De-Influenced with Dani + Jordan - "Let's Talk About Our Sex Life"

Episode Date: March 27, 2025

Buckle up buttercups. It's Thursday and we're having some adult conversations. Just as the title says we're talking about our sex life as a 30 something year-old, married and parents of three. We want to know if y'all relate to the struggles we face as husband and wife around our sex life. Honesty is the best policy over here and we hope we make some of y'all feel seen with this vulnerable conversation. Plus, we're talking about our trip to cabo! We scored some great deals with a few of our favorite brands for our listeners: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code DEINFLUENCED at LumeDeodorant.com #lumepod Visit premierprotein.com and go to Where to Buy to find a retailer near you or to find where to buy online. Right now LMNT is offering a free sample pack with any purchase, That's 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors or share LMNT with a friend. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/dani. Take proactive care of your vaginal health and head to OPositiv.com/DANI or enter DANI at checkout for 25% off your first purchase. Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food at The FarmersDog.com/dani. Plus, you get FREE shipping! Make sure you’re subscribed to our official channel on YouTube, @deinfluencedpodcast, and follow us on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your De-Influenced fix! Stay connected with us on Instagram and TikTok @deinfluencedpodcast, and as always thank you for being a part of this journey.  XOXO,  Dani and Jordan Produced by Dear Media

The following podcast is a dear media production. Hello and welcome back to your favorite podcast. Deinfluenced. It's packing day. It's packing day. I'm so scared. No, it's been fine. I started packing on Sunday.

Yeah. Packing days are stressful days. Yeah. So we're going to Cabo tomorrow. And we're so excited, but we're going with two other families. and all of our kids. And our kids, too. And packing for your kids to go to the beach,

two babies, like a toddler, a kid, and then a newborn is, it should be an Olympic sport. I know. I can see your brain just move in a mile a minute. All the things that we might need.

And we have to have because we're also like in Cabo without a car. Totally. So like, pacifier, what are we going to do? Do they have like, I don't know, can you like DoorDash over there? Your pinky? Yeah, we're just going to take it back to like the old days. The old days, you know. I'll have to start like nursing at the boob again. Yeah. I on the other hand have packed nothing. I know. You pack. And I've thought about nothing. It's so, I will pack probably at 8.30 tonight and I go to bed at nine. Don't you feel like, oh, I'm just so curious. Like when I'm, okay, this is such a good question. When I'm running on the house, like a busy bumblebee, and I'm packing like, you know, the passies and extra bottles. And like, I just packed soap and a new bottle brush to clean the bottles at night. Like, you would have never thought of that.

Never. You would have never thought to bring dish soap to wash the bottles. I kind of think I would. No, I don't. I don't think you would have. Like, I think if you just gave me a shot and put me in coach, I honestly. think I would bring everything our kids need. But my question is, whoever took you out?

Your energy. Because I feel like if I interfere in the slightest, it's like, here's how I explain it. I usually like to be out of the house on these days because I think you like your space and I think you like to run around. And it's like you have this like mental checklist of what you're going through. And my fear is like, you're like, hey, when you get the bottle. brush. And in your mind, you've delegated that out to me. But in my mind, I'm like, does she really mean? I should get the bottle brush because she's like kind of on a roll here.

No, I really mean it. Right. And it's just so like, it's all in your brain. And so I like to stay out of your way because I'm like, if I forget something that she expects me to do, then our vacations ruined. What did I delegate a route to you? Are you going to? Downloading the shows onto the kids iPads. That's like always my job. Which shows does Stella want? Oh, I usually just ask her. Well, I'll tell you. She already told me like five times. Getting you guess? Um, Moana too. Um, um, brave, maybe. No, babe. She's so over brave. That's so old school. That's like when you try to play reputation Taylor Swift this morning. It's like, Miss, Miss Rachel? No. She wants Milan. Oh, yeah. She's in a

Moana 2 and Little Mermaid. I don't want to go down this path, but have you noticed that as we've reintroduced the princess shows again, her behavior has shifted? Really? Yes, 100%. It's bad. Yeah, it's like, it's directly correlated. Oh, she's been amazing with me.

No, she's like, she's like, she's so dramatic with her body. It's like, I'm telling you, it's the shows. I believe you. Yeah, we did switch to Miss Rachel there for like five minutes, which was not. There's only four episodes on Netflix. I know. Needed more. But did you...

Buy her out. Did you realize like whenever... I know, I wonder what her catalog is worth. Oh my gosh. 100 million plus. For sure. Yeah. No, for sure.

More. More. Yeah. They paid her 100 million plus. For sure, without a doubt. Like, and we do... Do we know anything about the real Miss Rachel? She's like pretty humble.

Like, just doesn't really like want much. She's like says no to every. Everything. She's just kind of, she's just Ms. Rachel. I know, but like, where does she live? I forgot. Maybe we Google it. I did look it up one time because I was so curious. But, um, like, what, can she go places? Probably not. That's so funny to think about like, like, I know. She's like, I can't leave my house. Like I get mauled by the babies. That's so crazy. Where? Portland. Nashville? Maine. Okay. She's from Maine. She lives in Nashville now. That makes sense. She probably lives in on a big farm.

Yeah, totally. And her little overalls and she's like, what's, bubble gum? Bubble gum. Bubble gum. But all things consider, I feel like you, I feel like you've been good today. The first question I really wanted to ask you on this podcast was like what mood we're in. Well, I started packing on Sunday. So I've been packing for four days.

So that helps a little bit. Is there a little stress in your body? Yeah, but it's like a healthy anxiety. Okay. Healthy anxiety. honestly was just really bummed because I wanted to go to the mall today. I know, I thought that was so random. Well, I just wanted to get like two or three cute outfits to wear around the house while you're there. Okay. I thought, you know what I thought? I thought about this all day. I was going to

get lingerie. I totally thought that. I do. Because you were like, it was so random. And I was like, because Danny, I don't really shop. I don't really shop. You were like, I just want to go. You're very cryptic about where, why you were going. I was like, I wonder if she's shooting the reality a TV pilot. That was my first thought. What? And then my second thought was, and you just didn't want to tell me because you knew it would, like, trigger me or whatever. So that was number one.

I feel like that would be like a pretty bold lie. Well, like, I don't think I would lie to you. I don't think I would lie to you like that. I know. So then I talked myself out of it. And then I swung it into a positive. And I was like, you know what? She's probably going to get. She's probably like going to a store and get lingerie.

I genuinely thought that I was like, she's so sweet. I'm dead. So that wasn't it. No. Sorry, babe. I have lingerie. I've never worn it. I know, but I thought, you know, like, we've been kind of on a roll lately.

And so I was like, oh, like, that's probably why. I mean, I'll look for it if you, if that's what. No, no, no, no, no. I don't want to ask. But if you would like to surprise, I'm not going to stop it. Honestly, I'm not really in that era of like I want to put on lingerie and look sexy. Like I'm still just like, we're kind of in the postpartum era. Like it's just like I'm just trying to put on clothes that fit and I feel good in.

So and I know that probably every man like is like, I don't care what your body looks like. I want to see you in laundry. That's just not how the woman, how my mind works. Yeah, that's like totally how I feel. Yeah, no. See, like, no, no, no. I'm like, I do not want to try on laundry right now. Like, that would be probably one of the worst days on my life right now.

No, but I really have this whole era of postpartum, you know, I have been trying to like just embrace it. I don't want to say embrace the curves because I don't think I'm a very curvy person. It's just like pockets of fat that just are kind of stubborn. But it's not, but I have been just trying to like embrace it. And let me tell you, it shows. Yeah. Like your hair is all curly. We love it.

You're glowing. I just, I've tried to explain this or put this into words. But it's like, you're just like a, I don't know, you're just like a woman now. It's like, I don't know why because you've had two kids, but it's like something about our third kid. You're just like, you're just like mom. Yeah. It's like, I got to protect her. Oh.

She's like my queen. Oh. You know? I love that. That's how I feel. I want to be queen. It's because you realize how needed I am. Yeah, for sure.

Right. For sure. Yeah. For me, for the kids, for family. She's across the board. Across the board. When you blew up your life, I was like, hmm, we need mom. Let me tell you.

They're like, dad, I'm so tired of mac and cheese and PBN. I'm like, I'm sorry. I can't help you. Yeah, I was going to go to the mall. And I was walking by Lou Lemon. They had this like new color way that came out. And I was like, maybe I'd get myself a pair of shorts.

You know what I mean? And I like to share new things that I get with my audience because like a lot of the stuff that I've been sharing sells out. Not because I link it. I mean, sometimes. But like sometimes it just sells out because it's just like out of stock now. And so then I like to. get new things to share with my audience.

And yeah. And so I saw a couple of cute things at Allo in Lulmin. We were walking around yesterday shopping for our giveaway. And so I was really excited about doing that today. Yeah. But it's okay. The other, the third analysis I had on why you wanted to go to the mall was I was like, it's like, you know what?

She's like starting to get into like her place postpartum where she's like doing things for herself. And I was like, that's so, yeah. I'm like so happy about that. No, yeah. It definitely was like a good, like, it was going to be like a good hour and a half just to myself. And then you worked. Yeah, and then I just stayed home and worked.

So how about this funny story that last night on all of the neighbors in our doors, there was a filming notice. And I guess like Michaels is filming a commercial on our street. Yes. And I don't have a problem with it. I didn't tell you the full story about that. No, tell me. Well, okay. So Summit has like, not.

not been sleeping through the night. So I hired, last week, I hired like a sleep, like a sleep trainer to come in. I had heard about her. She was like famous in Dallas. And she was like, give me a week. I'll be there. I'll sleep train in a week. And I'll get you guys on like a good schedule and everything. So I was really excited about her start. She started on Sunday. And so this was like her third night coming. And she was the one that told me about the filming crew. She said that one of the neighbors came out and told her not to park there overnight because there was going to be like a commercial filming. But the way that she described as me, it was like very sketchy.

She was like, one of your neighbors like, you know, but I guess it was the casting director or something that came up to her. And like I know how our neighbors. aren't really like totally fond with us. Like they're not fond of the fact that we do what we do, you know? And I know it because that one time that we had the target shoot, we hired that for a strong carriage. To be fair, it was a little over the top.

Yeah, but we did get it approved by the city of Dallas. And we did have like the proper police officers and everything like directing traffic. True. We did it all right. But we learned our lesson. We were like, okay, let's not film here. Let's go film on the street next door where we don't have. Where nobody knows that.

We nobody knows this. But yeah, we heard about it. So anyway, she came in and my stomach sank and I go, oh my God, our neighbors are pulling a prank on us. I was like, there's no way that they're filming a commercial for Michaels. Like, is Michael's even still around? Like. What's the one that just closed down, Joanne's? Yeah, Joanne's fabric.

And I was like, there's no freaking way that Michaels is coming. I was like, this is a prank. And I was also like April is coming up, April 1 soon, not right now. But I was like, I was like, maybe this is a really extravagant prank. And I was like, because then I looked outside it, had all these cones where you couldn't park. And it was just in front of our house is what I thought. Yeah. And I was like, dude, they're just trying to make us like feel how they feel.

Yeah. So, no, I get where your brain went. My brain went a different path. I was like, I read the notice and I was like, oh, no, people are going to think that this is us. Yeah. Like, they're going to think we're shutting down the street again. And like, we're shooting this brand deal for Michaels. And I was like, dang, like, I just felt so trapped. And I almost wanted to text like everyone on the street and be like, hey, guys, this is not us. Like, we've learned our lesson. We're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're. respectful, like, you know, and this one's actually more cumbersome than anything we've ever done. Like, there's, there's cones all up and down the street, you know, there's, uh, there's like a huge crew here. Our air conditioning went out and, like, they're coming up and down our steps, like trying to fix our air conditioning and they can't even park outside of our house. Like, poor guys have to walk like two houses down. But I don't mind. I mean, I don't mind. I was just worried that it was gonna, like people were going to think it was up. Yeah, I don't mind either.

I'm like, it's just a day. It's just a day. It was like, fine, but. You know, show us the commercial. Yeah. Like, can we be in it? Yeah, can't wait to see it. Like, can I be an extra?

But yeah, you know, people, people have different opinions about filming. You want to tell people about our trip to Cabo who's coming with us? Yeah, we could talk about that or I thought we could talk about the late night conversation that we had. You know? About doing it. Yeah. I honestly like it's kind of a it's kind of an awkward place to go but I feel like what people are appreciating about our current era in life is we're being very open and real about like very real

topics. We didn't talk about it beforehand. Yeah. So you we don't have to go there but you had said that you had talked about it with some friends and it was very relatable. Yeah. And so it's really up to you pick your path. You you you can talk about it. Why don't we talk about Cabo first and then we'll go into that. Okay. So Cabo and then our sex life. Yeah. Got it. Yeah. It's just still like, we're still kind of warming up. We've just got on the podcast. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's been a busy day. Speaking of postpartum and getting my health back to normal after having summit, I want to talk to you guys about one of my favorite women's health products, O positive supplements. O positive is on a mission to deliver innovative, clinically backed, fun to take products that support women throughout every stage of their life. Whether you've just had your first cycle or first baby, O positive is here to help you keep your hormones balanced. O positives, Euro, Vagio, vaginal. Probiotics is one of the top five supplements on Amazon and they have multiple number one products in target for intimate care PMS metapause categories. The Euro probiotic

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a functional medicine expert, like went to school for it. And Taylor Duke's from Taylor Duke's Wellness, who is also a functional medicine expert, like practice for many years. I mean, these people, like, they've never given their kids in Advil. Like that's the type of like health we're talking about. They don't go to doctors. They go to doctors like for like really if you really need a doctor. We're talking like like no process, nothing.

Like very, very, very healthy people. Which is going to be great. But like I'm kind of scared. I'm like all of our kids are going. And I'm like, you guys better watch yourselves. I'm like, you better not be talking about Cheetos over there while we're in Cabo. Did I read you that? For these other families.

This is the. text. I planned this joke for so long. Yeah. I said, because like, we're kind of the organizers and we invited them along. And I said, hey, guys, I'm about to give the person stacking the fridge and the chef some direction for breakfast and lunch since we will be out for dinner. Let me know thoughts, Taylor and Ellie. And I said, breakfast.

Eggs, bacon, pop tarts, any Kellogg brand cereal, 2% milk, eggos, lunch. Lunchables, crustables, sunny D. Dinner, flora farms. And they don't, like, Taylor doesn't really like, know us. And so she was like... They all replied like, sounds great. Yeah, like they were kind of like, and I had to be like, hey, guys, I'm just kidding. She replied, she goes, oh my gosh, I think I had a heart attack. And then there was like this other, so her husband chimed in. And I think her, I don't think her husband follows the regimen that she does. No, I think he does. Oh, he does.

The same one. Yeah. I mean, I'm sure it always like trickles down the family. Family line. And he said, babe, don't forget the hungry man's chicken fried steak. TV dinners. Those things are chef's kiss. And I said, I'm going to leak a photo to TMZ. And the headline's going to be Taylor Duke Wellness, Husband eats hungry man. Rumors of divorce swirling. That is funny. No, this is going to be a very healthy trip. I mean, I'm excited. You know, Ellie's bringing the bands to be Pilates. So she's going to do like Pilates classes in the morning and yoga. And then Taylor is bringing all of her supplements, all of her electrolyte mix,

her pancake mix, proteins. I mean, I'm telling you. I'm telling you. you're going to come back like cleansed cleanse absolutely from the inside out that's for sure can she what do you what do you do like a diagnosis or a you know diagnostic check on stratton's gut yeah oh she could yeah she should we should i mean not while we're there she probably needs like her kit her tools her tools like the blood work and stuff um but yeah that's a good idea stradden just poor thing he's just always kind of had tummy issues and i have so much which like mom guilt, because I'm always wondering if I, like, switched to formula too soon with Summit, I mean, with Stratton. Yeah.

But then I hear about these breastfed kids that have the same issue. So you never know. But I think similar veins, do you hear that RFK, your Maha leader, he's taking on baby formula. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, big deal. Let me read you the headline. That's going to be crazy. You're talking about in the group chat. You ever have, do you have a group chat that you're like, man, if this thing leaks, I'd be done. I feel like I've got like six of those going.

I do. Like, and I'm just like, in group chats, like, I'm fully me. Yeah, yeah. Which is so funny because it is the most incriminating way to be fully me. Yeah, it is. And I just feel so free. I'm like, that, okay, that is how I feel about being on a reality TV show. Yeah.

Yeah, you're like, I can be fully me. Yeah. They're like going to destroy you. On reality TV, that's how I feel. But like even one-on-one, like I wouldn't tell somebody one-on-one some of the things that I would tell people on a TV show. Wait, say that again. Okay. So if I had like a big secret or something, I would share it on reality TV when they were filming, but I wouldn't tell like a friend that I just met last Tuesday.

Okay. So you would tell the masses, but not. Yes. Okay. Isn't that interesting? Yeah, why? I don't know. It just seems so much easier.

Maybe because it's not so personal. But, oh, like, not as intimate. Yeah, not as intimate. Yeah, yeah. So you can perform for the masses, but you struggle in the intimate one-on-ones. I don't think I struggle in them, but I'm just saying, like, it's easier for me, I think. Yeah, this one says, RFK Jr's next targets are companies making baby for me. I can't wait.

He's going to wreck shop. I cannot wait. Also, like... Because don't they, like, they create... It's like the baby formula companies, like create the own... What's the... Lana, you always saw this about that. Oh, the growth charts.

The growth charts. So, like, it'll be like, is your baby like this much weight at this week? And then at the bottom, it'd be like, brought to you by Simulac. Yeah. And then so then it's just basically trying to get you to buy Simulac to get your baby. I wonder who funds the... What's the pyramid? The nutritional pyramid that we used to follow up all of it.

Oh yeah, yeah. They don't do that anymore. I know. They got rid of it. Probably because it was like it was funded probably by like a conglomerate. Like the dairy industry. It's so interesting. It was funded by Got Milk.

Yeah. Those campaigns. It's crazy. Remember those campaigns? Yeah, those are great. I was drinking so much milk. I know. Same.

I was like, I got that little mustache. Are we off milk? Is Maha? Are we off milk? That's one thing I haven't really gone down is like the milk. hatred. Yeah. People are like out on milk. Really? Yeah. I feel like that was like the one thing like my, it's like you have to drink milk of your bones will break. Yeah. You know? It was like a big deal. I was like I'm not strong because I'm not drinking enough milk. Yeah. Yeah. It was like that whole thing. And then it was like in college it was like don't eat butter like cook with olive oil. Yeah. And then it was like coconut milk, almond milk. Yes. Soy milk. And I'm like, guys. Yes. There were so many types of milk. And I'm like, guys. Yes. There are so many types of milk. You know what's so funny about me? I've always been like a 1% milk girl.

Really? Yeah. I mean, I can try. I can do oat milk. Like I'll do it sometimes just for the flavor in my latte, but I'm just like a 1% gal. 2% so like heavy and whole milk is like a lot. Wait, no, I put creamer in your coffee every morning. Yeah, I know.

Oh, okay. You're just saying in general, if you were going to chug some milk, you drink. When I order it's oat milk latte, babe. Yeah. That's right. That's right. The other thing that happened is they released the JFK files. I know.

Big deal. Or maybe is it? I don't know. I've heard I was just scrolling Twitter at 3 in the morning last night. And I saw two sides. One is like, this is everything. This is what we've been waiting for. And then the other side was like, this is the same files that Biden released, you know, back in 2020.

So does anyone know which one it is? I didn't have time or care to sift through the noise. I saw some of like the key documents had already been released. That's all I know. I don't even know what they were about. But people are like, okay, we already saw this. And there's 80,000 documents. Yeah, so I think they're probably still sorting through them.

They're still sorting through them. But there was a lot of narrative I saw on Twitter that was like, oh, we've been waiting for these and turns out everything is right. Like Oswald did it. But I was like, you couldn't have sorted through those files yet. Maybe they put it in like a file in like search keywords. Or like... Chat Chippy Tee.

Yeah, maybe so. That would take a lot of tokens. I don't think anyone can do that yet. How do you get more tokens? I do know there's this project I found. Let me see if I can find it. There's a project that probably is the best to do this. I always thought Oswald did it.

Really, what made you think that, Dany? Well, I've watched a couple documentaries. And I don't know, this inside job, I just, I just feel like it would have come out by now. Yeah. That's just me. Who knows? What else has been going on this week?

St. Patrick's Day was a total flop. I'm just kidding. I didn't even know. Where were we on St. Patrick's Day? I think it was on Monday. We were just living life. Wait. It was on Monday.

Did, why didn't know one talk about it? I know. Where were we? Were we even around people? I didn't pinch you for not wearing green. Huh. Did most people celebrate it last weekend? Yep.

Remember we went to the lake? Yeah. And our realtor was going back to Lower Greenville to parade. Oh, man. Okay. Yeah. To party. Yeah.

Yeah. We never really did like St. Patrick's Day people. No, we really haven't. We almost got married on St. Patrick's Day one time. Like, remember when we were one time, one time. Sorry, guys. Honestly, I'm sitting here and I'm sitting here. I'm like, I really need to go back.

I know. Like that's, I'm like, what am I doing sitting here? It's about to get silly in here. I can tell. Oh, man. Has that episode released yet with the Blood Moon and Daylight Savi? Oh, my God. We were dying laughing yesterday.

People are going to be like, these people are idiots. They don't deserve my attention. It's horrible. Oh, man. Okay, why don't we talk about our sex life? All right, let's talk about our sex life. Well, so, okay, we've had three children. Okay, we've been married for seven years.

We've both blown up our lives in the past, what, four months? And, you know, after you have a baby, you can't really have sex for, what, how long is it? An attorney? That's all I remember. Like six years? It's like six years. It's like dog years. It's like every day is like seven years.

For a guy. six weeks, but then you're also not counting like the end of pregnancy, which, I mean, you can do it, but it's like, it's more of like a chore at that point. You're like, get in here and do it. I want to have this baby. And it's like, they tell you it's not super. It's like so barbaric. Jordan, oh my gosh. It is not that bad. It's such a utility. Oh my gosh. I'm like, I just want you to like, you know, I want to feel like you love me and you're like, just can you just do it? Like we need to get this baby out. I'm so sick of Because they say at the end that that helps soften your cervix. So the baby comes faster.

Yeah, for sure. So that's why a lot of people towards the end will do it every day just to get the baby out. But you're also so big that it's like hard to do it. It's probably some like male OBGYN. Yeah. Just created this giant conspiracy for all men. And he's like, yeah, you know, you got to be doing it like almost every day in the last two weeks. Otherwise baby won't come.

Oh, man. That's a funny idea. That's like when I found out that blue balls weren't a real thing. Yeah. That's a funny conspiracy too. Like I do a lot of, do a lot of females think that that's a real thing? I don't know, but I did for,

I was like, oh my gosh, like their balls turned blue. Like that's horrible. I felt so bad. And I was like, and then, oh my God. It was like dressed modestly because you don't want to give a guy blue balls. Like, wait, really? Who told you that? Like the church?

Oh, no. Yeah, the church told me, oh my gosh, that's horrible. No. All this propaganda flying. No, I had a group of guy friends in high school. Like, they were like, there were like seven of them. And they just, they would all like lie about this stuff. Like, they told all of us.

Like, we all just believed it. You're like, oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. Do you have to get surgery? Yeah. And I was like, that's horrible. Like, and yeah. So.

That's so funny. So, you know, know, having three children being married for as long as we have, you know, there was this like, I don't know, I drank a half a cup of beam that night, my sleep aid. Yes. And I was kind of delirious. But then, like, I made a move. And then I felt like you rejected me in the move.

I did. You did for sure. And that was the third rejection of the day. So I was determined since probably noon. Oh, gosh. And I, it was just like, rejection, rejection, rejection. Usually I can, they kind of just roll off, but the roll off the back. I'm like, try again tomorrow. And I think that's the gist for most married men. But I think that because our story was different because we have been working so much on ourselves and we talked about on the podcast like being out of sync. And then I finally felt like we got in sync again. And not physically, but like emotionally. Like we were like, okay. Like our. I mean, we were doing it still. Yeah. But like. like our new healthier selves were like moving in the right direction emotionally.

Yes. And so I think that in that moment, my expectation was that that emotional connection would have trickled down to physical connection. Like I wasn't really pushing the physical connection when you were in your six week window because I'm not allowed to and it scares me. Yeah. I didn't want anything to break. And then, you know, after that, you know, we were still kind of working through things.

And so I just had a call. What did I tell you? forgot. I rolled over. You were like, it's really starting to get discouraging and hurts my feelings. Did I say that? No, you didn't say it. You said, it's starting to get discouraging how much, like, you're rejecting me. And it is important to a marriage. I am so excited about this next ad. Y'all know I've been on a health kick since 2024 and part of this journey is upping my protein intake every day. As I'm sure you've heard, Danny mentioned on the podcast, I constantly am packing protein into my diet every day. Listen, I'll be honest, it's a lot of protein and with limited options for protein-packed meals, they can get rather redundant.

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Yeah. I think that it's 50%. I'm just not in the mood. And then 50% I was mad at you that day. Right, right, right, right. I wasn't mad at you. I'm sorry. That's, that's extreme. You were mad. But. I was going through something personally. Yes. And I was having lots of feelings about something. And, and it was the timing. It was a timing that was off.

So, no, there wasn't anything deeper, but I, I do, I do feel like in that moment, I was like, I don't really feel like that connected to him.

And he has not taken me on a date in a long time. So I'm justified. That's how I felt. And I was, I am not one of those girls. It's like, he needs to wine and dance. me and take me to dinner and I get all dressed up like in fact that sounds horrible but like just like an

hour of wanting to hang out with me by taking me to you know pop joddy or la madeline or something but you know even that to be honest if you would have done that I don't know if I would have been the mood so I see and that's like my whole thing is like I don't think so and and I want to talk about I think that this is probably the most helpful is okay you're not going to remember this but we remember when we went to San Diego, like five years ago. With Southwest? Yes. So funny.

Okay. We rode in an Uber with a man from the airport, like out to like San Diego. And in the Uber, it was a married man. Okay. And we were recently married. Okay. So we were in our honeymoon face. Okay.

And I remember this man. making a joke. And I don't remember the specifics of the joke. Okay. But he was like, something along the lines of like, if you count the number of times you have sex with your partner

in the first year of marriage, you're going to have, like if a pennies every time, you're going to have $200 or something. And he's like, but then if you track everything after five years of marriage, you'll only have like a dollar. And then he was like,

like after 10 years, you're going to be left with like three cents. So it was a joke. Like, it was kind of like we all laughed. And I just, for some reason, remember that story. And at the time, we were in our honeymoon phase. So we were making bank. We were dropping pennies in that bucket a lot, like chipmunks. And I remember in my mind, I was like, man, I, again, codependent Jordan, controlling Jordan was like, I never want to let my marriage get to a place where that is our sex life. Does that make sense? Like I was like, in my mind, I was like, that will never happen to us. Yeah, that's probably what every single man that gets married says to himself. No, I know. That's why I'm talking about this is because I think that like, that is truly what I

believed. Like I would, I would have seen that as a failure on my part or our part or whatever. It would have told me that I didn't control life enough to create an environment where we could thrive physically in our marriage. So I think where the conversations kind of started to go south and where I started to feel discouraged in it was I was hearing everything you were saying. But then I'm also thinking in my head. I'm like, okay. So, Yes, like, I rejected him on a, he usually try to do it on Sundays. It's kind of like your thing. It's the Sabbath. What else are we going to do? Okay. So if on Sundays, that's one of the best jokes I've ever made on the podcast.

Okay. So if upon Sundays, we like, let's just say on Sunday, we don't get to it. Yeah. When are we going to do it? Okay. So then I'm thinking in my head, okay, Friday night, date night. That makes sense because what stresses me out is the fact that like I am already struggling like my sleep scores every night or like in the 60s somebody's like right now I think that people are always like why do you slur your words and I'm like because I'm so tired like I'm so tired that like even opening my mouth to say a word is tiring like exhausting so you're thinking about your sleep scores see I last night we did it I got a 45 sleep score and I would trade that 45 sleep score any day because here's a thing, I feel like I'm ruined for the entire day. Like, yeah, we did last night. Like, I'm so tired

today. And, and then I'm, and then I'm like, I'm not the mom I want to be. I'm not the wife I want to be. I feel so bad. And so a lot of times you try to do it when I'm like, supposed to be sleeping. And I'm like, then I'm, you're going to be upset with me because I'm not showing up in the day, you know. And so then I'm like, the way that this could be fixed is, or, you know, not fixed, but to, resolve our problem is to plan it out and put on the calendar and be like, okay, date night and then we do it. Because when you go to date night, you kind of just always assume that, you know, you can freshen up. You can get like all pretty. You can, you know, like not just get in bed and just put your pumps on and your mouth guard on and like, you know, just be in the mood.

And I think for women, a lot of times it takes a while to get there. Like not just physically, because yes, it takes a while to get there too, but like, like mentally to get prepared because there's so much going through our heads like oh I don't feel good today or my breath stinks oh I'm stinky like I haven't shower and I'm my deodorant is it working like I need to shave my legs and I don't like you know all these things that are going through a women's head that are typically more like about not body insecurity but just like more about ourselves like inward and so like it I think men are always like oh my gosh what did I do it's like it actually has nothing to do with you. It's more like I mentally have to, maybe I need to take a bath.

Maybe I need to have a minute. Maybe I need to go read a book. Maybe I need to like get myself in the mood. And so sometimes those- Read a book. Yeah, sometimes those spontaneous things, like, it's really hard to just switch it on for a girl. I feel like for guys, you can just like see something and you're like instantly activated. Like I can't think of something that I would see like, even if I saw like the hottest man in the world in like a fireman suit coming down a pole like that's what I was doing I'd be like oh well that's funny like I wouldn't be like oh my gosh I'm so turned on like to me I would be turned on if I was like oh my god he loves me and like we're spending so much time together and he thinks I'm so funny and like I feel so pretty today and he

told me I was pretty and he likes this and then I'd be like oh let's do it like it's not like I don't do it. He looks hot. Like, you know, maybe there's a little bit of that once you kind of get going. And like, maybe that comes ever so often. But I just feel like it's so much more than just like a pounds for a female. So I said that. And I was like, well, why don't we just always know that we're going to do it after date night? And you were like, you know what?

That just makes me sad. And like, I'm just really sad that this is where our marriage got to. No, no. No, no. I- It's on the calendar. No, that wasn't my tone. My tone was this. I said, hey, I hear you.

I understand what you're saying. Deep down, it kind of just makes me sad. And then I said, you know what makes me sad? Is that now there's no resolution to our problem because I don't know what to tell you. I think that, okay, so male brain is like, you're right. It's probably easier. Like the other night, you were like, I was reading. my book. I had my iPad open. I had my beam coffee mug in my hand and the lamp on and you go,

let's cuddle. And I go, okay. He turns off the line. He goes, he drinks his beam every night. Like he will not, not finish it. And he read his iPad every single night for like an hour. And he's looking at it for five minutes. He go, let's cuddle. Okay. And then I just started dying laughing. Because I was like, I would have never done that. I would have ever just been like, okay. Like, I've been like, babe, I already put my moth guard in. And like I'm reading this really special book. I'm really, I'm so tired. We have to wake up so early in the morning.

We have to get the kids up. I have to pump all through the night. Those are very like real things. But I think that for a man, it's like this can trump all of those things. I know. Like it's like it's like what I would trade a 45 sleep score any day. Like how fun. I know.

Like, see that's so funny. Like that sounds so sad. Like, scary to me to have a 45 sleep score just for like 30 minutes of in June. I know. And I was going to say for five minutes. I didn't want to offend you. No, I. Yeah. And I know that this is like the like there's probably people who have been married longer than us listening. And they're like, this is so funny. Like this is so marriage. And like if you watch like the, the, this is four. movie or like any of those movies. It's like this is so related. Relatable in like the era of our marriage when we have so many complex like dynamics and rhythms with three kids and, you know, work and everything. But just planning it out just makes me so sad still. So then can I tell you

what I decided to do? I thought you were going to the mall to get lingerie. I thought that was the answer. No. So then I decided. schedule it out and I just won't tell you. Oh, did someone tell you to do that? Yeah, I was like, this is the best life hack ever. Oh, that's so brilliant. I know so. Because I'm like, whoa, she's so spontaneous.

Exactly. And you'll never know. But then that way I can get myself in the mood. Like, I can know it's coming. But you don't know. I wish you wouldn't have told me that. I know. But here's the thing.

But you had to save people in their marriages. Yeah, so I was just helping you. But here's the thing. I think that this is the way that I talk. to someone about this and like I talked to a couple of my friends. And the way that she was describing it was this is just training wheels to get back into like the organic natural rhythm that you both are happy with. So it's just like maybe you just do this for a little bit. Training wheels like postpartum essentially. Postpartum post maybe you're going through a rough patch in your marriage.

Maybe things are just yeah like you just had a baby. So like your intimacy is a little off. Your physical relationship is a little off. So maybe you just put training rules on it for a little bit. And you just, the wife schedules it. Just, you know, okay, Tuesday. Yeah, I'm going to do it. Tuesday. I'm available. He doesn't have to know. And so then the husband thinks you're being spontaneous. That's so. But really, like, you took a bath, like you finished work early. You treated yourself. Maybe you went and got a massage, whatever, like you need to do to get there. But then, yeah, it's so genius. That's so brilliant.

I know, I know. So life hack for all the wives out there. Schedule your intimacy, but don't tell your husband. So then you're just a spontaneous little chipmunk. So did all of the wives that you talk to who have this forbidden divine knowledge, you know, did they say that their husbands also struggled with the lack of, like the idea of planning it? Yes. I think it was like everybody's just laughing. I don't think I'm alone. Like I think that most guys like romanticize and want this like marriage where it's like we're 20 again. Like we can do it on a plane. We can do it in this random place. Like it's like that's like so fun in your early honeymoon phase of marriage. And I'm still like game to play that. Like I would I'm always I'm always trying to trap you in weird places and be like let's just do it right. You're just. You're just. You're just. You're just. You're. You're. You're. You're.

never into it, but that's part of the psychology issue. I also don't want to be caught. Like, that's so scary. Oh, but the potential of getting caught is like 50% of the fun. At least. No, um, we have done in some weird places. No, for sure. But like, it's like it, I'm like, I don't have it to drag you there. Yeah, that's true. Um, no, and I think it is important to know that it is a way that you can like you it doesn't always have to be all about you like about me or you you know what I mean like and so it is a way that you can you know this is cliche but like serve your spouse like babe if you know the amount of times that never mind yeah deep tracks that's for the Patreon we're the only fans

Yeah, no, I get it. Like, you pulled through. Yeah, for sure. I've pulled through. But so have I. I know, I know. Same. Same. I know. So have I. I know. We're just, that's why I always thought we were amazing when it comes to this. No, I think that we, when in the act, I think that we are selfless. I think that it's like. No, but I feel like even the quantity.

See, I think that's just like where men are men and women are just dialed different. I'm like, how many times a week are we talking? I mean. Okay, it's okay. You're not supposed to put a number out there. No. And I honestly think that a real side of this conversation. You can put a number out there for your spouse, but we shouldn't tell like the audience because every marriage is different. And you never want, you never want someone to feel like compare their sex life with their marriage to like ours. Because everyone is different.

And I honestly think that that's like part of the season that I'm into is like I do think I'm like struggling with this kind of like make believe comparison. because I don't actually know numbers or, you know, have a lot of conversations with my guy friends about this. But because it's not talked about, I feel like I have this mental comparison of like, oh, it's probably like that for them. Yeah, but if you feel like it's not enough for you, then that's your opinion. That's your number. So if you, like, you know what I mean? So it's okay to feel how you feel. Yeah.

But, but yeah, you shouldn't do it because you're comparing it's because you have to. actually feel that way. Yeah. I think that the other side that I think is probably relatable for most guys is after every kid that we have, our life gets more complicated, more scheduled, less spontaneous. And I think that this is just like this one area of our life that like I, you know, I don't want to lose fire in, you know, because it makes me feel like, oh man, like we're going to like, you know, like my greatest fear was always like, I mean, now I kind of want it, which mind blown there, like moving out to the suburbs, you know? I was like, I don't want to like move out and then not be ambitious and like do all these things. And so I think that this is just like something that

I'm holding on to worried that if I let this die, then I'm just, it's all just boring moving forward, you know? Hmm, that's so sad. But, um, no, because I think there's nothing sexier than a date night out. Yeah. You know, fear of losing the spot. That's like one area of our life that can still remain spontaneous when the rest of our life becomes incredibly structured and I don't want to say mundane in like a negative sense, but it's like it's, you know, you're raising kids and like they thrive in routine. So everything else is kind of getting more and more routine. And so that's like one area of excitement that is like wild.

I felt, I honestly, after we had the conversation, I did feel guilty. I did feel kind of bad. Yeah. And that was not my intention. I knew that you did, but I didn't want you to feel guilty. I just, I felt, I feel like emotionally we're so safe around each other now, like it's been, my favorite part of the hard season that we went through is I feel like I know you. you more intimately and honestly than I did before. And I think that you are able to know me

more intimately and honestly than you did before. And so I didn't want you to feel guilty. I just felt really comfortable talking about it. Yeah, talking about it and having a conversation of like, I don't know, just the reality of the situation. I know. Because, you know, I've always been very shy about it. Like, about talking about sex. I can't even say it. I can't even say it. I can't I'm like the S word. I remember when I was in college, I I was doing a review of the

Two Face Better Than Sex, Mascara. And like I couldn't even say the word like on camera. And I was like 22 years old. Like I've just always been very, I was always kind of known as the prude like in middle school high school. Like I didn't know.

Sorry, I'm going to say the word boner because that's when I first learned about it. that's what the sixth graders had said. I didn't know what that was for the longest time. Like, no one ever told me. I learned what a virgin was from Disney's Wish Upon a Star. Yeah. Catherine Hegel, I think, was in it.

And I remember I was, like, in middle school or something. And I went to my mom and I was like, what's a virgin? And then my mom was like, where do you hear that? I don't know. So these conversations have just always been very, like, kind of taboo, but not. Because I always learned it was just something that you talk about. about when you get married. But then I never talked about it or thought about it. So then when I got married, I was like really shy about it. So can I, I'm going to tell you something. I think I've

told you this before, but I'll, I'll say it here again. When it comes to like, like our sex life, I honestly feel like sometimes, no, no, no, this is not, this is like not bad. I've honestly felt sometimes like there's some level of depth in you that you've held. back. And I've always been like, is it, I'm trying to like, is it insecurity? Like, are you in your own head? Like, um, I don't know how to explain it, but do you know what I'm talking about or no? I mean, maybe. I don't know. It's just, it's honestly something that I feel like gets better each year. No, for sure. You know? For sure. And I think that's okay. Yeah. Like, I don't think that you have to get married and be like a professional. Dude, I had no idea what

was doing. No, no, I'm not talking. Like, no one ever, like, talked to, like, I never, I didn't know anything. The only thing I'd ever seen was, like, if a movie, like, chick flick I was watching had some funny joke about something. No, I'm not even talking about, like, I'm not talking about, like, um, vulnerability or, like, intimacy or, like, trust. I don't know. I feel like sex in a marriage is, like the safest, most vulnerable place that two human beings can like be in together you know and i think that sometimes in marriage or outside of marriage you can get caught up in like the performance side of it you know but like really i think that like the blessing of it in marriage is it's like this full just complete naked vulnerability you know

and i feel like what has gotten progressively better over the years is like you um feeling more comfortable to So, like, trying to think about how I'm saying. It's like, it might be too hard to talk about it. Yeah, yeah. I get it. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I get it. I get it. But yeah, I didn't want you to feel bad. And I hope that you didn't the next day. No, no.

I just, I do. You also just like hear those sayings or like your mom would always be like, don't, if you deny your husband, he'll go find it somewhere else, you know? So like you have those like sayings that like your mom said to you or like movie said to you where you're like, oh my gosh, like am I the problem? Like am I going to make my husband like cause my husband to go have a wandering eye? Like is that going to be my fault? And like so then I was like, oh my gosh, like I am not giving a man what he needs. Therefore he's going to go do something bad and it's going to be my fault.

Okay. That's where I'm my mind went. I know. So like, okay, now I'm going to try and say what I was saying. That, so Danny and I have been doing a lot of work on ourselves. And I'm going to talk about a concept. Okay. And then it'll connect the dots.

So just hang with me for a second. In marriage therapy the other day, we talked about like how everyone has like their inner family. So like in myself, I have my inner family. And Danny's self, she has her inner family. Right. and the inner family is made up of the critical parent, the,

call it like the inner teenager, and then the inner child. So like when I went to onsite, the whole concept was like, you know, you have to like nurture this inner child. The inner child is vulnerable and transparent and creative and spontaneous and all these things.

The inner teenager is, you know, rebellious, compulsive, you know, feels that they have to defend the inner child, like angry, resentful, et cetera. And the critical parent is what we hear in our head that is like, if he doesn't, if you don't do it here, he's going to go find it somewhere else. Or you're not good enough here, you're not good enough there. Okay. So I'm going to try and make my point. So those are all the voices in ourselves. Yeah. And so like, you know, the work that I'm doing, which is different than the

work that you're doing. The work that I'm doing is trying to reparent. Yeah, kind of like reparent the inner critical parent that I have in my head to a loving parent so that when you come at me with a criticism, I don't retreat like an inner child and get really guarded. And my inner teenager doesn't come out and get defensive. But instead, like, I can just accept the criticism and be like, oh, man, like, I would love to do that better. Right. And so it's just a healthier way of kind of getting out of some of your childhood patterns into a more healthy adult. Makes sense so far? Okay. Okay. I'm going to connect the dots. Okay. So I know you, I think better than anyone else other than you probably knowing yourself. And sometimes I feel like I know you better than yourself. And there's a level of intimacy that I'm really excited about getting into that will be reflected in our. sex life where you give up that inner critical parent and that, you know, unhealthy teenager. And you are just so, like, healthy to not be in your own head of like, am I performing?

Oh my gosh. Like, if I don't do this, then, you know, he'll go find it somewhere else. Like where I'm so excited and it's like next chapter of our marriage is like both of us kind of getting back to the state of like our inner children and you trusting that I love you so much that it's just I love you beyond that inner critical parent. I love you beyond like that inner teenager that comes out sometimes and it's just like I love you for you and that you accept that believe that and trust in it and I think that that will create a vulnerability in our marriage and in our sex life that has, that is like deeper than anything that we've experienced even

thus far. Does that make sense? Does that? Beautiful. Does it connect dots? No, it's really beautiful. That's like how I feel, but it's really complicated to explain. So I didn't know if it made sense to you. No, it makes a lot of sense.

Yeah, that's what I was trying to say earlier when I was like, you know, like kind of in your own head. It's like really what I'm talking about is that like inner critical Danny of herself. Yeah. That inner critical parent. That's deep. There's deep stuff right there. So anyway.

I have a lot to think about it. We've talked about this in marriage counseling too. I know. It's a lot. I'm going to need like two weeks. I can give you my workbook. Yeah. Give you your work.

Yeah, it's great. I need a worksheet. Yeah. No, I really like what you said. And it is very hard because you've never, you've never not been critical of yourself. girls are so hard on themselves too. I know.

Like all girls are so hard on themselves in this area, I feel like. And I don't know why. I don't know if it's like the movies that we watched or the expectations that are put on us from just culture or music. Like, I don't know what it is. But I think every girl probably relates. But we're like, it's so much in our own head about like, even like before. Like, oh my gosh, like I haven't shaved my legs or I'm not this perfect version of what he would want. want like in this moment. Therefore, like for me to do it, I feel like I have to be in this perfect

version of myself. And see, I feel that from you. I feel that like, I feel that energy. I feel that insecurity. And man, I would just, I'm so excited to one day figure out how like you can give that up because, yeah, babe, we've been married for seven years. I'm not going anywhere. Like, you know, I, it's just. You know, they say the seventh year is the hardest. It for sure is. But like, I, it's just crazy to me that you still are struggling with that even after seven years of marriage. It's like, what's stopping you from? Because I'm just a little girl. I just got my inner little girl coming out.

Well, you don't understand the. Okay. Well, okay. Sorry. I got the critical parent. Sorry. See, I get confused with the little, the inner children or whatever because my inner child, my little daddy is just, she's a little messed up too. You know what I mean?

I get the concept. She's the one who's, she's messed up because she's listening to her inner critical parent. Totally. And then teenage, honestly, if you want to know who I think is the hardest to deal with, it's teenage dandy.

Oh my gosh. She is the, my parents are like, uh-huh. She's the worst to argue with. She is so defensive. Also, do you ever think about if our parents listen to our podcast?

But no, I don't, this has nothing to do with them. No, I know, babe. I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about the sex part. Oh.

Yeah, they probably do. It's okay. How did we make three kids? Honestly, yeah, like we're at that point in adulthood where it's like, oh, I know, but this is just me. Like, I'm like, oh, my God. Yeah, I mean, I get it. Anyway, well, we have a lot to think about.

Maybe just we'll update people later on what we find about ourselves. we'll be on a plane oh gosh commercial in those would you actually want to do it in one of those

little bodies no it's pretty gross it's pretty gross in there pretty gross um all of our friends on this trip

are going to be like so paranoid that we're just doing it all over the house that's okay they're doing the same thing yeah for sure for sure

well we've been talking for about an hour in 13 minutes or so so I think we can Wrap it up. Wrap it up. But, or do you have anything else you want to talk about?

You know, I've been listening to a lot of Mark Hyman. I listened to this really interesting episode about, I guess, Gary Brecker used to work for, or I don't know if he worked for like the research company or who it was, but he knows a lot about life insurance companies and life insurance policies and all of the tests that they take because, you know, we, you set up our life insurance recently, right? Yeah. And you to do all that blood work and they look at, they just, they ask you more than like your general doctor asks you about your health, which is really kind of sad. But, um, he was saying that there's this like the one predictor that they can look at that will actually predict like through all this

data. Um, it's this one key variable that will predict like to the year and day, date or month that you will die. Huh. And through all this, because they acquire so much data from so, like, millions of people. And there was one common denominator that, like, when this increased, mortality rates increased. Can you guess what it is? No, not even close. You have no idea? No. It was the amount of pharmaceuticals, the amount of prescription drugs that you take. The more prescription drugs that you take that you're on, the shorter your lifespan is. It was like the one common denominator. So it really just got me thinking about like, I don't know, just all of these, every single time I've ever had a problem when I go to the doctor, it's what prescription can

get you on? Well, it's not like, like, and I don't think I've really told you this, but my left leg lately has every night has been aching. And like the muscles on my calves, and the muscles like on my thigh. And then sometimes it goes up into my neck. But it actually keeps me up at night. And it aches like and I take a lot of magnesium at night. And it aches like to the point where like I can't sleep. It'll wake me up.

In the morning it still aches. And then when I start walking around, the only thing that makes it that relieves the aches is when I squeeze it or when I stretch it or when I like am activating it. So if I'm working like doing a squat, lot or running, but otherwise it's just always as achy. And I had talked to like my OB, I talked to like doctor. And, you know, the first thing that they're going to do when I go to my doctor is try to prescribe me a medication. Yeah, for sure. They're never going to be like, oh, maybe you should

take a magnesium bath, you know, like a magnesium roll on or maybe take double your dosage of magnesium. Like they're never actually focused on the wellness. And it just scares me like how many drugs I have taken. Like, I'm only on one medication right now, but like, there's been times I'm on three or four medications, you know, for all these things. And it's just, it's so easy to prescribe a medication. And so anyway, I, I, um, I knew, I had done some more research and I was like, okay, I know this. I think magnesium is still off. So funny enough, there was like a small business that this mom and daughter, and I wish I knew the name of it right now, I'll post it on my stories. But her and her daughter came out with a magnesium roll on. Funny enough,

like God thing. Like last week, they sent it to me. Like, I don't even know how these people got my address. But they're like, mom and daughter here, small business. We created this product, like a magnesium roll on. I've been rolling that on every night. It has helped like tremendously, like so much. And so it's only happening now like probably once a week where I have like the aches. Last night, I took a magnesium bath. I have had, I had no aches all last night. And I'm like, my doctor would never tell me to take a magnesium flake bath, you know? But, It was just so crazy. And so I think now my goal in life with just one of the goals I have is just to always try to avoid those prescriptions as much as you can because I was, I was, I trusted the doctors.

I'm like, you prescribe it to me like, I'm going to pop the pills and make sure it'll go take the pain away or it will, whatever it's going to do. Like whether I had the flu or whether I had. And I really think that part of the reason I got, I was so sick last year was all the prescriptions. I was prescribed for a strep or for flu or whatever, the antibiotics. And then I think it just messed up my gut so much that my immunity was down. I just like never fully recovered. It was just like over and over. You haven't been sick though this year.

We're kind of on a roll. I know. I know, but I really think it's all these supplements I'm taking. I'm just so, I just realized that it's almost April. You haven't been sick. I know. I'm a beast. I just, I also got to wash my hands.

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. No good else? No. Okay. Should we do that thing? We say bye.

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