Date Yourself Instead - How to PROTECT YOUR ENERGY!! Not everyone deserves access to you + my views on sex, intimacy, & karmic soul ties.

Episode Date: May 11, 2025

Babe, your energy is extremely SACRED and divine. You are a magnetic force, and not everyone deserves access to how special you are. Protect your field and step into your power now with this episode of Date Yourself Instead. With all my love, abundance and healing sent your way...Lyss. xx

How to protect your energy and rise into your power. Everything is an energy exchange. You are a divine creator in the mind of God. You are here to create. You are here to have a beautiful, creative life. Your energy is your currency. Your energy is your power. Your energy is your divine inheritance.

You were given the gift of power. When you're a fully clear channel and you protect your energy fields, you're going to be able to accomplish so much more in life. You're going to be able to get shit done. You're going to be able to be motivated, unstoppable, and become the greatest version of you when you protect your energy and protect your energetic field. When things like fear, distraction, and doubt plague our minds and plague our energetic field, it can prevent us from achieving our dreams.

It can hold us back and make things feel stuck or stagnant. And on today's episode, I'm going to tell you how you can protect your field, protect your space, and clear your energetic fields to attract abundance, to become unstoppable, to become the greatest, most powerful version of you. What you allow into your field, you water more. What you entertain on a daily basis manifests accordingly. Every word you speak out of your mouth is going to affect your future. Every thought you think is going to affect your future timeline and your goals.

and what you're here to accomplish. Life is a game. We need to know how to play it. It is not only wise, but necessary, to guard your energy with fierce spiritual authority. Every thought you plant in your brain is a seed. What you allow into your energetic space, it becomes bigger and greater the more you entertain it,

the more you feed it. So I say to you, the most important thing you could do now is to not entertain confusion. doubt, fear, worry, anxiety. Shift the focus. Shift your attention. Don't make a home in your mind for worry. You have to protect your energy like you would guard a rare diamond because it is the key to your dream life. It is the key to your manifestation power. When you protect your energy, you're anchoring yourself into the vibration of faith. You rise above the noise. You rise above

the chaos or fear or doubt that other people are trying to plant in your mind. you become so magnetic to the good things in life. Everything you go through is a reflection of your inner thinking, of your thought process, and what you're entertaining and consuming on a consistent basis. So let every interaction be filtered through discernment. The key is to have unwavering discernment. There's going to be a lot of people in life that try to throw you off course. There's going to be people that doubt you and tell you that your ideas are silly,

that you shouldn't pursue your dreams, that your dreams are too big. There's going to be people that doubt your value and don't see your worth and walk away and don't want to be with you and it could cause you to question yourself and your value. The key is to stay in your frequency and to protect your energetic field and trust and have faith that you're on the right path, that you deserve the world, that you deserve divine love, and that everything is always working in your highest favor. The game of life is always rigged in your favor when you remember who you truly are. You're an amazing being.

You're guided by truth. You're protected by love. And you are destined for a beautiful, amazing life. Hello, everyone. And welcome to another episode of Date Yourself Instead. So today I am going to be talking about protecting your energy and really stepping into your power, rising into the person that you're supposed to become because everything really is an energy exchange.

I had an experience recently that inspired today's episode. It had me thinking, everything and everyone is a lot of. an energy exchange, every interaction you have, every DM you reply to, every glance that you exchange with another person, it's not just a moment. It's an energy exchange. It's a frequency transmission. And as I've become more open and receptive to energy, cleaning out my own energetic field and filtering out the noise, focusing on myself, focusing internally on my mission, getting into a solid routine and healing, I've noticed such a big different. I've noticed such a big difference in how I'm so sensitive to people's energies now and the world around me.

After hanging out with a couple of different people over the last two months, I realized that people carry frequencies. People carry frequencies. They're vibrating at a certain frequency. Okay. So every person you allow into your space, every person that you allow into your energetic field is either amplifying you or contaminating your field. There is going to be people that are operating at different timelines, different vibrations than you. And when someone is not operating at the same frequency as you and their energy isn't meant for you, it is so draining. It's so evident. It's so obvious. And we often still ignore the warning signs. We often still entertain it and talk ourselves out of it logically, saying, oh, it's not that. You know, maybe I was tired. Maybe I was having an

off day. There was someone that I was spending a lot of time with and I had come from a very healed environment where I had done the inner work on myself. I was feeling really good. When you feel really good and you're vibrating high, you're often going to attract a lot of different types of people into your field because people feel your magnetism. People see your aura and they gravitate towards you. When you have a high vibration, you're going to attract a lot of different energies good and not so good. And I attracted someone into my field that at first I thought it was harmless

and I really didn't see the big deal in spending time with them. But as I spent time with them and was in very close proximity with them, I would leave these interactions feeling wiped, feeling exhausted. I was so drained. I was like, oh, it's because we were walking around all day and we were talking all day and we were hanging out all day and that's just normal. But I realized that there are other people that I could spend five or six hours with and feel so energized and like I really took something exciting and amazing and valuable

out of our interaction when I've left. So it got me thinking, why am I so drained when I leave an interaction with this person? Why do I feel so off even though they seem like a good person and we've had some great times together? What's going on? And then it suddenly clicked. People carry frequencies and if they're not vibrating at your frequency, they start taking from your frequency. They start taking from your energetic field and they'll start slowly. draining you of your energy. You feel tired and burnt out and you don't feel like yourself and you feel like you have to take time to recharge because they were taking from you whether they consciously realize it or not. Your body knows and will communicate with you all the time through energy because we are energy. If you feel off and you feel tired after spending time with someone, think about it. Are they really right for you? Or is your body trying to communicate a different message and say, they're taking from you,

but you just don't want to come to terms with that? The thing is, I was spending time with someone that I really liked and I had feelings for. I was in denial that this person could actually be draining me because I liked them. And I didn't think anything bad of them. So in my head, I kept justifying it and blaming myself for feeling the way that I felt when I would walk away. from those interactions. I started internalizing it saying, is there something wrong with me that I feel this way because nothing seems wrong. Nothing seems like they're doing anything wrong. But sometimes it's just where we're operating at. And because I've done so much to heal and done so much to work on

myself, it just felt like I was overly sensitive to this person's presence now. And that's okay. That just means I've changed. And that's, that's okay. I wish I understood this concept more before I entertained a lot of different relationships. When I had met my ex, one of them that I dated for several years, I remember feeling so drowsy and tired all the time around him. And at the time, I was seeing a lot of videos online saying, oh, if you're tired around your person, you feel safe. You feel protected and safe. Now, this is the issue with social media. convinced myself that I was always exhausted after leaving interactions with my ex because I felt safe.

But I was just wiped. I was exhausted without realizing it because the interactions I had with him were depleting my energy. And I marked it off as something entirely different. The energetic exchange between me and him was him taking from my energetic field, him zapping me of my power. And after years of going through that relationship, I finally came to that conclusion, but it wasn't until much later where I understood this concept of energy exchange. Sometimes it would literally feel like I was spiritually drugged when I left his apartment. I would feel so disoriented and out of it. I would question like, is this just chemicals from being in love? Is this bursts of dopamine and serotonin and now I'm just sleepy all the time and I'm drugged off of these feelings and chemicals of love because it's all hormones and you're getting to know someone and you have feelings

for them. And although those things could have been true at the same time, I remember there were so many instances where I started to feel so tired that I couldn't get anything done. I couldn't get my work done. I couldn't focus. I wasn't productive. In turn, it caused me to not focus on myself. It caused me to feel more insecure and overall drained me of my life force, drained me of my power. And And that's why I went into such a dark space for so long after being in that relationship because I wasn't using my creativity for good. I wasn't driven and motivated to focus on my goals. I wasn't motivated to do anything.

I was just focused on him, him, him. How are we going to end up together? How are we going to be together? And I was constantly focusing on all of the wrong things, which in turn sucked the life force out of me. Your nervous system will communicate with you before your brain does. If your energy is truly aligned with another person, you will feel energized around them. Guaranteed.

Every time I'm around someone that's good for me, that's healing for my soul, I'm smiling, I'm laughing, I'm upbeat, I'm energized, I'm leaning forward towards them. I want to be around them more. I'm addicted to their presence. When I'm not with the right person, it may feel good. It may feel like we're having a great conversation. they're doing all the right things. Everything's all well and good.

But then when you walk away, you just feel this weird shift like, oh, tired, sluggish, disoriented, not focused, not aligned. And it makes it harder to focus for the rest of the day. So that's something that I've really been monitoring recently in all of my interactions with people. Do I feel better walking away from that interaction? Or do I feel sluggish, tired, weird, not focused, not me, not. in my body fully. There was another guy that I recently exchanged a few words with and we ran into each other a couple of times in London. The first time we had an actual conversation in person, I felt so powerful. I felt so uplifted in good spirits. I felt so good when I walked away from

that conversation. I also noticed that his energy was super high and radiant. He was radiating an aura. He was radiating magnetism. I could tell that he was really strong in his identity and who he was. And that type of energy actually rubbed off on me and lifted me up. That's the beautiful thing about knowing if someone's right for you. Your body will tell you. Your body and the way you feel after walking away from them is the biggest indicator of how they are playing a role in your life, good or bad. So for me, I remember this was a couple of days ago. I was in this cafe and we chatted for a bit and I just felt so lifted and smiley. And I was like, this is great. This is good because I know that that person is fully in their energy and fully in their power. And people like that will make you feel great. And if you're also in your power and you feel really good and then you're.

come together, it's a healthy dynamic and you feel great because you're able to lift up each other. You're able to rub off of each other in a really positive way. A couple of days later, after that interaction, I was spending time with someone else. And when I left that conversation, I went home and immediately felt like I needed to go to bed and lie down. I had a headache. I was like, I need to go to sleep. I don't feel 100%. I felt like something had been taken from my energetic field. Because as I just said, every interaction, every exchange of words, every conversation, every moment you spend with someone, it's an energy exchange. That's not to say that person is a bad person, did something wrong, was intentionally taking from me. No, it's not like that at all. But this is more something that's

really just out of your control. It's either where you're at energetically and they're able to match you and lift you up and make you feel good and you make them feel good, or you're just not vibrating at the same wavelength. For me, it was like, I don't know if I could hang out with that person anymore. It's not that they did anything wrong. It's not that they're a bad person, but something just wasn't feeling right. And I've accepted that that's just out of my control. So I could choose to use this information and carry what I know about energy and choose accordingly who I'm going to spend time with and who I can't spend time with. After that interaction, I went home, I went to sleep and I slept for like nine hours.

And I was like, I just don't know if that's really, you know, the right person to hang around, regardless of who they are, regardless of how great they are. I'm sure they're an amazing person. but something in my body didn't resonate with their vibration. And that's okay. Maturity and being in a really good place is understanding that not everyone is operating at your level. Not everyone is operating at your vibration. And that's okay.

It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either of you. It just means that you're not in the same space. And when you're talking to people that aren't vibrating as high as you, you can lift them up. you can make them feel good, but it often will feel like work and stress. For me, I know I'm so sensitive to energy that it actually takes from me and productivity and getting up and going the next day. So I have to be very careful with that. And I know a lot of empaths, people who are very empathetic and absorb emotions like sponge

and absorb energy very fast and quickly around people, you've probably experienced this feeling before where if you're not around the right people, you feel it physically. You really do feel it physically. I get a lot of questions about intimacy, sleeping with people, having sex with someone else, and my perception of having sex. I'm going to break it down for you because it ties in perfectly to this concept of energy exchange. This is about energy, science. This isn't about, oh, if you have sex with someone, it's not pure, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's not about any of that. They think a lot of people are judgmental and they put these labels on, oh, if you sleep with

someone on the first date, it's bad, or if you sleep with someone too soon, it's not classy. I don't even think about it like that at all. What I think about is I'm opening my aura, my energetic field and my temple, my body, to someone else. When you are sleeping with someone, you're so close that you're so close that you're exchanging energy fields. You're exchanging all of the things that they carry in their body, in their energetic field, and you're taking it on into yours and vice versa. You're in a way downloading their vibration when you're sleeping with them. And if they feel insecure,

broken in their spirit, if they're not operating at your level, you may be absorbing that energy. If they're not operating at the frequency, that's right for you, that's healthy for you, that's going to lift you up, when you exchange energies with them, it may leave you feeling depleted. I know for me, I've slept with enough people to understand this fully. There's no shame in sleeping with whoever you want. That's your choice to make. However, when you do a lot of deep inner healing work, like I have. I never thought I would see the day where I was like, oh, I'm just going to be celibate. I'm not going to sleep with anyone. I'm turning that part of me off because everything is energy and I want to protect my peace and I want to protect myself. I never thought I would do that.

But after really investing in my healing journey and really taking care of my mind, body, soul, if I hadn't made a pilgrimage across the world to Bali to go heal and to go figure myself out and really heal my heart, heal my chakras, cleanse all my old trauma and my patterns and cycles, I would see it differently. But because I know how energy is so real now, because of how different I feel, because of how much I've changed as a woman, I won't sleep with anyone unless I know that it's safe to and that we're both clear channels where we're not going to intensely affect one another, emotionally, spiritually. And I've become very selective with this.

And I went celibate for this reason for a while because I wanted to protect myself and my energetic field. I believe that you're not just sharing a bed with someone. You're essentially merging your souls when you're sleeping with them for a period of time. And it could create energetic ties. it could create carmic entanglements. I know for me there's been certain people that I've slept with where I didn't really know how I felt about them, but then we slept together and I got more energetically attached to them. And I wanted to see them more and I wanted to be around them more because there was an entanglement there afterwards.

So I've become very selective with that because I believe that it's sacred. I believe that it's a sole contract when you're willing to exchange energy like that with someone. and you have to be willing to really trust that person and open up to them and understand that you're sacred, that your energy is very valuable. It should be protected. For years, I had gynaological issues after sleeping with my boyfriends and other people. But especially in my relationships, I started developing ovarian cysts. I started having irregular menstrual cycles. I started having infections for no good reason and every time I would go to the doctor, they would just throw medication at me and not properly diagnose me. I was on all sorts of hormone medications for polycystic ovarian

syndrome, PCOS. I'm sure a lot of you are familiar with it, but it's a hormone imbalance disorder. Cis will develop on your ovaries. It can cause infertility. It could cause weight gain, acne, hair loss, hair thinning, so many different things that can really affect your hormones. I've dealt with a lot of different hormone issues ever since I had my first boyfriend. I'm not saying any of the people I've dated are bad, terrible people, okay? There are people that didn't treat me, right? There are people that didn't respect me, of course. But I'm not going to say, oh, you know, all my boyfriends were terrible human beings and

they gave me all these chronic health issues. But I will say this. When you are sleeping with someone and you aren't vibrational a match and you're not an energetic match and your souls are not supposed to work, your body will scream at you. Your body will tell you crystal clear. That's also why I've became so protective of my decision to not sleep with anyone unless I know that our energies are not going to interfere with one another, unless I can trust that person enough to know that it's not going to affect me on a soul level.

Any time I've been intimate with someone that wasn't aligned with me and that wasn't right for me, I would have chronic health issues because of it. And they'd walk away and be fine. And they'd be like, oh, really? Like you had to go to the doctor. And I'm like, yeah, I did. At the time, I didn't understand that it was very much connected. I didn't realize that just because you're energetically exchanging a moment with someone, that can trigger all of these side effects physically. I had no idea. And it's almost hard. to believe because no doctor had ever told me that. No doctor had ever come to me and say, oh, you have polycystic ovarian syndrome, you have a lot of hormone issues, you have infertility issues. Maybe it's because you're sleeping with people that are toxic for your vibration. No one's going to tell you that, okay? Because it sounds very woo-woo and like, oh, spiritual. But at the end of the day, we are energetic beings. And when you're operating from the 4D and the fourth dimension way of thinking. It's not about throwing medication on you, slapping some pills in your face and saying,

go take this. You'll feel better. It's about getting to the root of the issue. And the root of the issue is that you're exchanging energy with the wrong people. The next thing is, every thought you think and every conversation you have carries codes. Who you speak to and what you speak about programs your field. Gossiping pulls your vibration down. Ranting rewires your subconscious to expect negative things and disappointment. Venting. All of these things are very low vibration. You have to remember this. Your voice is power. The things you tell yourself are powerful. The things you talk about to other people, hold weight, okay? Stop speaking on the things you don't want. Stop speaking on negativity. Speak only what you.

you want to attract, speak only what you truly desire, and let that reality meet you. I'm going to give you an example of how powerful thought transmission is and how your thoughts are actually energy. We don't really consciously pay attention to all these things that we're thinking on a daily basis. Our brains can go in a million different directions and it's so easy to not even realize how much we're thinking about the negative things. When I was doing my energy work, my friend Isabel, who is an amazing healer. She and I did a private session together. I'm laying down on the mat, just doing my thing.

And I was visualizing myself in that specific session burning New York City down to the ground. In my mind, burning the Empire State building down to the ground, being like, I can't be here anymore. I'm done with New York for now. Not forever. But this chapter of my life in Manhattan needs to go. I need to move on. I need to move forward. In the session, it was a lot of letting go of my old time.

lines of my past environments, of my past relationships. There was a specific visual of me burning down New York City. And at the end of the session, she looked at me and she's like, that session felt to me like you were burning down New York City. We both just look at each other and I'm like, oh my God, I literally saw it. And she saw it too. We had not exchanged a word. We had not exchanged a word about it. There was no communication during the session. That to me just proved in itself thought transmission and how everything holds a frequency and you can literally telepathically communicate with people through the power of your mind and your thinking and what you're giving out. I was giving out the frequency that I was burning down New York City. And in return,

she felt that and saw the vision without either of us exchanging a single word. I'll never forget that because that just proved to me how powerful every single thing we think really is and how our thoughts carry an energy and our thoughts carry an omission. And that can be transmitted to other people, to other conversations. Your thoughts are so powerful that they could be used for positive or negative. So why not focus on the positive? Anytime you feel your thoughts drifting into something negative, say reset. I'm redirecting this. Redirect, redirect, reset. Stop. I'm going to stop my thoughts in their tracks and redirect to something positive. What's a thought that can actually make me feel good?

Always reach for the better thought. Every time you have a negative thought, it's normal, we're human. I get them all the time. But I've started to master the art of redirection with my thinking. Reprogram the brain. Reprogram the subconscious. This is what I teach in my master class, dare to detach, and the mind, body, soul reset. Everything is about reprogramming the subconscious.

When you learn how to redirect your thoughts and reprogram the subconscious, your reality will shift in the most magical magnetic ways. Everything becomes a miracle. You become unstoppable. You become a magnet for blessings. And you open yourself up to the way that God wants you to live and the life that God wants you to live. You're so in touch with your higher self and the higher realms and you're opening your energetic fields and you're clearing all the negativity. When we focus on things that don't make us feel good, it lowers. is our vibration and we can't see clearly. We can't quantum jump into the life that we desire

because we are blocking it through our negative thinking and our negative thought patterns. And that is why I push the masterclasses so much on the podcast, dare to detach in the mind, body, soul. Both of these masterclasses were created and designed by me to help you rewire your brain in just days and up level and raise your vibration and detach from anything that's no longer serving you. Detach from any negative thought patterns and cycles and relationships that you've been in. Let go of the people that are holding you back. Let go of the thought patterns that are holding you back. Let go of those energetic blockages so you can rise, step into your power and understand that your energy is everything. Where you're vibrating at is what is going

to manifest into your reality. Guaranteed. If you're interested in joining the masterclasses, this is the last month we are promoting the masterclasses. Everything is rebranding. Everything is changing. This summer is going to be incredible, but we are letting go of Dared to Detach and Mind, Body, Soul reset in the format that they're in now, it's going to be completely different. Everything's going to look very different. Visually, there's going to be new content. There's going to be so much more coming later in the year. This is the last opportunity and window of time to get the masterclasses at a huge discount, at a huge sale. Use code abundance at checkout. If you decide to join us, I can't wait to see you there. The beauty of both of my masterclasses is also that

work hand in hand. Dare to detach focuses on letting go of people in toxic relationships and cycles. And then the mind, body, soul reset is to push you to be the best version of you and step into your glow up era physically, spiritually, emotionally. It's focused on a mixture of fitness and meditation and being your best self and radiating that golden aura. When you take both of these masterclasses combined, you will become an absolute magnet for miracles in less than a week. The beauty of also is that you get access to both of my masterclasses forever. The materials are yours to keep. You can revisit the materials whenever you want. There's no expiration date. So if you are ready to uplevel to take your energy seriously, to take your aura seriously and know how fucking incredible you are,

go check out the masterclass is Dare to Detach and the Mind, Body, Soul Reset. The link is in the podcast show notes, as well as on my Instagram at Date Yourself instead at Dare to Detach. You can find the link to the masterclass is there. Remember to use the code abundance at checkout. So with that being said, I want you to remember that the power of your word is everything because words hold energy. It's funny. I was recently talking to my mom about dating an older man with children. And I was like, I would honestly not mind that at all. I would love to date a man with kids. I would love to get myself familiar with the idea of having children to be completely transparent. It was never really on my mind. There's a lot of women that I know that I've always dreamed of having a

family one day. For some reason, I didn't have those maternal instincts kick in until a year ago when I started doing my healing work. I think it was because I was so in my masculine energy, my whole life. I was just never tapped into that side of me. And as of last year, I've really thought about it and I've decided, oh, I definitely want children. One thousand percent. So it would be nice maybe to date someone older that has kids. That's something that I would actually love to experience. And yeah, so I was telling my mom this on the phone. And over the last two weeks, I've attracted so many men with children, like out of nowhere. They've just been flying at me. I've gone on a few dates with men that have children. And the thing is, I didn't even know that they

had children before I went on the dates with them. I had no idea. But there was two instances where this happened twice in a row. And I was like, wow, I have to be careful with what I wish for, not that it was a problem for me because I had actually told my mom, this would be fine with me. I would want this. I just so happened to attract two different men that both had children. It's such a small, minor example, but that in itself showed me in just an instance, the power of your word, the power of your thought process. And anything you say and tell yourself and accept as true will come to manifest. Will become a part of your reality. Be careful what you wish for. And I called my mom and I was like, mom, both these men that I've been

interacting with, I didn't even know, but they both have children from previous relationships. And she was like, well, you said, you said it yourself that you wanted that. I was like, well, I don't know if I wanted that necessarily, but I said I wouldn't mind it. We were. laughing about it because she said, yep, be careful what you wish for, and it's true. The power of the tongue, the power of the word is so important. In Proverbs 1821, it says death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. This is one of the most popular verses, and it affirms that your words have creative or destructive power. What you continually affirm, and say you eventually live out.

When I was living in Bali, a couple of months ago, I was talking to someone that couldn't even set a dinner plan, could not even set any type of plan. He was like, do you want to go for a walk? Like, yeah, we could go for a walk, but are you going to ever ask me on a proper date? And he didn't. So I cut that off pretty much right away. I was just so frustrated. And I literally was speaking to God directly. I'm like, God, please, can you give me the opportunity to have a nice romantic dinner with a nice man?

Just give me one night where I can go out, have fun, have a nice dinner. And that's all I asked for. He doesn't need to be my soulmate. He doesn't need to be the love of my life. But I just want to go on a nice date. I haven't dated in a while. I swear to you, the next night I was sitting out to dinner on a nice. romantic date with another man that took me to dinner, paid for everything, wanted to treat me

right, less than 24 hours later. God was like, your wish is my command, babe. And it was because I had spoken it out loud. Every word you speak is an energy transmission to the universe out into the world to God. He's listening. He's listening. So send your prayers to him, send your request to him don't be afraid to ask for things. Don't be afraid to be bold with your questions, with your prayers. And know that it's done. That's the key to receiving as fast as possible because sometimes you're like, I prayed for this and it's not happening and I've been begging the universe for this and it's not happening. No. You have to know that it's done once you speak it. You have to know that it's already been done for you. And you have to let it go and detach. And it'll unfold naturally. The same way you order something online, you know it's coming.

The same way you order your food at a restaurant, you know it's coming. It's done. The same way you know the sun rises and sets every day, it's happening. The same way that you know that certain things are so fucking certain, you have to treat what you want like that. You have to treat your desires and your manifestations like that. And that's why that unfolded in less than 24 hours because I took it so lightly. I didn't put any energetic emphasis on it where I was begging.

I was just like, God, please just set this up for me. And I let it go. And then it happened. And it was okay. But what I realized is after I had the dinner and after I experienced the dinner and got what I wanted, it was actually interesting because tying it into this episode, as I said, everything is an energy exchange. And you can ask for something. You could ask for a nice date, a nice dinner. You could ask for a new love interest, right? But if that person isn't 1,000 percent aligned with you energetically, it can lead to a little bit of disappointment and drain you. more than benefit you. I instantly realized afterwards that I would rather be in my own energy, work on myself, protect myself, and pray for my husband than go on random silly dinner dates with people because I don't feel like I got that much out of the interaction. So it's just interesting, but kind of a funny story. Remember that every thought is an invitation to level up and rise or to lower your frequency and be set back. You're not just thinking. You are broadcasting

what you want out into the world good or bad. Thoughts send signals into the quantum field and attract matching energy. The more you indulge in fear or unworthiness, the more you magnetize situations that validate it. The same way when you indulge in positivity, love, excitement, faith, trust, belief, abundance, the more you're going to magnetize that. If you want to change your reality, you have to monitor your thoughts and regulate them like you'd protect anything of importance to you. Think of the most important thing to you, your dog, a really expensive piece of jewelry, your child.

Think of what's really, really valuable and significant to you. You have to protect your thought process and your brain the same way. Not every voice in your head deserves a seat at the table. not every voice in your head deserves to be validated. You got to zap them out because it's energy. And you don't want to keep communicating to the universe that you don't want something because you're going to attract more of it. So for example, if you're saying, I don't want to be alone the rest of my life, I don't want to be broke. You're actually communicating to the universe.

I want to be alone and I want to be broke because everything holds an energetic frequency. And that is operating from fear. Those sentences are fear-based. So then you're vibrating at fear. And when you're vibrating at fear, you're going to attract more of that and more of what you don't want. The universe only hears what you're speaking, the words you're speaking. It doesn't hear the negation. So if you're saying, oh, I don't want to be alone, alone, alone, alone, you're going to keep attracting things of the vibration of feeling alone.

So what I want you to say is, I'm happy, I'm abundant. I'm surrounded by loving people. I'm surrounded by amazing people. I have a community around me. I'm loved. I am loved. I am loved. I'm adored. I'm appreciated. I am powerful. I'm the most amazing person in the room. Tell yourself the positives. Reiterate the positives in your life. Condition your brain to focus on only the positives. The next thing is, what you consume consumes you. The more you scroll, the more things you're absorbing, sad music, toxic memes, toxic TikTok videos, shitting on men. All of the things you're absorbing. The more of the music. You're absorbing. sad music, toxic memes, toxic TikTok videos, shitting on men. All of those things carry energetic frequencies. You're either nourishing yourself or depleting yourself based on what you're consuming.

You have to protect your digital diet. It's spiritual hygiene. You have to protect yourself and what you're consuming online on your phone. We live in a world where it's so easy to get influenced and sidetracked and distracted. And something that I've said, clear boundary on is what I'm consuming when it comes to Instagram, TikTok, as well as the music and podcasts I'm listening to and YouTube videos I'm watching. I only listen to things that make me feel uplifted and inspired and good. If a sad song comes on, it's rare that I'll listen to it.

It's rare. I've had many moments where I've felt like I just needed to cry it out and I will and I'll listen to something sad or I'll consume a piece of content that makes me emotional and I'll cry it out. But it's very rare when I do this now because I've made the conscious decision to focus on the good and focus on things that uplift me and make me feel good because why would I want to cry all day in bed? Why would I want to do that to myself? I've done that many, many, many times. I've experienced and lived that out many times where I've consumed things that made me depressed. Okay. Tortured Poets Department was on repeat at point last year all of April pretty much and I was bawling my eyes out for days, weeks.

But the truth of the matter is, I had a breaking point where I was like, I can't do this to myself anymore. This is self-sabotage at its finest. Consuming things that are bad for my brain and it gets addicting because you love these things, right? I love sad songs because they're good, they're catchy. But subconsciously they plant seeds. And I do believe everything holds a frequency and everything is energy. So when the artist was recording those songs and they're about betrayal and breakups and about loss, you're actually absorbing the frequency in which they recorded it in.

I know it's a weird concept, but it's true. When they recorded that song and they were going through the worst period of their life and depression and mental torture, you're absorbing the energy at which they recorded the song in. And it may be too deep for some people to understand this, but because I absorb energy so much and I'm so sensitive to it, I know that this is true. It's the same concept as listening to positive music. you start to feel good, you want to dance, you want to get up and you're energized. When I listen to pop music, uplifting music, happy music, dance music, I feel happy.

I want to dance. I want to move. I want to walk, right? It goes both ways. It's also when you listen to meditation frequencies, the reason they're helpful, the reason certain songs that you meditate to, certain frequencies that you're meditating to are helpful in the healing process is because they're holding a frequency. It's an energetic exchange.

and it's being emitted at you so you can heal. So what makes a song any different? You have to think about it. Everything really does carry an energy. So filter out the things that make you feel sad. It's not to say you can't have one moment where you listen to sad music, but filter out the things that don't make you feel good digitally. It's super, super beneficial and super important.

And you'll notice over time it'll slowly change your mood. Guaranteed, you'll feel better. if you keep listening to happy things, uplifting things, God infuse things. I listen to God-focused podcasts all the time. If you listen to those things, you will feel better. If you walk away from a podcast or a video or a piece of content or a chat with someone or music feeling more energized, more uplifted happier, then it's right. Then it's right for you.

Then it's pushing you in the right direction. Keep consuming that type of stuff. Your energetic boundaries cost more than money ever will because it's costing you your future and it's costing you your energy and your energy is extremely important because your energy is propelling you towards your destiny your energy is what helps you manifest your energy is what helps you get to the next level of your life your energy is what creates abundance in your life your energy is what creates we are born and put here to create to manifest to live our best life so when someone's taking that from you and depleting you of your energy

you're losing a piece of yourself you're blocking yourself from your biggest blessings you can't afford to let misaligned people, business clients, potential people that you might date, you can't let these people bring you down. It's way more expensive than anything else to spend your energy on other people that don't deserve it. Your life force is your most expensive, valuable currency. Let me repeat that. Your life force, the energy that drives you to be the best version of you, is the most expensive currency. And every time you give it to someone who hasn't earned access to you, you're delaying your destiny. You're delaying your future.

You're delaying your greatest timeline. You're delaying your higher self from achieving everything you've ever wanted to achieve, from manifesting. You ever notice when people go through breakups and detach and let go of people for good, they up level immediately. They start changing their life for the better immediately. They get into a new workout routine. They're glowing differently. People are like, oh, my God, you're glowing. The breakup glow.

because they took their energy and their power back and they're using it to better themselves now, to ascend, to rise, to step into their power, instead of wasting and spending all of their energetic currency on someone who never deserved it. So stop ignoring your own boundaries and getting in your own way. Cut the cords, cut the energetic cords, and conserve your power and use it to create for yourself, to benefit yourself, to do something for you. Your frequency is a part of your magnetism and your brand as a human being. You don't have to be the loudest person in the room. You don't have to be the most visible person in the room.

You don't have to have the most followers. Some of the most incredible women that I follow on social media, they don't have a lot of followers. They don't have a big audience. But you can just tell that their energetic field is a magnet for blessings because they're living abundantly just from their energy. You can sense through a picture. You can sense through a story if someone is living at a high frequency.

And it's not about numbers. It's not about how many followers they have. It's about their frequency. And you can build a really powerful community with not that many followers. You can build a way more powerful community with a small knit of people that really love you and adore you because they feel your energetic frequency. I've also known people with 20 million followers. followers where you're just like, I don't really feel anything or inspiration. I don't really feel anything from that. Whereas there could be someone that you follow a friend, a coworker,

a peer, someone that you randomly discovered with 500 followers and everything they post, you're magnetized towards. Everything you watch from them, you want to watch. You're addicted. You're like, oh, this person has something. They have something. They have like a special sauce that I just want keep going back to their page, I just feel drawn to them because they're vibrating at a certain frequency and it's resonating with yours. People will feel you when you're operating high, when your energetic field is clear and you're vibrating high. People will feel you without you having to do that much. You're not going to have to do that much. You're going to be a magnet for people because you're radiating at a different timeline. You're radiating at a different vibration.

Opportunities will land. Love will find you. People will come. People will to you, money will flow to you, abundance will flow to you, when you know how to properly protect your energy and raise your frequency and hold the frequency. The next thing is, the most powerful women in the world, people in the world, they're not doing the most. They're holding more energy. They're not hustling to the point where they're burned out and depressed and pushing and pushing and forcing. People with a lot of energetic power because they're conserving their energy and nowhere to direct it and they're living in flow. People who are really vibrational aligned with their purpose are moving in a way that actually

doesn't take that much energy. They know how to conserve their energy and move accordingly and move with the flow of life and get things done without extreme amounts of stress and pressure. The best manifesters, they're not doing much. They're sitting back and detached and letting life flow to them come to them it's supposed to be effortless supposed to be an effortless feeling you're not supposed to be straining and begging on your hands and knees for what you want all the time now sometimes it's good to be forceful with your energy and say you know i need this let's get you done it's important to work hard in some aspects but working hard at what you love shouldn't feel like torture and the most powerful people in the world they're doing what they love they're pursuing

their passions and what they love. And they're working at a different frequency of ease. They know their energy feeds itself. They don't rent their energy out to the wrong things, wrong people, wrong places, wrong opportunities. They're conserving their power and then moving with it, moving accordingly, knowing that what they want is coming their way, knowing that if something costs them their piece, it's too expensive. Okay. Remember that. If something is costing you your peace, clarity, or your power, it's way too expensive. Not everything deserves access to your energetic field. Your energy is sacred.

You have to treat it as sacred and royal. Your energy is sacred. It's not casual. It's not something to rent out. It's not something where you excuse people's bad behaviors and chalk it up to a bad day. You have to protect yourself and your energetic field. Be the gatekeeper of your frequency. Okay.

Nothing is allowed to enter your field without it being fully aligned with you. You need to only align yourself and make a conscious decision to only align yourself and allow yourself to entertain the things that make you feel alive, good, creative and productive and powerful. There's no exceptions. Remember, your energy is your legacy and how you protect it determines the rest of your life. You're not here to be accessible and available to everyone. You're here to be in pure alignment with yourself and protect your peace and protect who you are because you're amazing. You're incredible. And you just deserve the absolute best of the best, and you deserve to feel good and powerful and stand in your

power at all times. I'm going to leave you with an energy protection mantra. My energy is my empire. I don't entertain chaos, confusion, or anything less than divine or sent by God. I move with power. I speak with intention. And I protect my peace like my life depends on it, because it does. No low vibe can touch me. I am chosen and untouchable in my spirit. I command light abundance and bliss. I attract only what's meant for my highest expansion and my highest self. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself and said. Thank you so, so much for listening, as always, to the podcast. If you haven't already, be sure to rate the podcast on Apple and Spotify, share it with a friend.

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I hope this episode inspires you to protect your peace, to protect your energetic field and your aura, and to know that you are a divine light and you deserve the absolute best of the best as always. I love you. Thank you again. And stay tuned for next Monday.