Dear Chelsea - Dirtbag Punk with Kerri Kenney-Silver

Episode Date: May 28, 2026

Kerri Kenney-Silver (The Four Seasons, Reno 911) joins Chelsea to talk about the many lives she’s led as a frontwoman in a band, an actor and a mom, why Reno 911 is in the Epstein files, and gra...bbing every opportunity when it came to her.  Then: A new niece has a terrible nickname.  A 30-something investigates her pregnant bestie’s cheating husband.  And a dad is taking his new girlfriend to the cottage against his deceased wife’s wishes, and the kids aren’t happy about it.  * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:03:24 Is he lighter? Well, he's light. But we rescued another dog. His name is Ray J. Did he come with that? No. No. I named him Ray J.
Starting point is 00:03:36 I, we're sitting here waiting for him to arrive. We have adopted him. So exciting. He's a chow. And Doug needs a sibling. So I've been looking for a couple of months for a sibling for Doug. And then we were going to get this other dog, but he wasn't a full chow. And I really like chow's, but they're hard to find in rescues.
Starting point is 00:03:52 And then Ray J just popped up. And so they got him this week. And I was away. I went to Bottle Rock and then I went to my friend's wedding. So I was in Santa Barbara with Cowboy all weekend. And we had a fun Reu Narcay. Great. And so now I'm just waiting for him to arrive.
Starting point is 00:04:08 Oh, I love that. I'm so happy for you. I know. So hopefully Doug will be able to handle himself because Doug is dominant. Yeah. Has they like played together already? Like you did. No, no, no.
Starting point is 00:04:18 They're meeting for the first time today outside. So it could go horribly wrong. And then next week I could say there is no more Ray J. You know, we had to give him to another family. I mean. But hopefully not. I think Doug will be so excited to have a friend. It's just that Ray J,
Starting point is 00:04:30 we'll have to see what Ray J's reaction to being personally invaded by Doug is. Because we had Cowboys dog with us all weekend. Cowboy has a dog named Benny, and Doug is an assauter. Doug wants to assault. Like humping, like sexual, everything, sexual and everything else.
Starting point is 00:04:45 And then eventually that all shakes out and they love to have fun together. Yeah. So hopefully, but Doug is definitely dominant and this is his house. Yeah, well, he's got all his like dog friends up in Whistler, so hopefully this will just be more,
Starting point is 00:04:56 Yeah, I mean, he really wants a lot of action, and I just cannot provide that action. Yeah. See, we tried to buy extra dogs to, like, play with Mimsy and, like, keep her in her. Now they all just stare at us and want us to play with them individually. They do play together, but it's like, we have to be involved. They're very people-oriented. So hopefully they can play together. Yes. Yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:05:16 So your weekend was good. It was three-day weekend. Yeah, bottle rock festival. I've never been up to that music festival. That was amazing. I saw Lord perform. She was out of this world. I saw Teddy Swift.
Starting point is 00:05:26 Wims perform LCD sound system. People love Tony Swims. Yeah. And they were all great. We just had a blast. It was so much fun. And then we went to Santa Barbara on Saturday and we went to a wedding. That was really fun.
Starting point is 00:05:39 I handed out treats to a lot of different people. Everyone came over to me and they were like, I hear you have the stuff. And I was like, okay. I'm like, who told you? They're like, we just heard in general that you have the stuff. So the message is spreading. I love it. It's not like, not even like a dry wedding versus like a wedding with alcohol.
Starting point is 00:05:55 it's like a wedding with alcohol plus party favor. Well, now everyone's doing shrooms and I'm like, I'm already over shrooms. Like, I already pass that. That's like the passe to me now. Yeah. I'm on to the new stuff. What do you think about like, Michael Pollan talks in that book about like doing a brain reset with hallucinogens and that sort of thing.
Starting point is 00:06:13 What do you think about that? I feel like I'm 41. I kind of feel like it's time for a brain reset. You mean to do the drugs and to have a journey? Yeah. Yeah. I think that's good. I've never done that like guided kind of, well, I did with Iowa.
Starting point is 00:06:25 but I've never done like a guided, you know, mushroom sit or guided MDMA sit. You can do it with anything. Ketamine is pretty popular now, but that's not really my drug. I'm not disassociative. I don't like that. I don't like that feeling. I like to be in my body when I'm high. I feel like I need something to help me deal with anxiety, but also I have anxiety about
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Starting point is 00:07:46 Get your tickets at chelseaandler.com. Well, let's get into our exciting guest today. So you know our guest today from Reno 911, and she is she, is returning in the second season of Netflix, the four seasons. Please welcome Carrie Kenny Silver. Oh, my God. Carrie Kenny Silver is here today. I mean, we are Ray Unarce.
Starting point is 00:08:03 We were trying to figure out how long it's been since we saw each other last. Oh, I don't like it. But it's been probably, I don't think it's been 10 years. No, it can't. It can't have been. No, no, no, no. But we did me 23 years ago when I did a guest episode of Reno 911. The very first episode of Reno 911.
Starting point is 00:08:19 Was it? Oh. You were on the first episode of Reno 911. want. There was a pilot, but then the first official episode you were on. Oh, are you sure? Well, 2003, so 2003 was the first year at the show air. I think I was, let's just say first season. Let's say first season. Yeah, because I knew of the show before I was on it. So it had to have been after. Okay, first season. Even though I like that honor and accolade, that was the first, was it the first time I urinated on a set, but from laughing? No, girls behaving badly. I was like,
Starting point is 00:08:50 Where did you urinate it? No, urinated, like, from laughing too hard while we were filming. I was going to say we could check Wikipedia. It was just so ridiculous. That show was so ridiculous. And I know people probably bother you all the time about redoing it. And didn't you guys redo it? We did.
Starting point is 00:09:03 Yeah. It's a show that never ends because Nisi Nash keeps bringing it back and I love it. And we actually just did an interview together the other day. And she said, never say never. She's the one who instigates every time we come back. But we just had, we just did a movie two years ago. Right. We did two more seasons the year before that.
Starting point is 00:09:24 So, yeah, it just keeps, you know, at a certain point. No, I disagree. Talking about reruns or like recreating shows, there's a couple of people that are, there are a couple of shows that are being redone that you're like, this is not necessary. But, I mean, a lot of them, you know, let's be honest. A lot of them, you're like, this is,
Starting point is 00:09:40 nobody has another idea. Like, you're going to resurrect a show from however many years ago. And some of them are worthwhile. But that show doesn't matter who, how old anybody? is. It's so ridiculous. You knew where I was going to go with that. It doesn't matter. You're right, actually, because we were never qualified to be cops in the first place, so age shouldn't matter. I remember we shot somewhere. Maybe it was, was it Reno? No, no, no, because we have only been there one time, the whole group. We've only been there one time. We would
Starting point is 00:10:08 send a B camera there to do shots of the city and stuff to add to the show. But as a group, we hadn't been there since we were promoting the movie, Reno 911 Miami, which was years into the show itself. I love Reno 911 Miami. Yeah. It's like CSI Whistler Miami, San Diego. So ridiculous. So that's how we first met.
Starting point is 00:10:33 And then you would come on Chelsea lately all the time on the panel, which was such a nice delight because we were friends and we saw each other a lot more frequently in those days. And you were able to like, and it was fun to always have my friends on Chelsea lately because, you know, yeah, yeah, even though you're not a traditional standard. up comic, you're a comic. No, but I miss that show because that was the first time I was ever on a show where I was myself. I was terrified, but you were so supportive and you're so fast that I always felt like if that glazed look came in my eye, like I don't know, you would just jump in,
Starting point is 00:11:09 you'd reach down and grabbed that toddler out of the pool and you would save that joke. So I always felt so supported, but also you were just, you are such a laugher and you are such a fan of other people and you, you love showcasing other people. So it's such a great place to sort of try things. And then if you felt like you were flailing, you would, you would pull us out. Oh, well, that's a very nice compliment. Thank you, Carrie. That's so sweet. Yeah, it was nice when you have four people on a panel because you can kind of bounce off the walls and it doesn't behoove anybody for anybody to not do well. You know what I mean? Exactly. Everybody wins. Everyone is trying to make everybody. it's kind of like keeping the plates up.
Starting point is 00:11:46 You're like, okay, if we have a bad panel, if one person doesn't look good, we all don't look good. So you want to help and support each other. Yeah, and Carrie has a wonderful husband and a wonderful son. A husband, I just will have to say one thing about your husband. Okay. Especially now that we know that most men are garbage. You are so blessed.
Starting point is 00:12:07 I know. And he is blessed, of course, to be with you because you're a blessing. And I don't throw the word blessing around, okay? Might be a fur to be honest show. Hashtag blessing is on every one of your IGs. But Steve is one, he's a cinematographer. Correct. DP cinematographer.
Starting point is 00:12:24 And he is one of the most gentle men I've ever met. Like just gentle, like sees everybody, sits down with everybody, listens to everybody because he's very perspicacious, because that's what he does for a living, is watching people. So he, but he takes you in. And he's one of those guys that is not disgusting, has no gross ulterior motive. And I know all men are not bad.
Starting point is 00:12:47 I know that. I know there are good men around. I get it. There's lots of them. And most of my friends are married to good men. But when you hear all this news and you constantly hear these stories, you're just like, oh my God, who is it? Like it would be quicker to name all the people who weren't on Epstein Island than to try
Starting point is 00:13:06 to figure out how many people were. Don't think I didn't look everybody up. By the way, Reno 911 is in there. Tom Lennon and I were laughing our ass. I was on FaceTime with him. And I said, oh my God, we're in the Epstein files. He's like, please don't. I said, no, no, you.
Starting point is 00:13:20 This is a perfect reason to bring the show back. Yeah, to solve the Epstein fire. It's an email that was going from somebody to somebody about universal and what was coming out that week. And it was Reno, 911, Miami. And I was like, okay. Oh, that's funny. But anyway, I know. And thank you for saying that about my husband, Steve.
Starting point is 00:13:40 I love celebrating him. Because he is like in the, you know, he's a DP. So he's, he's, he's the kind of the watcher. He's the quiet. He sees everything. And he's the grounder to me and my, you know, Tasmanian devil friends. But he shot Big Bang Theory, two and a half men. Mom, he's now shooting Leanne and she's an angel.
Starting point is 00:14:01 And I'm so glad he's working with such a sweetheart. Yeah. And just a genuine talent and so happy to be there. Yeah. Which is like. such a great thing at this moment is in his career too to be with someone like that um yeah but i'm just so lucky and we have such an amazing kid and i i can't believe how much of my life has has lined up i can't believe it because it shouldn't have i mean i i look at like you know just the the
Starting point is 00:14:31 scattered ideas and and things i was reaching for when i was younger just anything and then the fact that it's lined up in this beautiful way. I sometimes can't believe it's my life. Wow. I love that you see that. He's always adored you. Always adored you. That is beautiful.
Starting point is 00:14:50 What did you think was like where, like tell me about that. Talk about that when you're thinking about having scattered. Because I felt like that. Like I felt like a pinball when I was like, you know, in my early 20s. I was out here, but I didn't know where I was going. And I just was kind of like, you know, like frenetic. Yeah, it's funny though. You say that, but it doesn't come across like that.
Starting point is 00:15:11 We're talking about you, Carrie. Don't even. From the outside, for example, your career looks very, I don't want to say planned, but it looks like it made. Strategized? No, like everything made the next logical sense. And there was a progression, is a progression. And it doesn't look chaotic.
Starting point is 00:15:32 In the same way that probably mine doesn't look chaotic, although on the inside, you You know, because I graduated college and had my own television show at graduation with the state. I mean, who has that? There's nothing chaotic about that. And you also in your band. And my band, we, we, which online is, they are demanding. Are we getting the, not only are we here, but the head is leaning on the foot. It looks like a cat from this angle.
Starting point is 00:15:57 But anybody who watches this podcast or listens to this podcast knows that I would never have a cat in my house. Oh, my God. I mean, if somebody came with a cat, obviously I wouldn't kick them out, but I don't have cats. For those listening at home, my dog, Mimsy is snuggling Carrie's foot. He's resting his head on my foot. Oh, my God, he is. Oh, she's a she. Yeah, that's okay.
Starting point is 00:16:17 It's okay. Her vagina's not out, so Carrie couldn't see it. Not at the moment. I miss gender, and now she's mad. You're a beautiful girl. Your band. Yeah, so, like, there's an example of something. I did what I think you probably did, and I continue to do, which is the next indicated
Starting point is 00:16:36 step, right? So somebody says, hey, here's this thing or this idea. And I go, yeah. And they go, do you want to read it first? And I go, no, I'll do it. And then it either produces something, which the state has obviously, and continues to 38, 37 years later, the band was literally our boyfriends were in bands and they were all on tour and had extra instruments laying around. The band is cake like. It's an imposter. It's an imposter. name to remember. And then everyone says, oh, it's like the band cake. We were, no, it was cake like because a couple of us worked at a bakery and there were on the box of brownies, it says for for moist or cake-like brownies. So we picked cake-like. Why that moist. Everyone loves
Starting point is 00:17:25 that word. Well, now today, maybe that's, that's the reboot. I think like, for example, with the band, it was just like, oh, there's instruments laying around here. Let's play them. And And some guy poked his head into the practice space and said, hey, we've got to show this weekend in Brooklyn. Do you guys want to play it? And we're like, oh, no, no, we're not a band. And he's like, well, you sound like a band. And we were like, oh, well, I mean, we have three songs. We don't really.
Starting point is 00:17:52 And he's like, well, come play your three songs. And we came and played our three songs. And John Zorn was at that show and said, I want to make a record with you. And we were like, well, we only have three songs. He's like, well, you better quickly write some more. So we did and put it out with a vaunt, this Japanese label, got three and a half stars in Rolling Stone, our first album. Holy shit. And then Rick Ocasick found us said, I want to make a single with you.
Starting point is 00:18:19 He said, can I bring some friends to your show? And his friends were Neil Young and a bunch of other people. And Neil said, I want to sign you as my second band to this new Warner Brothers label I'm doing. So we'll, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes, and yes. And we just kept going. That's amazing. And same with, you know, the state ends. And Tom and Michael Black and Ben were like, we want to do, you know, the Viva Variety.
Starting point is 00:18:43 We want to do Viva Variety, which was a sketch we had done on the state as a show. Yes. Okay, yes. And we did that for years. And then, you know, like that led into Reno, which leads into, and so I think the differences. This is the longest winded answer of all time. I love it. But I think the differences between now and then.
Starting point is 00:19:05 is that back then I felt like these things were swirling around me and I was just grabbing at them. Someone would reach in and say, do you want to do this? And I'd go, yes, yes, yes, yes. Now, because I have to be a more grounded person, just by nature of age and health and the world, I still see those opportunities. They're still happening. Thank God. but I feel like I am able to more clearly and confidently say, yes, and then walk into those
Starting point is 00:19:42 spaces with more peace. I felt like I was tumbling into those other spaces going, what are we going to do? What do you need for me? Right, right. And now I feel like I can own them more in a sense. Yeah, that's a very interesting, all while having the same exact haircut. For all this time, she's had the same exact haircut. And I really hope you're going to put a flash of all the haircuts.
Starting point is 00:20:05 When did you have a different haircut? When? Sugar beans. Have you not seen? I posted one of those. Look at my what was mom like in the 90s thing. Oh, okay. And all it is is a parade of haircuts and colors.
Starting point is 00:20:19 Like short layers? Oh, honey. Like, yeah. Pick a color. Short layers on short hair. No, no, no. But let's see what's going on. Okay, it's coming up here.
Starting point is 00:20:28 Well, this was before I met you. But I like, one of the things I admire about. you is that you've had the same hair cut since I've known you. And I find that to be pretty inspiring. Like, you found something you liked. Because I just cut my hair like a couple days ago. I was like, I can't do this anymore. And they're like, what? And they're like, there's nothing that's going to be that big of a change. I'm like, I know. I just have to either change the part or cut it. I need an update. Like, I need an update. I know what you mean. I feel this is a, this is a first, this first time I'm ever saying this out loud in the world. This is an exclusive. So everybody
Starting point is 00:21:00 lean in, I've decided I don't love jewelry or accessories of any kind. I'm with you on that. So a blunt haircut is my accessory. Yeah. Okay. That's cute. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, this is a lot of different hairstyles. Oh, it's, it's not even all of them. Wait. Oh, what were you like in the 90s? I see. I'm loving those. I am too, but they're nostalgic. They're making me kind of sad. God, you look a lot like this friend of mine. Wow. Is it Dame Judy Dench? Wow. Yes. She and I have just gotten very tight. She's actually upstairs. Oh, I thought I heard her. Oh, hey, have you been thinking about writing into Dear Chelsea? Well, now is the moment. We're taking advice questions on anything that pops up. It's wedding season. Are you having wedding drama? Write in about that thing that you can't seem to
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Starting point is 00:22:29 We created all. our own podcast called Hey Jonas. We invented a podcast? Well, we didn't invent it. We just contributed to it. We're the first people to do podcasts. Pretty, yeah, pretty wide range of podcasts. We're starting a trend.
Starting point is 00:22:42 But this one's extra special. So how did we actually come up with a name, Hey Jonas, guys? I honestly don't remember. I think it was on a call about what we should call it. And we were thinking I'm originally calling it one of the early names of our band. Before Jonas Brothers was, This is how you guys remember it going down? Yes.
Starting point is 00:23:03 I have a very different memory of this. We were talking about a thing, a bit for the podcast, people could call in and say, hey, Jonas. And then I wrote down on my little notepad, Hey Jonas, and offered it up as a potential title for the podcast. But thanks for remembering that, guys. Listen to Hey Jonas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
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Starting point is 00:25:31 I think what you're describing is like this sense of freneticism where you're kind of just almost like a balloon. You know, like you're bouncing around and you're just kind of catching to see what catches and what doesn't. And the good thing about that youthfulness that I think you're able to take into your adult life is that when things don't work, it doesn't matter because there's so much static and energy that you're like, okay, what's next? What's next? And I kind of feel that way today in a much more grounded sense like what you're describing. When things don't work out, there's no big reaction like with professional stuff. You're like, oh, okay, well, that happens all the time. I know that now.
Starting point is 00:26:13 So it's nothing to get so upset about. Whereas when I was younger, it would be a huge reaction. And then a week later, you would forgot that that even happened. And then also a week later, you would go, thank God that didn't happen because then this wouldn't be able to happen. So learning that lesson over time, the, you know, my favorite niecey Nash, you know, she didn't invent it, but I heard it from her rejection is God's protection, that thing of like, but I wanted that thing and that was going to be the thing and I thought this was the thing. And then when it's not the thing, you're like, thank God that wasn't the thing because this is the thing.
Starting point is 00:26:45 And if I was over there doing this thing, I couldn't have done this thing. Right. So I think like you say, over time, the more times that happens to you, which is in this business, all that happens over and over and over and over again, then you start to learn, oh, there's a rhythm to this. There is enough work for everybody. Everything happens when it's supposed to. It just is. Are you one of those people who thinks everything that happens happens for a reason? Yeah, I don't know about that. I just am in this new, like, I'm starting to sort of, I'll say this, I listen to the telepathy tapes.
Starting point is 00:27:24 Okay. Steve and I listened to them. And they've really kind of changed a lot of stuff for us. You know, it just now, there's a lot of new questions for me. And it's all positive. And it's starting to make me, I'm getting kisses, full kisses now. Is that all right? With consent.
Starting point is 00:27:45 Are you kidding me? I can't believe you're getting sexually assaulted by Catherine. We're going to need some podcast. I love this. I just hope this isn't wind up on Wiki feet. It does you pretty well. She has only fans. She has a foot account.
Starting point is 00:27:57 Yeah. There go. Download it or upload it to that. We'll just have our podcast going. It goes straight to it anytime someone takes a shot of my foot. I thought you met Catherine was blowing kisses at you. I was like, that's very unusual. Never heard you do that before.
Starting point is 00:28:09 That I would not have acknowledged. I just would have allowed it to have quietly. No, I just, I don't know if everything happens for a reason, but I am all of a sudden, And it's kind of gross to me because I think of myself as this like New York City girl who, you know, smokes cartons of cigarettes, doesn't give a shit about anything. You know, I show up. I do shit. You don't like it too bad. I trip into something else.
Starting point is 00:28:38 I eat snickers bars for breakfast. That's the me that I still think I am at my core when you're looking at right now in real time at this 56-year-old woman with a Bob haircut. know who drove here in a nice car. I don't feel like this lady. I feel like that lady. So when things come out of my mouth like, I've been listening to the telepathy tapes and now I'm questioning things like quantum physics and, you know, like universal intelligence. Universal intelligence. Which to me, that sounds so much like what you're talking about. Like it all was existing. And you're like, yes, I'm going to grab this opportunity and that opportunity. And it goes right along with what, what they talk about in the telepathy tapes, about like, all of that intelligence exists.
Starting point is 00:29:24 And it's just, do you have access to it? Can you tap into it? That sort of thing. But my reason, I think, for arriving at this new excited time about learning about this stuff, whether it's real or true or not, just wanting to know more about it, meditation, journaling, these words are coming out of my mouth. Right. Which is like, what? Yeah. But the reason is because there was an emergency.
Starting point is 00:29:51 And the emergency was the world started to like really affect me physically. And it felt like, oh, if I want to keep momming and wifing and friending and working and living, I better like find some tools right now. And all of a sudden all that judgment about, you know, centering and being open to listening to my body and all these things, I was like, oh, I see. Some of this really does make a lot of sense. And now I have this really rigorous morning routine that I do. Oh, I love it. Tell us. What do you do?
Starting point is 00:30:33 I love this. I mean, I think you love this because you know what's funny, Chelsea, you and I, 10 years ago would have been sitting together chain smoking. laughing about this shit together. Yeah. But the world, what's happened in the world, or I don't know. I think it's also as you age. You just start to grow up. And it's a byproduct.
Starting point is 00:30:53 It is definitely like a California, L.A. thing also. Yeah. That is on the fast track. Like my New York friends are not as like into all the shit that I'm in. Yeah. But you definitely get to an age. Like, I mean, for you, I, you know, it was more of a health issue. I remember.
Starting point is 00:31:08 And for me, it was a mental health issue. Yeah. It was like I was. Well, both. Both. Yeah, exactly. It's all connected. And so, you know, it is a health issue. It's just like you, everything that's been working doesn't work anymore. And you have to figure out a different coping mechanism, so to speak, a different set of tools to actually carry you through and lift you up because all of the devices that you had been using or that had been working for you just don't seem to work anymore. Or are backfiring. Uh-huh. Yeah. Or are doing the opposite. Like Oprah always says this thing, things work for you until they don't. And I would always be like, what the fuck does that mean? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:31:46 I don't understand what that means until I understood what that meant. Exactly. Like my bravado, my loudness, my, this big like cover that I had for myself or this big kind of protective armor that I had worked for me for a long time until it's like, okay, now what? I want someone to come in now. Yeah, yeah. And then you're invulnerable and you're like, uh, okay, what am I covering up?
Starting point is 00:32:08 What's inside? that I'm scared to reveal what's going on. So, like, I think it is a natural way of growing and evolving as a woman, especially. Oh, well, I don't know about you, but I have received calls from so many girlfriends in my life who over the years I sort of look at as the, like, normal ones, you know, they've never had major health problems or major depression or major this or that. They're not artists, so to speak, have called me in the last several. years, like almost on the DL from their closet going, something is going on, I think I'm losing
Starting point is 00:32:47 my mind. And I'm like, no, you're not losing your mind. Here's what's happening. First of all, we're getting to a, we're women of a certain age, right? Nobody ever talked about that. I was never told about that. So first get to your doctor and get your blood levels checked, period. Get your hormones checked. Everyone. If you feel like you're losing your shit, first get your hormones check. Yeah. And sometimes that's it. And you get that. And you get that. And you get that. adjusted or you do whatever you have to do health-wise to get that adjusted. But then also, I think at the same time, for those of us with kids who had kids around the same time, you start to come to that point where your kid is now launching into the world. And the world that your kid is launching into
Starting point is 00:33:24 today is for many of us quite terrifying. Yeah. So I agree. All of a sudden, it's like, okay, what do you got for me? Because you and I, I think, have a similar speech. which is like I see the brick wall. Everyone is telling me there's the brick wall. And not only am I going to like accelerate into the brick wall because now you're telling me that there's a brick wall, but I'm going to go through that brick wall and I'm going to show you that on the other side of it like good things are to come for me. Well, guess what?
Starting point is 00:34:03 That does does work that way? Yeah. So I sort of push myself, you know, health-wise and work-wise. over extending myself through those walls till I was like, oh, okay, this is what people mean by, you know, take a minute or, you know, maybe this one thing that you're doing is, isn't working for you. And it's okay to admit that. So I just now, when I wake up in the morning, I'm not invented any of this, that you're going to wreck it. Every single thing you're going to go, oh, yeah, that's from this, that's from this. I just have this little.
Starting point is 00:34:39 toolbox now, gross, even that I'm saying toolbox is gross. I wake up in the morning the very first thing I do, if it's dark or light, I have to be outdoors. I don't care where I am. I step outdoors. If it's a place I can be barefoot, then I'm barefoot. I stand outside and I sort of look around and I've started doing this thing that I heard Patty Smith say, which is I thank something first. First thing in the day I thank something. I catch myself thanking my fork for getting my food to my mouth internally sometimes now. But I will thank, you know, whatever I, whatever is the first thing that comes to mind or to sight. Then I will journal.
Starting point is 00:35:22 I will do my daily meditation. I have to do one to two meditations a day. How long do you journal for typically? Oh, journaling can be five minutes. I can be I can be swept away by it and then go do the rest of my morning routine, come back and I'm doing it for another hour. And it becomes something else that's for work or whatever. Have to move my body. Have to listen to music.
Starting point is 00:35:48 Have to eat. Which I know sounds ridiculous. But there would be days where I would be like, I have to get this project and I have to get this thing done. I have to get these emails done. I have to get my sons whatever done. and it's 4 o'clock and I haven't eaten and I'm wondering why. So it's just really like
Starting point is 00:36:06 there's nothing earth-shattering about any of it. It's basic stuff, but from somebody who has spent their life swirling through these, I've had 10 lifetimes. People go, oh, you were in a band
Starting point is 00:36:22 for all those years traveling around the world? When did that happen? But then how were you also doing these four TV shows that you were co-creating and you were in. But then how were you also, you raised a kid, you have a 20 year old and you were there for
Starting point is 00:36:38 every game, every robotics match. And you're a wife and you were at all of the tapings for the this. Wait, how are all those people so I'm enjoying this stage of like I don't know.
Starting point is 00:36:57 I don't know everything. I don't know. all the answers. And when I read about a tip or I hear Patty Smith say, try thanking even the physical objects in your life, I go, all right. And I try it. And some of the things have stuck. And now I feel slowly like I am more centered than I've ever been in my life, which is so awesome. I also think the language that we use around our toolbox. Like, I know you're saying it's gross because, you know, whatever, because you don't want to everyone to take your- It's not very punk rock to say it has an emotional toolbox. But it is punk rock to be cool about your emotional toolbox. Do you know what I mean? You can make that punk rock. Yeah. Like, it is punk rock because it fucking works and people change. Yeah. And they realize like, oh, actually, the way for me to be the most effective and like luscious human being is to get a
Starting point is 00:37:55 fucking toolbox. You know what I mean? That makes, there's like a magnetic attraction between you and the world when you're walking outside in the morning, looking at the trees and thanking them for being there, you know, but I can relate to everything you're saying. Just hearing it come out of your mouth makes me laugh. I know. I know. And in beginning, when I started doing this, like what you're talking about, when I started meditating, when I went into real therapy, when I did all that stuff, I would just be like, oh God, I can't tell anyone about this. People are going to be like, what are you talking about? Like, I have like a personality change. Like, it's like I got a personality transplant because there's like a transitional.
Starting point is 00:38:29 period of time where you're like, what am I doing? And who am I acting like? And is this real? Am I, and then you're like hiding it. You know, I'd be meditating. I'm like, okay, nobody could see me doing this. It's a secret. It's like, actually, it works better if you don't give a shit who's seeing you meditate. You know what I mean? It's so true. You got to be loud and brave about all the things that you're into at the time. And it's okay to change your mind and be into other things that you believe are helping you. That's cool. I was on a red carpet the other day at South by Southwest. And a this young woman said, what kind of music you're listening to these days? I just was totally honest with her. I said, you know what I'm listening to? On rotation, on Spotify, calming piano
Starting point is 00:39:12 music for dogs. That's not very punk rock. I was looking for a sound. I like to sleep to the rain machine, right? That rain app that you get on your phone. And I was looking for a sound. and I was with this guy the other night and he was like, can we please just not have a thunderstorm? Like, it's very, he's like, it's very unsettling. You're like, this isn't getting you hot? I'm like, I need it to sleep. I need some sort of rain.
Starting point is 00:39:39 I love the rain. And he's like, and so he's searching all the sounds. And one came up was a food court ambient. No, no. And I'm like, who the fuck wants to listen to that as they go to sleep? And who's sleeping in a food court to even know that they like that sound? But some of those sounds are just like, oh, this makes no sense. But who knows what people are.
Starting point is 00:39:56 people are into, I guess. When I first moved to California, my mom sent me, this is how long ago it was, cassettes of New York Street sounds, because it was so quiet, it creeped me out. And I would play cassettes of just New York City Street. Oh, that's cute. That is cute. That I like. And if I had grown up in a food court, maybe that's what I would be listening to. We don't know that you didn't grow up in a food court. Let's be honest. Stay tuned. Renno mishap That's embarrassing You know what's not embarrassing
Starting point is 00:40:33 Using FIG for Home Improvement Loan A quick, simple and transparent offer in minutes Borrow Better with FIG Visit fig.ca Hey, it's us to Jonas Brothers And guess what? We have some big news What's the news, new? Huge news.
Starting point is 00:40:47 We created our own podcast called Hey Jonas. We invented a podcast? Well, we didn't invent it. We just contributed to us. people to do podcasts. Pretty, yeah, pretty wide range of podcasts. We're starting a trend.
Starting point is 00:40:59 But this one's extra special. So how do we actually come up with a name, Hey Jonas, guys? I honestly don't remember. I think it was on a call about what we should call it. Oh, we were thinking I'm originally calling it one of the early names of our band before Jonas Brothers. This is how you guys remember it going down? Yes.
Starting point is 00:41:20 I have a very different memory of this. We were talking about a thing, a bit for the podcast, where people could call in and say, hey Jonas, and then I wrote down on my little notepad, Hey Jonas, and offered it up as a potential title for the podcast. But thanks for remembering that, guys. Listen to Hey Jonas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
Starting point is 00:41:39 Just listen. We don't care where you hear it. Another podcast from some SNL, late-night comedy guide, not quite. Unhumor me with Robert Smigel and friends. Me and hilarious guests from Jim Gaffigan to Bob Odenkirk to David Letterman, Help make you funnier. This week, my guest, SNL's Mikey Day and headwriters, Streeter Seidel, help an acapella band with their between songs banter.
Starting point is 00:42:02 There's the worst singer in the group. The worst? Yeah. Me. Is there anything to the idea that because you're from Harvard, you only got in because your parents made a huge donation. The group. The yard birds, right?
Starting point is 00:42:17 That's the name. The Harvard yard, but they're open. Do you have a name suggestion? We're open. Since you guys are middle. A one erection. Listen to humor me with Robert Smygel and Friends on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Humor me.
Starting point is 00:42:37 I need some jokes to make me seem funny. Keith Giamanka seemed like a mild-mannered suburban dad. But secretly, he became someone else, a master of disguise who went on a crime spree. At the time, did it seem like a crazy idea? It seemed very crazy. But I felt so desperate that I felt it was the quickest, easiest way out. Did you allow yourself to think about how it could go wrong and what that might look like? No. I didn't want to manifest that. I was trying to manifest success.
Starting point is 00:43:16 Every family has its secrets. But what happens when you discover that your dad has been living. a double life. That is not the look of an innocent man. This is going to change my life and my family dynamic forever because everything that had existed prior in my reality is now untrue. Listen to Deep Cover the Family Man on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. First of all, we need to talk about your project four seasons. Yes, we do. We got off on a tangent about all of our new shenanigans. The second season of four seasons is out today on the day you're hearing this.
Starting point is 00:44:04 So this is very exciting. It's a phenomenal show. Tina Faye created it with you're married to Steve Karel in the show. In the show. And the first season, if you haven't watched first season, I don't want to spoil it for you because you might want to rewatch it. Yeah. If you haven't watched the first season, watch the first season before you watch the second
Starting point is 00:44:20 season. Yes. That's good advice. Yes. And are we going to see any sort of, I know there's lots of like different couple situations happening in the show. Season two, are we going to see any sort of like sexual, any sort of swinging, something like that? That's what I'm expecting to happen.
Starting point is 00:44:35 You know what? I will say this about season two. Just like season one, as the scripts were rolling in, and I thought, oh, I know what's going to happen now, especially because it was based on a movie the first time on Alin Alda's film. You kind of knew what was coming. I was surprised every time. This season, same thing.
Starting point is 00:44:52 Every time a script came in, it was like a delightful surprise. It was like, oh, I never saw it. And I never saw this coming and this is exactly what should happen. So, oh, I'm so excited about this season. Oh, I'm so happy for you. That's a great role. I'm happy for me too. That's perfect.
Starting point is 00:45:09 I love it. Okay, well, you can tune in today, you guys. It's streaming on Netflix. If you're watching this on Netflix right now, switch over to four seasons. Oh, that's a good idea. Yeah. Your dog has an ankle fetish. She does.
Starting point is 00:45:20 She's like, she's licking my ankle now. So you said that. She started licking my ankle. I need an ankle licking dog. That would be a nice way to fall asleep with somebody licking your feet at night. But specifically, I think, a dog. Well, our first question is our one-drink questions. This is just a little shorty.
Starting point is 00:45:39 This person says, I love my new little niece, but my brother and sister-in-law have the worst nickname for her. Her name is Naomi, but they exclusively call her nipple. Whoa, me. It makes me cringe so hard, I feel like my stomachs kind of fall out through my butthole. They keep using the baby talk version of her name and it feels like we're all expected to just join in. Can I just blatantly keep calling her by her government name, Brenda? Yes, you can do whatever you want. You don't have to adopt a nickname because someone else adopts a nickname.
Starting point is 00:46:10 WOMI is a little tricky, but parents are allowed to do whatever the fuck they want with their children in terms of nicknames. You know, they just are. Yeah. Yeah, and they'll change throughout the years too. Hopefully with WOMI. Right. Yeah, let's hope. Nye omie.
Starting point is 00:46:24 I have a friend Naomi and then my friends call her Nye and I always have trouble with that too because I'm like Nye that doesn't That's not euphonious to me That's just me. I've heard no me for Naomi But Woe me is like a whole other thing Woe me. It sounds like maybe they did it
Starting point is 00:46:40 Because the child wasn't able to say their own name So they're sort of mimicking what the child said This is like a little An infant I think Well that was what I took from up Well hopefully when that infant starts talking She can tell her parents to shut the fuck out That's true. Let's hope so. Well, our first caller today is Grace. I'm so nervous.
Starting point is 00:46:58 Don't be. Don't be. Look at you in your car. So Grace says, must I begin with how much of a Chelsea fan I am? I think not. We know how I ended up here. My friend of 16 years and her husband are due with their second child this month. They also have a toddler. Her husband's work schedule has a lot of out of town time for being a salesman at a local equipment rental company. Supposedly, they sent him to the next. state over for training recently and then to the far west side of the state this week. Oh, and they're sending him to Cabo, and while my friend could have gone, she's conveniently too close to her due date to fly. I'm feeling more and more sure that he is cheating on her and plan to call his company looking for a job to ask some questions related to how and where his training takes place and narrow down if I'm on track. The thing is, if I find out what I think is true, my friend doesn't have a lot of support from her family, and me and our other close friend live hours away. If I find out the truth, I couldn't stomach not telling her, but being so close to delivering their second child, I know it would really do a number on her.
Starting point is 00:48:02 I just need some guidance to ensure my moral compass is guiding me in the right direction. Should I confront my friend about her investigation strongly suggests cheating husband, Grace. Hi, Grace. Hi. Hi, this is our special guest, Carrie Kenny Silver's here today. That's a conundrum. I understand your feelings. I've definitely felt that way in relationships before about my friends. But I do not think it is your job to investigate this matter. I understand that you want to do everything for your friend.
Starting point is 00:48:35 And I would want to do the same thing. But in the situation that she's in, which is about to give birth, like she's already in a very vulnerable state and she's going to need a lot of support. like it's and she'd probably end up. I mean, it's just adding on top of, you know, like this is not the right time. And if he is cheating on her, she's eventually going to find out. You bringing this information to her at this time would probably, if anything, do more damage to your relationship with her than it would to her relationship with her husband.
Starting point is 00:49:08 Do you worry with that? That's exactly what I was going to say. Also, I don't know if you're a mom, but I'll tell you that that part when you're about to have the baby. and then right after you have the baby, this is about the baby. And mom's mood is directly related to the health of this baby and then the bonding that happens after. And P.S., my suspicion is that if you think this, she probably is way ahead of you on any thoughts. And I agree that it's maybe possibly the worst timing in the world.
Starting point is 00:49:44 Thank you all. I definitely needed to hear that because, you know, it's such a conundrum of a position to be in. I did call and asked as if I was inquiring about a job if they do any training out of town, if they do any work out of town. And basically I was told, nope, we do all training in-house. We don't ever send our guys out of town. We aim for everybody to be home at the end of the day. So, you know, that just kind of like continues to confirm my suspicion. But I definitely agree with what y'all are saying about, you know, just supporting her and not making that move right this minute. What do you think, Carrie, and what do you guys think about saying something to the husband
Starting point is 00:50:30 just to give him an idea that you know? Like, what do you think about that? That just popped into my head, independent of your friend, like, leaving her out of it, being like, you know, like kind of calling him out. Like just you and him. Like even just asking those questions. No, I'm just throwing it out there. I'm not giving you this advice.
Starting point is 00:50:47 I'm just wondering what impact that would have. If you said like, hey, just so you know, like, you know, I had a friend applied or I had a friend who was looking for a job who wanted to, whatever. You can make up whatever lie you want to find out the information that you just found out. Or I just thought your traveling sounded suspicious. So I called your work and I actually found out that they don't send trainers out. I'm not going to say anything to your friend right now, like your wife. I'm not going to say anything. I just want you to know that I see you. Like, I wonder if that would have any impact. What do you think? I, my personal feeling about the whole situation, all I can think about is this kid. And so I kind of feel like this is their journey. And your job is as her friend and her job is as that mom. And this will work itself out how it's supposed to. But to light the fuse, at a time that is not of their own making,
Starting point is 00:51:47 would possibly blow things up. Or like Chelsea's saying, could blow things up with your, because you could also be wrong. And it could blow things up with your friendship forever. And she would be like, what are you doing trying to come between my kid and my husband and my life?
Starting point is 00:52:06 And that would be horrible as well. So I fear for all of you. Yeah, I think that's right. And being the only mother that's here in this conversation, are you a mom? Mm-mm. Okay. So let's defer to carry on that too, because it is really the most important thing is for the child and for her to be healthy and to kind of get through this for, you know, initial time. And if at some point you find like irrefutable proof that that is indeed happening, then that's a different situation. Like, but you doing detective work on her behalf, well, I think that like shows you. you're a fucking awesome friend. I don't think it's helpful in this moment and in this situation. Down the road, if things start to escalate and you really see, like, he's being disrespectful to her and she's suffering and these things are plainly obvious to everyone but her because
Starting point is 00:52:57 I do kind of disagree that I think that sometimes women don't know what's going on, especially if they're pregnant and they're consumed with all of that, that you're kind of like not thinking about that kind of stuff. And some women are in denial about what their, you know, partner. is doing. But I just think, yeah, just be as great of a friend as you can be while she's going through this time. Help her go through this time knowing what you suspect, but you still don't really know and see where you are in a year or, you know, even down the line. It may all reveal itself and you may not have to ever say anything. But, you know, I appreciate the friendship
Starting point is 00:53:35 and the fact that you're calling about this. I get it. Yeah. The bet you can't lose by putting all of this energy that you have right now into being the best friend you can to someone who is about to have a baby. It's because that way, if it does blow up, she'll know, oh, my friend is here. She's been here for me from the beginning. And I do have someone on my side. Or if the relationship doesn't blow up and it's not a thing, you have just made your relationship closer with her anyway. And it could be an anecdote you could laugh about years from now. So either way, you can't lose. by just diving into your friendship and your help in her situation. I agree.
Starting point is 00:54:18 Well, thank you all. I appreciate your input. All right. Thank you. And thank you for having a stable connection in your car. I appreciate that. You're so welcome. It does not always happen.
Starting point is 00:54:29 Thanks, Grace. I'm glad it worked out. Take care, Grace. All right, bye. Bye, you guys. Thank you. I actually think, having talked to her before, that advice probably has a relief to her. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:54:40 Because I know she's very worried. Nobody wants to deliver that news. She was worried about it coming out and, you know, the sort of thing. I had a friend once go through something like this, like, you know, and I remember I had said something to the partner of the friend in front of everyone. And then when it was revealed, which was not revealed by me, it was revealed, the friend came back and was like, do you remember when you said that? And I was like, yeah.
Starting point is 00:55:01 And she's like, were you suspicious in that moment? I said, yeah. And she goes, well, why didn't you say anything to me? I go, I did. I said it in front of everyone. She didn't want to hear it. This is weird. I go, I wasn't going to push it beyond that. I didn't have any proof. I just felt like something was off. Right. It was off. But my friend did not have that inkling at all. So I don't think, you know, everyone. Or was not ready for it. Or, yeah, or wasn't paying attention.
Starting point is 00:55:24 Well, and you raised such a good point about like she's pregnant. She's got a two-year-old. So this has been at least three years that she's like not had the thought process of like, is my husband running around. She's a little busy. She's busy. Yes. This goes back to my original comment when Carrie sent down that men are garbage. Good night, everybody. Confirmed. Well, it is funny not to bring it back to the four seasons, but that is, if you have watched season one, the whole everything revolves around the fact that Steve Correll, my husband, has been cheating on me for years. And that's what blows up this friendship.
Starting point is 00:55:59 That's what gets you to get couples retreat. Exactly. So it's a... Have you ever done anything in real life like a couple's retreat? No. Well, in the four seasons, it's not a couple's retreat. what it is is a group of friends of 25 years who travel together every season. So they were traveling anyway, but you watch the downfall of our relationship through the travels and then what happens
Starting point is 00:56:23 to the rest of the group throughout the travels. But a couple's retreat, no. Like one that would be specifically designed for like, you know, enhancing your relationship or like, I just find those things. No, ew. Yeah. I don't, I mean, I may be like, meditating and journaling, but I'm not going to, like, sit with my husband and be like, stare at each other's eyes. Just give it another 10 years. The next time we see each other, you're going to come back and you'll be like, Chelsea, you're never going to believe this.
Starting point is 00:56:52 I'm running. I could actually, that would be a great character for you to play too, somebody running a couple's ritcher. Well, we have a caller calling in now who is hopefully not a garbage man. I don't think he's a garbage man. Wait, do you mean a man who is a piece of garbage? piece of garbage, not a collector of garbage. Those are probably great guys. That might be his job. I'm not sure. But Joseph says, dear Chelsea, my partner lost his mother about a year and a half ago. And the last year has been full of healing, grieving, and family time. My partner's father, Mike, talked about dating or seeking a non-romantic partner and that idea was slowly accepted by the family. But it was still a surprise to hear it spoken of within a year. Recently, Mike has been seeing someone and it has quickly moved into a full-on romantic affair. that is being kept a secret. His girlfriend, Stacy, has spent time at the family cottage. After all his
Starting point is 00:57:43 children, asked Mike not to take her there. My partner and I want Mike to be happy, but it started to feel so heavy to keep secrets within the family and to watch the overstepping of boundaries. My partner's sister is especially hurt and upset. At the end of the day, I just want to support my man and enjoy spending time with his family. We've expressed to Mike that we want to meet Stacy, but she told Mike she isn't ready for her ex-husband to find out. And so this entire relationship is hush-hush. Taking her to the cottage really hurt the family's feelings, especially because my partner's late mother explicitly asked for anyone he'd eventually meet to stay away from the cottage. I'm most focused on what my partner is comfortable with and how we can best work as a team.
Starting point is 00:58:21 So how do we convince his sister and siblings that it's okay if Mike moves on, Joseph. Hi, Joseph. Wow, Joseph. Hello, how are you? Hi. I think I need a... Hi. I think, hi. This is Carrie Kenny. our special guest today. I need a recap. I understand it's your partner's father's new girlfriend. Is that correct? That is correct, yeah.
Starting point is 00:58:43 And they know about her, but he won't bring her around. Yeah, so since the letter, she is now been introduced to the family, but we've still had a ton of tension, and I think a lot of it has to do with just grieving that hasn't happened and worry that it's somehow going to take place of their mom, their mom's memory, if that makes sense. Yeah, of course. Yeah, that's natural. Yeah. Can we also ask, like, what is the drama with the cottage? Like, why is the family so averse to her going there? I think initially, my partner and I were just kind of floored that it wasn't being shared with everybody in the family. And the cottage was his mom's kind of final project that really was sat down
Starting point is 00:59:28 on her deathbed and went through everything and how it was going to be coordinated and it was being contracted all leading up to that. So it was a space that also was then, it's owned now by the kids. It was trusted to them. And that's why I thought it was so important that what their wishes are are honored about it as opposed to some getaway for their father. Can I ask you a question that is inappropriate? And you can tell me to fuck off. Sure. Is there an enormous age gap between the two of them?
Starting point is 01:00:03 And do any of you suspect that there is any sort of financial motivation? I think that was a concern up front, but no, there's not a huge age gap. It's, I think, pretty relative, like 10 years. So it's not outside of appropriate. And she is very, she's very successful in the same kind of realm that he is. the same business and industry. Okay. The reason I ask is because I have a friend who this happened to. This woman jumped in way, the junior of mom and took all the money.
Starting point is 01:00:41 Well, it happens all the time. Yeah. It happens all the time. Okay. So this really is about sentimental and mom's wishes and all the things. I lost my mom eight years ago. You knew my mom. My mom loved you. Thank you. I don't blame you. But I mean, I blame you a little. I just blame me actually for her mother's death. Yeah, sorry for bringing in it out. Well, we can't talk about it because it's still a legal issue. It's not been completed yet. But, you know, she was my best friend.
Starting point is 01:01:07 She was my, I could see how, you know, even as adults, that idea of, but that's mom and that's mom's place. My mom had a home that is now mine because I was her only child. And I didn't even want renters in there. I mean, I'm a 56-year-old woman. Like, my mom is no long. here, I still, I understand that. I do understand that and especially if it involved, but at the same time, I do also understand that our time here is finite and you guys' time with dad or dad-in-law is finite. His time on earth is finite and that some things are
Starting point is 01:01:52 worth setting aside so that we never know how many more times we have left with somebody. And is it really worth the... Like, angst. Anxed. That goes with the, what's mine is mine. What's yours is mine. What's yours is mine. What's yours? Yeah, I agree with that totally.
Starting point is 01:02:13 But also, it sounds like the mother was pretty specific about what she wanted to happen with this cabin, right? That she didn't want anyone else in there, especially if the partner, her ex-husband or former husband, I should say, was with a new partner, right? Did she specify that in her will? Yeah, that's correct. She definitely made mention of that very specifically at the end, yeah. So, like, that is worth, like, saying for, for your partner or sisters or somebody to bring up to be like, this is really disrespectful. Like, we can understand that you want to have a relationship. You're a human being. That's your decision. If you're ready for that, that's fine.
Starting point is 01:02:49 but this is a very specific instruction that we got. There's not a lot of gray area here. So it feels disrespectful to our mother. Again, you're not in like the nuclear family. You are a plus one right now. So I don't think it behooves you to get involved and get in the weeds in this. And I love the question like, how do we work as a team so I can best support my partner? Like that's lovely.
Starting point is 01:03:11 And that's true. That's what you want to do is you want to support whatever their decision may be. But it is valid that they are upset about this when they were. because most people die and they don't give you specific instructions. And then everyone's just fighting for no reason without anything to point to. But this is pretty specific, especially with regard to that location. So that is kind of ick that the father is just like disregarding that. But I guess your question is just how to be a better partner.
Starting point is 01:03:38 And I think it's like whatever your partner and his sister decide, how many kids are there in the family? There's four. Oh, okay. So there's four of them. And are they all kind of in accord? Or do they have disagreements about this? I think at this point it's mostly just we want to support the sister and her feelings that are pretty big about this.
Starting point is 01:03:58 And I think the brothers are pretty okay with everything. They just want to see. Yeah, they don't know. Men don't care about anything. So that's fine. You know what? I think I figured it out. I think we need to stage a haunting.
Starting point is 01:04:11 I think it's the only way out. You could borrow my house. We'll stage a haunting. No, I'm good. I'm good on the house. We'll spook the shit out of this lady. She'll want out immediately. And then they'll go find a nice condo somewhere.
Starting point is 01:04:25 Perfect. What takes place in a haunting? Exactly. Which has come or you... Oh, this is going to be a dark haunting. No, no, no. I mean, like, like we fake it. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 01:04:35 Noises in the night. Oh, yes. Noises in the night. Blankets speak sold from you. Bristling, branches. Yeah, out her old nightgowns on the floor. I go downing through the pipes, stuff like that. That's good.
Starting point is 01:04:47 Yeah. A creative project could be. could be a good solution. It could bring everyone together. Yeah. A nice light touch. Well, what I would say as the partner of somebody who has a sister, always side with the sister. You know what I mean? You don't fucking want her on your bad side. Yeah. The men don't care. They're benign. They'll go whichever way the wind blows. But women, just stick with the women. You are there for her, support her. And if she needs you to side with
Starting point is 01:05:13 her, then side with her. Perfect. That's crystal clear. I can do that. Okay, great. Sorry for your loss too. Yeah. Thanks for calling in too. Sorry for your mom's loss as well. Take care. Thank you.
Starting point is 01:05:25 I appreciate it. Thank you. Thanks. Bye. See, not garbage. Not garbage. I mean, now I'm not bad that the phrase garbage person ever came up and then this little sweet pee shows up.
Starting point is 01:05:35 Oh, I thought he was gay. He is. Yes, he is. Well, that's why. I know. He's not a garbage. They're not garbage. They're not garbage.
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Starting point is 01:06:25 I think it was on a call about what we should call it. Well, we were thinking I'm originally calling it one of the early names of our band. Before Jonas Brothers was... This is how you guys remember it going down? Yes. I have a very different memory of this. We were talking about a thing, a bit for the podcast, where people could call in and say, hey, Jonas.
Starting point is 01:06:45 And then I wrote down on my little notepad, Hey Jonas, Jonas, and offered it up as a potential title. for the podcast. But thanks for remembering that, guys. Listen to Hey Jonas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Just listen. We don't care where you hear it. Another podcast from some SNL late-night comedy guide.
Starting point is 01:07:04 Not quite. Unhumor me with Robert Smygel and friends. Me and hilarious guests from Jim Gaffigan to Bob Odenkirk to David Letterman, help make you funnier. This week, my guest, SNL's Mikey Day and headwriter, Streeter Seidel, help an acapella band with their between-song. Bantor. There's that worst singer in the group.
Starting point is 01:07:23 The worst? Yeah. Me. Is there anything to the idea that because you're from Harvard, you only got in because your parents made a huge donation. The group. The yard birds, right? That's the name.
Starting point is 01:07:37 The Harvard Yard. They're open. Do you have a name suggestion? We're open. Since you guys are middle aged. One erection. Listen to humor me with Robert Smigel and Friends on the Eye Heart Radio. app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
Starting point is 01:07:54 Huber me. I need some jokes to make me seem funny. You can have opinions. You can have like a strong stance. And then there's your body having its own program. I'm Dr. Maya Shunker, a cognitive scientist and hosts of the podcast, a slight change of plans, a show about who we are and who we become when life makes other plans. We share stories and scientific insights to help us all better navigate these periods of turbulence and transformation.
Starting point is 01:08:28 There is one finding that is consistent, and that is that our resilience rests on our relationships. I wish that I hadn't resisted for so long the need to change. We have to be willing to live with a kind of uncertainty that none of us likes. Listen to a slight change of plans on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. You want one more? I got a little quickie. A quickie, sure.
Starting point is 01:09:01 We'll take a quickie to go out on. I mean, always take the quickie. We can actually take these off because this one's just an email. But why? They look so fashionable. I know. It's so gorgeous. So Allie says, dear Chelsea, I've gotten myself into a bit of a situation.
Starting point is 01:09:15 I'm a single mom of two teen boys, which leaves little time and energy to put into a serious relationship right now. This year, I met a man that's 15 years older than me. We hung out a few times. Sorry, I thought she was saying he's 15. I was like, wait, hold on. I'll just start pausing after the age. Okay, thank you.
Starting point is 01:09:34 We hung out a few times and really enjoyed getting to know each other and one night he kissed me. The problem is he's been married for 36 years and told me he was in an open marriage. I'm a woman's woman and I had an issue with being more than just friends with this guy. He and his wife built a new home and both have their own bedrooms. Oh, God. One night he asked me to come stay the night with him. his wife would be on the other end of the house in her room.
Starting point is 01:09:56 I couldn't wrap my mind around it until he broke it down for me. This is rum, pure rum. This is how I feel about your question. 14 years ago, he found out his wife was having a full-blown affair and she begged him not to leave her as she didn't want anyone to know of her affair, including the kids, and she'd never cheat again. They agreed to stay together, but he's allowed to step out now. All of this would be okay, but he and I have caught feelings for you.
Starting point is 01:10:23 each other and it's no longer just a casual meetup. He even told his wife about me and her problem isn't that he's stepping out. It's that I'm 15 years younger and single. I don't know how long I can do this, but I've fallen for this man. I'd love to hear your perspective on this as the woman in me wants to shake myself and tell myself to quit messing with a married man. But the lover in me says to follow my heart and believe everything happens for a reason. Okay, quick question, quick question. Yes, yes. Because I started shenanigans. I stopped listening for half a second. How old are her children? Teens. Yeah. No, just stop. Stop.
Starting point is 01:10:54 Stop. Run as fast as you can away from this situation. Let me tell you something. You have four minutes with these children, four minutes with these babies, and then they are out in the world. You are going to blink your eyes and then all of a sudden you're going to hope they're going to want to come back for Thanksgiving and then have the rest of your life and help care for you as you get older and want to be part of and want to be, you know, them just
Starting point is 01:11:18 meet your hopeful grandchildren and all the things. It's a blink of an eye and I understand why you're going through. it especially with two, I only have one, but I understand it feels like this is forever. And when it, and I am telling you, you're going to wake up one day in an empty house and you're going to go, oh my gosh, all I want to do is just have one more hour with that person, that, you know, smelly kid and his axe body spray. And you're not going to have that. And right now is such a time when the kids are pushing away, it's their job, it's genetic. It's supposed to happen. It's science that they're pushing away. So I understand as a parent you think, oh, well, they're off
Starting point is 01:12:03 doing their own thing anyway. They don't need me. They need you. They need you energetically. They need you, you know, most people can't be home when their kids get home from school. It's just the way it is, the economy is in this country right now. And for me, in my business, I was away a lot. That was the nature of our circus family business. But when I could be there, when I could be there in case he said, hey, have a question, or I'm thinking about this, he always knew I was open and available and ready. And that to me is how I can sleep at night now. You have lots of time and you have seconds left with these people in your home. home at this stage of their life is all I'm saying, just at this stage. And this is a vital stage.
Starting point is 01:12:57 That's my take. Well, I think that's a great point to bring up because it wouldn't have been my point, but it is a point because my point is, this isn't a relationship that is easily explainable to anybody. And imagine having to explain it to your children that your boyfriend lives with his wife and that you get to go over there and sleep over sometimes when she's okay with it. But her real concern is that like it's all so fucking messy. There are a million people in this world. There are millions of men and women everywhere that are single and looking. Believe me, go on my Instagram. I just was trying to hook people up. I have like one and a half million DMs from women and men that are looking to pair up. People want to be with other people. There are so many more
Starting point is 01:13:42 suitable suitors to, that you could bring home that you could have involved in your life in a more organic way that you don't have to explain the story. And I will also tell you even more importantly, I believe as a parent, I'm not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination. I'm, you know, some of this stuff is based on stuff that I've made, stuff I've made mistakes on, but not this one in particular. But even worse would be if you're thinking, well, the kids won't know where I am. I'm going to tell them that I'm at so-and-so. Let me tell you something. The kids are going to know where you are. or if the kids sense anything at all, like you are not telling them the truth in some way or that it's not their business in some way, as they're about to enter the world and learn how to trust people and have partners and do all those things, that's going to be an underlying thing in their life. And I'm sorry, but when you have kids, that's part of your responsibility. That's my feeling and it's harsh, I know, but. It's like also, if one of your kids came to you with this dynamic and asked you what they should do, what would you tell them?
Starting point is 01:14:53 I also think you deserve better. Yeah. You do. You do. A full situation. Yeah. He's married. That's it.
Starting point is 01:15:02 It doesn't matter if you're in love with him. He's married, period. So let's move on. Problem solved. Find another person. Actually, don't find another person. Take a time out because you made a bad decision. Take a time out.
Starting point is 01:15:14 Go spend time with your kids. And then when someone comes into your life that is acceptable, respectable, and respectful to you and your situation that wants to be a part in addition to your family in some capacity, then that's great. But not this person. Those are our thoughts and Godspeed. There we go. And we'll see you next week on Netflix. Anyway, Carrie Cary Cernie Silver is in the new season of four seasons. Please make sure you go from this to that.
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Starting point is 01:16:26 Hey guys, it's us. The Jonas Brothers. I'm Joe. I'm Kevin. And I'm Nick. And guess what? We created our own podcast called, Hey Jonas. We invented a podcast. Well, we didn't invent it. We just contributed to it.
Starting point is 01:16:38 We're the first people to do podcasts. We get to ask other people questions because we're sick and tired of being asked questions. Well, sick and tired is a strong way to put it, but, you know, tired and sick. Tired and sick. Listen to Hey Jonas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Just listen. We don't care where you hear it. Another podcast from some SNL late night comedy guy, not quite.
Starting point is 01:16:59 Unhumor me with Robert Smygel and friends. Me and hilarious guests from Jim Gaffigan to Bob Odenkirk to David Letterman, help make you funnier. This week, my guest, SNL's Mikey Day and headwriter, Streeter Seidel, help an a cappella band with their between songs banter. There's the worst singer in the group. The worst? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:17:18 Me. Is there anything to the idea that because you're from Harvard, you only got in because your parents made a huge donation. The group. The yard birds, right? That's the name. The Harvard yard, but they're open to change. You have a name suggestion?
Starting point is 01:17:34 We're open. You guys are middle-aged. One erection. Listen to humor me with Robert Smygel and Friends on the I-Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Humor me. I need some jokes to make me seem funny. Your husband is not who you think he is. Your body is not what you thought it was.
Starting point is 01:17:59 Your identity is formed by a secret history. I'm Danny Shapiro. And these are just a few of the stunning story. I'll be exploring on the 14th season of Family Secrets. He kind of shoved me out of the way and said, move. And he went out the front door and he jumped in a car and drove off. And that was the last time I saw him. Listen to Season 14 of Family Secrets on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Starting point is 01:18:25 Every family has its secrets. But what happens when you discover that your dad has been living a double life? That is not the look of an innocent man. Is everyone lying to me about who they are? I felt such desperation. I felt it was what I had to do. Listen to Deep Cover the Family Man on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts,
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