Date Yourself Instead - Reset your brain after a breakup in 72 hours

Episode Date: February 3, 2025

This is probably one of my favorite episodes because I talk about my 3 step method on how to entirely reset and shift your brain and energy in 3 days after a breakup.  ⁠JOIN MY MASTERCLASSES HERE�� If doors are not open, be sure to join the waitlist and you will get instantly notified when they become available again. Mind Body Soul Reset - shifting your energy for a major ultimate glowup, inside and out Dare to Detach - detach from your toxic relationship and take your power back Both of these classes combined are designed to help you become absolutely unstoppable and change your life for the LONG TERM. Can't wait to see you there! :) x 

How to reset your brain after a breakup. I know what it's like to go through heartbreak. I know what it's like to feel like your world is literally crashing down. Everything's burning down to the ground. You feel hopeless. You feel like you've wasted so much time on the wrong person or they've wasted your time

and you just feel like you can't seem to get back up on your feet because you're in so much pain. It's relatable. A lot of people have been through heartbreak. I'm sure everyone listening to date yourself and said you have experienced this to a degree or you're currently going through a breakup and this episode is going to cover everything I did and that I've done in the past to heal my heart in a week or less. I know you're probably going to be like, Liss, that's impossible. I was with this person for a very long time. I thought it was the love of my life. I thought I could never see myself with anyone else. And now it's over. If you really put your mind to it, you will be able to heal your heart and get back on your feet

and stand stronger than ever and be even more powerful than you were before you met this person if you actually believe that it's possible. It is possible to heal in a short amount of time. This doesn't mean you're not going to think about them sometimes. Healing obviously comes in waves and there are still going to be up and down moments There's still going to be moments where you're sad where you feel frustrated where you feel lonely Where you feel those low moments that is human that is normal However, I will say you will be able to get back on track faster than you think if you actually set your mind to it And believe that it's possible now if you've been with someone for a very long time, if they've been a part of your life for months, years,

10 years, your entire adulthood, I don't know, whatever your situation is, all you have to know is that your thoughts are the most powerful thing in the world. Your thoughts dictate your reality. This is also why I have my masterclass, Dare to Detach and the Mind Body Soul Reset, because both of these courses are set to rewire and reset your brain in a very short period of time.

Healing does take time. It is a process, but if you actually trust the process and you actually believe that you are going to get better, that you're going to heal your heart, that you're going to come back stronger than ever, I can guarantee you, you will in no time. So let's dive in to everything that I've done to heal in such a short window of time, the steps I've taken, and the method that I use to rewire my thought process and to become more powerful post breakup.

The key is to have a glow up post breakup. You want to feel like a better version of yourself coming out of the fire. There's going to be a low moment where you feel like you've been burned, you're hurt, you're suffering, and you're grieving someone or something in a relationship, right? When you come out of a breakup you obviously feel sad. There is a quote out there that says something along the lines of however long you're with someone it takes half that amount of time to get over them. That is just a myth. That is truly just a myth. When I've been able to detach and re-center my energy onto me

and re-ground my mind body soul and focus on these three things, I've been able to bounce back quickly. Before I get into the three-step method I use to rewire my brain and reset after a breakup, I also wanna read you this quote because I saw it on TikTok and I thought it was super relevant and powerful and it was really inspiring to me, so I hope it can be inspiring to you. I heard someone say,

sometimes God destroys our plans when he sees our plans are going to destroy us. Let me repeat that. Sometimes God destroys our plans because he sees those plans are going to destroy us. If you have been settling with someone, if you've been in a toxic cycle for years and you felt trapped and you could never get out, if you feel like you've always deserved better with a person and they were treating you like garbage, maybe there's a reason why you're not together anymore. Or if just something felt off, if something was missing, there had to be something missing if you're not together anymore. If it didn't work out, there is a divine plan.

I promise you there is a reason why it didn't work out. God has plans for you and sometimes it's so difficult and challenging because you can't see it in the current moment. You lose faith because you're in so much pain and you're in so much heartbreak and despair that you can't see the vision clearly and you're like, why would this be happening to me? This was the love of my life. Maybe that person was the love of your life, but that doesn't mean there's not gonna be someone better in the future that will be an even greater love of your life.

I do believe we get multiple opportunities and chances in this lifetime. If it's meant to be with that person, maybe you need to be separated right now in order to heal, grow, evolve, and eventually come back together stronger than ever. Life has its twists and turns and unexpected turns of fate. Miracles have happened.

Crazy things have happened. Another thing I want to preface this episode by saying before I get into the three-step method, stop listening to everyone else around you. When you're going through a breakup, it's easy to get consumed in other people's opinions of your relationship. It's easy to go to your friends and family and complain and cry and be sad and talk shit and get in that repetitive loop of talking about your ex,

of talking about your past memories and what they did to you. I get it, I've been there, I've done it myself, I'm guilty of it too, but I will say, the more you give it your energy and feed it your energy, the more you're taking away from the time you could be empowering yourself, working on yourself and healing and shifting timelines. There is this concept of shifting timelines when you remove your energy from a situation

that is hurting you, that is frustrating you, whatever it is that you're currently experiencing. There is a way to shift timelines which is basically removing your energy from its field and from its frequency and redirecting it to positive things and things that are going to help you heal. And your reality will start to change rapidly. Stop going to other people for their opinions about your breakup and your relationship. I know it's hard, I know it's hard because you need a vent

and that's okay. In the beginning stages, when you're just going through it, I get it, go vent, do your relationship. I know it's hard. I know it's hard because you need a vent and that's okay. In the beginning stages when you're just going through it. I get it. Go vent do your thing. But if it's been a few months a year and you're still talking about the same shit with this person, it's time to wake up. It's time to snap out of it. It's time to shift timelines.

It's time to reset your mind body soul. It's time to detach and let go so you can step into the highest most powerful version of you. Use this as fuel. The key is to use this as fuel and learn how to reset your brain so you become the greatest version of you post-breakup. Let it inspire you to be better. Let it inspire you to get hotter. Let it inspire you to work on yourself so you don't even recognize the version of you that was with that person. If it's truly meant to be, if you really think this person is the love of your life, you will end up together. One way or another, fate will bring you guys together again, okay? But in the meantime, work on yourself.

That's what this episode is going to cover. Working on yourself, resetting your mind, body, soul, and getting your brain and your heart to a place where you feel so fucking good and so fucking in your power. That may be the new version of you when you walk away from this episode. And when you take my masterclasses, Dare to Detach, and the mind, body, soul, reset. And listen to more episodes of date yourself instead maybe the new version of you that's upgraded that's ascended to a higher timeline won't even want to be with that person anymore there was a guy I dated over the summer and I really liked him my feelings started to grow and when he ended, initially I wanted him back.

I was like, I want to get him back. And a couple of weeks went by, I decided to go heal, work on myself, better my life. I wasn't going to give him my energy, my precious feminine energy and give him those tears and dwell in the emotion because I knew better because I've made these mistakes in the past. The more mistakes you make and the more shit you go through,

the more you build, the stronger you get. And every time you go through something hard, you bounce back faster. So for me, I was like, I'm not fucking dwelling in this emotion. I'm not letting him have that power over me. That's not happening. Within three weeks, I literally forgot he existed. And

I was like, actually, I don't even want him anymore. So the key is to work so deeply on yourself until they're not your type anymore. Or if they are meant to be in your life, they're going to be doing the work too. And when you come back together, the relationship is going to be better than ever because you attract who you are. You attract who you are. That's another thing to remember before I get into this episode. You attract what you are, not what you want. You vibrate at a certain frequency.

You are vibrating and operating at a certain level and frequency, and you are attracting people and situations and experiences into your energetic field based on the vibration that you're operating at, that you're living at. If you're vibrating low and you're always anxious and sad and worried that someone is going to leave you, you will attract that into your experience, or you will attract people that take advantage of your weakness. If you feel insecure and desperate for a relationship all the time and desperate for a person, they will feel that and that will repel people out of your life because you are insecure and you are not standing in your power. I've been in relationships where initially I felt really confident and I felt really grounded and I felt really sure of myself and over time my

confidence started chipping away. I became insecure. I became too vulnerable where I would let my guard down with the wrong people. Keep in mind these were the wrong people. I would lose my identity and lose myself in love or what I thought was love. I was blinded and I would give pieces of myself away and pieces of my heart and soul and my precious energy away to the wrong people and what would happen is they would walk away and leave because I wasn't standing in my power anymore. I was giving my power away. It wasn't intentional, but I was doing it because I wasn't secure enough to really hold on to my worth and know it and ground myself in it. I didn't know who I was to the fullest. I didn't love myself enough. I didn't understand myself enough. So with all of this being said, let's get into the method because it works and it's effective

and it's going to change your life if you're going through a breakup or if you're trying to let someone go and it's inspired by my masterclass, Dare to Detach. For those of you who are already in the masterclass, you get it. You know the drill. You know what's up. A lot of what I'm going to be talking about right now is part of the class, but obviously, if you want to get more specific and into the details and join the community, it's a lot more thorough and precise and you have those materials forever.

The first thing you're going to do is detox your mind, reset your mind. Your brain is storing all this information about your past and it instantly goes to past memories when you wake up Because that is what's familiar and that is what your brain is naturally going to do. It is storing information You have to think of your brain as a computer Okay, take yourself out of the equation for a second and just think of your brain by itself. It's a computer out of the equation for a second and just think of your brain by itself. It's a computer. It's an operating system. It's storing these past memories. Since it's storing these past memories, what can you do to get rid of those memories for a second? You're not going to focus on them. Your thoughts control everything. Your thoughts dictate your feelings, your emotions, and your current state of reality.

So what you need to do is redirect your thoughts and reset your thinking habits as fast as you can when you start to think of the past. I know it's not easy. I know if you're in pain right now and you're going through the thick of a breakup, I know it's not easy, but I am telling you, when you practice this and when you focus heavily on this, everything will start to shift. When you look at pictures of your ex, when you talk about them, when you think about them all day, when you reminisce, when you invest your mental energy and your thoughts towards that person, it's going to enhance more of the pain.

It's going to enhance the breakup. It's going to relive the pain. It's going to enhance the breakup. It's going to relive the experience. Your brain does not know the difference between the past and the present. So if your thoughts are constantly directed towards this person talking about this person thinking about the breakup, you're just going to dwell in the sad emotion. What I want you to do when you start thinking of the past, when you're looking at old photos of you guys together, when you're rereading old conversations and old text messages, I want you to stop for a second and say reset, reset and condition your brain to think of something else. Distract

yourself immediately. Take those thoughts, set them aside and say reset and think of something that is going to bring you peace and joy. Turn on happy music, turn on your favorite show, call a friend that you know is gonna cheer you up, refocus your thought patterns. This is probably the most challenging part of the three-step method. I know when you are really sad, it's really hard to break out of it. It's really difficult in the beginning to break out of that emotional cycle.

It's okay to grieve, it's okay to cry, it's okay to go through the emotions, but if you're ready to snap out of it and get fired up and make a fucking change and detach and really rewire, you need to do this. Something that I would do when I was going through the hardest part of the breakup for me was listen to Neville Goddard. Neville Goddard YouTube videos. They are so powerful. Your thoughts create your reality. Your brain is a superpower. It has literal magical powers and what you think

about you're going to attract into your life and your experience. So if you start thinking about actually I'm stepping into a higher timeline now, this is happening for me and not against me, I am attracting abundance and miracles, I'm attracting an even better partner for me, I am attracting abundance and miracles. I'm attracting an even better partner for me. I'm attracting everything I've ever wanted out of life because I am divine love and this is a blessing in disguise when you start reprogramming your brain like that instead of thinking of why did this happen to me? This person sucks. They're the worst. They cheated on me. They're the worst person in the world. You get it. What feels better? You know what I mean? Your brain has the ability

to adapt and create a new reality the more you program it. When you realize you have the ability to reprogram your brain, that is a miracle in itself. You have the privilege right now and the opportunity to literally rewrite the story, rewire the mind, change your timeline. As I just said, something I really love doing, which is also a part of my courses, but I'm going to give this little tip here as well. Listen to a quantum leaping meditation. There are so many of them out there, especially on YouTube. Listen to a quantum leaping meditation

and picture yourself and envision yourself jumping into a new timeline. This is what timeline shifting is all about. This is what rewiring the mind is all about and how you get over a person or a breakup. You shift realities through the power of your thinking. You shift timelines through the power of visualization, believing that a new life for you is possible, believing that a new door has opened. When a door has closed, when a relationship has ended,

you have to view it as a blessing because another door is about to open for you. If you believe that you are worthy of love and you know that you deserved better, especially in situations where you know you deserve better and this person was not treating you fairly or right, there has to be a different timeline where your soulmate exists, where the love of your life exists. I've been through a lot in my relationships.

And I'm sure you guys all know this. I've been through a lot of pain, a lot of heartbreak, a lot of broken hearts, a lot of tears, high and low moments, a lot of mental health battles. But how did I get out of all of that? How did I get out of the thick of it? I visualized a future for myself. I visualized a higher timeline.

I looked to the future. I wasn't caught up in the past. In the beginning I was, of course. I grieved, I healed, I cried. But then I was like, fuck this. I can't give you my energy anymore. I'm not wasting my tears on you anymore. Someone who betrayed me, betrayed my trust and hurt me,

and literally brought me to the lowest point in my life. Do you think that you deserve something like that? Do you think you deserve to be sad and miserable for the rest of your life? I'm sorry if your answer is yes, but I don't think you believe that. Do you think you deserve to be sad and miserable for the rest of your life? I'm sorry if your answer is yes, but I don't think you believe that. If you're listening to this episode, if you listen to Date Yourself instead, I know that you know you deserve the best. You deserve a better life. You deserve abundance. You deserve true divine love because you are love. You are a divine woman or man, but you are a divine creator. You are a living, breathing human being that deserves love because you are love.

In a lot of Neville Goddard's teachings, he talks about how we as human beings are love. We don't seek love outside of ourselves. We are love. So if you are looking for someone to validate you, to come back into your life, to be with you again, stop. Stop directing your energy at someone that left or walked away, that said they didn't care, that said they didn't want to be with you. That's not your person. When you truly understand that you are love, that it's not outside of you, you will attract your perfect person. After embracing this concept recently and understanding that I was always externally

chasing after people and validating myself through dating experiences, I stopped dating. I stopped talking to men. I stopped putting my energy there. And for the first time in my life, in all of the years I've been dating and in relationships and talking to guys, I've never actually sat with myself and been in silence for, like, weeks, months.

Like, I literally have not engaged with another creature, another man in a minute, in a very long time for me. It's been a long time. It's intentional. It's purposeful. I'm not dating for a reason. I'm not on any dating apps. I'm not engaging in any type of flirtatious conversation, I'm not doing any of that. By choice, because I know that I am love, and when the timing is right, and everything happens in divine timing, I will attract the perfect partner for me.

But I'm not gonna embarrass myself and make the same mistakes I did a million other times by chasing externally outside of myself. When you become magnetic and you're so grounded and you love yourself so deeply and you've rewired your mind to believe that truly and you say I am divine love, I am divine love, I am divine love and you keep telling yourself that you become magnetic and you will attract love into your experience effortlessly because you're not desperately seeking it. That will also shift your timeline. Your person or your ex or whoever

it is that you want so badly back into your life or you wanted it to work out with, they're going to feel it. This is literally the biggest preview to Dare to Detach, my masterclass. It's an energy shift. They are going to feel it when you shift. And that's why so many people message me after taking my course and both of my courses and they're like, oh my God, I just manifested this.

Oh my God, my ex came back in two days and he told me he never wanted to speak to me again. Why? Because you literally shifted timelines through the power of your thoughts and going to a new dimension. You're your higher self now and they felt it and now they want a piece of your higher self but don't go back. People message me, they're like,, oh should I take him back?

No, the whole point of you investing in dare to detach is so you attract new people that appreciate you the first time around That don't fuck up That give you the love you actually deserve Okay The next step is body Taking care of your physical health. No if, ands, or buts, no excuses. There are no excuses. If you have two arms and two legs and you're healthy and you're able to go to the gym, you better be going and doing something. Okay, you don't have to

go seven days a week and kill yourself in the gym. But I will say you better be doing something to stay active, to move your body, to regulate your emotions, regulate your hormones, get that stagnant energy moving. If you're feeling stuck, if you're feeling depressed, it always works. There have been so many low moments where I did not want to leave my apartment. I isolated, I did not want to leave my bed, I was depressed. I've experienced depression, severe depression and anxiety. I've had mental health issues my whole life.

But I've learned that when I create a routine for myself in the gym or I have a trainer or I have some opportunity to take some form of workout class or whatever it is, it helps immensely with your mental health. It's not just about physical appearance, it's your mental health. Your mental health is going to be improved drastically when you have a workout routine.

I've been recently doing a lot of Pilates, a lot of strength training, going to the gym because whenever I'm in New York, I get in a mental rut. It's not my favorite city in the world anymore I am very sensitive to energy and there's a lot of fucking shit going on here. Okay, so With my gym routine with forcing myself to do Pilates with forcing myself to have a game plan and have a mission when I go into the gym, I'm on the treadmill, I'm lifting weights, I'm doing the stair master, whatever it may be, it helps me find groundedness and stability and it helps me be more in my body. And when you're going through a hard time like a breakup or you're going through a lot of emotional things, this will help you center your energy and get you back connected to yourself and to

your heart. Being in your body, feeling the energy moving through your body as you are moving it, as you are exercising. Do something new, change it up, go to a kickboxing class, meet new people, put yourself out of your comfort zone. If you have the ability to join a workout class where you can meet other people, do it. Surround yourself with people. It will help your mental health during these difficult times.

You need to be around community. You need to be around someone that's going to push you and say, I know you're going through a lot of pain, but you're lifting these weights right now. It is the biggest game changer. Personal trainers and people who work at gyms and help other people with their fitness are, I think, very underappreciated and undervalued. The trainers that I know and the gyms that I've been to and the communities that I've been in when I was going through the worst moments of my life

literally saved my life and my mental health. I'm not exaggerating or being dramatic. Being in the gym saved my life. There was a point where I had the lowest, darkest thoughts I could ever think of, and having a trainer coach me was the best investment I ever made in my mental health and rebuilding

myself from the ground up. So when you're thinking about skipping the gym and you're going through a breakup, you have to remind yourself that you are doing it for your future self. Your future self is going to be proud of you, reward you and thank you and you are going to thank yourself because you're going to get stronger, you're going to get healthier and you're going to feel good. Sweating out the pain is so underrated. Sweating out the pain. Like having a workout be so hard that you can't even think about the breakup. You know what I mean? It's such an energy shift and it will help you get to that new timeline.

And the last part of the three-part method is taking care of your soul. I really did just give away, like, basically my master classes for free in this episode. I'm kidding, there's so much more content in both of those, but taking care of your soul, take care of your heart and your soul. What does this mean?

The same way you would go to the gym for your physical health, this is about meditating and knowing how to ground your energy for your spiritual health. Listening to your inner voice, tapping into your inner self, journaling, sitting in silence sometimes and asking yourself, what do I need right now? Being present with who you are. When we're in a state of sadness and we're going through a breakup, it could be so hard to connect with

our higher self sometimes because all we're thinking about is how did this happen and how do I get my ex back or how can I fix this or when will I feel better? But after you go through that part, I want you to actually picture your higher self and speak to that person and be like, would the best version of me actually be dating this person or prove of the relationship that I was in? Was it really healthy? If you do believe that it was healthy, as I said at the beginning of this episode, maybe you guys just need some space. There was a girl that I met in Bali.

She is such a sweetheart and we were chatting for a bit And she told me how during her breakup, she was listening to my podcast and she realized that she just had needed a little bit of space and time away from her partner to realize that they miss each other and they needed each other. And when they did get back together, their relationship blossomed into a whole new chapter

and a whole new era and they came out even stronger. And now she's happier than ever with this person. So that being said, if it's meant to be, take this time as a blessing to work on yourself, to heal yourself even deeper, to really know yourself and know your soul. What is your soul telling you to do? Ask yourself questions when you're by yourself. Who am I? Who is my higher self? Who is she? Who is the person that I wanna become? What steps do I need to take to get there?

Is this person a part of my future? Can I see this person next to me while I'm giving birth and having children? Are they really my person or am I doing myself, my higher self, my soul a huge disservice? Am I hurting my soul? Your brain might be telling you,

I'm in love with this person, I can't let them go. Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God. But your soul is not saying that. Your soul is probably saying something very different. When I was going through my breakup, I was a mess. I was like, oh my God, I feel horrible. This is the worst thing ever. What the fuck is going on?

But I knew, my soul for years had been telling me this isn't right. This is not right. This is not the man for you. My soul knew years before but guess what? I wasn't in touch with my soul. I didn't have a healthy relationship with my soul and I didn't listen to her. I didn't listen to that inner voice guiding me because I was stubborn and I was scared of being alone and I was blinded by my emotions and love,

but I knew, deep down I knew, you fucking know, your soul knows, your soul is very intelligent and it will guide you in the right direction always, but you have to make a very conscious, deliberate effort to be connected to your soul and not shy away from its answers because you have all the answers within you. And this is exactly what my MindBodySoul Reset Masterclass starts off with. You have all the answers within

you. You're going to take my course, but you already have everything you need within you. You have all the answers within. You're just clouded or jaded or blinded because you've been through some shit. I've also turned to people and things and resources when I was blinded by the fog of a breakup and being in pain. But after doing all of these things and rewiring my mind and hearing people you know talk about self-love and all that stuff, at the end of the day I knew the whole time that my relationship wasn't right for me anyway. Like, I couldn't fight against it. My soul knew. And your soul knows too. Once you really listen, you will realize that everything does happen for a reason.

The beauty of life is that we always have a chance to rewrite the story. We always have a chance to shift timelines, to change our reality, to make our lives better, and to attract the right people and relationships into our life. Always. I can promise you that. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself Instead. Thank you, thank you so much as always for listening to the podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to share it with a friend and rate it on Apple and Spotify, like it on YouTube. If you haven't subscribed to the YouTube channel, please go do that. It would mean the world to me. And check out my master classes, Dare to Detach and the Mind Body Soul Reset. We would love to have

you in the community. I love you. I'm grateful for you. Have an amazing day and stay tuned for next Monday.