Date Yourself Instead - Your life should only make sense to YOU

Episode Date: May 26, 2026

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Your life does not have to make sense to anyone but you. You don't need a permission slip from anyone, not your parents, not your friends, not people on social media, not your boss. No one, okay? This is your life to live. No one gets a vote in who you are. No one gets to say in the person that you are and the person that you're destined to become. This is your life. And it's time to take your power back and take charge of 2026.

It's time to get that fire back, that spark back, to really embody. body a clean slate and a brand new fresh start. And I want to be that person to push you there. I want to be that person to remind you of how fucking incredible you are and how amazing this year is going to be. People don't get the blueprint to your life. They don't have the map of your life. They don't know your destiny. The only person that knows your destiny is God himself. Okay. God built your life the way he built it for a reason. You have a different divine mission and plan than everyone else around you. So to compare your life to everyone else's, to look at everyone else's progress and their journey and what they're doing. And to listen to other people's opinions

of where you're going makes no fucking sense. You are here to do things differently than your parents did. Then your siblings are doing. Then your friends are doing. Then your coworkers are doing. You're different. I want you to move into this new year with a fresh blank slate. This is a brand new beginning, a brand new timeline for all of us. And I'm so excited to dive into this episode today because the faster you realize that you don't need anyone's approval or permission to live the life that you want, to live the life that you desire on your terms, the faster you feel free and the world opens up for you. The faster miracles are allowed to rush into your life, the faster you manifest, the faster you're able to think of new creative ideas and business plans. This year is all about rebranding and

reinventing ourselves and creating a new timeline for ourselves where we're doing what we actually want to do, where we're following our passions, our goals, our dreams, where we're we wake up every morning excited to create and be inspired. And we wake up every day grateful and excited to live life. I decided that 2026 is the start of a new era where everyone is focused. Everyone is grinding towards their dreams. Everyone is excited about living life. That's the motto.

That's the mantra. If you're watching this right now, it is time to live our best life and to be happy and free and abundant and manifest everything we've ever wanted. Now, before we really dive into today's episode, I also want to mention my brand new masterclass manifest overnight is available now. You get instant access. The link is in the show notes as well as on my Instagram at list and at list boss. This masterclass is designed to help you access your higher self and manifest so fast literally overnight. It's very self-explanatory and I wanted it to be as simple and straightforward and to the point as possible. We don't have time to stall and wait around

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Now, let's manifest. Let's do this. Let's take over 2026 with a fucking fire. I'm so ready. I hope you're ready to. If you're ready, send me a DM. Download the masterclass. Let me know if you've joined. I can't wait to see you there. Now let's get into this. Okay. You're not here to be digestible. You're not here to play it small. And you're not here to start. on your dreams. When you're just procrastinating, you're like, oh, I'll get to it later. Oh, it's too later. Oh, I'm too old or oh, I'm too tired. No. This year, we're taking fucking action. It's time to make power moves. It's time to reclaim our life. It's time to take our life back and take control of our life. A huge thing I actually cover in the Masterclass Manifest overnight has to do with taking

accountability for your life and taking inspired action and understanding that you are responsible for creating your destiny. And you have all the power to do it. You just have to believe in yourself and you have to have a strong self-concept knowing how amazing you are. When you know your potential and you're sure of it and you wake up every day and you tell yourself, I'm the shit, I'm amazing, I deserve the best life, that's when you start rewiring your subconscious to get yourself there. I'm here to remind you that you are the fire. You're here to create and do big things. If you're listening to this right now and you're in your 20s, your 30s, your 40s, your 50s, even your 60s or maybe even your 70s, okay, it's never too late to start something new. It's

never too late to start over again. It's never too late to choose a different timeline. And I want to remind you of that because I remember when I was in my 20s, I was like, I'm old. I can't believe I'm already 25. And now that I'm almost 33, I'm like, I can't believe I thought I was old at 25. The concept of feeling old never goes away. It's always just kind of there because you're like, oh, I'm 25. Now I'm 35. Now I'm 45. You can't control your age. You can't control the time. All you can control is what you do in this very moment in the present, how you feel about yourself now. In the the present. Worrying about your age, worrying about if it's too late, is just procrastinating your life further, okay? That's a huge thing moving into this year. I am always going to do my best to take

some sort of inspired action, to get my creativity flowing, to do something good for my creativity. No more hanging up on toxic relationships. No more leaking my energy to people who don't deserve it. No more doing things that I don't want to do because it drains me. No more being afraid to say no to people. And saying yes to the right things is another huge thing. This is the year of of abundance, opening your heart, opening your energy, opening your field to new experiences and exciting opportunities, to rise, to level up, to think bigger and better. So now let's break this down and let's really talk about the topic of today's episode, which is you don't have to explain your life to anyone else and you don't have to live a

life that makes sense to anyone else. Your life only has to make sense to you. Your actions only have to make sense to you. What you decide to do with your time and energy is all up to you. And if anyone has an opinion about it, if anyone's doubting you, questioning your abilities, telling you not to do something that you know is best for you, you know, not supporting your vision, you're telling someone your dreams and they're like, oh my God, like, you sure you want to do that? Or, wow, that's really crazy.

You don't want to tell people your plans, okay? Bottom line, you don't want to tell people and leak your energy and tell them what you're manifesting, tell them what you're doing because they're going to end up having an opinion about it. And if you don't like their opinion about it, it can persuade you out of your dreams and your destiny. and God has big plans for you. He has huge plans for you. So let's get into this, okay? Your life doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.

People can only understand you from the limits of their own mind. People have a cage around their own mind and they can't see past it. So if you're asking them for their advice, for their insight, for their opinions of your new vision of what you're trying to build and create for yourself, if they don't understand the concept of breaking out of a nine to five, which is okay, by the way, if you do have a nine to five and you are happy and you enjoy it, fine. But there's a lot of people that want to be entrepreneurs that want to break out of that lifestyle. And if you're going to people who are still in a nine to five and don't understand

the concept of freedom outside of that, they're going to shut down your vision and your idea. So that's why I always say, stop telling people your wildest dreams. You know what's truly best for you more than anyone else. And you don't need other people's feedback. You really don't. You know your plan. You know what you've got to do. Your intuition is strong enough to guide you. you don't need anyone's feedback. Unless it's like one of your parents and you know that they're extremely supportive and they're going to give you positive feedback

or your friends, whatever it is or your partner, and you know that they're going to give you extremely supportive feedback, shut your mouth. Shut your mouth. Do you work in silence, move in silence and you'll be able to conserve your energy that way and make power moves that way and move quickly that way. If someone is living in survival mode

and you're asking them for their feedback, they're not going to be able to give you clear opinion. about what you're trying to build. If you're watching this right now, you're obviously special. You're here to be different. You think differently. You're not like the rest. If you're going to people who operate at a fear

and they live in fear all the time, they're not going to be transparently able to grasp the concept of you being different, and you creating magic, and you manifesting, and you creating miracles out of thin air. Because if you're living in the fourth dimension, if you're living in this place of high frequency, abundance, you can manifest at lightning speed,

speed. If you start manifesting and creating this whimsical life of yourself, there's a lot of people who are going to be like, how is she doing that? How are they doing that? How is she doing that? What's going on? They're not going to be able to understand and register how magical you actually are. So there's no point in explaining. There's no point in breaking it down. You're just going to leak your energy. Just conserve your energy and conserve your powers. Your vision is often going to be too big for someone who's never stepped outside of their comfort zone. So in, Unless you're surrounding yourself with people who are already at a totally different playing field and they're inspiring you to do something big with your life, just don't share your plans with people. Only share your plans with people that you know are thinking big and you know that are also playing life in the same way that you are.

I met a guy who was a unicorn. Like he was a unicorn, okay? I literally called this man a unicorn to his face and he was probably like, what, you fucking weirdo? but I was like, wow, you're a unicorn. Because he was radiating a different aura. He was radiating this golden aura that I always talk about on the podcast. He was radiating at a different frequency and you could just see it on him. And when I had a conversation with him, we were talking about work.

He had this extremely successful online business where he had so much freedom. He could work from anywhere and he was making like hundreds of thousands of dollars a month. Okay? It blew my mind because he's also super young. But I was just like, wow. I was so inspired and I was so intrigued and I was so fascinated how someone so young in their early 20s could build such success. One of the things we agreed upon when we were having this conversation and I realized how much we had in common because I was like, you're thinking so big. Your vision is so wide and it's so inspiring to me.

He was saying he doesn't tell anyone his course of action ever. He keeps his plans to himself until he launches what he has to launch. And then once it's out in the public, it's fine. but he's like, I don't tell anyone what I'm doing. I keep my plans to myself because people don't understand and they'll either try to persuade you out of your idea or they'll wish that it doesn't work out. And so on, someone, I was like, I agree. We were really talking about our mindsets and, you know, how we approach business. And we had a lot in common.

And I was like, wow, you're a unicorn. And I want to be with the unicorns. I want to be with the people who are golden and unique and think differently and so expansively. That's the goal, right? if you want to grow, if you want to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, you need to surround yourself with people that match that frequency because you really are affected by the people around you. I'm a huge believer in that. I really do believe that you are deeply affected by the people you surround yourself with, especially someone like me. I absorb energy very easily. So I'm like, you know what?

If I'm going to surround myself with people, it's going to be people like you, people who think differently. Your intuition is your North Star. Your intuition is going to guide you the most. out of anyone or anything. And obviously there are going to be people along the way when you're building a business or when you're doing things differently, when you're moving to a new city, when you're taking a leap of faith,

when you're getting into a new relationship, whatever life change you're going through or whatever manifestation you're manifesting. Okay. Every time you ask someone for permission or you ask someone what to do with your life, you're diluting your power and your self-worth and your self-esteem and your concept of yourself.

Self-concept is so important. And when you're handing your power over to someone else and asking them, like, oh, do you think I should do this? Do you think it's a good idea? You're leaking your power. You're diluting your self-concept and your self-worth. Now, what do I mean by self-concept? Once again, your self-concept is how you see yourself, how you show up for yourself and perceive yourself, how you really feel about yourself on a vibrational level. It's not just like, oh, I think I'm pretty.

Oh, I think I'm confident. Oh, I think I'm cool. It's like feeling that. You're actually vibrating at such a high frequency that you feel so fucking good about yourself. You feel so confident and sure about yourself that you're not going to be going asking for people's permission in life ever again. You're just not. You're not going to give a fuck.

You're going to be like, I know what's best for me. And what looks crazy to some people might be your destiny. Might be your destiny. Your destiny is to have a wild, beautiful, abundant, rich life. There's going to be a lot of people who cannot fucking comprehend it. They're going to be like envious, confused, doubtful, fearful. especially like if you have parents who are very controlling and live in fear, they might be like, no, don't do that.

Don't do that. It's too risky. I was dating someone once that was extremely risk adverse and he was like, oh, people never change and people are just always the same and they always stay comfortable in what they do. And he's like, it's just easy that way. And I don't want to take a leap of faith with my work. And he was so unhappy with his job, yet he refused to change. And he had this narrative in his head always playing that people always stay the same.

and that no one really changes at their core. And I was like, that's such a weird thing to say for me, right? Some people really believe that. And that's okay. But I'm sure if you're listening to this right now, you don't believe that. So I think we're in a safe space here. It's like, how do you want to just stay the same for your entire life? We have one life to live.

We got one shot at this life. So like, why would you want to just stay the same and stay comfortable in the same box for your entire life? And once again, there's no judgment with that. But it's just like, I, for me, am just not operating at the same. level at all where I'm like, I don't want to be around someone that is not thinking expansively because we're just not aligned. And we could be friendly and we could be cordial and that's great. But long term, I just feel like we're just not going to have that much to vibe about because

we're not going to have that much in common. And I just, I can't be in a relationship with someone who thinks like that. I know for a fact that I've changed so much since I'm a kid, since I'm a teenager. I'm a totally different woman I was even a year ago until now. As far as my values, my my self-worth, my self-image, how I see myself, how I feel every day. I feel so different. I look so different. I've healed a lot of parts of myself. Like I did put in the work, but I did change and people can change, okay? And especially if you believe in a higher power in God, assisting you in that change. Like, I just see people change all the time, especially through my work. So I'm like, I just can't understand how you don't understand that. What I realized is you can't

explain yourself to people like that. You just can't over-explain yourself. It's just going to drain you. So it's best to just agree to disagree and be like, okay, you can live in your bubble and that's fine, but I'm going to go grow and I'm going to go expand and I'm going to go find people who also want to grow with me. Whether you're changing your hair color this year, moving across the world, starting a new career, launching a podcast, launching a new business idea, changing your wardrobe, ditching

your nine to five, becoming a chef. Something I want to do is I want to start cooking. for myself and eating healthier and like learning how to cook. Anything you want, okay? Anything that you're doing to change your life and transform in 2026, I want you to stop asking permission from anyone else. I want you to stop asking permission from other people about what you should and shouldn't do. This is your life. It's your rules. You get to decide what you want to do with your time and your energy. The next thing is you are the only one that knows you because you're the only one living inside your brain and your mind, body, soul. You're the only one who knows your soul.

No one can feel what you feel. As much as you could tell someone how you feel and you could tell your therapist, you could tell your mom, you could tell your partner like, I feel this way, they're never going to 100% understand or get it. That's the truth. No one can feel 100% of what you're feeling. They can understand you, they can relate to you, they can connect with you, but at the end of the day, you always know what's best for you more than anyone. It's just about mastering your confidence in that knowing. Nobody hears your thoughts as much as you do. Nobody feels what you feel as much as you do.

So you are your own best roadmap. You are your own best compass. When you build that self-trust with yourself, you'll start to make clear decisions. Now, how do we do that? For me, it's exercise. Running in the morning first thing, fasted, honestly, with a coffee and like a banana. The reason I'm specifying fasted is because my brain is most clear first thing in the morning when I wake up and I haven't eaten yet.

Now, this is my body, as I know my body and myself, that's what works for me. If you feel really good and energized, eating breakfast first thing in the morning, do that. Do what works for you to get yourself in the clearest mental headspace possible. And for me, that's working out fasted, having a coffee and a piece of fruit, and then going for a run. That's when I think clearly, that's when I get intuitive downloads, and that's when I feel my best. That's when you want to really tap in to your intuition when your brain is clear. I've been able to really build trust with myself by anchoring in my physical body through movement.

And that's why I always push exercise in my master classes and I include it in my podcast and I always talk about physical movement because it has changed my mental state so much. It has raised my vibration so much. It has elevated my energetic field so much. When I work out, I feel better. I feel mentally sharper. I feel more confident in myself. And your energy really does shift.

You're moving any stagnant, stuck energy out of your body and into the ether. You're able to think of new ideas when you're moving. It works so well. Whether you're running, whether you're going for a long walk, whether you're doing Pilates, whether you're going for a hike, whether you're swimming. Whatever you decide to do as far as movement, whatever works for you, whatever makes you happy. But I don't think it's stressed enough in the world of mental health. I do believe going to the gym and getting a personal trainer is almost as a fact.

as going to a therapist. That might be a little controversial. I love and support therapy. And I think you should do both if you can afford both. If it works for you, do both. I do think personal trainers are underrated, especially the right one. If you find one that you get along with, that you trust, that could get your mind off of your negative thinking and into your body and into your workout, it's a big game changer. So as I said, you're the only one that's really in your body, right? So if you feel a desire, it's already yours. If you feel a nudge or a puller or calling, it's yours. It is is done. You can decide, like, this is the path. This is for me. I don't have to listen to anything external. I don't need to ask anyone else's permission. If I have a dream, it's mine, and I feel it

in my bones. And I'm not going to question it. The next thing is we're going to talk about resistance, creating resistance around living our best life. And when we're living a life that not a lot of people understand, it's going to feel a little uncomfortable at times because sometimes you're going to feel alienated, like you are doing things differently, so you're doing it wrong. And that's something that I definitely have wrestled with many years of my career when I started the podcast, when I started my business before that, when I dove into the world of being an influencer and starting on Instagram, I was like one of the first influencers ever. And not a lot of people know that about me, but like I was literally on Instagram when Instagram first came out. And I was one of the

OG Instagram influencers. My Instagram was fitless for those of you who remember, if you know me from then, I know a few of you have messaged me about it. I was a fitness influence. and I had initially started Instagram to document my weight loss journey. And I was one of the first people on the app that was using the app to promote products, advertise things, and post my transformations in the gym. I saw how the app changed and transformed over years and years of time. And it was so wild. But that being said, when I started, there was no one doing anything.

There was no such thing as an influencer. So you can imagine how weird it was for me to be posting myself so vigorously. online and promoting products. And a lot of people were like, what the fuck is this girl doing? I was bullied a lot. I was misunderstood. I was judged. I was very much judged in college.

There was like a group forum. I've spoken about this, I think, on an episode before. There was a thing called yikyak. And it was a community forum and it was anonymous. And people would go in on my university's yik yak and bully the shit out of me. And they were like, oh, that girl that has on Instagram, she thinks she's so cool, but she's such a loser. like I was definitely shunned by the sororities or I don't know, some girls, they were just like, I don't know what was going on.

I was definitely bullied for being an influencer because it wasn't a thing. And I was starting a trend. I was starting something new. And it was different and it was something uncomfortable because no one was posting themselves. And it kind of looked like narcissistic or not narcissistic, but it kind of just looked like weird because I was always posting pictures of myself and diary entries and long captions of like, my day and my meals and what I was doing. And that was foreign at the time. So there were moments I remembered where I was like,

is this like really cringy and embarrassing and stupid? Probably. But I'm going to do it anyway because my intuition is saying it's going to turn into something big. And I kept going because I was just listening to my inner voice and my inner calling saying, keep going. This is going to be something big. You're at the start of a new movement. Something big is going to happen with this.

And I kept going despite the external noise and despite the many thoughts I always. had in my head that were like uncomfortable because it was really weird for me to do it. So the point I'm making here is that it may feel a little uncomfortable when you're starting trends, when you're doing something different, when you're breaking the mold, when you're thinking big and you're a unicorn, okay? It can feel a little weird at times and a little uncertain and a little bit intimidating. But trust the inner voice, trust your inner voice. Just keep trusting your inner voice.

Keep trusting your inner calling and your inner knowing. And I promise you it's always worth it. The next thing is your destiny is always going to be louder than people's opinions. If it's truly meant for you, it can't pass you by. And I'm the biggest believer in that. So as I just said, like, even though people were bullying me and I was a little bit intimidated by my own destiny and I was like, I don't know if this is weird that I'm an influencer when that wasn't a thing.

My destiny was louder than everything else. And the reason you know it's part of your path is because your intuition will keep you going. It will keep you going. It will keep you moving. And you'll know that something is clicking because you'll see. signs from God in the universe that are pushing you gently in the right direction and giving you momentum to keep going. There will just be this like natural momentum despite the thoughts, despite people's opinions that will keep you going. And that's a beautiful thing. And I really do believe

that nothing that is truly meant for you can pass you by. And the thing is people will tell you you're fucking crazy. No matter what. People will disagree with what you're doing no matter what. People will have opinions and tell you that you're wrong until you're right. And then they want to be your best friend and they're like admiring you for your hard work and admiring you for manifesting your dream life and they're like how did you do it full transparency many years later after i built my social media business my brand i blew up on instagram everyone started jumping on instagram and the amount of dms i got from people that i know were not rooting for me in the beginning was kind of wild i was like damn like you made fun of me and i know you made fun of me and you thought i was like the biggest loser

and now you're asking me for social media growth advice. And that's okay because I can forgive and forget and let it go and brush it off. And like I feel kind of flattered honestly, right? The thing is when you are truly in alignment, people will start to show up and respect you differently long term. In the short term, they're going to think you're crazy. They might make fun of you. They might bully you. They might think you're weird.

They might isolate you and be like envious, whatever it is. But at the end of the day, if you're truly in alignment and you're on God's plan for you, Nothing can take that feeling away when you get what you want and when you accomplish your dreams. And people will respect you after the fact. It's not that you need to earn anyone's respect because the only opinion, as I said, you should care about is really your own. But it is such a good feeling to stay on track and stay in alignment. And that feeling of knowing that you trusted yourself over everyone else and proved everyone else wrong, it's a really powerful feeling. It's more about the fact that you trusted God and you trusted your vision and you stayed on track and you stayed on

course despite the external world, despite the negative feedback. It's highly respectable. And then you feel this new level of self-love for yourself because you did it. You did it. You did what you said you were going to do. You followed through. You committed to it and it worked. You committed to it and it manifested. It's the most powerful feeling. And the crazy thing is sometimes being deeply misunderstood just means you're on the right path. It just means you're doing something different because once again, you're a fucking unicorn, you're special. You're built to do things differently. So it is going to feel a little weird to people.

It is going to come with being misunderstood. And that could be a really positive, beautiful thing because that means you're breaking cycles. You're here to start new trends. Every visionary person, every successful person was judged to an extent before they made it, before they hit it big, before they got what they wanted,

before they built their success. All of these big people you see that are really, really successful, they were met with tons of resistance. The road to success and the road to manifesting your dream life is never perfectly linear and smooth, ever. There's always going to be blocks, road bumps, doubts, always. So it's just a matter about focus, focusing and trusting and having faith in yourself.

When you walk a road that was custom built for you by God and it's built for your divine mission and your plan, of course people are going to misunderstand it because it's not their plan. It's not their path. How could they understand it? Once again, your life is only going to make sense to you. Your life is only supposed to make sense to you. And when you stop explaining yourself, that's when you become truly free. You become magnetic.

The manifestations start flowing in. Your energy shifts. Your boundary strengthen. You know your worth. You know your path. You know where you're going. You know where you're destined to go. Your standards elevate.

You're fully confident. You're fully stepping into your power because you know your truth. You know what you're put here on this earth to create. The only permission you ever need comes from within, comes from source, comes from your own alignment. Your life is allowed to look wildly different. Your life is allowed to look exactly the way that you want it to look. You're allowed to choose the choices that you want to choose. And your timeline is allowed to be misunderstood by other people.

That's okay. Accept it for what it is. That's okay. You can misunderstand me. I know where I'm going. I know my destiny. I know my truth. And with that being said, I want you to remember that your path is your own.

Your destiny is your own. Your calling is your own. Your journey is yours. The best realization in the world is the only approval that you truly needed was your own. You know in your heart that the only approval you need is your own. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of LIS. Thank you so much for being here. I'm so grateful for you.

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I'm so excited for this year. It's going to be so amazing and incredible. And I can't wait to take this journey with you all. Have an amazing, amazing day. And stay tuned for future episodes.