Date Yourself Instead - How to use pain to MOTIVATE you. Your triggers are PORTALS to your destiny. LIGHT THE FIRE within.

Episode Date: April 20, 2025

If you've been easily triggered by a situation recently, IT'S TIME TO REFRAME IT and use your triggers as the ultimate motivation to upgrade your life. Use triggers as the fire and the fuel to propel you forward into your destiny. Prob my fave episode this year so far ;)I've got you. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it and drop a comment below on Spotify and message me on instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead.JOIN MY MASTERCLASSES BELOW.Use code abundance at checkout for an exclusive discount.⁠⁠⁠Dare to Detach⁠⁠⁠ - cut the energy cords now and step into your power⁠⁠⁠Mind Body Soul Reset⁠⁠⁠ - heal yourself from the inside out With love and light,Lyss

You're not triggered. You are activated. Let's reframe this concept of getting triggered. We hear about getting triggered all the time. It's thrown around a lot. It's thrown all over social media. It's a very common phrase when it comes to dating and relationships and getting back into the dating scene or if you're currently in a relationship or a situation. I don't look at triggers as punishments. I look at triggers as portals as divine blessings. It's an intervention. and a way to really get clear on who you are, where you stand as far as self-love goes, and where you stand as far as your boundaries go, your self-worth goes, and your confidence. And for me, I used to look at triggers as a bad thing. Throughout the last couple of years, as I've grown, as I've healed, as I've changed, as a woman,

I realized that the key to hacking your life and the key to leveling up and bettering yourself and having a major glow up is to know how to handle triggers and turn it into fuel, turn it into soul activations that make you better, that heal you and then align you with your higher self. This shift and reframe changed everything for me, and it's about to change literally everything for you too. We're constantly discussing getting triggered in a negative light, but I want you to see it as a blessing when something irritates you, when something bothers you, affects you in a negative way,

when you have that sick gut feeling when you know something's off in a relationship, when you're anxious, when you're unsettled, when you're depressed, when you're nervous, when you're stressed. I want you to alchemize this energy into your superpower. I want you to use it as fuel to align with the highest version of you. By the end of this episode, you're going to be able to flip your entire perspective upside down. and I'm going to give you the ultimate goddess level reframe when it comes to getting triggered. You are being activated when you feel emotions come up that don't make you feel great,

that make you feel a little off. Instead of looking at it as a negative thing, look at it as motivation to step into a higher timeline. You're going to look at it as motivation to step into a higher version of you. Every time you feel uncomfortable, insecure, jealous, rejected, it's not life punishing you. It's life directly communicating with you saying, hey, you've outgrown something here. You're worth so much more than this. And it's time to rise. It's time to grow and learn something from it.

Triggers are divine nudges and opportunities to reclaim your worth, to raise your standards, to understand who you are, to step into a higher frequency. and when you are being activated, using this energy in the right way can transform your life for the better guaranteed. Every time I've gone through something triggering, I've used that energy to uplevel, to upgrade, to glow up, to look better, to feel more confident, to feel sexier. I've used this energy as a means of transformation. And people that bother you, people that get under your skin or boil your blood can actually

be the catalyst to the highest version of you. When you treat these people that trigger you as divine blessings and people that are placed into your life to transform you, it's easier to be grateful for the lesson and move on. Something I've learned a lot through my past relationships is it's easy to be bitter, to be resentful, to be angry at someone who did you wrong. Of course, right? If someone really hurt you, betrayed you, cheated on you, lied to you, betrayed your trust and let you down, it's easy to take the route of being angry, bitter, you hate them, you talk badly about them because you're so upset. And although those things are human and I've done this before where I go down the spiral of hating on someone because they hurt me, I realized that the key to upleveling and to really

becoming the best version of you is through these people. Therefore, you should be grateful for them. And when you're grateful for the experiences and the relationships that hurt you and the relationships that brought you down initially, when you choose gratitude for the lessons that you can learn through these people, your life will get infinitely better and easier. And you will end up attracting the right situations and the right people in due time. But in the meantime, if you're currently going through a situation where you're being called to leave someone because you're hurt and it's not the right situation or you're triggered and you're anxious around someone because they're not the right person use it as the motivation to upgrade your timeline and become

the best fucking version of you life will place people as mirrors in front of you to show you where you're at people are often mirrors reflecting to us what point of life we're at how much we really do love ourselves how much we really do hold our standards how truthful we're being with values. When we are experiencing triggers, it's often just bringing to light what we haven't healed yet, right? Or what we think we've healed, but we haven't. I know for me, even very recently, I was in a situation with someone that brought up unresolved feelings. And I've done a ton of healing work. You've listened to my Kundalini episodes. I went to Bali. I did as much trauma work and unpacking of my past and my trauma as much as I possibly could. And yet, after I did all of that,

even so, I met someone that triggered me. The difference was I was able to approach it differently because I wasn't being treated the right way. I wasn't being treated the way I deserve to be treated, but instead of hating on that person and going down a rabbit hole of everything they were doing wrong and getting upset at that person, I chose to let it fuel me. I let it light. I let it light. a fire inside of me. That is what Kundalini Energy does. If you're not familiar with Kundalini energy, I highly recommend you go listen to my last two episodes, how to have an energy glow up the rise of Kundalini. And the other episode is how to be radiant and wildly magnetic. Those two episodes discuss this energy. It's fire energy. It's knowing your worth. It's stepping

into your power. It's unleashing the energy within to become the greatest version of you, to fulfill your highest potential, to connect to the higher realms, to connect more with God, and to be the best version of you. I've noticed that after doing this work, I've been able to properly alchemize the energy, the energy that used to make me feel bad about myself, make me feel unworthy, and triggered, instead of letting that energy consume me in a negative way, now I'm able to take a step back, detach from situations that are no longer serving me. and from people that are no longer aligned with me, and practice gratitude over the situations.

Instead of saying, fuck this person, they're a terrible person, they cheated on me, they didn't have my best interest at heart. Instead of speaking that, speak gratitude over what you learned from that situation and that person. What is this teaching you? How is this helping you grow? How is this helping you evolve and get to the next level? Life is a game and you need to know how to hack the system and play it, accordingly. You need to know how to hack your own timeline and use negative experiences as fuel

to motivate you, to climb the ladder, to succeed, to shift timelines. If you don't do this and you don't learn how to master this, you're always going to play the victim mindset. You're always going to end up feeling sad and discouraged. And when you allow that energy to overpower you, it's never worth it. You don't get anything done. You fall backwards. You go backwards. you feel like shit. If you're diving into negative emotion and letting yourself dwell and sit there for days on end, you are doing yourself the biggest disservice. You can use this energy as fuel.

Use it as fire. Use it as a way to tap into your passions more, to pursue a hobby, to do something that you love, to speak gratitude over the situation. It'll make you feel so good when you're able to actually take value from the things that brought you down. Triggers are activations. Let's reframe it. Triggers are activations pushing you forward. They show you where you're playing small in life and where you've forgotten pieces of yourself. Where are you playing small in your life? Where have you forgotten or abandoned yourself and your self-worth? Are you being 100% authentic with what you know you deserve or were you settling for

someone and you knew in the back of your head it wasn't right to begin with? More oftentimes than not in my past relationship experiences, I knew right away my gut, my intuition, I knew in my cells and my DNA that that person was not fully aligned with me. I knew that I deserved better. But I wanted to stick it out because that was just who I was. I would lower my values and my standards to try to meet someone where they were at instead of holding my own energy and holding my own frequency. And what would end up happening is I would do myself the disservice of giving people so

chances that I would start to lower my frequency. I would let them take my energy and I would feel like shit once I walked away and got out of that situation. It was never worth it. It was never worth it. And of course, as I said, we can learn from these experiences. We can grow from these experiences. But if we can prevent them, let's do that. The second we start to see something's off, The second we start to observe that something isn't aligning with us, that something isn't sitting well with us with another person, we're going to use it to activate us to the next level instead of let it weigh us down and bring us down. Triggers aren't here to break you down and take away from your life. They are here to break you open. They are activations that are invitations from the universe and from God to level up so fast and unapologetically.

another thing so I I was in a situation recently where I met someone in Bali and he was friendly on the surface but you know when you just know that something isn't fully right and it's not sitting with you well but you have no idea what it is and you can't put your finger on it I just knew something in his energy field wasn't sitting well with me but he was super nice on the surface. this. And I've run into people like this many times in my life where other people will be like, oh, this person's great. This person's amazing. And they speak highly of someone else. Because I read energy so fucking well, I'll be like talking to that person. I'm like, yeah, they seem nice, right? Like they seem nice, of course, to the naked eye. But I'm reading energy. I'm reading souls. Like,

I'm not reading their personality on the surface. I'm not reading just their words or their actions. I'm reading their energy field. That was the situation. where I just felt like this person's energy field, it was, there was like some sort of dark cloud over his head, to be honest. And I was just like, I don't feel like he's who he says he is. There was a period of time where I saw this person and I was just more observing the situation. And I was observing him and what he was saying and what he was telling me and then how I was feeling around him. It was triggering because he reminded me of my past. He reminded me of my past. he reminded me of the past people that I dated that didn't really appreciate my time or see my worth or value my energy.

And I cut it off almost immediately because I knew it was just not going to be a productive situation if I stuck around. After I was able to observe, reflect, detach, and then cut him off, I upleveled in that instant. I activated in that instant. I went into a healing session a couple of days after I stopped speaking to this. person and I felt so fiery and so unstoppable because I knew I had chosen myself first and I had put my intuition first and I put myself fully and wholeheartedly first and I didn't doubt it. I didn't question it. I didn't go back. It was this person is not aligned with me and my higher self and who I am. This person cannot see me clearly. This person does not have my best intentions. Maybe I can't

logically rationalize it or explain it because maybe they were treating me nice on the surface, but I just knew and I stuck to it and I held my frequency and I stood by it because I know what I deserve and I know my boundaries and what I need in a person. I know what I need now and I stand firm by those boundaries and those standards. And what that small short interaction did was it activated me even further into my purpose and into my higher self. It pushed me to be even more fiery, to be even more confident, to love myself even more, to get even more truthful with myself. Every single person that triggers you is here to awaken you to the next level, to unlock the next timeline, to push you into a new dimension where you love yourself even more. Use these experiences

wisely. Don't let people suck the life out of you and bring you down. let them push you to be even better. The same thing can apply in business in any type of relationship or any type of situation that's been challenging or draining you or you feel discouraged. Use it as the ultimate fight back, comeback, motivation, be a warrior. If you haven't listened to my other episode, How to Become a Warrior, highly recommend that episode as well. It talks about how to fight against the darkness,

how to fight against thoughts and situations and people that make you feel shitty. and try to bring you down, that episode and this episode talks about how you can transmute the energy into something positive. You have to fight against the darkness. Anything that's keeping you staying stuck, sad, depressed, anxious, fight against it. Your thoughts are everything. Your thoughts dictate your reality. And the second you learn how to pivot your thoughts and pivot your energy, your world will open up in brand new ways that make you better, make you more inspired, and when you let it fire you up, your reality will shift. Instead of sulking in the dark emotion where you're sad and depressed,

let it activate you. Let it inspire you to create something new, to write a song, to journal, to make a new vision board, to hang out with people that actually love you and appreciate you, to go for a run, to join a new workout class, experiment with something different. Pour your energy into things that make you feel good. Shift the energy. Shift your reality. Shift your timeline using this energy.

So when it comes to dating, if you are getting triggered, you feel rejected. Someone rejected you. Say out loud to the universe to God, thank you. Thank you for showing me where I'm. I'm at with my self-worth. Now I'm activated to finally learn how to choose myself and to only allow the best type of love into my energy field from this point forward. If you're frustrated and feel blocked in your career and you're comparing your life to other people and it's triggering jealousy, thank God. Thank you, God, for showing me where I'm at, for showing me this jealousy wound.

So I can correct it. Now I'm activated to step forward boldly, to take up more space and to, awaken my confidence, to tap more into my gifts, to know my value when it comes to my career and what I'm capable of. If you're having anxiety about money and finances and you're triggered by a lack of money because you're going through some financial hardship, thank you, God, thank you for showing me this and my scarcity wounds and my scarcity mindset. Now I'm activated to reclaim Abundance. From this point forward, I'm going to speak abundance into my life. I am abundant. I am prosperous. Everything I touch turns to gold. Emboddy prosperity. Any challenges that you face from this point forward are going to be activations and catalysts to a brand new version of you. The most

successful, intelligent people in the world have struggled the most with challenges. And I'm not going to say everyone, but a lot of people, a lot of the most successful people that you know that have everything they've ever wanted was earned through trials, through challenges. I know I've been put in many, many trials and tests to get to where I am today. And my life still isn't perfect. And I still have a ton of things that I need to work on and I still have problems. And life doesn't get easier. You just get stronger and you know how to face problems better. I know that's a cheesy quote, but it's, true. Life doesn't get easier. You get wiser. You get more confident and you get more stronger and capable. You become more of a warrior to face these challenges, to face these triggers and setbacks. Keep thanking your problems, blessing your triggers. Thank you for showing me where I'm at. Thank you for activating me to my highest timeline. Thank you for reminding me of what I know I want or what I desire or what I know I deserve. Watch me now. Watch me. up level. Watch me upgrade. Stop playing the victim and getting into a victim energy mindset.

Stop dwelling on the past. Stop dwelling on the issue and start focusing on the future you that's going to fix the problems, get what you want and override any difficulties. Stop shrinking yourself for other people. Stop dwelling in the negative emotion. It's time to be a warrior. It's time to let these triggers activate you. I'm going to give you some very powerful examples of how you can use triggers to better yourself, to become a warrior, to become the greatest version of you. For example, number one, okay, someone is inconsistent and leaves you feeling sick to your stomach anxious because they didn't answer your text for 24 hours, okay? You went on a date with someone, you've been on multiple dates with them, you're dating them, whatever it is,

they didn't answer your text. You have a feeling there on another date with someone else. you feel nauseous. You're texting your friends. You're literally up all night spiraling because you're like, where did this person go? They fell off the map. They hate me. Okay? It's a common experience.

I'm speaking from personal experience. So how do you approach this? How do you turn this trigger into an activation? Instead of waiting around anxiously, you're going to use this to reclaim your worth and confidence in real time. The second you start spiraling and thinking of the worst case scenarios about the situation, you say reset reset this is also a part of my masterclass dare to detach on the mind body soul reset masterclasses this is why i have the masterclasses available to you guys because a lot of it focuses on rewiring the brain and resetting your thought process catch yourself in these spirals and stop it

in its tracks don't let your thoughts take over the key is to not let the thoughts win stop letting the darkness win you are light you are divine love and anyone who is making you spiral is not aligning with your higher self that person isn't aligning with the highest version of you so when you start to get anxious and you start to think oh my god why aren't they answering me what did i do wrong did something happen do they hate me blah blah blah are they ever going to text me again say reset reset reset on your brain no negotiating stop it in its tracks. Reaffirm your worth through affirmations. I'm only available for consistent loving energy. God has a plan for me. If it's not this person, it'll be someone better. If it's not meant to be,

someone else will come into my life at some point that will show me why it didn't work out. I only deserve the best. I am divine love. I deserve true love. I deserve someone who can love me the same way that I love them. If that person chooses to be with someone else, if that person chooses to ghost you, if that person leaves you and walks away, it's divine redirection. It's divine protection.

Invest your energy into powerful self-love affirmations and care. Let it activate you into the version of you that doesn't tolerate half-ass behavior from anyone. It's a non-negotiable, this point moving forward let it light a fire under your ass if someone isn't willing to meet you where you're at that should light a fire under your ass because you know how amazing you are you know how beautiful you are you know how beautiful you are you know how special you are you know how worthy you are of divine love and your highest self would never tolerate someone who doesn't meet you where you're at

i always think about it like this and i kind of reframe it in this interesting way of looking at the bigger picture, like bigger picture, where you're looking from a 4D lens instead of a 3D lens, and I'll explain this. So let's just say you knew the love of your life, the person of your absolute dreams, everything you've ever visualized, fantasized about. You knew they were a week away. Would you still be entertaining the person in your life right now? Would you be dating or interacting with the person in your life right now if you knew there

with someone else in your future, in your very near future, that had everything you've ever wanted, treated you amazing, was physically the most attractive person you've ever seen, was literally your dream person on your vision board. Would you still be tolerating inconsistency, breadcrumming, all that nonsense? Or are you just afraid of being alone? Are you just settling right now because you're afraid of the unknown? You're afraid that you'll never actually find the right person. Let the people who aren't right for you fuel you into your destiny where you do meet the love of your life. So if someone's not appreciating you or valuing you and they're ghosting you or leaving you on red or dating other people, whatever it is, reframe it. Well, there's obviously

someone better for me if that's what they're going to do. So I'm going to let this fuel me and activate me. Instead of letting it make me question my self-worth and how amazing I am, I'm going to reaffirm that this is actually confirmation of how amazing I am. They're not even in my energetic field anymore because they can't meet me where I'm at because I'm so much better. I'm so much better than this situation. I'm vibrating so high and I deserve so much more that we can't align anymore. Bottom line. Another example of turning a trigger into an activation. This is a common one. You feel jealous or envious seeing someone else living in abundance because you're not. And you feel unworthiness and you're feeling like abundance is for them and not for you. Let someone else's

beautiful life activate you and make you excited because if they can have it, you could have it too. If they can live that life of luxury, you can live it too. If you can see it, it's already in your field. If you can visualize it, it's already yours. It means you're next. Look at people's success as motivation and fuel to activate you to get on that level. You're next. You are next in line.

Instead of getting jealous and getting caught up in this idea of, oh, they have it so easy, my life sucks, my life's miserable. Well, if you keep sticking to that timeline of you where you're broke, where you have nothing, where you're depressed because you're not living the life of your dreams that you want, you will remain on that timeline. You have to shift the energy. You have to tell yourself a new story. Narrate a new story.

It's happening for me too. I'm next in line. This is proof of what's possible for me. Use their abundance as a mirror showing you what's available to you. Make a vision board and fill it up with the luxury that you desire. Feel into it. Make it exciting. Make it a journey for you.

Another beautiful thing, and I always think about this, 99% of the time, it's never about the end goal of like receiving a huge check for something or getting the promotion or, you know, upgrading your life. It's never usually about the end goal. The journey is what makes it rewarding. The journey is what makes it impactful. the actual process of getting to your goals is what life is about. It's not about the end goal because once you actually get it, it's kind of like, okay, now what?

And this is something I've experienced directly where I've manifested a lot of the things I've wanted to in my life. I've accomplished many things in my life that I've wanted to. And then when I do it, I'm like, okay, what's next? There's always going to be this concept of what's next. So make the journey and the process to getting to what you want a game, make it fun, make it exciting, because that's usually the most exciting part. Building this brand, building outdate yourself instead, building the podcast and working on it for so many years. Every time I reach a milestone, it's exciting, but I'm also like, this is just what keeps me going in the morning. Like having a passion to work at.

I don't know what I would do if I just stopped and didn't do anything and I reached all my goals. Like, what would I even do? because the journey and the process and actually committing to the work is what makes it exciting, what makes me get up in the morning, what drives me, what gives me that fire. So embrace the journey to get to abundance as something positive. It may take hard work. It may take a lot of energy. It may take a lot of your time and effort.

But make it fun, make it exciting. If you are working towards something that you love, if you're working towards a dream of yours, it should be the process that is most rewarding instead of the end goal. And when you look at other people's successes, that could be really activating. Instead of letting it discourage you, let it fire you up. So when a trigger arises, I want you to just pause and be compassionate about it. I want you to bless the trigger. If you start to feel that sick to your stomach, not in your stomach feeling because something's not going according to plan with someone, you thought it was going really well and then it just doesn't or anything in your life that makes you feel a little unsettled.

I want you to become a witness to your emotional state rather than reacting and freaking out and texting all your friends and screenshoting things and saying, oh my God, this person. Stop exploding. Stop getting ahead of yourself. stop letting your emotions control you take control of your emotions. Become a witness to them and recognize it from the outside as an outsider. Okay. Use your emotions as messengers from the universe, offering you insight into areas where you need to grow and heal. Hold the space for your emotions.

Give yourself grace. I make it a habit now of not talking about my business, relationships, career, dating, money, anything. I don't talk about my business with other people. I don't speak about my problems anymore. I give myself the grace in a window of time to just reflect and pause and stay calm and grounded. Nine times out of 10, I promise you, the problem dissolves on its own when you don't speak it into existence. Stop speaking your problems out to every fucking person that walks by on the street.

Stop venting out to everyone the second something triggers you. Instead, pause, reflect. be gracious about it. Be gracious about your triggers. Be gracious to yourself, but also stop enhancing the problem by bringing it up. The more you speak of things, the bigger they get. The more you talk about things and blab about them, the bigger they get. The bigger the problems get, the bigger the triggers get.

So I want you to practice this. Instead of speaking so much about it and venting and freaking out and crying about it, I want you to stay grounded and calm in your goddess empress energy. Listen to this podcast again if you have to. Listen to it 10 times. Just observe where you're at. Say, okay, this is really bothering me. But I'm going to take a deep breath.

I'm going to pause. Let me go on YouTube and do a meditation. Let me go on YouTube and do a cord cutting ritual. Let me meditate on this. Let me sleep on this. Let me take the day to reflect. Let me journal on it. Alchemize the energy into something productive, positive, uplifting.

Don't allow yourself to succumb to fear. The next thing I want you to do is reframe everything, okay? Constantly shifting your mindset around what a trigger means to you. Viewing them through a positive lens, through the lens of God, understanding that they are not here to punish you, they are not setbacks, they are portals offering you insight, into the next level of your life. Each trigger is a divine opportunity to up level.

As I said, you can rewrite the narrative, rewrite your story, rewrite old patterns at a quantum level, and you can ascend into a more confident, empowered version of you. You don't have to fear these feelings anymore. You can embrace them as growth opportunities, as portals, as blessings. say, okay, this is really, really upsetting me right now, but I'm going to use it as my motivation to hack the system and become a better version of myself. I'm going to learn something from this. Every opportunity I have where I have a setback, where I don't feel good about something, I use it as a divine way to connect to my highest version of me.

Another thing I love to do is visualizing myself in a radiant golden light when I'm I'm going through something difficult or I feel anxious in public or I'm out and I'm feeling really out of body or I'm just not feeling myself. I visualize a golden bubble around me protecting me, a golden aura surrounding me, a golden light streaming down through my body. Visualizing a golden light around you protecting you actually cleanses your aura. It cleanses your chakras. It works every single time. Whenever I'm having an anxious moment, I close my I start breathing and I just visualize golden light coming down through the top of my head and down all of my chakras into my body down to my feet. And any thoughts that have caused me to spiral that make me feel uneasy, I say reset.

Reset, how can I reframe this right now? What is this teaching me? How is this making me better? How is this making me an even greater version of myself? What is this showing me about where I need to heal? the more you keep visualizing the golden light, the more you keep resetting your thought process, the more you keep stopping your negative thoughts in their track, you will start to master using your triggers as motivation and ultimately empowering who you are, making you more magnetic,

making you more fearless, unstoppable, making you unafraid to face challenge. The other day, I was taking a nap and there was construction going on outside of my window. It was so loud. I couldn't sleep. It sounded like there were hammers in my ears and I was like, this is insane. Maybe an old version of me would have been triggered and been like, oh my God, I can't sleep. And I almost went that way because I was so tired. I was so jet lagged. I just got off the plane. I just got from Bali to London. That flight is very, very long. And my brain was all over the place. My body was exhausted. And I just wanted to sleep. But instead of getting angry and triggered about the noise, I literally commanded it to stop. I used my powers, my sacred feminine energy. As I said,

your thoughts, what you speak, how you feel, controls your reality. So instead of complaining about the noise, instead of texting my Airbnb host and saying, oh my God, you didn't tell me there was construction going on, I blessed the situation. Thank you for giving me a comfortable bed to sleep in. Thank you for giving me this beautiful apartment. But the noise has got to go. The noise is going to stop. Five minutes later, they stop construction. And I was able to drift off to sleep. No problem. Instead of blowing up the problem, making a whole scene, causing a ruckus, texting her, I could have, and I almost did. I almost did. I took a deep breath and calmed myself. And I grounded my energy and I said, I control my reality. I say what goes.

The noise is going to stop. And in just a few minutes, it was resolved. The problem dissipated. It was all good. It was all peaceful. All I heard was silence. Five minutes later, it was just pure silence. And I was able to sleep. So this is your reminder.

The key to hacking your life and becoming the greatest version of you is knowing that you control your reality. What you say goes. When you command reality like the goddess that you are, there's no other option. It will happen. will manifest. Everything you've ever wanted will come to pass. And I think that's also about knowing your power and knowing how confident you are in the power of your own words and your own energy. And once you master your energy fields and you become more and more confident by practicing this muscle, you start to see the biggest craziest shifts in your reality. Everything starts working in your

favor. Everything starts aligning for you. Things become effortless. Things become magical. Things become easier because you are so confident in your own power. Something me and my friends were practicing a lot in Bali was this concept of, I reject this, I release this. If this isn't aligning with me, if this doesn't make me feel good, if this isn't bringing me absolute joy and abundance into my field, I let it go. I release it. It doesn't matter what it is. It doesn't matter what situation you're in. If it's not bringing you abundance, peace, joy, love and light, I release it, I let it go. God has something better for me. God is something more aligned with me. I know what I deserve. I know my truth. I know my value. I release this.

It makes life so much easier when you are brave enough to let go of everything that isn't making you feel good. Tune into your body and how you're really feeling. Get honest with yourself. If something isn't making you feel good, why would you want it in your field anyway? Be brave enough to release it because you're abundant and you're not living from scarcity where you're afraid of the unknown. Instead of living from fear, live from abundance. Live from abundance. Live. Live. in an abundant mindset. Tell yourself, there are so many amazing miracles and blessings still stored in my future that I haven't unlocked yet. All I need to do is release what's no longer serving me. And those blessings and miracles and people and situations will come into my timeline

because I was brave enough to let go of the stuff that wasn't good for me anymore. Let this be your sign to channel your triggers into your divine purpose. Redirect your emotional intensity into your creative projects, into your mission, into your higher calling, into passions of yours. Each trigger can become fuel for your passion projects, for your future self. Transmuting the energy is the ultimate game changer in hacking your reality. Get inspired by the challenges. Let them make you better. Allow yourself to rise from the negative energies and emotions. Transmute the energy. Transcend what. you're going through. Transcend what you're going through now and use it as a call to elevate your

standards and embody your goddess queen energy. Hold the frequency of divine power. You know you deserve the best. You know you deserve an abundant life. You know you deserve divine love. You know that you were being called to a greater level in your life. And these challenges and these problems and these trials are just here to push you further and elevate you and make you stronger and make you. And make you, you more powerful and to make you rise to force you to elevate. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself Instead. Thank you so, so much for listening to this episode. It means the world to me. I'm so grateful for you and the community that we've built, as always. If you love this episode, also be sure to DM me on Instagram at LISS or on the podcast

account at Date Yourself Instead. Let me know what you thought. And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my masterclasses dare to detach and the mind body soul reset. Those masterclasses are no longer going to be available starting this summer. So I highly recommend you access them if you haven't already, as they will no longer be available starting in June. Doors are closing permanently as we're rebranding and doing a lot of different things with the podcast in 2025. Once again, it means so much to me that you're here. You are amazing. You are a goddess. You deserve the absolute world. You deserve the utmost abundance, love and light moving into your future and I hope this episode activated you today. Thank you again. I love you

and stay tuned for next Monday.