Date Yourself Instead - starve your old reality.

Episode Date: October 12, 2026

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This is going to be about starving your 3D reality. Starving the 3D to create a brand new world for yourself and a brand new timeline for yourself. And also why when you starve your actual current reality, the universe has no choice but to upgrade around you and hand you a brand new life and hand you brand new experiences, brand new people and a brand new timeline. I've done a major identity overhaul and I'm still going through it. I'm still purging out and clearing out old things, old beliefs, and old thoughts that I had related to the past version of myself. And I'm going to really break this down and explain what I'm talking about in a storytime. Back in New York City, fresh start, clean slate.

If you guys have watched my previous episodes, you know I've been talking about this idea of blank slate going into your life with a brand new mindset, a brand new identity. But with that comes a lot of letting go releasing. And that's not always an overnight. process. I was seeing this person and all of these red flags started appearing. I'm not going to get into the red flags. I spoke about that on a previous episode. You could go watch that. But it was more upsetting to me because of how much work I've already done on myself. And to see something that was playing out again in real time where I was like, why is this happening again? When I feel

like I have done so much to heal, this doesn't make any sense. I came to the conclusion that sometimes the subconscious will bring old stuff back up to the surface in order to make sure that you're really who you say you are, that you're really this new version of yourself that you claim to be. Because I'm in the process of completely rewiring my brain and making sure that I hold to this new timeline where I am deeply chosen and cherished by the person I end up with where my career is at its peak and I'm at the top of my career and I'm extremely successful and I'm living at my highest time. And so when this person appeared, it was almost the opposite of what I've been conditioning my brain to believe. So I was just confused. I was like, why is this happening? And then I realized that it was an old purge. It was like the last test, I guess you could say, in order for me to completely embody the new version of myself.

And I used to always tell myself, God keeps throwing all these tests at me. But it's not God throwing tests at you. It's your self-concept that needs to be upgraded. It's your self-concept that's testing you. It's not that God or some external force is always throwing these crazy chaotic tests in your face and trying to hurt you and trying to trigger you. These experiences are here to show us where our self-concept is actually operating at. This situation with this guy that was showing me all of these red flags and basically saying

that I was an option in his reality was a testament to where my self-conceptive. self-concept was actually at when he was saying, oh, I just want to see where things go and I don't really know what I'm looking for and I'm terrified of commitment. Instead of taking that as, oh, my God, it's happening to me again. I actually said to myself, I'm going to just completely starve this version of me that would tolerate bullshit and completely embody the new state. Now, this is a work in progress because it's easier said than done. And what ended up happening was when I did that is my body started having an actual physical reaction. And this is kind of crazy because when we're purging out the old self

and when we're purging out old behaviors that have been learned over years and years of time and our subconscious is used to operating a certain way and living in a certain state, our body can physically react if we break the cycle. From the time I was 14 until into my early 30s, I had always had this version of me when it came to dating where I would lower myself or water myself down and water my values down in order to match the frequency of the person I was dating because I was attracted to them and I felt the chemistry. Upon seeing this person, I knew I had to do something different and I knew I had to break the cycle.

I starved the 3D reality of what was going on and what he was saying to me because he was giving me nothing. He wasn't giving me any type of reassurance that he was interested in me in a genuine way. So I was like, I have nothing to lose here. I'm just going to starve the situation. And starving means you're just detaching and you're completely removing your energy from what's going on. And you're creating and revising a new story. So I wasn't fighting for him. I wasn't trying to change his mind like I may have in the past.

I was deciding to just let it go entirely and recreate a new timeline. What ended up happening was I go out with my friends to dinner and my whole body literally broke out in a rash. I was so done with my old self tolerating bullshit that I started purging out the old beliefs and everything that I had gone through. I was just so fed up. I wasn't fed up with this person specifically because I barely really knew him. I was fed up with the old self and the old story. And so that was the last shift I needed. And I remember after that night, I just felt like it's done. I'm officially embodying this new version of me where I will not date anyone or I will not tolerate anyone unless they are someone that has the best intentions and they're operating where

I'm operating at, which is clear motives and clarity, knowing that this is what I'm looking for, we have the same values, we have the same goals, we have the same mindset. All of those things, I'm not here to teach someone how to be that way. I'm here to meet someone where they're at, knowing that we're on the same page and we grow together, obviously. No one's perfect, but I'm not here to like train someone or babysit someone into evolving. Because I've already evolved. I've already done all that work. The reason I was so frustrated and I literally physically like broke out in hives is because

that old story with that person was showing me there's still a tiny piece of me that almost tolerated it. And so I was like, nope, absolutely not. I had to starve what was going on in my 3D reality and trust that the right person is somewhere out there, even though it can be hard to believe sometimes because your 3D is telling you a totally different story. You're not seeing it with your own eyes yet. That trust is what got me through letting that person go and cutting it off before it even began. The old version of me would have said, let's see, let's see if they change. Let's see if they can evolve. Let's see if they

grow because they're a little bit younger than me or whatever it is. You make up these excuses to water your values down and water your standards down. to meet someone where they're at when in reality you deserve someone who's either more evolved and understands your values even better than you do or someone who can meet you where you're currently vibrating at. You should never have to lower yourself or compromise how far you've come and how much you've grown and how much you've healed in order to date someone or in order to build a life with someone. It can be really tricky in the moment because you almost feel like what if that person was a good person and I'm closing the door.

on a situation that could have turned into something real. I truly believe this, right? If it's truly meant to be with someone and that person is truly supposed to be a part of your life and is worthy of being in your life, God, the higher powers that are watching over you will make it happen a different way in better circumstances, in better timing. But if they're currently not meeting you where you're at, that doesn't mean you have to watch them grow and teach them and pull them out of a rut or train them to be the person that you wish they were. It's not your job. It's not your job to train someone. And so that's something that I

had to learn because I always had a habit of wanting to see the potential in someone or actually just seeing the potential in someone and knowing how amazing they could be because they're smart. They're emotionally intelligent. They're emotionally aware. They are attractive and charming and charismatic. And they check a lot of boxes that you would see in a person and you're like, you have so much potential to be this amazing person. But you're not someone's life. coach, number one, you're not their therapist, you're not their parent. If you're mutually teaching each other things about life and about growth and about healing, that could be an exception. But there's a big difference between that and having to pull them up all the time because what that's going to do is

drain you and steer you off your path in order to cater to someone else's path. And that's not your job. So starving the 3D of that was uncomfortable. And it was one of those things where I was like, it's so frustrating because I see how good this person is, but I can't do it to myself. Like, I can't get involved because I know what's going to end up happening. It's going to hold me back. And I'm in a place in my life where I just want to expand and be happy and free and grow and evolve with someone and know that when I meet them, they're already very tapped in to God and the spiritual world.

They're already super evolved in their consciousness in the sense of they know what they're looking for and they know where they're going and they have a clear direction and purpose. Because if I don't have that anger and I don't have that person next to me guiding me in that way, it's just going to get messy. It's easier said than done. I was sitting with my friends and I was like freaking out and I was like, it's so frustrating. It's so frustrating because this person I like them. I really do like them. But I can't do it to myself. And they were like, you wouldn't even have to have this conversation with us if it was the right person. So you're fine. I'm like, you're right. A hundred percent. But at the same time, it's just this feeling of like when you want something and you're so close,

but it's like not fully manifested yet. And so you have to just sit in the knowing and trust in God and trust in yourself and your belief that it is coming, even when it hasn't physically shown up yet. These quantum leaps in yourself can happen really quickly when you are committed and you choose the higher timeline and the best decision for your higher self, even though it could be so easy to fall back into your old patterns. This person asked me to dinner at this restaurant that I had been wanting to try forever. He was like, let's go grab wine and appetizers and have a good night. It was so easy for me to cave because I'm all about the vibes. I love a summer night in New York. I love going out and just, you know, chatting and having a good time. There's this side of me that's so free-spirited

that half of me was like, fuck it. Let me just go, who cares? Life is short. And that side of me was wrestling with my higher self being like, don't you fucking dare. Don't you fucking dare because I know in the moment it would feel good. But long term, if you truly are who you say you want to be, this very evolved woman that is at the top of her career that is making the type of money she wants to be making and that is only entertaining high caliber relationships. You cannot go because what you would be doing is you'd be splitting your energy and you would be communicating a signal to your subconscious and to the universe that I'm not ready for what I say

I'm actually ready for. That was where all this frustration was coming from because I'm a free spirited person. And I get it. A lot of you who are listening to this, you probably feel the same way where you're like, life is short. Let me just go with the flow. And who cares if it's like a hot guy, let me go on a date and like have a good time. The thing is, although I agree with that, I've done that already. And I've tried that so many times where I've lived in the moment and I've been like, whatever, fuck it, who cares? But it hasn't really got me anywhere long term. That was something I had to really consider moving into this next era of my life with dating and being intentional. It's like, yeah, of course, live in the moment, live your best life. But if you're saying you want something really

specific and your actions are contradicting, if you're doing something totally different than what your highest self would be doing, you're creating split energy. And that's where I was going wrong. You can't live two different identities at the same time. You have to embody the full identity of the person you say you are. I was like, would my higher self go on this date right now? No, because she deserves better. And that's it. And that's where the story ended. I knew I deserved more. And I knew that I wasn't going to get it out of this person in the current time. Maybe in the future, who knows? Embodying the new self and starving your old timeline is that it has to be a full commitment. And it's uncomfortable. Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about this a lot in breaking

the habit of your subconscious mind, it feels extremely uncomfortable to do this. And that's why I broke out in a rash because my body was like, what the fuck is going on? Because my subconscious was always used to saying, fuck it. Who cares? Let me just be free and go on a date and have a good time. And like, yes, you can do that if that's the stage of life that you're in. And like, I still want to do that. And that's why it's so hard. But I know that I have to trust in the new story and rewire my brain to believe that there is someone out there that matches my values, that has the same spiritual mindset that I do, that has the same career visions that I have, whatever, that matches the state I'm in that could also give me the same date experience. I have to believe that. I have to believe that it exists

in order for me to get there. So it's been a lot. It's been a lot for me to process. And my brain is still like rewiring. I still feel myself like catching myself like, oh, did I make the right call? did I make the right decision? But I know I did. Even recording this right now and speaking about it, I know I did. But it's not always easy. And physically, it might start to feel like when you're breaking old habits, like you're getting anxiety and you're panicking and your brain's going crazy

because you're just not used to the new story. You're not used to the new things you're telling yourself. And it takes a moment for your body to catch up to the new story. If you study Dr. Joe Dispens's work and you've read his books, you will understand this. He always says when you break the habit of being yourself and you break the old wiring, you will freak out for a moment. Usually, you're going to freak out for a moment and physically it could come up as anxiety, panic attack. You feel so jolted and so out of body and so out of character because it's just something so unfamiliar to your brain, but that's normal.

This feeling also happened to me when I, two years ago, decided to leave New York and go on this two-year spiritual journey and I was living in Bali. The few nights leading up to the decision, I was in full fighter flight panic mode and I was like, am I making the right decision? Am I just going to leave everything behind and leave my friends, leave my safe space, leave my apartment, sell all my furniture. I sold everything. I got rid of everything. And then I was just sitting in an empty apartment my last few days in New York on an empty mattress.

And I was just like, what am I doing? I started panicking. I thought there was something that I was doing wrong, but it was just my brain catching up to the new story. And so I was like spiraling and I'm like, oh my God, am I making a huge mistake? No, I wasn't making a mistake. It was the best decision I ever made to leave ever. I learned so much about myself. I feel like an entirely new woman. I healed my heart. I met so many amazing people along the way. I'll be speaking about this in other future episodes, the power of solo traveling, the power of finding yourself and going to different countries and meeting all different walks of life. I couldn't imagine my life having gone any other way. But in the moment, When I was making that leap, it felt like the worst possible move I could have made. I was like, I'm an idiot. I'm like, I'm crazy. Like, what am I doing?

What am I getting myself into? It's just your body catching up to the new timeline. That's all it is. You're just evolving and you're just rewiring your subconscious. And that is uncomfortable. If you're currently going through a phase of life where you're trying to manifest something much bigger than your current reality and you're starving your 3D and you're ignoring the 3D reality and you're trying to get to this much higher time.

timeline, sometimes you will feel a sense of anxiety, panic, because your body is not used to the upgrade and your body is currently rewiring itself. Try not to look at the panic as a negative thing. Keep telling yourself, this is normal. This is a part of growth. It can be uncomfortable and it could be a little bit scary. But once you get over that hurdle and that feeling, you'll realize it was the best decision that you've ever made for yourself. Okay. So now we're going to get into examples of how to starve your 3D reality. If you want to be on a totally different timeline and wavelength and you want to see changes in your life that are really positive, I'm going to give you some examples so you can

really understand how to properly starve the 3D and quantum leap into your best self. Let's just say there's a guy that is not treating you the way you want to be treated. He's not responding to your messages. he's being distant and weird. Maybe you've already slept with them. Maybe you've already gone on a few dates. But now he's pulling back and being really weird and you're like, great. Another guy that's being, you know, distant towards me and I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Okay. If you keep feeding the narrative in your brain that he's being distant, you're going to manifest him being distant. That's how the laws of the universe work and that's how energy works. When someone pulls back, it's so easy to feel that gut-wrenching feeling of like, fuck, they're not interested anymore. When you feel like someone is acting that way, it's not a good feeling. And so it's easy to continually feed that loop.

Then what do you do? You start telling your friends about it. You start complaining about it to everyone. You start analyzing everything. You start analyzing their texts, screenshoting their text, sending it to your friends. And what you're doing now is you're on a new timeline of feeding the 3D reality where they're being distant, flaky, weird, and not respecting you. The more you're feeding into it, the more it's going to continue to manifest.

and therefore they're done. Like they're gone. They're onto someone else, whatever. So instead of doing that, picking apart every single thing they're doing wrong, what I want you to do is starve the 3D of it. You're not going to invest your mental energy in deciphering what's going on.

And instead, you're going to completely ignore it and tell yourself a new story and it's going to be the story you want to happen. If you want this person specifically to love you and like give you attention, whatever, you can manifest that and you could tell your brain that story. But I think the most productive story you could tell yourself is I am deeply loved and chosen by the right person. Because sometimes what happens is we're manifesting people from an unhealed version of ourselves.

I could go back right now and revise the story of this guy that I had just been seeing in my head and be like, okay, there's a new timeline where he's the love of my life and he treats me with love and respect and he's doing everything right. I could manifest him specifically, but I actually would advise against that because oftentimes we manifest from an unheeled place where we don't feel fully chosen and loved. And then we're manifesting the wrong person. I want you to manifest the best possible relationship for yourself. I would use your free will and the power of your mind to your advantage and say, I'm manifesting the best possible person for me ever. And so you start manifesting a new version of yourself where you're so loved. and you're so valued that a better person will come into your life.

And you won't even care about the person that was ignoring you and like being distant and weird. You'll realize as you upgrade and as you quantum leap into this new version of yourself that that person wasn't worthy of you anyway. And there's a better person that already recognizes your value out there because now you're really valuing yourself and you're manifesting from a place of abundance and self-love. The next thing is something that I feel like I've mastered really well. And it pertains to career milestones. So when I started my podcast, I had no way of knowing how to gain traction, grow a following, get downloads. I was like, I know there's a way to do this, but like I don't really know how to get people

to actually listen and sit down and listen to the podcast. I ended up treating my reality as if I had millions of downloads already. I got super delusional about it. The thing about being super delusional is that there is no. other option in your brain, this is what's happening. This is what goes. Even though my reality was saying you have like, I don't know, whatever, 50 listeners, 100 listeners. I was like, there are millions of people listening. And I gaslit my own brain into believing that. And what ended up happening was I found solutions and ways to market myself the way that I needed to market

myself and push myself in order to make that a reality. I told myself a story and then I was given the intuitive downloads and ideas to make that a reality. I was treating the metrics in the beginning as non-existent. Now, I had a manager at the time that was like not good for my subconscious at all. Let's just put it that way. So what I had to do was ignore anyone's opinions about the podcast industry, anyone that was telling me things were going to be impossible or difficult to achieve. And all I did every single day for months, I'm giving you a little insight inside my brain was like, I'm a successful podcaster. I have millions of downloads. There are millions of people listening to me. And it also came from a place of genuine authenticity. I want to also make

this very clear. You can tell yourself all the positive affirmations in the world, but if it's not coming from the soul and from pure authenticity and pure alignment, it's not going to manifest the way that you want. The reason I was also so successful in podcasting what I was doing is because it really was genuine. All the things that I was saying came from true stories. I genuinely believe that I was I could help people and I wanted to help people. And also, it was coming from a higher power. Like, I was getting these downloads from God and the universe being like, this is your new path.

Like, this is what you have to do. So it was a mixture of things that got me to where I am today. But it wasn't forced. It was just embodied. It wasn't like I was forcing something to happen and forcing the numbers to come to me. It was just embodied and it felt very natural to me. That's the other thing about manifestation. If it doesn't feel natural to you, it's.

It's going to be like fighting against a brick wall. I was so happy going to the studio and recording. I was excited about it. I was pumped up about it. I had this fire within me when I was doing it. I could have panicked over low view counts. I could have panicked over downloads even right now. Like my downloads are a bit lower than usual, right?

And I could be like, oh my God, like something's not working. It's failing. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But I know that it's just an old state and an old manifested version of me. an old timeline. And now that I'm back in New York and I'm fired up and I'm ready to go, I feel so different. I feel so confident again. I know that those numbers are about to jump again. I know that those numbers are going to skyrocket again because I changed, because I changed my state and I changed my belief and I'm embodying a higher timeline. The next thing is something

that a lot of people have asked me and it's money, right? If you're currently dealing with financial issues, if you're constantly obsessing over your bank account number, you're obsessing over. You're obsessing over the bills you need to pay. I get it. I understand that it's tricky when your 3D is telling you that you don't have money. It's the hardest thing in the world. And the reason I can speak on this is because I've been in this position where I felt like my back was so far up against the wall with money and I was dealing with this. And it felt like this gut wrenching sick to my stomach feeling where I was like, I don't know what to do. If you keep feeding that reality, that is going to continue to show up, right? The lack of money is going to continue to show up. So what I need you to do is

feed the reality that you want to see and completely starve the timeline where you don't have money. You have to starve that timeline and that narrative where, oh my God, I don't know how I'm going to pay this bill. I don't know how I'm going to get by. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I get it. I understand that mentality. I've lived in that mentality before. Okay. If you've listened to the podcast, I've spoken about it before. You have to starve that. When I was going through a very low period financially, I had to get so delusional with this new version of me that was super, super rich and was making the most money I've ever made in my life. I changed the Wi-Fi in my house to be called hot and rich when I had no money. And I was like, okay, I'm hot and rich. The Wi-Fi of my apartment was now

hot and rich. Now, when people came to my house and used my Wi-Fi, I was like, it's hot and rich, because I'm hot and rich. I kept telling myself and gaslighting my brain, I was like, I'm hot and rich. I'm the richest I've ever been in my life. I'm the hottest I've ever been in my life. There is no other timeline that exists. And what that did was it gave me the confidence and the ideas and the clarity in my brain to find a way to make money again. I kept telling my brain, this is what's happening. and I'm not going to accept any other version of reality. What that allowed me to do was rewire my subconscious to look for opportunities in order for that to become a reality.

Did 200K magically fall into my lap? Did I win the lottery? No. I still had to take inspired action to make $200,000. But within three months, I made it, which is insane when you think about it because you're like, how? I rewired my subconscious and I kept telling myself that it was happening and it was a done deal. and then I came up with a business plan and a business idea that led to an insane amount of money.

And I ended up becoming the wealthiest I ever became because I didn't take anything else as an option. I couldn't accept anything else as an option. So I'm going to leave this episode with some reminders of how to starve your 3D in order to get you to the highest timeline and get you to the best version of yourself. Because it's so easy to fall back into the old cycle and old thought patterns of like, why isn't this happening for me? why isn't this working? And I want to remind you that that's normal. It's all part of learning how to rewire your brain. Old thoughts are going to come up. Old patterns and old toxic cycles might reappear to test your subconscious, but you have to stay firm to what you actually want. Okay, remember the story said at the beginning of this episode. It's so easy to fall back into an old pattern, an old dating

pattern, an old version of you where you would have tolerated certain things. But if you really want to see changes in your life, you got to commit to the new version of you. And that could be uncomfortable. So, Here are some ways to starve the old narrative now, okay? If someone's not texting you back, stop checking for their validation and for their response and go do something else entirely, completely shift your attention away from the 3D. Star of the 3D. The trigger would be like, you're looking at your conversation, you're looking at your text, you're rereading your conversation to see if they've answered, or you're checking and

refreshing their Instagram to see who else they followed. I'm guilty of this too, okay? and this is why I say starve the 3D, stop doing it. Because what you're doing is you're manifesting more of that and you're going to see things you don't want to see if you keep feeding it. So close your phone, turn your phone on airplane mode for a day, whatever you need to do to starve it and be like, I'm not entertaining this timeline and version of me anymore. I'm going within.

I'm going to work on my confidence, work on building a new version of me. And that starts with starving this version of me that's obsessing over what they're doing. Done. Okay. That's the first step you need to take. if you're obsessing over how someone else is treating you, responding to you or not responding to you, whatever. You do not wait on physical signals. You are not waiting on someone to give you what you deserve anymore.

The new version of you is knowing that you're already chosen, you're already desired, and the right person is going to show up without you needing to do any of this. The next thing is money. Treat your bank account balance as something of the past. If right now you're going through some financial difficulties, you're not obsessing over the fact that you're broke. You're not complaining to everyone in your life. Oh my God, I have no money.

I can't afford this. Starve it. Starve it. Because if you keep saying that, you're going to keep manifesting that version of you. That's broke. You don't want that version of you. So you've got to starve the 3D. When I first started learning about manifesting,

I think it was in one of Tony Robbins books or something. And he was talking about how when he had his last $20, I could be butchering this story. I don't know how much money it was. But it was his last check. Let's just put it that way. And he ended up giving it to someone else when he had no money because he truly believed that he would be repaid by the universe and all was going to be okay. He on his last legs with money, like gave his money away because he was so believing that he would get repaid for it because he was in such an abundant headspace.

That's how you got to be. That's how you got to always be. Yes, your 3D may be showing you that you don't have the money. But if you truly believe that you're abundant and you're living at that self-concept and the. and the universe has an infinite supply to give you and can pay you in the most unexpected, amazing ways, you wouldn't be so afraid. That's the new story I want you to tell yourself, that there's nothing to fear around money. Money is energy. You will be repaid back in the most beautiful ways. It's the only way that is going to be able to get you out of the rut permanently, right? Okay. You don't want a quick fix with money where someone's like lending you money and then

you're in panic mode again and you spend it all and then you're broke again. You want to build your mindset and your energy state around money to the point where you know that it comes and goes, but money is energy and it's infinite and you feel good about it, whether you're spending or receiving. The last thing I want you to remember as we conclude today's episode is being aware of the things that you're saying and telling yourself as you're recreating a new story for yourself and as you're starving this old 3D version of you and creating a new identity. Be aware of what you're telling yourself and what you're speaking out loud to the universe. if you're like, oh my God, this always happens to me. Oh my God, of course. Like, this person ignored me. Of course,

they didn't respond to my email. Stop feeding negativity. Stop being negative. People love to complain. And it doesn't mean they're bad people. Some of the people that are closest to me in my life that I love with my, all of my heart are complainers. I've had to set energetic boundaries around and be like, I refuse to believe in this talk. If you do this, I want you to understand. It's just old rewiring and old programming. And what I want you to do is get yourself to a place where you're catching yourself because I do it too. Okay. Catching yourself in the moment and you're being like, wait a second, this isn't going to be helpful. Let's rewrite a new story and something else to tell my brain to feel better. The thing I've been telling myself the most lately is I'm so lucky and everything works out

for me. And it's really simple to remember something like that. Just telling yourself that story over and over again. I'm so lucky and everything always works out for me. Everything is always working in my divine favor. I'm always blessed. I'm always divinely protected. I'm divinely guided and everything is always working out for me. No matter what. Even if my 3D is saying something isn't working out for me, I know that it is. I know that it is. And I have to trust in that and I have to believe in that. And that is the new story I want you to keep telling yourself. I am so lucky. I am so blessed. I'm being divinely guided. I'm divinely protected and everything is always working out for me. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of list. Drop a comment on Spotify. Drop a comment on YouTube.

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