Date Yourself Instead - the power of divine timing.

Episode Date: September 19, 2026

trusting divine timing isn’t about sitting around waiting for your life to happen. it’s about becoming ready for the things you keep asking for.in this video, i’m talking about letting go of the obsession of when.xxcontact: [e-mail]

Good morning, everyone. It's 7 a.m. in New York City. Today we're going to be talking about trusting in the divine timing of your life and what that really means and what divine timing really means and how it's been applying in my life a lot recently. If you're seeing this right now, it's for a reason. So welcome. My name is Liz. If you're new here, I talk a lot about self-love, self-development. I have a podcast called List. My name, L-Y-S-S on Spotify. Some of the episodes are also on YouTube. passion is to give advice and help people. Also, I'm getting into music now, so there's going to be some music on this channel as well, which I'm really excited about. Today, I wanted to talk about divine timing. We tend to want a lot, right? We tend to want a lot of things, whether it be the dream relationship, the dream job, a certain amount of money, having certain health goals, fitness goals we always want something whatever it is there's always some sort of desire that we're looking for over the last few weeks i've really been working on preserving my energy and realizing that i have everything within me already there's no waiting period to get what i want it's just a matter of how

ready i am for it because you can't manifest anything that you're not actually vibrationally ready for that's the issue we tend to run into when we want so badly and we're holding on so badly. We're blocking everything from coming into our life. We're blocking the manifestations and the blessings from truly entering in the most magical ways because we're clinging on to outcomes. We're clinging on to the what ifs, the whens, the when is this happening for me? When am I going to meet the love of my life? When is my career going to explode? When am I going to make more money? When am I finally going to feel better, right? We're always waiting on the external. It's beautiful to desire things. It's beautiful to have

goals, of course, but at the same time, if you're constantly monitoring when things are going to arrive and you're not trusting in the divine timing of how your life is supposed to naturally unfold according to the universe, God's plan, whatever higher power you believe in, if you're always monitoring, you're not actually living. You're not actually present because you're always looking for the next best thing. A lot of what comes with truly loving yourself and choosing yourself is that you are living presently and you're not absorbed by this idea of when, the obsession of when. When you constantly question the universe and the timing of things that's also communicating a signal of lack and that you're not trusting and that you don't have faith. What I want you to do, if you're currently

waiting on something, if you have this goal for yourself, or you have a desire to be in a partnership, or whatever it might look like to you, I don't want you to focus on the delay. What I want you to focus on is what is going on inside of me in the process while this is being worked out behind the scenes. How am I going to prepare for this blessing? How am I going to prepare for the next chapter of my life? Am I truly ready for what I'm asking for? If you're begging for it, you're not ready for it. If you're desperate for it, you're not ready for it.

Everything happens in divine timing, which means it's going to happen when you're ready for it. Sometimes all this takes is an energy shift in who you are and how you feel, and it can happen. overnight. It could happen as fast as you're vibrationally ready for it. So I'm going to give you a perfect example. I've helped people meet their soulmate through my podcast, through my dating advice. After helping all of these other people, like thousands of women become more confident in themselves. I felt like I was left feeling insecure. Now I want to explain this a little bit more. I thought I was going to be in a relationship at this point. I felt very frustrated because I felt like I was giving my heart and soul to helping other people. And yet, I couldn't find love. Anyone I would go on a date with,

I was like, no. So it kind of shut down my heart a little bit. I kept questioning the timing. And I was like, I don't understand why this is happening when I know that I deserve love. Now I understand it. The reason it couldn't happen when I was asking for it to happen is because I wasn't ready to receive it. Now, what do I mean by that? I kept telling myself, I was a ready and I kept telling everyone around me I was ready and yet I was so guarded I was living in stress mode and I was so hypervigilant I also speak about this in the video the power of choosing yourself go watch it after this if you haven't already I was living in survival mode because I didn't realize that after helping everyone else heal I never truly actually helped myself I thought I helped myself

but there was so much more that I was battling with that I didn't face, which was actually being happy alone. I was taking myself on solo dates. I was working, burning myself out. I was traveling the world, but half the time I was drinking, half the time I was numbing my emotions. There was just a lot of stuff that I didn't want to face. I was avoiding the healing. I thought I was dealing with it, but I was actually avoiding it. So I had to really dig deep into my heart and be like, what needs to change within me so I can actually trust in the divine timing of my life's plan and God's plan for me and trust that there's a reason why I haven't met my husband yet.

There's a reason why. And so after really doing the actual work on myself and regulating my nervous system, I realized that I had been in the wrong energy and vibration all along, because I was always looking. There was a part of me that was always looking. Everything you need is within here. And that's when everything comes into your life. Everything you need is within your soul already.

And the most beautiful divine timing moment ever happened to me a few weeks ago. I had posted one TikTok about finding your soulmate. This random account on Instagram messages me. And she's like, hey, I just felt called to send you a message and tell you that your soulmate is already living within you. Your soulmate doesn't live outside of you. Look inside your soul and you'll know where he is. You will know where he is because you'll feel him.

And you could actually communicate with your soulmate because if it's your soulmate, they're a part of your soul already. The same way we meet people who feel like karma from our past, like if you meet someone and you feel like you kind of like know them already, that feeling, is the same feeling you're going to have with the love of your life. You're going to recognize their soul, right? And let me tell you, that was an angel. That was an angel that sent me that DM because she sent it in the moment where I felt like I had just had enough. And I was like, I'm just going to take my hands off the wheel and let God handle it. I cannot go another day wondering when this is going to happen or what's wrong with me. Like I was victimizing myself instead of just looking into my soul and realizing that I'm all I need.

That's the energy you have to be in to find true love because you don't want to enter a partnership feeling like you need them or you need them to complete you or to feel happy. Of course, the person that comes into your life should compliment your life, should want to grow with you, you should want to grow together, and should add joy and inspiration and happiness to your life, of course, right? But you don't want to attract someone when you're broken. This is also a note I've taken from my parents. They're both very independent. My mom does her thing. My dad does his thing. They still love each other and they're always going to have each other's backs no matter what. My mom will go on vacation with her friends. My dad will go out with his guy friends and they just don't care. They respect each other's space and they treat their partnership as equal. You do you, I do me and then we come together and we know that we come home to each other at night, but we have our own lives. We have our own personalities. We have our own identities. And we have a mutual

understanding, trust and respect for each other. That's the goal, right? The goal is to have someone that's your biggest cheerleader, but you're not dependent on them for your happiness. You know that you're good. And that's something that I've had to learn. I always kind of blamed my unhappiness or something was missing inside of me because I wasn't chosen by someone else or I wasn't in a relationship. If you feel like you need to know the ending and the outcome of everything in order to be okay, that's a really hard way to live because you're always waiting. You're always in waiting. As Bashar says, waiting attracts more waiting. And the beauty about this is you are what you attract. So self-love attracts love. If you are love, you're going to attract love. And that's why self-love and

really taking care of yourself is super important. The beauty. beauty about divine timing is that God can open doors when you are living in the moment and you're not worried about the outcome. You're not worried about the when. He wants to surprise you. The universe wants to give you what you want, but let it surprise you when you least expect it. You know when everyone says you find love when you least expect it. The opportunity comes in out of nowhere because you weren't thinking about it. The email comes that you were waiting for. when you were in the moment doing something else and you weren't thinking about it, it's always when you least expected. Get out of the waiting room. There's no waiting for the blessing. You are the blessing.

I know that's cheesy, but it's true. It's like you have everything you need within you. And when you master that feeling, things will just happen naturally. You're not going to have to be on high alert, looking for the next person, looking for the next opportunity, and worry that you're going to miss the opportunity. That was something else I had to really understand. It's like, you cannot miss what is destined for you. So trust your inner compass.

I'll give you another example. This happened yesterday. I went to return something at a store. The computer to return everything was broken. So it, like, took everyone a few minutes to fix it. I could have been waiting online and been, like, frustrated and been like, this is taking forever. It was taking significantly longer to return my clothes.

But I kept saying in my brain, it's divine timing. It's divine timing and it's all good. After I return my clothes, I went to get some frozen yogurt, which I do religiously in New York. I eat frozen yogurt every day. I walk outside and I actually met this guy that went to my college. I never meet people at this place, but he said hi to me and we started chatting. He was super nice and we exchanged numbers. Was I romantically interested in this person? Not necessarily. But that moment actually made me think about how there was a delay at the clothing store, right? And if there hadn't been that delay, I wouldn't have met this person.

Now, I don't know if I'll ever see this person again, but the point is I wouldn't have even had a conversation with him at all, and I wouldn't have bumped into him. The point is everything is in timing. The same thing happened me last week when my cab was sitting in traffic for way longer than usual, And then when I got to my building, there was a really attractive guy standing outside the building. We exchange eye contact and then he asked me for my number. These moments, they're just kind of like little cues and hints to me that the universe has a timing for everything. And it's not to say that any of these people mean anything significant, okay?

I try not to look too deeply into things because that can also drive you crazy. But it just reminds me of divine timing. There can be a reason you skipped that event and went to a coffee. up instead. There can be a reason that there's a delay in something. There can be a reason why things aren't happening in the timing that you want because the universe knows the timing it's supposed to happen that's going to make the most sense for you and your timeline. So with that being said, just trusting, trusting in the timing of your life and not controlling and not clinging and not worrying and waiting and stressing. Get out of that energy. It will also make life a lot of

more lighter and simpler and easier because you could just focus on yourself, focus on your creativity, focus on your passions, focus on being present. That's a big one. Focus on your family, focus on your friends, focus on making yourself the hottest, coolest, most successful version of you. So when that thing does show up, you know that it's yours and it doesn't feel like a miracle. It's just natural. You're just like, oh, duh, of course, because I deserve it. Of course. Becoming the person of your dreams is the end goal is the point it's not about actually getting the external thing to validate you it's about becoming the person of your dreams and then inevitably everything will rush into your life at the perfect divine timing i love you guys thanks for watching if you haven't already be sure to subscribe

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