Dear Chelsea - Crackers with Yamaneika Saunders

Episode Date: July 31, 2025

Yamaneika Saunders is back for a full episode, this time to talk about perimenopause, why Chelsea sent her a box of vibrators, and bringing a buddy to a mammogram.  Then: A mom is concerned she&r...squo;s smoking too much weed while caring for her toddler.  A youngest sister finds herself cleaning up the messes of her older sister’s bitcoin scams.   * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:02:11 Hey there, it's Catherine. Just a little note about the audio quality and the intro. We had Chelsea calling in from a remote location. So you may notice a little bit of a difference in the audio quality just for the intro. We were back in studio for the recording of this episode. just wanted to let you know, enjoy the episode. Hi, Catherine. Hi, Chelsea.
Starting point is 00:02:29 Hi, how's going? How's it going, girl? You know what? It's going great. I'm having an easy summer, so that's pretty good. How about you? What are you up to? Well, I'm dealing.
Starting point is 00:02:39 My foot is getting better each day. I'm now back in a sneaker. And on Monday, they x-rayed my foot to make sure it's all healed. And then I can start working out again. You know how I love that. Back to Ben Bruno. Yeah, back to Ben Bruno. He calls me, he texts me every day going, how are you? How are you? And I'm like, just fucking shut up. I'll see you when I see you. But I got a massive CO2 laser on my face also, which my face feels like somebody took sandpaper to it. Like, it still feels that way. And it's been like a week and a half. So I'm hoping that starts to calm down. And my swollen's almost all gone, but I still am swollen from that. You should have seen the day that I took pictures and then I deleted them all for my fun because I'm like, oh, God, this is going to end up in some sort of Jeffrey Epstein story.
Starting point is 00:03:28 Yeah, you don't need that going wide. Exactly. Have you been in your, what's the chamber called? Have you been here? Oh, yeah, hyperbaric every day. I'm in my hyperbaric. I'm staying at my friend Kat's house until my house's new finish date is August 22nd, which I won't even be here for.
Starting point is 00:03:43 So that works out perfectly. Great. As usual, I'm taking my span. I'm taking advantage of all this time. Yesterday, I finished a fucking puzzle. I did an actual puzzle. I posted it on Instagram because I don't think I've ever done a puzzle in my life and completed it. It's kind of nice.
Starting point is 00:04:00 Is it? I know. It's not, I guess it is. I mean, it's not fun. I like activities that are fun. And that wasn't fun. That was just like, oh, my God, I'm so bored. I've read three books.
Starting point is 00:04:11 Oh, you know what I wanted to mention when we were doing our book roundup? I totally forgot. Right, exactly. We did a book roundup episode for everybody. It's a minisode. And so that'll come out next Friday, August 8th. I read a fucking awesome book, and it's called Red Notice by Bill Browder, who's like financial guy that invested in Russia after the, after they got rid of communism, so to speak, and then they public, everything went public, like all their government agencies went public. And so he went in and saw a huge opportunity for investment. And it's all about how corrupt and crazy Russia is. People die. And this is like a venture capitalist kind of investment banker guy, not a VC. more of a banker, like investment guy, but made billions of dollars in Russia. And then they wanted him
Starting point is 00:04:57 out. And then they realized that he was kind of like working the system, but legally. And it's all about, it's a fascinating read. And I forgot to mention that. I was thinking of that book. That if you're like into that kind of thing, which I'm into, I send it to my Russian nephew so he could stop defending Russian. Perfect. Perfect. So it works in the family too. Yeah. Excellent. I mean, obviously I've sent you like 25 books to read for the podcast. So, I know, so many. But our guest is more to my favorite people, you guys. She opens for me in Vegas. She's opening for me again this August 30th. My next gig in Vegas, my next night of the Cosmo was August 30th. So she'll be my opener. If you haven't seen her perform, you need to. She's hilarious. Also, I added a second show in West Hampton. So I'm doing
Starting point is 00:05:43 few nights in West Hampton in August, August 21st, which is sold out, and then August 22nd. Yes, so please welcome a comedian, hopefully a new podcaster. She's had her own radio show. She is one hot fucking mess. Yamanika Saunders. You're still sweating from last night. You were sweating last night, too. Are you going through pari menopause?
Starting point is 00:06:09 Listen, bitch, I went the wrong way on a train. Well, whose fucking fault is that? Yours. I know. You don't know how to get on a fucking train? No. You are, okay. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:06:19 Yomeneka just walked in. and she smells like marijuana, as usual. I have a video from us last night. I'm going to take her jacket? I'll take it right. Yeah, I can just put it on this shit on the ground. Yeah, just throw all her stuff on the floor, please. Right here is perfect.
Starting point is 00:06:33 I just hit a little bit of something before I came up here. Don't do this. Yeah. Thank you. Here she comes. One of your boobs is on the other side. What's going on? What happened after I left last night?
Starting point is 00:06:45 Okay, first of all, Yamanika Saunders is on the podcast today. She's our very, very special guest. I might have to take this off. It's hard. It's hard. Oh, God. Catherine, have you met Yama yet? I have not.
Starting point is 00:06:59 Only through her Instagram lives. Hold on a second. One second. Getting undressed. It's hot in here. What? Yes, this outfit. Yes, please.
Starting point is 00:07:09 Okay. Hi, Yamanika. Sit down. Please. Let's go. Let's go. You have lipstick on your teeth. Do you want to go like that?
Starting point is 00:07:15 I don't care. I don't give a fuck anymore. Okay. Well, I'm trying to help you. Yeah, you concur. Okay, hello everybody, welcome to my show Hi, I'm Anika Hi, my love, you're so cute
Starting point is 00:07:26 Oh, thank you And porcelain skin, this is a type of white I like Why can't you get to that type of porcelain? You don't like my... First of all, you have fucking lipstick all over your face and your teeth Yeah, look at yourself Let me see, I see you. Smile. This is you, you self-centered bitch.
Starting point is 00:07:43 Here, yeah Okay, let me recap what happened last night We went to dinner. It was supposed to be an innocent dinner. It was an innocent dinner until you came and you messed everything up. I was completely sane and sober before you showed up. And then two minutes after you arrived, I was like, oh, wait, did this bitch put some acid in my back? No, I didn't bring any drugs.
Starting point is 00:08:07 I didn't have any drugs. She brought two Australian lesbians. One is a lesbian, I think. I don't know the other one is a lesbian. Baby, no, no, no, no. Definitely. If she ain't a lesbian, she needs to talk to somebody. Right, no, no, no.
Starting point is 00:08:21 Because I don't want to hear the lesbians. Oh, what do you mean? We don't know how to dress. I think you should be talking about a stylist when you're in a fucking tankini right now. Listen, this is because I'm 46 years old and a grown onezy. It's perimenopause. I'm hot and I'm cold. So the part of me that's cold got tights on.
Starting point is 00:08:39 Sorry that her voice is going in and out. She's standing up and demonstrating her outfit. You don't think they know what standing up sound like, you know? I have to explain to our listeners. You over here. At eye heart, you ain't got the microphones to pick up motherfuckers when they go all over the place? You need to talk to the budgeting people.
Starting point is 00:08:54 Did you tell them you're white or is that currency up now? No, they know, they know. The next four years, everybody black. Welcome to the club, Whitey. Yama, whenever I complain about anything political, she's like, bitches, this is on fucking you. And you are you and your fucking white bitch friends
Starting point is 00:09:11 who, I mean, I didn't vote for Donald Trump, obviously, but a lot of white women did. You know the thing about it. You're not out of it. No, no, no, yes, you are because, no, no, you're not, but you are. Let me tell you why. Chelsea, for some reason, Chelsea definitely the white woman to get it, but then she hang around a flock of white bitches that don't.
Starting point is 00:09:28 So if I tell her she ain't shit, I want her to tell it to the other white bitches that's around her that they ain't shit because she ain't shit so that they become shit because now I keep telling her that they ain't shit through her. First of all, the white bitches I hang out with are all on the same team as I am. What team is that? What do you mean? We're on the same team. We're not on fucking Donald Trump's team
Starting point is 00:09:49 We're on the No, no, no, no, no, no, no, the women I hang out with I don't think they're on Donald Trump team I do think that they white as hell Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, so team, all of that Yeah, yeah, yeah, but a lot of white people can't help being white I mean, most of us can't help being white. I don't know, have you tried?
Starting point is 00:10:04 Yeah, black men are trying to help white women every day bring on more mochalato children So go talk to a black man Have you talked to your black senator lately And asked him where I have a black senator? Do you? I don't. Do you, are you sure?
Starting point is 00:10:16 I know. I don't have a black senator. Who can somebody? I hope this senator is black and that you don't know it. I don't have a black senator in the state of California. I do not have a black senator. I'm Maryland? Are you talking about?
Starting point is 00:10:27 What are you fucking talking about? She's from Maryland, actually. Anyway, let me just. Maryland, where they sent that motherfucker back to El Salvador, that ain't even from a motherfucker, Al Salvador. I can't talk about that. When I tell you white men doing whatever fuck, they want to, how the fuck do you send a motherfucker who's not even Al Salvadorian
Starting point is 00:10:45 to Al Salvador and their motherfuckers from Maryland. How are we doing this? Hello, white people. Is this thing on? Is this what you voted for? When y'all thought niggas was going to be the one down there suffering the most and look at you.
Starting point is 00:11:00 Huh? Look at you. Now you's a nigger too. That's my new, my current special is called White Nigger. You can get it on YouTube. It is perfect for this time because everything that I talk about in my special white nigger is happening right now.
Starting point is 00:11:14 and if you are a white nigger, go listen to it. And I'm telling you right now, the second part is about white bitches. White women take responsibility for the shit that you did. Shut the fuck up and bend over now, bitch, because it's handsmaid's tail, right? It's a handsmaid's tail.
Starting point is 00:11:29 I never watched one fucking episode of that thing, but by the cover, I can tell you that white women going to look like that shit by next Tuesday at 5.30. Okay, bitch? Welcome to the club. And I'm a big black bitch with big, greasy titties and I'm gonna go straight in that kitchen honey
Starting point is 00:11:45 and I'm gonna make some flapjacks and I'm telling me and I'm gonna get listen me right I'm going in there Chelsea going in there too you know if I gotta work underneath the white woman I need Chelsea we gonna have some fun you know what I'm saying at night when they tell all the slaves go to sleep and then Chelsea say get underneath my bed
Starting point is 00:12:02 I'm gonna put you in a little drawer here and then I'm gonna go in there hopefully I can fit you know I'm heavy set and then when master go to sleep she's gonna open the drawer and then we're gonna have like a little American girl dog I don't refer to me as Massa. Okay, I don't fucking appreciate. No, no, no, no, bitch.
Starting point is 00:12:15 I said Massa. You got a Massa, too, bitch. Okay, I understand. Do you? Do you? No, I want people to understand. Sweet low, sweet cherry. You're going to be out there picking that cotton?
Starting point is 00:12:25 Anyway, this is Yamanika. She has a special out on YouTube that I would encourage every single person to watch because it's very women. I know you, like a lot of us are Democrats and we vote for the right things, but I think what I've learned from all of my black sisters is how disappointed they are in constantly showing up and showing up for election after election, fighting the good fight, fighting the good fight. And yet half of the white women in this country
Starting point is 00:12:57 don't seem to show up. They don't seem to. And then they vote for somebody like this fucking asshole. And now we're living in this hell, which unveils a new hell every single day. So it's a great learning and teaching special for all of us who are not as a, enlightened as we want to be about actually the
Starting point is 00:13:13 dynamic between people of color and women of color and what they have done for this country versus what white women have done for this country. Wow, is that beautiful? It's every now and then you really get it. Let's talk about what happened last night. I can't stand it and I like her. I know. You love me and you can't have
Starting point is 00:13:29 there's nothing you can fucking do about it. There's nothing. You're in love with me actually. No, no, no. You see me? You get gougly eyes. You see me and you put your hands down my pants yesterday. Don't remember when it was warm, right? No, I was about that. You loved it. You loved it. You loved it. Your hands were on my warm vagina. No, they
Starting point is 00:13:47 weren't on your vagina. Are white women's vagina's warm? It depends. I mean, yeah, usually. They're not cold. Put your hand down there and feel. They're not cold. I mean, vaginas aren't typically cold. My was hot. Yeah. You're in hot box. You're horny. You're horny. And she still thinks she's having a baby. I'm trying to convince her that that's not the right move.
Starting point is 00:14:04 In this world, you want to bring... But think about it, but think about it. But think about it. Is that a nice thing to do to a baby? You know what? I'm going to say this. You know what? Here's another teaching moment through babies. When you were talking about how black women feel, right, about how white women continuously don't show up the way they ask us to show up for them, right? Exactly, yes.
Starting point is 00:14:25 Here's the real reality. Nobody, because people are like, well, it's my, you know, I'm thinking about myself, my family. Nobody has a problem, right, with white women going, hey, I like to have a great life. Yeah, I'd like to vote for things that are in my interest. That's totally fine. The problem is when the things that are in your interests, interests and that are going to help you are going to disenfranchise and disadvantage somebody else and you still vote for it, that's what makes you a catch you next Tuesday, right?
Starting point is 00:14:51 On Wednesday, because it ain't Wednesday, right? Or it's a Thursday? Still a cunt. So the reality is do what you want, be who you want. But think about the repercussions of what your space and taking up space in the world looks like for everybody else. So in terms of wanting a child, yeah, I do think that is very selfish. me, right? I'm 46.
Starting point is 00:15:13 Well, I just want to say, just to be aware, I am 46. By the time I'm ready, I told you say maybe 48, now I moved it to 50. You know, I never know when I'm ready. I've come from a family that... Definitely not ready now. I just want to put that out there. No, not. Okay, I've traveled with you. I've been on there. You are not ready to have a baby.
Starting point is 00:15:29 So, okay, you're a... Excellent. You're a giant baby, okay? You can't show up anywhere on time without fucking things hanging out of your bags, without fucking wigs and the hair. I mean, you don't even know what the fuck is going to happen. Sometimes we have to drop her off on the, we pick her up and she's on the side
Starting point is 00:15:47 of the road, like a streetwalker. The sad part is that's true. Listen, I, in terms of the baby, I want the baby. But I do, I am thinking realistically, like, also with as older as I am, you know, no
Starting point is 00:16:05 disrespect that women can have babies, you know. But, you know, life expectancy, right, for the child, right? It's like my kid, I'm going to see them to the 25 maybe, 26, you know. So I don't know. It is scary. And also your schedule, your stand-up, you're out every night. You're doing stand-up all the time. Well, no, I could see my kid into 30 at this point, right?
Starting point is 00:16:26 46. It depends how long, yeah, I mean. 34, 35, maybe, you know. Okay, anyway, we'll put a pin in the baby thing. You're not going to put you, you trying to pop the bubble on that. I don't think I'm going to work hard to prevent it from happening. I'm going to try to work hard to convince you not to have a baby. I told you with your co-mother the baby. I think I will, well, I will end up co-mothering the baby.
Starting point is 00:16:45 And that's also why I don't want you to have one. Because I don't have the fucking bandwidth, okay? Last night, I went to dinner. Where were we? Went to Harlem. Yeah, we went to the Apollo. We were in the Apollo, inside the Apollo. Was not the Apollo?
Starting point is 00:16:57 Yeah, it was. But they've, it's kind of gutted out now. But it's also a hotel. It's like a whole bunch of stuff going on there. I thought they still have the theater at the Apollo. They do. Oh. Yeah, but then there's like another.
Starting point is 00:17:07 But where we went was the Victoria inside, restaurant. That was nice. That was nice. That's chef. He was amazing. I had grilled oysters, my favorite. I had two orders of grilled oysters. That's how fucking good they were.
Starting point is 00:17:18 She was trying to have sex with me. And I said, take it easy on those oysters. I know how you get. Yeah. Anyway, I showed up with some friends, two lesbians, and then another friend of mine, another homosexual friend of mine. Right, no dick for me.
Starting point is 00:17:32 You always come with, nothing for me. Well, listen. I want a few pieces of dick. My driver, I have a driver. No, don't do that. Well, no, I'm going to. I'm going to, because you was sexually assaulted. I was not. Don't do that.
Starting point is 00:17:45 Okay, my driver, Rafa. I love him. Okay, yes. He, don't do that. Last night, Rafa said, hey, can someone bring me a coffee outside? Because he was outside. Guess what? And Yaya came over and said, don't let Yama bring him the coffee because she'll sexually, she'll hit on him.
Starting point is 00:17:59 I said, I know. We've already been through this. The man is married. Rafa is scared of Yama. Yes, he is married. No, he loves you. No, I love him. I would never do that.
Starting point is 00:18:08 But no, no, no, no. You see, the thing is this is. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I'm not done with the story. I'm not done. Sexual harassment is being nice. Remember who's talking, Kelsey? Everywhere we go.
Starting point is 00:18:17 Oh, she's being nice. He must want to fuck him. Secular harassment. Everywhere we go, wherever we go. And we've been on the road together many times. She hits on either the security guard, the driver. The guy, remember from Houston? Yeah, I got the picture.
Starting point is 00:18:31 I look at that every now. No, I got the picture with him. I know, but I took a picture with him. No, you sent me the picture of you and him together like a bitch, but I still use it to masturbate. She was hitting So Rafa one night I just cropped Chelsea out of it
Starting point is 00:18:45 Sometimes I don't have time to crop her out You know I'm ready to go Rafa Who is a married man And it has a family She He drove Yama home one night When we were out
Starting point is 00:18:56 Up to shenanigans in New York City He dropped me off at my hotel And then he dropped Yama off And I said Rafa If she makes you uncomfortable It's okay to be firm with her You know you're a married man And the next morning
Starting point is 00:19:09 when I saw him. He was trying to be a gentleman about it, but he said she's very aggressive. He said she's very aggressive. So she was pressuring my driver to fornicate with her. No, I was not. But I've seen you do it to almost any... Yeah, but once I found out of, you know I'll be bringing up the home. What about in New Orleans? Remember at the restaurant with Amy? We went to New Orleans.
Starting point is 00:19:29 Oh, yeah. And the waiter? Oh, you guys gave him my phone number. Amy, Amy Schumer gave him your phone number. She did. That was nice of her. And did you hear from him? Wait. Okay, wait. Stay on track. Stay on track. You stay on track.
Starting point is 00:19:47 Okay, so then we go to dinner last night. And then she has like three friends there, two guys there, right? Three, how many people were we? It just kept getting bigger and bigger and bigger. Everywhere I turned, somebody was there. Yes. And then I thought these two people were with you guys and they weren't. So I just added them to our group.
Starting point is 00:20:08 These two random One was a French woman And this other woman Who was, she was funny So, I mean, she deserved to be No, no, no, no, I knew her Oh, you did? Because Yaya was like,
Starting point is 00:20:17 Who the fuck are these two people? Oh, they were at the house Yeah, they came to the house No, no, no, no, no, that's my friend's wife Oh, okay, great, great, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, no, no, I knew her, the French woman we didn't know No, she's Argentinian Okay
Starting point is 00:20:29 Yeah, and we didn't know her, but she wanted to Smoking, so I thought she was French Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, she had to get the cigarettes from France though because of the tariffs But so we go back to We go back to Yama's house and we're smoking weed and whatever else. But Yama decides to disrobe.
Starting point is 00:20:43 There's about 10 of us over there. I took my shirt off. I'm in perimenopause. It's hot. Okay. Well, we have to get you estrogen and progesterone. Please. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:20:51 Nobody in my apartment wanted my vagina, not even the lesbians. So that's why it was okay for me to take my shirt off. Yeah, but yeah, yeah. I have a video that I'm probably going to post. Post it. No, no, no. Make sure you're AI my stomach down
Starting point is 00:21:04 because I thought I was a lot thinner than that. Do me a feeling. You want to go with me to talk to my drug guy after this? About what? Do we go over his house and smoke out and have some drugs? I can't. I have to go get a mammogram. Oh, let me go with you, get a mammogram.
Starting point is 00:21:17 You want to get a mammogram with me? Can you add me? I don't think that's how it works, but I would love to try. Yeah, let's try it. You can't pull no strings with your name? I mean, I could, but this isn't my regular hospital. Were you just going around putting your titties in other hospitals? I don't understand.
Starting point is 00:21:31 I don't understand. What do you mean? Because I just found something in my shoulder and I just want to make sure I get an ultrasound. Not a love for anything. No, no. You ain't got time to be having nothing, bitch. I got to ride your coattels. I know, I know.
Starting point is 00:21:40 I know. I want you. You better get your name on the prayer list, bitch. You better ask the Lordy, remove it. It's not anything serious, I'm sure. It's actually gone now. I just want to know. Is it? Yeah, I'll yell it out.
Starting point is 00:21:50 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Anyway. You don't even on mammogram with me, bitch. I'll cut it all. But, yeah, I mean, you could probably come with me and squeeze your way in. I mean, do you have a-in-wave-old. Yeah. Have you ever, have you had a man-mgram recently?
Starting point is 00:22:00 You have one every year. You know that, right? Yeah. No, I've had, I'm five years. I can't even imagine what you must go through. I've gotten the same lady three times and she remembers my breasts. Yeah, well, they're hard to forget. I mean, they're massive.
Starting point is 00:22:14 But I didn't know if I was like, I didn't, I don't want to ask the woman. I was like, you know, it's inappropriate, right? To be like, are you gay? Yeah, it is inappropriate to say that. I mean, but I'm only like, I wanted to know because like maybe she, I was turning her on. Uh-huh. But what if I asked her and she wasn't gay, it's like, did I look like I'm harassing her? So then we were supposed to go dancing.
Starting point is 00:22:32 last night. We were going to go to somebody nowhere. We were going to go dancing. But what happened when we got back to Yamanicas was that we ended up staying there for about an hour and everyone was so stoned. I was stoned.
Starting point is 00:22:44 That was great. We had so many joints and rotation. I know. It was really fun. It was really fun. But at a certain point, you know, I check out. And that was at around 11 o'clock. I was like, it's time to go home. So I didn't go dancing. Did you go dancing? No, but I went to Sherry's after. Oh, you did? And we played
Starting point is 00:23:00 spades. Sherry Shepherd. Yeah. At her house? Or did you go back to the, okay. Yeah, her house. And then I went home. And then, you know, some of my friends got high and somebody had to save my house tonight. Yes, last night. Oh, really?
Starting point is 00:23:11 A man? But, yeah. Did you have sex? Mm-mm. Mm-mm. She has two cats at her house. Yeah, the cats have to know when a man's coming over. They got to prepare.
Starting point is 00:23:22 She was looking for her cats for about 40 minutes when we got there. And it's not that big of an apartment. No, no, no, no. My cats, I've trained them not to trust white people. So more than one white person walking the door, they got to go. The cat came out from under the couch. They was going somewhere looking for freedom.
Starting point is 00:23:36 The cat came out from under the couch and was running, and I'm not exaggerating, 60 miles an hour into the kitchen. I was like, what the fuck was that? And she's like, oh, that's, what's his name? Prior. Prior, yeah. He was, he said, no, no, no.
Starting point is 00:23:52 He, you know, he heard a lot of passive aggression and not taking accountability in the apartment, so he had to go and, you know, make sure his NAA CCP cat card was activated. So with regard, moving back to the political situation here, because you have... Yeah, what's going on here?
Starting point is 00:24:10 How are you feeling these days about everything that's going on? Just America kind of got what it deserved. Is that where you are? You know, everybody's like a big deal. Oh, like, Kamala, did she say, I told you so? Did she say, who cares? I hope she does say, I told you so. I don't know why. I would change my name to I told you so.
Starting point is 00:24:26 Harris. You see what I'm saying? Fuck a Kamala. I told you so, Harris. because the reality is those of us who had common sense knew that this was going to happen. I think what we have to be very aware of is that the disease is not Donald Trump. The disease is the people that were comfortable with somebody who has a spirit that we have watched, present itself already in the presidency, to then go on board and say, we do like the fact that he wants to get immigrants out, knowing that this was a place that was stolen from the Native Americans and is built on immigrants. We do want him to put women back
Starting point is 00:25:07 in the times when they couldn't knowing how women have contributed to society. We do want him to put blacks back in their place when they don't, knowing to the contributions that black people have made not only to the soil here, but to the progression of this country. And it doesn't advantage us at any point in time because we will never have the power that we need to really be free in this country. They said with all of that and all of these people who are serving the greater good, even though America never serves them, we still going to say fuck you to them because we want it all. Only to realize that this country that has been built on white supremacy and under the guise of racism being strong is really a society
Starting point is 00:25:49 about classism. So at the end of the day, once they have separated the largest group at the bottom and divided us across boards, now it's easy to take over. everything because you don't have the power of black people right now. We are tired. What do we, like, we, we've been dealing with this shit time and time again. And no matter how many times we put ourselves in an environment with white people and have white friends, we keep saying, this is our plight. It's still kind of like, oh, you know, but now white people have to see the same shit.
Starting point is 00:26:22 Yeah. And I don't have time to be holding white people's hands into oppression. I don't have time. Can you believe it? Can you? But what is happening? I don't know. When we kept saying stop killing black people and black lives matter, people are like, oh, no, it's all lives. But we're not saying black lives because we don't think it's all lives. We're saying black lives because you don't know that black lives matter. But then you want to gaslight us into believing that we're trying to be this. You know, they want to be better. No, we just want to be a part of. But I think a lot of white people do understand that. And there's a group of people that don't understand that. It's not. All blanket. You can't say that about black people or white people.
Starting point is 00:27:03 Let me, let me, let me, let me, let's, no, no, no, I will say that. I will say that because what happens is when somebody tells you how they hurt, right, we're talking in general, a person says how they hurt, you can either listen and go, how can I help you not have that hurt, right? And that's very centered around that person. Or they can tell you how they're hurt and you can go, I didn't cause that hurt. Uh-huh. whether you cause it or not
Starting point is 00:27:31 has nothing to do with the fact that this person is hurting so when we have a conversation especially as a black woman and I go as a black woman this is what's happening to me
Starting point is 00:27:43 and I'll have men go well I don't know as a woman and maybe certain things as a woman white women can relate to and then they appreciate then there's parts that white women will not relate to because it's a problem as a black person
Starting point is 00:27:54 and then those things come together as a black woman if I say to a white woman here's what's going on and that white woman says well you know it's not me it's like okay bitch it ain't you
Starting point is 00:28:08 but I still got this shit going on so how am I going to help it and we got to stop this people being defensive when somebody says this is what's happening because it doesn't matter whether you support or whether you
Starting point is 00:28:21 not all white people we can only say not all white people if it was like Donald Trump didn't become it was enough white people And because it's enough white people and we keep saying not all white people we ain't focused on how many fucking white people fucked up
Starting point is 00:28:36 how many fucking white women fucked up. How many fucking people of color? Fucked up just because they thought they weren't the people of color that were going to be disenfranchised even further. So I'm not here to give any grace to how anybody feels about what I'm telling you about
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Starting point is 00:32:44 on the IHard Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Okay, we're back with Yamanika Saunders. First of all, follow her on Instagram. She gets banned a lot on Instagram. I do. She gets shadow. Chelsea was like, I was trying to watch something. Where are you?
Starting point is 00:33:02 I'm like, girl, they took me down again? How do they do they do they tell you? Why? Yeah, because I started saying Cracker. It's done. You can say nigger all day long, but Cracker, white people are like, oh, little sucker's hat? Remember when white women were like, Karen is the N-word?
Starting point is 00:33:15 We're like, what, bitch? I like being called a Cracker. I'm not going to pretend I don't. I fucking like it. It's funny. You know, I was in South Africa with my sister once. We had this kind of guide in South Africa, and, you know, the racism is thick, thick there. And we had this guide who was kind of, like, giving us his version.
Starting point is 00:33:32 He's a white man. He was giving us his version of, like, what happened, the history of South Africa with the Dutch and the English and la, la, la, la. And he, you know, his version was an, and after, I hated, I hated this guy from the minute I met him. I just, my sister knew. She's like, you've met my sister's, she was just like, oh, you're not, I didn't like the way he looked at it. like his body. I didn't like his clothing. I was like, oh, this guy is... And you shut down when you don't like it. You get quiet. Yeah, I don't like it. And I have no poker face. I can't. And as soon as he walked away, my sister looked at me and she goes, that's,
Starting point is 00:34:07 he's the reason why black people came up with the word cracker. Okay, we're going to take some callers. We're giving advice. Are you ready for the Amanika? Yeah, she's ready. Are they ready? She's ready. Yeah. I don't think they are, but it's Okay. Is anyone ready? So our first caller is Alicia. She says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a 39-year-old stay-at-home mom to a 15-month-old son who is just a cutie. I like to microdose with my vape pen and enjoy gummies regularly. I quit smoking it as it's the worst way to consume, but since I have been a cannabis user my entire life, I feel like it's part of who I am. Lately, I've been contemplating whether it's serving me. I go from thinking it's great, it's not a problem, I enjoy the creativity
Starting point is 00:34:53 it provides and I feel like I understand my son better when I'm high, but then I think about the fact that I'm high all day long and figure it can't be that healthy. So when I try to wait until after 12 p.m. or after 5 p.m., I always negotiate with myself and end up vaping. The worst part is my husband doesn't know I'm high all day. He just thinks I use it at night. He has an office studio in the backyard, so he's home all day, but not inside. So it's very easy for me to hide it from him. But I hate the fact that I'm even hiding it at all. I live in an area. I live in an area. where it's easily accessible and not considered a big deal, but because I use it so frequently, I often wake up feeling groggy or just meh and feel like I'm doing something wrong.
Starting point is 00:35:31 I know I'm not addicted because when I go out of town or I'm somewhere I can't bring my pen, it's not a problem, but I'm having serious trouble only consuming it at night and staying sober during the day. As a regular user yourself, what do you think about this? Do I have a problem? Alicia. Hi, Alicia. Hey, wow. She's right there.
Starting point is 00:35:49 That's you a little, what you're a writer? That was like a novel. I was giving contact. No, it was beautiful. Thank you. Because you know America's not doing well in literacy right now, so we need to put you out there in the forefront. I say smoke and keep smoking.
Starting point is 00:36:06 I would say if you're having feelings like that, though, if you're having feelings about smoking, if you can smoke and you're carefree about it and you're not worried about it and overthinking about it, then that's one thing. But it sounds like you're definitely worried about the amount that you're consuming and that you're consuming it all day
Starting point is 00:36:21 and that you're not hiding it from your husband and like everything you're saying sounds like you just have a really bad habit of smoking it too frequently. The problem with smoking weed too much is that it doesn't give you the buzz that you get when you take breaks. Like when you smoke it less frequently,
Starting point is 00:36:40 there's a better buzz. Like if I get high all day long, I become a little dead in the head. That's not my idea of a good time. I like to have a joint or smoke weed at night. There are days where I smoke. all day long. If I'm skiing in Whistler and I have a, you know, a pipe and I'm like, okay,
Starting point is 00:36:55 I'll just take hits of it all day long. But over more, it's not a great habit all day long every day. That's just not the best use of your time. You can always reward yourself in the evening. You don't have to deprive yourself, but I would say to create a new habit around your son, kind of respecting your relationship with your son. He doesn't need his mom to be high to be around him. Not that that's what you're saying, but it's a little bit what you're saying. And it's just better. I mean, it's not, better. It's not the right word. It's just, it creates an environment of just to relax, like, fun. If he's like a little fussy, I'm just like, not important, you know. So I just feel like it creates a positive environment, even though,
Starting point is 00:37:34 yeah, I do think that it's not a good idea to be high all day. The trouble I have is just stopping through the day. Because once I start that first morning hit, then it's like a snowball effect. Of course. I've been there. I know exactly what you're. talking about. I would say to put your vapeens away until 6 o'clock at night. I would say to just experiment with that, make it a rule for a week to just not smoke during the day. You can do it. You have power within you to make that decision and to follow through. And just have it at night. And I honestly think you're going to enjoy it more so at night. And you're going to start, the first couple days are going to be difficult. But it's not going to be difficult after that. If you want to be
Starting point is 00:38:15 present for your son, I know you do. That's what we're talking. We're here to talk about. If you want to be present for your son, you don't have, this is, just so you know, when you have a child, this is also going to come up for you. You know, you're not going to be able to smoke weed all day. Or you will be. You'll just do whatever you want. No, I'm just watching you in awe.
Starting point is 00:38:33 Like, the information you're giving is amazing. Well, I think that you, and I think that it's just a good it's a good example to set for yourself and for your child. And you should also let your husband know, hey, you know what? I'm only going to smoke weed after 6 o'clock from now on. I've
Starting point is 00:38:48 decided that's what I'm going to do sometimes I pick up a pen during the day and just get through the phase of that get through a phase of creating a new habit and once you are through that phase once you go like 30 days of just doing it after 6 p.m. then every once in a while if you if there's a moment that's so stressful during the day and you're like oh god I could use it you can use it incrementally but you have to understand the slippery slope when we take one hit and you're home all day with your kid you're going to take another hit and you're going to take another one right It's up to you to re-habituate your life. And you're going to be better for it.
Starting point is 00:39:22 You're going to be a better parent. You're going to feel better about yourself. The reason you're calling is because you're having misgivings about the way that you're using Canada. Yeah, I think it's a problem. So if you think that it is. You don't look high. Are you? I'm not high right now.
Starting point is 00:39:35 Okay. Great. So I would just say that you don't have to like quit marijuana. Just use it more sparingly and be more discerning about when you want to get high. You know, it should be fun. It should be a celebration. When I smoke weed all day, I'm not laughing. I'm not having the best time.
Starting point is 00:39:51 I eventually just want to go to sleep at 7. It's not helpful to smoke weed all day, but it's really fun. Like last night, I came, I had a joint, I can't travel with weed anymore because I'm so paranoid about getting pulled over or stopped at TSA because everyone knows how much I love drugs. You know, it's very public. So, and my whole new set is about everywhere I take drugs. So I have to stop. I've basically told on myself. So I'm with you.
Starting point is 00:40:19 I totally understand and I get you. But I would advise you to do that. And you can do it. You cannot smoke sweet until 6pm. You're completely capable of doing that. I have no doubt in my mind. I think I need like a lockbox or something. As I say, they have like little lock boxes you can get for your cell phone.
Starting point is 00:40:35 And you just like put them in there, set your little timer for whenever you want. And like, are you going to go to the store and get more? Probably not. Like you're going to wait. Yeah. Except it's up to step in my street. Damn it. So close. What, a weed store? Yeah. Oh, okay. Well, but I also think, like, have some accountability. Like, tell your husband so that you can be accountable. You know what I mean? Just say, hey, I'm going to give you my vape pen. I don't want it until 6 o'clock. Okay? Just hold it for me. Yeah. And I don't even think you need to tattle on yourself or what you have been doing. Just be like, hey, this has been tempting me. So, like, just keep it in your office until 6 or whatever. Yeah. Then you're a winner all the way around. Yeah. I would hate it if he saw me and I didn't realize and, like, it became an issue because I don't want to lie to him or him to be like, what are you doing all day?
Starting point is 00:41:19 I think he would think I'm extremely irresponsible. Yeah, but you're not. You're not. You're not. And what he's doing? Yeah, yeah. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just make a new habit.
Starting point is 00:41:29 Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Thanks so much, ladies. Thanks, Alicia. Thanks for calling in. Okay.
Starting point is 00:41:35 Bye. I just want to make a note that Yomideka's advice was to continue to smoke weed with her baby. So let's just make sure that's on record. No, no, no, no, no. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. But what I'm saying is, to be fair, I was very impressed with you. Thank you. You know what I'm saying?
Starting point is 00:41:53 Like, the information you gave was so thoughtful. She's good at this, Yamanika. I know. I need to start tuning in. Why you don't never give me advice like this? Because you don't fucking listen, first of all, to anything. That's fair enough, that's true. Remember?
Starting point is 00:42:05 Yeah, yeah, I get it. Okay. Well, our next caller is Ali. And Yamanika, you're an oldest sister, right? Yes. I have three. half sisters. We share the same father. All right. This is a little bit about having to take care of your sisters. So, Ali says, dear Chelsea, I've been a fan for longer than I care to admit because it will age us
Starting point is 00:42:26 both. Either way, I'm emailing because like you, I lost a brother at a young age and it's impacted my family for years in different ways. I'm the youngest of four. My sister, who's 10 years older, has continually made bad decisions in the years that have followed, and I've always been the one to hold things together for our family. This past year was the final straw when she fell prey to a Bitcoin scam and my parents bailed her out to keep her out of jail. Honestly, I'm tired of being the one to keep shit together. I want to finally break this cycle and figure out how to move forward with her while staying true to my own boundaries to protect myself and my kids. I promise I will get a therapist due and not just rely on the show, but I would love your advice, Allie.
Starting point is 00:43:05 Hi, Ali. So nice to see you. Hi. Nice to see you too. This is a nice to see you too. This is a is our special guest Yamanika Saunders is here today. Hi, Ali. Hi. That's such a bummer that your sister is susceptible to all of that and that fell for a Bitcoin scheme and scam. So what are you thinking about doing? You want to cut her off? Or like, where are you right now? Like I said, in my email, I did seek a therapist and she has been truly wonderful, like has really helped me navigate the complex relationships, not only between my sister and my parents and kind of my brother. too, as you know, like after losing a brother, everybody is affected in different ways. But yes, I think she has really helped me in understanding how we all got to the point that we're at. I don't think I'm ready to cut them all out, definitely still on the table. But at this point, not really, because we don't really have a lot of family around here. My husband's from the UK. So, like, they are our family. So it's complicated, as you know.
Starting point is 00:44:07 Yeah, I mean, I think that like, I don't know that there's a necessary. It's, necessary to do anything in this moment. Like, I think considering your family history and everything you're saying, like, most parents are going to bail their kid out when that happens. And just because she's made some bad decisions doesn't mean that she's worth cutting out of your life. You want to really build, and it sounds like you're already doing that with your therapist, build an understanding and empathy and compassion for the fact that she's experiencing
Starting point is 00:44:33 life in a different way than you are, that she's not as responsible as you are. You know, like we all have a lot of judgment when people don't act the way that we do, you know certain people, I know I do. I have a real problem with judging others when I think they make stupid decisions or they're not looking after themselves. But it's really not your job to be policing everyone. Sometimes showing up with extra love and doubling down on love and kindness helps people get out of ruts too. So there's another way, like an avenue to go about it. I mean, what do you think? I've had a situation like that, not to get too much into my own personal, you know, because it involves some of my family. I'll use this one example with my
Starting point is 00:45:09 mother. My mother, I can tell her a thousand times. I don't want her to do something because I don't want it to hurt her, you know, disadvantage her. I know what the result of that's going to be, and I'm trying to protect her. And my mother will still go, okay, let me still be involved with this part and go, mom, you know, we know what's going. But, you know, God told me, and okay, so the boundary is because watching you be frustrated by a situation with somebody that I know is going to frustrate you or take advantage of you and you still are doing that, I can't go on that emotional journey with you. I'm going to be here as your daughter.
Starting point is 00:45:52 I love you. But when this thing blows back on you like it's done time and time again, I'm not your resource to have a conversation about how to get over that. So if you're fine with me not being there for you at all, while you handle that, continue to do what you do. But any point in time that you expect me to be emotionally there and supportive with you, my opinion has to also matter in the decisions that you're making. No, and I think that makes perfect sense.
Starting point is 00:46:21 That's a healthy boundary, I think. And like I said, I'm learning how to set those with everybody. And I think, yeah, that definitely helps because it's like I've also been reading Mel Robbins book about Let Them and it's so freaking hard. Yes. You seem like a very loving person. And that's the thing about it, right? When you're loving and you're, because you'll be surprised.
Starting point is 00:46:41 Reciprocity in people is not given, right? Right. Sometimes you'd be like, why would somebody do that? I would never do that. I would never do this to my parents. I would never put, and then some people don't even think like that. And if you're thinking for yourself emotionally and for your sister and all, you're doing a lot of emotional thinking and what's left over for you,
Starting point is 00:47:02 then you still taking advantage of, right? you feel discredited, you feel unheard, because you keep yelling to people to, no, preserve your energy for you, you need to preserve some for you. And your parents love you and they'll be there, but they also got another daughter they got to fucking deal with. And that's what they birth her, not you, you're her sister, you're not her mother and her father. And I think that's fair. I think where some of the complication comes in as my parents, even though I'm the youngest of
Starting point is 00:47:30 the four of us. They expect me to be the one to kind of help her learn right from wrong and like to be the middle person because I've always been the middle person between my parents and my sister. And when I cut myself out of that, they were kind of just, they were mad at me. And I was like, what the hell? Like I'm doing the, I'm trying to set my own boundaries for myself and my kids. And the fact that they didn't respect that really annoyed me too. So it's like, any time you set a healthy boundary, like the people who benefited from your lack of boundaries are going to going to be upset with that. And like, that's kind of okay. The other thing I will say is I love this idea of like doubling down on love. And I'll also just say loving someone doesn't necessarily
Starting point is 00:48:12 mean that like you're the shield that keeps them from experiencing consequences. And it sounds like some of the boundaries you're putting in place have maybe been active in that way. Yes, absolutely. And I think that's part of it too is like we're all kind of figuring out new roles and dynamics in the family with me removing myself from that. So navigating kind of where we go from here. But that's also love too. I want you to understand,
Starting point is 00:48:35 Allie, that's also love. What I'm telling you is there are people in the world that will take advantage of kindness and love. You understand? You don't have to stop loving. You have to turn it off
Starting point is 00:48:49 or hold it. It doesn't mean respect is not there. Okay? You understand? Yep. Because a lot of people, not that I'm against what they're saying, I'm not standing down on this doubling down on love.
Starting point is 00:49:01 Love yourself. You can't love everybody. And people will take advantage. Once they've shown you they're taking advantage, you've got to start making decisions that are going to benefit your own mental capacity. Trust me, I'm 46. I'm perimenopausal.
Starting point is 00:49:17 I've been sweating here and there. I don't give a fuck about nobody right now. You understand? It's taken all in me to give a fuck about you right now because I'm perimenopausal. By the way, she didn't know she didn't know she was perimenopause until I told her last night. But I wish you well, Allie. I see you have such a beautiful spirit.
Starting point is 00:49:38 Don't lose that, my love. And healthy boundaries are the best because you're not only creating them, you're demonstrating them for other people. Like Catherine said, they're not going to like it in the beginning. And like you admitted that your parents didn't like it. But you are creating a different dynamic and a different paradigm with your family. And that's more important. Right.
Starting point is 00:49:57 And I think that's what I want to model for. my kids, right? Like, I want, I want them to want to spend time with me as an adult. And I want them to, whereas I don't have that with my family. It's kind of like an obligation sometimes. And so I want to have better relationships overall. Yeah, well, you're doing the work to get there. Yeah, for sure. Thank you. Yeah. Thanks for calling in. Yes. Hi, Alex. Good luck with perimenopause. I'll be there in a few years. I'm sure. Thank you, my love. Thanks. Bye. I like that you're just going to go around sweating, you know? Like, in the meantime, like, what steps?
Starting point is 00:50:31 I don't know what to do. I just found out about this. You have, from me, I diagnosed you last night. You have to go to your OBGYN. You have one, right? I have a vagina, of course. Okay. Do you think people don't have women,
Starting point is 00:50:43 there are women that don't have an OBGYN? I don't know. I mean, some people don't. Yeah, some people just don't have doctors that they go to regularly. That's crazy. I'm on my, my charts all the time. My brother doesn't go to a doctor ever, ever.
Starting point is 00:50:56 They never, both of my brothers never go. Maybe it's a male thing. That's a man thing too. Yeah, yeah, yeah. They don't think they need to check out anything. What's next, Catherine? Well, our next question, this one's just an email, not a caller. It's a little bit tricky, but Yamanika, I listened to your conversation with T.S.
Starting point is 00:51:11 Madison about tricky trans questions, which I would really recommend to anyone. It's a great conversation. I learned so much. Nice. How do people listen to it? It's on YouTube. So just look up T.S. Madison and Yamanika Saunders and you will find it. And if you want to try and spell Yomaniqa.
Starting point is 00:51:26 Anika, good luck. Y-A-M-A-N-E-I-K-A. Thank you. Yes. So I thought you'd be a perfect person for this question. Okay. Summer says... Shout out the T-S, by the way.
Starting point is 00:51:36 I love T-S-Madison. I mean, yes, the best. And also shout out to Yamaha, which is how I pronounced your first name. I know what you've heard of the first three months. I can't stand you. Well, the subject line is, my ex is a woman now. Am I the asshole for blocking? Dear Chelsea, last week, I looked at my blocked profiles and noticed that my ex was no longer on there.
Starting point is 00:51:56 I figured they had gotten off of social media. I hadn't talked to them in almost a decade. This morning I saw someone sent me a message request. It was my ex, but I guess they're a trans woman now based on the name change and profile photos. Sorry to message you out of the blue, but I woke up today with the memory that today might be your birthday. If it is, then I hope you have a great day. BTW, it's not my birthday. I don't have fond members of this ex.
Starting point is 00:52:19 I lost my virginity to this person and not by consent. It was my first serious relationship. We went to high school together and dated in my first year of college. Two years after we broke up, we connected again, and I met their wife and two daughters. I liked his wife and daughters, but I got a reminder of why I did not talk to them, her, and blocked them after a couple of interactions for the next decade. Am I the asshole for wanting to keep blocking their profiles? Summer.
Starting point is 00:52:44 I mean, they changed genders, not personality. I mean, wants to dig a dick. Yeah, yeah. I mean, without a dick. I don't understand. And if you lost your virginity to them without your consent and that's, and then you dated the person? That's a trauma. Sometimes that's a trauma response to an essay.
Starting point is 00:53:03 You become victimized and it's a weird. So I feel bad for that. And I understand the trauma. What I'm telling you is I think this person may think that they're transphobic because they're doing this? Because this has nothing to do with trans. No, it has nothing to do with that. That person's an asshole. That's a personality, right?
Starting point is 00:53:22 that's a spirit thing. You can't transition your spirit. You understand? You're born with a shitty spirit. You're going to keep a shitty spirit until you talk to somebody about your shitty spirit. So keep the person blocked. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:53:37 I agree. And save yourself. Yeah. No, what? Yeah. Agreed. Agreed. And then also maybe like if you're not already in therapy,
Starting point is 00:53:44 like check some of that out just so you can release some anger and work through some of the stuff that happened because that's serious stuff. Okay, well, let's see. Take a quick break, and we'll have a quickie to wrap up. Okay, we'll be right back with Yamanika Saunders. Have you ever looked at a piece of abstract art or music or poetry and thought,
Starting point is 00:54:02 that's just a bunch of pretentious nonsense? Well, that's exactly what two bored Australian soldiers set out to prove during World War II. When they pulled off what was either a bold literary hoax or a grand poetic experiment, publishing over a dozen intentionally bad but highly acclaimed works of expressionist poetry under the name Earn Malley in an incident that caused a media firestorm and even a criminal trial. The Earn Malley episode made fools of believers and critics alike and still fascinates poetry lovers to this day. We break down the truth, the lies in the poetry in between on hoax, a new podcast hosted by me, Lizzie Logan, and me, Dana Schwartz. Every episode, hoax explores an
Starting point is 00:54:43 audacious fraud or ruse from history, from forged artworks to the original fake news, to try and answer why we believe. Listen to hoax on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Stuff You Should Know guys have made their own summer playlist of their must listen podcasts on movies. It's me, Josh, and I'd like to welcome you to the Stuff You Should Know Summer Movie Playlists.
Starting point is 00:55:08 What Screams Summer? More than a nice, darkened, air-conditioned theater, and a great movie playing right in front of you. Episodes on James Bond, special effects, stunt men and women, disaster films, even movies that change filmmakers. and many more. Listen to the stuff you should know summer movie playlist on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts. American History is full of wise people.
Starting point is 00:55:32 What women said something like, you know, 99.99% of war is diarrhea and 1% is gory. Those founding fathers were gossipy AF, and they love to cut each other down. I'm Bob Crawford, host of American History Hotline, the show where you send us your questions about American history, and I find the answers, including the nuggets of wisdom our history has to offer. Hamilton pauses, and then he says, the greatest man that ever lived was Julius Caesar. And Jefferson writes in his diary, this proves that Hamilton is for a dictator based on corruption. My favorite line was what Neil Armstrong said. It would have been harder to fake it than to do it. Listen to American History Hotline on the IHeart Radio app.
Starting point is 00:56:19 Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What's up, guys? Welcome to Agusto Papa, the go-to spot for everything Musica Mexicana. We're proud Mexican-Americans who live and breathe this music. We started this podcast to share and discuss our views on Musica Mexicaa. Whether you like Pesso Pluma, Los Aligres del Barranco, Ariel Camacho, or Ivan Cornejo, when you gain your feels, then this podcast is for you. We deep dive into music reviews.
Starting point is 00:56:49 Bluma show last year, everything was a 10 out of 10. Fashioning and lifestyle inspired by the roots of music Mexican, the craziest controversies and cheese mess. I don't have nothing against Fuerza, you know, and I don't think J.O.P. Should be mad at me. Song and artist comparisons, competition in the scene. There is competition. There is sides to this.
Starting point is 00:57:07 There's Pesopluma, double P, and there's JOPP, and there's JOPP. Street Mob. I think at the end of the day, it's business. It's all competition. And of course, our personal stories and opinions along the way. This isn't just a podcast. It's a boom-in for fans. to live musica mexicana every single day.
Starting point is 00:57:22 Listen to Augusto Papa as part of the My Cultura podcast network on the IHard Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. And we're back with Yamanika Saunders. Do you want to, um... When was the last time you had sex, by the way? I wish you would ask me that. I did. I just did.
Starting point is 00:57:42 You sent me a box. Chelsea sent me... Not even a box. You know what a box is where you order. a Christmas tree, right, from Amazon, and they send you a large box, they can't even break the shit up. She sent me that size box
Starting point is 00:57:57 of vibrators, dildos, and machines that can lick your vagina without your assistance. And I, and one of them, one was in a baggie, don't even, and not even like a bag, like, I'm talking about
Starting point is 00:58:13 a glad, like one of them, yellow and blue makes green, you know, all that shit. She sent me, that and it was greasy then she sent me the wheel because I wanted to use the one with the licking thing because I'd never had it before she sent me the one that she
Starting point is 00:58:29 didn't even wipe it down the wipe it down the lube was so stuck on there it melted into the thing I was it was you ever seen a mechanic when he got from underneath the hood of a car and all it like the
Starting point is 00:58:45 the transmission fluid dropped down on his face and he had to open it He looked like an ink whale. It was like that. I could not believe it. What you do to your vagina, Chelsea, is insane. But I do currently have three of them in rotation and the wand. We saw them last night at her house.
Starting point is 00:59:03 And I have some out in the front room. I can't get rid of them. None of the vibrators that I sent you had been used by me. I get lots of swag sent to my house. I know you didn't send me a vibrator from another person that sent you a vibrator. I told Carlos who works with me. They use their vibrators. to get all the vibrators out of the house
Starting point is 00:59:21 and to send them to Yamanika because I know how horny you are. I know how horny you. I've been listening. I hear you. I see how you interact with men. And you need like a constant penetration of some sort. So as a gesture of friendship,
Starting point is 00:59:35 I said, you know who could really put these fucking vibrators to use? The one that was used, I can't speak to because I've never used any of those. But I did have a friend who came from Whistler who stayed at my house. And when she saw my, I have a table where people send all of their, you know, when a celebrity comes out with a vibrator,
Starting point is 00:59:52 they send it to me or, you know, whoever, whatever brands. And my friend came downstairs and she goes, oh my God, you're never going to believe this vibrator, whatever it was. Like it was like a double whoopsie doodle, like one in your asshole and one of your, she goes, this is amazing, this is amazing. She goes, you have to try this.
Starting point is 01:00:09 And I'm like, well, I'm not, I'm not, no, all like, I let me finish. I said, I am not going to use the vibrator that you used. Are you fucking serious? I looked at my friend. I go, are you, you think I'm going to use your, by the way, my friend was here going to medical appointments. She was seeing a bevy of doctors to make sure that she wasn't diagnosed with something
Starting point is 01:00:29 very bad. And during that time, I go, at what point during this week of medical appointments, did you feel horny? Like, that's what I couldn't understand. So if there was a used one, my conjecture is that that was hers that she left in the spare bedroom that was wrapped up probably by my housekeeper at my bell, She didn't use it also because she also masturbates at the house sometimes I've been told. And then she sent that to you.
Starting point is 01:00:53 And I'm sorry that you got to use vibrator, but I would encourage you to wash it and use it again. You said, let me finish. Like when you got finished, it was all going to make sense. It was worse, the more I let you finish. You mean to tell me, you let me, you sent me through the mail. Can somebody Google if this is a hate crime? And I want the post office to get involved. I want you to not be able to send letters.
Starting point is 01:01:23 I want you to tell me, Chelsea, that you sent me the vibrator of a bitch who was in your crib who was having current vaginal appointments with a doctor versus of a shit. It was going on with her vagina. No, no, not vaginal, not vaginal. No, no, no, no. She wasn't seeing about a vagina. She was talking to doctors about a different condition that had nothing to do with her vagina. What, what, any condition, any, I put that.
Starting point is 01:01:46 shit in my pussy, bitch. I know. I know you did. And you're going to do it again. What's the last question, Catherine? Do we have a... We do. We do. Our last question comes from one of our rare straight male listeners. Dear Chelsea, I recently got an invitation to my ex-girlfriend's wedding. We dated for about a year and then had an amicable breakup. We remained friends after we split up, but I feel at odds with going to the wedding because about six months into her relationship with her now fiancee, we hooked up a few times. We remained. and I don't know if she ever told him that. They've been together for over three years now, and he seems great.
Starting point is 01:02:21 So I want to be supportive of her, but part of me feels guilty about being there. Should I go or just blow it off? Thanks, Zach. That sounds like a straight man's question. Sure it is. Wow, we don't get a lot of straight men calling into this podcast. First of all, I really appreciate that because being sensitive to all of those different kind of nuances of what happened.
Starting point is 01:02:40 Yeah, I understand feeling weird about that. And I probably would skip the wedding. Here's my thing, if he's going to maintain a friendship with her and he already has a friendship with her and him, it is going to look weird that he's not at the wedding. So, you know, he has to think about that as well. I think he needs to address, like, what is his feelings for her, you know? Because if you're still hooking up, what does she feel about this guy?
Starting point is 01:03:03 Why are they hooking up? Well, that was before. They've now been together for like two and a half years. The first six months she said they were, he said that they've been hooking up. But, Zach, I would say, yeah, I would skip. the wedding. Because like the husband... Don't skip his ex. Really? I'm telling you, if he's...
Starting point is 01:03:18 If he knew that someone was there, that she had fooled around with... He's friends with them. That's what I'm saying. But the husband doesn't know about them fooling around. Right. Probably. But if... Okay, your ex, y'all friends, we're all friends. And we get married. And all of a sudden, your ex, who's our friend, is not
Starting point is 01:03:38 at our wedding? Oh, y'all must have slept together then. That's the first thing I would think If my partner's ex Who we're all friends with Doesn't show up to our wedding Okay, so go No, because yeah You just, no, you have to go to the wedding
Starting point is 01:03:53 What you need to do is Get over that you fucked with her And just move on Because clearly I guess they're moving on They get married And just start a clean slate Yeah, that's true That's true
Starting point is 01:04:04 I'm just thinking of the husband I'm thinking of the husband Like how would you feel to know that your girlfriend, your wife is someone she was cheating on you with? Is that the wedding? No, I understand that, Chelsea. What I'm saying is I don't know how if he's friends with them now,
Starting point is 01:04:20 because it's all about what the husband's going to think. Is he ever going to tell him that they did that? He's not going to tell them. So why would you do anything? You raise a better point, I guess. I guess you could. So, Zach, great. I mean, one piece of advice and then a different piece of advice.
Starting point is 01:04:35 So problem solved. Problem has been solved. I love you, Chelsea. I really do. I wish I didn't. So many ways you're problematic. But, you know, I love you. I just really do.
Starting point is 01:04:50 I love you too. Okay, that's us for today. Follow Yamanika on Instagram, you guys. Please give her love on Instagram so that they stop fucking. And YouTube, too. Please just give on YouTube. And go watch that special. It's really important for our whole audience.
Starting point is 01:05:03 You can type it in white people and just clear your history. Awesome. We'll have fun at the mammogram you too. Thank you. Yeah, I'm going to get my boobs looked at too. I was like, uh-oh. Thank you. Okay, my remaining dates for Vegas.
Starting point is 01:05:16 There are remaining dates for this year. Summertime is coming, and I will be in Vegas at the Cosmo doing my residency on August 30th and then November 1st and 29th. November 1st and November 29th. I will be in Las Vegas at the Cosmo performing inside myself at the Chelsea. It's called Chelsea at the Chelsea for a reason. Okay? Thank you. Do you want advice from Chelsea?
Starting point is 01:05:46 Write into Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail.com. Find full video episodes of Dear Chelsea on YouTube by searching at Dear Chelsea Pod. Dear Chelsea is edited and engineered by Brad Dickert, executive producer Catherine Law. And be sure to check out our merch at chelseahandler.com. piece of abstract art or music or poetry and thought, that's just a bunch of pretentious nonsense. That's exactly what two bored Australian soldiers set out to prove during World War II when they tricked the literary world with their intentionally bad poetry, setting off a major scandal. We break down the truth, the lies, and the poetry in between on hoax, a new podcast
Starting point is 01:06:29 hosted by me, Lizzie Logan, and me, Dana Schwartz. Every episode, Hoax explores an audacious fraud or ruse from history. Listen to Hoax on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Stuff You Should Know guys have made their own summer playlist of their must listen podcasts on movies. It's me, Josh, and I'd like to welcome you to the Stuff You Should Know Summer Movie Playlist. What Screams Summer?
Starting point is 01:06:55 More than a nice, darkened, air-conditioned theater and a great movie playing right in front of you. Episodes on James Bond, special effects, stunt men and women, disaster films, even movies that change filmmaking, and many more. Listen to the Stuff You Should Know Summer Movie playlist on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm Bob Crawford, host of American History Hotline, a different type of podcast. You, the listener, ask the questions.
Starting point is 01:07:23 Did George Washington really cut down a cherry? Were J.F.K. and Marilyn Monroe having an affair? And I find the answers. I'm so glad you asked me this question. This is such a ridiculous story. You can listen to American History Hotline on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What's up guys?
Starting point is 01:07:44 Welcome to the Agustapop podcast, the go-to spot for everything, Musica Mexicana. We're proud Mexican-Americans who live and breathe this music. We started this podcast to share and discuss our views of Musica Mexicaa, whether you like to vibe to Pesso Pluma, Los Aligres del Barranco,
Starting point is 01:07:59 Aral Camacho, or put Ivan Cornejo when you get it in fields, then this podcast is for you. Well, actually, Peson was supposed to be on Chinito's album. The song with Drake was supposed to be with Pesel. Listen to Agu's, supa on the iHeart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. This is an IHeart podcast.

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