life. and in turn, that'll heal you more, that'll heal your heart more, that'll make your life better and more magnetic and more radiant. You will feel so much better and so much more aligned with your higher self with the people that are meant for you in your life because you're nourishing the correct relationships. The worst thing I did, and I don't regret it because I needed to go through it and experience it for myself, but the worst thing I did, which I'll never do again, is put my partner before my family when that person, and didn't have my best interest. I know when I'm married, when I'm with the love of my life and I have my own family,

that'll become my priority. But in the meantime, when I'm dating, when I'm with people, and I don't know for sure if they're the right person, the worst thing I did for myself was neglect the people who actually cared about me the most and turned a blind eye and ignored the warning signs. When I neglected those relationships, it brought down my aura. it brought down my vibration because I was in misalignment. I was not aligned with what my soul needed the most. That was a huge lesson learned and that ties into number one.

Your golden aura, your magnetism, the way you love yourself and show up in your life is cultivated through how you nourish the loving relationships in your life, how you nourish the people around you in your life that genuinely care about you and how you make an effort to show up for them. I had a big disconnect with my brothers and their children, my nieces and nephews. I didn't really make enough effort on my end to reach out to them. They live far away, but all I had to do was pick up the phone, FaceTime, how are you doing, checking in, making sure that they knew that I cared, that I love them, that I am thinking

about my nieces and nephews. It's so important to do these things because not only is, is life short and you want to make sure you tell the people in your life that you love them. But also it is a true reflection of how high you're vibrating and where you're at in your life. The people that love you in your life deserve to feel loved. When you give that love, when you show that love, when you show that respect and you make that effort, that will make you feel better. That will make you feel more aligned.

That will really align you and put you on your highest timeline. after I started realizing these things about myself and then making an active effort to change these things about myself, I started feeling so much better, so much more fulfilled, so much more whole. And I started receiving that love and respect back. My family never held anything against me. They were more than happy to reciprocate that love because I became love. I started sending them love. I started showing that I cared and I loved them. I showed up properly.

and they respected that and they saw that instead of holding anything against me, they came forward and expressed their love as well. It became so clear to me how important it was to nourish those relationships. Number two, radiating a golden aura, getting in alignment, raising your frequency, feeling good is cultivated through respect for yourself. The more you honor yourself, the brighter you're going to shine. boundaries are everything. They protect your light. Boundaries are so important when it comes to radiating this light. I had to learn this over years of dating, over years of letting people stomp all over me and my light. If you're listening to this right now, I know you know you were born different. You were born to shine. You were born to be magnetic. You were born to have a beautiful

life and I know that you want to constantly grow and better yourself. If you're listening to date yourself instead, I know your priority is to grow, to expand, to evolve and to radiate light. When we don't honor our own boundaries and we abandon ourselves and we don't respect ourselves the way that we should, we can't vibrate as high and shine the way that we deserve to shine. Self-respect changes literally everything. People know when you, you respect yourself and have firm, strong, solid boundaries in place. It's an energy shift. This is why I have my masterclasses dare to detach in the mind, body, soul reset. Both of these masterclasses combined are there to teach you how to have respect for yourself, boundaries for

yourself, and to truly ground yourself and anchor yourself in how incredible you are. The more you realize how amazing you are and how beautiful your energy is and how you deserve the best, you will start to radiate a different light, a different energy. As I said, everything is energy. People know when you're willing to neglect and abandon yourself and your boundaries. When I was pitching my podcast to different networks and they were low-balling me offers, I knew my worth and my value and I stood on business. I stood on my fucking business because I put all of my energy and all of my time and my blood, sweat, and tears into date yourself instead. When someone

disrespects my value and doesn't give me an offer that makes sense, I'm going to stand on my business and say, absolutely not. I'm not accepting this offer. You know and I know that I'm worth a hundred times more than what you're offering me. I had to build that muscle over years of failing in other aspects of my career. A few years prior, I wouldn't have had the confidence and the self-respect to turn down the offers I was getting. I would have been probably willing to do it and bite my tongue and just say, you know what, it's money, let me take it. I would have probably done that four or five years ago because I didn't have the boundaries in place and the self-worth in place that I have now. And people know when they can mess with you and when they can't. So when I denied

all of these offers and I said, you know what? I'm not taking a check from you because it's clearly undervaluing me. They all ran. They all ran. They didn't push. They didn't try. All of these people dropped off the face of the earth because they knew that they couldn't fuck with me. They knew that they couldn't come back with a counteroffer or say anything because they knew that I was worth a hundred times more than what they were offering me. They backed off. And for a good reason, because I didn't want them in my energetic field anyway. I don't want to work with people that don't see my value anyway. The same can apply in your relationships. If you have firm boundaries in place and there's people trying to access your energy, trying to date you, trying to sleep with you, and you set the tone and you

say absolutely not. These are my requirements. This is what I need. These are my boundaries. A lot of people will just ghost and disappear because they know they can't fuck with you. They know they can't take advantage of you. They know that they can't play their games with you because you're not going to fall for their trap. When it comes to dating now, that's happened to me on several occasions where I kind of scare these people off because they know they can't mess with me. There was this one guy that came up to me and it was actually one of the craziest things because I've never had this happened to me before. I saw a man. He was on a date and he came out of the restaurant and I was standing outside of the restaurant waiting to get a bike home. This was in Bali. So I was waiting for

my bike and he was ordering one as well. He sends the girl off. So the girl gets on her bike and leaves the premises. He's standing next to me now and he looks over at me. I knew he had just gone to dinner with her and she's like, bye, see you soon. Now she's gone. She's vanished and he turns to me and starts hitting on me. And the first thing out of my mouth was, were you just on a date? Out of respect for that woman and respect for myself, it just seemed crazy. Obviously, you know, if this man thought that I was his wife and he didn't, you know, really enjoy the date and he thought this was the once in a lifetime opportunity to get someone else's number because he thought that it was going to be like the love of his life, fine. But I knew that this person, his energy field and

what I felt and what my gut said. He was just a massive player. So I was immediately just like, what is happening? Are you really hitting on me the second you send a woman off like that? Because you could tell she probably had a great time. I was like, no, this is not okay. But he was like, oh, no, no, no, no, no. It's a friend. Let me get your Instagram. I was like, okay, no problem. And I gave him my date yourself instead Instagram account. I didn't even give him my actual Instagram. I was just like, here's my podcast. There you go.

He took one look at the page. I saw his face go into like this state of shock. And he started scrolling through and I just booked it. I got on my bike and left. I saw that he followed it. Five minutes later unfollowed me and blocked me. It's so funny because I knew I had scared him off because he knew he couldn't fuck with me. After looking at my content and my page, he knew, oh, I can't play this girl.

She's too smart for me. She has her boundaries in place. She knows her worth. She has a freaking podcast about dating herself and knowing her boundaries and knowing her worth. I'm not even going to be able to entertain this because I can't use my usual tricks. I can't use my game. I can't use my charm. I thought it was so funny.

You actually blocked me. You actually blocked me because you're terrified. Good. Be terrified. The right man will never have to be terrified. to be scared of you and your boundaries because he's going to want to impress you, show up for you, love you, and adore you. He's not going to be intimidated by you. When you have yourself respect and boundaries in place and anchored in place, it's a beautiful, powerful thing because you're radiating

gold. You're literally radiating golden light. Only the best to the best people now can interact with you. Everyone else is going to drop off. Everyone else is going to leave the premises and poof, disappear. The next thing. The next thing. on how to radiate this golden energy is being fully, fully present, fully present, not weighing into the past, not obsessing about the future, being always in the now. The most amazing people with the most beautiful energy I've noticed, it's rare when you find them, but when you find them, you feel so comfortable in their presence because they're so present with you. They're so there.

They're so in the moment. You feel like you're enveloped and wrapped in this golden bubble with them because they're so present and grounded in their frequency and grounded in their energy and their body that you want to be around them more. Because they're focused on you. They're listening to you. They're paying attention. They're people that notice the small details. They're the people that will give free compliments out because it's just a part of their nature because they're so kind and they want to make other people around them feel good. Being present is everything in radiating golden energy and being magnetic.

The more present I am in the moment and the less I'm thinking about the past, the less I'm thinking about the future, I'm so much happier. I'm so much happier because my brain isn't spiraling. My brain isn't obsessing over things. My brain isn't focusing on a million different things. My brain is here and now focused in the very moment and it's more still and it's more present and it's more calm. it helps me anchor in my energy. It helps me ground myself. And when you're grounded, it'll eliminate your anxiety. It'll eliminate your fears. It'll eliminate your worries because you are truly in the moment and embracing the moment. I used to have a problem where I would be thinking about

the next moment all the time. I would never be present. I was always jumping 10 steps ahead. Like, oh, I have to do this next. I have to do this next. And then I would be in a beautiful moment, in a beautiful location, doing an amazing thing, and I was already onto the next thought and the next mission and what I have to do next and what tomorrow holds. There's literally no point in obsessing about the future or the past. It creates so much anxiety, and it throws you off your rhythm. It throws you off your balance.

It knocks you out of alignment. Therefore, your aura isn't vibrating as high. Your aura isn't golden. Your aura will become scattered. And people know when you're not great. grounded in your energy. People feel that too. So I had this issue where I was always trying to move on to the next moment. I was always thinking of the next moment ahead. I was always so restless. I couldn't ground myself and anchor myself, which led to me feeling like a mess all the time,

feeling anxious all the time, feeling scatterbrained all the time. That's no way to live. If you want to radiate a golden aura, be present. Work on being present. Meditate. Meditate. Ground yourself. Pilates is so grounding. Do an activity that's grounding and calms your nervous system and gets you in your body. I just love going for walks, Pilates, movement, listening to Self Help podcast, listening to Meditations first thing in the morning. Also a part of my dare to detach in the mind, body, soul reset master classes. All my favorite meditations are in there. cord cutting to eliminate any energies that aren't aligned with your higher self, having a tea at night, taking a bath, journaling, doing things that make you feel calm and present, doing things that make you feel more focused. I think over the next two weeks I'm also going to try art classes. Something else you could do to feel more present and to feel more grounded is to compliment people. Spread kindness. Spread good energy to other people. On my hardest days, I've learned that all it takes

is to compliment a stranger and it changes both of your energy fields. It's an energy transmission where you're radiating kind positive energy and you're radiating a light to them. Maybe something they really needed to hear that day. Compliment a stranger. Oh, I love your bag. I love your outfit. Where do you get your hair done it looks so good. Just say something that you notice on someone that you like and go out of your way to compliment them. It'll make you feel so good and it'll also make them feel so good. And then you're in this bubble of positivity and light and good vibes. Anyone in the world will appreciate a compliment. Anyone. If you're spreading kindness and telling someone you like something about them and you don't know them, both of you get a reward. Both of you are going to feel good about it.

The next thing on radiating a golden energy. Stop making. making yourself small for other people. You were born to be a leader. You are the sun. You are the light. So stop making yourself small to be digestible for people. You're the main character, the divine character that people should look up to because you're special. And you know you are. You have so much to offer the world. If you're listening to this right now, you know you have so much to offer the world. You are an incredible human being with an amazing heart. So stop making yourself small. Stop shrinking who you are. Stop shrinking your energy field and your radiant light. We do this often with people that cannot match our frequency to begin with that can't keep up with us because

they're not expansive and they don't know how to appreciate or hold our energy field. It's not always out of ill intent. It's just some people can't keep up. They can't process how incredible we are and they don't know what to do with it. They just don't know how to handle us because we're too big and we're too magnetic and we're too amazing. Something that I used to do was make myself less powerful around men. Actually, you know what? I'm not even going to say men. I take that back. I've done this with people that maybe I wasn't that close with. I've done this with people that were my friends too. If I could tell that someone would be threatened by my success or my accomplishments or something that I achieved, I would just turn that switch off and not say a word about anything I'm doing

in my life. I would just keep quiet. I would let them speak about their success and what they're doing and how amazing their life is, but I would remain silent because I knew if I spoke too much about myself or I spoke too much about the things I wanted to do in my life, they would get insecure. I would play small. I would make myself smaller. And I couldn't take it anymore because it's all energy. When you're shrinking your energy field just to meet someone else where they're at, it really does affect your aura and the way you carry yourself because then you kind of go around being afraid to be the light and to be who you truly are and to express yourself fully. When I went into my energy healing sessions, Kundalini, over the last year, one of the first sessions,

I felt like I had something blocked in my throat and I kept coughing and it felt like this huge tickle in my throat that I couldn't get rid of. Often when we feel that blockage and that stuck feeling in our throat, it's a representation of not feeling comfortable enough to express ourselves and express our truth and express our power and our voice. After reflecting and really thinking about it, I was friends with some people and have been in relationships with people over the last several years where I shrunk my voice and I stopped myself all the time and I kind of shrunk away and made myself a lesser version of who I am and silenced myself to make other people feel more comfortable around me.

I silenced who I was. I got embarrassed about posting certain videos or certain content because I was like, are people going to think I'm weird? Or people going to disagree with me? Are people not going to understand me? I started doing all these things that were shrinking my voice and my power. And after going to these sessions and starting to heal this, my throat cleared up. And my throat chakra started to clear up.

And I was like, whoa, I actually didn't even realize how blocked my voice was. I thought because I have a podcast and I do this full time that I was speaking my full truth. I am in the studio. Maybe I am on the podcast. But in my day-to-day life, in my intimate relationships, I was scared. I wasn't fully living my truth with the people in my life. Sometimes that requires you to take a step back and reevaluate the people in your life. Because if people are making you feel scared to speak up and scared to live your truth and scared to be

proud of yourself. They're probably not the right people in your life. When I met my friends in Bali, there were so many people that respected me and wanted to hear the things I had to say and weren't threatened or intimidated by the brand I built for myself. They were actually inspired by it and they were like, that's amazing. That's an amazing accomplishment. It made me feel more comfortable to speak my truth and to be who I really am. Whereas when you feel that energy of someone being bitter or kind of jealous underneath the surface, it's so hard to live authentically around those people. So the biggest thing for me is knowing that you're around good people who really want the best for you, who want to see you shine, who want to see you glow, and who want to see you constantly

succeed, that is going to naturally make you radiate more and lift your energy and make you shine brighter. The next thing is recognizing that the more you heal yourself, the more you're going to be able to heal others with your presence, with your existence, with your energy. That's why I committed so deeply to healing, doing energy work, and have created my classes for you guys as well. The more you heal your heart, your body, your mind, and soul, the more you can show it better in your life and radiate that energy outwards like the sun. You are the sun. When you believe that and you embody it and you embody your light and you have healed the parts of yourself that needed healing, going to be able to show up better in other people's lives as well and do your part in

healing other people around you that need it. It's a domino effect. When you heal, everyone else around you starts to heal as well. I've seen this in my family relationships, in my friendships, and in my career, I've noticed a shift in the messages I'm getting because I'm healing and growing and evolving. The community as a collective is healing, growing, and evolving. Everything is a mirror. And the more you do the work to be the light, and act. like the sun and act like the amazing golden beautiful goddess that you are, the more people will feel it and you're going to send positive energy their way and radiate a different frequency and it's going to affect them as well. It's going to make a really positive impact. That also

inspires me to heal and work on myself constantly and keep showing up to be better every single day. When you truly know that your golden energy heals, just like the sun revives nature and grows nature, your energy heals and grows the collective. Your presence revives people when you're fully healed. That's the ultimate motivation for me to keep going and doing what I'm doing and make myself feel better constantly and to eliminate toxic people from my life and to do the inner work and invest in therapy and healing practices and to nourish my mind, body, soul. The ultimate motivation that keeps me going to keep working on myself and keep expanding and growing and evolving is I know the difference that it makes on other people as well. It's not just about me.

It's about everyone else too. When you realize that you can become medicine for other people, it gives you that ultimate boost to keep going and to feel good so you can make other people feel good. The most beautiful people in the world are the people that feel like actual medicine. When you're around them, your nervous system is calmer. When you're around them, you feel more at ease. You feel more like you could be yourself and be vulnerable and be more open-hearted. Those are the people that are radiating that golden aura. When I was in Bali and I was walking into this restaurant, I kept seeing this one person

and he had a very golden magnetic energy. I had interacted with him a couple of times, but it was really brief. one of the last days of my trip, we sat down and had a coffee and he said something to me that was probably the best compliment I've ever gotten from a man. And it was, I felt your energy and your presence when I would walk into the restaurant. I felt this golden warmth and this aura and this energy about you. I just knew you were different. I was like, that is the best compliment I could have ever gotten because it's not about the physical appearance. It's not about what I did or what I said. It's just a feeling. It's a presence. It's an energy thing. He didn't know anything about me, but he noted

that he instantly felt my energy field and that it was radiating differently than the average person. And I felt the same about him. And I was like, you know, I did feel that about you as well. It's the most amazing compliment because you want to make other people feel good. You want to radiate that energy towards other people because it naturally makes them feel better. The next thing is being and not trying to perform for anyone else, being so authentically you and in your power and trusting that you're on your own journey, there's no room for performing. There's no room for trying to be someone you're not. The most radiant people know exactly who they are without any external validation. They know their mission. They know what they're here to do. They know who they are. They know the qualities they have, the boundaries they have, the values they possess. They're not out here. trying to impress other people or perform for other people in the world. Some of the funniest most successful people on social media on TikTok are the people that you could tell don't give a flying fuck about what anyone else thinks because they're just living

in their authentic truth. And they're just funny and unfiltered and raw and relatable because they're not thinking about what everyone else is thinking. They're just doing them. They're being themselves. You know when someone is being themselves or they're trying to be someone else. You know it. You feel it. You know when someone is authentic. And that's why they're radiating that golden aura.

That's why they're radiating such a magnetic energy. When someone's fake or trying to fake their way to the top or copy someone else's personality or do things out of trying to please other people, you can also spot it from a million miles away. You could smell it from a million miles away. At least I can. I'm very intuitive. I know when someone's a fraud and when someone's really being true to themselves. The most beautiful thing is when you can tell that someone is just so comfortable in their skin that they're not out here living their lives for anyone else other than themselves. The other thing that I want to talk about is being consistent with who you are. In order to have that golden aura where people respect you more, want to be around you more,

tell other people, oh my God, this person is just, they just have such a good energy, they have such a good presence. you have to shine through consistency. Just like the sun rises every day, okay, even though I'm in London and it's not every day, but we're getting there. The weather's been amazing so far. You know the sun exists and it's there every day, right? So if you're the sun and you're the light, you have to act like it. You have to be consistent with who you are and your actions and your goals.

You have to be consistent in your nature. That's how people start to trust you and respect you. You have to show up every single day as your most authentic self and stick to it and stay true to it and not be scattered in a million different directions. Part of the reason I know that I had been delayed in my career setback in my career in the past and all confused and all over the place in my relationships and my private life is because I failed to be fully consistent. What that would do is it would leak out my energy into so many different areas of my life. And it never felt good. For example, if I said, I'm going to go to the gym every single day for the next six months and create a brand new routine for myself. And then I only go for two days and just completely give up.

It's not just about going to the gym. It's about how consistent you're being. When you give up on yourself so easily and you don't stick according to the plans that you've made for yourself and you don't commit to what you told yourself that you were going to do, it makes you feel like crap. It literally makes you feel like crap. And you start lowering your aura and your frequency and your vibration, the more times you give up on yourself and don't stay consistent. Consistency makes you shine brighter. It builds and compounds over time. You start to feel better and better and better.

The more you put energy into the same thing over and over again. Now, I'm going to talk about the opposite. When I get into a good routine, when I stay consistent, when I stay on top of my goals and I'm working consistently, I'm productive every single day. I'm saying what I said I was going to do and I commit to the checklist and I check everything off. I feel a thousand times better. I feel so, so, so, so, so, so good about myself. This is probably one of the most important parts of radiating that golden aura is to be consistent with yourself. Keep showing up every single day. Keep going. Some days are going to be easier. Some days are going to be more challenging. But the more you commit to a routine and stay consistent with it, the better you're going to feel.

the better your brain's going to feel and you're going to feel more grounded in your energy. The next thing is self-belief. Believing in yourself and why you're here and what you're put here to do. Believing in yourself in all of your dreams. And not letting anyone or anything waver you from how incredible you are. The most radiant magnetic people with the golden aura believe in themselves the most. They believe that they have a mission. they have a goal and they're going to get to the end goal no matter what it takes.

They're constantly driven by this idea that they are the best, that they're here to do something amazing, that they're going to get to the end goal no matter what it takes because they believe in their mission. They believe in themselves. When you don't have any direction, when you have no goals or no drive because you just haven't created that for yourself or you haven't thought about it, it's easy to stop believing in yourself because you have nothing to work towards. So my goal for you now is to create a target.

It could be big, small, medium, any type of goal, anything. Commit to it and fulfill it and build it like a muscle. This could be as small as, okay, instead of just chilling on my couch today, I'm going to join a new workout class and just do it once and see how I feel. That's the small goal. Instead of sitting on my ass and doing nothing today, I'm going to sign up for a yoga class, pottery class, art class, dance class, I'm going to just do something to shake up my routine and to feel a little bit different, to shift the timeline a little bit, to change my day a little bit.

Or I'm going to call someone I haven't talked to in a while and check in on them and see how they're feeling. Or I'm going to go for a walk in a different direction that I usually go in. Just change up the route, change up the routine, change the timeline a little bit. Shake it up a little bit and start to tell yourself things. like, I am so successful. I am so confident. I am so abundant. I am creating a new life for myself. I am going to manifest everything I want this year. I am going to X, Y, Z. Whatever it is you want, start affirming it through I am affirmations, start reprogramming your brain using these affirmations. I am. It's a very powerful mantra and whatever it is you want and start rewiring your brain to believe it.

you have to believe in yourself. The more you believe in your future and what you're here to create and do and build for yourself, the better you're going to feel. You'll have something to work towards. And people will feel it. You'll radiate a different type of confidence. And the last thing is look at yourself as overflowing with love and energy and abundance and light at all times.

Always make sure that you're nourishing your mind, body, soul before any of this. before you start giving away your time and energy to other people, you have to nourish yourself from within. You have to know that your energy is sacred and you have to replenish it often. If you need time to recharge and rest and ground your energy, do it. Before you go out into the world and you're working and you're burned out and you're stressed and tired because you're doing a million things, take at least an hour just to replenish your energy fields. If you don't want to go out and your friends are pressuring you and you're saying, oh, let's go out, let's drink, let's party. And you know that that's really not aligned with your higher self and you want to

radiate a different frequency and you want to feel better about yourself. Have the courage to say no and say I'm prioritizing myself. I need to replenish my energy fields. Your energy is sacred. And it's very important that you protect it. The more you protect your energy, the more you honor yourself and do what you want to do and do what's best for you, you focus on your health and taking care of your mind-body's soul, the better you're going to feel and the more golden you're going to radiate. A radiant goddess knows her light dims when she gives from an empty cup, okay? You can't give your energy from an empty depleted cup. So make sure you're taking care of your mind-body's soul, prioritizing your needs over trying to people please or do what

other people want to do or spreading your energy too thin because you're signing up for too much. Always take time to nourish your mind-body soul. remember how important that is. There are so many days where I'm alone, I'm isolated, and I use those days to recharge. A lot of people ask me, oh, how do you hold so much energetic space for thousands of people that are DMing you, messaging you, asking you for advice, listening to your podcast, how do you hold that energetic space? And I tell them, there's so many days where I'm literally by myself, recharging, meditating,

taking baths, praying to God, literally using God as a tool. to get me through hard moments to help me replenish my energy fields. It's all part of it. There's a lot of days that I need my alone time. I need time to replenish myself so I could show up better in the world so I can help make a bigger impact and so I can maintain that golden aura. We're going to conclude this episode with a beautiful golden aura mantra. I am the sun. I am the source. I radiate warmth, power and divine energy. Everything I desire orbits towards me. I rise daily golden, graceful, and God chosen. Keep telling yourself that.

And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself Instead. Thank you so much as always for listening to the podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to share it with a friend, share it on Instagram stories, and DM me at List or on the podcast account at Date Yourself instead. And leave a comment on Spotify as well if you're listening on Spotify. I love you. I appreciate you. I'm so grateful for you. And stay tuned for next Monday.